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P: [with pleasure] My mother was very busy when I was a kid, I had to rely only on myself.
T: I value your strength, when I imagine you an independent kid. I wish to stroke you and show a
little parenting.
P: [with some tears] Nobody did that.
T: You look sad.
P: When I was little.... [study brought awareness of a reaction of shame to busy parents and a
recompensing self-reliance]
Bob was a 45. He felt shame and separated himself in response to any interaction beside
absolutely positive. He was constantly unwilling to experiment with nourishment of self.
P: [in a complaining tone] I have no notion what I should do now.
T: [keeps silence]
P: I could tell about the week which passed. [the look is puzzled]
T: it seems to me that you want me to show you the direction what to do. I feel that.
P: Yes. Is it wrong?
T: No. I would prefer not doing it at the moment.
P: Why?
T: You are able to do it on your own. I consider that you are distracting us now from your
internal self. I don't wish to do it. [silence]
P: I am bewildered.
T: [keeps silence]
P: You will not show me the direction, will you?
T: You are right.
P: So, let us work on my thinking that I am not able to care about myself. [Client directs a
productive part of work that brings to awareness of abandonment worry and shame which was
the consequence of busy parents]
them, not giving judging, not frustrating the client on purpose. It is essential to have right gestalt
perception and equal amount of warmth and firmness.