Introduction

Hey Corey, I decided Id make this into a much longer report than I initially intended. I have a lot of fun
writing so I figured why not. I spent the last 7 hours putting it together and its not even ready. So much
of the report is taken out of my own journal and bits from articles written by some of my favorite thinkers. I
tried to choose the stuff that was relevant to what you might be experiencing. Keep in mind, a lot of it is
personal and may not apply to you. If so, quickly read over the parts that dont make sense.
I can go into much greater length on how I sensed that you have a good foundation to build on. Namely it
was your eagerness to express vulnerability when you told me you've been struggling with inner game
issues lately. Expressing vulnerability is in-and-of-itself a HUGE part of game, and you already have that!
It tells me that you have no ego-attachment issues. But aside from that, you didn't tell me about your
vulnerability when I first met you at the meetup a few weeks ago, or when we went to Hotel Chantel, or
during a series of short chats we had on Gothamlife; you knew to tell me after you had a chance to know
me a little. There is an inherent sequence in any given interaction for it to feel right.
That, is the
essence of the discipline of game. Timing is very important and it seems you already know that!
Don't think of vulnerability as a tactic you can use to lure girls into sleeping with you. Rather, it's an
important ingredient that subsequently ends up building comfort. When I approached the three girls at
standard, I wasn't thinking I want to build comfort. I wasn't concerned with sounding low value if she
thought I didn't know where the cool clubs are. I hardly ever need to rely on a script anymore (unless I'm
trying something new). I genuinely wanted to know where the cool bars were, so I asked. The goal in
building comfort with a girl (or with anyone) is to be as human as you can possibly be; to let the person
know that your ego is not with you.
Remember when I said building comfort means identifying commonalities? Well here's the thing,
everyone is vulnerable about something, so when you express your vulnerability to someone, they will
relate to you thereby feeling comfortable around you. You just have to rely on your learned calibrating
abilities to know when it's okay to share such information with a stranger. Mark Manson Talks a lot about
the importance of vulnerability in interactions. If this topic interests you, look at the books Models
Enjoy!

Trust your intuition

I can always tell where a guy is in his game within the first 5 minutes of conversing with him. Come to
think of it, I can tell a lot about anyone in the same length of time. The ability to accurately read a situation
is an incredibly important tool; it is the core of knowing how to calibrate. For example RSDAlex relies on
his ability to empathize with how a girl is feeling and makes a statement to elicit a certain reaction
(usually to comfort her or to disarm her bitchy-ness, etc.) I dont know about you, but Ive been socially
aware like this for at least 12 years, way before I started learning game. I didnt really think that my ability
to get-a-read-on-a-situation was a valuable skill, so when I first got into game I doubted myself. I became
so focused on deconstructing everything I learned before game that I was running in circles trying to
make sense of all the concepts I was learning. Additionally, I had been convinced by guys like Owen
Cook (and simply by meeting a lot of the hard-case guys in this community who have genuine social
problems) that I too had so much to work on. Well, it took a while for me to feel comfortable reverting back
to being confident. I learned that game is a combination of trusting your experiences (which is the
essence of having confidence), building specific experiences (i.e., practicing, not relying on specific lines
and routines) and thinking critically about those experiences (not to be confused with being in your head
while in field). Get in the habit of writing your experiences. Youll learn how to break down and internalize
complex concepts much faster that way.
Let me remind you of the conversation we started to have when we first got to The Standard; most of
RSDs material is geared towards 18 year old chumps, a lot of it does not apply to everyone. There is a
myth about being a natural that exists within the community which is detrimental in my opinion (at the very
least it slows people down). I see it all the time, guys who are totally chill get perplexed by and begin
doubting their own nurtured social acuity. (Remove the word natural from your game vocabulary)

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because he m
makes
assumptio
ons based on
n what Rollo Tomassi calls a rejection
n buffer; i.e., an excuse to avoid potentially
being reje
ected. Im surre youve made/still make similar assum
mptions too, but Im fairlyy certain (based on
much more than 5 min
nutes of chattting with you) that you kn
now exactly w
when youre m
making an exxcuse.
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g foundation; feel complete
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e it and contin
nue building o
on it!
Sources
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1. Roosh
h V - The Myth
h of the Naturral
2. Rollo Tomassi - The
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Origin of
o Alpha (scro
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earned
Alpha where he discusses Rooshs
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poiint. If you havent allready done
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3. Rollow
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4. Mark Manson
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- Vuln
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Contex
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Monday night,
n
very slo
ow night, Correy and I drov
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ny bars with p
people. We p
parked
and walke
ed around a bit and finally settled for the bar at th
he Standard Grill because
e it had aroun
nd 20
attractive people and 3 cute girls. P
Perfect I thou
ught to myselff, This is exa
actly the type of venue I likke and
it happens
s to have the right amountt of people forr us to get 1 ssolid approach in It was around 10 pm when
we walked in, the 3 girls were sittin
ng on stools at the right-e
end of the ba
ar and facing away from u
us, so
there was
snt really a wa
ay for them to
o notice us un
nless Corey o
or I made an e
effort, which I was hoping tto do.
I went to stand next to
o the girls to order
o
our drin
nks (as in, sp eak to the ba
artender from
m behind them
m. The
point was to direct their attention to
o me, demons
strate confide
ence as I loud
dly order my d
drink, and be close
enough in
n proximity to
o the girls to have
h
them feel my mascu
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e. That was tthe only plan I had

and it took me seconds to think of it. Ive successfully hooked many sets doing exactly this in the past, so
the plan came intuitively. A part of me knows Id have found something to comment on, or ask a
question or nothing at all, who cares. The point is, approach with whatever comes to mind and calibrate
while in set1. (More on the Approach-Now/Calibrate-Later mindset in the notes) I also knew I could pull
this type of approach off because at that point, all the stools were taken and there was not an empty
section at the bar that was visible to the girls, so as far as theyre concerned, an opener would have
seemed situational. Unfortunately, just as I stood near the girls and began waiting to get the bartenders
attention, 3 guys in the middle of the bar (a few stools away from the girls) packed up their things and left,
thereby opening a large section of the bar for us to order from. No problem, I thought The newly vacant
seats are still far enough away from the girls visibility, so I can still order my drink from behind them and it
wont seem calculated, but unfortunately, Corey and the bartender (who I guess knew we were together)
made their way over to that part of the bar. No harm no foul, we ordered our drinks and we quickly
moved a little closer to the girls while positioning ourselves in a non-rapport-seeking way.
Again, the time of day, the number of people present, and the relatively low energy that the bar happened
to be in are all very important factors. At this particular moment, the venue contained all the benefits of
day-time approaching while being a nightspot where people were seated and were there to relax. My
perspective remains that loud dance spots typically bring out the bitch in a girl because of the sheer
number of men trying to get laid2 (See my field report on Jacky for an in-depth look at loud dance
venues); while there are ways of defusing the bitch guard through attraction building, teasing and
negging, I dont need to rely on any heavy techniques here. All I needed was confidence, a loud voice,
the willingness to stay in the set and the most basic set of conversation skills.
To be continued