4 Types of Serial Bullies

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Profiling serial bullies 1 2 3 4
he profile of a serial bully covers the most commonly-reported behaviours of serial bullies.
From casework, Tim Field has been able to identify four primary types of serial bully. The
bully wants to enjoy the benefits of living in the adult world, but is unable and unwilling to
accept the responsibilities that go with enjoying the benefits of the adult world.
The serial bully is an adult on the outside but a child on the inside; he or she is like a child who
has never grown up. Without further ado, the 4 most common types of serial bullies.
The Attention-Seeker
Motivation: to be the centre of attention
Mindset: control freak, manipulation, narcissism
Malice: medium to high; when held accountable, very high
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emotionally immature
selectively friendly - is sickly sweet to some people, rude and offhand to others, and ignores
the rest
is cold and aggressive towards anyone who sees them for what they really are or exposes
their strategies for gaining attention
overfriendly with their new target, especially in the initial stages of a new working
relationship
overhelpful, ditto
overgenerous, ditto
manipulative of people's perceptions, but in an amateur and childish manner
manipulative with guilt, ditto
sycophantic, fawning, toadying
uses flattery to keep a person in authority on side
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prefers not to solve problems in own life so that they can be used and re-used for gaining
sympathy and attention
capitalises on issues and uses them as a soapbox for gaining attention
exploits others' suffering and grief as a vehicle for gaining attention
misappropriates others' statements, eg anything which can be misconstrued as politically
incorrect, for control and attention-seeking
excusitis, makes excuses for everything
shows a lot of indignation, especially when challenged
lots of self-pity
often as miserable as sin, apart from carefully constructed moments of charm when in the
act of deceiving
demanding of others
easily provoked
feigns victimhood when held accountable, usually by bursting into tears or claiming they're
the one being bullied and harassed
presents as a false victim when outwitted
may feign exclusion, isolation or persecution
malicious
constantly tries and will do almost anything to be in the spotlight
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the focus of their life is to be the centre of attention
similar to the attention-seeker
is one of life's chronic underperformers and is best described as ineffectual in everything
craves undeserved respect and attention and will go to considerable lengths to acquire
them
hangs around the fringes of a profession
not professionally qualified but claims they are a professional because they sit next to a
professional or work alongside or near or in the midst of professionals, or provide services
to professionals
lacks the ability, competence and professionalism to be a qualified professional
wants so much to be seen as competent professional person but is unable and unwilling to
put in the work to achieve this
is unable and unwilling to apply knowledge gained from experience but instead devotes
time and effort to improving skills of deception, manipulation, false claim, denial and
projection
may have been rejected by their chosen profession for lack of competence
is spiteful towards and despises anyone who is qualified in the profession from which the
bully has been excluded by virtue of lack of competence
is likely to be vilifying the profession they want to belong to or which they're claiming to be
part of or which they are claiming to represent
displays a deep-seated envy and jealousy of the professionals that he or she works
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harbours a bitter resentment, grudge, distaste and contempt for the professionals that he
or she works alongside or claims to serve
is likely to be criticising, condemning, disadvantaging and causing detriment to the
professionals he or she works alongside or claims to serve
may seek positions of power over the professionals he or she works alongside or claims to
serve, perhaps to facilitate a compulsion to criticise, condemn, disadvantage and cause
detriment
is irresistibly drawn to organisations, roles and positions which offer the wannabe power
and control over the professionals s/he despises (eg inspection regimes, approval roles,
regulatory bodies, ticksheet compliance schemes, political correctness police, trade union
official, etc) - and is often described as a talentless jobsworth
when in a position of power associates with and makes alliances with or surrounds him or
herself with clones, drones, minions, fellow wannabes, sycophants and brown-nosers
instinctively objects to any suggestion of change, reform, improvement, progress or
evolution, but has no viable or positive alternatives of their own
opposes every idea, suggestion, opinion, contribution or reform on principle but has no
original, positive, constructive ideas or contributions of his or her own
is likely to plagiarise and steal others' ideas which are then put forward as their own
may place undue emphasis or reliance on an old, minor or irrelevant qualification to bolster
their claim of belonging to or deserving to belong to a profession
may claim ambiguous or misleading or bogus or fraudulent qualifications, associations and
experience
displays a superior sense of entitlement because they associate with or serve higher
performers
emotionally immature
controlling
easily provoked
when challenged is adept at rewriting history to portray themselves as competent,
professional and successful, regardless of multiple witnesses and overwhelming evidence to
the contrary
quickly and loudly feigns victimhood when exposed and held accountable, often repeatedly
and loudly accusing the person holding them accountable of being a bully
when held accountable makes conflicting and contradictory threats and demands (eg
demands apology but orders the other person not to communicate with them)
when held accountable makes lots of loud but empty threats (eg of legal action such as
libel, slander, defamation etc)
only carries out threats of legal action when in the presence of a superior serial bully,
especially a sociopath type
may indulge their jealousy and envy of professionals or those they claim to serve by
pursuing vindictive vendettas, sometimes with the help of a superior serial bully, especially a
sociopath type
is easily manipulated and controlled by a superior serial bully
female wannabes may be arch bullies (some people might call them puppetmasters or
queen bees)
may surround herself with drones of the opposite sex
may exploit some perceived vulnerability in self to ensure drone loyalty
gives the appearance of loyalty to drones but will discard them when they've served their
purpose
is likely to have affairs to gain power, status or position
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Motivation: task focused
Mindset: confusion, inability to understand how others think and feel
Malice: zero to low; when held accountable, low to medium (it's often the absence of malice that
identifies a guru type of serial bully) but could be medium to high if narcissistic or psychopathic
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often successful in their narrow field of expertise
regarded as an expert
valued by the employer because s/he brings in the money, status etc
ruthlessly pursues objectives regardless of the cost
ruthless determination to succeed
can be successful over the medium term in their field
task focused
zero people skills
control freak
mainly but not exclusively male
often has a favourite who receives extra attention but who is expected to reciprocate with
sycophancy
favours, protects and promotes non-threatening sycophants whilst marginalizing and
hindering the advancement of those with higher levels of competence, especially in people
skills
apt to betray those formerly favoured, especially when the favoured person starts to show
independence of thought or action, or starts to receive more attention or become more
popular than their mentor
a male Guru in a position of power may exhibit inappropriate sexual conduct
gauche, aggressive and unpleasant but not evil
may not be overtly attention-seeking but dislikes those around them getting more attention
than they're getting, or getting attention which doesn't include the bully
selfish, self-centred, self-opinionated, dogmatic and thoughtless and with a tendency to
pontificate
apt to throw temper tantrums when things don't go well or can't get their own way
emotionally immature, perhaps emotionless, sometimes cold and frigid
convincingly intellectualises feelings to compensate for emotional immaturity
intelligent (often highly) but lacks common sense
is happy to lie to suit own purposes
can have a rigid routine
does not accept responsibility for their own behavior
blames others for own inadequacies
refuses to recognise that they could have any shortcomings of their own
does not live in the present
usually extremely neat (for example, desk is always clear)
organized (sometimes overly)
tempts fate but always gets away with it
has stereotypical ideas about gender roles (though this may not be expressed consciously)
makes assumptions about others' thoughts
does not follow social rules, for example may display bad table manners in public
appears unable and unwilling to engage in and sustain small talk
The Socialized Psychopath or Sociopath
Motivation: power, gratification, personal gain, survival
Mindset: manipulation, deception, evil
Malice: high to very high; when held accountable, off the scale
Also known as the corporate psychopath, workplace psychopath, industrial psychopath and
administrative psychopath.
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seems unaware of the nature and purpose of rapport
seems to exhibit some symptoms similar to autism, although autistic people tend to be shy,
introspective and lack manipulative skills and are usually the targets of bullying, not the
perpetrators (it's unknown whether there might be a common cause or whether the
similarities are just a superficial coincidence) [more on autism]
appears unable to read people and their thoughts and especially feelings
when held accountable exhibits genuine confusion as to why their behaviour is
inappropriate
in cases where malice is low or absent the person my be regarded as somewhat avuncular
or mildly jovial or charismatic in nature
likes the appearance of normalcy but rejects responsibilities of relationships
is unable to comprehend or meet the emotional needs of others
often puts work and duty above everything, including relationships
makes power plays, for example leaves the room when someone is speaking, or pretends
not to hear and constantly asking a person to repeat what they just said, etc
doesn't share information about self (thoughts, insights, etc) and is not open to receiving
this type of information from others (allegedly knows it all already) secretive
possessive of objects and sometimes people
may view people as objects (this enables controlling behaviour of other people)
thinks of self as superior and above the law / rules / regulations etc (these only apply to
other people)
uses denial as a defence mechanism
there are likely to be problems with succession
Jekyll & Hyde personality
always charming and beguilingly plausible, especially to those who are capable of protecting
or enhancing the sociopath's position
excels at deception (this must never be underestimated, but always is)
excels at evasion of accountability
is extremely and successfully manipulative of people's perceptions and emotions (eg guilt
and anger)
silver-tongued, has an extreme verbal facility and can outwit anybody (including a top
barrister) in verbal conflict
will often engineer himself or herself into a position of authority as gatekeeper of the
organisation and thus the person through whom all information must flow, and the person
to whom all requests for services must be referred - which he or she then takes delight in
denying
is adept at offering weak and inadequate people the positions of power, control, security,
influence or respect that they crave but who lack the necessary competencies to achieve -
such people are unaware that their consequent dependence on the sociopath makes them
permanent manipulatees, pawns and expendable agents of harassment
identifies those essential to the sociopath's survival and manipulates their perceptions them
by making them feel special and thus obligated to reciprocate with support and protection
manipulates others into making fools of themselves in situations where they cannot back
down or from which they cannot withdraw - these people become increasingly susceptible
to further manipulation and are then trapped as pawns in the sociopath's game
is likely to be surrounded by people who, having been subjected to control, manipulation
and punishment by the sociopath, look wretched and who start to exhibit behaviour best
described as disordered, dysfunctional, sullen, aggressive, defensive, hostile, retaliatory,
counterproductive or cult-like and for whom disbelief, disavowal and denial are instinctive
responses
creates an environment where levels of denial are so great that those involved are oblivious
of the foolishness and self-evident absurdity of their denials when presented with the facts,
with the result that non-involved observers are led to question whether such levels of
denial merit psychiatric intervention
is contemptuous of disrepute to their organisation and of collateral damage and of the
destructive consequences for all direct and indirect parties
is always surrounded by and leaves behind a trail of dysfunctional organisations, destroyed
businesses, ruined careers, stress breakdowns and unexplained suicides
despite a trail of devastation to individuals, organisations, families and communities, the
actions of a socialised psychopath may go undetected or unrecognised for years
a history of conducting frivolous, vexatious and malicious legal actions, especially (but not
exclusively) against anyone who can recognise the sociopath for what he is
only after the sociopath is exposed and relieved of position, or they move on, can the full
depth of their destructive behaviour be fathomed and the consequences calculated
is skilled at identifying, undermining, discrediting, neutralising and destroying anyone who
can see through the sociopath's mask of sanity
at all times restricts the actions and rights of others (especially those holding the sociopath
accountable) whilst aggressively protecting his or her right to do anything without being
hampered by social norms or legal requirements
pursues endless vindictive vendettas against anyone perceived as a threat or who
attempts, knowingly or unknowingly, to identify or reveal or expose the sociopath, or who
makes efforts to hold the sociopath accountable
is adept at appropriating rules, regulations, procedures and law to manipulate, control and
punish accusers regardless of relevance, logic, facts or consequences
persists in and pursues vindictive vendettas using self-evidently false evidence or
information, even after this is brought to the attention of the sociopath
will often manipulate minor bullies of the Wannabe type (who on their own might or would
not merit the label 'serial bully') into acting as agents of harassment and as unwitting or
unwilling conductors of vendettas
is adept at placing people in situations where the sociopath can tap into each person's
instinctive urge to retaliate in order to use them as his or her instruments or agents of
harassment
gains gratification from provoking others into engaging in adversarial conflict
once conflict has been initiated, the sociopath gains increased gratification by exploiting
human beings' instinctive need to retaliate - this is achieved by encouraging and escalating
peoples' adversarial conflicts into mutually assured destruction
revels in the gratification gained from seeing or causing other people's distress
when faced with accountability or unwelcome attention which might lead to others
discerning the sociopath's true nature, responds with repeated and escalating attempts to
control, manipulate and punish
is adept at reflecting all accusations and attempts at accountability back onto their accusers
is adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise pool negative information
about the sociopath
has no limits on his or her vindictiveness
the need to control, manipulate and punish develops into an obsession with many of the
hallmarks of an addiction
is skilled at mimicry and can plausibly and spontaneously regurgitate all the latest
management jargon
exhibits minimal professional skill level and competency
exploits his or her intelligence to excel at talentless mediocrity
is always identifying the behaviours and strategies to which other people respond with the
desired effect
is able to anticipate and credibly say what people want to hear
is easily able to win people over before betraying them or deceiving them or ripping them off
easily manipulates and bewitches an immature or naive or vulnerable or emotionally needy
person to be their spokesperson or agent of aggression
exploits anyone who has a vulnerability
is pushy and extremely persuasive
is sexually inadequate and sexually abusive
is likely to protect anyone accused of or suspected of sexual abuse of pedophile activity,
and will frustrate or obstruct investigations into that person
maybe associating with, or actively involved in, abuse or pedophile activity
has no emotions, no emotional processing capability and no ability to understand other's
emotions
is incapable of understanding, initiating or sustaining intimacy
the male sociopath has often convinced a string of women to feel they are in love with him
and despite being treated abominably they blindly continue to be loyal to him and minister
willingly to his every demand
may start projects with apparent enthusiasm and energy but quickly loses interest
frequently takes unnecessary and uncalculated risks but takes no account of consequences
is reckless and untrustworthy with money
is likely to be illegally diverting or siphoning off significant sums of money to his or her own
budget, project, account or cause
is unreliable and untrustworthy in every facet of life
is likely to be leaking confidential information or secrets to third parties
is likely to have committed or be committing criminal or near-criminal offences, eg fraud,
embezzlement, deception
is likely to have committed or be committing breaches of harassment and discrimination law,
employment law, contract law, etc
disregards rules, regulations, Health and Safety requirements, professional standards,
codes of conduct and legal requirements, etc
cannot comprehend the deeper semantic meaning of language and is thus unable to
understand or appreciate metaphor, hyperbole, irony, satire etc (these elicit either zero
response or a hostile response)
likes, seeks, enjoys and relies on procedure, ritual and ritualistic practices
through arrogant overconfidence takes increasingly risky chances and eventually overplays
their hand or makes a mistake which leads to the sociopath revealing him or herself
exhibits parasitical behaviour, takes everything and gives nothing
grabs headline credit for minimal, flukey or other peoples' success whilst surviving off the
backs of manipulatees who are exclusively blamed for all failures
rarely blinks, may have stary scary eyes that cut right through you, or may avoid eye
contact completely
is callous, cold and calculating
is devious, clever and cunning
is ruthless in the extreme
regards people as objects and playthings to be discarded when surplus to requirements
displays zero empathy
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About Tim Field
Tim Field, prominent British anti-bullying activist with his main focus relating to workplace bullying.
From 1971 to 1975 he studied computing science in Stafford at the North Staffordshire
Polytechnic, now Staffordshire University, and was awarded a First Class Honours degree.
He then worked in the computer industry for nineteen years until he had
to stop due to the effects of experiencing severe workplace bullying.
In 1996 he founded the UK National Workplace Bullying Advice Line and
Success Unlimited Website. He wrote and self-published a book "Bully In
Sight" based on his own experiences, and impressions of calls to the
advice line in 1996.
First published with the long title "Bully In Sight - How to predict, resist,
challenge and combat workplace bullying" the first ten chapters of the
book seek to define bullying and bullies. The second part offers suggestions on how to challenge
and combat workplace bullying. He also founded its companion web site Bullyonline.
Tim Field died from cancer on 15 January 2006 aged 53. In 2010, the Tim Field Foundation -
Working for a World Free of Bullying with its associated website was set up to further Tim Field's
cause against bullying.
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