Thank you, madam chairman of the council,

The work Mrs. Izzah Zayani (Education Development fficer!

The committee mem"ers
#e$t the mothers and fathers and %entlemen.
&irst of all, I would like to especially thank the parents who took the time to
attend today. 'lthou%h "usy with their daily "usiness, "ut I(m proud that there are still
parents who took the time to attend today.
)adies and %entlemen,
*hen we married, we certainly aspire to have their own children, and love him as
we love our spouse, correct or not+ f course the answer is ,-es,. This is "ecause
children are "ein% e$citers in our household. .avin% a family of children, of course
we want to "e the "est parents for them. That(s what I want to say today.
I am sure, all parents present today, of course its responsi"ilities towards their
children as possi"le. Duties will include live and meet the physiolo%ical needs of
children. If we are %ood parents, our children would not "e deprived of love and feel a
lack of affection and attention from us. This is important in order to make them
"ecome a more well/rounded %rowth.
The touch of love, %ood parents will live always concerned and always concerned
a"out the kids. If this is i%nored, have put such ne%ative impact that the family
institution. 0hildren who do not listen, re"el and a variety of others will shackle our
lives.
)adies and 1entlemen,
If you want to "e %ood parents, not only %ive your love alone, "ut also provides
all the physiolo%ical needs of the children. &ood, clothin% and shelter many very
important in %overnin% a family that is not happenin% any malfunction.
2roper education will shape their children are a useful in the society and the
country where they are constantly monitored learnin% and "e motivated from our own.
There are some parents who do not take reckless with respect to the performance of
their children and had never met with teachers to discuss pro"lems or even kids(
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performance in school. =usy with work and responsi"ilities sometimes make parents
en%rossed with the matter.
In addition, parents are also responsi"le for the safety of the children. *ith cases
of child a"duction, which is endemic, parents should ensure their children(s safety
while travelin% to and "ack from school. >imilarly, children(s health should always "e
emphasized that our family lives in harmony.
Dear )adies and 1entlemen,
There are four main steps that should "e pursued if we are to "e a %ood parent to
your children. The fact that you(re wonderin% how to "e a %ood parent to show that
you(re already on a %ood track. The steps are?
4nderstandin% your child. 's compassionate as possi"le, keep in mind your
child cannot see the world the way you do. 'lways remem"er that small
children and the children have a difficult time mana%in% their emotions for
themselves what they need is help from their parents. )isten to what your child
tells you and encoura%e them. Take the time. It(s somethin% that cannot "e
i%nored "ecause this is how you "uild your child(s self/esteem. *hen your
child is throwin% tantrums, is an%ry or upset, do not for%et to say ,I know how
you feel,.
E$plain thin%s to your child. To understand how to "e a %ood parent, you
should know communication plays a ma@or role in your parentin% role. It is
important to answer the Auestions your child, e$plain why you punish your
children(s "ehavior (and not him, makes a clear distinction!. E$plain the rules.
They mean you care. 0hildren accept the rules they understand.
&irmly and consistently. 's a lovin% parent does not mean you have to %ive in
and stop punishin% your child. Instead, punish the "ehavior of children is very
important, "ut it is effective only if you warn your child(s "ad "ehavior he will
have conseAuences. *hen you apply as a result, your child know that you do
what you say and who have %ood "ehavior does not "rin% any %ood. -ou can
say ,I love you, when you punish your child to help him understand that
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punishment is the teachin%. D #T move Auickly (this is "ad parentin%,
period!.
)ove your child and e$press it. Many parents are trustin%, love and "e proud
of their children, "ut they do not tell them. 0hildren cannot know this unless
their parents tell them. It is important for children to hear that he is makin% his
parents happy and proud when she has a %ood "ehavior. It is very important to
praise %ood "ehavior of your child, %ive privile%es. 2ositive reinforcement
works. Bisses and hu%s too. This is also how to "e %ood parents.
To "e a %ood parent, here are some ways to show affection for their children?
1entle cuddle, a little encoura%ement, appreciation, approval or a smile can
%o a lon% way to improve the confidence and well"ein% of your child.
Tell them you love every day, no matter how an%ry, you are at them.
1ive lots of hu%s and some kisses. Make your child comforta"le with love
and affection since "irth.
)ove them unconditionallyC do not force them to "e that you think they need
to %et your love. )et them know that you will always love them no matter
what.
2raise your children. 2raise your children is an important part of "ein% a %ood
parent. -ou want your children to feel proud of their achievements and %ood
a"out themselves. If you do not %ive them the confidence they need in their
own world, so they will not feel empowered to "e independent or
adventurous. *hen they do somethin% %ood, let them know that you noticed
and that you are very proud of them.
&amiliarize praises your children at least three times as much as you %ive
them ne%ative feed"ack. *hile it is important to tell your children when they
do somethin% wron%, it is also important to help them develop a positive
sense of self.
If they are too youn% to fully understand, treat them with praise, applause,
and a lot of love. Encoura%e them to do everythin% from usin% the toilet to
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%et %ood %rades can help them lead a happy and successful life.
'void comparin% your children to others, especially si"lin%s. Every child is
individual and uniAue. 0ele"rate their differences and instill in each child the
desire to pursue their interests and dreams. &ailure to do so can %ive your
child a sense of humility, the idea that they cannot "e %ood enou%h in your
eyes. If you want to help them improve their "ehavior, talk a"out meetin%
their %oals on their own terms, rather than directin% them to act like sisters or
nei%h"ors. This will help them develop a sense of self not have an inferiority
comple$.
0omparin% one child to another can also make a child develop a rivalry with
his "rother and sister. -ou want to foster a love of your children, not a
competition.
'void favoritism. >urveys have shown that most parents have a favorite, "ut
most children "elieve that they are the favorites. If your children are
Auarrelin%, do not choose sides, "ut fair and neutral.
)isten to your children. It is important that you communicate with your kids,
%o "oth ways. -ou should not @ust "e there to enforce the rules, "ut to listen
to your children when they have a pro"lem. -ou should "e a"le to e$press
interest in your children and %et involved in their lives. -ou need to create an
environment where your kids can come to you with pro"lems, however "i% or
small.
-ou can also set aside time to talk with your children every day. This can "e
"efore "edtime, eat "reakfast, or durin% a walk after school. Treat this time as
sacred and avoid checkin% your phone or %et distracted.
If your child says he has to tell you somethin%, make sure you take this
seriously and drop everythin% you are doin%, or set up a time to talk when
you can really hear.
Make time for your kids. =e careful not to "lock or delete them, however.
There is a "i% difference "etween protectin% someone and imprisonin% them
in too unyieldin% demand you. -ou want them to feel like your time to%ether
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is sacred and special without makin% them feel like they have to spend time
with you.
>pend time with each child individually. Try to divide your time eAually if
you have more than one child.
)isten to and respect your child and respect what they want to do with their
lives.
Take a day to %o to the park, theme parks, museums or li"raries dependin% on
their interests.
'ttend school functions. Doin% homework with them. Disit their teachers at
the open house to %et a sense of how they are doin% in school.
0ome with achievement. -ou may have a "usy work schedule, "ut you
should do everythin% you can to "e there for the important moments in the
lives of your children, from "allet show them to their hi%h school %raduation.
Eemem"er that kids %row up fast and they will own "efore you know it. -our
"oss may or may not remem"er that you missed the meetin%, "ut your child
will surely remem"er that you are not attendin% the %ame they are in. Even if
you do not have to drop everythin% for your children, you should at least try
to %et in there for achievement.
If you are too "usy to "e there for your child(s first day of school or other
important event, you are responsi"le to re%ret for the rest of your life. 'nd
you do not want your child to think of hi%h school %raduation as a time when
a mother or father cannot appear
.ow to "e a %ood parent when your child is out of control+
&or most parents, learn how to "e %ood parents and use some parentin%
techniAues are not enou%h to end the "ad deeds of their children. Even when "ad
"ehavior is a ha"it in the child, the parents are feelin% powerful and powerless that
makes parentin% very complicated and frustratin%.
*hat is presented is still %oin%. To "e a %ood parent can also "e learned "y applyin%
these tips hi%hli%hted "y Eo"ert d. Eamsey. >ome tips are?
Do not hit the child from the knees up.
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Do not use hands or our troops to "eat the child, the child will %row stu""orn.
Eattan children revealed hand. >cientifically nothin% to do with refle$olo%y
and stimulatin% "rain happiness.
=e%in your child(s life with a %ood nickname. #ickname poor will cause your
child to feel shame and low self/esteem. =ased on reli%ion like Islam also
encoura%es %ood nickname
1ive your child the arms of each day (>tudies show that adopted children each
day will have the IF undersell stron%er than children who rarely adopted!
1lance view of your child with love. This view will make your child more
confident when dealin% with the environment
2rovide reinforcement every time your child does the ri%ht thin% (1ive praise,
hu%s, kisses, %ifts or at least smile for all the %ood it did!.
Do not e$pect your child to do an immature act continually improve, their only
child is %rowin%. The development makes them want to have everythin%,
includin% falli"le.
*henever you are faced with the pro"lem of work and family, choose a
family. ne writer said children continue to %row. Time continues to pass and
will not "e "ack
't the raisin% and educatin% children, do not complain. 0omplaints will make
the children feel that they are a "urden.
.ear the story of your child. The story will not "e a"le to hear you a%ain in the
future. *ait your turn to talk (This will teach your child a"out his turn to
speak!
>oothe your child every time they need it.
>how your child how to calm yourself. They will imitate them.
Make a little "it of preparation to cele"rate the "irthday children. 2rovide a
uniAue "irthday %ift even thou%h the price is cheap. The uniAueness will make
your child learn to appreciate. 0hildrenGs who come from an environment that
values will learn to appreciate other people!.
2ossi"le teachin% our children receive is not the first time to learn. They may
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need us to teach them more than once.
>pend time with your child outside the home, the children hold hands when
you walk "y them. They would feel the importance of their presence in your
life as hus"and and wife.
Tryin% to listen to the ni%htmare of your children. Their ni%htmares are so real
in their world.
0herish your child(s favorite %ames. They are also at the same time will
appreciate your favorite items. 'void wastin% their "eloved %oods, even
"roken. 'sk their permission "efore doin% so.
Do not let your children sleep without a kiss 1oodni%ht,
'ccept the fact that sometimes you are not perfect parents. This will reduce
the stress of parentin%.
Instead of constantly "rin%in% home office workloads. 0hildren will learn that
office work is often more important than family.
The children also have feelin%s @ust like you. 0herish the feelin%s of your
children.
There are still some tips that we can consider as check list us that our relationship
with the children would "e more meanin%ful and make us as %ood parents. 'mon%
them are?
Do not "e too pre@udiced a%ainst our children. *e need to "e in the %ood and
rational thinkin% of the pro"lems faced "y children. >oul children sometimes
very sensitive. ur actions often do not "elieve their children will make the
relationship "etween mother and dau%hter, father and son will "e tenuous.
)et us not discriminate "etween children distin%uished. Bnow that every
child has advanta%es and disadvanta%es. >imilarly, do not distin%uish
"etween the %randchildren of the children. ' %randson words is more
intelli%ent than the %randson of = can uneasiness children. 0onseAuently,
children feel mar%inalized. Even worse, if the kids do not want to return to
the villa%e to prevent such thin%s happenin%.
There may "e amon% our children who seem very independent and can solve
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their own pro"lems. .owever, it was not a ticket for us to i%nore them. They
may seem mature and independent, "ut they also need love and attention. Do
not let the kids away from the love of a mother and father. This may cause
children tend to find love from other people.
*hen the kids %ive any %ift to us, we should accept with sincerity and said
that is not really concerned with the conditions of the %rant. 'ccept with open
arms "ecause that(s pro"a"ly afford %iven "y our children. If the %rant is
undersold certainly affected our children(s feelin%s.
If the children of the crisis, not to hear the story from one side only. *isdom
us as parents to "e tested in the event there is a fi%ht %oin% on amon% our
children. *e are supposed to "e a mediator and peacemaker that the crisis can
"e resolved with a very %ood way.
)et us not compromise with any"ody to drop our children. Dead tired we
produce and raise them, do not @ust easier for some of us want to drop them.
Do not often curse our children with words that do not fit. If our children
make mistakes and errors, pray that they %o "ack to the way they should "e.
#e$t, do not "e weary pray that our children are in the well/"ein% and live
happily and not "urden others.
)adies and 1entlemen,
'fter %ivin% some tips and share with you all a"out how to "e %ood parents, and
thus, we can conclude that there will "e somethin% %ood without a %ood start. Then,
the demise of my remarks today. >o, thank you.

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