After this seminar I was able to discover a whole lot of things about

marriage and more about myself. Moreover, I realized that what I

have learned from the classroom is truly not enough to understand
what it means to be married. It enlightened me on what is to expect
on marriage because I have never pondered upon my own married
life. After going to the seminar though, it made me realize that if I do
not think of what marriage is now then when would I? Is it only on the
time when I am about to marry already? Wouldnt it be too late by that
time since Ill be married soon already? I have thought that after the
talk, I finally understand the reason why it was important to think of it
now. Since we are still in college, we needed to understand this, not
just to prepare but by the time that we are going to get married, we
know and can say to ourselves that alam natin kung ano ang
pinapasok natin because just like what our old folks say, Ang
pagaasawa ay hindi parang susubo ng mainit na kanin at iluluwa na
lamang kapag napaso.

The entire Pre-Cana seminar has left me with 3 things: First, I now
have a deeper understanding of what marriage is as a sacrament.
When I was younger whenever I hear the word sacrament I always
thought about a promise that cannot be broken. Now I know it is
something way deeper. Second, I never knew that marriage could
possibly be our way to heaven. Never did it cross my mind that
marriage can serve as a stepping-stone that will bring us closer to
God. Lastly, I never really focused much the uniqueness of the two
individuals involved in marriage. Before, when I used to think of
marriage it was always two are one or only about loving one another
unconditionally. I just thought about it simply as an agreement
between two persons binding themselves into the sacrament of
marriage, and that they will love one another eternally. Well, after
attending the seminar what I knew was just basic and there are far
more things beyond those that we commonly think. I learned that, in
understanding the differences of one another a marriage, husband and
wife should learn how to complement each other. I learned that it is
should be about being selfless. I also learned that is when you love
truly, when you learn to sacrifice your own happiness for the person
that you really love. Before trying to understand both parties, trying to
understand first what these things are, what it means to be married,
how sacred it is, is important to understand. Lastly, I learned that it is
important for couples to be in contact with God. They must remember
the true meaning of their marriage and the responsibilities they have
to God as a married couple.


Now that I am fully aware of how big the idea of getting married is, I
will keep everything in mind when it is my time to marry. Now that I
know what it means to for something to be a sacrament I will then
take it more seriously. Same goes for that of the second, now that I
know that marriage is a way to heaven then I will not treat it as just a
formality of love for my husband. I will treat it as an opportunity to
always do good- to be the best person to my husband and to be good
to others. And lastly, for the third, since I am now aware of my
uniqueness as a woman, I should also take the time to learn what it is
like to be a man in marriage. When it comes to conflicts, instead of
leaning towards immaturity- I am aware of the unique traits of my
husband as well as myself and from there we can make understanding
of each other that will prevent future conflicts. I also learned how
presence of communication is important in a marriage. It is best that
both parties understand each other, and acting as a team in facing all
lifes challenges. It is not about winning in an argument, but it is about
coming up with a compromise that will settle the argument. Hopefully
when the time comes that I will marry the person I love, I can apply
the things that I learned from the seminar and of course in Tredfor, so
when the time comes that my marriage will be faced with problems, I
will never have to answer, I didnt know.