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UNCOMPARABLE LOVE

In each language there is a very sweet word, a best word, an uncomparable word which
is the best word in the entire world and that word encompass, that word covers the
entire love, care, affection and sincerity mercy of this dunya. When we pronounce this
word our heart fills with mixed feelings which cannot be expressed in words. It gives us
pleasure, joy and happiness. And the word is MOTHER. Wallaahi we find no words to
describe this personality. Who is a mother? What is her status?
Why she deserves a high status? Why her love is uncomparable? Even before she saw
our face, she started to love us. That is why her love is uncomparable. We have no
words to express the mothers love towards her children. She is the source of Jannah.
Our parents are our doors of Jannah. Serving our parents is a command from ALLAH. So
love her, thank her, and serve her. Be kind to her.
There are many verses in the Quraan and many ahadeeth that explains the status of
mother.
Oh my dear brothers and sisters, we think that we know about the rights and status of
parents in Islam. Many are the ayaat and ahaadith that summarize this very important
relationship. How often have we heard them? But have we truly acted upon them? Have
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we truly understood the role of parents and the status that Allah 'azzawajel has given
them? Allah says in the Qur'an:

When Allah took a meethaaq from the children of Israeel from the most ancient
civilizations -

- Worship none but Allah, and show ihsaan to your parents (2:83) -
From the earliest civilizations, Allah 'azzawajel took a meethaaq do you know what a
meethaaq is? It's an agreement of the highest order! It's a treaty that should
never ever be gone against and disobey. It is a treaty between Allah and man. That is
what meethaaq is.
In one of our classical books of history and narrations, it is mentioned that once,
Abdullah ibn Umar was doing tawaaf around the ka'bah as an elderly person, many
years after the death of the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam. And he saw a man doing
tawaaf around the Ka'bah who had a very old lady on his back. He was doing
tawaaf carrying this lady on his back. And when the man saw ibn Umar, he rushed up to
him, recognizing who he is, and he said, Oh ibn Umar, oh son of Umar ibn al-Khattaab,
Oh ibn Umar, this lady on my back is my mother. This lady is my mother. And she had
a desire to go do Hajj. And I live in such and such a province, and he mentioned a far
province in the Muslim lands, And I could not afford a mount. I could not afford an
animal, I could not afford do bring her in any other means except by carrying
her on my back, walkingfrom such and such a village. Oh ibn Umar, have I done my duty
as a son? Is the scale now equivalent? Have all of the good deeds that the mother did,
have I now recompensed her the way that she deserves?
Ibn Umar responded: You have done nothing in return. You're proud and boastful
about this? You have done nothing, your deeds are not worth anything in the scale!
You're comparing a scale of what your mother has done to what you have done back to
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her?! He says, You have done nothing in return. But you have done well, and Allah
will REWARD you.
The man said, Oh ibn Umar, I have traveled from such and such a province, what do
you mean I've done nothing? I have traveled from the furthest lands, carrying my
mother on my back and you say I have done nothing? Ibn Umar said and listen to
this psychologist, listen to the power of the response that he gave to this man, listen to it
and understand it and apply it in your daily lives he said: You have done nothing
because: when she sacrificed everything for you; when she did everything that she did
for you she gave up her time, her pleasures, her health she gave up everything she
had to raise you as you are she did it out of a pure love and joy wanting to see you
flourish, waiting so you grow up and you live a full healthy life she did it for your life
and now that you do it in return, you are waiting for her death doing it as a pity
doing as an equivalent, doing it in return for the favours you're not doing it to see her
flourish and live. You're doing it as a sense of guilt, trying to pay back what she's done,
and waiting for her death, so she is literally off your back.
The psychology of what she did versus what you are doing is completely separate! How
can you compare the two? And how true, how profound is the statement of ibn Umar!
When the child is raised by the parents, when the mother and father give everything that
they have: their money, and their health, their wealth, their everything.
But when the child becomes old, and the child is entrusted to take care of his or her
parents, the same emotions are not felt. The same patience is not there, the same love
and tenderness are completely absent. And [for] this one reason, ibn Umar said: you
cannot compare the two. Allah says in the Qur'an:

- Your Lord has decreed such is the decree of Allah, such is the commandment of
Allah, pay attention and heed Your Lord has decreed: that no one shall be worshipped
except for Allah, and that you be good to your parents. (17:23)
This is the decree of Allah the eternal decree of Allah: be good go your parents.
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What does it mean, what do you mean by being good? Allah mentions the word ihsaan.
Ihsaan is the highest level of good. There is no level, there is no word in the Arabic
language that gives the meaning of ihsaan. Ihsaan is a state. It is a state of mind. It is not
an action it is not a deed, it is a state of mind, it is a frame of relationship, in which you
give the most that you can, and you expect the least in return. You give
your utmost being, this is what Ihsaan is. You do everything you possibly, physically,
spiritually, emotionally, can. That is what ihsaan is. And if there been a word higher that
ihsaan, Allah would have used it.
And ALLAH continues this verse as Your Lord has decreed that you shall worship none
but Him and that you have ihsaan to your parents (17:23 ). Allah says, If either of
them or both of them reach old age, and you are in charge of them it is a blessing that
they are old and you are alive, it is a blessing many have been deprived of this blessing
if either or both of them have reached this age where you're in charge of them what
does Allah say? How can we take care of them? how we should treat them? You all
know: trrat them with Ihsaan. And also ALLAH says that:

- Don't say uf (17:23) -

What is the meaning of uf? Uf two letter word; smallest letter, smallest word in the
Arabic language that as a meaning: uf. Uf means: you are irritated. It's the equivalent of
tsking in English, or saying ouch when you're hurt. The smallest indication, the
slightest indication, that you are irritated is said by uf. The scholars of tafseer say: had
there been a word that was lesser than that, Allah would have used it here.
So the first verse uses ihsaan, the second versus uses uf. Ihsaan, the peak; uf, the
lowest, but of what? Of what? Brothers and sisters, think about this: Allah 'azzawajel
said: Don't say uf to them meaning, don't even express your irritation and anger.
If Allah 'azzawajel had said to us, don't become irritated, don't be angry,
don't be frustrated, Allah 'azzawajel would have commanded us with something we
could not bear. It is human nature to get frustrated, especially at elderly parents. It is
human nature to get angry, it is human nature to get irritated. Allah knows this. So Allah
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did not force us that we don't get angry, we don't get frustrated, we don't get irritated
no. He obliged us with something that is well within our capabilities. Don't say, don't
express, don't show, and dont outwardly give the impression that you're irritated. Feel
what you like in your heart, control it, be a man control it:

- and don't speak to them in a harsh manner (17:23) -

Notice, Allah 'azzawajel has created us, He knows how difficult it is, not just to take care
of children, especially to take care of parents. He knows how difficult it is. So Alah
'azzawajel put upon us a condition and a rule that is well within our limits: feel what
you like; don't express it, don't make it outward, don't show it to them.

- say to them beautiful, generous speech (17:23) -
Say to them sweet things. Kareem: be generous in your speech to them. And if they ask
you, anything, then speak to them kindly and say In sha' Allah, I'll try, in sha' Allah,
we'll do that, give them hope, give them encouragement. Allah 'azzawajel says,

- speak unto them a soft kind word (17:28)

Allah 'azzawajel is saying, even if they want more that you can give don't get irritated,
don't get angry give them good speech, give them confidence, fill them and their hearts
with joy, just like they had done for you when you were a child. And make du'a for them,

Oh Allah, have mercy on them as they raised me(17:24) -
What a beautiful dua, Allah 'azzawajel is giving so many deep meanings: because they
have raised me, just as they have raised me, due to the fact that they have raised me, oh
Allah have mercy on them, because of what they have done for me.
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Oh my dear brothers and sisters in Islam, much can be said about the verses in the
Qur'an and the ahaadith of the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam about treating the
parents.
You will never understand the love of a parent? The love of a mother? The love of a
father? This is magnanimous love, unrestricted.
Your parents gave up everything to bring a smile in your face. They go to work, to bring
home some food for you; they will give up their life's savings for your education. What
type of love is this? We can never understand. Never!
No human being feels that type of love for another, except a parent for the child. And
when you think about it, and when you experience it, you understand the POWER of
Allah's creation, for verily; I swear by Allah, if the parents did not have this love for his
child, no child could live on the face of this earth.
We take up most of their time, most of their energy, most of theirwealth;their entire life.
Their life will change because of us. The amount of sacrifice they do cannot be measure
in words, cannot be measured in figures, and cannot be measured in quantities.
Our parents have done that for us. Our parents have done that for us a lot, and we don't
even realize it, because when we become an adult, we think that we know better than
our parents, and if they say anything we just neglect them by saying you dont know
anything. We are not ready to look at them to answer them. We are very busy with our
mobile and computers playing games and giving importance to the games over our
parents. And if ask us anything how do we reply to them? We dont look at their face to
answer them instead we look at the screen playing games and talk to them. This is how
we behave with our parents. And Allah 'azzawajel says,

- speak unto them a soft kind word (17:28)
And Allah says in the Qur'an: If one or both of them are alive, take care of them
[17:23], because they are the real comfort of our life.
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See how the companions of Prophet [pbuh] treat their parents.
One of the companions, his mother passed away, and he was crying greatly. So some of
the other sahabah tried to console him, and they said: it's alright, she is in jannah in sha'
Allah, she's forgiven. They tried to console him. And he said, Do you think I'm crying
because she died? Of course I'm sad because she died, that's not why I'm crying.
Notice how the sahabah view things and how we view them. He said: I am crying
because my door to jannah has been shut! And I don't know if I got in or not. She was
my door to jannah! That's why I'm crying. My door to jannah has been shut. I don't know
was I a good son or not?! I don't know. There's no other way for me to Jannah except
through her.
Because Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam said that the parents are the doors to
paradise; So the sahaba understood this. The death of a parent was not just
a personal loss. It was a religious and spiritual loss as well:
A man came to the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam, and he said, Yarasool Allah
this hadith is in Bukhari Yarasool Allah, I have come from Yemen the furthest
corners of Arabia, nothing further than Yemen I have come from Yemen, in order to
be with you! He has now become a sahabi he has elevated his rank in history by
visiting the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam! in order to be with you, and do jihad
behind you. And in order to do so, I had to leave my parents crying at my loss and
departure.
He's trying to show off, he's trying to talk big, and hes trying to show his status: I want
to do this, and I even left my parents crying, in order to come here.
The Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam asked him: Do you want jannah? Meaning: is
that your goal? You want the pleasure of Allah? He said: Yes. The Prophet
sallaAllahualayhiwasallam said: In that case, go back to them now, GO BACK TO THEM
and make them laugh, just like you left them cry.
Meaning: you want jannah and you have done this? You want jannah and your own
parents are not happy with you? You will not be able to earn jannah in any other way!
Brothers and sisters, this man left everything to come to the Prophet of Allah
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sallaAllahualayhiwasallam, he left everything to do jihad behind the Prophet
sallaAllahualayhiwasallam, and the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam is saying, you
want jannah? Go back to your parents, and be with them! Make them laugh like you
have made them cry!
Do you understand the rights of the parents? Do you understand the Prophet of Allah is
saying: do you really want jannah and you're coming to me? You're coming to me to do
jihad with me, and your own parents need you? He told that man to go back to his
parents, and make them laugh like he had made them cry.
Oh Muslims, the status of parents is something that goes above that cannot be expressed
in words. .
And Allah 'azzawajel says, in Surah Luqman(31): 14

And WE have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents.
And ALLAH completes this verse by saying

Give thanks to ME and to your parents and unto me is the final destination.
So what do you think about this verse. ALLAH is saying that thank me and your parents.
So parents take their right place, and how we honour them. Are we giving their rights?
No. We are treating our parents like servants. We order them to do this and that? Are
we obeying our parents? Is that our parents are happy with our behaviour? How to
make our parents happier? If they want to be happy we have study well. We have score
good marks. Above all we must have good character. Good Aqlaaq. They must only hear
good about you. They should never ever hear any bad comments about you. This is what
they expect from you at this age. And it is within your capability. Fear ALLAH and give
them their rights.
If you want Jannah, love her, thank her, and serve her. She is the source of Jannah.
Serving mother is the best Ibaadah.
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Listen to what Prophet [pbuh] has said,
Narrated Abdullah bin Masud:
I asked Allah's Apostle, "O Messenger of Allah! What is the best deed?" He replied, "To
offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times." I asked, "What is next in goodness?"
He replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents." I further asked, what is next in
goodness?" He replied, "To participate in Jihad in Allah's Cause." I did not ask Allah's
Apostle anymore and if I had asked him more, he would have told me more.
Oh brothers especially the younger amongst you Oh brothers, listen to me, and listen
well:
The love that your mother and father have for you is a love you will never understand.
Don't fool yourselves. You don't understand the meaning of your parents' love for
you. Every rule and regulation they put upon you is because of their love for you they
want what is best for you. Every sing rule and regulation that they have upon you
every requirement, every desire it is a desire for you, and not against you.
Realize this, and pay attention to it. They understand emotions better than you. So dont
delay. Obey your parents. Dontunderestimate their advice. You may think that, your
parents don't know anything. Pay attention to them.
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Messenger () said, "A woman called her son while he was in his hermitage
and said, 'O Juraij' He said, 'O Allah, my mother (is calling me) and (I am offering) my
prayer (what shall I do)?' She again said, 'O Juraij!' He said again, 'O Allah ! My mother
(is calling me) and (I am offering) my prayer (what shall I do)?' She again said, 'O Juraij'
He again said, 'O Allah! My mother (is calling me) and (I am offering) my prayer. (What
shall I do?)' She said, 'O Allah! Do not let Juraij die till he sees the faces of prostitutes.' A
shepherdess used to come by his hermitage for grazing her sheep and she gave birth to
a child. She was asked whose child that was, and she replied that it was from Juraij and
that he had come out from his hermitage. Juraij said, 'Where is that woman who claims
that her child is from me?' (When she was brought to him along with the child), Juraij
asked the child, 'O Babus, who is your father?' The child replied, 'The shepherd.' " (See
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Hadith No 662. Vol 3). Since he didnt pay attention to his mother, she cursed him, and
because of her curse he underwent some difficulty in his life. Then he realized that it is
because of his mothers curse, and then he repented for his mistake, then he came out of
that difficult condition. Thus, it is our duty to understand the status of mother.
So if we are offering nafeel salah, and you mother is calling you, you can cancel your
salah and response to her immediately. This is not for Fard Salah. This is the status of
Mother in Islam. Try to understand and try to please her.
We ask Allah to give all of us a long life, we should try and strive to make them feel that
they are pleased with us, satisfied with us, happy with us, knowing that we have
done everything we can for them.
[istighfaar... a Quloo qauli adha vasthagfirullaha li valakum vali saahiril Muslimeena,
fasthagfiruhu innahu huval gafoorur Rahim.
... followed by second khutbah:]
What can we do, to our parents? What can we do for them? What can we do to make
them happy? If your parents are alive, first and foremost thank Allah 'azzawajel for this
opportunity. Thank Him; rejoice that there is still chance and hope! THANK Allah that
Allah has blessed us to be an adult while our parents are still alive. Do for them
everything that is humanly possible.
A man came to the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam complaining, Oh yarasool Allah,
my father takes this, my father takes that, complaining that his father would take some
things of his possession. After ALL that the father has done for this son, after ALL the
money and time and effort and sweat, this man came and complained that he took bits
and pieces he used to take from his wealth? And he's complaining, My father takes
money without asking me?
Do you know the response of the RasoolsallaAllahualayhiwasallam? Anta wamaaluka li
abeek. You and your wealth all of it belongs to your father. He is not taking our
money, instead we take his money and we dont obey him. How can we justify this? So
obey your parents.
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Take care of them. Spiritually. Make du'a for them. Do whatever you want to show your
love to them. If they're with you, Alhamdulillah. Make sure they are taken care of. Talk
to them a simple chat do not underestimate the joy that your mother feel when you
are talking to her. Hug her. Sleep on her lap. Do not underestimate that.
A man once came to Prophet [pbuh] for an advice, he asked Prophet [pbuh] as to who
he should be good to. The Prophet (S) advised him to do good to his mother again. Three
times the man asked, and three times the Prophet (S) told him to do good to his mother.
At the fourth time, the Prophet (S) told him to do good to his father. This well-known
story clearly illustrates the position of the mother in Islam.
First and foremost: du'a. Du'a for them.Du'a that Allah forgives them, raises their ranks,
blesses them. Allah commands us in the Qur'an: make du'a for them. The Prophet Nooh
made du'a for his parents. The Prophet Ibrahim made du'a for his parents. All of this is
in the Qur'an.
I conclude this khutbah with one hadith of the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam.
Where, he was climbing up the minbar, and when he got up to the last minbar [step?], he
said, ameen. And, when he said ameen, the sahaba asked him, why are you saying
ameen? He said: Jibreel came to me and said, Make du'a that any man who finds his
parents alive at an old age, and still does not manage to get his sins forgiven, make du'a
that he is never forgiven. Meaning, there is no hope for the man who reaches old age
with his parents, and yet does not gain the forgiveness of Allah. If you can't be a good
son, you cannot be a good Muslim. It's that simple.
[du'a]

33:56

Rabbantu-khithninnaseen o-akh-ta' n; rabbanaawalaatahmilalaynaa,
isrankamaahamaltahoo 'alallatheena min qabalinaa,
Rabbanaatuhammilnaamaalaataaqatalanaabih(I) wa' fu'annaa, wagfirlanaa war-
hamnaa, anta maulanaafansurnaaalalqaumilkaafireen.
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Rabbana la tuzighquloobanaa, badaithhadaytanaa, wahablanaamilladunkaRahma.
InnakaantalWah-haab.
YA ALLAH, give strength and imaan to serve our parents with Ihsaan.
O Allah, we ask You to help us with what gets us closer to Paradise and far away from
hell. O Allah we seek Your grace to admit us, our parents, our relatives and whoever has
done a favour to us and all Muslims to Your Paradise.
Our Lord, give us in this world that which is good and in the Hereafter that which is
good, and save us from the torment of the Fire.
May Allah grant peace and tranquility and success to the people of Palestine. Grant them
a secured life.
Ya Allah, preserve the Muslim Nation from all temptations, both apparent and hidden,
and continue blessing all Muslim countries with safety and security.
IBADA ALLAH: IN NAL LAAHA YAA MURU BIL ADLI / WAL IHSAAN / WA EE TAEE ZIL
QURBAA WA YANHAA ANIL FAHSHAAEE WAL MUNKAREE WAL BAGHYI/ YA EE
ZUKUM LA ALLAKUM TAZAKKAROON/
29:45

O servants of Allah, remember Allah and He will remember you. Be grateful for His
benevolence He will increase His blessings to you. Allah, the Most High, says, "and
establish prayer. Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the
remembrance of Allah is greater. And Allah knows that which you do." (Al Ankaboot:
45).
Ameen. Aqeemussalaah!