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Story
Pre-course reading
NB for day one of this course you need to bring a
treasured object from childhood or another time in your
life, and any old rolls of wallpaper that you no longer
need
Polly Baynes
Tel:07963164454
pollybaynes@yahoo.co.uk
updated Feb 2011
A life story book is an attempt to give back to the child in care his or her own
past life through the gathering and discussion of the facts and people in that
life and to help him or her to accept it and go forward into the future with
this knowledge Ryan and Walker 1985
METHODS
Making a life story book (with or for the child) that tells the
story of how they came to live with their current carers and
provides information about their birth family and reasons for
decisions as well as hopes and dreams for the future and a
celebration of their life with their current family
Drawing, talking and playing
Visiting previous houses and carers, schools, parks etc. with or
for the child
Using photographs, birth certificates, family support worker
records etc
Recording important events, peoples memories, the story of
the childs birth, Christening or other religious ceremonies
Working with parents, foster-carers, teachers, child-minders
etc. Asking them to write letters, record memories
Creative use of video and computer resources
Time-lines, road maps
Memory boxes, family trees
Recording the childs unique identity and achievements,
making a record of life in placement, taking day-to-day photos,
making dvds, recording the childs favourite foods, toys, TV
programme, best friend etc.
Completing a baby book, a handprint and footprint cast, keeping
their baby teeth, a lock of hair, hospital wristband, newspaper
from the day they were born
Collecting ordinary mementoes like
swimming certificates, current photos etc.
holiday
postcards,
LIMITATIONS
COMMITMENT
You and your agency need to give this work priority.
Planned life story work requires you to become a reliable, consistent
person in this childs life. Cancelled or irregular appointments reinforce
what the child has already learnt-adults cannot be trusted, and the child
has no value.
Whatever your role, you can ensure that you provide a child in transition
with a relevant explanation as events unfold and whenever possible back
this up in writing/drawing. This could mean sending a child a letter after
you remove them from home when you are on duty even if you never
see them again
SPACE
Ideally, a quiet, child-friendly place (but not too distracting), where you
wont be interrupted. However, talking to a child after a difficult contact
about the impact of their parents alcohol use is just as important.
MONEY
Costs include travel and photographs; a digital camera, or video camera
are very useful. But dont allow lack of sophisticated equipment to put
you off a pen and paper, your time and attention are the most useful
tools. Charities in Africa are doing life story work with children whose
parents are dying of AIDS on a budget of 1.50 per child
SUPERVISION
This work is emotionally demanding therefore you must have support
ACCESS TO INFORMATION
Ideally for a complete life story book, you need to read the family file in
detail; it is essential to obtain a very detailed chronology of the relevant
events and people in the childs life. If you are not the social worker, you
will need their full support.
Ground rules
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Tom 3
Tom 4
Tom 4 1/2
This helps to understand the possible impact of events on the child at that
age.
MOVE MAPS
Changed school Mum died Anne moved
92 May
92 June
92 Aug
Accommodated
92 Sept.
This helps to see how much change they have had to deal with.
Eco maps and genograms are also useful.
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As long term plans Check how life story work is progressing at every review. Is
develop
every body clear who is doing what? Include work with the
child, gathering memories and creating a written story.
Begin to gather information from files, birth family, previous
carers
Continue to work with the child to help them understand what
has happened and also how future plans will be agreed
explain about the court or other assessments.
Ask each significant adult to record memories and
observations about this child.
Go back to birth family if they have refused to help in the
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and neighbours.
Long-term
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Google images). Include information about how people tried to help the
birth parents Sandy, the family support worker, came round in the
mornings to try and help Zara, but Zara would not answer the door. Sid
shouted GO AWAY.
If a significant event triggered removal, tell the story in a specific section
with a clear title eg The day Sam got hurt.
The day your brother Sam was hurt started off like an ordinary day.
Zara went to the shops and Sid was getting the breakfast. Sam was crying
and crying. Sid got angry and shouted at Sam and threw him on the bed.
This must have been scary for you. You tried to kiss Sam better when you
saw his poorly face. Then the ambulance came.
Specific issues some explanations about particular issues that have
affected the childs life such as drugs/alcohol/prison/mental illness
My foster family: memories and photos of time with foster family
What the judge decided: brief explanation of the reasons for the final
decision. Use illustrations to show the court process and make it clear that
the judge listened to what everyone had to say, including birth parents. If
there was a fact finding hearing, explain that the judge had to try and
decide who was telling the truth. Sid said he never meant to hurt Sam.
The doctor told the judge that Sam had lots of bruises when he came to
hospital and it looked like a grown up had hurt him badly more than
once. The judge decided that Sid had hurt Sam lots of times.
Make sure you include positive messages from birth parents Zara was
very sad, but she told the judge that she wanted you to have a new family
so that you could have a good life.
Moving to my family: tell the story of the move into permanent
placement or back home, acknowledge that the child was scared and sad
as well as excited and emphasise that they are practising and learning
how to be a family. Include good wishes from previous carers. Dont
promise that everything will be fine. This section could include any
introductory materials prepared by the adopters.
The future: include details of holidays and celebrations planned, leave
pages blank for new photos, include the child and the familys wishes and
dreams for their future together
Brief details of who made the book and wishes for the childs future,
details of how to contact you
Back section: to be added when the child is older and include letters for
later life from professionals and family members, more detailed
information about decisions that were made and birth family, contact
details for professionals who are willing to be approached, information
about services available to adopted children/specific sources of advice
about key issues (mental health or addiction for example).
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means
Also available, leaflets explaining
fostering,
adoption,
special
guardianship, kinship care, contact
and what happens in court
My Life Story CD-ROM
STORIES
Six Diner Sid (having several
families)
Tracy Beaker (waiting for a
family)/The Illustrated Mum (mental
illness)/Dustbin
Baby(abandonment)/Bed
and
Breakfast
Star(moving)/Diamond
Girls (emotional abuse)/Lola Rose
(domestic violence)/Vicky Angel
(death) and practically anything else
by this author
Mints Story (adoption breakdown)
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For older children you can often find films and TV programmes that explore
relevant themes for example Coronation Streets Shelley and Charlie
storyline is excellent for domestic violence, and you can use lyrics from
whatever music they like as a starting point
The Little Princess, ET, Goodnight Mr Tom, Stuart Little all tell stories of
growing up in new families.
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Many adult novels explore the themes of memory and searching for the past:
Everyone tells storiesand all storytellers are liars- not to be trusted. They
have an excessive need to make sense of experience, and so things get twisted
and shaped to suit. We fumble about in the fog, and patterns come to us eerily
like distant foghorns over the water
Erdal quoted in Things Left Unsaid by Decca Aitkenhead
Guardian Weekend Oct 29 2005
The real story, he knew, was more complicated than anything he could
gather together in a pair of photo albums and a scrapbook The whole
story would take a lifetime to tell. But what he had would be a start, he
thought, a way to begin. What he had would be enough to at least say,
here, these are a few of the things that have happened to me while you
werent there. This is a small part of how its been. You dont need to
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guess any longer, you dont need to wonder or dream. This is a small part
of the truth. John McGregor 2007 So Many Ways to Begin
My time was short, my story long, its always them that writes the
songOyster Band
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