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with just a click.
Although the book builds upon ideas of identification first and actions
regarding self care second, you may begin at any page. Keep in mind that
you may find different sections more appealing at different times. Some
material may be familiar to you, and some material may be new to you. I
encourage every reader to have openness to new information that can truly
change your life and your ability to deal with difficult situations.
Feedback and suggestions for additional topics are welcome.
To your health
Karen Carnabucci, MSS, LCSW, TEP
Lake House Health & Learning Center
Racine, Wisconsin
Stress?
We all have it. Unfortunately, the experience of stress is a fact of life in our
hurried world, where every day we are pushed to do-do-do and go-go-go.
When we are faced with a life-shaking event such as a job loss we can
feel very, very overwhelmed.
There are ways of reducing stress without alcohol, pills, cookies or
television. Making the effort to stay calm and healthy without these kinds of
quick fixes can be a challenge. But the results are worth it.
Why address stress?
The fact is that stress hurts our health. High levels of stress set our
primitive survival mechanisms into high gear. Stress signals will flood our
bodies with various hormones and other human-made chemicals. What is
our bodys natural reaction in the face of stress, in turn, affects our blood
pressure, our ability to think clearly and other body processes. Its been
shown that stress contributes to heart problems, obesity, infertility, reduced
immune function, chronic anxiety and a host of other health problems.
Unaddressed stress also impacts our relationships.
Arguments seem to start more quickly, and bad moods may brew for a
longer amount of time, causing people toward words and actions that are
out of character.
People may turn to unhealthy behaviors drinking too much, eating too
much, spending too much that may cause further conflict.
If you are feeling stress, the best thing that you can do is to take care of
yourself NOW. Care of yourself will have dividends that will pay forward with
a higher level of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health.
not because the feeling has disappeared but because the alcohol has
numbed our ability to feel much of anything at all. If we are prone to
depression, we will find that alcohol literally depresses the central nervous
system, contributing to feelings of depression as well.
Cigarettes stress the vascular system, and sugar stimulates a flood of
insulin, which can contribute to rising and falling levels of energy as well as
weight gain and cravings.
Eating, the original way that we learned to feel soothed and nourished, can
become mindless as we snack our way through bags of chips and sweets,
along with second helpings of dinner. A diet of processed foods impact our
ability to think clearly and make good decisions.
Medications are available that calm your physiological response to stressful
events. However, they do not strengthen you or teach you skills to help you
get through the event and stabilize and prosper and might lead to
dependencies and addiction.
Stress frequently brings people to my psychotherapy and coaching sessions.
Although the story is always a bit different a difficult relationship,
struggles with parenting, ill health, significant loss the person is struggling
to sustain an adequate level of functioning in the face of stress.
Basically, too many feelings, demands and obligations are whirling within
the person, and his or her capacity to handle the challenges of these this
inner experience is overwhelmed. Losing a job which accounts to not only
losing an identity but also an income and even status can be
overwhelming for most people.
Relief is available with intention and effort. This e-book is designed to
offer a variety of suggestions for genuine stress relief with a whole person
approach, addressing mind, body and spirit.
Vince Lombardi
Many of us spend a great deal of time denying and pushing aside our
feelings. Some of us have the belief that having feelings is weak and they
believe they must stay strong.
Here, its important to redefine what is strong and what is weak. Strength is
actually the courage to face the truth of your experience, even if it does not
look like how you like to think about yourself. Facing what is gives you the
opportunity to take proper action.
Know the difference between emotions and thoughts.
A feeling is an inner experience that involves an emotion mad, sad, glad,
lonely or scared.
A thought is your minds explanation about a feeling.
For instance, you may feel angry or sad or both about your job loss.
You may experience this feeling as a beating heart, a jittery stomach or a
sad and heavy place in your chest, maybe even in your heart.
Here is the emotion:
Im angry.
Heres the thought:
My boss is really a jerk. Theyre all jerks.
Heres another emotion:
Im sad.
Heres another thought:
Nothing ever turns out right for me.
Notice that the feelings are facts they are statements about your
experience in the moment. The thoughts are stories that you make up about
your feelings which are often not true.
As you keep grasp of the thoughts, you will create an attitude that amplifies
worry and negativity. If they are not addressed and redirected, you may
become chronically angry, depressed or physically ill.
The sooner that you are able to sort feelings from thoughts, the sooner you
will be able to begin to stabilize your inner experience. If you choose to seek
new directions or make new decisions for your life, youll be able to move
forward with clarity,
unencumbered by unfinished or unacknowledged
feelings.
Joan Baez
Checklist:
Identify your feelings.
Acknowledge your feelings to yourself.
Use a notebook or diary to write about your feelings.
Share your feelings with people who can listen without judgment.
clearly and reduce fatigue and uneven moods. You may even sleep better,
which will give you more energy.
One excellent resource is the book, Food and Mood by Elizabeth Somer,
who links junky diets to depression and anxiety and cravings. Her newest
book, Eat Your Way To Happiness, details how dietary changes lead to
feelings of happiness and well being. See your favorite book publishing site
or her site at www.elizabethsomer.com.
So, heres your checklist:
Eat as well as you can.
Stay away from highly processed foods, sugary foods, sweet beverages
and caffeine.
Drink plenty of water.
Take a good multi-vitamin daily.
Vitamin B, especially Vitamin B-12, will soothe your nervous system.
Omega-3 fish oils will feed your brain and reduce the risk of depression.
Eat foods that are soothing and gentle to the body. Brown rice is one of
those foods; so is oatmeal.
1/2 cup sweet potato daily a suggestion of Traditional Chinese
Medicine practitioners is a classic Asian way of increasing energy.
You can also nourish your body and spirit in other important ways.
One of the most important ways of nourishing your body is to practice
conscious breathing. Conscious breathing means that you are aware of your
breath and are able to control each inhalation and exhalation.
Learn how to breathe properly.
When you breathe deeply into your belly so that your belly puffs out a bit,
you are activating the parasympathetic nervous system, which relaxes the
You may also find samples of these imageries at the Kaiser Permanente site
which you can download at no charge.
See: https://members.kaiserpermanente.org/redirects/listen/
samples.
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Learn meditation.
Even five minutes a day of meditation can help you release thoughts from
your brain, allowing it to cleanse and empty. You may think more clearly,
find yourself more able to stay present and experience more intuitive
connections.
Here is a basic plan for meditation:
Sit in a comfortable place where you can keep your back comfortably
straight a pillow, bench, sofa or chair.
Place hands gently on lap and soften your focus or mostly close your eyes or
close your eyes completely. Take a slow deep breath.
Washington Irving
When you notice a thought arising, silently say thinking and return to the
breath. Continue to breathe. When another thought intrudes, identify the
thought by saying thinking and return to the breath once again.
Many books, CDs, DVDs and videos can guide you with various meditation
styles. You may also wish to find a group if you need the instruction, have
specific questions or support of others. Music that is soft and flowing can be
very relaxing; others find music with strong bass notes (such as cello)
stabilizing.
Herbs, homeopathic remedies and aromatherapy
Herbs, homeopathic remedies and aromatherapy can assist with sleep and
calming.
Many people find herbs and supplements like valerian, melatonin and
passiflora helpful in relaxing and sleeping.
A herb from Traditional Chinese Medicine is He Huan Hua, which is known as
the happy flower and helps with a broken heart, grief and stress.
Homeopathic remedies are individualized to very specific conditions relating
to stress, anxiety, panic or sleeplessness. Rescue Remedy is an all-purpose
emergency treatment that is calming; see www.rescueremedy.com.
Aromatherapy studies have shown that lavender reduces stress. Use
pharmaceutical grade essential oil not a copycat perfume and put 5-6
drops in your bath or 2-3 drops on a cotton ball to tuck in your pillow case.
These remedies are not habit forming and generally considered safe
although it is best to check with your physician, pharmacist or other trained
health professional to make sure that anything that you use will not
Simple hand placements and energetic exercises that you can do yourself
will release and balance the selfs energies.
Stomping feet
This is very simple bioenergetic exercise that is especially helpful when you
are unable to slow your thoughts or feel very fidgety or angry.
each other.
Sit comfortably in a chair. Place your feet flat on the floor. Begin stomping
your feet: left, right, left, right. Continue stomping for at least 30 seconds,
keeping the same rhythm. Stop and breathe. As you build stamina, you will
be able to stamp for a longer period of time, up to 2 or more minutes.
Zig Ziglar
Grounding
Sit comfortably in a chair. Place your feet flat on the floor or ground. Take
Touching fingers
Sit comfortably. Rest your hands on your lap. Place your fingertips and
thumb tips together so all are gently touching. Cross left ankle over right if
you are a woman; right ankle over left if you are a man. Sit quietly and
breathe.
Final words
Perhaps you know these practices and habits make good logical sense -- but
you havent been able to make changes despite your best efforts.
If this is so, your challenge is twofold -- to discover what gets in the way of
taking care of yourself for the valuable person you are and to learn how to
make new choices that are sustainable throughout the course of your life.
Remember that others can help you do what you cannot do alone and
find support for yourself.
Have courage and make sure you find support for the journey.