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3) What I like in you, I like in me. What I dont like in you, I dont like in me.
Mirror-Projection Principle: It is a fact that you, as my partner, will trigger me.
The Mirror-Projection Principle states that I will be drawn to the qualities in others that I like in
myself, and I will feel resistant to the qualities in others that I dislike in myself. When I am
triggered by qualities in another, this reminds me that I still have parts in my own emotional range
that Im making wrong through judgment. Its from this ongoing judgment and resistance that my
shadows are created. Heart IQ reminds me that all triggered states are beneficial when channeled
through the heart. Accepting this allows me to take ownership of my shadows and bring them out in
the open where they can be transformed into my deepest gifts. Given this, you, as my partner, hold
the key to unlocking my greatest shadows and my greatest healing.
4) I can only be present with your emotion (what youre feeling) to the degree that I can
be present with my own emotion (what Im feeling).
(Example) If you are expressing anger, and Im not okay with allowing myself to express my own
anger, then your expressed anger will trigger my need to protect myself. As a result, I will go numb
because Ive determined that this emotion is out of range to what feels safe for me to experience.
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