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A positive attitude Change your life
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Foreword
Rajinder Singh Mann
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May 14
Bahadurgarh
Every one of us are busy in our day-today activities
and forget to take care of our body, mind and
spirit. For this ignorance we pay heavily in our life
by way of loosing on health, mental peace, failures
in performing in personal and professional life.

This issue, describe the various keys which will help
in maintaining physical, mental and spiritual
health.

Various types of exercises are described which will
take care of your Heart, Bones, muscles and body
flexibility. Keys to Success and failure will help
you prosper in your life and help you avoid
failures.

Keys to energy booster and energy sappers is very
interesting topic can help you know and avoid
energy sappers to retain your energy. Key to listen
will help you to become a good listener and
receptor. More you listen more you will be
understand the situation and take decisions
adequately.

Summer is underway and heat waves and stroke
will effect us. Topic on how to prevent yourself from
Heat stroke is also included for readers benefit.

Hope, you are enjoying POSITITUDE. Our main
motive is to make every person a person of
POSITITUDE, i.e., Positive Attitude.


With Best Wishes.
Website
www.posititude.com


Emails
Postititude.india@yahoo.com
Posititude.india@gmail.com

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Contents May 14
Key to Mental Peace 4 to 9
Peace of mind helps in taking better
decisions.

Key to Energy Boosters 10 to 13
Save your energy drain outs

Key to effective listening 14 to 18
Helps in Understanding others

Key to Physical Health 16 to 22
A Must for all

Key to Avoid Failures 23 to 25
Success is your Birth right

Key to Protect from Heat Stroke 26 to 31
Helps to protect from Sun Strokes

A Motivational Poem In Hindi 37 to 37

References 38 to 38


About June 14 Issue40.

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Key to

Mental Peace
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The proverb In a Healthy Body Resides a
Healthy Mind, but other side is also true
that A Healthy Mind can only make a
Healthy Body.

A Healthy mind triggers healthy enzymes in
the body which strengthen bodys immunity system, energizes
the body to function in proper manner and invokes Vital Energy in
us. To be owner of a Healthy Mind, we should take care of our
Mind. Mind should be always in peace. Without peace and
stability mind cant function properly. All our decisions are taken
by our mind and if we ignore its peace and health then all our
thoughts and decisions will also be away from what we intend to
do. Basically mind is the owner/ driver of our body.

The are 10 vital keys which can lead to peace of mind.

1) Dont Indulge without being asked
Sometimes out of decency, many times we extend our help
to known or unknown, which may land us in a fix. The other
may not require our help, but we impose our help on them
and devoid them to do their work by themselves. This actually
decrease / eliminate our proactive help or initiation. If you
give your help and the work further deteriorate, the total
blame will come to you and you will lose you peace of mind.
And some time the person may also think that you are
showing off you knowledge and capabilities and he may
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think that you are demeaning their skills and
capabilities. So dont indulge unless and until asked for.

2) Forgive and Forget It is a Golden Rule to keep our peace
of mind intact. Many times in our daily life at home and at
office some one hurt our feelings knowingly or knowingly.
We dont keep our calm and we start reacting and out of
patience, we loose our cool and shows our anger and start
fighting with the person. Anger is like keeping burning
coal in hand before throwing on the other person. It will
destroy the peace of mind and all decisions will be wrong
and boomerang us back. Therefore, we should not leave
our peace of mind and think the reason why the person
has reacted in this way. Dont react,
forgive him, say He has lost his cool,
therefore he has reacted in this way.
He is a good person otherwise and
he didnt think bad of me. This
feeling will prevent us to react and
motivate us to forgive him and once
we forgive the person, we normally forget the incident
also. Therefore it is good for us to Forgive others and
Forget the incident.

3) Craving for Making Self Image To showoff, always
keeps our self away from the reality. We normally try
to show off ourselves, which we may not be. This create
a false image of ourselves in our own eyes and dont
improve ourselves in the areas in which we are lagging
behind from others. This is a biggest hindrance in self
progress and mental peace.

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4) Jealous / Hatred Hatred and Jealousy are the by product
of EGO. EGO is the biggest enemy of peace of mind. And it
gives birth to Jealous and Hatred. Therefore both of these
are also peace killers. Hate/Jealous
comes when others have more than
us or have achieved something we
are unable to achieve. Therefore
instead of hating others learn
from their success and we should
evaluate our reasons of failures and think positive and focus
on our own work / goals and achieve them.

5) Accept only what we can be do In life many time out of
enthusiasm, we accept to do everything which is given or
offered to us. This lands us in fix and over burdened us and
are always short of time to complete all the tasks. Therefore
we should accept to do more, only if we have time, what we
can do efficiently and effectively, otherwise we will be
destroying our peace of mind only.

6) Meditate every day Meditation is the best tool to
control our thoughts and calm
our mind. Turbulent mind doesnt
allow us to take appropriate
decisions. Best time is early
morning in open space, one can
sit in Padmasna and focus in the
middle of the forehead in-between eye with focus on
respiration. This can be repeated at least 10 minutes thrice a
day, In details on mediation keep reading posititude.
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prevent generation of garbage thoughts in our mind and
will attain peace of mind. Unnecessary thoughts destroy
our peace of mind. Therefore avoid garbage thoughts.

7) Change according to situation Change is inevitable, if
we dont change ourselves according to the situation, then
situation will change us, which will be more pain full than
to change by ourselves. Therefore we should always
understand the situation and align our objectives and
work accordingly. When our objectives are aligned with the
situations, we are high in enthusiasm and ultimately attain
peace of mind. Peace of mind guide us on the right path.

8) Procrastination It is one of the key reason of destroying
peace of mind. When we keep on saying we will do it after
an hour or tomorrow or next month., we initiate the
process of delaying our decisions and execution of jobs in
hand. By lingering on we only pileup all our jobs and a day
will come when many of the dead-lines would have passed
and many of the important task would have reached the
status of Urgent. In that situation we are in fix and unable
to understand which task should be
done first and which to be done latter.
All the job become Urgent. Our mind is
now congested with confusing and
indecisive thoughts and saps away our
peace of mind and ultimately disturb our
bodys metabolism. Therefore to have our
peace of mind intact we should not delay the jobs and takes
action promptly and proactively. Our to- do list should be short.


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9) One task at one time We should never work in confusion.
Take one task at a time, so that our full concentration and
focus is on one job and we can complete the job in less time.
By keeping ourselves busy doing one task at one time, we
control our mind to get detracted and keep it busy doing
working. If we are taking more tasks at a time, then our focus
will be distributed and many time confused and tired. Many
task at time also disturbs peace of mind.

10) Keep yourself BUSY Empty mind is devils workshop is a
well known proverb and speaks the subject. Devils mind
cant have peace any time. Therefore if we want to keep
peace of mind, we should always keep ourselves busy in one
task or other. If we dont have any tasks at hand we should
read books on personality and skill development, which will
increase our acumen in our field and makes us a good
professional.
Tips on Peace of Mind
Keep Yourself Busy
Dont delay actions Maintain TODO list
Meditate thrice a day
No Hatred/Jealous
Change yourself when situation demands
Forgive and Forget.
Dont indulge without being asked
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Key To

Energy Booster


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In our day today life we play with emotions (good or bad) and are
played by emotions by others. We are social animals and have
emotions in us which are shown through our actions. Many times
our emotions and situations induce high energy levels in us and
execute the tasks with ease and we do wonders. Whereas some
times some incidents or situations sap away our energy level and
we are so low on energy meter that we are unable to do even a
small task. It has became a routine that our energy level
fluctuate daily due to uncertainty of the environmental factors.

To have peace, success and joy in life we need to have a
minimum level of energy. First of we should know what are the
situations or factors which effect our energy levels positively and
negatively. Positive energy levels keeps us cool and calm and on
high enthusiasm. We are in a position to create an ambient
environment for innovation and creativity. Whereas negative
energy level sucks all our positive thoughts, actions and stop us
to think in a creative and enthusiastic manner.

We have been taught to believe that
being emotional is always an
interference, something to get rid of,
but actually having some feeling gives
us our zest for life. Negative emotions
are the kind that cloud our judgment
and drain us of any sense of energy
and personal power.
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The following Energy boosters empower us to succeed and Energy
Sappers drain our power and will be derailed -
Energy Boosters Energy Sappers
Powerful Hopeless
Hopeful Hopeless
Competent Ineffective
Engaged Detached
Gifted Burdened
Dynamic Indecisive
Enthusiastic Controlled
Resilient Worried
Energetic Stamina Used
Courageous Hopeless
Serene Anxious
Creative Spirit Fearful
Motivated by Values Critical and Criticized
Goal/priority Focus Fatigued
Energy sappers can, not only limit positive, creative
actions, they can be so draining that they literally cause
adverse physically and emotional symptoms to appear.
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Physical Side effects of energy sappers are that we will have
difficulty in sleeping , bad digestion, heart problems,
experience sweating and chronic fatigue.

Emotionally we become numb, we can have crying episodes
and aggression. These are the Alarms which remind us of
energy Sappers. Therefore we should recognize these alarms
and switch negative sappers to energy boosters. For example,
anger is a signal that tells us our needs to wants are not being
met or that someone or something has be
violated us, or that our Values and beliefs
are being threatened. By resolving the
issue at hand, we can eliminate the energy
sappers, putting ourselves back to where
we want to remain, which is the of the
energy booster.
Tips on Energy boosters
Be Cool
Listen more Talk less
Exercise for 30 Minutes Thrice a Week
Smile a While
Avoid meeting negative people
Read good literature at least 30 Minute daily
before going to bed.
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Be Positive
Key To

Effective Listening


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According to Justice Oliver Wendell Homes
To be able to listen to others in a sympathetic and
understanding manner is perhaps the most effective
mechanism in the world for getting along with people and
trying up their friendship for good. Too few people practice
the White magic of being good listeners.
Human is a social animal and lives in society along with
parents, relatives, friends, colleagues in office, neighbors, etc.
Every day we come across many people, with some we have to
deal with and with some we may not have to deal. All these
people surrounding us effect us mentally, physically and
socially. Therefore it is very much important and necessary to
know the people around us so the we can live peacefully and
successfully.

We recognize a person by the following factors

1) Physical appearance
2) Social Relations
3) Behavior
4) Attitude
5) Social Status
6) And Communication

By the above we can understand only 10% of a person, 90% is
still undiscovered, as it is just like iceberg.
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Nobody in this world can define or recognize what is going on
inside a person. How and when a person will react to any
situation? 10% of the body language tells us about a persons
mental setup. His thoughts will appear on his body and body
depicts the thoughts. But rest 90% is undiscovered. Out of
90% persona, 50% can be analyzed by the words he/she
speaks. But to understand others one should have patience to
listen carefully and control over his/her tongue.
Body Language
Knowledge
Skills





Attitude
Behavior
Thoughts
Values
Needs
Thoughts

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To be successful in life, we should know about the persons
around us. We should know what they want, what they like and
what they dislike, what is their behavior and attitude in different
situations. This will help us dealing them in a better way. Life is
all about handling people around you, because they are biggest
influencer of life.

To understand a person we should be a good listener. Everybody
wants that others listen to him and praise him and his Ideas.
Listening is an art. We should practice listening the people
around us and understand them and act accordingly.

Practice the following to practice good listening
a) Focus on Person to whom you are talking We should
understand that if a person is talking, he assume that others
should listen to him and understand what he want and what
he want to say. Therefore we should always look at the person
to whom we are talking and concentrate on the message he
wants to give.

b) Always show deep interest
If we show our deep interest in
listening, half the work is done. Give a
smile and nod in acceptance of his
Idea. He will be happy and gratified.

c) Show Closeness When is talking,
lean towards him. This shows and
indicate that your are taking interest
and listening carefully.

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d) Ask Questions Ask questions in between the task. This
create confidence in the person to whom we are talking and
will he will try to talk more sense and clearly to put his point.

e) Ask him to elaborate things, where you need to know
more clarification Until they are not through, we
should not interrupt the narrator, which nobody wants
to do. Nobody wants that people should listen first than
only give his/her views.

f) Dont Change the Subject
Dont derail the persons subject,
which may terminate him describing
his issues. Have patience, and wait
till he/she completes.

g) Use the speakers terminology We
should neither change the subject, not change the
terminology. We should discuss on the same subject and in
same terminology.

Tips on Listening
Focus on Speaker
Show Interest
Ask Questions on the same topic
Ask the speaker to elaborate
Never try to derail the subject
Give suggestions after the speaker finishes
Appreciate his concern and thoughts
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Key To

Physical Health


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As we grow up older, active and healthy life style is most
important. Regular exercise and healthy diet plan improve our
bodys power, improve self confidence , give strength to fight
against pain and disease. After the age of 50 years, healthy life
style reduce the effect of ageing. Our remembering strength,
our mood also boost up due to healthy life style. There are
many ways to Keep ourselves busy and active, improve our
confidence and physical fitness. It doesnt matter how old we
are, if we do regular exercise and proper diet we can boost our
physical and mental health. We get benefits the day we start
doing this. The only thing we have to do is to adopt small-small
workings and changes in our daily life style.

After we cross 50 years, we should do the following four types
of exercises.

CARDIO EXCERCISES
STRENGTH TRAINING
FLEXIBILITY TRAINING
BALANCE OF BODY AND MIND

Cardio Exercises
Heart is the most important part of our life. Therefore it is our
foremost duty to take care of our Heart and its system. By
doing workouts, pumping system is boosted and open blockade
if any blockade in veins or arteries.

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The major Cardio exercises are
1) Working -
2) Climbing on Stair case is also good for cardio muscular
system. It increase the blood circulation and strengthen the
system.
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3) Swimming
4) Cycling
5) Rowing
6) Playing Tennis
7) Dancing
8) Brisk Walking
These exercise increase patience, relieve exertion , release
mental tension , regulates blood pressure .
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3) Strength Training - Use less strength while doing strength
training. In this weights are used to lift regularly. Strength
training will strengthen our Muscular System. These
should be done under trained trainer Only.



















Benefits

It build Muscles
Keep our body straight
Give strength to the body to do daily work with ease
Release stress

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3) Flexibility Exercises - with the increase of age, flexibility
of our muscles and joints diminishes. To improve the
flexibility of joints we should do stationery stretches and
exercises. Yoga Asans are the best workouts to improve
the flexibility of Joints. Therefore on daily basis we should
do 30 minutes of Yoga Asans.















Benefits

Body become active.
Boost energy levels.
Ease in doing all the jobs which require our body mending,
moving, twisting, etc.,
Release stress

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4) Body and mental Balancing These exercises induce
better coordination between brain and body. We bring
balance in our body according to our brain waves. This is
very critical and important part of our health. Some of the
Yoga Asans are meant for this purpose only.















Benefits

Boost Self Confidence
Body become active and balanced
Boost energy levels.
Release stress
Improve our focus, eye sides and concentration of mind
Improve quality of our work
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Key To

Failure

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Like success there are factors which helps in failure of a person.
In our life we do all our efforts to success, but we fail to achieve.
Why it happens? What makes us a failure is a matter of
discussion?

There are many factors which contribute to our failures. In this
issue, we will discuss 10 major points which are practiced by the
successful people and are not followed by failures.

1. Not Taking Risk It has been accepted by the successful
people and leaders in their life that they have taken risk in
thinking big and targeting the tough goals. On the other hand
we hear people saying if we have taken risk in their life, then
by this time they would have possessed x property or
Position. But due to not taking risk they have not achieved
what they want to achieve. Therefore it is matter of taking and
accepting risk, that one get success and failures in life.

2. Not Strong and Brave Once we have taken risk, then we
should be bold enough to face both the side of situation. If
we think that they are ready to accept what ever the result of
the activity, definitely result would be
good. By thinking positive, we will
always get positive results and if the
beginning thoughts are discouraging
and negative, then result
would also be same. So be brave and
strong to take risks and face the results.

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3. Estimating and Analyzing every time Pessimist have a
long list of excuses. They keep on thinking what others are
doing. They are afraid of doing anything new and always keep
on thinking that If I do this, what other people will think?,
Mr. X has done the same, what is the result? He has failed, so
why I should do it?. They always keep on thinking negative
and negative thoughts lead nowhere other than failures. So
start thinking positively, success is yours. No need of
estimating and analyzing too much, just take actions.

4. Always dependent on others For success we have to work
hard and should have trust on our own self. Success doesnt
get in gift, it has to be achieved our self. We have to believe in
ourselves, we will definitely get success. Stop depending on
others.

5. Dont try to set and achieve the Goals Failure dont know
what they want to do in their life. They dont have any goal in
life. That is why they are always failure. Therefore if you want
to be successful in your life, set goals for every
day, every month, every year and in life and try level
best to achieve it. Success comes to those who
think they can. And if you think, you can.

4. Expect result in short time Many people wants the results as
soon as they finishes the task. If the result doesnt come
immediately they start cursing other, time and their self also.
If they get less than what they have expected, then next time
they will not do that task. For success, you need to have
patience and try-try again to do the best and achieve the best.
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7. Withdrawal when opportunity comes - If you dont have
perseverance towards your work and goal, it shows your
week mental setup. Whenever you get some opportunity, go
with full strength and enthusiasm, then only success will
come. Withdrawal will take you no where. Be open to taking
new tasks.

8. Procrastination It is one of the biggest cause of failures.
Linger on things on tomorrow, next time, etc., take you
towards failures, negativity and converting IMPORTANT TASKS
INTO URGENT. Make a time table for daily and stick to that. At
closing down of the day, look at the table what you have done
and what you are unable to do. Remove those activities which
you have done and add incomplete or not done activities in
nest days to-do table.

9. Afraid of doing Practice Negative thoughts create a negative
personality. If you want to be Strong and successful person
start thinking Positive today itself and never be afraid of doing
practice positive things. Positive tasks and activities seems to
be tough, but once you start doing, they become handy and
easy to achieve.

10. Low in Mental Skills God has gifted all the human beings
with discipline, confidence, trust, concentration, focus,
persistence, etc., All of us have these, but we become
lethargic and wants easy going. For Success these skills are
MUST. Be TOUGH and DISCIPLINED, all other qualities will
automatically immerse in you and you will be able to
complete all the tasks in hand and will accept and welcome
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Tips for Success
Be Strong
Take Risk
Develop
Mental Skills
Practice More Dont Withdraw
Do it Now
Perseverance Dont Analyse More
Dont
depend
on others
Have Patience
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Key To

Prevent Heat Stroke

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Summer has just knocked the
doors. On 30.04.14, the
temperature roused upto 41-42
o

C in Delhi. It was a sudden
increase in temperature. Body
cant accept sudden increase and
decrease of environment
temperature. Many Adults and
Children fall ill due to this.


This condition of body when it doesnt withstand environment
temperature more than 40.5
o
C and body temperature also raise
more that 40
o
C , is Heat Stroke. It effect all the living beings
irrespective of age and class.
Sign and Symptoms The major sighs and symptoms are as
under

Mental Confusion
Delirium
Dizziness
Loss of consciousness in worse cases
Convulsions or coma
A body temperature of 105 degree F or higher
Hot, dry skin that may be red, mottled or bluish
A Strong Fast Pulse.

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Causes of Heat Stroke
Heavy exercise in summer, which may loose lot of water
from the body.
Dehydrated due to over sweating.
Direct exporter to Sun Light Heat the our skin of the body
and effect it adversely.
In Humid climate also due to low pressure, even moderate
heat wave may effect the body.
Preventions In summer, we should prevent loss of water in the
body and keep the surface of the body cool. Otherwise there are
chances of Heat Stock. To prevent ourselves from the heat
stock we should
a) Drink plenty of water
b) Avoid bodys moisture sappers, like Team, coffee, soda and
alcohol.
c) Avoid going outside in day time, when there is more heat.
Better do all works before 12 Noon and after 4 Pm.
d) Wear Cotton, white/light colored garments. It would much
better if white cotton garments are worn.
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Treatment

First of all attend the affected person with love and affections
and take the following actions immediately

a) Take the person inside the room and advice him to
laydown straight on his back on the bed. If no house is
nearby then advice him to laydown in a shady spot. Keep
his/her legs elevated.
b) If the person is in conscious, then give him cold water to
sip.
c) Loosen the cloths. It would be even better if cloths are
removed and sponge the body with cool water. Keep him
under fan or AC.
d) Apply ice packs to the armpits, wrists, ankle and groin.

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