What do the learned scholars decree regarding the rights of the children towards their deceased

parents?
What do the learned scholars decree regarding the rights of the children towards their deceased parents?
The Answer:
1. The foremost rights of the children towards their deceased parents, is that once they have passed away, to make all arrangements for the janazah,
sch as ghsl, kaffan, !anazah "amaaz and #rial. $n doing so, one shold make sre that all the snnats and mstaha#s are also flfilled, so that
the deceased may receive fll #lessings.
%. &ne shold contine making da for them and also making istighfaar for them and not to #e negligent of that.
'. To always send the sawaa# of sad(a and khairaat to their sols. Try not to allow any shortcoming in doing so and only do what is within yor
means. When reading "amaaz for yo, also read "amaaz for them )send reward of "amaaz to them*. When keeping fast for yorself also keep fast
for them )send reward*. Actally when doing any good deeds, send the reward to them and to the sols of all the deceased +slims. ,very one of
them will receive their sawaa# and there will #e no shortage in sawaa# for anyone. &ne will receive great sccess and prosperity in doing this.
-. $f they owed anyone any money, then try yor #est to swiftly pay off this de#t. &ne mst note that #y paying of their de#ts with yor wealth is a
means of #lessing for yo in this world and in the hereafter. $f yo are not a#le to flfil or pay off the de#t, then take assistance from close family
mem#ers and other kind relatives, so that it may #e paid off.
.. Try to flfill all other de#ts. $f they have not made /ajj, then make /ajj on their #ehalf or send someone to make /ajj0e01adal. $f they owed any
zakaat etc. then try and pay this. $f they have any fast )roza* or "amaaz that was not completed, then give kaffarah as compensation and this is #ased
on assmption. Take responsi#ility to flfil all their shortcomings to the #est of yor a#ility and strive in doing so, so that they may gain salvation.
2. Try to the #est of yor a#ility to make sre that any permissi#le wasiyat )#e(est* made #y them is carried ot, even thogh it may not #e
necessary pon yo in the light of the 3hariat and even if it is difficlt pon yo, for e4ample if the deceased makes a #e(est that half his property #e
given to a certain relative, even thogh according to shariat he was only allowed to make a #e(est for one third of his property, his children shold
pt his #e(est #efore themselves and try to adhere to what he asked and have it flfilled.
5. ,ven after their demise, to #e loyal to a 6asam )oath* he had taken. $n other words, if he took an oath saying that his son will not go to a certain
place or meet with a certain person, then one shold not think that now that he has passed away, there is no need to have any consideration for the
oath he had taken. $t is not so. &ne mst contine like it was in his life time, nless there is something in 3hariah that does not allow yo to do so.
This does not however only refer to their oaths or vows, #t it refers to doing every permissi#le thing after their demise like they wished dring their
lifetime.
7. 8o for ziyaarat of their graves every 9riday. To recite 6ran in a tone, that they are a#le to hear yo and to send the reward of the recitation to their
sols. Whenever yo pass #y their grave, never #ypass it withot making salaam to them or making 9ateha.
:. ;ove their relatives for yor entire lifetime.
1<. 1e kind towards their friends and always respect them.
11. =o not ever swear the parents of others, casing the other person to reply #y swearing yor parents
1%. The o#ject that yo need to note most is that yo shold not remain sinfl and case them grief and sadness in their graves de to yor
wrongdoings. >or parents are aware of all that which yo are doing. When they see yo doing good deeds, they #ecome pleased and their faces
#egin to #eam with #rightness and happiness. When they see yo doing wrong, then they #ecome sad and their hearts #ecome #rdened. $t is not for
s to now case them grief after they have gone to their graves.
We pray that Almighty Allah, The +ercifl, The ?ompassionate, #lesses all +slims with the a#ility to do good deeds. We pray that Allah protects s
from sinning. We pray that Allah always fills the graves of or Akaa#irs )elders* with "oor and #lesses them with comfort for Allah is all @owerfl and
we are weak and helpless. Allah is 8hani and we are dependant.
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This fa(eer )Aala /azrat radi Allah anh* wold now like to present a few Ahadith from which $ have derived that which $ mentioned.
9irst /adith: An Ansari saha#a )radi Allah anh* came to the @rophet 3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam and asked if there was anything he cold do to
#enefit his parents after they had passed away and the @rophet 3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam said, q>es. There are for thingsr to make their "amaaz
)!anazah*, to make =a for their forgiveness, to flfill their #e(ests and to respect their friends and relatives from their side #y keeping the
relationship esta#lished. These are those good actions that are to #e done for them after they pass away.
3econd /adith: The /oly @rophet 3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam said, qThe children shold make =a0e0+aghfirat for them after they have passed
away.
Third /adith: The @rophet 3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam said, qWhen a person stops making da for his mother and father, his sstenance is stopped.s
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9orth { 9ifth /adith: The @rophet 3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam said, q$f anyone of yo gives some "afil |hairaat, then he shold do so on #ehalf of
yor parents, so that they may attain its reward and there shall #e no shortage in reward.
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3i4th /adith: A 3aha#i )radi Allah anh* came to the @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* and said, q& @rophet of Allah )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa
3allam*, When my father was alive $ treated him very well. "ow that he has passed away what can $ do to treat him well?s The @rophet )3all Allaho
Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, qTo treat him well after his passing away, yo mst read "amaaz for him with yor "amaaz and keep fast for him with yor
fast. q $n other words when yo read "afil "amaaz etc for yor self and keep fast for yor self, then yo shold award the reward of it to yor parents.
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3eventh /adith: $t is in Awsat from Ti#rani and from =ar(tni in snan on the athority of $#n A##as )radi Allah anh* as follows: q&ne who makes
/ajj on #ehalf of his parents and pays off their de#ts, then Allah will raise him amongst the pios on the day of 6iyaamah.
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,ight /adith: /azrat mar0e09arok )radi Allah anh* owed eighty thosand. At the time of his demise, he called his son /azrat A#dllah #in mar
)radi Allah anh* and said, q9rom my #elongings, first sell my things. $f it is sfficient )to pay off my de#t*, then it is fine. $f not, re(est )assistance*
from my people, the 1ani Adi, $f it is still not flfilled then re(est )assistance* from the 6raish and do not ask anyone else for assistance e4cept
them. /e then asked his son if he wold take the responsi#ility of flfilling this de#t and his son agreed and even #efore the #rial of /azrat mar0e0
9arok )radi Allah anh*, he made the Ansaar and +hajireen witness and annonced that he was now responsi#le for the de#t. ,ven #efore one
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"inth /adith: A lady from the jhaina tri#e came to the @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* and said that her mother had taken a vow to make /ajj,
#t she passed away #efore flfilling the vow. 3he asked if she cold flfill the /ajj on #ehalf of her )deceased* mother. The @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi
Wa 3allam* said, q>es. >o may perform /ajj on her #ehalf. |now well that if yor mother had owed anything then yo wold have flfilled it or not. $n
the same way, this is that which is for Allah, since it is more worthy of #eing flfilled.s )1khari*
Tenth /adith: The /oly @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, qWhen a person makes /ajj on #ehalf of his parents, then the /ajj is accepted on
#ehalf of him and his parents and their sols which are in the skies #ecome pleased )at his action*. This person is then written down #y Allah as #eing
a person who treated his parents well.s
,leventh /adith: The /oly @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, q$f a person does /ajj on #ehalf of his parents, then his /ajj is accepted and he
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Twelfth /adith: The /oly @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, q$f a person makes /ajj on #ehalf of his parents after they pass away, then Allah
grants him salvation from /ell and #oth his parents get the reward of /ajj. $n reality there is no shortage in sawaa#.s )ef: Ash#ahani in Targhee# and
1aiha(i in 3ha# on the athority of i#n mar radi Allah anh*
Thirteenth /adith: The /oly @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, qThat person who flfills the oath of his parents and pays off their de#ts and
does not swear the parents of another so that his parents are sworn at in retrn, then he is written down as a person who treated his parents well,
even thogh he may have diso#eyed them in his lifetime. That person who did not flfill their oath and pay off their de#t and who swore at someones
parents casing his parents to #e sworn at, then he is written down as an ndtifl person )one who is disowned*.s )ef: Ti#rani in Awsat from A#dr
ahman #in 3amrah radi Allah anh*
9orteenth /adith: The @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, qThat person who goes for iyaarat to the graves of #oth his parents or one of his
parents on a 9riday, will have his sins pardoned and he will #e written as a person who was dtifl to his parents.s )ef: $mam Tirmizi in "awadirl
sool from A# /rairah radi Allah anh*
9ifteenth /adith: The @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, qAny person who visits the grave of #oth his parents or even one of them on a
9riday and recites >aseen at their graves, will have his sins forgiven.s )ef: $#n Adi from /azrat 3iddi(e0e0Ak#ar radi Allah anh*.
$t is also mentioned that one who goes to the graves of #oth or one of his parents on a 9riday and reads the 3rah >asin, Allah will make his maghfirat
according to the amont of alpha#ets present in 3rah >asin.
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3i4teenth /adith: The @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, q&ne who visits the grave of #oth or one of his parents with the intention of attaining
reward, will receive the reward e(ivalent to that of /ajj and one who visits their graves often, will have Angels visiting his grave )after he passes
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$mam $#n !azi +hadith reports in his #ook yoonl /ikayaat from +hammad i#n A##as )radi Allah anh* as follows: qA person went on a jorney
with his son. &n the way, the father passed away. The !ngle in which he passed away was vegetated #y gm trees. /e #ried his father nder one
of the trees and left. &n his retrn jorney he passed the same way, #t did not visit the grave of his father. That night as he slept, he had a dream
and heard someone say the following poetic verse to him in his dream:
q$ saw at night as yo passed #y this jngle, yet yo did not think of it as important to talk to those nder the treess
>et they live in )nder* these trees. 9or if yo were in their place, then when they retrned they wold have stopped at yor
grave and conveyed salaamss
3eventeenth /adith: The /oly @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, q&ne who wishes to #e good to his father after his demise, shold #e good
towards his fathers relatives and friends.s )ef: A# >ala and $#n /i#aan on the athority of i#n mar radi Allah anh*
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,ighteenth /adith: The /oly @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, q9rom amongst the actions that are good to yor father, one is to treat his
friends well )after his demise*.s )ef: Ti#rani in Awsat on the athority of Anas radi Allah anh*
"ineteenth /adith: The @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, qerily the #est thing amongst all things after yor fathers demise is to contine
treating his friends well.s )ef: $mam Ahmed and 1khari in Ada#l +frad and +slim in its 3ahihs and in A# =awood and Tirmizi from $#n Amar radi
Allah anh*
Twentieth /adith: The @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, qTake care of yor fathers friends and do not #reak this relationship as Allah will
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Twenty 9irst /adith: The /oly @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, qAll good deeds are presented in the ?ort of Allah on a +onday and 9riday
and they are presented #efore ones parents and the Am#ia0e0|iraam )alaihims salaat was salaam* on a 9riday. They #ecome pleased and the
#rightness and light in their faces increases on seeing good deeds, so fear Allah and do not case yor deceased sadness #ased on yor sins.s
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$t mst ths #e conclded that it is not the rights of the children to case harm to their parents, #t to case #enefit. Ths, whatever #lessings we
receive, is throgh them. ,very #lessing and grace is #ased on their e4istence and it is de to this that this all occrs. !st #y them #eing parents is a
great #lessing #y itself. "o matter what we do, we will never #e a#le to repay what they have done for s #y nrtring s, #y the hardships the mother
feels when weaning and feeding her child. "o matter how gratefl we are to them, it can never #e enogh. $n #rief, they are a #lessing of Allah and /is
asool )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* and are the manifestation of /is =ivine +ajesty and /is +ercy.
Almighty Allah spoke of their e4cellence whilst discssing or rights towards /im. Almighty Allah says, q9lfill +y ights and the rights of yor
parents.s
$t has #een mentioned in the /adith that one 3aha#i0e0asool )radi Allah anh* presented himself in the ?ort of the @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa
3allam* and said, q>a asoolallah )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* $ carried my mother on my #ack and walked for si4 miles on rocks that were so
intensely hot that if one places meat on it, it wold have cooked. & @rophet of Allah )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam*, have $ flfilled my rights towards
her )as her son*?s The @rophet )3all Allaho Alaihi Wa 3allam* said, q@ossi#ly it can #e the recompense for one of the jolts of pain that she felt from the
many jolts at the time of giving #irth to yo.s
We pray that Almighty Allah protects s from #eing ndtifl towards or parents and we pray that he #lesses s with #eing dtifl towards them.
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