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Table of Contents



Introduction.....................................................................................................2
The Importance of Foreplay.............................................................................3
Foreplay Tips to Heat Up Your Relationship ............................................................3
Why Do We Stop with Foreplay Anyway?.........................................................5
Foreplay A Little Aphrodisiac Help Goes a Long Way.....................................7
Foreplay Steps to a Whole Day Affair.........................................................9
The Excuse Me Tip!.............................................................................................9
Practical Tips!.....................................................................................................10
Are You Fit for Foreplay? ................................................................................11
Fitness Tips to J umpstart Foreplay.......................................................................11
Foreplay How to Stop Procrastination and J UST GO FOR I T! ...................13
The Perfect Body Syndrome. ..............................................................................13
The Perfect Setting Syndrome. ...........................................................................13
Im Afraid of Rejection Syndrome. ......................................................................14
Foreplay Kissing 101....................................................................................15
Kissing is an Art..................................................................................................15
How to French Kiss Properly During Foreplay................................................17
What is a French Kiss?........................................................................................17
How to French Kiss Someone ..............................................................................17
Foreplay Embracing 101..............................................................................19
Embrace Him/Her Now But How?......................................................................19
Foreplay Tips for Him......................................................................................21
Hot Tips for Sexual Foreplay................................................................................21
Foreplay Tips for Her ......................................................................................23
My First Foreplay Tip for You............................................................................23
And Now for More Practical, Naughty Foreplay Tips............................................23
10 Foreplay DONTS to Remember .................................................................25
Conclusion......................................................................................................27



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Introduction


First of all, allow me to first congratulate you for making this great investment in your
relationship! I assure you, Foreplay Forbidden Secrets will be a treasure chest of hot and
wild foreplay ideas you can use for many years to come.

Mention the word foreplay and not only does everybody knows what it means, it also
immediately brings the words passion, hot, wild, exciting, electric, and other related
words to mind. WHY then does foreplay cease to exist in almost every single relationship
that has been going for a couple of years? Months? Weeks?!?

The thing with foreplay is that it is directly related to the fact that you two are new to each
other. So much to learn! So much to find out! So much to explore!

After awhile, the novelty wears off and so does foreplay. Well, it should NOT be this way!

Foreplay Forbidden Secrets will tell you exactly what to do so you dont lose this magical
moment in your relationship. And if youre one of those who are already, unfortunately, at
that stage where things are becoming more and more routine, this eBook will show you
how to bring back foreplay into your relationship, so that it becomes energetic and sexually
exciting again!


Here are just some of the Foreplay Forbidden Secrets you will learn from this erotic
eBook.

In Section 1, we delve into how important foreplay is and why you should really make an
effort at keeping it alive in your relationship.
In Section 3, we discuss the wonderful world of aphrodisiacs to jumpstart your foreplay
habits!
In Section 4, I help you plan for foreplay that lasts for the whole day hmmm.
In Section 6, youll learn how you can overcome the THREE most common reasons why you
or your partner are not engaging in foreplay.
In Section 7, youre in for a treat as we discuss not one, not two but SIX different ways
you can kiss your woman to horny-ness.
In Section 8 afraid of French Kissing? With these tips, you wont be. In fact, youll be
downright wondering why you dont do the Frenchie often enough.
In Section 9, we continue to enrich your arsenal of foreplay moves with EIGHT ways you can
embrace your lover tonight.
In Section 12, Ill impart with you 10 Things that you should NOT do during foreplay time.


Keeping foreplay alive is one of the secrets to successful relationships. And by successful, I
mean one that is loving, long-lasting, exciting, and yes one that makes you want to grab
your partner, rip her clothes off, and make wild, passionate love each time you see her!

Enjoy the following Foreplay chapters I have for you.
Enjoy the tips.
Enjoy each other

To Your Magnificent Sexual Awakening,


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The I mportance of Foreplay


Foreplay is perhaps one of the most commonly neglected phases in making love. And there
are many misconceptions about it too! Some think that foreplay is just those few minutes
before progressing into the actual act of sexual intercourse. You know, kissing and petting
before taking off ones clothes. I am telling you right now; nothing can be further from the
truth.

Foreplay is all about building up the passion. As such, it can be a whole day affair!

Many couples ask me this question time and time again, Why dont we have sex as much as
we used to when we were first together?, Why does it seem that the passion has all but
gone from our relationship? The answer to this dear readers is that you have probably not
been giving foreplay the attention it deserves.

Think about it. When you and your partner first got together, you didnt just make love
right? Go back to those first few days and moments. I bet there was a lot of kissing
(perhaps even hidden kisses), handholding, caressing, petting, smoldering looks across the
room in short, there was a lot of FOREPLAY.

You and your partner need to bring foreplay back into your relationship. And by this I dont
mean demanding that you guys have long French kisses before commencing the sexual act.
Of course, French kisses are highly-erotic demanding it is one sure-fire way to snuff the
passion out of it.

You need to be subtle in bringing foreplay back into your relationship so that your partner
welcomes its return as well and not be turned off or even scared by it.


Foreplay Tips to Heat Up Your Relationship

Firstly, find a quiet place. Put on some relaxing music, light up some scented candles and lie
down or sit up and start remembering those first few days of your relationship when
everything was exciting and hot. Start making notes.

Ask yourself things like where you guys met, when and where was the first time you guys
kissed, where you used to hang out, what clothes does he/she find sexiest on you and vice
versa, what movie made you guys so horny you had to run back to your apartment and so
on. In short, re-capture those moments so you can re-live them today.

Now, this does not mean you should limit your foreplay repertoire to the answers you have
to these questions. They merely serve as a starting point to your new sexually charged
relationship.

Secondly, remembering the good stuff is great; now you need to act on it. Now how you
bring foreplay back into your relationship depends on your and your partners personal
characteristics. In my experience, there are two kinds of partners (couples).

One type is the partner who actually finds it corny if you start discussing foreplay this
Saturday night. The other type is the one that welcomes it with open arms! So I suggest
you take a close look at how your partner will react to this and plan accordingly.
Let me give you a real-life example here (names changed for privacy).

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Jodie desperately wanted to bring foreplay back into their relationship but each time she
discusses it with her partner, he rebukes it and asks Ok, what Cosmo quiz did you take
today? or Is that what you learned from Oprah today?

By the time, Jodie discussed this with me, she was already convinced her husband hated
foreplay and simply wanted the usual 20-minute hump.

I told Jodie to stop talking and asking and simply get started with setting the mood! I told
Jodie to accidentally leave a Kama Sutra-type book lying around the bed so that her
partner was sure to see it when he wakes up in the morning. She should then accidentally
leave the door open as she was showering or accidentally let her robe fall, etc and then if
he wants it, dont give it! BE UNREACHABLE. Wait till nighttime when you have more of
these accidental stuff happening. Im telling you my friends, Jodie called me IMMEDIATELY
the following day (she woke me up actually) thanking me for sharing all those powerful
stuff with her.

Foreplay is something you dont rush. It needs its own time. By the same token, you
shouldnt rush its return to your relationship either. Think about it; plan it out; then youll be
rewarded

Next time, Ill talk about how you can set up a day of foreplay and a night of passion like
your partner has never experienced before. Till then!
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Why Do We Stop with Foreplay Anyway?


Weve been talking a lot about how to bring foreplay back but its worth taking a look at why
we stop with it in the first place. Why? Because why we complain a lot about the lack of
romance and/or foreplay in our relationships, a quick look at some of the leading causes on
WHY it ends brings us back to this reality: WE let it happen.

Following is a quick rundown of foreplay killers in any relationship and how you can remedy
them.


Familiarity. Remember when the two of you first met? EVERYTHING was new and exciting!
The mere touch of his/her skin on yours made your whole body tingle. But now nothings
new anymore and its so easy to look at your relationship as dull. You feel that the energy
between has been zapped (and replaced by zzzzz) and so you forego foreplay. After all, you
know everything about each other already; whats left to explore?

Well, heres some news for you: even the most mesmerizing rose-tainted windows need a
clean up! In short, you cannot expect your partner to remain a complete mystery to you.
BOTH of you need to work at keeping your relationship fresh. How?

Heres what you do: For starters, PLEASE dont be sloppy with your appearance. It really IS
the number killer of desire! Get a new hair cut; dye your hair; lose/gain weight; change
your wardrobe, all of these can make your partner (and yourself!) look at you in a different
light. After this, get a hobby! Something youve suppressed or something your partner never
knew you were into (poll dancing?).


Lack of Time. Why is it that you could make time for him/her then but not anymore today?
You may say its because of work or the kids, but regardless of these, arent your partner
worth a good 2 to 3 (or more!) hours of undivided foreplay and sex time?

Heres what you do: Get your calendar, agenda book or scheduler and make an appointment
NOW to be with your partner for one whole day on [choose you date]. But dont stop here!
Back track your schedule! If you claim February 14 as THE day, schedule what you need to
do a week before (go for a makeover?), 2 weeks before (make reservations?), 3 weeks
before (start changing things in your bedroom? check out hotels in the area?).


Over Confidence. We all run the risk of being too lax in our relationships. One of my MALE
friends did not know what hit him when he found out his wife was having an office affair.
How could this happen?!?

Well, without going into details, lets just say that after I learned a few more things about
their (yawn) relationship, I ended up asking How could it not?!?

Wake up folks! Being married or being in a committed relationship does not give you license
to be lax. You need to keep it HOT so your partner leaves NOT!

Heres what you do: Make it a HABIT to go out at least every week. I mean it! Many couples
try for once a month. Come on! Thats way too long you and your partner wont even
remember the fun you had the last timer with this time scale.

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If budget is a concern, then stay in BUT leave the kids out. No kids? Then no PC or internet
time, unplug the phones and lock the mobile phones in a cupboard.

Prepare a warm bath, have a nice dinner and watch some porn. Try it this week; youll thank
me for it!


Lack of Communication. One of the things I do so hate to hear is the well, he/she should
initiate or its his/her turn to excuse. Granted, a relationship will not survive if only
one person works at it. However, keeping a scorecard is not good either!

If you WAIT for your partner to make the move and initiate foreplay, you can be in for a
long wait; so long that even you will reach a state of mind that says Foreplay? What for?
Your can just can see how foreplay dies here right?

Another thing thats a foreplay killer is this scenario: you try something new, say whipped
cream. You bring it out from under the bed/sofa, put in on him/her and he/she is
disgusted! Now, instead of talking this through, you say hmpf!, leave the room and swear
you wont initiate foreplay again!

Heres what you do: Ill let you in on a personal tip Sometimes, when I initiate foreplay, I
pick up a womans magazine like Cosmo or Elle, whatever. Anyway, most men know there
are quizzes in these mags. So what I do is start taking the quiz aloud and involve my
man.

Sweetie, do you like honey or melted chocolate?
Have YOU ever done a 69?
Do you think our table is strong enough to?

Hey guys, I have tips for you too. Go online, check out a semi-porn site and start asking
your woman sexy stuff too!

The point of the exercise here is you get to discuss these things under the cloak of fun.
People male AND female are often turned off by being forced into talking about foreplay
itself. This way, its more fun and leaves a lot of room for his/her imagination!

Good luck!
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Foreplay A Little Aphrodisiac Help Goes a Long Way


If youre going out of your way to stage a night of passion, then I say do it good!

For a lot of women, this part is already foreplay for you. Thinking about what flowers to buy,
where to get them, what to cook, what to wear all of these enable you to maintain your
sexual tension throughout the day.

For men, you may not be the more detailed one of the species but luckily for you, most
women will already be bawled over by your efforts. For instance, you may not have the
rose petals but a single bouquet of fresh flowers is enough; cooking a five-course meal may
not be possible but even having Chinese food brought in is enough, because you saved your
partner from the task of cooking!

Regardless of gender, budget and time on ones hands, the following items are reputed
aphrodisiacs that will do well in helping you carry out your foreplay plans. Now, you might
say that some of these items are not medically-proven aphrodisiacs stop those thoughts.
Remember seduction is all in the mind!

Oysters (and other genitalia-like food). Oysters are world-famous aphrodisiacs.
Actually, theres not much proof that theres something in oysters that increases the libido
but because they look like the female genitalia, they induce visions of passionate sex and so
in a weird way, it IS an aphrodisiac!

Other foods that remind us of male or female genitalia and can thus be used (and
consumed) during foreplay night are carrots, bananas, asparagus, broccoli florets, and
others.

Arugula or rocket, which is often used in salads, is also a reputed aphrodisiac. (Since the 1
st

century AD to be exact.) A potent combination is said to be an arugula salad, with parsnips,
pine nuts and pistachios thrown in.

Sex-Me-Up Scents. The perfume you wear, the smell of the rich food and the odor of the
scented candles you use all play a role in creating a romantic evening. Jasmine, cedarwood,
lavender, musk, rose, sandalwood, and of course, vanilla, are all fragrances that are known
to titillate the senses. A word of caution: do not overdo this, lest you give your partner a
headache! My personal favorite combination is lavender and vanilla; have fun finding out
whats yours!

Sooo-thing music. Its hard not to get in the mood if you have Barry White on crooning the
whole night long. Dont dig Barry White or find this one corny? Then pop a CD you both like
(not rock music!) or set it to a radio station that plays a lot of sappy, love songs.

Another world-famous aphrodisiac is of course, chocolate! Chocolate has phenylethylamine
and serotonin, chemicals that ignite pleasure areas in the brain. This is also why plenty of
people turn to chocolate when they are depressed; chocolates are classic pick me uppers!

Again, its all in the mind. Set a small platter of chocolates in the living room table, dim the
lights or light some candles, play some music when your partner walks through the door I
guarantee he/she will immediately forget the world behind.

Bring in the liquor! Nothing makes a person more relaxed than a bit of alcohol into his/her
system! Just be careful not to overdo the booze. As Shakespeare said in Macbeth"It
provokes the desire, but it takes away the performance."
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A full moon! Everybody equates a full moon with romance and passion. If you can have
your dinner out on the terrace or plan to have dinner out where you can see the sky, time it
so that theres a full moon. A better, more natural, backdrop cant be better!

Sensual massage. Up till now, its all been about your environment. Its time to up the
foreplay ante with a sensual massage. Its a great way to help your partner unwind at the
end of the day and get him/her in the mood. Dont make the massage fake though. Give a
really good massage, interspersed with some naughty nibbling, biting, and licking!

Again, personal characteristics come into play. Some may be daring and are ok with using
melted chocolate and even fruit or mashed food. If your partner finds this icky then dont
do it. Stick to a sex-inducing massage oil scent like subtle vanilla or lavender but don forego
the nibbling, biting, and licking!

Good luck!

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Foreplay Steps to a Whole Day Affair


Foreplay is not something to be rushed. In fact, the longer the suspense, the tighter the
tension, the hotter the passion!

You see, if you are trying to put foreplay back into your lives and then rush through it, then
you are undermining its importance. Instead, plan for a night of passion you and your
partner wont forget.

Start the day right. Start foreplay the minute your partner wakes up. For women, try
leaving erotica (a Kama Sutra-type book always works!) by the bedside or accidentally
leave a pair of black (or red) thongs on the bed. Titillate his imagination!

For men, leave a dirty magazine under the pillow or on the bed. The accidentally leaving
your underwear thing doesnt work for men as successfully as for women though. Instead,
wake up with, er an erection and be sure your partner sees it or accidentally comes into
contact with it.

I guarantee your partner will wake up with thoughts of sex in the air! (There you go;
foreplay has begun!)

Now continue this teasing. For example, you can let your robe fall off after the shower or
go out of the shower completely naked (say you forgot to bring a towel or clothes or
something). Dont be shy to make poses while naked! Bend over, stretch, or even rub
yourself lightly. Do this innocently but be sure your partner sees it!

Be unreachable but dont be mean. At this point, your partners thoughts may already be
about sex, dont give in! Play hard to get. However, dont be mean. Some people tease to
the point where his/her partner is so hot already that if you dont give in, they get
frustrated! Worse, they see it as rebuke. You dont want that! You should be able to tease
to a point of return.


The Excuse Me Tip!

Heres a tip from one of my readers. Sometimes, when she wakes up in the morning, she
teases her man by trying to get out of bed on HIS side. So she says excuse me and then
she just HAS to get on top of him right? And while there, a little dry rubbing goes on and
soon enough, he gets hot. She then gives him a wet kiss, gets up and says See you tonight
honey coyly.

Maintain the sexual tension. Now that youve started foreplay, maintain the tension. Most
people make the mistake of thinking that because their partners were hot this morning,
they will be in exactly the same state that night. Wrong!

So how do you keep your partner longing for you during the day? Try these tricks.

Send an x-rated email or link to an x-rated site and say Look at what [name of friend or
colleague] sent me today!
Send an email or SMS saying Honey, [name of porn film] is in at the store/video rent
house today. Shall I get it?
Send a picture SMS of yourself with barely anything on.

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Set the stage appropriately. The stage can be a hotel room or simply at home. You MUST
take the personality traits of your partner here.

If he/she is the romantic type, then spread rose petals on the floor and on the bed, chill the
champagne, and light 100 scented candles! However, heres the real-life truth: many people
are not like this. Some think this is over the top or too corny. So dont try to recreate a
romantic movie scene here if it doesnt suit you or your partner.

If he/she is more the practical type, then hold off on the scattered flower petals and simply
go for a fresh bouquet of red roses and put them in a vase in the living room and another in
the bedroom. Instead of champagne, go for your partners favorite wine or hard-to-get,
imported beer! Instead of 100 scented candles, go for few lighted ones placed strategically
in your home. Be subtle but make the changes stand out nonetheless.


Practical Tips!

Please dont try and create a romantic setting if you have not taken care of a few basic
things such as getting rid of the kids and doing some basic room cleaning. I tell you, it ruins
the mood!

Seriously, if you have kids, it really pays to have them stay at grandmas for the night. I
guarantee youll be amazed at how uninhibited and abandoned your partner will be in bed!


Next time, Ill talk about the rest of your foreplay stage setting and aphrodisiac-type
elements you can incorporate during your day - and night! of foreplay. Till then!


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Are You Fit for Foreplay?


In one of our open forums with my subscribers, the topic of why it was so hard to bring
foreplay back into a relationship was brought up. A lot of reasons were being discussed and
then seemingly out of the blue, one of them said Im out of shape!.

The next thing I knew, people on the forum were - one by one - confirming the same thing!
People didnt want to admit to it, thinking it was not a valid reason but it was there all the
same: many found it difficult to initiate foreplay because they felt they were not physically in
the best shape of their lives.

Its not that you need real stamina for foreplay. Its just that people did not feel sexy or
hot enough to introduce foreplay again in their relationships.

Somehow, the prevailing thought is to have that perfect body to fit into that perfect lingerie
for women, or not to have that beer belly hanging out for men.

Well, you know what, this is just plain PROCRASTINATION. You dont have to have that
perfect body to start bringing foreplay back. Furthermore, look at it this way: foreplay
means better and more frequent sex, and more frequent sex means more calories burned.
Its a win-win situation!

Fitness Tips to J umpstart Foreplay

Its all in how you perceive yourself and your body but if you really want to tone your
physical appearance a bit to give you that boost in confidence to start foreplay, then thats
ok too.

Here are some tips we discussed in our group.

Power Walking is a great way to start getting into shape. Its low impact and can be
done in nearby woods or within your own neighborhood. This is really just walking at a
faster tempo with exaggerated arm swinging for more calorie burnout. Just remember to
wear the right pair of shoes so you dont hurt yourself on your first few rounds.

Yoga is actually a philosophy that believes in bringing the mind and body with the
universe. This is why most yoga exercises are focused on balancing your body through
exact movements, controlled breathing and mental training. Yoga is thus good for body
conditioning and mental rest.

Stretching. If youve been reading my previous articles, you know that I like foreplay to
include a lot of teasing to increase sexual tension. Many times, this involves many
poses.

For example, I like to reach up to a top drawer while wearing short shorts so that my
partner can see my ass-ets. I also like bending low so that my partner gets an eyeful of
my boobs.

Well, Im telling you, my antics look more fluid and sexy because I do stretching
exercises whenever I can! Can you imagine if I did these stuff and had to stop it midway
because I pulled a muscle?!?

Dirty Dancing! This is a confession from one of our female subscribers.
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Whenever she feels a bit heavy, she turns up the music the minute her husband goes
out the door for work and really let loose! But she doesnt just put on dance music. She
also puts in a good mix of slutty music and she just gyrates to the music with
abandon. She swears she gets so horny after this, its a challenge to wait for her
husband to come back home!

Aerobic Stripping is GREAT because you exercise while preparing your foreplay
moves. You need some music to get you in the mood but it doesnt have to be dance
music, even a Barry White number will do. The point is to start swaying and moving to
the music while S-L-O-W-L-Y taking your clothes of piece by piece. The forced slow
movements also help in toning your body!

All of the above tips dont need special equipment or expensive gym memberships. And
more information about them can easily be sourced online so its all up to you now!

Just remember, you DONT need a perfect body to start focusing on bringing foreplay back
into your lives. But if you do decide to get fitter for foreplay then go for it! Im always one
for better stamina in bed too!

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Foreplay How to Stop Procrastination and J UST GO FOR IT!


Wow! A lot of people really have A LOT of reasons to delay bringing foreplay back into their
relationships. Its almost like weight loss issues: we all want it; but somehow cant seem to
get started on achieving it!

Today, Id like to address some of the most common reasons why you are most likely
delaying bringing back foreplay into your relationship. And of course, tips on how to
overcome them!


The Perfect Body Syndrome.
In a previous article, I discussed about how many of you delay foreplay because you think
that you dont physically look good enough. However, note that you DO NOT need that
perfect body to start foreplay!

Foreplay/Sex is all in the mind. I mean, isnt it true that you can make someone come over
the phone?!? So stop delaying. If you wait and wait and wait for the perfect body, you may
find that your partner is already with someone else!

Heres what you do: If you are really bothered about how you look with less clothes then opt
for clothes that highlight your assets and use better lighting.

A bit chubby but got great boobs? Push-up bras girl!
Dont feel comfortable naked? Black sheer lingerie ALWAYS works!
For men, heres a tip from personal experience. My man actually doesnt like walking around
naked at home BUT when he wants to tease me he wears those boxer shorts that have an
opening at the front. (Men! They pee standing up and still cant be bothered to pull their
underwear down!) Anyway, so he has this peek-a-boo boxers from which of course I get a
GREAT view of his ginormous

Now lighting. Many people hate asking their partners to turn the lights off so what do they
do? Suffer being uncomfortable! Argh! Simple solution: use DIMMERS or CANDLES!


The Perfect Setting Syndrome.
Many people cant seem to begin foreplay because they get so caught up in the preparation.
Heres what one frustrated subscriber wrote me one day

Gabrielle, my foreplay night was RUINED. First, the naughty cake I ordered did NOT
arrive. My sister was late in picking up my son and daughter (took your advice on getting
rid of them) so I was late with cooking dinner. And then Tom called that hell be late from
work! I was so upset I couldnt push through with it anymore! I mean almost a whole month
of planning and scheduling down the drain

Why I always tell my clients that its great to plan your foreplay nights, dont be obsessed
with having a well-timed, all-must-be-in-order setting! It can easily sidetrack you from your
goal which is to spend a valuable and sensual time with your partner.

Heres what you do: If things dont go exactly as you planned, LET IT GO. For example, if
you realize all of a sudden that you dont have time for that 5-course aphrodisiac-laden
dinner you were planning, go through your folder of favorite take-out restaurants! If, at the
last minute, the designated babysitter bails out on you go for gagged sex (as in mouth
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covered; pls. dont choke your partner )! You or your partner not into this? Thats OK. Give
it your foreplay attempts a rest . BUT TRY AGAIN SOON!


Im Afraid of Rejection Syndrome.
A LOT of you have written me that its really hard to initiate foreplay again if your partner
turned you flat down at your previous attempt. Well, oftentimes, youre afraid to try again
because your EMOTION is blocking your LOGIC.

For instance, when you initiated foreplay, WHY did he/she REALLY turn you down? You think
the reason is YOU but it just as easily can be HIM/HER you know. Maybe he/she REALLY had
a headache. Maybe he/she was coming down with the flu. Maybe he/she did not feel sexy
enough!

Heres what you do: If talking about it makes you or your partner uncomfortable, then start
by trying again! But this time, be a little bit more aware of his/her situation be it at work,
with his/her family, and others. If its still not working, then initiate dialogue soon. If you
dont, self-doubt and losing interest in initiating foreplay can easily hit rock-bottom.

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Foreplay Kissing 101

Today, were going to talk about the many ways couples can kiss each other during foreplay.
Its funny how we seem to take kissing for granted or how easily we can fall into a routine
with kissing.

One of our subscribers has written me sometime bask complaining that each time she and
her husband kiss, there seems to be a time limit and all-too-familiar routine that they
follow. It goes like this: gentle kissing, followed by about 5 minutes of torrid kissing, and
then intercourse!

She said that although she liked having sex with her husband it was becoming like a well-
rehearsed routine help!


Kissing is an Art

One of the best ways to prolong foreplay is to indulge in the many ways you and your
partner can kiss each other. Here are a few tips for you.

The Bent Kiss is the type of kiss thats meant for deep tongue penetration. It requires one
partner to be taller or be at an elevated height than the other. For couples with differing
heights, no problem but for couples of equal heights, try kissing on the stairs or while one of
you is sitting on the table or sink. The objective is to have one bending over the other for
maximum tongue playing.

The Upper Lip Kiss is when you kiss the upper lip of your partner, making your partner
focus on your lower lip. This type of kiss allows for a different type of sensation and oh yes,
a little sucking of the lips is allowed too!

The Upside-Down Kiss is literally kissing each other while upside-down. Dont worry; you
dont need any form of acrobatics here. For example, initiate foreplay while your partner is
watching TV. Touch his/her shoulders from behind the couch, give him/her a hug, bend over
his/her head and start the kiss!

I just gave you two pointers here. Firstly, let your partner know youre behind him/her!
Think about it. How would you react if there was this big head appearing in your line of
vision all of a sudden! Secondly, proceed gently, the hug part lets your partner know youre
in a tender, loving place and because he/she knows this, the kiss you give will be more
welcome.

Also, do time your upside-down kiss well! Theres no point in initiating foreplay during the
championship of the Super Bowl. Youre setting yourself up badly and you know it! Men, if
you know shes REALLY into Oprah, now is not the time for you to initiate this either.

Kiss and Lick (a.k.a. tongue bathing) is when you ensure that you kiss and lick your
partner in equal portions. Ive always said that many of us do not lick enough! So when you
feel that your partner wants to immediately move on to lovemaking, delay it by engaging in
some licking. Be sure to make the change subtle and to alternate between kissing and
licking.

The Awakening Kiss is the kiss you want to do if you want to initiate foreplay in the
morning or whenever your partner is sleeping. Personally, I call it the Sleeping Beauty Kiss
because basically you start kissing your partner gently while he/she is still asleep. Dont
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make the kiss too wet or too aggressive. Remember, you want your partner to awaken to
gentle, sensual pleasures and not to a rough assault.

Chocolate Kisses is by far one of my favorites. It is as simple as it sounds, pop a piece of
chocolate in your mouth, melt it a bit and when its soft and gooey go for the kiss! You can
do some variations of this depending on what you and your partner love to eat. For
example, peanut butter is good for most people as well as candy bars. Just be sure its
something your partner loves to east as well!

There you go. Add these kiss variations into your foreplay repertoire and your partner will
surely be surprised, delighted and excited by all these NEW things that are going on in your
relationship.

Happy Kissing!
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How to French Kiss Properly During Foreplay

I rarely find a couple who doesnt like to French Kiss and when I do its often because they
dont know how to do it properly! Indeed, bad French kissing can turn any foreplay attempt
into a disaster. Imagine, instead of being labeled as a great romantic, you end up being
called a great slob!


What is a French Kiss?

A French kiss is a sexual kiss that involves a partners tongue touching the lips and tongue
of the other, eventually entering his/her mouth. French kissing is classified as a very
intimate kiss. After all, would you just let anyone access to your mouth?!?

Because a French kiss is not just granted to anyone, many people find French kissing a huge
turn on. Actually, its more than just limited access that causes the turn on. This type of
kissing stimulates the lips, tongue and mouth, which, as it happens, are all areas extremely
sensitive to touch. So now you know why French kissing is so hot!


How to French Kiss Someone

Following are my practical, no beating around the bush tips on how you should attempt
French kissing. Follow these tips and your foreplay attempts will lead to highly-energized
sex!

Prepare well. Come on. You know youre going to try for a French kiss tonight so come
prepared! Be well groomed, take a long bath and above all brush your teeth! Now, say you
just had dinner and by some stroke of inaptitude on your part, you ate something with a lot
of garlic. Rush to a 24-hour store and buy a breath mint or disposable tooth brush kit.
Believe me, MANY subscribers have passed a night of great French kissing because of this so
dont make the same mistake.

Close your mouth. Yes, close it. Dont go for an open-mouthed kiss as you might scare
him/her. No one wants to see a widely-opened mouth coming towards and attempting to eat
him/her. Instead, go for a closed-mouth, soft, sensual kiss.

Dont bump into each other. Ok, you go for the kiss whats next? Angle your head so that
you dont bump noses.

Close your eyes. Some couples like to look deep into each others eyes while kissing but
since this is your first French kiss attempt, I suggest closing your eyes. This heightens
sensations and you dont want to unconsciously communicate to your partner your
hesitations. That is, you dont want him/her to look into your eyes and read should I put
my tongue in now or not? do you?

Proceed with caution. If you sense that the time is right, open your mouth a bit and see
how he/she reacts. Nine out of ten times, your partner will open his/her mouth too and this
is the signal that you can use your tongue now. If this does not happen, then proceed by
lightly brushing your tongue across his/her lips. If your partner still doesnt reciprocate or
pulls away alas! you have to try again another day.

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Dont propel your tongue like a helicopter blade. Ok, youre in! Congratulations.
However, dont ruin the moment by twirling your tongue like a tornado! Do a bit of
everything. Twirl a bit, pull back, lick her/his lips again, pull back, go back in, etc. etc.

BREATHE! Do NOT hold your breathe. A lot of people try to hold their breath so as not to
break the moment and then what? They end up having to pull away completely because
theyre gasping for air! Just breathe normally through your nose and youll be fine.

Kiss deep but suck light. A normal next thing to do is to start sucking your partners
tongue and often, this is where the French kiss goes wrong. Many couples are so excited at
this stage that they seem to suck with gusto, which of course causes pain for their partners.
So remember to suck lightly, and your French kiss will last a long time.

Dont bite. You can tease, lick and even nibble, but dont bite. Again, your high enthusiasm
may cause your partner pain.

Dont gag him/her. Another French kiss no-no is going too deep in his/her mouth. Just
stay close to the front of the mouth and concentrate on his/her lips and tongue.

French kissing is such a delightful thing to do during foreplay. Master it and youll have
him/her wrapped around your finger and tongue! in no time.

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Foreplay Embracing 101

Yet another often neglected part of foreplay is embracing. One of the questions I always ask
a client is how do you define an embrace?. Almost without fail, my client will give me a
blank stare and answer

Well, you know, put your arms around her/him.
Thats it?
Bring her/him closer to me, you know, a hug.
Thats it?
[blank stare]

Ok, embracing, just like kissing, can have so many variations and you can use all of them
during foreplay!


Embrace Him/ Her Now But How?

The Rubbing Embrace is something that you may not think of as an embrace at all. It is
when you gently and subtly touch or rub your body against your partner, often when in a
public place. For example, say youre in a bookstore or something, walk up to you partner,
get REALLY close and rub your body a bit against him/her. If youre into foreplay gear, then
rub a bit more obviously to get him/her excited.


The Pressing Embrace is one of my favorites. Its when you pin your partner against a wall
or something with your body! For a gentle version, lets go back to the bookstore. After
your rubbing embrace, reach out for a book BEHIND him/her, causing your partner to stand
back while you lean into him/her with your hot body. Now for a not so subtle version, do the
pressing embrace at home with very little clothes on or nothing at all!


The Side Embrace is a very tender type of embrace and can be done just about anywhere.
This embrace calls for you to face your partner but not front-to-front (i.e., eye-to-eye) but
side-to-side (i.e., more like ear-to-ear). When youre somewhat aligned now side-by-side,
put an arm in front of his/her waist or use both arms and wrap them around his/her body.


The Over-the-Edge Embrace is when your boyfriend / husband /lover sits on the edge of
the sofa or bed and you sort of straddle him. The purpose of this embrace is not intercourse,
you can do this with clothes on but the embrace calls for women to trust their partners
(i.e., that she doesnt end up on the floor!) and as such is a great bonding embrace.

The Twining Vine embrace is normally done by women. It is when you embrace your man
and then lift one leg up to wrap or twine around his leg. This is especially great during
foreplay as it enables you to grind your sweet spot against his manhood a bit.


The Thigh Embrace is great during foreplay and after sex. It is basically putting the left or
right thigh of your partner between your own. During foreplay, this can be done lying down
or standing up against the wall. While in this embrace, grab the opportunity to rub your
genitals against his/her thigh. After sex, dont just roll over and sleep! Continue your
bonding by getting on top and doing this embrace and hold it for more than a few seconds!


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The Throbbing Embrace is for advanced stages of foreplay. This is when youre both really
hot and panting now. While embracing your partner, spread your legs a bit so that he/she
can position his genitals against yours. You can then proceed to rub against each other
(pace depends on how hot you guys are already). Trust me. This type of embrace will have
you guys ripping off each others clothes soon.


The Embrace of the Breasts is when you both have your clothes off already. To do this
embrace, be sure to position your breasts against his/her and gently rock your body back
and forth. Needless to say, this stimulates your nipples almost to the point of no return.


The Lower Body embrace is when you go half-way down your partners body but just till
your face is against his/her stomach (not belly). You can then proceed to press your face
against his/her stomach, hug his/her thighs with your arms, and then move on to kissing
his/her stomach! Again, a great foreplay or after-sex embrace!

Embracing your partner can be as gentle or as sensual as you want it to be but do embrace
him/her more! Studies show that a lot of physical contact does do a relationship good so
start embracing more often!
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Foreplay Tips for Him


So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend /wife / lover
with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasnt been your thing
lately and youre not sure what to do

Well, lucky you! Ive compiled these hot foreplay tips you can use ASAP so that you can
have her breathing hard and lusting for your touch tonight!


Hot Tips for Sexual Foreplay

Sometimes, foreplay can be a disaster if you dont know what youre doing. For instance,
you may have seen movies where he tweaks her nipples HARD. Well guys, you know
what? That HURTS and youre not really arousing her that way. So to guide your naughty
thoughts, take heed of my foreplay tips below!


Dont forget her neck. Often, guys think of foreplay as kissing and making love as
having sex. Sorry guys, thats way too simple for us girls. So during foreplay, dont just
kiss her thoroughly, pay attention too to other female body parts such as her neck, arms,
legs, and even her feet. Alternate between kissing, licking and nibbling these areas and
shell be putty in your hands in no time.

Mentally sex her up. Its a fact. Guys go for visual stuff while women like to be mentally
put in the mood. So if youre planning for some hot sex tonight, start foreplay early during
the day so shes already in the mood by the time you reach for her at home.

For example, if you guys are standing on line for something, get close to her and whisper
something REALLY DIRRRTY into her ear! Important: paint her a picture in her head. So
dont just say Im going to fuck you tonight. Instead, say You know babe, Im horny now
so when we get back home, I will lick your clit so good that I think you get my drift by
now

Dry hump her. In its most generic sense, foreplay is all about increasing the sexual
tension so that you and your partner are uber-primed for the sexual act itself. Well, whats
more arousing than imitating intercourse movements (humping) than doing it with clothes
on! Preferably, do this in a public place or in a club. Basically, do it where you cannot
proceed to doing intercourse. This way, you guys will be h-h-hot for sex later!

Slow dance while butt-naked. Ok, this time foreplay without clothes! You can just be
half-dressed or completely naked for this one. Put on some slow and/or lusty music, dim the
lights, light some candles, take some or all of your clothes off and start swaying to the
music. Remember that the trick here is to dance close to her body so that she can feel your
erection against her. Hot!

Go under the table. I just love sharing experiences from subscribers and heres another
one. One time, while Jill (subscriber name changed for privacy) and her husband were
having dinner, they were getting a bit naughty and started to play footsie under the table.
This then proceeded to her fully extending her leg and with her foot, she started playing
with his penis through his pants. What happened next shocked her

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Without warning, he went under the table, spread her legs, pulled down her shorts and
tongued her! Jill swears the foreplay and the suddenness of his moves was the hottest sex
and the best orgasm she ever had!

Try this one tonight and dont worry if shes wearing pants. Just rub your face against her
mound and it will turn her so horny SHE will start to bring her pants down.

Tease her till the very end. No, the fact that she has her clothes off does NOT mean its
intercourse time. You can extend foreplay to the very end and bring her to delirious lust by
using the head of your penis to tease her throbbing vagina. Just rub your the point of your
manhood all over her vagina especially her clit and trust me, shell go wild with passion!

I hope you thoroughly enjoy these foreplay tips! Just remember to vary your foreplay
moves. Otherwise, everything becomes routine again! So for example, tonight, tease her
from head to toe with your kissing, licking and nibbling and then next time, just go directly
to her clit and lick away. This way, youre Mr. Surprise and foreplay and sex with you is the
best experience shell ever have.

Enjoy!

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Foreplay Tips for Her


I know ladies. Sometimes, it feels as if were the only ones in the relationship that likes
foreplay. But that aint true. Sure, he may not initiate foreplay all the time (or maybe he
doesnt last very long during foreplay?) but believe me, guys like to experience foreplay too!


My First Foreplay Tip for You

Ive had many female clients complain that theyre always the ones initiating foreplay and
theyre tired of it(!) so what should I do Gabrielle?

This is the way I go about it. When you initiate foreplay, does he cut you short or does he
participate? Do you do all the work or does it get him in the mood that he sexes you up
too?

My point is this: stop focusing on whether you INITIATE foreplay or not. If hes not the type
of guy to start it then hes not the type of guy. Focus on whats really important: the fact
that you both get to do and enjoy foreplay in your sex life. Believe me, I counsel so many
couples that are desperate to bring foreplay back so rejoice in the fact that you get to enjoy
it!


And Now for More Practical, Naughty Foreplay Tips

Dont fall into the trap of falling into a foreplay routine. Vary your moves and your man will
not have a wandering eye and will always look forward to having hot sex with you.

Dont forget hes a visual kind of person. Luckily for us, men arent hard to bring to
sexual thoughts. Use this to your advantage. So you want to have hot sex tonight? Do any
one of these all of them is a nice treat for him too!

Take a hot shower and then walk around the room naked. Your glistening body, eliciting
just a hint of hot smoke is enough to get his penis up! Take it up a notch tip: bend over!
Touch yourself in the most casual way you can. For example, if youre cooking and hes in
the kitchen, massage your breast (dont wear a bra so he can see an erect nipple) and make
it look like youre doing it without realizing it! Take it up a notch tip: do the exact same
thing but this time do it on an inner thigh or even gently massage your crotch.
Read porn right in front of him. (This one doesnt need explanation does it?) Take it up
a notch tip: do this while not wearing underwear and be sure he gets a peek!

Grab it! I always do this myself At the most unsuspecting moments, I give my partner a
hug and then make my way to grabbing his penis and I start rubbing my hand over it.
Works every time! I told you it doesnt take much to arouse a guy

Moan baby, moan! Apart from being very visual, men are also increasingly turned on by
sounds of pleasure from our part. So when he starts to do something that is really getting
you hot, show your appreciation by moaning like a purring cat!

Lick his hole. Many men would never dare to ask their partners to lick him behind there;
and many women find this act downright yucky. So heres a tip because deep down inside,
you BOTH will like it! If you have qualms about this, start foreplay in the shower. Soap each
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other, rub each other, and then get down on your knees. You can start with a slow blowjob
and then start kissing and nibbling your way to his behind and then start licking it!

This way, youre assured that its clean and hes not shocked with you just aiming for his
hole. Its a win-win situation!

Play the dominatrix. Deep down inside, men liked to be dominated every now and then
and foreplay is one of those instances when you really get to shine as a dominator. So the
next time he tries to lick you or get on top of you, dont let him! Instead, pin him down and
face sit him. If hes into a bit of SM, use some handcuffs but absolute do not do this if hes
not comfortable with it.


Remember that when it comes to foreplay, its not just all about giving head. Just like you,
he likes his whole body loved and caressed as well even if hes not as vocal about it as you
are. So for foreplay tonight, give him the full-body foreplay treatment. Hell be grateful and
that means more foreplay and orgasms for you!
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10 Foreplay DONTS to Remember


Sometimes, in our quest for better foreplay and better sex, we tend to get a bit carried
away to the point that we do things that TURN OFF our partners. Some of these mistakes
are not just overzealousness but due to myths propagated in adult films and magazines.

Well, to avoid these foreplay booboos, heres a list of Ten Foreplay DONTS.


In General

Take a shower and be properly groomed. Im not talking about going to a salon here.
Just ensure that your breath and body are clean. Also, if youre planning to do some
poking, ensure that you cut your nails down. Nothing hurts more than long nails, or can be
more disgusting (in case you poke into something and er take out something with your
nails! Yuck!)
Put on some music. Foreplay can be a very embarrassingly noisy event (wet slapping
noises, an escaped fart or two, etc.). To hide these sounds, drown them out with a bit of
sexy music.

Dont OVER-tongue him/her. Dont ram your tongue into your partners eardrums or
throat. It can be a complete turn off if he/she feels the need to tilt his/her head (from
having clogged ears) or feels the need to gag.

Dont embarrass him/her. I once advised a client to start foreplay early during the day
and mentioned some of my foreplay moves like rubbing against each other, dry humping,
footsie playing, etc. Well, I guess my client got carried away as she tried footsie playing with
him during a business dinner. She thought she was being naughty, he thought it was
annoying. Moral lesson? Know WHEN to make your moves.


For Him

Dont twirl, tweak and twist her nipples hard. No. Despite what you often see in adult
films, she really doesnt like it if you play too roughly with her nipples. They need to be
caressed, not manhandled.

Dont be the one to request to turn the lights off. Almost all women have body image
issues. So dont do her a favor by asking to have the lights off. In contrast, shell
immediately think you find her body offensive in some way. If shes not exactly the cover
girl type, dont over compliment her either because shell know youre lying. Instead, just
tell her you prefer women with curves.

Dont go for G-spot stimulation if you dont know what the hell youre doing! Sure,
G-spot stimulation can bring her almost sexual nirvana but it can be painful for her if you
dont know what youre doing. Im not saying dont attempt it. Rather, be very attuned to
how she responds to your fingers.


For Her

Dont ask him to wear a thong. Ladies, despite what you hear about the metrosexual
man, dont ask him to put on a thong. It really does turn most men OFF.

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Dont smother him. Hes gone down on you and boy do you love it! Youre delirious with
pleasure and because of this you try to squeeze your thighs shut and/or start to grab his
hair and knead his face against your crotch. Well, lets see what youre REALLY doing to him
hear. With the first one, youre like a praying mantis trying to squeeze and rip his head off.
With the second one, youre making it hard for him to breathe! Ease up girls. Show your
appreciation the RIGHT way and hes bound to lick you to the ends of the earth again.

Dont expect him to read your mind. One of the worse things you can do during foreplay
is to expect him to know exactly what you want to happen. With this attitude, youre really
setting yourself (and him) for a foreplay disaster. Let him know that you like what hes doing
to you, or better yet, TELL him EXACTLY what you want done. Hell appreciate it and you get
what you want. Win-win!


Foreplay is all about increasing sexual tension in a way that is pleasurable for you and your
partner in more than just the sexual sense. It should be in an atmosphere of comfort and
trust, and maybe even with a hint of sexual danger, and not be forced or selfish in any way.

Think about this the next time you engage in foreplay with your partner and youre bound to
have a great and sexually thrilling time!

By the way, do you have any foreplay donts you want to share? If you do, let me know will
you? Itll help everybody else who wants to engage in some good foreplay time!


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Conclusion

Foreplay is a MUST in any successful and sexually-satisfying relationship. It keeps bonds
exciting and makes you and your partner see each other in exhilarating ways.

Without foreplay, sex seems to be just intercourse instead of love making and as thrilling
as this may sound at the start of any relationship, this will soon be replaced by the feeling
that sex is nothing but regular routine between the sheets.


This eBook has hopefully made you see the light and has given you the ways by which you
can bring back foreplay, passion and romance into your relationship. Sure, foreplay is not
always a spontaneous thing that you just start. Sometimes, it needs planning, cunning, and
a little bit of staging. But then again, these are the things that make YOU endearing to your
partner, which in return make all the effort worth it!


Ok, Ive done my part now, its YOUR turn!
Go and bring foreplay back in full force so that you can achieve a long-lasting, loving and
FOREVER HORNY relationship!


Good luck!