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12 COSMOPOLITAN | JUNE 2014
GAME PLAN
14 Cosmo Vibes
16 18 Things to Do This Month
FUN, FEARLESS
CONFESSIONS
37 Confessions
40 Worst Dates Ever!
FUN, FEARLESS CELEBS
43 Beard Watch
44 Cosmo Guy: Zac Efron
48 Fun, FearlessFail!
56 Hot and Hilarious:
My Fifty Shades Confession
FUN, FEARLESS
SHOPPING
63 Cut It Out
66 Stay Sexy All Month Long
68 Look Hot Tonight
70 Cool Shades
73 7 Pieces to Step Up Your
Summer Look
FUN, FEARLESS
BEAUTY
81 Lash Out
84 Stay Sexy All Month Long
88 $10, Tops!
90 Ask Leah
94 The Skinny: 24/7-
Gorgeous Skin
97 Just Another Mani
Monday
FUN, FEARLESS WORK,
NEWS & LIFE
103 10 Surprising Ways to Find a
New Job
106 Your Career Get-Ahead
Guide: How to Have a
Tough Talk
108 Cashing In: Save $$$ During
Wedding Season
110 News
112 Break Out of Your
Comfort Zone
116 Dress for the Job You Want
FUN, FEARLESS READ
120 Gap Years Gone Bad
FASHION & BEAUTY
129 Whats Sexy forJune
138 Here Comes the Sun
144 Lily Was Here
LOVE, LUST & OTHER STUFF
153 5 Signs Its Time to DTR
156 Your Complete Guide to Oral
Sex
162 Manthropology
164 Ask Him Anything
168 Long-Distance Love Secrets
172 My Wedding Hookup
174 How to Help a Friend
in Trouble
184 Youre Not Needy (Youre
Just With the Wrong Guy)
HOT & HEALTHY
191 If You Do One Thing for
Yourself This Month
Eat Your Veggies and Love It
192 Food Buzz
194 Body News
196 Fitness Buzz
198 Workout: Calm Mind, Sexy
Body
200 Health Report: Does Your
Vagina Need a Detox?
203 Cosmo Practice Safe Sun:
The Real Girls Guide to
Pretty Skin
LIVE IT UP!
211 Ryan Gosling Wants You
to Come to an Outdoor
Movie Night
216 10 Super-Easy Tricks to
Turn Your Place Into a Home
IN EVERY ISSUE
20 Its a Cosmo World
28 Cosmo Contributors
30 From the Editor
34 Cover Girl Quiz
50 Sexy vs. Skanky
54 #RealTalk: Theres No Age
Limit to Loving Teen Drama
218 Cosmo Astrologer
220 Red-Hot Read
222 Bitch It Out!/Shopping
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224 Cosmo Quiz: Are You
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Amy Cuddy giving
us a private Ted Talk!!
#OnlyAtCosmo
When we all dressed
up as Joanna Coles
for Halloween.
#OnlyAtCosmo
Coming up with names
for Cosmos famous sex
positions can be daunting.
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acted out to get the name
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frosted penis-
shaped cookies
with sprinkles
on the balls.
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Sandberg what
she thinks
of Beyonc.
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and I danced
together! It was
fantastic, just
like she was.
Gerard Butler
pulled me into
the bathroom of
the green room
to practice his
acceptance
speech for our
Cosmo Fun Fearless
Male award.
Getting caught
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Music editor and executive assistant
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fashion editor DeMolet teamed up to
bring out the rock chick in British singing
sensation Lily Allen in the fashion
feature Lily Was Here (p. 144).
FUN, FEARLESS FEMALE I ADMIRE
(KLETNOY) Madonna, the denition of
If you can dream it, you can be it, who
also taught me to never be a victim of my
environment and to follow my dreams.
MY FAVORITE ALBUM OF THE YEAR
(DEMOLET) Candice Glovers debut
album, Music Speaks. Reminds me of the
incredible gospel singers I used to hear in
church in North Carolina.
SARA SHEPARD TWITTER: @SaraBooks
In this months Red-Hot Read, One Last Fling (p.
220), Shepard, the author of the Pretty Little Liars
series, gives Cosmo an exclusive sneak peek
into her new novel, The Heiresses.
HOW I GOT MY FIRST BIG BREAK I knew I wanted
to start writing ction for a certain group of editors
at a publisher, so I crashed their holiday party and
drank some shots with them. I followed up with
an editor I met there, and I ended up ghost-writing
a book series. That experience led me, eventually,
to writing Pretty Little Liars.
FUN, FEARLESS FEMALE I ADMIRE I love Ellen
DeGeneresshes so herself, which is refreshing.
ANGELA LEDGERWOOD
BOOK I READ OVER AND OVER AGAIN I read Catcher in the Rye
almost every year. (I know its clich to do so,
but I dont care.) That book has changed so
much to me over the years. As Ive grown
up, Holden Cauleld has become sadder
and lonelier to me than he was when I was
young but also more heroic.
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In Youre Not Needy (Youre Just With the
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Love Affairs of Nathaniel P., examines
what we can learn about ourselves when
a hot new relationship abruptly turns cold.
BEST ADVICE IVE GOTTEN I got it when I
was single: Dont worry. You just havent
met the right person. When youre single,
its tempting to blame yourself because it
gives you a sense of controllike, if I x
myself, then a relationship will come my
way. But the older I get, Im convinced its a
question of meeting the right person.
Kletnoy, left,
and DeMolet with
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GUY CONFESSION
I RAN UP A $2,000
TAB ON MY BUDDYS
CARD AND FORGOT TO
PAY IT BEFORE I LEFT
THE BAR. HE STILL
DOESNT KNOW WHO
CRASHED HIS TAB, AND
I CANT EVER TELL HIM.
ITS BEEN TOO LONG
FOR HIM TO THINK ITS
FUNNY NOW.
JAMES L., 26
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GUY CONFESSION
I go to gay bars with my gay friends
(Im straight) so I can ask the jacked
bartenders about their workouts.
MIKE K., 24
[No. 5]
ROCKY
LANDING
I went rock climb-
ing for the rst time
and tried to kick
ass at it, considering
the instructors
waiting for me at
the bottom were
hot! But of course,
I lost my grip. Falling
down the rock wall
was embarrassing
enough, but landing
ass rst on the
hottest instructor
was pretty much
the worst. EMMA G., 20
[No. 4]
Wax On, Wax Off
I was visiting my long-distance boyfriend
across the country, but I planned it last-
minute and had to get a bikini wax there.
I made a desperate appointment at a new
salon in townthey squeezed me in
and the waxer ended up being my guys
ex-girlfriend! I almost died when she
walked in with her white coat and bundle
of wooden sticks. JESS M., 24
[No. 7]
He was
reading a book
of pickup lines
on the beach
when a girl
approached
him.
BRUNO P., 31,
entrepreneur, from
So Paulo, Brazil
She liked that
I was readinguntil
she saw the book.
That night, I saw her at
a club and hit on her,
not recognizing her
from the beach. When
she asked me about
the pickup-line book,
I told her it wasnt me.
Later, we went to my
place, and she saw
the book there! She
dated me anyway.
FRED B., 35,
commodities trader, from
Vitria, Brazil
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Fred has a
good story
about a
book.
ALEX M., 26,
travel agent,
from Miami, FL
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Before I go out,
I give myself a pep
talk in the mirror
about how Im
denitely going to
pick up girls.
BLAKE S., 21
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GUY CONFESSION
DOWNTON
ON THE DL
My favorite show
is Downton Abbey,
but all my friends
think its Sons
of Anarchy. Theyd
never let me live
it down if they knew
the truth. GABRIEL H., 23
[No. 14]
Corporate
Vibes
I was at a sex
store scoping out
vibes when I looked
up and made eye
contact with my
(male) boss! I made
up some story
about a bachelorette
party, but that only
made it more awk-
ward, like I wasnt
okay being in the
store even though
Im a freaking adult.
We never spoke
about it again.
LILY E., 20
[No. 12]
A DUDE REACTS
THIS IS PATHETIC. SHE
NEEDS TO MOVE ON. EVEN
IF ITS FUNNY THAT HIS NEW
EX IS LEAVING CRAZY
VOICE MAILS, AT LEAST
HES TRYING TO LOOK
FORWARD AND NOT
BACKWARD.
EESHAN T., 21
PHONE TAP
I still have my exs
voice-mail pass-
word and listen
to his messages.
It was especially
juicy during his last
breakup, when his
ex went nuts and
left threatening
messages. Id listen,
then mark them as
new so hed never
know. RAMONA N., 25
[No. 10]
GUY CONFESSION
Last month, a girl came over, and
her feet smelled so bad, I faked sick
just so shed leave. PETER M., 27
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One of my
coworkers was
jokingly flirting
with me one day
and asked if
I thought he was
cute. I spit my
water all over
his office. He was
offended.
LISA D., 33,
commercial real
estate lender,
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On a date, a guy
told me, Cut
the bullshit good-girl
act. You know you
want to come home
with me. I wouldnt
even let him
drive me home.
DANNI F., 23
I met a blind date
at a restaurant
and our waitress
was his ex. To
make things more
awkward, he
invited her to sit
with us after her
shift was over!
ABIGAIL A., 21
A guy showed
up to a lunch
date in a
full pirate
costume: wig,
eyeliner, boots,
everything.
ANGELA G., 19
Girl, jump
ship!
On a rst date, he asked if he
could take a picture of me to send
to his buddies. Um, no. LIZA H., 22
WE DECIDED TO
TAKE THINGS TO
THE NEXT LEVEL,
AND I PULLED BACK
HIS COMFORTER
TO FIND SMURF
SHEETS HES HAD
SINCE CHILDHOOD.
TAYLOR A., 21
I went out
with a guy who
worked on a
farm and thought
a good rst-date
activity was
castrating and
branding a bull.
Holy. Crap.
TESS P., 23
I went home
with a guy
after a date,
and when he
(nally) got
an erection,
he whipped
out a ruler and
measured it
right in front
of me.
BECCA M., 25
I TOLD HIM I LIKE
SPONTANEOUS GUYS,
AND WHEN I CAME OUT
OF THE BATHROOM,
HE WAS DANCING
NAKED TO HANSONS
MMMBOP. THATS
NOT WHAT I MEANT.
HARRIET D., 24
He picked me up
for our rst date
and screamed out
the window at
some girls crossing
the street: Hurry
the f*ck up!
I almost jumped out
of the car. Jerk.
KATRINA S., 22
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ROSE MARIE WALANO
Craziest thing youve done
for love? I wrote a song for
somebody and played it
onstage at her party. Ive
picked up the guitar a lot
more lately. Im working
on building a recording
studio in my house. Any
way I can bring more
music into my life, I do.
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School Musical. Do you have any plans for musicals
in the future or maybe a Broadway debut?
Im a musical junkie and I love Broadway, so to answer
your question, one hundred percent yes.
What are some of your
deal breakers? I dont
believe in deal breakers.
I believe in things you
help people figure out
and get through. To set
a deal breaker before you
even meet? No way.
Would you ever date a
fan? Sure. You cant label
somebody as a fan. Shes
a person. And I want
to be someones fan too.
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FOR ME, WRITING A BOOK
is like a very long ver-
sion of that childhood
game Marco Polo. I sit
alone in my basement
for a few years say-
ing, Marco, Marco,
Marco, Marco, and
then nally the book
comes out. And if Im
lucky, people start
saying, Polo! When
writing my novel The
Fault in Our Stars,
I always imagined
those people would be
teenagers. My books
are for young adults,
afer all.
But in the weeks
afer The Fault in Our
Stars was published
in 2012, I heard
from more and more
proper adults. They told me their
kids had given them the book or
theyd read it in book club or their
friends had recommended it.
Suddenly, the vast majority of my
readers were grown-ups.
Ever since, Ive been thinking
about why stories about teenag-
ers resonate so much with us as
adults. Ive been a passionate
adult reader of YA ction for a
decade, and what I nd so compel-
ling about the best YA ction
is its unironic emotional honesty.
When youre a teenager, youre
ofen doing so many important
things for the rst timeevery-
thing from falling in love to grap-
pling with heartache and loss. You
also begin to ask the big questions
of humanness: What, if anything,
is the meaning to all this? What
are my responsibilities to myself
and to others?
The Hunger Games, Divergent, Pretty Little Liarswhy do we devour young-adult ction
well past our YA years? John Green, the best-selling author of The Fault in Our Stars, explains.
THERES NO AGE LIMIT
TO LOVING TEEN DRAMA
#REALTALK
est and straightforward
in their social analysis.
Theyre not just beauti-
ful stories, theyre also
useful ones.
Its not like we stop
needing the comfort
and help that a good
story can bring when
we graduate from
high school. I am still
looking for answers
to questions about the
meaning of life. I am
still trying to fathom
the wondrous strange-
ness of love. I am still
trying to make my way
through life despite
heartache and loss.
So yes, when I set out
to write a novel about
two young people liv-
ing with cancer who
fall in love with a book and then
with each other, I was writing
it for teenagers. But I was also
writing it for my adult selfthe
one who wanted to know whether
love really is stronger than death
and who wanted to nd hope and
joy and humor amid hard times.
Those desires know no age.
Reader or writer, we love
stories about teenagers, because
although they can be cynical
about many things, they arent
cynical about love, hope,
and the stu that really matters,
like the future. While I am
profoundly glad I will never be
a teen again, I am thrilled to read
(and write) about them because,
deep down, its their enthusiasm
and curiosity that we can all
admire and wish to emulate
long afer weve reached proper
adult status.
Ansel Elgort
and Shailene
Woodley star
in The Fault in
Our Stars in
theaters June 6.
My favorite YA stories approach
these questions directly and
enthusiastically. Author Sarah
Dessen writes wonderful love sto-
ries, but they also confront issues
of abuse and divorce head-on.
Laurie Halse Andersons novels
deal compellingly with eating dis-
orders and sexual assault. Series
like Veronica Roths Divergent and
Marie Lus Prodigy may be set in
dystopic futures, but theyre hon-
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Marriage is amazing. Its like living with your best friendsomeone you
sleep with, laugh with, cry with, and eventually turn into the Crypt Keeper
right in front of like its not even a thing. But you know whats hotter
inadequate. In a healthy relationship, there is stability and
security. Sex is always an option. And like anything that is
available freely and constantly, theres just no real urgency
about it. Especially when Mad Men is on. That was, until
I and 65 million other women met Christian Grey.
I was browsing through a bookstore when a salesgirl
asked if Id read the Fify Shades of Grey trilogy. Really?
HOT & HILARIOUS
When sex got stale for actress/author Jenny Mollen and her hubs,
Jason Biggs, she turned to the Grey sideonly to discover that not
everyone has the, er, balls to play Christian and Ana.
MY FIFTY SHADES
CONFESSION
I said, more than a little disturbed.
Do I look like someone whos read
any trilogy, ever?
Trust me, this isnt your typical
trilogy. She handed me the rst
book. It will change your sex life in
a week.
To be honest, I wasnt necessar-
ily convinced my sex life needed
changing. I was perfectly okay with
our dogs watching Jason try to get
an erection and
equally ne with
them sitting
on my face while
he was going
down on me.
(To clarify: We
dont fuck dogs.
I just get dis-
tracted during
sex sometimes.)
Its not that
Im not a sexual person. Its just
that Im never good at anything
when I know I have to be seri-
ous. Sex with your best friend can
feel like when youre in detention
and if one of you even looks at the
other the wrong way, youre gonna
crack up. My husband doesnt help
when he says things like Smell
my hands. Do they smell like poop
to you? One day, he called me into
the bathroom, beaming with pride,
to show me that he had shit my
initials in the toilet. He has pulled
tampons out of my vagina and
farted on my face while Im half
asleep for his own amusement.
Not that all that isnt super hot. Its
just not the kind of behavior that
sets you up for an orgasm. So for
16 bucks, I decided, What the hell?
and bought the book.
Maybe it was the graphic sex.
Or the graphic sex or the graphic
sex. But within two days, I was
nished with the rst book
for the payo. And
though nothing
makes me more
frustrated than
waiting, the waiting
is the best part. We
ofen fail to recognize
Jenny Mollen
and Jason Biggs
To be
honest, I
wasnt
necessarily
convinced
my sex
life needed
changing.
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that by immediately acting on our
carnal desires, we take a chip out
of the mountain of lust that got us
there in the rst place. Like every
TV show from The X-Files to Sex and
the City, the minute the two leads
get together, we stop giving a fuck.
The story revolves around
the dynamics of a BDSM (bondage
and discipline/sadism and mas-
ochism) relationship, something
Id be hard-pressed to seek out in
real life. Discipline tops my list of
most-hated things, followed closely
by portobello mushrooms. If a guy
tried to tie me up, Id probably freak
out and bludgeon my seducer
to death with his own butt plug.
Luckily, the BDSM merely
provided entre into a larger world
of role-play and fantasy. Most men
can pop in a
porn and get
hard the second
they see a
faceless pussy
staring back
at them. But
women require
more mental
stimulation.
We want a
story. When-
ever I watch
porn with
Jason, I insist
we sit through
the beginning
narrative.
If Im gonna
care about two dudes coming on a
chicks face, I at least need to under-
stand how they all know each other.
Oscar Wilde said, Everything
in the world is about sex, except
for sex. Sex is about power. E. L.
James knows about the importance
of the power/sex dynamic. She gets
that the hottest thing about fucking
someones brains out is the psy-
chological chess game you had to
playand winto get there. Long
story short: E. L. James is a hero.
She is a humanitarianand the
Robin Hood of female libidos.
Afer zipping through the second
book, I was doing things I hadnt
done in years, like shaving all
the hairs o the back of my thighs,
closing the bathroom door when
I peed, and seducing my husband
with more than just I feel like
were supposed to be having sex.
I was insatiable. And by that,
I mean I wanted sex more than
twice a week.
Hot as things had become, some-
thing was still missing. Despite our
best eorts, we still werent like the
characters in the book. I was talk-
ing too much, and Jasons hitting
me over the head with a pillow felt
more like he was trying to suocate
me so he could go back to his iPad.
Christian and Ana also had things
that we didnt have. What is a sexual
deviant without toys? I thought one
day while taking photos of my labia
to send to him at work.
Admittedly, I go through phases
where I get super passionate about
something,
throw myself
one hundred
percent into
whatever it
is, and then
ditch the whole
thing a couple
of weeks later.
Knowing where
my overzealous
nature could
lead, I tried to
stay rational
as I sped into
the parking
lot of my local
sex store.
With deter-
mination, I walked past the sexy
schoolgirl outts and Pocket Rock-
ets and marched directly to the
hard-core shit. I was browsing the
bondage aisle, lling my arms with
weapons of mass seduction, when
I came upon something called a
spreader bar. Looking at the price,
I gasped. Three hundred bucks?
I have a whole dungeon to decorate!
Excuse me, a voice chimed
in behind me. Guiltily, I turned
around. It had to be so obvious from
the looks of me (nonthreatening
person with a wedding ring) and the
contents of my arms (bondage fuck-
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shop workers are, as if sex were the
easiest thing to talk about in the
world. Im sure during training
they get coached in talking about
clits the way some people talk about
coee pots, but the rest of society
doesnt operate that way. Its stress-
ful to have someone look at me with
a straight face
and ask, Have
you ever tried
an ass egg?
By the end
of my super-
market sweep,
Id settled on
nipple clamps,
some reason-
ably priced cock
rings, two giant
vibrators, a
latex bodysuit,
and a blindfold.
On my way
to the register,
I noticed some
small orbs
sitting in a
case near the glass dildos. They
were Ben Wa balls. In Fify Shades,
Christian forces Ana to insert
similar balls into her vagina and
wear them to a black-tie event. Fun!
I thought, tossing a pair into my
basket of vices.
At home, I did what I always do
afer shoppingI ripped the tags
o everything and put it all on.
I danced around the room in pain,
trying to acclimate to my new
nipple clamps, then busted out
the strange balls and shoved them
inside my vagina. They were cold
and heavy and made me feel like
I had two soaked tampons in at
once. Feeling both pride and shame
that my vagina was wide enough
to t both balls, I tiptoed around
waiting to have some sort of Sting
Trudie Styler tantric explosion.
Just then, I heard the garage
door opening. My husband was
home! And was he in for a treat!
I threw a pair of boxers and a
tee shirt over my bondage gear
and ran downstairs to greet him.
The front door swung open, and
I was suddenly face-to-face with
my husband and an uptight Aryan
Youthlooking business acquain-
tance named Judd. Perhaps it was
the shock of seeing a stranger
when I had XXX-rated plans in
mind, perhaps it was my bounc-
ing down the stairs, or perhaps
my vagina was just that big, but at
that moment, my body decided it
was time to purge the balls. I stood
there, speech-
less, watching
my vagina turn
into a gum-
ball machine.
Bapbap. The
metal balls hit
the hardwood
and rolled into
the kitchen,
only to nd my
innocent house-
keeper, Lita.
Judd screamed
like hed just
witnessed a
home birth.
My husbands
jaw hung open
in horror as
I charged afer the orbs. Feels like
maybe this is a bad time, I heard
Judd whisper to Jason as I scam-
pered afer my Ben Wa babies.
By the time I got to the kitchen,
Lita already had one in hand. Oh!
You can just throw those in the
sink, I said, trying to play it cool.
I shamefully slunk back upstairs
and waited for Jason to come ask
me what was going on. I didnt see
him until three hours later, when he
walked in, holding the balls. Lita
was under the impression that
these could go in the dishwasher,
he said, smiling at me the way
people smile at dogs and old people.
Are you mad? I asked. No, he
said. Then he got in bed next to me
and pulled me close. You know
whats hotter than you doing
vagina parlor tricks for my friends?
What? I asked coyly. Everything,
he sighed, and then kissed me.
It was another phase, come and
gone. Our sex life returned to once
a week. Sure, theres the rare night
that I turn over in bed and wish
I were staring at anybody else. But
I think thats normal. And lets be
realwould anybody else be able to
shit my initials? I think not.
I stood there, speech less,
watching my vagina turn
into a gum-ball machine.
Adapted from I Like You Just the Way I Am.
Copyright 2014 by Jenny Mollen, available June 17.
Published in arrangement with St. Martins Press.
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BEACH DAY
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Summer is too short to waste time
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Crop tops and cutoffs
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Clockwise from
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Bag, Ash, $395,
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CLUB KI DS Cupcakes and Cashmere
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LEATHER
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Texture, hardware,
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Shoe brands
Ash and Luxury
Rebel debut
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FANCY
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NUMBERS GAME
Angelina has the longitude and latitude of
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less-hard-core lovers, there are the
Coordinates Collection bracelets.
Legend bracelet,
Coordinates Collection, $204,
coordinatescollection.com
Dress, Club Monaco, $198.50, Club Monaco
Blazer, $149, bra, $129,
shorts, $49.95, H&M, hm.com
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Breaking out of the bedroom, boudoir-
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What distinguishes the slip
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4 Dress, Rebecca Minkoff, $198, rebeccaminkoff.com 5 Clutch, Express, $39.90, express.com 6 Jacket, Levis,
$58, levi.com 7 Shoes, Topshop, $110, topshop.com 8 Shoes, Chinese Laundry, $69.95, chineselaundry.com 9 Clutch, Bebe,
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similar styles
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Hint at whats
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Rely on shapewear to
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Miu Miu, $390,
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Skirts (from top)
Zara, $69.90, zara.com;
Opening Ceremony, $425,
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SI DE-SLI T SKI RT
Strategically cut for flashing
your gams, this silhouette
is appropriate enough for work,
sexy enough for date night.
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On her: Tank, Theory by
Olivier Theyskens, similar
styles available at theory
.com; camisole, Cami, $128,
caminyc.com; skirt, Missoni,
212-517-9339; shoes, Jimmy
Choo, $625, jimmychoo
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$265, 866-838-6991; bracelet,
Chanel, 800-550-0005
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one-pieces.
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Retire that monogrammed
bag you got for being a
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Bags (from top): Kate Spade Saturday,
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On her: Swimsuit, Tommy Hilfiger, $149, 212-223-1824;
shoes, Joshua Sanders, $595, modaoperandi.com; bag,
Yarnz, $250, yarnz.com; sunglasses, Karen Walker Eyewear,
$280, farfetch.com; towel, Louis Vuitton, $670, available at
select Louis Vuitton stores; friendship bracelet, Sequence,
$44, sequencecollection.com; woven bracelet, Dezso by Sara
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each, alexisrussell.com; earrings, Wbritt, $150, wbritt.com
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A button-down in a punchy print
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On her: Blouse, Veronica
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shorts, Trina Turk, $188,
trinaturk.com; bikini top,
H&M, 17.95, hm.com;
shoes, J.Crew, $298,
jcrew.com; hat, Maison
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212-219-2688; necklace,
Melanie Auld, $98, melanie
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blisslau.com; stone
bracelet, Leesa Doughi,
$250, leesadoughi.com;
ring (right hand), Gold
Philosophy, $75, gold
philosophy.com; ring (left
hand), Alexis Russell,
$75, alexisrussell.com
Blouses (from top): Lovers and Friends, $114,
loversandfriends.us; Simply Vera Vera Wang,
$50, kohls.com; American Eagle Outfitters,
$34.95, ae.com. Shorts (from top): Ann Taylor,
$59, anntaylor.com; Joes, $148, joesjeans.com;
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luster to her locks. Now shes
reveling in the richness
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Spiced Tea Light Auburn shade.
Do redheads have more fun? Anni
thinks so! Her radiant, glossy new
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of the camera. Just look at that
spark... shes a natural!
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Natural Instincts
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Clairol Color Director James Corbett gave her color a vibrant boost
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Using Natural Instincts as a
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Natural Instincts is ammonia-
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GO NATURAL THIS SUMMER
Change up your shade or just add some lustrous shine
to your natural tones with Clairol Natural Instincts. Youll
maximize your hairs vitality with coconut oil, aloe and
vitamin E. And the best part is theres low commitment,
because its non-permanent (plus its ammonia free)!
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From May 15-18, be rst to shop
bebes summer collection in all
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summers answer to the
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clothing.com; shoes,
Topshop, $90, topshop
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square bracelet, Chanel,
select Chanel Boutiques;
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maje.com; Bebe, $149,
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Shoes (from top): Nine
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jcrew.com
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PHOTOGRAPHED BY JON PATERSON
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FINALLY,
FOOLPROOF
LINER
Pencils fade; gel pots dry
out; and liquids can go on
A twist of the gel-liner
pen (the first of its kind,
keeping the formula
fresh in the tube) pushes
pigment to the rubber tip,
which glides seamlessly
along lashes. It is totally
budge-proof, was tested
on every eye shape,
and requires no tugging.
STAY
SEXY
ALL
MONTH
LONG
JUST PUSH PLAY
The perfect 80s
play list is now at your
ngertipsliterally!
Deborah Lippmanns
new bold, bright nail
hues are named after
six of the decades
biggest hits.
Scrunchie, optional.
GAME-CHANGER ALERT!
This face lotion is proven to decrease your risk of skin cancer, according to the Journal
of Drugs in Dermatology. Its all to do with the high SPF 50, antioxidants that zap any free
radicals that sneak past it, and enzymes that boost skins natural DNA-repairing ability.
INSTA-GLAM
Polaroid-size, so you
can strike a pose all
summer, this palette
is packed with layers
of blush, bronzer,
shadow, and gloss
all held together with
berstrong magnets.
HIS AND YOURS
Inspired by the masculine (woody and
spicy) perfume trend, we spritzed the
latest colognes on ourselves. These
get our unisex stamp of approval.
Armani Code for Men, $42, giorgioarmanibeauty
.com, has a wearable mix of woods and citrus.
Patchouli makes Gucci Guilty Stud Pour Homme,
$88, sephora.com, extra sexy. YSL LHomme Sport,
$52, yslbeautyus.com, is zesty with bergamot.
Benefit Theyre Real!
Push-Up Liner, $24,
benefitcosmetics.com
Deborah Lippmann
Nail polishes in (from
top) Walking On Sun-
shine, Maniac, Video
Killed The Radio Star,
Dont Stop Believin,
Whip It, and She Drives
Me Crazy, $18 each,
deborahlippmann.com
Cargo California
Throwback 3-in-1 Magnetic
Kit, $36, cargocosmetics.com
Elizabeth Arden Rx Triple Protection Factor SPF 50+, $56, elizabethardenrx.com for locations
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21 SETS OF IDENTICAL TWINS. AN UNPRECEDENTED SKINCARE STUDY.
One twin followed a ProX regimen, her sister did not. The results? 100% of twins using the
ProX Intensive Wrinkle Protocol said it helped reduce the look of fine lines and wrinkles, and
made their skin look younger. 100% of the twins not using the protocol agreed it improved
the overall look of their sisters skin.
WHY PRO
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ProX isn t just dermatologist recommended. Its dermatologist designed by the ProX Global
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Neither twins skin was retouched in this photo.
Brazil is an international hub
for beauty inspiration. The
supersmooth hair and bold lip
featured here pay homage to
todays Brazilian bombshell.
our favorite looks for summer that put the GLOW in global!
1
Start with
multitasking
sun protection.
Moisturizer with
SPF 15, 3.4 oz.
own DIY
Brazilian blow-dry for
shiny, sleek strands.
Color Shampoo &
Conditioner, Twin Pack
and even hotter nights!
Secret Clinical Lavender Invisible
Solid, 2-pack +travel size
with silky-
smooth stems that
feel dramatically
smoother for longer.*
beauty trends. This summer,
Tokyos taking cat eyes and chic
cropped cuts to new lengths.
!
3
Hit the
streets
with condence
no matter the
time zone or time
of month.
Radiant 84-count,
Regular and Super
2
Become
totally
mesmerEYESing
with different
degrees of drama.
TRY: COVERGIRL
Bombshell Mascara
and Liquid Liner,
2-pack
Fill your beauty passport with some of the worlds
most buzzed-about new trends, and stock up on
some serious beauty values with exclusive multi-
packs at BJs Wholesale Club.
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Clear Gel, $4.50, CVS
BARE ESSENTIAL
Shea butter in body-oil
form makes skin feel silky
and look luminous.
Jergens Shea Beauty Oil,
$10, drugstores
Its sultry scent pairs
nicely with lace lingerie.
Voluspa Ambre Lumiere
Boxed Votive Candle, $9,
candledelirium.com
Killer brows and two
times the Marchesa
(you get a slanted and
a pointy pair)score!
Revlon by Marchesa
Mini Tweezer Set to
Go, $7.50, drugstores
HELLO, KITTY
The newest, easiest way
to nail a graphic cat eye:
with a ballpoint tip.
Maybelline New York Eye
Studio Master Duo Liner,
$8, drugstores
RIPE PICK
The merlot mani is
unexpected and
chic for summer.
Essie Nail Polish
in Wicked, $8.50,
essie.com
SO SMOOTH
Like a DIY keratin
treatment, it tames
hair for 72 hours.
LOral Paris Frizz
Vanisher Cream,
$5, drugstores
POWER POUT
Pucker up to a bold
color that (bonus!)
quenches dry lips.
Flower Kiss
Stick in Rose Bud,
$7, Walmart
Be Irresistibly
Soft and Smooth.
eos shave cream is so rich and moisturizing,
you can shave wet or dry. Packed with
natural shea butter, eos leaves your skin
super-soft and irresistibly smooth.
AVAILABLE AT
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ASK
LEAH
Cosmos beauty director answers your
most burning Qsin 20 words or less!
How can I prevent a PMS breakout?
AMANDA LEIGH, 20
The natural spike in testosterone increases oil

production. The Pill will balance your hormones.
Extra exfoliation will prevent blocked pores.
SOURCE: ERIC SCHWEIGER, MD, DERMATOLOGIST AND FOUNDER OF NYCS CLEAR CLINIC,
conditioner
because it
makes my thin
hair limp and
greasy. But Im
freaked that
my hair is
going to get
damaged.
Suggestions?
ZOE HOFFMAN, 21
Try a hair
CC Cream.
The leave-in
treatment
hydrates,
attens
yaways,
and protects
against heat
without any
weigh-down.
Alterna Caviar
CC Cream, $25,
sephora.com
What should
I apply first:
foundation or
concealer?
STEFANIA BALASA, 22
Foundation. Then
cover any visible
imperfections with
concealer, and set it
all with powder.
CoverGirl TruBlend Liquid

Makeup, $8.49, drugstores
By midday, my face
is so shiny that
I have to rewash it.
Any tips?
CASEY MADSEN, 20
Lather with a charcoal-

based cleanser for three
minutes; the ingredient is
a potent oil absorber. Also
key: blotting papers.
1 Bior Deep Pore Charcoal

Cleanser, $8, drugstores 2 Ling Black
Charcoal Soap, $15, lingskincare.com
1
overnight face masks?
Are they any different than
night cream? SHANNON ZHU, 20
Theyre more occlusivemeaning they

lock in the moisturizing ingredients, so they
dont evaporateand are a great weekly
treatment.
LOral Paris Revitalift Triple Power Intensive Overnight

Mask, $25, drugstores
richer, longer-lasting color
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DOT Mark the spot where you want the
end of your liner to reach (about one-third
of the way between the outer corner of
your eye and the tail of your brow).
CONNECT To create the flick, connect
the dot you just created to the outer
corner of your eye.
LINE Trace along your upper lash line until
you reach the inner corner. Do a second
coat to smooth any jagged edges.
CONNECT DOT LINE
to start
Curl your lashes by squeezing near roots,
followed by midpoints and tips, for 10
seconds each. This creates a long-lasting,
well-defined curl (waterproof mascara,
optional). Then smooth a dime-size
amount of BB cream on your face.
1 Sephora Collection String Bikini Changeable
Eyelash Curler, $17, sephora.com 2 Maybelline
New York Dream Fresh BB Cream SPF 30, $9,
drugstores
the apple of each cheek, then do an allover
dusting of SPF mineral powder to lock in
your base and blush (plus score an extra
dose of sun protection).
1 Colorescience Sunforgettable Mineral
Sunscreen Brush SPF 50, $62, colorescience.com
2 CK One Color Cream + Powder Blush Duo in
Happiness, $25, ulta.com
almost done
Rather than using pencil to define your
brows (a sweaty forehead will create
smudges), use clear brow gel to shape
them. Finish with tinted lip balm (again,
SPF is key) for a hint of color and
moisturelips will dry as you rack up
the miles.
1 CK One Brow Pencil + Gel Duo, $22, ulta.com
2 LOral Paris Colour Riche Balm SPF 15, $8,
drugstores
Rock your race with this sweatproof, SPF-packed look. Its flirty enough to attract a cute fellow racer yet
sporty enough for sneaks, says creator Kayleen McAdams, makeup pro for CK One Color Cosmetics.
FUN-RUN MAKEUP
PHOTOGRAPHED BY PERRY HAGOPIAN BY LONI ALBERT
CREATE A KILLER CAT EYE
GETTING READY
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TEAM
colors
For a little extra air,
stripe your mani to
match your liner (like
our model did, lower
left). A few combos to
get you started
PLUM PERFECTION
NAILS CoverGirl Outlast Stay
Brilliant Nail Gloss in
Grapevine, $5.50, drugstore.com
EYES Butter London
Wink Eye Pencil in Indigo
Punk, $18, butterlondon.com
MINT CONDITION
NAILS Sally Hansen
Complete Salon Manicure in
Jaded, $8, drugstores
EYES CK One Color Double-
Ended Eyeliner in Rapture/
Reckless, $17, ulta.com
PUNKY PINK
NAILS Jamberry Nail Lacquer in
Kiss, $15, jamberrynails.net
EYES Stila Stay All Day
Waterproof Liquid Eyeliner in
Paradise Pink, $20, sephora.com
EXTREME EMERALD
NAILS CK One Color Long Wear
+ Shine Nail Color, $14, ulta.com
EYES CoverGirl Queen
Vivid Impact Eyeliner in Jade,
$10, drugstores
Before
hitting the
pavement,
secure flyaways
and your hairline
with a braid or
elastic headband.
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THE SKINNY
24/7-GORGEOUS SKIN
BY JESSICA MATLIN
By 2 p.m., your skin cells have already had a daypunching out free radicals, kicking UV rays
in the shins. Come bedtime, they still have a job ahead of them. The key to an A+
performance: understanding exactly whats happening and when, then syncing up your schedule.
IN THE MORNING
Like breakfast, your a.m. products
set you up for the entire day, says
NYC derm David Colbert, MD.
As you sleep, your body secretes
skin-mending beta endorphins and
growth hormones, says Amy
Wechsler, MD, a derm in NYC. These
steps enhance that repair cycle.
STEP 1: NIGHT SERUM
Postcleansing, apply
a p.m. repair serum.
Its thin, concentrated
formula absorbs
more deeply than
night cream to
boost cell renewal.
Este Lauder Advanced
Night Repair
Synchronized Recovery
Complex II, $62,
esteelauder.com
STEP 3: SUNSCREEN
Think of antioxidants
as lingerie (a crucial
under layer) and of
SPF as clothing:
Never leave the house
without it. Try a BB
cream, which offers
protection, hydration,
plus a hint of tint.
LOral Paris Silky
Sheer BB Face Lotion
SPF 30, $10, drugstores
STEP 2: ANTIOXIDANTS
Serums packed with
vitamins C and E or
green tea (three of the
most potent antioxi-
dants) neutralize free
radicals, which cause
fine lines and spots.
Origins A Perfect World
Skin Guardian With White
Tea, $54, origins.com
STEP 4: NIGHT CREAM
Skin constantly loses
water, even as you
sleep. Upgrade to a
richer cream to pre-
vent dehydration, plus
lock in the layers you
previously applied.
Algenist Genius Cream,
$110, algenist.com
STEP 2: RETINOL
(OR PRESCRIPTION
RETIN-A)
UV rays weaken this
vitamin-A derivative
essential for optimal
cell turnover (skins
natural exfoliation
method)so save it
for the evening.
Neutrogena Rapid Tone
Repair Dark Spot
Corrector, $21, drugstores
STEP 4: MIDDAY
MOISTURE
By 2 p.m., the mois-
turizer you applied in
the morning will have
lost its power. Keep a
hydrating spritz (this
one has glycerin and
aloe) on hand to rev
up skin after lunch.
Clinique Moisture
Surge Face Spray, $22,
clinique.com
STEP 3: EYE
CREAM
Thicker is
better when
it comes to
quenching this
thin-skinned
area, prone
to dryness
and wrinkles.
Talika Eye
Dream, $58,
dermstore.com
STEP 1:
ANTIPUFF EYE GEL
Fluids collect when
youve spent hours
lying horizontally.
A caffeinated cream
(in roller-ball form)
flattens them.
Olay Bright On Schedule!
Eye Awakening Cream,
$15, drugstore.com
Apply
products in this
orderand wait
until each layer dries
before adding
the next.
M A Y B E L L I N E.com
SHOW OFF
YOUR COLOR
THE OFFICIAL NAIL COLOR OF
MERCEDES-BENZ FASHION WEEK IN NEW YORK.
ALWAYS ON TREND
63 runway-hot shades.
#colorshowoff
Just Another
MANI MONDAY...
in the Cosmo office! Getting sh*t done without breaking a nail is how we do it.
Staffers let their fingers fly with springs color-block nail-art trend from Julie Kandalec, creative
director of Paintbox, NYCs newest manicure mecca. Enviable and DIY-able! BY LONI ALBERT
Get the Point
NAIL IT Paint nails yellow and apply top coat
before adding the purple tips and Vs.
This prevents the colors from smearing.
Sephora Collection Color Hit Nail Polish in Banana
Split, $5, sephora.com; Maybelline New York Color
Show Nail Lacquer in Deep in Violet, $4, drugstores
Graphic Prints
NAIL IT For crisp, tricolored
triangles, use painters tape
as a guide. Once paint is
dry, peel away the tape and
start the next section.
Revlon ColorStay Gel Envy Long-
wear Nail Enamel in Wild Card , $8,
drugstores; CoverGirl Outlast Stay
Brilliant Nail Gloss in Tickled Pink,
$5.50, drugstores; OPI Nail Lacquer
in Coca-Cola Red, $9, Ulta
WRITING A TO-DO LIST
ORGANIZING THE ACCESSORIES
PHOTOGRAPHED BY ALLIE KIRCHER
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NAIL IT Paint nails aqua,
then create the L with an
eyeliner brushits rmness
is easier to control than
a regular nail-polish brush.
Deborah Lippmann Nail Lacquer
in On the Beach, $18, sephora.com;
LOral Paris Colour Riche Nail
in Violet Vixen, $6, drugstores
Total Eclipse
NAIL IT Keep a grown-out mani fresh by
applying a contrasting color to the bare base.
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Looking for your first job? Or just a better job? No matter where you are in your career,
BY MINDY LEVY Excerpted from Lean In: For Graduates, by Sheryl Sandberg
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first,
next,
finally,
RAMP UP
YOUR EFFORTS
MAKE A CONNECTION
BRING IT HOME
And If at First You Dont SucceedStay Positive A young woman I met, Sruti, had a solid rsum and had
been doing nothing but job searching for months, yet nothing was working out. In hindsight, she wonders if employers sensed her
misery and fear. It was only when she started volunteering that she found something to be excited about. Three weeks later, she got a
job. The takeaway? Continue to grow as a personit will help you stay optimistic and will develop your strengths as a job candidate.
Do Your Homework
Once you land an interview,
make a list of what you like
about the job and the com-
pany. Research the company
and the latest industry trends,
and be ready with questions
to ask and ideas to pitch.
During your interview, speak
slowly to project condence.
Shift Your Mind-Set
Recent graduates often make
the mistake of concentrat-
ing on what they want from a
company rather than on what
they can offer. Throughout
your interview, focus on the
organizations needs above
your own. Also, when youre
describing your accomplish-
ments, it helps to use com-
munal language: We were
awarded a $500,000 grant,
and my role on the team was
to write the proposal.
Follow Up
Post-interview, jot every thing
down. Who did you meet?
What did you discuss? Using
your notes, send an e-mail
thank-you within 24 hours to
everyone you met with. Reiter-
ate why youre interested in
the job. Its a bonus if you can
point to an article of interest
that continues the discussion
from your interview. If you
dont hear right back (and you
often wont), wait a week and
reach out again.
Know Who You Are
Job seekers should have an
elevator pitch, a 30-second
rundown of your most relevant
skills. Mine is Im Mindy Levy.
I work in human resources at a
strategy- and technology-con-
sulting company. I also moon-
light as an executive coach,
helping people get unstuck
so they can pursue their ambi-
tions. The idea is to introduce
yourself quickly and convey
the kind of job youre looking
for if the opportunity arises at
a party, a sporting eventeven
in an actual elevator.
Clear Your Cache
Did you know that 75 percent
of recruiters say their hiring
process includes researching
candidates online? So check
your social-media photos and
posts and hide or delete any
questionable oneseven
if your hair looks really good.
Create a LinkedIn prole,
asking former employers and
professors to provide testi-
monials, and join school and
industry groups on the site.
Go Beyond Google
Find jobs that arent listed
online by identifying people
in your extended network
friends and colleagues of
your family, teachers, and
friendswho have jobs that
youre interested in. Make
a list of people you want
to connect with, and see if
anyone in your network
knows them. Dont be afraid
to try something bold like
getting their attention on
Twitter or LinkedIn.
Use Power Words
Many recruiters use special
software to help them discover
talent, so pay attention to the
job postings you are applying
for and use keywords from
them in your rsum, such as
technical skills (PowerPoint),
soft skills (teamwork), and
degrees (BA, CPA). Using the
right keywords will optimize
the chances a recruiter will
nd you. Create multiple ver-
sions of your rsum tailored
to particular jobs or employers.
And proofread each version
as if your job depends on it
because it might.
Apply!
Studies show that if a woman
meets 60 percent of the
requirements on a job listing,
shell consider herself unquali-
ed, but a man who fullls
the same percentage will
send in an application. If you
see a listing that appeals to
you, even if you lack some of
the skills, go for it. This is not
cheating; its competing.
Make E-Mails Personal
Dont address introductory
e-mails or cover letters To
whom it may concern. Instead,
identify the best internal
contact. Look for common
ground with the person youre
addressingif you were
referred by someone in the
company or if you share an
alma mater or hometown
with the reader, mention it
up front. Then tell a personal
story about your work
experience, volunteering
activities, or outside passions
that explains why youre
well-suited to the position.
LEAN IN: FOR GRADUATES, by Sheryl Sandberg. Copyright 2013, 2014 by Lean In Foundation. Published by arrangement with Alfred A. Knopf.
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DR. ASHTON
TAKES THE
COSMO
CAREER
QUIZ
WHATS YOUR
BIGGEST
STRENGTH?
My ability to multitask.
I can triage my to-do list
and then attack each
task with laser focus.
WHAT IS THE
BEST PART OF
YOUR JOB?
Communicating
information to women
who later tell me that
our interaction changed
or saved their life. Best
feeling ever.
Whatever Im
doing, I go all-in
and silence the
guilty internal
GET-AHEAD GUIDE
Be Approachable
I dont wear a doctors white coat in my
oce because I want patients to feel like
they are coming to talk to a friend and
can tell me anything. You can convey
warmth and approachability in any
line of workkeeping personal photos
and mementos at your desk is a great
way to humanize yourself so colleagues
feel comfortable sharing sensitive
information with you.
Establish a Rapport
If you need to glean sensitive informa-
tion from someone, start by asking easy,
open-ended questions to make her feel
comfortable. I always begin an appoint-
ment by asking my patients, How are
you? and Whats new? This is where
typically I would hear, Oh, I quit my
job or I have a new boyfriend. You get
really helpful intel when you just let
people talk. Once you have that bond, its
so much easier to broach tough topics
and have a productive conversation.
Pick a Good Moment
Dont sit on bad news, and never
e-mail or outsource the delivery to
someone else. If Im calling a patient,
I say, Do you have a second? Is this
a good time? I want her to be able to
ask questions or cry without feeling
awkward or embarrassed because
shes at her desk. When meeting in
person, nd a private, nonintrusive
place and strategic moment. If Im
going to ask a patient how many sex
partners she has had or whether shes
been using protection, I will literally
wait until Im sitting on the stool
between her legs. Whatever your
workplace, a more intimate setting
yields a more honest answer.
Say It Clearly
When people are upset, they dont really
hear what youre saying and they get
confused. Be very straightforward about
whats happening. I might say, I have
the results back. Your BRCA genetic test
is positive or You denitely have been
exposed to genital herpes. I condense
the big picture into a one-liner, then
hand over a piece of paper on which Ive
written the specic next steps.
Look for a
Silver Lining
Emphasize any positives
associated with the bad news
maybe you highlight that its
great you caught the issue
early or you frame the
information as a way
to motivate change.
Focusing on positives
keeps your recipient
future-oriented.
Just keep the hope
grounded in reality.
Say, I know this may
be hard. But were
going to help you get
through it.
HOW TO
HAVE
A TOUGH
TALK
No one is better with
uncomfortable topics than an
ob-gyn. Jennifer Ashton, MD,
can teach you to sail through
awkward conversations no
matter what you do for a living.
Dr. Ashton is a medical
contributor for
Cosmo and ABC News.
B L AC K S UI T AND
T HR E E L E T T E R S I N
SAVE
Alexa von Tobel,
Cosmos nancial
columnist, author
of Financially
Fearless, and CEO
of LearnVest.
CASHING IN
might get hitched this
Getting an invite
pen. If you cant swing it,
tell her days, not weeks,
afer she asks you.
budget, not how fancy the
vacay plans into an out-of-
town wedding: Ho tels often
honor the lower wedding
rate for extended stays,
so you can tack on a few
days and save. Ask friends
and family if they have a
corporate discount (you can
use it even if theyre not
going). And try to use credit-
FTS
Think about renting on LittleBorrowed
Dress.com or VowToBeChic.com. If
youre a guest, throw a clothing swap
with friends so you can all have
several dresses in your rotation. Swap
jewelry, cardigans, and shoes too and
you can switch up the look of that
go-to LBD you wear to every wedding.
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thing, do it ASAP, while good
(cheap) stuff is up for grabs.
Next stop:
eBay.
Want to
DIY? Do a
trial run for
the bride.
Nope, you
dont have
to go on
the trip to
South Beach.
SOURCES: DIANE GOTTSMAN, AN ETIQUETTE EXPERT IN
SAN ANTONIO, TEXAS; DANA LARUE, AUTHOR OF THE
BROKE-ASS BRIDES WEDDING GUIDE
The bride wants everyone
in a $100 chignon? If
its a local event, each
bridesmaid can ask her
regular stylist if she does
wedding hair and makeup
on the sideoften this
can be done at someones
house, and its way more
affordable than at a salon.
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Q How did your familys
struggles shape your career?
A Like a lot of families, we had our
ups and downs. In the 1960s, my
daddy was working selling carpet-
ing for Montgomery Ward. When
I was 12, he had a heart attack. He
was ill for a long time, and we lost
our family car and almost lost our
house. My mom went to work at
Sears, answering phones. I learned
that good people can work hard
but hit a bad patch and their lives
can be turned upside down. My
whole life has been spent on how
we make ourselves safer by build-
ing an independent financial life.
Q Was it a hard choice to drop
out of college to get married?
A It should have been, but it
wasnt. My mother had taught me
about the importance of finding a
my husband, Bruce, and I love
sharing fried clams and having
a beer at our favorite spot,
the Summer Shack in North
Cambridge.
Q Youve championed banking
reform. Why is it needed?
A Banks were once places to hold
money and were very careful in
lending to finance families as they
built a futurebought homes,
bought cars, took out student loans.
But the business model changed,
and too many lenders sold preda-
tory mortgages, dangerous credit
cards, and other tricky products.
When people couldnt pay, the
whole thing crashed.
Q Whats the lesson for women?
A No matter how good a deal
sounds, if your name goes on the
bottom line, you need to under-
stand it and be sure youll be able
to pay. You are responsible for your-
self forever. Forever.
From divorced mother
to one of the countrys
most powerful
financial reformers,
Massachusetts Senator
Elizabeth Warren
has charted her
own courseand urges
you to do the same.
good provider, so when my
boyfriend proposed, I said yes in a
heartbeat. I was still just a kid, and
I didnt know what was coming
in life. [Later] I persuaded my
husband that it made sense for me
to finish school. Then I went to law
school and got a job teaching law.
Q Was it difficult balancing
motherhood and your career?
A It was one of the hardest things
Ive ever done. I loved teaching,
but every day that I went to work,
I carried the worry that I was
hurting my kids because I wasnt
at home with them. Even years
later, I think about trying to get
out of the house in the morn-
ings or picking up an exhausted
toddler at day care and I feel my
stomach tighten up.
Q How did you make it work?
A I was luckymy Aunt Bee came
to live with us so I could keep
teaching. She walked away from
her life so she could come fix
mine. Even so, I ended up getting
a divorce. I put together a new
life as a single mother, until
I remarried in 1980. To this day,
HOT TOPICS
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Begin Saving Now
Dont wait
for the perfect
time to put money
awaythere
never is one.
Even $20 a week
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Put emergency
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credit union in
case you get sick
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Auto-Invest
Fund a second
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with regular
deductions from
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Pay Down Debt
Dont think of a
first job as a
chance to spend.
Instead, live at
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Keep Money in
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THE
WOMAN
WHO
STOOD UP
TO WALL
STREET
MUST-
DOS
I dropped out
of college
at 19 to get
married.
My daughter
arrived
when I
was 22.
After my son was
born, I practiced law
out of my living room.
My debate partner
and I won the state
championship, and
I got a scholarship
to college.
After
practicing
law at home,
I got a job
teaching law
in Houston.
Teaching was
the most
fun thing in
the world.
My daddy built this
sandbox in our backyard.
Warren taught at
Harvard Law School
while ghting for
a new consumer-
protection agency.
As senator, shes
working to raise
wages and lower
college debt.
I was knocked
out by the
supporters on
my 2012 Senate
campaign.
When I won, my
husband gave
me one of the
biggest hugs of
my life.
Sen. Warrens
new book,
A Fighting
Chance, is
on sale now.
Q A &
ANGELA LEDGERWOOD
BREAK
OUT OF
YOUR
COMFORT
ZONE
Sometimes, something scary
stands between you and the
thing you want. Jillian Michaels tells
you how to push through it.
YOUR
BREAKTHROUGH
WORKSHEET
Try it with small
challenges and build
up to bigger ones.
THE CHALLENGE
Take an
improv class.
WHY
I love to make
people laugh
and dream of
being on SNL.
REWARD FOR
TAKING ACTION
A night out
with people
who make
me laugh.
SCENARIO A
I stay in a job I dont like
and wonder, What if?
SCENARIO B
I bomb. Comedy is out,
but work presentations
will be a breeze now.
FIGURE OUT YOUR WHY
When I ask people why they want to lose weight, they say,
I want to get healthy. Thats a blanket answer with no real
meaning, so it wont provide any real motivation. You have to
define what healthy is to you. Is it looking hot in skinny jeans
getting noticed instead of feeling overlooked? Is it about avoiding
health problems youve seen in your family? Youll never tolerate
the howthe tough things you have to do to achieve your goal
without feeling a deep, emotional link to the why.
BE NICE
I used to give my 4-year-old daughter a time-out when she didnt
listen. That worked okay. But when I built a reward system for
listening, things improved dramatically! So treat yourself as
you would someone you love. That grad-school application
not coming along? Dont berate yourself or deprive yourself of
sleep or playtime. Instead, reward yourself with something like
an episode of Orphan Black for every question you complete.
Love and respect yourself and you will flourish.
When I started planning
my rst live show, Maximize
Your Life, going onstage
seemed terrifying. But
I really wanted a direct
connection where I could
talk to people, look them
in the eye, and hug them.
So I studied, rehearsed,
surrounded myself with a
great tour teamand it was
as terrifying as Id feared!
But it keeps getting better
now Im hooked.
Its been another
lesson that the amount of
happiness and meaning in
your life directly relates to
how you manage fear and
vulnerability. You cant get
the promotion unless you
ask for it. You cant have
better sex until you are open
with your partner. And it
doesnt matter whether the
hard thing you have to do is
physical or emotionalhard
is hard and fear is fear.
When I want to do
something that scares
me, I walk through these
steps. Try itthen have
that conversation, sign
up for that coding class,
start training for your rst
5K. And then enjoy the
sweet victory when your
risk-taking work pays o.
SCENARIO C
I kill it! Im on my way to
achieving my dream.
MANAGE THE FEAR
Psych yourself up for a challenge by thinking through the end
game. Imagine three possible scenarios: (A) You do nothing,
(B) you do it and it goes badly, or (C) you do it and have success.
Play that out and youll see that you have to go for it. Say its
time to have a talk with a new guy about making things more
official. Youre ready for the real deal but nervous! In scenario
A, you chicken out. But keeping quiet makes you more resentful,
resulting in your original fearyou break up. In scenario B, you
talk and dont get the answer you want, but you can move on to
new guys and possibilities. Last, C: You do it and you get the
real, honest relationship youre looking for! You get your why.
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THE CLOTHES Classic work-
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After graduating from college, instead of scurrying to
a job, I got on a plane for Italy. In a mountain village
on the island of Sardinia, I taught kids about the
environment by day and at night joined the villagers
at a castle and wildly danced the tarantella. You made
this happen, I remember thinking. In the months that
followed, I excavated a medieval manor in England,
picked raspberries on a Danish farm, and renovated a
park in Turkey. It was one of the best years of my life.
These days, the gap year is more popular than ever.
The British coined the term to refer to the year after
high school, but today it can take place any time you
want a break. Enrollment in some gap-year volunteer,
internship, and job programs has jumped 27 percent
in the past year, says Ethan Knight, executive director
of the American Gap Association, a nonprot that
sets standards for such programs. And women are
leading the trend, making up more than 60 percent
of gappers. Theyre more comfortable taking on that
challenge than guys who might not be as mature,
Knight says, adding that many colleges encourage
high school seniors to take time off because they earn
higher GPAs and take less time to graduate.
Yet for every woman who clogs up her Instagram
feed with mind-blowing experiences (Look at me in
a yurt!), others bring back stories of scams or unsafe
conditions. It can be hard to tell about a program
from websites. They may not be well-run on the
ground, says Holly Bull, president of the Center for
Interim Programs. Ask alumni, What was the worst
aspect of the experience? You want to hear the bad
so you can know if it is still worth doing. Consider the
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GRACE FLOTT, 23, SEATTLE, WA
I was studying in Paris for nine months, and one night, my
roommate and I decided to go to a friends party in an old
apartment near the outskirts of town. We were just getting
ready to go home when we heard an explosion. Someone
opened the door to the hallway, and the room lled with thick
black smoke. The heat was so intense that we all surged
toward the window. We were on the fh oor, but all I thought
was Im going to die in this apartment or I can die jumping.
So I swung my leg over the ledge, fell back, and blacked out.
When I awoke in the hospital, I was disoriented, heavily
sedated, and completely terried. Even though I spoke French,
I couldnt understand what had happened, and I couldnt
speak because of the breathing tube in my throat. I ended up
fracturing my spine and right ankle. I also sustained second-
and third-degree burns on my arms, legs, and torso that kept
me in the hospital for several weeks and lef painful scars.
But Im lucky. Out of nine people in our group, four died
three jumped and one was trapped in the apartment. Youd
think that a country like France would have the same re-
safety laws that we have, but there were no smoke detectors,
re doors, or re escapes. Im working with a re-safety foun-
dation that educates people to look for these things wherever
theyre staying and to avoid underground bars or clubs where
they cant exit quickly. Fireghters told me never to stay above
the third oor because thats as high as most truck ladders
can reach. During this last year, I took some time o to travel
to Asia and Australia, and I carried a battery-operated smoke
BURNING BUILDING
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the Seine
in Paris.
CLARISSA MARTIN, 19,
MUNICH, GERMANY
I was about to gradu-
ate from high school
in Minnesota, where
my German family
was living for a few
years, when I got an
e-mail from the owner
of a horse ranch near
Mexico City that Id
visited with my family
on vacation. She asked
if I wanted to volunteer
there over the summer.
She promised me free
room and board for
the opportunity to work
as a horse guide and
help out in guest ser-
vices. I jumped at
the chance to return
to the beautiful place.
I never could have
guessed what life
would be like on the
other side. I got to take
guests out on horse-
back only twice a week
and spent the rest of
my time cleaning and
cooking during long
days that began at 6
a.m. and lasted until
midnight. I worked with
two other volunteers,
but no one ever got a
day off. We werent
allowed breakfast until
9 a.m. and were given
guests leftovers. By
the time I got to eat, the
fruit was usually gone,
and I couldnt stomach
the taco meat that we
made for most meals.
No one cared that I was
a vegetarian!
I was constantly
hungry and exhausted.
Mostly, I was disap-
pointed. I had thought
I would spend the
summer galloping on
the prairie and sharing
my love of riding with
visitors. But after three
weeks, I couldnt stand
it anymore and ew
back home. Now, Im
studying veterinarian
medicine back home in
Germany. I tell everyone
who wants to volun-
teer to get a written
description of every-
thing youll be expected
to do. And make sure
whatever program
you choose allows you
time to see the country
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When I was turning 30, I took a hard look at my life and real-
ized I was in a rut. I worked all the time and had no social life.
I wanted an adventure where I could use my business skills.
So I applied to the Peace Corps and was placed in the former
Soviet republic of Georgia, where I worked for two years help-
ing small businesses set up databases and apply for grants.
I expected to get a lot of attention because Im American,
but I didnt realize it would be because Im African-American.
Apparently, the locals hadnt seen many black people in their
lives. I couldnt believe the way they stared at me, grabbed
my dreadlocks, or tried to touch my skin like I was an animal.
Theyd call out black girl while I jogged. One colleague admit-
ted that he was surprised afer meeting me. Youre not violent.
Youre educated, and you speak well, hed said.
I would have been insulted if someone had said that to me
at home, but I realized that part of my job was to be a cultural
ambassador and try to break stereotypes. Still, the attention
overwhelmed me at times, and I could stand being out in pub-
lic for only short periods. When my mom came to visit, she felt
so uncomfortable when a small crowd stopped to take photos
of us at a bus stop that she wanted to hide out in the house.
When youre working abroad, youre going to encounter peo-
ple with dierent views. You try to stay open-minded and man-
age the best you can. I still recommend the Peace Corps, which
is a great program for anyone who wants to be immersed in
the culture of another country. But they cant prepare you for
everything, especially if youre a woman of color. You have to
trust your own gut to gure out when you have a chance to
teach someone and when you have to walk away.
Paley during her Peace
Corps stint in Georgia.
JENNIFER
TWARDOWSKI, 27,
BERKELEY, CA
After graduating from
college, I didnt like
any of the teaching
jobs I was offered, so
I decided to go abroad
and teach English.
I loved the idea of going
to an exotic culture in
East Asia, where I could
see tea plantations
and Buddhist temples.
I signed up with a
private school in South
Korea that would cover
my housing and health
insurance and pay me
$2,200 a month.
Then I met my
students. By the time
they arrived in the after-
noon after a full day at
school, they were fried
and didnt want to learn
English. In one class,
the 6-year-old boys ran
around in circles and
refused to sit down. I
asked the director for
help, but as soon as
she left, theyd goof off
again. I never imag-
ined that the language
barrier would make my
job so hard. In another
class, several 10-year-
old girls threatened
that if I didnt let them
play cards, they would
tell their parents to
send them to a different
school. I was scared Id
lose my job and end up
homeless. I was in over
my head and dreaded
going to work every day.
Several mornings a
week, Id have to teach
at another school across
town, and the director
gave me a bike to ride
therein the middle of
winter! Naturally, I was
sick all the time.
I eventually trans-
ferred to a better-run
school, which provided
a Korean coteacher who
kept the kids in line.
But I had to reimburse
my former director for
my airfare and pay a
recruitment fee for
breaking my contract.
My advice: Know how
many students youll be
teaching and consider
only schools that have a
selective hiring process.
Its reassuring when
they ask about your
teaching and classroom
management and want
you to have a U.S.
teaching credential or
ESL certication.
The easier it is for you to
get the job, the worse
the program probably is.
I HAD A NIGHTMARE
CLASSROOM
Twardowski heads
to South Korea.
Kutaisi,
GEORGIA
Gyeongju,
SOUTH
KOREA
NICOLE BREWER, 32,
DETROIT, MI
When I arrived in Oman
to teach English, I had
no desire to date. I just
wanted to experience
a new culture and
save money for grad
school. But during my
rst week, I met a guy,
the friend of another
teacher, at a gathering
at a bar. We talked for
a while, and he held my
hand as we walked out.
No one else seemed to
notice, but it struck me
as forward in a conser-
vative Muslim country.
We took a drive to
the mountains for a rst
date, and I was sur-
prised when he told me,
I really care for you. It
was intense, but he was
charming and sweet,
and within a month,
I was falling in love.
He was 10 years
older than me and
worked for an oil com-
pany. When I told him
I planned to apply to
grad school in Europe,
he said he would follow
me. But ve months in,
he hadnt introduced
me to his family. Why
didnt he answer his
cell when he visited
them? Was I a secret?
You know dating is
taboo here, he said
when I confronted him.
What did you expect?
He saw me as nothing
more than an affair, and
I couldnt go along.
The breakup
was devastating, and
I havent been able
to trust another man
since. I felt used by an
older man who wanted
to play around with a
foreigner and knew all
along it would end like
this. I learned my les-
son: Respect a cultures
rules. Never think you
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LAUREN JULIFF, 25, LONDON, ENGLAND
Afer college, my boyfriend and I had plans to travel around
Asia, but we broke up. So I went by myselfI didnt want to
have any regrets. The trip went great until I arrived exhausted
one night in Luang Prabang, Laos. When a hotel scout met my
ferry with promises of Wi-Fi and air conditioning, I followed.
I got a room, but the doorknob was broken and I acciden-
tally locked myself inside. An hour later, someone heard my
screams, and I was moved to the only room lef, one with no
win dows and a light bulb hanging by a string. When a cock-
roach darted across my pillow, I ran outside and sat against
the wall, crying. It was 2 a.m., too late to nd another hotel.
I was grateful when two Dutch guys coming back from
a night out oered to let me sleep on the oor of their room.
I know it sounds crazy, but when youve been traveling a lot,
you form a tight-knit community with other backpackers.
I fell asleep instantlyuntil I woke up with one guy curled up
behind me, groping my butt and breasts. I pushed him away,
but he pulled me harder against him. I screamed and ran out,
then sat in a park in front of the hotel until sunrise.
I wish I hadnt found out the hard way to be cautious about
trusting strangers. But that experience didnt wreck my love of
travel. As a blogger for NeverEndingFootsteps.com, I encour-
age women to travel alone. Read hostel reviewsespecially by
fellow solo womenand make reservations ahead of time.
1. Research unsafe
areas at Travel.State
.gov and OSAC.gov.
2. Ask hotel staff which
spots Westerners like,
make coffee dates
through LinkedIn, or
nd a group that wants
to practice English
by posting an ad near
a university. Always
meet in public.
3. Watch local women.
Do they jog alone?
Talk to men in public?
Follow their lead.
4. Have a reliable local
contact, like a landlord
or program adminis-
trator, who can get you
medical care.
5. Designate someone
who can travel to you
in an emergency.
Put info about your
passport, credit cards,
consulate, and doctor
somewhere easily
accessible, like Google
Docs, Dropbox, or
Healix Travel Oracle.
6. Consider travel
insurance, like StuCard
or HX Global, offering
24-hour help lines.
I GOT MY
HEART BROKEN
You may feel at home, but remember that youre not. Young women get into trouble because they arent paying
enough attention to local customs, says Sheryl Hill, who cofounded the ClearCause Foundation to promote travel
safety after her son Tyler died a preventable death from dehydration in Japan in 2007. Her advice:
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12 oz. ground beef,
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8 oz. ground pork
2 tsp. salt
2 tsp. smoked paprika
2 tsp. dry oregano
tsp. ground fennel
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on the garlic pork ribs roasting in the oven. Overseeing the
traditional Thai meal is her mother, who moved to Los Angeles
from Thailand a year ago with Teigens father. Until recently
the couple had lived with their daughter and her husband,
R & B icon John Legend. If we werent making Thai food,
I would be doing all the cooking, Teigen says, bending over a
pot and inhaling deeply. Ill come in from a long ight and go
straight to the grocery store. I love cooking for my man. John
is very successful, so people sometimes think that I am mooch-
ing o him. But we take care of each other in dierent ways.
The 28-year-old Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue cover
starwhose new MTV show, Snack-O, premieres in Julyis
perfectly on-trend in a sleeveless chion top, David Lerner leg-
gings, and knee-high Givenchy boots. She shows o some pierc-
ings she had done earlier in the day: ve delicate diamond studs
and rose-gold accents circling her lobe and upper ear. Then she
oers me a glass of wine as we watch the indulgent meal come
together. I always get to eat what I want, because if I dont, I go
insane, she says. If youre going to choose to do something like
the Paleo Diet, then you choose not to enjoy your nights out.
No one would ever accuse Teigen of not enjoying herself.
Thats evident from her hilariously blunt Twitter account and
her food blog, So Delushious, where shes posted F-bomb-laden
recipes, retorts to her haters, romantic honeymoon photos, and
at least one naked sele of her drinking in the bathtub. I have
way more female followers than I do men, she reveals. Men
are very tough, very critical of me. I think they expect you to
basically just be a picture. They dont want to hear you speak.
Women, I love. Its amazing to me, because I am a swimsuit
model; Im half-naked. I just love the fact that women love me,
and it makes me love them so much back.
While dinner is cooking, she leads me into her bedroom, a
Zen lair with a low, king-size bed piled with pillows and a wall
of windows overlooking her backyard. Close on her heels are
two portly bulldogs, Pooey and Puddy, and a French bulldog,
Pippa. Still wearing her boots, Teigen plops onto her bed and
shrugs as Puddy climbs right up beside her, settling onto the
pillows and whining at her at-screen TV. Sorry, he gets very
emotional over the Sarah McLachlan commercials, she jokes.
It is Teigens fun and funny personality that rst attracted
Legend back in 2006, when Teigen, then 21 and working as
a catalog model, was cast in a music video for his hit single,
Stereo. Please dont look it up on YouTube! she cries. I was
doing this fake model-y dancing with the most dead eyes youve
ever seen in a human. Regardless, she made an impression o-
camera. I walked into Johns dressing room to meet him, and
LOW AND
SLOW EGGS
You ever hear about that
engagement chicken
recipe? You know, that
silly chicken that you
make and suppos-
edly your man loves it so
much, you get engaged?
First of all, barf at the
idea of that. Second
of all, men, beware!
Women making
chicken from a magazine
want a ring. Anyhow,
thesethese are my
man-pleasing sex eggs.
They taste like they have
love inside them.
1. Whisk 6 to 8 eggs with a
generous splash of heavy
cream, and season heavily
with salt and pepper.
2. Toss enough butter in
a nonstick pan to make
Paula Deen smile.
3. Use a heat-proof silicone
spatula to stir in eggs over
very low heat. Keep every-
thing moving, making an
all-around-the-pan circular
scrape, followed by a
push-push-push of the
eggs from the outside to
the center. Repeat about
20 minutes, until eggs
are done but still creamy
and gooey.
i
VERY FEW
THINGS
PLEASE ME
AS MUCH
AS EGGS
FRIED,
SCRAMBLED,
WHATEVER
SAYS TEIGEN.
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I ALWAYS
GET TO
EAT WHAT
I WANT,
BECAUSE IF
I DONT, I GO
INSANE.
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JOHN
AND I
ARE BY NO
MEANS
FREAKY-
DEAKY, BUT
LETS JUST
SAY, WERE
OPEN TO
THINGS.
he was ironing in his underwear, she recalls. I said, You do
your own ironing!? He said, Of course I do. I gave him a hug.
Afer chatting throughout the 14-hour shoot, the two feasted
on In-N-Out burgers later that night at his hotel. Im not going
to lie. We hooked up, she admits, but then Legend headed out
on tour. She spent the next year texting and talking to him on
the phone, trying to ignore pictures of him on red carpets with
other women on his arm. I let him be himself for a while, she
says. The worst thing you can do is try to lock someone like
that down early on, then have them think, Theres so much
more out there. I played it cool for a long time. Never once did
I ask, What are we? Marriage was never my goal, because Ive
never been very traditional. I was just happy to be with him.
She still is. One of the coolest things is how supportive and
happy and proud he is of my success lately, she says. Im with
someone who is totally secure in himself. Hes not trying to be
anything other than what he is. The condence he has brings
it to me. That extends to their sex life, which is fueled by good
communication and a glass of wine, she says. Were by no
means freaky-deaky, but lets just say, were open to things.
Were very okay with PDA. When we go to a restaurant, he loves
when I wear a dress, so he can do some upper-thigh rubbing.
I would love to see more husbands and wives making out!
Afer texting her husband to make sure its okay (Its very rare
I would ask his [permission] for anything), she reveals the
craziest place theyve had sex: We were on our way to Thailand
to see my parents, ying commercial rst-class. We were under
a blanket. We werent even in one of those pod things. I feel like
we should get a trophy for that. Clutching her forehead, she
says, Mom and Dad are going to nail me for this!
Just as Teigens mother is calling us to dinner, Legend walks
through the door. Dropping a duel bag onto the oor, he gath-
ers his wife into his arms and gives her a warm kiss. She claps
a hand to her ear and winces as he grazes her fresh piercings.
What do you think? she asks.
Theyre cute! he responds.
Cute? Cute? Teigen responds with mock horror. I just
endured horrible pain and you think theyre cute? Laughing,
Legend grabs her around the waist. Sorry, theyre sexy.
The family gathers around the kitchen island, chatting about
their plansTeigen and Legend are headed to Ohio that night
for his mothers 60th birthdaywhile enjoying the best Thai
food Ive ever eaten. Teigen takes none of it for granted. I got so
lucky that I met Brooklyn Decker and she [hooked me up with]
Sports Illustrated, she says. I got so lucky that I met John, who
propelled my career. Im not delusional: that denitely helped.
But I dont want to be thought of as just Johns wife, so Im try-
ing to make a name without it, which is hard in its own way.
Licking her ngers, she nishes the last of the ribs and brings
her dish to the sink. Even three years ago, I never dreamed of
this life, she says, smiling at her husband and the dogs who
are sitting at her feet, waiting for scraps to drop. Its unreal.
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shopping information.
Top, $750, sunglasses,
$280, 3.1 Phillip Lim;
bikini top, $195, bikini
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shoes, Superga, $70;
bag, Anya Hindmarch;
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LLEN won the world
over with her infectious
Im-over-you hit Smile.
With her new album,
Sheezus, Britains top pop
provocateur is back and as
unapologetic as ever.
Jacket, headdress,
Louis Vuitton; shirt,
Watson and Watson;
pants, J Brand;
shoes, Lilys own;
earrings, Stone
Paris; ring, Khai
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Karen Egren; (on left arm)
small bracelet, Jack
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bracelets, Neil Lane
WHEN DID YOU KNOW YOU WANTED TO BE
A STAR? My dads an actor, and he took
me on location once when he was
shooting a film. He must have been really
hungover, because his assistant came,
woke him up, pulled him out of bed, gave
him a cup of coffee, ran him a bath, then
got him dressed and put him in a car. I was
like, Thats cool. Id like to live like that.
WHY DID YOU NAME YOUR ALBUM
SHEEZUS? Because Kanye West, who
Im a massive fan of, had an album called
Yeezus. I respect him for many different
reasons, not just his music but also as a
personality. What makes him Yeezus to
me is that he is always open, honest, true
to his word, and doesnt give a hmm-mmm
what anybody thinks. If that makes him
Yeezus, then I sure as hell will be Sheezus.
WHATS THE BIGGEST LESSON YOUVE
LEARNED FROM FAME? Dont believe
your own hype. Also, be nice to
everybody on your way up, because
theyre the people who are going to be
there for you on your way down.
WHAT DO YOU DO BEFORE YOU GO TO
SLEEP EVERY NIGHT? I cant go to bed
until Ive ticked off everything on my list
in my notes on my iPhone or until Ive
finished my flagged e-mails. Theres
probably eight or nine things a day, on
average. I know I can go to bed when Ive
done the last flagged thing.
WHATS ONE THING PEOPLE DONT KNOW
ABOUT YOU? That Im a nice person.
For every stupid and controversial
thing that gets printed, theres a good
intention behind it.
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Louboutin, $625; earrings, Stone Paris;
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(on left hand) ring, Bijules, $490
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red bracelet, Peppercotton,
$220; brass bracelet,
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Lau, $600; serpent cuff,
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ALL THE
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large tennis bracelet, CZ by
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tennis bracelets, Neil Lane; ring,
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Laruicci, $138; white-gold ring,
Deborah Pagani
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We are totally
sort of together.
1
Theres an awkward pause every time one of you introduces the other. Nothing screams Its complicated
like muttering, This is myumJosh.
2
A hot guy asks for your number, but you feel weird about giving it.
When you deny a smart, funny dude because of your sort-of-boo, its time to figure that ish out.
3
His tooth-
brush at your place has been joined by boxers, razors, andIron Man paraphernalia?! Hes practically a room-
mate at this point, but sure, youre keeping it casual.
4
You could identify his junk in a lineup, but you wonder
if other girls could too. You have the right to know if hes sleeping around, and vice versa!
5
Youve spent
every weekend together for the past nine months, except when his parents are in town. Sure, meeting Mom is
scary, but nine months? You couldve married and dumped Kris Humphries in that stretch. With that amount
of together time under your belt, surely you can spend 15 minutes figuring out whats up between you two.
ITS TIME
SIGNS
TO DTR
AND FOR
HOW TO
HAVE THE
ACTUAL
TALK,
TURN THE PAGE
Dont know what the eff is going
on in your relationship (or if you can
even call it that)? If any of these
scenarios sound familiar,
its time to define.
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Just remember: Wanting to
know where you stand in a
relationship doesnt make you
clingy or crazy. It just means
you want to know if you should
stop collecting numbers when
you go out on the weekends.
OMG!
That did
NOT
go well!
Chalk this one up
to a losshis loss.
There could be a
number of reasons
why it didnt work
out, but none of them
are worth your
obsessing over and
analyzing into a fine
powder of agony.
The best thing you
can do after a bad
DTR is whip out your
cutest Beyonc-
channeling jeans
and let the swarm
of eligible Jay-Zs vie
for your affection.
Wait,
it totally
did!
Hey, girl, way to
successfully D that
R! Now that youre
on the same page,
enjoy the newfound
bliss of introducing
each other at
parties with no
awkward weirdness
whatsoever.
BEFORE YOU BEGIN
DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT AND WHAT
YOU DONT WANT. If defining the relation-
ship were a one-way street (which, obvi-
ously, it isnt), what would your dream
outcome be? Even if youre not necessar-
ily looking for a label, go into the conver-
sation knowing what you will and wont
settle for. If one of those scenarios is a
deal breaker (think: one of you wants to
be in an open relationship while the oth-
ers trying to put this on lockdown), you
may need to walk.
BE SOBER AND FULLY CLOTHED. It may
seem like downing the better part of
a bottle of Sancerre will take the edge
off, but being drunk only escalates
emotions and will (we promise) make
things worse. Same goes for attempt-
ing the talk post-sexthat naked
cuddle session should be reserved for
deciding where youll get brunch
tomorrow, not if hes willing to attend
your stepsisters wedding in August.
GO STRAIGHT TO THE SOURCE. There
are really only two people who can
define what youre doing: you and him.
So dont crowdsource, dont blog about
it, dont query his friends or consult
your horoscopejust ask him. It can be
tempting to do some field reporting
first, but ultimately, the only thing
thats going to get you real answers
is a face-to-face talk with the boy.
WHILE YOURE DOING IT
BE DIRECT. Subtle hints never work,
says Margret L., 23, of Milwaukee, Wiscon-
sin. (Oh, weird, this RSVP card says
Significant Others Welcome. Hmm.)
Entering the conversation, you both should
know that a DTR is going down.
KEEP IT PLAYFUL. Dont feel like you have
to lead with the grim reaper of conversation
starters: We need to talk. This convo can
be lighthearted, so lead with a joke, like:
Whats warm and fuzzy but still confus-
ing-as-eff all over? Answer: This relation-
ship! (Insert 90s-sitcom laugh track here.)
SAY WHAT YOU NEED TO SAY. Time to be
articulate! If you initiated the talk, go first
explaining how you feelthat way, you
wont get caught up in what he says. Sure,
its tempting to see what hes thinking
firstbut then you might be left with
a definition youre not comfortable with.
LISTEN. Be ready to hear him out and
hell be more likely to give you an honest
answer. And remember: Just because you
want to define the relationship doesnt
mean it needs to be black and white. Just
make sure that if youre going to continue,
youre on the same page.
A couple? Activity
buddies who have
sex? Which is it?
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Birds do it. Bees do it.
But you can do it better.
Nothing gets couples chirping like K-Y
Lubricants.
from vaginal penetration alone.
Oral is the only way I get off with a
partner that doesnt require extra
stimulation either with a toy or my
own hands, explains Dani, 28.
So if oral sex is so fantasticand
it is!we should all be enthusiasti-
cally performing and receiving all
the time, right? And yet, a Cosmopol-
itan survey of 1,000 women revealed
that nearly half reverse the order
of third base and the home run
and have intercourse with a new
sex partner before escalating to oral.
Meanwhile, those who have oral
first are divided by how much they
do: 33 percent give and receive oral
before moving on to intercourse,
while 23 percent only givehaving
a partner go down on them comes
later, if it happens at all.
While Id like to think theyre
consciously saving the best for last,
only 17 percent say they find receiv-
ing oral more satisfying than
intercourse, a figure I find some-
what shocking, given the whole cal-
ligraphy with a thick Magic Marker
thing. Even the famously well-
endowed porn star of yore Ron Jer-
emy once noted, More women
have gotten off with my tongue
At the time, vagina-mouth
seemed to work fine. But its a waste:
Mouths have vastly more potential
than vaginal mimicry, and oral
sex is not a step down from real
sexits the ne plus ultra of sex,
more intense, intimate, and versa-
tile than any other act. Oral sex isnt
the lesser sex. Its the best sex.
Oral sex isnt simply more inti-
mate than its traditional, first-base
predecessor: sex with your mouth is
more fine-tuned, more versatile
than the other varieties. With your
mouth (and tongue and lips and
teeth), you can kiss, suck, lick,
probe, swirl, stroke, and nibble in
an infinite variety of ways, rhythms,
and speeds. And oral has other
advantages to hands and other
parts: tongues are never impotent.
Mouths are always wet. Making
love with a penis is like trying to
write calligraphy with a thick Magic
Marker, Ian Kerner, PhD, laments
in his book She Comes First. The
tongue, on the other hand, is under
our direct control, has no time con-
straints, and can be manipulated
with expert precision. No wonder so
many women report having an eas-
ier time orgasming from oral than
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than with my penis.
So whats holding back women
from receiving? For many, the aver-
sion is mental. The downside of the
intense intimacy oral provides is
self-consciousness: 42 percent of
women surveyed report feeling self-
conscious always or sometimes
when receiving oral. Another 18
percent worry they take too long to
finish. Twenty-one percent worry
about how they smell. Sixteen per-
cent worry about how they taste, and
8 percent worry whether their lady
parts are pretty enough.
But these worries are, if under-
standable, unfounded. In his study
of men who perform oral on women,
Kerner found that a majority really
enjoy it and often report enjoying the
scent and taste of going down on a
woman. As a 25-year-old man
recently put it to me, The first time
I did it was with my college girl-
friend, and I just knew I wanted to
kiss her everywhere. It's that feeling
where you just want to, like, con-
sume every single part of her.
I used to worry, says Elizabeth,
28. I was like, Wait! Im sweaty!
But the guy I was with didnt care,
so I let go of my fears about being
fresh. I hadnt shaved in days, and
he didnt care about that either.
I recall being self-conscious the
first time a guy went down on me.
It lasted approximately 0.5 second,
until I lost the ability to think any-
thing other than this feels good.
In the end, thats really
all it comes down to,
right? Oral sex feels good.
Get as much as you can.
The first time I got instructions on how to give a blow job
from a summer-camp friend one grade and two bra sizes
ahead of meI was told to imagine my mouth as a vagina.
Since the ultimate goal (at camp and for some time after)
is a home run, according to the baseball-diamond metaphor
of sex, oral sex was merely third base, one stop short, some-
thing that doesnt even really count as sex.
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Most straight men enjoy going down
on women, so assuming nothing truly
out of the ordinary is going on down
theresay, an infection of some sort
YOU DONT REALLY NEED
TO DO MUCH PREP WORK.
If youre one of the 37 percent
of women who feel self-
conscious about the way they smell
or taste, you can take a shower or
use a wet-wipe beforehand. Close
your eyes if it helps you turn off your
brain. This is about youso try
to relax and enjoy it.
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THE STARTER
BLOW JOB
FORGET GOODTAKE OUR LEAD AND
HELL CONSIDER YOU EPIC.
GET OVER ANY HANG-UPS AND GET YOUR
MIND BLOWN. HERES HOW.
Figure out what to do with the semen
ahead of time or at least partway
through, during a break in the action.
NEVER
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SOME-
TIMES
TALK TO YOUR PARTNER. You can tell
him what you like by affirming,
or offering something more specific like
your tongue feels better
to me than your teeth
or I love it when you circle my clit with
the tip of your tongue while touching
me with your fingers.
DON T BE AF R AI D
T O BE VOCAL!
When hes going downtown, your plea-
sure is his goal. Show him with your
hand where you want to be touched
and the kinds of motions you like.
And dont forget
to show your appreciation, whether its
through moans, body language, or the
very straightforward
Trust us, men like a little direction.
(And the more positive feedback he
gets, the more he'll want to do it.
Win, win, and win.)
mmmmmm, like THAT,
YES! KEEP G
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Heres the basic rule to giving a great
blow job: use your mouth (obviously)
and your hands. Your mouth is going to
provide the sensation (and for him, the
all-important visual!), but your hands
are going to do a lot of the work.
SO FOR A STARTER BLOW JOB,
TRY THIS: Take the head into your
mouth and squeeze, lick, swirl like you
would a soft-serve cone. Meanwhile,
use your hands to grip, squeeze, and
stroke the length of his penis. Dont just
keep doing the same motionvariety of
sensation is key! Also, don't forget to
MIND THE STEPCHILDREN:
Cup and stroke his balls now and then.
Eye contact. Give a wink or some smize
action and hell be putty in yourmouth.
FULL SENSATION FOR HIM
+
MINIMAL WORK FOR YOU
=
THE WORLD S E ASI EST BLOW JOB.
T HE CHERRY ON T OP?
ICE, ICE BABY
Alternating hot
and cold sensa-
tions really does
feel amazing
for him. If youre
too lazy for the ol
ice-cube-in-the-
cheek trick (or
if your teeth are
too sensitive!),
try alternating
oral with drinking
something cold
or warm. Even
easier: Lightly
blow air over him
after having
had him in
your mouth.
THE CORKSCREW
Twist your hand
as you move up
and down his
shaft like youre
tracing the
grooves of a cork-
screw and slide it
over his tip when
you get to it.
THE TIP-OFF
The hole on his
tip is called the
meatus, which is
the worst name
given to anything,
ever. (Meatus!)
But it's sensitive
during arousal.
With your tongue,
apply medium
pressure, on and
off. Hell be
shocked it feels
so good!
ADVANCED
MOVES
ADVANCED
MOVES
G MARKS THE SPOT
Have him stroke
your G-spot with
his finger while
he uses his
tongue on your
clitoris. You can
show him how to
reach your G-spot
by demonstrating
a palms-up
come hither
motion with your
index finger.
THE HUMAN VIBRATOR
Have your partner
moan or hum
while he goes
down on you.
(Beyonc, The
Star-Spangled
Banner, any-
thing works.)
Yeah, humming
while giving oral
sex might seem
kind of goofy at
first, but the
vibrations will
feel so good,
youll soon be
drowning him
out with noises
of your own.
THE GIRL BJ
This is when
a guy gently pulls
your clit into his
mouth, sucking
and swirling
with his tongue.
Have him start
gently, and then
gradually amp up
the intensity.
FINISHING
MANEUVERS
GETTING
YOURSELF GOING
HELP
HIM OUT
NOTE: Be careful what you do with your
teeth, but more important, take care to see
what he responds to. One mans sexy nibble
could be anothers tooth-raking agony.
OUR SURVEY RESPONDENTS SAID THEY SWALLOW:
If swallowing isnt your thing, spit or ask
him to finish someplace else...(your body?
the bed? an old-timey spitoon?).
whatever works for you
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My last girlfriend wouldnt let me, despite my
requests. My current one does, and its great.
Feels significantly less one-sided.
DAVID, 27
MEN SPILL WHAT THEY REALLY THINK WHEN THEYRE GOING DOWNTOWN.
G U Y S U N C E N S O R E D
All guys like giving. It makes
you feel powerful. Youre making
her feel pleasure.
HAL, 29
I dont have any tech-
nique; no one ever showed
me tricks. I guess I just pay
attention to her reaction
with regard to sensitivity
and speed, and I dont treat
all women the same.
KEVIN, 28
attention to her clit with my tongue, but I also have two fingers
inside her, all slow at first, then I speed up as she gets into it. I usu-
ally have one arm or hand wrapped around her thigh too or on her
belly area. It is also critical that, after she comes, you dont fully
stopjust slow down. I lick gently, use the heat of my breath, kiss
her inner thighs, and just sort of hang out down there a bit. Kiss
her lips, on the outside, gently. Super slow. But be aware that its
still intense in how it feels, because she just came. MIKE, 29
I HAVE MADE MORE WOMEN COME VIA ORAL THAN SEX. THE TRICK IS, YOU CANT USE JUST TONGUE. I PAY LOTS OF
M
en:
Take this
guys lead!
THEY LEARN AS THEY GO
IT MAKES THEM FEEL MANLY
THEY WANT TO DO IT
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A The blow-job jaw-
ache sucks (thank
you, thank you, were
here all month), but
luckily, there are
some pretty easy
fixes. Aching jaws
tend to happen when
we open our mouths
too wide or make a
repetitive motion for
too long, so do your-
self a favor and mix it
up down there.
Alter nate what you
do with your mouth
and fingers, sug-
gests Gracie Landes,
a certified sex thera-
pist in New York City.
There are lots of
things you can do
during oral besides
sucking (like licking
and kissing, not just
the shaft but his
balls, thighs, etc.)
that make for a very
sexy break.
Q WHATS THE
ETIQUETTE
AROUND 69ING?
IS THE PROTO-
COL TO TRY TO
FINISH AT THE
SAME TIME?
WHAT ARE THE
BEST WAYS TO
ENJOY IT?
A Yes, in a perfect
world, the objective
of 69ing is to finish
at the same time,
but in the real world,
this requires a seri-
GOT A QUESTION THATS TOO AWKWARD TO ASK YOUR FRIENDS? YOUVE COME TO THE RIGHT PLACE.
THIS BS, OR
SHOULD I BE
MAKING A
GROCERY LIST?
A Its BS. I know of
no studies or data to
support that a
woman can change
the way she tastes,
says sexpert Ian
Kerner, PhD. People
swear that eating
fruit helps them taste
sweeter, but the doc-
tors we asked con-
firmed its not a real
thing. In other words,
your vagina smells
and tastes exactly
like its supposed to:
no perfume, feminine
wash, or diet over-
haul required.
then kissing after-
ward is safe too.
As for whether to do
it, thats just a mat-
ter of personal pref-
erence. Some
people are grossed
out by it while others
love the taboo ele-
ment of tasting their
own brand, says
OReilly. Whatever
youre into, rest
assured that youre
perfectly normal.
Girl, you do you.
Q MY FRIEND
SAYS THERE ARE
FOODS YOU CAN
EAT TO TASTE
BETTER FOR
ORAL SEX. IS
Q I HAVE
A PRETTY
SENSITIVE GAG
REFLEX. WHAT
CAN I DO TO
MAKE GIVING
MY BOYFRIEND
ORAL EASIER?
A Lots of women
have this issue. Its
because we didnt
Darwinianly adapt to
be able to take pen-
ises deep into our
throats. No matter!
Just take in as much
as you can handle
and fake the rest
using your hands.
You can trick a penis
into thinking your
hands are a part of
your mouth by using
lots of lube, warmth,
and gentle breath,
advises Jessica
OReilly, PhD, a sex-
ologist in Toronto. Or
you can try lying on
your side ( la 69),
which opens up the
pathway in your
throat. Remember,
its varied pressure
and warmth that
makes him feel good,
not your tonsils.
Q WHENEVER
I GIVE ANYONE
ORAL, MY JAW
STARTS HURT-
ING AFTER TWO
MINUTES. ANY-
THING I CAN DO
TO AVOID TMJ?
S P E C I A L O R A L - S E X E D I T I O N !
SEX Q&A
the same time is
super important
to you (hey, its
good to have goals!),
itll just take some
pacing, a good
knowledge of each
others hot spots,
and lots of practice.
(Not a bad thing to
practice.)
Q KISSING
AFTER ORAL:
GROSS? HOT?
WHATS THE
NORM HERE?
A This is completely
up to you and your
partner! In terms of
hygiene or health, if
its safe to perform
oral on each other,
ous knack for multi-
tasking. (Focusing
on his pleasure and
your own is like try-
ing to talk to some-
one at a party when
you hear someone
talking about you a
few feet away. You
want to pay atten-
tion to both conver-
sations, but its
hard!) Most people
need to alternate
their focus on their
own and their part-
ners pleasure and/
or take turns, says
Landes. Whats
most important is to
stay attentive and
sensitive to each
other. If finishing at
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Hollywood It Girls are snatching up web entrepreneurs like theyre the latest
iPhone upgrade. Is he the right update, or will you force-quit this e-bag?
HE HAS BRAI NS
His version of a suit is a Batman
tee shirt and Converses, and his
corner ofce is a desk in a loft
spacebut his business card
screams C-something-O. He is
motivated and curious and has
more smarty credentials than
Ronan Farrow, so the convo at din-
ner is as sparkling as the Prosecco.
HE LL GI VE HI S ALL I N BED
The bedroom benet of dating
someone with ve different
degrees? This guy is an eternal
student, so hell take notes
about how to double-click your
mouse and ace all the exams.
HE S TOTALLY TRENDI NG
Cute nerds are the new stylish
accessory. Scan Pinterest and
youll see: Urkel glasses are the
new Wayfarers and sweater-vests
are practically leather jackets
(have you seen Drake lately?). Also,
a geek-chic guy will go nicely
with Rodartes Star Wars collection
when it hits stores this fall.
HE DOESN T KNOW HE S
A HOT COMMODI TYYET
He scores points in World of War-
craft, but scoring girls is new for
him. Hell be so psyched about
what you bring to the bedroom
from toys to a whipped-cream one-
pieceyoull swear Mindy Kaling
created him in a writers room.
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PROS
THE
START-UP
TECHIE
BROS
CONS
&
Hes a Mathlete
Sure, this dude can figure
out a 15 percent dinner tip
sans calculator, but its not
charming when he gets into
a comic-book debate with
your waiter. Peter Parker:
totally bangable. Sheldon
Cooper: not so much.
Youre No. 2
His devotion to his start-
up rivals Adam Levines
love for Victorias Secret
models. Its a problem
when your boyfriend refers
to his baby and hes
talking about his beta-stage,
investor-backed app that
hooks up singles based
on their favorite cheese.
The way he obsesses over
his revolutionary idea,
youd swear the app was
the one with the vagina.
Hes Always Working
He puts in serious time at
a tech venture that breaks
down more often than Apple
maps. If he wants a 100-
hour workweek and a girl-
friend, he can pull a Weird
Science and download her.
Hes a Secret D-Bag
After years of gym class
wedgies, this sci-guy is
suddenly a walking ad for
#ItGetsBetter (with more
issues than Teen Mom 2).
Ladies are finally interested
in him, but he has no idea
nine-timing girls cancels out
his nice-guy status. Make
sure he has only one window
open at a time, if you know
what we mean.
CONS
LAUREN PANARIELLO
9 3
What do guys really think about sex? How often do they cry or call their moms?
We polled 100 guys, ages 19 to 36, to get the down and dirty. (And we do mean
dirty: Wait till you see how often they change their sheets.)
HOW OFTEN
DO GUYS
___
?
59%
OF GUYS SAY THEY FEEL FAT AT
LEAST ONCE A WEEK.
BLAME THE DAVI D BECKHAM
H&M ADS
99% of the guys
we surveyed say they
think about sex
at least once a day,
and nearly 25% say
they think about it
multiple times an hour.
So, basically,
constantly.
Guys think about
sex constantly.
39% OF GUYS LOOK AT PORN ONCE A DAY.
Once when I rise, once when I lay me down to
sleep, wrote one (were assuming single?) guy.
64% SAID THEY CHANGE THEIR SHEETS
ONCE A MONTH OR LESS. HORRIFYINGLY,
ONE 25-YEAR-OLD FROM CHICAGO ADMITTED TO
CHANGING HIS SHEETS ONCE A YEAR.
SORRY, NOT SORRY. (WERE SORRY WE ASKED!)
CHIARA ATIK
43%
OF GUYS
SAY THEY
CALL
THEIR
MOMS
ABOUT
ONCE
A WEEK,
BUT A
SURPRIS-
INGLY
HIGH
12%
SAY THEY
CALL
THEIR
MOMS
EVERY DAY.
INTENSE!
49%
OF GUYS
SAY THEY
CRY
EVERY
FEW
MONTHS.
BUT
LIKE,
YOU
KNOW,
MANLY
TEARS.
42% OF GUYS THINK ABOUT HAVING KIDS EVERY FEW DAYS, ALTHOUGH
ITS USUALLY ME DIVERTING THE CONVERSATION TO ESCAPE HEARING
ABOUT OTHER PEOPLES KIDS, EXPLAINS DAVID, 27, FROM SAN DIEGO.
37% OF GUYS SAY THEY THINK ABOUT THEIR EXES ALMOST NEVER.
BUT A VERY DEVOTED CONTINGENT (14%) ADMIT TO THINKING ABOUT
THEM MULTIPLE TIMES A DAY. STAY STRONG, DUDES!
93%
OF GUYS
MASTURBATE
MULTIPLE
TIMES A WEEK.
(SURPRISE,
SURPRISE.)
WTF
EMMA BARKER
*Names have been changed.
ALLIE
Lol no. What if you
dont exist?
ALLIE
Ha is that what
makes it real?
Thats why we
have to grind in a club.
To make it real.
ROB
That and kissing in a cab.
ROB
Ive never talked to
someone like this who
I havent met.
ALLIE
ROB
Uh oh. R u falling in love?
T H E T E X T E R S
ROB*, 30
ALLIE, 28
ROB: We met on OkCupid.
She deactivated, but
we stayed in touch. Weve
never met in person.
T H E T A K E A WAY
Flirty text banter with
a new man = one of lifes
simple pleasures.
T H E T E X T S
COSM
O
DECODES
WE STOPPED A RANDOM
GUY AND HAD HIM SHOW
US HIS LATEST TEXT TO A
LADY. HERES PROOF THAT
REAL-LIFE TEXTS ARE MORE
RIDICULOUS (AND WAY
FUNNIER) THAN FICTION
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Q Do men notice when we
buy new lingerie? Ive bought
a few (expensive!) sheer
nighties and underwear sets,
but my guy rips them off and
drops em on the floor like
he does with my everyday
underwear. Whats the deal?
A Let me first say this: Your guy
will never appreciate your lingerie
nearly as much as you appreciate it.
What he will appreciate, however,
is the idea of your lingerie. Its a
huge turn-on to know you bought
something super hot to wear just
for him, but you need to inform him
of this ahead of time. So if youre
out, whisper in his ear that youre
wearing something new and hot
underneath your clothes. He will be
unable to think of anything else
until he gets you home, at which
point he will pausebrieflyto
appreciate your expensive lingerie.
A good guy friend of mine told me that when I go out, Im
not getting hit on because I give off a desperate vibe, like
Im hunting. What does he mean, and what can I do to put
out a better vibe that will help me meet a good guy?
A If you focus on something as undefinable as a desperate vibe, youll
destroy your self-confidence. Focus instead on concrete ways you can look
confident while also conveying that youre open to being approached. Dress
in a way that makes you feel best about yourselfdont worry about it being
sexy. Go out with one or two female friends, scan the crowd once in a while,
and if you lock eyes with a cute guy, return his stare for a second before look-
ing away. Youll get hit on, but even if you dont, screw it. Enjoy being with
your friends, which, by the way, will make guys want to come talk to you.
A How are you trying to turn the
hookup into a relationship? I have a
hunch that one way youre doing it is
by being agreeable all the time,
which means not saying anything
when the guy decides hes a porn
star and finishes on your face with-
out so much as a Yo, heads up!
Maybe you found that arousing, in
which case, great. Or you may have
found it offensive, in which case I
Uh, excuse
you.
The guy Im hooking up with, um,
nished on my face without asking,
and when I told my best guy friend,
he said that dudes do that only when
they dont respect a girl. I was trying
to turn this hookup into something
more. Is my guy friend right?
LOVE ADVICE FROM OUR
GUY GURU, KY HENDERSON

hope you said, What the eff are you
doing?! and rubbed your face all
over his face. Regardless, the most
important issue here is finding out
where you stand. Tell him, Im hav-
ing fun hooking up with you, but
Im finding myself wanting some-
thing more. How do you feel? If he
wants more as well, terrific. If he
doesnt, move on. If you dont, youll
only get hurt worse as time goes on.
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Q I introduced my boyfriend
to sex toys, and now he takes
them out every time we get busy.
Why would he want to use toys
every time, and how do I explain
that I want them in the mix only
every once in a while?
A When a guy gets a new toy, all
he wants to do is play with it. That
goes for a new baseball glove or a
new TV or a new Waterproof Vibra-
tron 3000 Dildo-Egg With Clitoris-
Massaging Rabbit Ears. In fact,
it goes especially for that last one,
because not only is it a new toy, its
also a new toy that gets his girl-
friend off. All of which is to say, his
fixation on using toys has nothing
to do with his being tired of having
toyless sex with you (it might even
be the case that he thinks you like
sex with toys better than without).
So just tell him to leave the toys in
the bedside draweryou wont
hurt his feelings. Say that using
them night after night would be
like having sex in the same posi-
tion every time. Itd get boring, and
you want to make sure sex with
him never gets boring.
His worst
nightmareexcept
for the bikinis.
Q My boyfriend
is freaked out by
my hard-partying
friend. He thinks that
when I go out with
her, Ill turn into her
wild partner in crime.
What can I do to get
him off our backs?
A You can lay down some
ground rules. Explain to him
what your rules are when
youre out: Youll drink, youll
dance, youll act as the worlds
greatest wingwomanwhatever
that is. But be clear that nothing
beyond that will happen because
you have no desire for it to happen.
And then tell him what you
need his ground rules to be: That
he not make you feel as though
youre doing something wrong
just because youre hanging out
with your friend. And if theres
ever an opportunity for him to
hang out with you and your friend,
he should take it. Seeing you be
yourself even when shes being
crazy will also reassure him. E
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LDRs are hardtheres
only so much Skype sex
you can have before
you feel like youre dating
a MacBook. Keep your
relationship cruising
in the right direction
with these remedies for
all your long-distance
mindf*cks and tips
that bring you closer
from 1,000 miles away.
BY LAUREN PANARIELLO
Q This may sound basic, but
I miss him so much. Im
always missing him, and its
really hard. How do I cope
with that long-term longing?
Q I thought
reunion sex was
going to be out
of this world since
we hadnt seen
each other in so
long, but it was
justnormal. Is
that a bad sign?
A In LDRs, reunions are the New
Years of sex: you hype them up so
much that they can end up being a
letdown. Take off the pressure by
treating rst-night sex like the
opening act, not the main event
remind yourself of the devious
deeds you did while apart
(cough, see next page, cough),
or deliberately make the rst romp
a quickie. If you dont see stars,
just use that as an excuse to go for
round twoand three.
Q Theres no room in his life when I go to visit. He has only
single guy friends since Im not around, and his apartment
even feels like a bachelor pad. How do we act like a couple
in the middle of his solo dude life?
A If your man is starring in a solo act while hes in another cityi.e., he has only single friends and his pad is so
bachelor-y you half-expect to run into Chris Harrison on the way to the bathroomyour saving grace could be
coupled friends. Youll feel more secure in the relationship (and hell have a reminder hes in one) if you guys hang
with Mr. and Mrs. Ofce Buddy when youre in town or plan dates where there are couples present, like a cooking
class. You should also establish routines together: a coffee shop you hit up, a TV show you wait till youre together
to binge-watch, a monthly trip to Medieval Times (hey, whatever oats your boat). The goal is to get to a point
where it feels normal for you to be together in one place. Oh, and why not inltrate his bromances by throwing a
kick-ass party at his place and inviting his friends? Pretty soon, theyll be as excited as he is for your next visit.
Q Its becoming financially
difficult to see each other.
How do we cope with the
cost of visits?
A When it comes to investing in an LDR, emotionally
and nancially, both people should be paying up.
Experts agree that LDRs work best between people in
similar nancial situations so no one feels like the
other person should pay for travel, but you can bust
that argument wide open by alternating who visits
whom or by splitting the bill no matter who hops the
plane. Cut back on expensive activities during your
visits, and contribute to travel funds in lieu of gifts.
A The bad news is that missing your man is a standard part
of being in an LDR. It would be weird if you didnt miss him.
The good news is, there are ways to manage the loneliness.
Set up a calendar that counts down to your next reunion.
Swipe your favorite souvenirs to keep his presence around,
like the sports tee you wore the first night you had an adult
sleepover. The important thing is to keep your eye on the
prize and remind yourself that the empty 50 percent of your
bed is as temporary as a John Mayer engagement.
Q Im not sure
if the distance is
temporary or
permanent. How
do I get out of
this relationship
limbo?
A Certain things in life are
unavoid abletaxes, Pap smears,
narcissistic Kanye rantsand if
youre in an LDR, add creating
a relationship timeline to the list.
Because no one wants to be in a
relationship with a big ashing
question mark at the end. You
need to set a time limit on how
long youre willing to be apart,
says Wendy Walsh, PhD, a rela-
tionship expert in New York.
Research shows a long-distance
relationship has a better chance
of working if there is an end date
in sight, so work with your man to
come up with a date after which
one of you will start sending out
rsums and house hunting
in the others city. Successful
people make plans for what they
want to achieve, and a relation-
ship plan is no different, says
Walsh. If you want this to work,
Lean In to your LDR like its the
last chair in the boardroom.
Good lovin
conquers all
even distance.
honey
miss
you
cutie
You may be miles away from each other, but these
LDR-cementing secrets will help you stay close.
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Sex Tech
All the tech you need
to crank your LDR into
overdrive. Your new
smart-vibe wont be
the only thing thats
supercharged. Power
up, ladies.
ZipaClip Basically, its
Snapchat on steroids. The
top of the line in secretive
sharing, this free app lets
you send encrypted videos
and messages to any other
user. The best part? The app
blocks your recipient from
saving the message to his
phone or forwarding it to
anyone else. Its the ultimate
sexting appall ScarJo, no
scandal.
CoverMe If the CIA were
running a sexting opera-
tion, this is probably what it
would look like. This free app
uses encryption technol-
ogy to create a vault in your
phone for storing private
pics and vids and sends
self-destructing messages
instead of dangerously
shareable texts and pictures.
Its like youre the James
Bond of LDR booty calls.
Couple This app lets you
and your long-distance
lovah build a private timeline
lled with all your important
events and moments for free,
like youre living one life
on your phone. Cute bonus:
A feature called Thumb Kiss
lets you smooch through your
phoneboth cells vibrate
when you guys touch the
screen in the same place.
Talk about e-harmony.
Vibease Does the term
Bluetooth technology really
get you going? It will now!
Vibease ($79) is a brand-
new vibrator that connects
to your smartphone using,
yep, Bluetooth. You wear
the vibrator (which ts dis-
creetly in your underwear),
and your partner controls
the vibes using an app
on his or her smartphone
from anywhere in the world.
Its playtime!
WATCH AND YEARN
We get itSkype sex gets
old. Instead of guring out
how to show your goodies to
the MacBook camera with-
out falling backward out of
your chair, tell your BF to lie
in bed while you watch the
same naughty video
together and you each, um,
spin your own reel. Youll make it happen on your own, but the sexual
sync will add a layer of intimacy thats hard to feel through distance.
MUSICAL CHAIR Youve got an ass and a chair, which means youre prepared
for a Skype-sex strip show. Start by slowly undressing from top to bottom to your
favorite seductress anthem (Driver, roll up the partition please...), running your ngers
over every bit of skin you expose, and when youre down to the lingerie, steal some
Flashdance exes and lie on the seat with your back arched or bend over the chair to
remove the rest. Hell never look at a desk chair the same way again.
yeaaah,
take
it off!
u
like it?
rawr
THE WAITING
GAME
The great part about being sepa-
rated for long periods of time?
Mental foreplay lasts for weeks.
Make a pact to try something new
every time youre together, and
spend your away time sending
each other sexy suggestions. The
fun is negotiating what your sex-
ploration will entail, so when you
nally pull that new move or get
busy at the public location youve
scouted, every touch will be a rip-
off-your-clothes moment youve
been imagining for weeks.
HIDE AND SNEAK
Add a little mush to your
antics and leave gushy, Nicholas
Sparksstyle love notes for him to
nd when youre apart. The only
thing more romantic than an airport
ILU-fest is nding the follow-up in
his medicine cabinet the next a.m.
VERY SPECIAL
DELIVERY
Send an old-school care package
for hispackage. Fill a box with
some sexy new lingerie, a few
condoms, some lube, and depend-
ing on how generous youre feel-
ing, a sex toy or two, and send it to
his front door with the note, Well
need this on my next visit.
TOTAL TEASE
Instead of another Snap-
chat of your smooshed boobs in a
push-up bra, take a picture of a
position from the Cosmo Kama
Sutra, and text it with the note, For
next time we meet. Or screen-
shot the most explicit moment
from a hot movie. Hell practically
pass out when he opens that pic of
the refrigerator scene from 9
Weeks with your text, Cant wait
till I taste you again. Bone appetit!
SCREEN SAVER
Sex over Skype can
walk a ne line between hot
e-sex and digital gyno visit.
(Zoom is not your friend here!)
Shoot for the former by keeping
your computer directly in front
of younot tilted up or down,
which will distort your image
fun-house-mirror-style. Turn
off your ceiling lights and any
other bulbs that are above your
head. Just keep a desk lamp
next to the computer. Lighting
from eye level is scary sexy,
while lighting from overhead
or underneath is just plain
scary (think: campre shad-
ows). You want to look like
youre going to keep him up
all night because youre a sex
goddess, not because youre
going to tell him an effed-up
ghost story.
Sure, absence makes the heart grow
fonder. Now, heres how to deal with those
other important organs....
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MY WEDDING
HOOKUP
When youre one of the only single women at a wedding,
sometimes you cant help but pair up with the only single
guyespecially when hes seated right next to you. But
as Jen Doll discovered, what happens at a wedding doesnt
always translate to the real world.
I now declare you
drunk and irty.
AS THE BRIDE HAD TOLD ME, I would
be seated at a table with the only single
guy at her wedding, who in the world
of the orchestrated wedding ecosystem
might as well have been the only single
guy in New York. Tom* was bald or had
shaved his head to be bald, but either
way, maybe, just maybe, he reminded
me of my ex. He had on a crisp suit and
an expensive-looking tie. And he was sit-
ting right next to me.
Im Tom, he said. And you are?
Imlets see. I picked up my place
card and studied it. Today, I am Jen Doll.
You need a card to tell you that?
I leaned in and lowered my voice.
What Ive learned
from being a guest at
nearly 30 weddings
PRACTICE YOUR
OPTION TO
REGRETFULLY DECLINE
Heres a freeing thought:
You dont have to go to
every wedding to which youre
invited. Choose wisely,
factoring in your budget and
vacation days. Just because
you dont go doesnt mean your
friendship is doomed.
DONT COMPLAIN
COMMIT
Youre going, so enjoy! Upgrade
your room; splurge on spa
treatments; buy a dress that
youll wear again. This can be
a special event for you too.
BREAK THE RULES
Hate the bouquet toss?
Hide in the bathroom. Want to
hook up with a handsome
guest? Hook up with a hand-
some guest! Modern weddings
allow for all sorts of options.
DONT BREAK
ALL THE RULES
Do not hook up with the
groomor a married man
or the father of the bride.
Come on. You know this.
REMEMBER ITS
JUST A DAY
It, too, shall pass. Forget any
drama and focus on having
a great time celebrating love
and commitment between two
people you love, because thats
what a wedding is really about.
From Save the Date, by Jen Doll
(Riverhead Books, a member
of Penguin Group [USA] LLC).
Copyright 2014 by Jen Doll.
Im a wedding crasher.
But what if the real Jen Doll shows
up? he asked.
Ive taken care of that. Sometimes
unfortunates get in the way. Im not
proud of it, but Ive got to eat.
Thats right, food. What are
you ordering?
Id already decided. Im having the
chicken. It comes with mac and cheese.
And Ill have the steak, he said.
We can share, Jen Doll.
There is something that occurs at
weddings when you are single and you
happen upon another whos single and
you find each other moderately attractive
and tolerably pleasant. Two such people
might decide that for the night, they are
better off together than alone. Weve all
heard the great wedding legend: the tale
of someone who knows someone who met
his or her someone at just such an event.
If it happened to someone, it could hap-
pen to you too.
Let us call this pair-
ing the wedding insta-
couple. Being alone at
a wedding can be terri-
fying, but the promise
of finding love at one
is the opposite. Think
of how many movies
depict a female charac-
ter who hires or bribes
a guy to be her wedding
date because she cant
stand to go alone for fear of humiliation
or perhaps because her ex will be there.
These plots are silly, but theres a kernel
of truth to them. There are times when we
dont feel like being alone, and a wedding
is likely to be one of them. In the movies,
the couple who connect at a wedding fre-
quently fall in love and end up getting
married themselves. This is a real Ameri-
can fantasy, even if the majority of its
examples live in Hollywood, not reality.
THAT EVENING, after Tom gave me bites
of his steak and I moved pieces of my
chicken to his plate, we walked around
together as if wed been dating for
yearsas if we, too, might soon head
down an aisle. He had his arm around
me, and we introduced each other to
people we knew. How did you meet?
theyd ask, and wed say, At the dinner
table! And everyone would laugh at
our adorable couple antics. I thought,
Hey, I could get used to this.
Later, we walked to the bar where
everyone converged for the after-party. In
contrast to the brightness of the previous
venue, it was dark there, even a little omi-
nous. By that time, I was pretty drunk, as
were most of us, and things had taken a
turn with my wedding husband too.
Was he now flirting with a waitress?
It appeared so. Was he talking to that
other single woman at the wedding?
Yes. Had this all been just a game to him?
I confronted him, interrupting his con-
versation with a girl I did not recognize.
I want to leave, I said.
Well, silly, then you should go, he
told me. The girl yawned and left. I per-
sisted. You should come with me.
I knew I shouldnt have said it, but
I wasnt ready for our twosome to be over
yet. Maybe our insta-coupling had legs?
He glanced at his watch. All right,
I guess, he conceded, and we hailed a cab.
In my studio apartment, we kissed for
a while, then he looked
at his watch again.
I better go. It was great
to meet you, Jen Doll
or whoever you are.
Then he left. I sat there,
stunned and stung.
Who did he think he was?
What a jerk, pretending
to be part of a couple
when it served him, then
dropping the act when
it didnt.
I sulked for a while, and then the real-
ization hit, piercing my wedding- and
wine-based stupor: it had been an actfor
both of us. My desire to be a twosome may
have been legitimate, but our coupling
(and the rejection I felt) wasnt real at all.
Tom was a person I hardly knew. The per-
son I did know was myself. And I knew
that when I was ready to be with some-
one, it wouldnt be simply because he was
the only single guy at the wedding.
The next morning, I woke up alone in
my own bed, happily single yet again and
hogging the blankets and pillows with
abandon. I did not have to be concerned
about a stranger next to me and what he
wanted to do about brunch. I felt relieved.
He hadnt been the one. He was just one.
THERE ARE TIMES
WHEN WE DONT
FEEL LIKE BEING
ALONE. A WEDDING
IS ONE OF THEM.
Wedding Season
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HOW TO
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A FRIEND
IN
TROUBLE
When a close pal is going through something really
tough, you want to be there for her, but you
dont feel sure about how to approach her or what
support she needs. We talked to some real BFFs whove
been there to pinpoint exactly how you can be
Friend of the Year when your bud really needs you.
PHOTOGRAPHED BY EMILY KATE ROEMER BY ANDREA BARTZ
JEMIKA In 2010, I was in North
Carolina, working on my masters
degree, and I developed a swol-
len, painful stomachI looked
like I was pregnant. I knew some-
thing was wrong, but I put off
going to the doctor until a friend
caught me throwing up and took
me to the ER. I was transferred
to another hospital, and after
reviewing a round of tests, a
doctor walked into my room
with tears in her eyes and said,
Sweetheart, you have stage-4
ovarian cancer. I didnt feel that
scared because, on some level, I
felt like I already knew.
RUTHIE I remember exactly
where I was when I got the call
I was in Atlanta, getting my hair
done. I was shocked, then numb,
then I started to worry like crazy.
JEMIKA I underwent chemother-
apy, and the treatments took a
toll on meI went from a size 16
to an 8 in a couple of months.
SHE HAS A SELF-
DESTRUCTIVE HABIT
KIRSTEN When I was 14, my doctor diagnosed me with ADHD and gave me a prescription
for Adderall. I started taking the Adderall right around the same time I began partying at
night with friends. That kicked off a seven-year struggle with Adderall addiction and alcohol-
ism that got much worse when I started college. I unked out of my freshman year because
I was drinking so much, and I had to start over somewhere new. I was drinking and taking
pills every day, and no one really wanted to be around me anymore. It was gross.
KIMBERLY Kirsten and I were roommates for a study-abroad program during our junior
year. We had similar personalities and got along really well, but I did notice that she drank
a ton and seemed to live on the edge. By the end of the program, I was worried about her
Id seen her falling over and out of control too many times.
KIRSTEN I knew I had a problem, but I didnt know what to do about it. Some of my best
friends cut me off instead of trying to talk to me, which was painful. And the people I partied
with were drinking and using like I was, so I couldn't see how much I needed to change.
KIMBERLY I wanted to confront Kirsten about her addiction, but I was so scared I'd say the
wrong thing. So I tried just to be there for her and talk to her about her goals and dreams
and all the stuff she wanted to accomplish.
KIRSTEN When I was 21, I nally decided I needed to get sober, so I went through a pro-
gram at the Hazelden treatment center in Plymouth, Minnesota. Kim was so supportive
and even wrote me letters while I was in treatment. She never made me feel judged, and
now when we go out, she rarely drinks so that I wont feel uncomfortable. Kim just genu-
inely cares about me, which means so much to me.
*Last name withheld to protect privacy.
Kirsten G.*, 24, Minneapolis, MN, and Kimberly
Martinez, 22, Savage, MN
SHE GETS
A SCARY
DIAGNOSIS
Ruthie Lowery, 29, and Jemika
Crayton, 31, both Atlanta, GA
How You Can Help
First, the bad news: You cant force
a friend to get help, says J. Wesley
Boyd, MD, a psychiatrist at Harvard
Medical School. Your role is to help
her realize that she needs help.
DO CONFRONT HER CALMLY. Stick to the
facts and refrain from judgment, Dr. Boyd
saysI think you have a problem will
just stoke her denial, while You were black-
out drunk the last three nights in a row is
harder to refute. Emphasize her well-being
to remind her that youre not just throwing
shade: I want to make sure youre going to
be okay six months from now, and I wouldnt
be able to live with myself if I didnt bring
this up. And of course, you should broach
the topic when shes sober. You want to do
everything you can to keep emotions down
so that your friend will be more likely to hear
what youre telling her, he adds.
DONT BE INVOLVED IN THE COVER-UP.
If your friend has a problem with alcohol,
you might be tempted to volunteer to be
her designated driver, or you may want to
just be nice when she asks, Did I embarrass
myself last night? Dont. Youre enabling
the behavior by doing anything that makes
it easier for her, Dr. Boyd says.
DO BE READY TO SUGGEST NEXT STEPS.
If youre lucky enough to break through to
her and she tells you she needs help, she has
a lot of options, depending on her personal-
ity, Dr. Boyd says. A Narcotics Anonymous
or AA support group could be a good t.
Their only requirement is a desire to stop,
and youd be welcome to attend with her,
he says. She could also contact her primary-
care doctor or a local treatment center.
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Your friend needs a cheerleader, not more
medical-ese, to help her through, says Jan
C. Buckner, MD, chair of medical oncology
at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota.
DO ASK HOW YOU CAN HELP. Some people cope
by not talking about it; others want to share emo-
tions, Dr. Buckner says. Meet her where she is.
DONT INSIST, YOURE GOING TO BE FINE! Its
important to give your friend real hope. Say,
Whatever happens, Im here for you. Were going
to do everything we can to help you beat this.
DO VOLUNTEER TO HELP. Medical visits take time
away from your friends normal activities. Pitch
in and say, Can I go to the doctor with you? Can
I help with the housework? Can I bring over some
dinner? Dr. Buckner suggests.
DONT OFFER ADVICE. Unless youre an expert
in your friends diagnosis, leave it to the doctors
to explain the best options. There are many
opinions about how to treat cancer, and some are
based in fact while others are hype, Dr. Buckner
says. Volunteer to research the best cancer-treat-
ment centers, and leave the rest to the pros.
SHE LOSES
HER JOB
Ashley King, 34, and Melissa
Tirey, 30, both New York City
ASHLEY I worked in online adver-
tising at a start-up, and I was let
go in a round of layoffs. As you
get older and are paid more, you
realize that companies can some-
times hire people right out of col-
lege on the cheap to do what you
do. Its really scary to have your
income shut off right when you
nally have a plan and a savings
account and are taking care of
yourself. And when you work crazy
hours with a group of coworkers,
they become like your family, and
its tough to see them go too.
MELISSA Ashley and I have been
through this a few times, rst
when she lost another job in 2008
and then when I quit my job to do
something new a few years later.
People hear, Oh, I lost my job,
and they give you this face and go,
Ohhh, Im so sorry! Its obnox-
ious. So this time around, I told her,
Im super sorry, and Ive got your
back, and then I let her decide if
she wanted to talk about it.
ASHLEY I dont want the pity
face. I want someone to tell me,
Gimme a break. Youll have a new
job in no time. Enjoy the break
while it lasts. Remember how you
always wanted to travel? Losing
your job is kind of like getting
dumpedyou remember all the
great things about the relation-
ship and forget that he was lazy or
had the grossest eating habits or
whatever. Melissa knows how all-
encompassing my job was and all
the ridiculous things I had to deal
with, so when Im getting moody,
shes like, Remember all those
things you hated? You were on
your way out the door anyway!
MELISSA Its so important to be
positive. When I was unemployed,
people would panic for me: What
about this, what about that, what
are you going to do?! That just
makes the situation worse. Moving
forward is the best thing you can
help a friend to do.
RUTHIE I called Jemika reg-
ularly and tried to be there
for her over the phone,
which sometimes meant
talking about her cancer
but other times we just
talked about normal stuff,
like what our friends were
up to. I hate to admit it, but
I was scared to visit Jemika
because I knew shed look
sick and I was afraid that Id
react the wrong way.
JEMIKA I got frustrated at
Ruthie for not visiting me
more oftenI was lonely,
and I thought it was because
she was afraid of me!
I wish she wouldve just told
me about her fears. Other
people reacted the same
way, treating me like I was
a sick person, and I wanted
to tell them, Hey, Im still
me! When Ruthie did visit, she was so sweet. She
lay with me on the bed, and once she brought me
makeup and head scarves after I told her I missed
them. Ten months after that rst diagnosis, the
doctor told me I was cancer-free, and Ruthie was
so excited for me. She never stopped being
there for me as a friend.
How You Can Help
With a layoff comes the
loss of two major things: a
daily routine and a big part
of ones identity, says Rob-
ert Chope, PhD, the founder
of the Career and Personal
Development Institute in
San Francisco. The right
support will help your bud
get back on her feet.
DONT START WITH A FLOOD
OF ADVICE. The person whos
been laid off is going through
a ton of emotionsfrustration,
anxiety, and even grief, Chope
says. She needs to vent about it
before she can think about next
steps, and that might take a
while. For the rst week or two,
lend a sympathetic ear.
DO PUT HER IN A POSITIVE
FRAME OF MIND. Once your
friend is ready to talk about the
future, ask her what skills she
gained in her last gig and what
connections she can tap into
(from friends, family, and even
former coworkers) to kick-start
her job search. Once she
articulates her strengths and
sees the team behind her, shell
feel more hopeful, Chope says.
DONT ASK HER TO SPEND
MONEY. Funemployment
means plenty of free time
but fewer resources to spend.
Your bud will appreciate
invitations to fun, cost-free
activities, like concerts in the
park or pay-what-you-wish
nights at a museum.
DO CHALLENGE HER TO THINK
BIG. Get your friend to talk
about her fantasiesaround
travel, jobs, relationships, what-
ever, Chope says. Thinking
about what else matters helps
remind her that theres more to
her than just having a job.
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NICOLE A few days before Christ-
mas in 2010, my family and boy-
friend and I were up waiting for my
19-year-old sister, Holly, who was
driving home from college. It was
storming that night, and when we
got a call telling us that she had
been in a car accident and later
learned she hadnt made it, I just
fell to the oor and kept saying,
What do I do? I dont know what
to do!
KATIE Nicoles boyfriend called me
a few hours later to break the news,
and my mind just went blank.
Her family is like my family, and it
just didnt seem real. I asked how
Nicole was doing, but I knew there
was no good answer to that.
NICOLE The next day, a lot of people
found out via the news, so the
e-mails and texts and Facebook
messages started pouring in.
I really appreciated them, even
though I didnt really respond to any.
We started going through old pho-
tos for the memorial service, and
Katie came over to help. A bunch
of the pictures were actually really
funny, and we spent some time tell-
ing stories about Holly.
KATIE Over the next few weeks,
I sometimes sent Nicole funny
text messages about little things
I knew shed get a kick out of
(like when I found my boyfriends
stash of Barbra Streisand
CDs). I wasnt really afraid to joke
with her because I gured we
should both just be ourselves.
I tried my best to keep our normal
friendship going.
NICOLE Some people avoided
meI guess because they didnt
know what to saybut I wish they
SOMEONE
CLOSE TO
HER DIES
Katie Skocir, 26, Brookeld, WI, and
Nicole Stahl, 27, Milwaukee, WI
How You Can Help
In a way, grief is like the u. At rst, it
can feel like itll never go away, says
George Bonanno, PhD, a psychologist
at Columbia University and author of
The Other Side of Sadness: What the
New Science of Bereavement Tells
Us About Life After Loss, but acute
pain usually begins to fade after a few
weeks. Heres how to help during
those rst tear-soaked months.
DONT FORCE HER TO TALK ABOUT IT. In gen-
eral, people want to grieve with their families
but be normal around their friendsThey
want to feel like the world hasnt completely
collapsed, Bonanno says. After giving your
condolences, chatting about unrelated things
isnt disrespectful. Its actually kind.
DO EXPECT HER TO BE KIND OF ABSENT. Sad-
ness makes someone turn inward, Bonanno
says. People oscillate in and out of grief, so
you may notice that while youre with her,
she suddenly gets quiet for a few minutes
and then comes out of it and is laughing. No
need to probe her about what shes thinking.
Just carry on as if you didnt even notice.
DONT FEEL YOU NEED TO BE SOMBER AROUND
HER. People are able to laugh and feel
genuine joy while mourning, Bonanno says.
Your friend does not want to feel like shes
sucked the joy out of everyone elses lives.
Dont be afraid to joke or be your normal silly
self (while still being respectful, of course).
wouldve just acted normally. I had this weird compulsion to tell everyone I bumped into what
had happened so that theyd know I wasnt totally myself, but it created some awkward situa-
tionslike, I blurted it out to a former coworker at a bar, and she had no idea what to say.
KATIE I pulled Nicole into a corner, and we both shed a tear and then shared a laugh and just
went on with the evening. If we had to cry at bars, then wed do it! That was okay with us.
NICOLE A few weeks after the funeral, my family started a scholarship foundation in Hollys
name (HCSLoveLife.org), and friends pitched in to buy bracelets and even plan fund-raisers.
That meant a lot to my family and gave people something to do to help.
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Adelle Waldmans best-selling novel,
The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P.
about an independent heroine who
becomes insecure because of a
guys mixed signalsset book
clubs buzzing. Here, she shares the
experience that inspired it all.
YOURE
NOT
NEEDY
(YOURE JUST
WITH THE
WRONG GUY)
I ONCE DATED A GUY ILL CALL LEWIS* WHO WAS, INITIALLY, VERY
excited about usdisconcertingly so. I liked him a lot, but
his over-the-top enthusiasm (he insisted I was perfect)
gave me pause. Given how little we knew about each other, it
felt like too much. I worried Lewis might be the kind of per-
son whose feelings run hot and cold. But afer a few weeks,
I let go and let myself fall for him. Unfortunately, the more
attached I got, the less perfect he thought I was.
Afer two months, Lewis morphed from a perfect boy-
friend to one whod abruptly disappear from e-mail and
texts for days, cancel plans, and behave coldly except when
he was warm and aectionatethe way hed been in the
beginning. Then Id think all was ne, that my worries were
unfounded. Afer all, he explained his text absences afer-
ward (a death in the family that hed been too upset to let me
know about). And everyone needs space sometimes, right?
Besides, wed been dating only a few months.
I didnt want to seem needy, not to myself or to Lewis.
I certainly didnt think of myself as needyI was an inde-
pendent, career-minded young woman living in New York
City. But the truth was, I was afraid to call out Lewis on his
behavior and how it was making me feel, because the one
time I had tried to get him to talk about our relationship,
Relax, youre not
a stage-5 clinger.
hed gotten angry. He said he hated
to talk about his feelings; I insisted
one had to sometimes. We went to
bed mad. I lef early the next day to
catch a plane, and he didnt speak to
me the whole week I was away.
My friend Missy, whom I was
visiting in Tucson, told me this
was a dick move on Lewiss part.
Missys boyfriend echoed this. The
guy sounds like bad news, he said.
I agreed, ready to write Lewis o.
But as soon as I was headed home,
Lewis called. He apologized. I caved.
I decided the situation was less
black-and-white than Id thought.
Maybe I had been too pushy, too
girlie in my insistence on discuss-
ing things? Afer all, most men
dont like relationship talks.
As Lewiss behavior grew more
cruel and manipulative, I made
excuses for putting up with him.
I thought if I just rode out this rocky
period, hed forgive me and things
would go back to how theyd been.
Id tiptoe around him, timid where
I once felt condent. I began to
feel grateful for any time we spent
together, because it was only when
he was next to me that I felt secure
(and even then only sometimes).
I could see I was acting like a
dierent person from the one hed
fallen for and, more important,
from the person I thought I was. Id
become needy, insecure, and down-
right pathetic.
This phenomenon, in which an
otherwise together woman turns
into a sad, excuse-making doormat,
is one my friend Vanessa calls the
downward spiral of shame. Ah, the
irony: The worse you feel about it,
the more dependent you become on
the relationship thats the source
of your unhappiness. You become
increasingly desperate to save
it no matter what the cost to your
self-respect. It doesnt matter how
smart you are. We can all do it.
Vanessa went into her spiral of
shame with a guy she says wasnt
even a real boyfriend. Now she
wishes shed walked away as soon
as things began to deteriorate.
Instead, she kept seeing him even
though she knew he was dat-
ing other people. To this day, she
regrets an e-mail she sent him.
It was way too long and so earnest, she says. Im embar-
rassed because he didnt deserve such an honest letter. His
response, which wasnt nearly as longor as heartfelt
made her feel exposed and powerless.
For my friend Christine, it was Tom, a guy she met online
afer a long period of being single. Their rst three dates
were perfect. Then Tom went out of town for work. He
called her each night, and they talked for hours. When he
returned, on a Friday, he brought her a gif, and they spent
the weekend together. It was magical, Christine thought.
But on Sunday night, while she was still in a love-struck
haze, Tom called. He told her that he
wasnt over his ex but insisted he didnt
want to stop seeing Christinehe really
liked her. He just wanted to let her know
the situation.
Christine had no idea how to respond.
She had such a great time with him,
and because it had been a while since she
liked someone so much, she didnt want
to lose him and go back to square one.
And at least Tom was up front, right?
She thought his honesty should count for
something. On the other hand, nothing
could have been better calculated to make
Christine insecure than his strange confession.
Tom and Christine continued to see each other for more
than a month afer that, but from that point on, it wasnt
the same. Theyd spend an evening together, and then Tom
would insist he needed his space and disappear for a week.
But what could Christine do? When she complained, he
responded that he had warned her he had issues to work
out. In retrospect, she should have bailed as soon as she got
that unnerving phone call. But instead, she began making
excusesclassic downward spiral of shame.
Afer my relationship with Lewis ended, I was more
upset at the person Id become than I was about losing him.
Every time I thought of my own behaviorhow weak Id
been, how many excuses Id madeId cringe. It didnt feel
like me, and yet it was. At least, it had been.
S
everal years later, when I sat down to write The Love
Aairs of Nathaniel P., I wanted to write about the
downward spiral of shame that my friends and I had
experienced. We were all smart career women with
plenty of interests besides dating. None of us were the kind
of woman who needed a guy in her life at all moments.
And yet, wed all found ourselves tolerating behavior we
shouldnt have, in spite of the toll it took on our self-respect.
The not-especially-likable protagonist of my novel is
30-year-old Nate. He isnt a totally bad guyhes smart,
funny, and a good friendbut he has serious commitment
issues and can be toxic for the women he dates. In the book,
Nate begins to date a woman named Hannah, who is cool
and fun and challenges him in argument. But as Hannah
starts to let down her guard and become more comfortable
in the relationship, Nate grows restless and begins to pull
away. Because he wants to avoid uncomfortable conversa-
tions, he refuses to acknowledge what is happening. But he
doesnt break up with her either. He still likes her, even if he
I WAS
MORE
UPSET
AT THE
PERSON
ID
BECOME
THAN
I WAS
ABOUT
LOSING
HIM.
Crazy for
him
literally.
*Names have been changed.
has grown more conicted than he
used to be.
Nates inconsistent behavior
triggers in Hannah the same ago-
nized response Lewiss behavior
brought out in me. She shrinks
into herself, afraid to com-
plain. One night, eased
by bourbon, she says to
Nate, If someone told me
a month ago what things
would be like between us,
I would have said, No, Id
never stand for that. But
I keep negotiating down
what I think is okay. I like
youmy problem is that
I do like you.
S
ince the
book was
published
last July,
Ive heard
from many
women who
say theyve
dated guys just like Nate,
whose mixed signals
drove them crazy. These
guys behaved in ways
that were hurtful, but
they never quite crossed
the line so that you had to break up
with them. Like Lewis, they tended
to apologize afer theyd ruined
your vacation but before you could
say they were totally irredeem-
able. Or they were like Tom, whose
behavior could be seen as either
selsh or honest. Or as the ctional
Nate does when Hannah nally
tells him how she feels, they beg
for another chance and promise
to do better. These guys were just
jerkish enough to make us unhap-
py but just nice enough to give us
qualms about breaking o things.
But many of the women I heard
from had a hard time sympathiz-
ing with Hannah. She becomes so
weak, a journalist named Andrea
said. She reminds me of parts of
myself that I hate. An outspoken
23-year-old named Rachel came
to a reading to ask me why Han-
nah didnt kick Nate to the curb.
I found her very hard to like, she
said. I never want to be like her.
I get that. When I acted most
like Hannah, I found it hard to like myself. Its painful to
watch Hannah, who starts o so feisty and strong, become
so willing to take Nates shit. Its natural to want her to stick
it to Nate. But I didnt want to make her the woman I wish
Id been. I wanted to examine the eect Nates behavior has
on her. If it were too easy for her to walk away, his behavior
wouldnt seem nearly
as hurtful as I think
it actually is. If Han-
nah never lost her
cool, Nate would have
been let o the hook.
And then theres
this: Maybe it isnt
so terrible to have
been a Hannah at
one point. If Id done
it and all these other
women I heard from
had done it, then
maybe we should
stop feeling so
ashamed of the fact
that at some point
wed liked a guy
so much that we gave
him the benet of the
doubt for too long.
Ultimately, we all
picked ourselves up,
dusted ourselves o,
and learned from our
mistakes. I thought if
we could forgive the ctional Hannah her mistakes, maybe
we could also forgive ourselves.
Interestingly, its men who are most sympathetic toward
Hannah. Ive gotten hundreds of messages from guys,
almost all of whom sheepishly tell me they recognize their
worst behavior in Nate. And yet, they invariably feel for
Hannah. She was clearly responding to Nates passive-
aggression, said 20something Matt. These men take for
granted that Hannah is just neher only problem is dat-
ing Nate. Its Nate they see as having the emotional prob-
lems that make it hard for him to be in a happy relationship.
That squares with my own experience. Not long afer
Lewis and I split, I met my husband. From the start, I could
feel the dierence. I didnt have to worry about becoming the
person Id been with Lewis because I was with a guy who
made me feel secure rather than crazy, needy, or on edge.
My husband may not love having relationship
talkswho does?but he wouldnt get angry at
me for bringing something up. He wants us to
work and is willing to make the eort.
Even now, a part of me will always wish
I could excise the Lewis experience from my
memory. But then I remember that when I
or any of usam tempted to beat myself
up, its worth keeping in mind that the only
thing worse than being too vulnerable is never
being vulnerable at all.
I WAS
WITH
SOMEONE
WHO
MADE ME
FEEL
SECURE
RATHER
THAN
CRAZY,
NEEDY,
OR ON
EDGE.
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novel, out in
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this month.
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Having sex when you have an infection (UTI, yeast, bacterial vaginosis) can
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SO THATS WHAT MY TRAINER MEANT We translated tness
instructors jargony gym-speak so you can get even more out of your workouts.
Tense up like you
just stepped into
an ice-cold lake.
The spot on your
butt where you
get a bikini-
bottom tan line.
Ahem, that
would be your
mufn top.
LIZ PLOSSER
WORK
YOUR
OBLIQUES
ACTIVATE
YOUR
PELVIC
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SQUEEZE
YOUR
GLUTES
FEEL IT
IN YOUR
LOWER
ABS
It hurts here if
you get punched
in the stomach.
ENGAGE
YOUR
UPPER
BACK
Think: Crack a
nut between your
shoulder blades.
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Sol Republic Tracks
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A Stand with feet hip-width apart, arms at
sides. Pulse by squatting then standing for
30 beats. B Then squat and jump up while
swinging arms down and behind you for
30 beats. Continue alternating pulses and
jumps for the entire song.
TARYNS PLAYLIST Your trainer picks the best music for each move. JUMPS Some Nights, by Fun PUSH-UP POUNDS Lose Yourself, by Eminem
TARYNS TIP! Imagine youre literally exploding out of a small space as you jump.
A thin sole helps
you grip the ground.
Shoes, Adidas by
Stella McCartney,
$160, adidas.com
Seamless leggings
mean no muffin top.
Leggings, Lululemon,
$78, lululemon.com
AMP IT UP Keep your hips stationary throughout the move to really zing your abs.
B
A Get into plank position, with shoulders over hands. With ngers spread
wide and palm at, lift your left hand until it reaches chest height, B then
forcefully pound it down to oor as you come down into a low push-up.
Come back to plank. Repeat with left hand for 8 beats; repeat on right hand
for 8 beats. Continue alternating for the entire song.
BY LIZ PLOSSER
Any good trainer can change your body. Taryn Toomey, founder of
The Class in NYC (theclasswithtt.com), transforms your psyche
too. Vibrations and pounding help release toxic thoughtsIm
stres sed; its too hard; I cant, she says. Once or twice a week, cue
up her play list and do this heart-pumping, head-clearing routine.
Consider this sculpting hybridyoga,
strength, and car dioa therapy session.
CALM MIND,
SEXY BODY
B
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PUSH-UP
POUNDS
UP THE AHH... As you press up, imagine you are kicking stress and negativity out of your body and into the air.
A Kneel on oor with knees under hips, lean forward so elbows are under
shoulders, and balance on forearms. B Flex left foot and bend knee 90
degrees, then forcefully press it toward ceiling, raising leg as high as pos-
sible. Lower leg until knee taps oor; press it up again. Repeat to the beat
of the music for the entire song, then repeat with right leg to same song.
MIND TRICK Push away negative thoughts with each smack.
SHOULDER SMACKS
Kneel with heels under butt. Raise
arms to chest height, bending
elbows slightly, palms open and
facing each other. Open arms wide,
then smack hands together by
bringing arms forward. Repeat to
the beat for the entire song.
ZEN FINALE
Sit with legs crossed,
back straight, and
hands resting com-
fort ably on your
knees. Close your
eyes and breathe for
3 to 4 minutes.
KICK-UPS Since U Been Gone, by Kelly Clarkson TOE TAPS Royals, by Lorde SHOULDER SMACKS I Will Wait, by Mumford and Sons ZEN FINALE Temple of Silence, by Deuter
KICK-UPS
TOE TAPS
TAKE A BREATHER Cant make it through the whole song? Just do 5 more reps! Then lower your butt until youre ready to go at it again.
A
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FEEL EVEN BETTER Rest against a wall if youre not comfortable.
A Lie on back on oor with knees bent and arms at sides; lift butt off oor.
B Kick left toe toward the ceiling, making leg as straight as possible. Lower
left toe to tap oor; kick up again. Repeat to the beat for a song without
dropping butt; then repeat with right leg to same song.
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When Megan Joyce felt
the unmistakable burn-
ing and itching of a yeast
infection the day before
a big trip last summer,
she didnt waste time:
The 31-year-old natural-
health practitioner in
Los Angeles picked up an
over-the-counter remedy,
slid in the waxy egg-
shaped suppository, and
went to bed.
At 5 a.m., she woke up
with excruciating burn-
ing. It felt like someone
had taken a blow torch to
my vagina, she says. I
could barely walk. With
a hand mirror, she saw
her labia had swollen
to 10 times its normal
size. It took an emer-
gency visit to her ob-gyn
and a prescribed steroid
before she felt well again.
CHEMICAL OVERLOAD
Its happening to more of
us: Reactions to topical
solutions are so common
that William Ledger,
MD, an ob-gyn at Weill
Cornell Medical Center
in New York City, says he
doesnt recommend them
and prescribes the pill
Diucan instead. Turns
out, some women cant
tolerate the high concen-
If It Hurts
Anytime your
vagina is red, raw,
or itchy, see your
gyno. In the mean-
time, get relief
from a cool, wet
cloth and soapless
showers and by
applying a sooth-
ing, protective
layer of olive oil or
petroleum jelly. An
antihistamine like
Claritin or Benadryl
might help too.
If you have a
lot of sensitivi ties,
change your hab-
its: Use unscented
products, never
douche, and avoid
products that use
propylene glycol if
you pinpoint it to a
bad reaction. Like
snowakes, every
vagina is different.
Pay attention to
what keeps yours
feeling good.
Were addicted to products,
but all those chemicals might be
messing with our privates.
BY SARAH ELIZABETH RICHARDS
DOES YOUR
VAGINA NEED
A DETOX?
tration of the antifungal
ingredient in the single-
dose version. (There are
fewer complaints with
the three-day regimen.)
Yeast-infection meds
are the tip of the iceberg.
About one-quarter of
American women have
suered inammation,
pain, or itching on their
vulva, up from about
15 percent seven years
ago. Half the cases are
caused by harsh chemi-
cals in medicinal creams,
soaps, lubes, spermicide,
condoms, hygiene prod-
ucts, and vaginal dyes,
according to a review in
Clinical Medicine Insights:
Womens Health. Because
the vaginal canal and
vulva are rich in blood
vessels and mucus mem-
branes, they can absorb
chemicals at a higher rate
than your skin does.
WHY NOW?
Below-the-belt products
arent new, but were now
using many products at
the same time, explains
Miranda Farage, PhD,
research fellow at Procter
and Gambles Feminine
Care Clinical Sciences, in
Cincinnati, Ohio. Plus,
the trend toward wax-
ing and shaving means
women are removing the
protective layer of skin
and making it more sen-
sitive to a record level of
chemicals, Farage says.
You might have tolerated
yeast meds a few years
ago, but afer starting a
waxing habit and using
lubes and spermicides
with a new boyfriend, you
can stress the skin and
make it vulnerable.
Although any chemi-
cal in a product can
cause a reaction, because
symptoms can take 48
hours to are up, you
may miss the trig-
ger. One culprit you
would immediately
recognize? Dr. Ledger
singles out pro pylene
glycol, a chemical
preservative found in
many gels and oint-
ments that causes
a burning sensation
upon application
in some people.
He estimates that
10 percent of
his patients are
sensitive to it.
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SKIN
You know those women with skin so
healthy, they seem lit from within?
We know a few too, and we decided
to ask them how they got that way.
Take up their simple healthy-skin habits
and prepare to turn heads.
BY NICOLE CATANESE
the real girl
s
guide to
NATALIE CAPPELLO
29, video advertising sales associate
HER SKIN SECRET I use a gradual self-tanner on my body the minute
it starts to get warm. It takes away the pressure to get tan.
WHY IT WORKS Tan skin is damaged skin. When skin is hit with UV
light, cells called melanocytes make melanin (aka pigment) to
help ward o any more cellular injury. Not only can constant DNA
assaults lead to skin cancer, but they can also cause brown spots
to linger. If you like a bronze look, get it from a bottle.
Melina Kemph
29, senior mens fashion stylist
at Gilt Groupe
SKIN TYPE
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Which are you?
Find out on
page 208.
SKIN
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PRACTICE SAFE SUN
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HER SKIN SECRET
I use coconut oil
on my hair, and it
felt amazing on my
hands. So now I
apply it head-to-toe
as soon as I step
out of the shower.
WHY IT WORKS
Coconut oil is a
great moisturizer
because its rich in
omega fatty acids,
crucial for keeping
skin hydrated and
soft, says Gervaise
Gerstner, MD, a con-
sulting dermatologist
for LOral Paris in
NYC. Plus, it doesnt
leave skin overly
greasy. Put it on
while skin is damp
to help push water
and the hydrating
oil into skin.
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ASHLEY MAUSKOPF
21, fashion designer
HER SKIN SECRET I always wear a ton of SPF 50 on my arms,
shoulders, and backeven if Im just in a tank or sundress
running around. I dont mess around when it comes to my tattoos!
WHY IT WORKS Tats can make skin sun-sensitive. Sunscreen protects
the skin from tanning excessively, which can happen in pigmented
skin, such as where you have a tattoo, explains Macrene Alexiades-
Armenakas, MD, PhD, a dermatologist in NYC. Plus, it helps
prevent UV light from causing your precious body art to blur.
HER SKIN SECRET
When Im in the
sun, not only do I
always have sun-
screen on, I also wear
a wide-brimmed hat
and sunglasses with
UV protective lenses
and sit under an
umbrella. I look chic
on the beach
and keep my skin
healthy too.
WHY IT WORKS
Sunscreen is great
but not perfect, says
Elizabeth Tanzi, MD,
associate professor
of dermatology at
George Washington
University Medical
Center, in D.C.
So wear sunglasses
year-round and a
hat if youll be out-
side all day.
Christina Caruso
36, jewelry design director
Gradually Gorgeous
This genius gel for your face
evens out imperfections
instantly and builds a glow
over time. DiorSkin Nude
Tan Prime and Bronze, $42,
dior.com
HER SKIN SECRET
I apply sunscreen
on my legs even if
Im just going to be
hanging out in the
backyard in shorts.
My mother has been
diagnosed with skin
cancer three times,
so Im paranoid! I
also wear an antioxi-
dant serum and an
SPF 50 on my face all
summer long.
WHY IT WORKS
The back of the calf
is the most common
melanoma spotwe
tend to forget our legs.
Antioxidants dont
block UV light, but
they help repair dam-
age as its occurring,
says Dr. Alexiades-
Armenakas. Layering
SPF and serum can
help slow the aging
effects of the sun.
Jessica M. Lira
32, trading team analyst
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I Never
Dreamed
It Was
Skin
Cancer
Blowing off a new mole meant
Allison Beale missed an early
skin-cancer diagnosis. The
malignant growth could have
taken her life.
As a strawberry blonde with fair skin,
I was always careful about the sun. My
little sister and I shared a running joke
about our mutual compulsion to reapply
sunscreen every 15 minutes and spent
more time beneath beach umbrellas and
hats than actually in the sun.
Ironically, I was under an umbrella
at my parents beach house in North
Carolina when my father pointed out the
mole on my neck. Id noticed it about six
months earlier, and in the meantime, it
had gone from tiny and esh-colored to
protruding and black.
The morning after I got home, the
mole hurt and began oozing blood. As
I dabbed it, I called a dermatologist, but
I didnt suspect there was anything seri-
ously wrong with me.
The doctor insisted on a biopsy right
away. At rst, all I
thought was, Ugh,
Im going to have
a tiny scar on my
neck. But even
as the derm was
scraping the mole,
she told me she
could already tell
that it had spread.
Spread? Growing?
Finally, it hit me.
Now I couldnt
stop thinking about
the mole I had
ignoredit was
there when I show-
ered, when I walked
to work, when
I texted a friend. A
week later, I found
out the mole was malignant melanoma
stage 1B. I was scheduled for surgery a
couple of weeks later. I couldnt believe
this was happening. I was only 33. It was
summer. I was happy, starting a relation-
ship. I didnt want it to get weird because
of my health issuesI wanted to savor
the sparks of my summer ing.
The night before my surgery, my sister
and girlfriends threw a cut cancer
out party on an apartment rooftop. We
listened to music, and they brought all
my favorite foodsburgers, platters of
tomatoes and cheese, and wine. It was
an amazing distraction. But later that
night, my sister and I cuddled together
on my bed and cried in the darkness. I
was so scared, it made my stomach hurt.
The next morning, the surgeon said he
would make a deep, wide incision, and
I nodded silently. If he wanted my arm he
couldve had it: I wanted the cancer out.
Surgery recovery was uncomfortable.
But the toughest part was seeing the
large, red, swollen scar. Id always loved
accentuating my collarbone. Now, I wore
a neck scarf every day, hiding my scar.
But something changed in me as the
days went by: I started to think of my
scar as something to be proud of. I took
off the scarf and wore funky Cynthia
Rowley Band-Aids to play up the wound
on my neck.
Last June, I
was pronounced
cancer-free. When
my doctor told me
there were surgical
options to help hide
my scar, I got
upsetoverprotec-
tive even. I dont
want it to fade
away, for things
to go back to the
way they were. Im
stronger now.
Im more conscien-
tious. And I feel
better informed.
I know what to
look for should this
happen again.
Skin cancer is the most common
cancer in the U.S., and rates are
rising in young women. Once a
month, do a head-to-toe scan of
your skin. Look out for...
ASYMMETRY Imagine a line down the cen-
ter of a molevertically and horizontally.
If the sides dont match, it could signal cell
division associated with skin cancer.
BORDER Cancer tends to make a moles
edges jagged, chaotic, or pointy in one spot.
COLOR Its not how dark or light your spot
is, its how even. For example, be wary of
a light brown mole with red specks.
DIAMETER Check out anything larger than
a pencil eraser.
EVOLVING Most important: If a growths
color, edges, or size morphs or bothers you
in any way, see a doctor.
MONIQUE
MENESES
30, beauty and fashion writer
HER SKIN SECRET Every night,
I treat a specic part of my
body to some TLC. One day,
its a lip treatment; another,
its a hydrating face mask,
a body-tightening serum
for my neck, or a thick hand
cream before I go to bed.
WHY IT WORKS At night,
treatments can really soak
in and do what theyre
meant to, uninterrupted,
says Dr. Tanzi. By keeping
on a regular schedule,
the cumulative eect of
treatments pays oand
by rotating body parts,
no area will be missed.
SKIN
TYPE
3
SKIN
TYPE
2
SOURCES: AMERICAN ACADEMY OF DERMATOLOGY; SKIN CANCER FOUNDATION; ELIZABETH TANZI, MD
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YOUR SKIN RX Zinc oxide (at right) or titanium
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HER SKIN SECRET I always use a gentle cleanser on my sensitive
skin and a heavier moisturizer in the winter and a lighter one
in the summer. By not switching products all the time, I dont
irritate my skin and give the products a chance to do their
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HAIR
Red or
blonde
HAIR
Brown
HAIR
Dark
brown
or black
HAIR
Red or
sandy
blonde
HAIR
Dark
brown
HAIR
Black
HER SKIN SECRET
Im so fair-skinned
that I never
get tanI only
burnso I wear a
sunscreen every
single day of the
year, no matter
what. And in the
summer, I bump
it up to the
highest SPF that
I can find50+.
WHY IT WORKS
Because the beach
is not the only place
youre in the sun.
Five minutes here,
10 minutes there,
and now youve had
two hours of full
sun exposure by the
time the week is
over, says Dr. Tanzi.
The cumulative
effect is bad news.
Kate Garber 26, nanny
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Blue
EYES
Green,
hazel,
or blue
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or blue
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hazel, or
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Brown
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SKIN
Fair
SKIN
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brown
SKIN
Very
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IN THE SUN
You always
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in 15 minutes.
IN THE SUN
You gradually
tan, burn in 60
to 70 minutes.
IN THE SUN
You very rarely
burn and tan
very easily.
IN THE SUN
You usually
burn in about
40 minutes.
IN THE SUN
You tan easily
and burn
in 2 hours.
IN THE SUN
You hardly
ever/never
burn.
Types 1 and 2
Types 3 and 4
Types 5 and 6
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PHOTOGRAPHED BY EMILY KATE ROEMER
YOUR
POPCORN
NEEDS SOME
SUGAR
Movie-theater
popcorn aint
got nothin
on pecan-pie
popcorn.
DONT DENY
THE GOS
Perfect night:
You wrapped
in blankets and
staring into
Rys riveting
blue eyes.
PSSTKEEP
YOUR CANDY
HANDY
Leave bowls of
sweets everywhere
for easy access.
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DIY THE MOVIE SCREEN
(YOU TOTALLY CAN!)
The Property Brothers Jonathan and
Drew Scott share their pro tips.
SINCE YOURE
AMONG FRIENDS
Play a
Drinking
Game!
SWIG EVERY TIME
Ryan and Raohol
kiss.
Ryan and Raohol
havo sox.
Ryan ausos in
frustration boforo
talkinq to Raohol.
Ryan and Raohol
soom liko an
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ooulo.
rom-dram to end all rom-drams
(thats The Notebook, which turns
10 this year). Swap out Chatty
Cathy seatmates for your favorite
people, musty air for a fresh
breeze, and creaky seats for plush
pillows. This is the ultimate
summer movie-going experience.
1. A white painters drop cloth
or white blackout fabric (drapery
lining) works perfectly as an
inexpensive and durable screen.
2. Attach fabric to a wall or a rope
stretched between posts. Weigh
down the fabric to keep it taut.
3. Choose a dark place away from
streetlights for a vivid picture.
4. If all else fails, find a blank wall,
or move your screening indoors!
HEY, GIRL. LETS HOST
Must. Bo. Comfy.
Thoso qoodios
mako it haon.
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Throw, $49,
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Sauvignon blanc, $38,
Into a Projector
lt's oasy with a rojootor attaohmont (iPhone Projector,
$280, urbanoutfitters.com). You oan ovon mako
ono yoursolf with a shoobox (tho wondors of 6ooqlo!).
212 COSMOPOLITAN | JuhE 2O14
Trondy movio thoators
havo drinkin otions. You
should follow suit. Koo
bottlos on hand for oxtra fun.
Dont Just
Lubricate With
Tears!
Chardonnay, Estancia,
$11.99, totalwine.com
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GIVE THE PEOPLE WHAT THEY WANT: Movie Snacks!
You know what the classics are, so stock up and put them out on a big tray.
(The upshot: This is definitely cheaper than buying candy at the theater.)
1. With a rack in the
center, preheat oven to
200 degrees. Combine
2 cups brown sugar, 2
sticks salted butter, and
cup light corn syrup in
a pan; boil for 5 minutes.
2. Whisk in 1 teaspoon
each baking soda and
vanilla extract. Stir in
cup chopped pecans.
3. Cool slightly, then pour
over 8 cups of popped
popcorn. Stir to coat.
Spread popcorn mixture
onto a cookie sheet lined
with wax paper. Bake for
about an hour, stirring
every 15 minutes.
the kale on paper towels to drain.
3. Put fried kale in a bowl. Toss with 2 teaspoons
ground cayenne and 1 cup grated American
Grana, such as BelGioioso. Salt to taste.
Perfect Pear
Pour the mixture
over fresh ice, then
top with a splash
each of ginger ale and
Pama Pomegranate
Liqueur. Garnish with
a lime wedge.
You and this drink
go together like
Ryan and Rachel
er, Noah and Allie.
YOU CANT LIVE ON EYE CANDY ALONE
Master your grilled-cheeses
with this advice from
Jason Hicks of NYCs La Maison
du Croque Monsieur.
1. Go with day-old (but good) bread.
2. Use clarified butter for even toasting.
3. Lower the heat! If the cheese is
too hot, you cant taste it.
4. Dont overload your
sandwich. Everything
in moderation.
ALL THE ODOR CONTROL
AT HALF THE WEIGHT!
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HOW DO YOU MAKE A PLACE YOURS?
Use color. Its a really easy way to
personalize a space. Take it from
design blogger Will Taylor, author of
Bright Bazaar (out now), who shared
reason you shouldnt love coming home to it every day.
1. UGLY FLOOR? Invest in an
extra-large area rug. Ask for
offcuts from a decorating
stores carpet department
if you want to score a deal.
ENTRYWAY
TO TURN YOUR
If youre looking for more
storage, get a small bookcase and
use it to hold shoes and bags. You
can also use it to display pictures
or fun things youve collected.
Capri rug,
from $99.95,
zgallerie.com
Tile wool
kilim,
from $69,
westelm
.com
Linen cushion
cover, $17.95,
hm.com
Splash pool pillow,
Eskayel, $165,
burkedecor.com
Wall shelf,
$49.99,
ikea-usa.com
for stores
9. A STEM OR
TWO of pretty
blossoms in
a simple vase
is all you need
for a happy
moment. Take
a walk in
the park (free),
or pick up
something from
the florist or
grocery store
(less work). Now
youve got color
and nature in
your space. Yay!
5. SWITCH out
the lamp shade
on your old
table lamp.
(Hello, pretty!)
For pleasant
light, try
dimmable soft-
white Cree
LED bulbs.
concert tickets, postcards, and your favorite
pictures. You can personalize and cover up
(#RealTalk) anything you think is too plain or unsightly.
BEDROOM
KITCHEN
3. Pull dierent colors
in a room together with
the help of decorative
throw pillows. Use
them to reference
various elements in
your space, like the
couch and the rug.
7. Arrange your stu by color. With a bookcase, try organiz ing
books by taking them from light to dark for an ombr eect.
Set a vase or lamp on a stack of books for more interest.
10. Open up a small
kitchen by taking
the doors o your
cabinetry. Your cabi-
nets are now display
cases. Make sure to
leave some empty
space so the eye has
room to breathe.
Lamp
shade,
$129.99,
lampsplus
.com
Double gourd vase, $20, furbishstudio.com;
tricot bud vases, $12, libastyle.com;
handmade ceramic bowl, $135, food52.com/provisions
Assorted gift
wrap, from
$3.95, paper-
source.com
Notecards, from
$14.95, chronicle
books.com
6. HANG A
MIRROR. It
reflects light
around a
space, which
makes your
room look
bigger. And
now you
know how you
look. Perfect.
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GEMINI
MAY 22JUNE 20
(AUGUST 23SEPTEMBER 22)
FOCUS ON: Befriending your coworkers.
With the right people on your side, youll
be unstoppable at the ofce. YOUR MANTRA:
Its all in the details. Do one project at a
time, from conception to completion. Your
eagle-eyed attention will pay off! DONT
BOTHER: Redecorating on a whim. Your
tastes are evolving right now, so wait on
that new plaid sofa youll later regret! POWER
OF ATTRACTION: The 19th, which unites your
ruler Mercury and the Sun, is your power
day! Slip on your favorite dress, grab your
girls, and head out for a night to remember.
LEO
(JULY 23AUGUST 22)
FOCUS ON: A girls night. The 6th is the night
to pregame at your casa with homemade
peach margaritas, then with inhibitions
down, hit a karaoke bar with your whole
lady posse. YOUR MANTRA: Get smart and
geek out. Take a class on app design and
get a step closer to selling your company to
Facebook for billions. DONT BOTHER: Being
too dramatic. Take a step back and try to
have a sense of humor about whatevers
setting you off. POWER OF ATTRACTION: Hello,
cute new guy at work! Have some fun
irting, but let him make a move.
CANCER
(JUNE 21JULY 22)
FOCUS ON: Tying up loose ends early in
the month so you can be a social buttery
around your birthday guilt-free. YOUR
MANTRA: Run your own show. Youre the
star in your own life, so make sure youre
the one writing the script. DONT BOTHER:
Beating yourself up. Youve come a
really long way this year, so think about
everything you made happen. POWER OF
ATTRACTION: Make the most of the balmy
weather and surprise your guy with a
midnight skinny-dip! You + moonlight -
clothes = a night neither of you will forget!
STELLAR GIFTS As a natural and
charismatic storyteller, youre
the shining star at every party.
BLIND SPOTS Sometimes, in an
effort to keep things breezy, you
gloss over peoples feelings.
FASHION FAVES Youre a master at
making any look more you with
standout accessories.
INDULGENCE Whiling away the
hours entranced by your favorite
blogs and Pinterest boards
SEDUCTION STYLE First, he falls for
This is a spectacular
moment to put your work plans
into action. Dont be shy about
asking for a raise! The Full Moon
in your partnership zone on the
13th makes for a perfect date
night. Find someplace you can
dance together under the stars,
then take him home for some
more private fireworks.
enhance your personal brand.
Off-hours, open the door to new
delightsa fantasy youve been
keeping quiet could open up a
Aries You two make an active
and playful couple who also
always have each others back.
Aquarius You guys can stay up
all night having fascinating
talks, both dirty and deep!
Get a sneak peek at what to look
forward toand what to watch out for this month.
BY AURORA TOWER @AuroraAstro
10, 1992
ZO SALDANA JUNE 19, 1978

VENUS WILLIAMS JUNE 17, 1980
LUCY HALE JUNE 14, 1989
BIRTHDAY
GIRLS
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SAGITTARIUS
( NOVEMBER 22DECEMBER 21)
FOCUS ON: Putting yourself out there! With
the Sun in your relationship zone, its the
month to set up tons of dates because one
of them might lead to something special.
YOUR MANTRA: Give back. Someone whos
been really good to you needs your care and
attention this month. DONT BOTHER: Working
yourself up about a family situation. You
can support one another even if you dont
always see things eye to eye. POWER OF
ATTRACTION: Plan a red-hot date for the 6th.
Bust out your best damn, girl dress, and
tell him to suit up. #BestNightEver
LIBRA
(SEPTEMBER 23OCTOBER 22)
FOCUS ON: Keeping up your amazing
momentum. Youve been ring on all
cylinders. Take care of yourself, so you
can keep killing it. YOUR MANTRA: Fortune
favors the bold. Push your boundaries by
taking a risk at work or trying a new class at
the gym. DONT BOTHER: Doubting yourself
on the 25th. Follow your instincts, and
dont let others bring you down. POWER OF
ATTRACTION: Putting your legendary irting
skills to work will attract a new admirer.
Seduce him on the dance oor and hell
beg you for a private encore at home.
PISCES
(FEBRUARY 19MARCH 20)
FOCUS ON: Connecting with Mom and Dad.
They dont want to bother you, but your
special brand of TLC is just what they
need. YOUR MANTRA: True friendship lasts
forever. Reach out to an old bestie. Youll
both realize how much youve missed each
other and make it a regular thing. DONT
BOTHER: Openly disagreeing with your
bosses this month. Youll win them over
to your way of thinking if you stay sweet.
POWER OF ATTRACTION: Youre irresistible on
the 29th! This is the night to tell him about
your secret fantasy. Hell be all over it.
AQUARIUS
(JANUARY 20FEBRUARY 18)
FOCUS ON: Adding some sparkle to your life.
Make a new friend, buy a new dress, check
out a new cafnone will disappoint. YOUR
MANTRA: Raise the bar. Your condence
is inspiring those around you. Nows the
time to take a leadership role on a project
at work. DONT BOTHER: Making important
decisions while Mercury is in retrograde
between June 7th and July 1st. Waiting it
out will be best. POWER OF ATTRACTION: Step
out of your comfort zone on the 6th and
give the guy checking you out a chance. He
may be just what youve been waiting for.
SCORPIO
(OCTOBER 23NOVEMBER 21)
FOCUS ON: Your inner sex goddess. Grab
your Cosmo Kama Sutra and get busy
trying out some new moves with your guy.
Picking them together will reenergize your
connection. YOUR MANTRA: Reach for the
stars. You tend to compartmentalize the
different areas of your life, but think about
the big picture instead and things will fall
into place. DONT BOTHER: Being too stubborn
with friends. Your time together is precious,
so chill out. POWER OF ATTRACTION: On the 8th,
Venuss aspect to your ruler Pluto will cause
sparks to y with a sexy stranger.
TAURUS
( APRI L 21MAY 21)
FOCUS ON: Treating yourself! The most
sensuous part of your chart is lighting
up right now. Draw a bubble bath for you
and your man, or buy a new waterproof
toy for a guaranteed good time. YOUR
MANTRA: Be collaborative. You might get
the solution to that problem youve been
trying to solve by discussing it. DONT
BOTHER: Getting jealous. Theres plenty
of friendship to go around. POWER OF
ATTRACTION: Single? Go out with friends on
the 29th and youll probably make a new
special friend before the night is over.
ARIES
(MARCH 19APRIL 20)
FOCUS ON: Connecting and community.
Network with a professional group, and
volunteer at your local park. Youll reap
what you sow! YOUR MANTRA: Theres no
I in team. Youre a natural leader, but take
a step back and let a colleague take the
reins on the 29thyou will learn lots. DONT
BOTHER: Telling your roomie she makes you
nuts. Mercury is in retrograde, so wait it
out and talk about it next month if its still
a thing. POWER OF ATTRACTION: You have
doubts, but he doesnt. Give him a chance
to (creatively) prove his devotion.
LOVES A girl whos up for anything
to be his partner in adventure!
HATES Boring Groundhog Day
routines that stifle his creativity.
DREAM DATE Outdoorsy,
sporty fun followed by intimate
indoor playtime.
WIN HIM OVER By showing an
interest in the things hes pas-
sion ate about. You might even
like fly-fishing (theres a chance!).
WHAT HES IN THE
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Hes in a creative and naughty
mood, so lie back and let him ravish you.
Leo Guy time is key for him now, so plan
a night out with your combined groups.
A love match might result!
Virgo Work is crazytown for him, so hes
craving a cuddly night at home with you.
Libra Its time for a getaway. Hotel sex?
Yes, please. Book a cozy room and go.
Scorpio The romantic side you hoped he
had is out in full force. Better hold on, girl!
Sagittarius Appreciating the small
moments gets you closer. Grocery
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Capricorn He needs to spruce up his
space and wants your help. Hint: Clearly,
he needs 500-thread-count sheets.
Aquarius He wants to go out, show you
off, then show off for you back home.
Pisces Hes in nesting mode, so have a
tasty night in. Splurge on some steaks,
then savor dessert deux in bed.
Aries Your ability to charm anyone gets
this social boy going. He may not be able
to wait till youre home to get it on!
Taurus His libido is off the charts. Take
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The GEMINI Man
DAVE FRANCOJUNE 12, 1985
AURORAS
FINAL
WORD
With Mercury in retrograde from June 7th until July 1st, there may be misunderstandings at work and at home. Dont get too
upset, because the month also holds unexpected pleasures! The Sun is in Gemini until June 21st, so focus on good times
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CAPRICORN
(DECEMBER 22JANUARY 19)
FOCUS ON: Your body-and-mind balance.
Youve got places to go and energy to
burn. Just be sure to blow off steam in a
positive way. Cardio dance, anyone? YOUR
MANTRA: The more, the merrier! Sociable
Venus is in your fun zone, which means
any party you plan will be a hit. DONT
BOTHER: Fighting with a friend on the 12th.
Saturns inuence will cause you to be
short-tempered, but let it go. POWER OF
ATTRACTION: Romance will heat up for you
on the 21st, so get ready for him to woo you
old-school with owers and gifts. Yay!
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Corinne is about to marry her
perfect guy. Handsome, smart,
and from a good family, Dixon is
everything her socialite parents
could have hoped for. But
what happens when a ghost from
the past threatens to unravel
her picture-perfect future?
Find out in this special preview
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ONE LAST
FLING
CORINNE SAT ON THE LOUIS XIV SETTEE IN THE LIVING ROOM OF HER UPPER EAST SIDE
apartment. Evan Pierce sat opposite her, a large leather binder in her lap.
So weve got hydrangeas and peonies for the altar, she repeated.
And youre choosing the wine tonight? Evan asked, still looking at her list.
The chef from Coxswain, Will Coolidge, will meet you there.
Actually, Im wondering why you chose Coxswain, Corinne said shakily.
Evan frowned. Its the restaurant to watch. I thought youd be pleased.
I am, Corinne said quickly. It seems. I just
What on earth could she say? I dont want to use this restaurant because I had
a secret ing ve years ago with the chef? It wasnt like Evan knew.
Dixon strode into the room, freshly showered from the gym. His skin smelled
like Kiehls mens products, and his hair was slicked off his face. Hey, lovely
ladies, he crooned.
Im off, Evan said, leaping up. She kissed Corinnes cheek, then Dixons and
strode toward the foyer. In moments, the front door slammed.
So listen. Im really sorry, but I cant make it to the tasting tonight.
Corinne stared at him. What? Why?
One of our deals went south. I have to make some calls, put out some res.
Cant someone else do it? She wanted Dixon to come as a buffer with Will.
Dixon looked torn. Babe, Im sorry, but Ill make it up to you. Whats the next
appointment? Florist? Designer? Ill try on your dress for you if you want.
She almost thought she might cry. She just couldnt go to this alone. And worse,
she couldnt even explain to Dixon why she couldnt.
Dixon inspected her face. Whats the matter?
Maybe she could tell him. Surely hed had ings during that year too.
Why did you break up with me that summer? she blurted.
Dixon lowered the remote. Whered that come from?
Corinne kept her eyes on the carpet. Well, I was just wondering. We never
EXCERPTED FROM THE
HEIRESSESS, BY SARA SHEPARD
FROM
THE
AUTHOR OF THE
PRETTY LITTLE
LIARS SERIES,
SARA SHEPARD
Now here she was. She clutched her wine-
glass. Her heart started to pound. Shed car-
ried around a mental image of every contour of
Wills face and body for ve years. She rubbed
her palms against her eyes, smearing her
makeup. What was she thinking? She balled
a napkin in her hands and stood. I think Ive
had too much to drink. I must look awful.
Will stood too. You look amazing.
He placed his hand on her arm. Her head
hummed. And suddenly, it was as if she had
oated out of her body and was watching
from above, from some other plane. Corinne
reached out for Will, pulling his neck toward
her. He fell into her, his mouth hungrily
search ing for hers. Bumping against one
another, they backed out of the private room
into one of the cellars, a space dry and dark.
Will laid Corinne down and gazed at her. He
opened his mouth, as if to say something, but
she covered it. He pawed at the waistband of
her skirt desperately.
The night on the boat washed over her once
more. After Corinne had told him all the things
that made her embarrassed, hed taken her
into his arms. It almost felt as if something
were swelling inside herand if it didnt hap-
pen right that moment, she would burst.
There in the wine cellar, Will kissed her
neck as he tore off her sweater, and she
arched her back against the oor. He pushed
her skirt up around her waist. And then they
breathed into each other, their mouths tasting
like wine. Oh my god, Will kept saying, every
so often pausing to stare at her. Tears formed
in Corinnes eyes, although she wasnt sad. It
was just that she remembered Will doing that
same thing the rst time they were together.
Looking at her like that, as if he couldnt
believe this was happening.
Her thoughts slipped back to that rst night
once more. The boat had bobbed with their
movements. Their sounds echoed across the
bay. Corinne had never felt particularly pas-
sionate about sex before that night, but with
Will above her, blanketed by a canopy of stars,
something happened. Something that felt very
different. An aligning of the planets, maybe.
A big bang, creating a universe.
From the book The Heiresses, by Sara
Shepard. Copyright 2014 by Alloy
Entertainment and Sara Shepard.
Reprinted by permission of Harper, an
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really talked about it, and were about to get married.
She wanted to rewrite history, to twist things around until Dixon was responsi-
ble for everything that went wrong. If he hadnt broken up with me, I never would
have met Will. If hed answered my calls, my life wouldnt have gone so wildly
off-course. It wasnt fair.
I dont know if its worth dwelling on, to be honest, said Dixon.
Fine, she said haughtily as she gathered her things to leave.
ATER THAT EVENING, CORINNE RUSHED PAST THE SHOPS AT ROCKEFELLER
Center toward the St. Regis hotel. Maybe she shouldnt have worn
such a short skirt. Then she wondered if she was overthinking all this.
She was merely tasting wine.
Corinne blinked. Go home, said a voice in her mind. But she turned
east, walking past Fifth Avenue. She took a deep breath as she pressed through
the gilded double doors into the glittering lobby.
When she spied Will waiting for her by the con-
cierge, she lowered her eyes and counted the
checkerboard squares on the oor as she crossed
the room. Her heart pounded.
Sorry Im late, she said to Will as she approached.
Will glanced behind her. Wheres your anc? He said anc the way
someone might say child molester.
Something came up.
No problem, he told her, somewhat impersonally. They started down a set
of stairs where they entered a small, grotto-like private room lit by hundreds of
ickering candles. A bar was set up at the end of the room; two stools beckoned.
Will looked at Corinne. Welcome to your private tasting. He slid onto one of
the stools. I guess since Dixon couldnt make it, Ill help you out.
ORINNE SIPPED THE FIRST GLASS, A FRUITY CHARDONNAY, THEN TOOK
another sip. She could feel Wills eyes on her again. She needed a
drink. This one is lovely, she said as she set the glass on the table.
Will chuckled. Long day?
Sometimes it feels like its been a long few decades.
She gazed at Wills pink, sensuous lips. She remembered dis-
tinctly what it had felt like to kiss him.
They helped themselves to another glass. Then another. And though she knew
she should get home, she couldnt will her body to get up from the stool.
She thought back to how theyd met. Will had found Corinne shopping in town.
Hed peered at her from across the street and then walked over and slipped a note
into her hand. The boatyard at midnight, it read.
It had been a warm and sticky night. Corinne had stood alone on the docks in
a long skirt and way-too-expensive leather sandals. But then Will had appeared
through the mist and took her hand, leading her to a small shing boat halfway
down the slip. You have a boat? he asked.
Just my familys. It wasnt just a boat, exactlyit was a massive yacht.
Dont worry. I dont want to know about your family. I want to know about
youthe real you.
The real you. It was a concept she didnt quite understand. I am Corinne Say-
brook. I had a 3.87 average at Yale. Ive read every Jane Austen book twice. I just
broke up with Dixon Shackelford, and starting next month, I will be working in the
foreign-business department of my familys company.
And so she said all thateven the part about Dixon. Will had given her a
searching look. That sounds like a rsum. Youre more than that.
Was she? Now she looked across him at the bar. I was always a good girl. That
meant working for the family. It meant going to the right schools and wearing the
right clothes and marrying She trailed off.
What was that? Will asked.
Marrying well, she admitted.
Wills lips trembled for a moment. Lifes too short to care about marrying well.
SHE REMEMBERED DISTINCTLY
WHAT IT HAD FELT LIKE TO KISS HIM.
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Is that the sun blinding me or is it just
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a. Ride his haunches like Xena, Warrior
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b. Lie there like a dead sh until hes done.
c. Roll over and sleep. Every man for himself!
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monkey sex, and you finish first. Your next move is to:
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boyfriends parents house for
the first time, so obviously, you:
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b. Find out where the nearest Chipotle is.
c. Ask if she can unblock Facebook on your work
computer and say you need more paid vacay.
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Youve been at your new job for exactly five
minutes when your boss swings by to check in.
Its the perfect time to:
a. Kindness.
b. A dope penis and a steady job.
c. A summer house, biatch!
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The most important quality in a life partner is:
a. All you need is love.
b. Work hard, play hard.
c. Hurry up with my
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b. Pretend to give a shit about
their vintage family photos.
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vegan breakfast.
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Mostly Cs
HANNAH HORVATH
Yikes, girl. Youre like if Kanye had sex
with himself and spawned a baby that was
raised by Paris Hilton. I hope youre an
eccentric genius, because that is the only
excuse for your whole thing. My advice
is to rein it in and learn some manners.
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I wouldnt call you Humble Harriet, but
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