Breaking The Cycle Of Negative Energy Exchanges

- Awakening With Brahma Kumaris

A common term that we use in relationships is: the following person manages to always ruffle
my feathers. There are always those one or two people in our lives, just being in the company of
whom, makes us uncomfortable and they will almost all the time do something or we will
perceive their doing something, in such a way, so as to irritate us. Instead of simply
accommodating the other persons nature, we find our self pinched by their nature and actions
based on that nature repeatedly, although that may not be the intention of the other person at all
at times. The effects of these negative feelings, in the form of reactions, created by
us in return, would be limited if they were restricted to us and were to cause
discomfort only to us, but what these feelings do is that they start a cycle of
negative actions and reactions inside us, whereby such harmful feelings keep
reaching the other person. On receiving this energy, the other person in turn starts
perceiving us negatively and reacts or thinks about us in a similar way and an emotional cold
war begins between us and the other person; negative thoughts, feelings, attitudes, words and
actions are exchanged with each other from time to time and negative karmic accounts or
bondages are created with the other person, which keep getting stronger and stronger. In such a
scenario, even if we or the other person, from time to time, act or react in a positive way on a
physical or non-physical level, that does little to break the negative bond and make the
relationship positive, because a little bit of positive is accompanied by a lot of negative, and what
it can do is only dilute the negative a little bit but not remove its effects completely.
So, how do we break this vicious cycle of negative energy exchange? We discuss in this write-up,
some methods for that:
The foremost method to break the cycle of negative energy exchanges with another person is one
of self-transformation.
The most basic level of self transformation is that I dont react verbally to the other
person with words. But, I mention the negative energy received from the other, in the
physical forms of negative expressions, vision, words and actions, to others and create an
atmosphere of negativity and also give birth to negative perceptions of the person in others
minds. In such cases, damage occurs on a physical level and damage control has to be done
later, which sometimes is too late to do, since relationships have already been harmed. This is
because those who we pass on negative information to pass on the information received from us,
to others and sometimes even to the person who seemingly harmed us in the first place.
The second and little deeper level of self transformation is where I not only dont
react but I dont talk against the person to anyone, even to people who are close to
me, but I continue to think negatively about the other person. In such cases, damage is
reduced but still happens, unknowingly and invisibly, behind the curtains of physical eyes and
ears, as my thoughts and emotions are not completely under my control and they are led to a
direction, which is incorrect as per the basics of spiritual wisdom sometimes willingly and
sometimes I do not want them to be led there but they go in that direction unwillingly due to a
lack of inner strength. These negative thoughts and emotions do reach the other person on a
subtle level, harming relations with that person.
The third and deepest level of self transformation is where I develop the power to
change the quality of my thoughts and feelings as well. I am emotionally empowered

enough to remove the flaw (weakness) in my own character that was at the root of my reactions,
so that what used to pinch me so much will not do so anymore. Also, relationships get protected
by doing that, which is something each one of us desires. This is the power of accommodation
and self-transformation in action, at its best and possesses the potential to stop negative energy
exchanges with the other.
Along with self-transformation, a simple pro-active response in breaking the cycle of negative
energy exchanges with another person is the deep inner realization that the other soul is at that
point of time lacking in the treasures of peace and love, although the foundation for the
realization should be a humble consciousness. Very often this realization is based on an
egocentric consciousness, which instead of cooling the situation can serve to make it more
volatile on a subtle level. So based on this realization is an inner reminder to the self
of my duty at that point of time - serving the other soul with the infinite treasures
of God's love and peace, which I am an embodiment of.
So, pure donations at that time in the form of constructive positive and powerful thought
vibrations for 5 minutes, once a day, at a fixed time, does the work of a soothing balm of love
and peace for the other person. Through this method, your feelings of lightness,
contentment and goodwill reach the other person, with whom you have a problem.
By doing that, these positive feelings transmitted to the other person pave the way
for a realization inside the other person, of the negative that exists inside him/her
in the form of shortcomings and misdemeanors (incorrect actions) committed, if
any. The realization serves as a motivator for change. Also coming into contact with the other
person with a cheerful face and colouring the other person with your enthusiastic company, a
company full of the feelings of sweetness, happiness and contentment brings about
transformation in the other as our actions become teachers for the other and the other is
humbled and is inspired to become likewise. Also donations in the form of humble and soft
words, words that are numbered (few) but invaluable, help in bringing to an end the negative
energy exchanges and winning the blessings and good wishes of the other as well as people
connected with the situation.
Also, one of the root causes of negative energy exchanges between any two people
is a clash of personalities or also called clash of sanskaras in spiritual parlance (language).
This can happen between two people who are wrong or between two people, one of whom is
right and the other is wrong and also not very uncommonly between two people who are both
right in their own unique way. This happens simply because sometimes personalities of two
people are correct, their ways of working are correct, their ways of thinking are correct but they
differ. This clash of personalities causes irritation on both sides, which becomes dislike, which
becomes anger, causing hurt on both sides. How does one correct this? An important method for
this is the sacrifice of the ego. Very often the cause of negative energy exchanges
between two people who are both right is subtle ego on both sides, which ends
when one of them sacrifices his/her ego. It is often said that the one who sacrifices
his/her ego, is worthy of receiving the garland of blessings in a gathering of people of varying
personalities as he/she brings about harmony in relationships.
The one who sacrifices the ego is mature and humble enough to realize that the
responsibility to bring to an end negative energy exchanges with a particular
person lies with him. Such a person has a soft intellect and realizes the
significance of moulding or adjusting himself as the situation demands and how that
can bring to an end the exchange. Such a person is like an ocean of good wishes. He will sacrifice
his own interest, sacrifice the I am right consciousness, sacrifice the Things should be done the

way I like consciousness and put the interest of the other first; he will renounce his own name
and glorify the name of the other. Such a person will very commonly praise the other and his
way of working as well as his personality either individually or in a gathering. Such a person
becomes a teacher and friend for the person with whom he was exchanging negative vibes prior
to that, becoming an instrument to bring to an end the negative exchange of energy.
To conclude, we all know that every individual is inherently good. A little shade of the
incorrect or improper personality exists inside each one, however light the shade
is. We also know that this shade was not there originally in the soul but is an acquired one. And
also the person with the shade does become aware of it in times of solitude and also is making
an effort to remove it so that no discomfort or sorrow is caused to anyone because of it. Along
with the negative shades every person possesses many positive personality traits
which are their strengths. Now when we are having an exchange of negative energies with
such a person, what does a spiritually sensible person do, look at those light shades of negativity
which are coming into action at that time or focus on so many positive colours of the personality
of the other, colours that we have seen or heard about from others many times in the past. Also,
an accompanied realization that even I have my share of negative shades which I am working on
erasing, makes this vision easy to practice.
Practiced consistently, this kind of positive vision accompanied by a deep hearted
appreciation of the positive personality colours of the other person is mercy in
action, which is a shade of pure soul-to-soul love. Such appreciation makes it easier for
others to reflect on and see what they need to do to change. But the first impact of this
appreciation is on me, in keeping me free of negative and waste internally. So appreciating the
others strengths in my mind and emerging them in my consciousness at such a time is very
important as this not only keeps my perception, which is susceptible to being influenced by the
negative at that time, clean, but also reaches the other person on a vibrational level and he/she
is inspired and empowered to bring those strengths into action, as a result playing his/her part
to end the negative energy exchange. This is spirituality at its most magical. I'll not only have
removed a source of pain, which is the negative shade of the others personality in this case,
which is coming into action; I'll have grown spiritually as well.

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