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I'm18,justreachinglegal"adulthood"intheUnitedStates.WhatI'vefoundis
that,asI'vegottenolderandhadmoreexperiences,I'vebeguntorealizemore
aboutlife.Thishasmademecuriousastowhatpeopleolderthanmyselfhave
learnedabouttheworld.Mindsharingananswerandincreasingthisyoungster's
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ErinLenoreBouma,Learner,Teacherandallroundgoodwoman
71upvotesbyVandioZuccarelli,EdnaZhou,TiffanyTraille,(more)
Herearemypersonalsuggestionsforyoutoconsider.Ihopetheyarehelpful.
Asa69yearold,lookingbackonmyyouth,Icansaythatafewthingsthatmy
intuitiontoldmetobelieveandpracticehaveledtoafruitfulandsatisfying
life.
1. Inmyteens,aninnervoiceItrustedsaid"Youarenobetterthananyone
elseandyouarenoworsethananyoneelse."Thesecondmessagewas,
"Erin,don'tworrywhatothersaredoing.Justdowhatyoushould/needto
do."This,mercifully,allowedmetoescapethetyrannyofpeerpressure
andavoidcomparingmyselftoothers.
2. Inmyearly20s,Igottiredofplayingsocialgames(maybethisisabigger
problemforwomen),tryingtobe"nice".Ivowedtobe100%honestwith
myselfandforseveralyears,Iwasdirectlyhonestwithothers,aswell.In
my30s,Igrewanotherstepandlearnedtobetrulysincere(withacaring
honesty).
3. Istruggledthroughmy20stounderstandthewiderworld,findworthy
friends,anddealwithindifferentandhostilepeopleIdiscovered.Thiswas
the1960sintheU.S.andtherewerealotofcrazylifestyleoptionsand
destructiveexperimentationallaroundme.Mycautiousnaturecausedme
tocarefullyobservemypeers,theirchoicesandtheconsequencesby
steeringthiscourse,Iwasabletoavoidmakinganyreallyseriousor
irreversibleearlymistakes.
4. BecauseI'manidealist,Ifoundmyselfknottedupwithfrustrationfueled
bymyhighexpectations.Isoonlearnedtomaintainhigh(butrealistic)
expectationsofmyselfbutnotforothers.Theyhavetheirowngoals,
standardsandlimitationsanddon'toweittometodowhatIhopefor.
5. OnceIletgoofthestressoffrustration,Iwasabletoshiftgearstoamore
spiritualpathandIstartedtoseeeachpersonasvaluablewithastory
hiddeninsidethecoversoftheir"lifebook".Icouldlearnsomethingfrom
mostanyone.Thisenabledmetostartinvestingmyselfinothers.
6. InthisperiodalsoIhadanexperienceinanextendedintimate
relationshipthatwaslessthanhealthy.WhenIfinallyneutralizeditintoa
friendshiponcemore,Ifeltliberatedandvowednevertospendtimeinan
unhealthyrelationshipagain.Iregainedmydignityandtrulygrewasa
person.
7. Throughtheyears,I'velearnedit'sgoodtokeepthingsassimpleas
possible(howeveryoudefinethat)becauselifeandchangesareplenty
complicatedenough.Iwouldadviseyoutoprimarilyaccumulatethe
resourcesandskillsthatwillenableyoutopursueyourdreamsandbeable
tosharesomethingvaluablewithothers.
8. Asafinalpoint,lifeoffersmanyadventures,someriskierthanothers,some
morevaluablethanothers.Chooseyourchallengesaswiselyaspossible
andenterintothemwhenyoufeelyouhavethefoundationtocarrythem
off.I'mnottalkingaboutfinancesbutselfconfidenceandcourage.And
onceyou'vesetyourcourse,keepthefaithandbebold.
Awonderfulfutureliesahead.
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ThatayearisamuchsmallermomentinalifethanIeverimaginedat18.
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Thatmoremyelinmakesabigdifferenceinthebrain.
Thatyouneedto"eatthefrogs"firstandtonotputoffwhatneedsdoingto
thelastmoment.
Thatselfindulgencesleadtoveryrealphysicalpain,eathealthy,brushyour
teeth,liveanactivelifethatdoesnotmuchinvolvedesksorcouches.
Especiallyafter25.
ThathappinessisinthePURSUITnotinthegaining,Lifeisthejourneynot
thedestination.
Mistakesareyourbestfriend.Asidefromthingslikeridingbullsorkissing
cobras,nevermissanopportunitytoriskmakingamistake.Frommistakes
welearn.Nevererrandnevergrow.
Creditisthelittleslavery.Becauseofdebtyouarerequiredtoperform
servicesyoumightnototherwisechoose.Becauseyouoweadebttoone
party,youmustlaborinthefieldsofanothertorepayit...Youmustdoasis
demandedbyyouremployer.
Partnershipsandsoleproprietorshiprepresentmuchmorefreedomthan
employment.Employmentonlymeansthatyouhavethefreedomtoquit
andthebosshasthefreedomtofireyou.Youcanneveraffordtobe
unemployed.Findinggoodreliablepartnersismuchlessrisky.
Belongingisimportant,soisforgivenessfamily,friendsandcommunity
needtobepreservedandsupported.Independenceisovervalued,andin
Americalargelytheproductofpopularmyth.
Doingareallygoodjobisvaluedmorethaneithercreativityororiginality.
Collaborationandstewardshipserveusbetterthancompetitionandcasual
indifference.Thislifeisn'tabsolutelyaboutyoudoingforyousomuchas
youdoingforothersandothersdoingforyou.Allbyyourself,beingself
servingbringslittle.
Caredeeplyaboutsomething.Dowhateveryoudoinordertoexpressthat
careDoWHATyoudoas,ifalllifedependedupongettingit"right"and
whatever"right"mightturnouttomeantoyou.
Themoreoflifeyouexperience,themorethatexperiencemakesclearjust
howlittleofallthatwas,allthatisandallthatwillbe,youwilleverhave
theslightestchanceofexperiencingyoumusteventuallybegintorealize
thatyouneverdidknowitallandyouwillbe"partlygreen",innocent
uncomprehendinguntilthedayyoudie.Ifyouaretrulyluckyyouwillbe
permittedtocontinuetopursuelearningwiththebreakofeveryday.(thank
youBarbaraLaughtonSauderPeczeforpointingoutmylapse.Thus,
outofthecrowdibelongtoIseenewthingseveryday!)
Whichremindsme...
Probablynoonesays"Thankyou!"asmuchorassincerelyastheyought.
Whenyouseeanopportunity,itprobablywon'thurttosayit,Youcaneven
veryquietlysayitwhensomeoneelseforgetsto.Itwillbeappreciated.
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AnneMarieYerks,Writer,teacher,artist
2.9kupvotesbyPatrickMathieson,SoussanSabra,MichaelDixon,(more)
I'm47andIteach18yearoldssoI'mthinkaboutthiskindofquestionalot.
Here'swhatI'velearned:
1)Beconfidentinyourself.WhenIlookback,IregretallthetimesIdidn'tdo
somethingorgaveupbecauseIdidn'tbelieveIcouldsucceedatit.Ionce
wantedtobeadancer,butIdidn'tthinkIhadadancer'sbody.Well,along
camecontemporarydancethatcelebratesallshapes.IfIhadbelievedin
myself,Icouldhavebeenpartofthatmovement.Ialsowantedtobeawriter
butIdidn'tbelieveinthethingsIwaswritingandwouldlosefaithinthem.
Now,whenIreadthosethingsIseeIwasdoingjustfineandshouldhavekept
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ongoing.BeconfidentinanythingandeverythingthatyoudoIcannot
stressthisenough.
2)Drinkingalcoholfrequentlyorexcessivelyisabadidea.Duringcollegeand
graduateschool,Idevelopedahabitofpartyingwithmyfriendsand
unknowinglywiredmybraintoenjoyintoxication.IfIhadn'tdonethat,I
wouldhavesavedalotoftimeandmoney.Thesamegoesforsmoking.Be
waryofmindalteringsubstances.
3)Useyour20sasatimetomeetyourlifepartner.You'llbeshockedathow
thingschangeonceyouareoutofschool.Nolongerwillyoubehangingout
withpeopleyourownage.Youmightgetajobinanofficefullofmarried40
yearolds.Donotputloveonhold.Findagreatpersontosharelifewith.Learn
toacceptthatperson'snegatives.YouwillNOTfindsomeoneelsebetterlater.
4)Take(andprint)photosoftheplacesyoulive.Notposedphotos,butreal
photosofthemessybedroomsandoutdatedkitchensyou'llwinduplivingin.
Takepicturesofyourcarwhenit'sdirtyandsittinginyourworkparkinglot.I
didthisandnowIlovethosephotosoftheordinaryexistencethatwasmylife.
5)Someoneelsewhoansweredthisquestionsaidthatchoicesyoumakenow
willaffectyourentirelife.True.Chooseacareerthathasmeaning.Nursing,
scientificresearch,orenvironmentalactivism,forexample.Youwillspendalot
ofyourlifeatworkandcometounderstandwhat"thegrind"is.Aftergivingall
yourvitalityandenergytoyourjob,youwantsomethingback.Moneygoesto
paythebills,soallthat'sleftisthesensethatyouaredoingsomethinggoodfor
theworld.Thatcan'thappeninsomeprofessions,sochoosecarefully.
6)Inafewyears,yourrelationshipwithyourparentswillchange.Youwillsee
themaspeopleinsteadofauthorityfigures.Youwillseetheirfaultsmore
clearlyandseehowthosefaultsaffectedyou.Don'tletyourparents
manipulateyou.Youowethemkindnessandconsideration,butnotyoursoul.
7)Stayintouchwithallyourfriends,evenwhenit'sinconvenientortheyare
annoyingyouoryouthinkyoudon'tgainfromthefriendshipanymore.I
regretlettingcertainpeopledisappearfrommylife,andtherehavebeentimes
whenIneededfriendsanddidn'thaveanybecauseIdidn'tkeeptheonesI
had.Anotherthingaboutfriendship:Yousortofdon'tchooseyourfriends.
Theyjustshowup.Consideryourselfluckywhenoneappearstheyare
valuable.
GOODLUCK:)
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Theworldhasfewerenemiesthanthepoliticianswantustobelieve.Alotof
peoplewhodisagreewithme,evenonfundamentalprinciples,aregoodpeople
andmaybegoodfriends.Benevolenceandcuriosityaretherightdefault
attitudes,notsuspicionoranger.
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AnneMarijkePodt,goingplaces...
41upvotesbyKeinosukeJohanMiyanaga,VandioZuccarelli,AndrewKoenigsberg,
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Thatvery,verylittlethingsinlifearereallyblackorreallywhite.Fewpeople
arepureevil,fewarerealheroes.Life,politics,history,"facts",thesituation
yourarefacingcanandwillbelookedatdifferentlybydifferentpeople.Not
becausetheyarewrong,ordumber,butbecausetheirexperiences,background
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orpersonalityisdifferentandbecausethingsmaynotbeas"clearcut"asyou
thoughttheywere.Tryingtoputyourselfintheotherperson'sshoes,tryingto
"seethegrey"inasituationwillhelpyoulearn,understand,benuancedin
yourthinking,makeconnectionswithothersandhelpyouimmenselyinlife.
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PaulMulwitz,RetiredEngineer
99upvotesbyJayBest,StephanieVardavas,KiranFatima,(more)
Adulthoodmeansbeingresponsibleforyourself.
Yougettodecidehowtoliveyourlife.Ifyoualwayschoosetheeasypathyou
willprobablynotgetveryfar.Ifyouchoosetocheatyouwillprobablywindup
inprison.Ifyoublameothersforyourfatewhethergoodorbadyouwill
nevergrowup.
Youshouldtrytounderstandexactlywhereyourlifeisandwhereyouwantit
togo.Youcanchangethesethingsanytimeyouwantbutitrequiresa
significanteffort.Ithelpstohavegoals.Themoreclearyourgoalsarethe
easiertheyaretoachieve.Planningtoreachyourgoalsishardworkbutitpays
offinamazingways.Sometimesjustimaginingwhereyoumightliketobeor
whatyouwanttobewillgetyouthere.Ifyouneverhaveanygoalsyouaresure
tobestagnant.Putdifferently,youwillstayinthesameplaceandrotforthe
restofyourlife.
Youprobablyalreadyrealizeyouwillhaveabetterlifeifyouhaveasteady
partner.Youprobablydon'trealizejusthowimportantthisisorhowimportant
itisthatyouhavetherightpartner.Myadviceistopickonethatyouarereally
comfortablewithratherthanonethatexcitesyou.Theexcitementissureto
wearoffafterawhilebutbasiccomfortcanlastalotlonger.
Onelastcommentaboutmoney.Ifyouspendlessthanyoumake,youwill
buildwealthandfreedom(theyareinseparable).Ifyouborrowmoneytobuy
thingsyoucan'tyetafford,youwillprobablyalwaysbeindebtandneverhave
anyrealfreedom.Sometimesitisnecessarytoborrowmoneytosurviveorlive
reasonably.Thiscouldbeforbuyingahouseormaybeacar.Mostother
purchasescanwaitforalongtimeorforever.Freedomismoreimportantthan
havinglotsofstuff.
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ZacharyDavidson,ArmchairSocrates
104upvotesbyMattPrivman,BenediktJefferson,AuroraLight,(more)
AnsweringbecauseIwasasked,notbecauseI'mthatfaraheadofyouinthe
whole"gainingwisdom"process(I'm18aswell).However,Idoalwayslovean
opportunitytoreflect.So,withoutfurtherado,herearesomeofthemore
importantthingsI'vebeenstartingtofigureoutrecently(inthelastcouple
yearsorso):
"Maythethoughtsofmymindandthewordsofmymouthbethat
ofmyhighestself."Ihadagoodfriend(whohappenstobeayoga
instructor)wishthisformeoneday.Thismightbethesinglegreatest,most
helpfulquoteI'veeverheard.Allthetime,Ifindmyselfasking"Wouldthe
highest,greatest,bestpossibleversionofmethink/say/dowhatIamabout
tothink/say/do?"Iftheanswerisno,then...whydoit?
Youcan'tbeafraidoffailure.That'swhenyoulearnthemost."Try.
Fail.Tryagain.Failbetter."Ifindmyselfalmostleaningintofailure,because
unlessyou'rewalkingthat(veryverythin)edge,youwillneverbesuccessful.
Trustit.Acceptit.Youwillfailsometimes.Learn."Whydowefall,Bruce?So
wecanlearntopickourselvesbackup."
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Worryingisnotworking.Ithinkalotofpeopleconfusethesetwo.If
youhavealotofworktodo,worryingalotandstressingaboutitisn'tthe
sameasworkingonit.Itseemsobvious,doesn'tit?Buteverybodyforgets
thisoneintheheatofthemoment.
Relationshipsmattermorethananythingelse.
Lifeneverstopsmoving.Ever.Soyouconstantlyhavetoadaptand
shapeyourmindsetaroundthis.Example:Growingup,Iwasveryfunny.
HowdoIknowthis?Becausepeopletoldmeallthetime.Thatwasmy
thing,Iwasthefunnykid.Gradually,Istartedtobelievethem.Well,you
knowwhat?Atsomepoint(ifIhadtoguess,I'dsaylatehighschool),I
stoppedbeingfunny.ANDNOBODYTOLDME.Whatdidthismean?I
spentthefirstsemesterofcollegemakingjokesthatnobodyenjoyedexcept
forme.CurrentlyadaptingtotheideathatwhoIusedtobeisnotwhoI
currentlyam.Gottakeepthefeetmovingtokeepup!
Comparisondoesnothelpyou.Sostopcomparingyourselftoothers.
Theyaren'tlivingthesamelifeyouare.Infact,trytorefrainfrom
comparingyourselftoyourself."Aw,Ididthisbetteryesterday."Doesn't
helpyou.Focusonbeingthebestyouthatyoucanbetoday.
Nobodyelsegetstotellyouhowyoufeel.That'syourdecision,not
theirs.
Youcanneverbetoograteful.Peopleappreciateappreciation.Also,
thevastmajorityofpeoplearen'tappreciatedenoughfortheworktheydo.
Sincere"thankyou"sareanamazingconnectiontool.
Youcanneversay"Iloveyou"toomuchtothepeoplewhoreally
mattertoyou.
Ego,enemyof_______.Nomatterwhatyouputintheblank,that
sentencestaystrue.Rememberthat.Andletitgo(asmuchasyoucan).
Thingsalwaysworkoutthewaythey'resupposedto.Isupposethis
isavariationof"Everythinghappensforareason."I'vefoundthisreminder
tobeincrediblyhelpful.Youcanworryallyouwant,butintheend,
whateverhappensiswhatwassupposedtohappen.Thisonealwaysmakes
moresenseretrospectively.
Ifyoudon'tgive100%toeverythingthatmatterstoyou,you
mightaswellnotbedoingitatall.Notafunonetolearnthehard
way.
Focusonwhatyoucancontrol.Anotheronethatseemssimpleon
paper.Basically,ifyoucan'tchangeit,there'snoreasontoworryaboutit.
Everythingisachoice.Peoplearealwayssoupset,usuallybecauseof
somethingthathappenedtothem(orseveralsomethings).Ifindthat,atone
pointoranother,everybodyforgetsthatyoucanreactpositivelytonegative
events(yes,thatisallowed!).Peopledecidesomethingisbad,andtheyreact
negativelybecausethat'showtheywereraisedtorespond.I'vefoundso
muchhappinessandcalminmylife,simplybyattemptingtoview
everythingasalearningexperience.Crappyday?Insteadofrevelinginthe
crap,focusonhowtoturnitaround.Whatcanyoudotomakeitbetter?
Focusonthesolution,notontheproblem.I'vefoundthatthevastmajority
ofthetime,theproblemisn'tasbigasyouthinkitis.Apositiveoutlook=a
positiveexperience.
Thereisonlyonewayoutofpain:throughit.Youcan'tgoaround.
Youcan'tavoidit.Acceptit,letithurt,andacceptthatatsomepoint,itwill
hurtless.Thisisacrappy,crappylessontolearnfirsthand.Butyouknow
what?Thisisonethateveryonewilllearnatsomepoint.Sojustkeepthisin
thebackofyourhead.Anddealwiththepaininyourownway,inyourown
time.
You'reworthit.Andnever,ever,everletanybodytellyouotherwise.
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JulianKnight,Thegreatandthefilthy
23upvotesbyGregMann,LeRoyBarnhart,StevenFord,(more)
Wealldiffersomewhat.
IcanonlysaywhatI'vefound.
Don'tsweatthesmallstuff.
Don'tsweatthebigstuffeither.
Makingyourownchoicesisamustandaresponsibility.
Don'tsweatyourresponsibilities.
Don'tbecome"old"beforeyourtime,adapt.
Communityhasvalue,beingstoicorhedonisticcanhurt.
Healthmeansmorethanmoney.
Thebodybecomesfragilesofightbacktokeepitstrong.
Samegoesforthemind.
Befriendingyourelderscanbearealprivilege.
Youmaywonderifyouwereevenaconsciousbeinginyourtwenties.
Workboilsdowntocontactsandpresentationnoteducation.
Rediscoveringyouthbringsvitality.
Lettinggoofyouthcanbringwisdom.
Embracemortalityyouwilldiesogetcoolaboutthefact.
Youmighthavedonebetterwhenyouwereyoungbutyoudidn'thavethe
brainthatyouhavenow.
You'velivedwelloverhalfyourlifesoyoucanactuallycomprehendit'send.
Youthiswastedontheyoung?Maybenotbutit'saquestion.
You'realmostbecomingpersonalfriendswithyourdoctorsanddentists.
Stuckinyourwaysthatcanbecomeaquestiontoo.
Technology...ifyoucan'tstandtheheatgetoutofthekitchengoodifyou
canstandtheheatthough.
Youabsolutelyknowthedifferencebetweenlust,infatuationandlove.
Youshouldhavelearnedhowto"pickyourbattles".
There'sno"superman"left,buttherecanbea"supermind".
Understandthevalueofindividuals,overlookyourdifferencesitisseriously
worthit.
Realizeyourstrangesurprisefortheyouthoftodayforallit'sstrengthand
weakness,cometotermswithit.Theywillbeoldtoo,andreplaced,intheblink
ofaneye.Respecttheirenergyandbraveryforwhattimeithas.
It'snotoveryet,youhaveanauthorityandanintellectthatyouonlysawin
themovieswhenyouwereyounger.
Balanceeverythingyoupossiblycan.
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"20yearsago"goesfromashockingunitoftimetoastatementwithno
meaningatall.
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IfIhadrealisedhowmucheverythinghurtsasyouageIwouldhavebeena
greatdealmoresympatheticintheearlierstagesofmycareer.
Carpediemdon'tmessabout,goforit.
Bebolder.
QuotedfromBillBryson:
Ifyouhaveadreamgetonwithit.
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Don'tmoannobodylovesamoaner.
Ifyouseesomeonedroppinglitterkillthem.
QuotedfromBillyConnolly:
Over60neverpassuptheopportunityforapee,nevertrustafartandIFyou
getanerectionuseit.
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MattSchiavenza,EternallyCurious
23upvotesbyShefalyYogendra,GarrettCollins,MarcBodnick,(more)
Justaboutalloftheoldchestnutsyouhearfromyourparentsendupbeing
true.Tobespecific:
Moneydoesn'treallymatterallthatmuch.It'snicetohave,butyoucanget
bywithoutalotofit.Thereforeit'sbesttotrydowhatyoulovetodo
Don'thavearomanticrelationshipwithsomeoneyoucan't,ordislike,
talkingto.Seemsobviousenough,butyou'dbesurprisedhowoftenthisgoes
unheeded.
Opportunitydoesknockverysoftly.Manyoftheturningpointsinmylife
camefromalmostimperceptibleincidencesofopportunity.
Peoplearereallygoodatfiguringoutwhenyou'renotbeingyourself,soit
makesnosensetotryandfoolthem
Beinga"niceguy"doesn'tmeanyou'reasapwho'snevergoingtofinda
girlfriend.Youwillandtherightkindforyou.
AsWoodyAllensays,90%oflifeisshowingup.
Youregretthethingsyoudon'tdomorethanthethingsyoudo,within
reason!
Howyoulookmatters.Asitshould,nomatterwhatyouusedtothinkin
college.
Thatthefollowingaregoodideas:eathealthily.Don'tsmoke.Don'tdrink
toomuch.Getexercise.Takecareofyourteeth.Payyourbillsontime.Reply
toemails.Showupontime.Maketimeforyourfriends.
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MuyiwaSaka,Interestedinthisparticularidea.
11upvotesbyKatrinA.Otrzonsek,JoeyLavoie,GarrettCollins,(more)
"arslonga,vitabrevia"Somuchtodoandsolittletime.Toachievealotin
thisworld,youhavetofocusandalsomakeuseofotherpeople'stime,money
etc.
youareresponsibleforwhatyoudoandhowyouhandlelife'sissues.
youalreadyhavelotsoftheanswersyouseekoutside.
youarenotperfect
whoisarealfriend/ally?polite,funfriendlyspeakingpersonorpersonwith
consistentpositiveactionstowardsyou.
Planningishelpful
Yourlimits.
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LulaLund
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Thefeelingthatwehaveanycontroloverourlivesisanillusion.Inone
momentyoumayloseeverythingandeveryone.Sadnesswillfindyou.Don't
runfromgriefbecauseitwillhuntyoudownandinvadeeverypartofyour
bodyuntilyougiveitrespect.Nomatterhowbadeverythingseemsitcan
alwaysgetmuchworseaslongasyouarenotdead.Therearelevelsof
sufferingwhichonecannotimagineexistwithoutenduringthem.
Knowingthesefewtruthsisfreedomfromthetyrannyoffear.
Anddespiteourpainorperhapsbecauseofit,lifeisbeautifulineachand
everymoment.Beclearwithyourselfandthosearoundyou.Expressyour
emotionsortheywillownyou.Forgiveeverything.Forgiveyourselfforbeing
theonewholives,theonewhosucceedsandforallyourfailuresgreatand
small,realandimagined.Youmayneverknowthegreatsorrowsand
tragediessurroundingyou.Thereareinfinitekindsofcourage.Askquestions.
Bepresentineverymoment.Bekind.Bethejoy.
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14upvotesbyMikeLeary,JustissBoyer,VandioZuccarelli,(more)
Youmayreadthewisdomofothers,butyou'llonlylearnthelessonswhenyou
makethemistakesforyourself.
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23upvotesbyGarrettCollins,ShefalyYogendra,VandioZuccarelli,(more)
Therearealotofwonderfulanswersonhere,whichshouldprobablybe
startingalist.ButhereisoneIseewithfolksoverandoverthey'vemissed.
Alotofthingsyoudowhenyounger,willsetupyourprocessforlife.
Youareactuallypracticingforyourfuture,bydoinganythingyoudo.Many
ofthosethingswillbeyournostalgia,sopayattention.
Whateverlevelyoudowillbecomeyournewbaselineandboring,Your
tendencywillbetotakeittothenextlevel.Sopickthingswhichwhenthey
driveyouoveracliff,won'tdestroywhatyoulove.
Becarefulwhenitisfun,butnegative.Theytypicallystopwhensomething
elsestopsyou.ThatlookonCoyotesfaceintheroadrunnerwhenherealizes
heisnolongeronthecliff,isonlyfunnyfromtheoutside.
EVERYTHINGyoudo,istrainingyou.noexceptions.Itallbecomespartof
you.
Written4Feb,2012.2,783views.AskedtoanswerbyMattPrivman.
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JohnnyWest
40upvotesbyFajarMarta,EdCaruthers,MuyiwaSaka,(more)
I'm55.ThisiswhatI'velearnedsofar:
Workhard.
OneofthebiggestlessonsI'velearnedisthatnothingbigorgreatis
accomplishedwithouthardwork.Oneofthebiggestthingsmissingfrom
youngergenerationsisagoodworkethic.Atmyage,Iseemtobeabletostay
physicallystrongandworkmuchharderthanguyshalfmyagewhoseemto
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giveupandwimpoutmuchsooner.ThereasonwhyisbecauseIspentmy
youthworkinghardateverythingandmybodyisusedtodoingit.
Playsafe.
It'sOKtohavefun,buthavingitattheriskoflifeandlimbormentalstability
issimplystupid.Drivingtoofast,drinkingtoomuch,takingstupidrisksthat
couldkillyou...I'velosttoomanyfriendsthisway.I'velearnedfromtheir
mistakes.It'sjustasmuchfuntoplaycardsortouchfootballasitistodrag
race.
Walkeveryday,atleastamile.
Mygrandfatherwalkedamileormoreeverysingledayafterhisdinnerandhe
livedto99.IdothesamethingnowandInolongerfeellazyordullaftera
meal.It'sthebestthingyoucandoforyourdigestionandmentalhealth,even
inthewinter.
Eatalittleofeverything,allthingsinmoderation.
Trynewfoods,tryhealthierfoods,tryallkindsofforeignfoods.Don'tbeafraid
tobetheonethatisn'tsaying"Yuck,Iwon'teatthat!".Ihavesomuchmore
interestingdietthanwhenIwas21andenjoylifemorebecauseofit.Don't
drinktoexcess,youcantellwhenyou'vehadenoughsojuststop.Anything
canbecomeaviceifyoudotoomuchofit.
Trustyourgut.
EverysingletimeIhavegoneagainstmyownbetterjudgement,Ihavebeen
bittenintheasswithproblemsbeyondmycontrol.Inrelationships,inbusiness
andmore.Mygutwastellingme"NO"butIwasn'tlisteningandjustbarged
aheadandgotmyselfintotrouble.
Optoutofanyrelationshipthatistoxic,evenifit'sfamily.
Youdon'treallyneedthatmanyfriends,ifyouhaveoneortwothataregood
friends,youwillbefine.I'vehadtoleavemanyfriendsbehindbecauseof
mentalillnessoralcoholproblemsorworse.Mylifeisbetterforit,theywould
havedraggedmedownwiththem.I'vealsohadtocutofffamilymembersthat
wereabusiveandtoxic.Lifeistooshort,sosurroundyourselfwithpeoplewho
respectyouandareyourchampion.Getridofpeopleinyourlifethatputyou
downorrefusetosupportyouinyourlife.
Takechancesonnewthings.
Ibuiltalogcabinfromscratchwithzeropreviousconstructionknowledge.I
justjumpedinandstarted.HadIknownthatitwasgoingtotakemeayear
andmakemeworkharderthanIhadeverworked,Iwouldn'thavedoneit.It's
bestsometimestojustgoforitwithoutthinkingaboutit.NowIhaveabusiness
devotedtotryingnewthingsandit'ssuccessful.Lazinessisyourenemy.
Givetoothersbutkeepalittleforyourself.
Becharitable,givesomething,money,food,clothes,timetoothersandyouwill
feelmuchbetteraboutyourself.Karmahasawayofpayingyoubackinsome
way.Toomanyinthisworldareselfishandgreedy,goagainstthattide.And
thelittleyoukeepforyourself?That'stheactofgiving.
Peopleareneverwhotheyseem,evenifyou'veknownthemallof
yourlife.
'Nuffsaid.
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BradCanham
19upvotesbyAlexandraRomanescu,CaseyO'Neill,GregMann,(more)
Sinceturning50I'vebeenreflectingonalifelivedandlessonslearned.Here's
mytwocents:
Yourlifeconsistsofthestoriesyoutellyourselfaboutwhat
happenedtoyourself....sodoyourbesttochooseyourreactions.
Iknewmyfirstmarriageendedwhenmythenwifesurprisedmeinthe
parkinglotofourapartmentwithaposseofherfriendsandannouncedshe
wasmovingoutrightthenandthere.Iwassurprisedandhurt.Ididn't
argue(atleastnotforlong),orcauseabigsceneIwentforajog.Istill
rememberthatjog,afieldIranby,andthefeelingoflifeContinuing,despite
theawfulnessofamarriageendinginaparkinglot.Thingswillhappento
you.Whatyouwillrememberofthosethings,evenmoresothentheWHAT
ofthemoment,istheHOWofyourreaction.Keepthatinmind.Thestories
youtellyourselfabouthowyoureactedtokeymomentsasyougrowolder
willinformyoursenseofwhoyouare.
Yourattitudedeterminesyourage.Peoplewhoexerciseregularlyhave
morestemcells(repaircelldamagebetter),longertelomeres(cellslive
longer)AreTelomeresTheKeyToAgingAndCancer? ,andahigherVO2
maximum(cansustaineffortlonger).Asyouageyouwillnoticethatsome
peopleintheir20's,30"s,40'setc...become"old"physicallyandinattitude.
Someneverdo.
Creativitydoesn'tstop,itshifts.NearlyeverydayIdrivebyabog.And
everydayIremindmyselftopayattentiontoaparticularspotwheretrees
bothlivinganddeadlinetheshoreastheychangewiththetimeofday,
weather,andseasons.AsayoungmanIenjoyedimmersingmyselfinthe
"immediacy"ofcreativity.Now,thewavesofcreativityare"longer."Pay
attentionandyou'llnoticeyourcreativityhasn'tstopped....likelyyou'vejust
stoppedpayingattentiontowhereitis.Giveyourattentiontoyourinnerand
outerworldandyou'llfinditagain.
Youdonot"need"caffeine,alcohol,oraBMW...orreallymuchat
all.Generallyallofthesethingsaredistractions.Theydonotdefineyou.
However,youcangetcaughtupinthings.Youcaninvestyouremotional
energyinallofthem.However,theyalleventuallyleaveyour"system."The
BMWbecomesjustanothercar,andthebuzzofcaffeineandalcohol
become...piss.AndyouareleftwithYOU.Andthat'sagoodthing.Infact,
thatisTHEthing.
Lovearrives.Youcan'tgosearchingforsomethingyouaren'texpecting.
Andlovewhenitarrivesisusuallyasurprise.Stayopentomystery,
people,experience,andyourownemotional/spiritualresponsesandlove
willinvariablyarrive.
Manypeoplewanttoknowandhelpyou.Kindpeoplefaroutnumber
cruelpeople.However,itusuallytakesahabitofcouragetoopenyourselfto
beinglovedandcaredforbecauseinwesterncultures
independence/isolationisa"norm".Trysomethingnewtoday....shakehands
withthekidbehindcoffeecounter,whensomeoneholdsthedooropenfor
youonthewayintotheofficelookthemintheeyeandsay"thankyou",ask
yourkidsiftheyfeltlonelyorhappytoday....takeyourselfoutofyour
isolationandyou'llbesurprisedthatthemajorityofpeople(notall)
respondwithsurprisedjoyattheconnectionyou'vemade.
Keepdancingasthemusicchanges.Thereisarhythmateachstageof
lifeassureastherewillbedifferentpartners,places,jobs,illnesses,friends
andpairsofpants.Sure,goahead,getcaughtupinthemoment....but
remember,whenthemusicchanges(anditwill)don'tstopdancing.Listen.
That'swhenyou'llstarttotuneintothemusicofyou.
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15upvotesbyMichaelDixon,FirdousBasheer,GregMann,(more)
"itwon'thappentome"
Yes..Yesitwill
Timeandit'ssenseofmomentum,thisyearwasquickerthanthelast,andthe
next?Thatwillhappenevenquicker.Andasyougetolder,itbecomesmore
andmoreapparent.
"Idon'tknowwhatIwanttobewhenIgrowup"
You'realreadyit,youaregoingtobeyou,thewholeway.
Lovecomesinmanyforms
Relationshipshavenorules,otherthantheonesyouagreeon
Realisingitsyourresponsibilitytotakecareofyourself,nooneelsewilldoitfor
you.
Existence/lifeisn'tfair,butit'sunfaironeveryone,soIguessit'sfair.
Noonereallyhasacluetowhatisgoingon,everyoneisjustlikeyou..Figuring
itoutastheygoalong,makingsenseoutofoursensesinordertoquenchour
desiresbeforeitallburnsdown,whatevertheymaybe.
Happinessdoesn'tcomefromperfection,perfectioncomesfromhappiness.
Fortheworld,asdestructiveasitis,isperfecttoapeacefulsoul.
Fortheworld,asbeautifulasitis,ischaotictoananxioussoul.
ThesearethingsIrealisedasIgrewolder.
AlthoughIbelievewisdomisnotpastdowngenerations,butwisdomisbrought
intothisworld,throughnewgenerations.
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JenniferWest
13upvotesbyNeilParkes,StevenFord,ErinLenoreBouma,(more)
Thatthepeopleinyourlife...friends,familyandthequalityoftherelationships
youbuildisallthatreallymattersandiswhatwillultimatelydeterminehow
muchjoyandpainonewillhaveinlife.
Written29Jan,2013.1,904views.
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MichaelDixon,wonderer
9upvotesbyLaurenLe,ShefalyYogendra,KateSimmons,(more)
IhavegainedsomeperspectiveasIhavegrownolderandthathasledmeto
readjustmypriorities.Iamnowslowertoangerandfastertosmile.Ihave
learnedthatsomethingsjustdon'tmatterinfact,manythingsthatusedto
matteralottomedon'tmatteranymore.It'sjustnotworthitanymore.Imean
thingsthatflowfromtheego:possessiveness,theneedtowinandandberight,
attachment,greed,etc.ThebigoneI'mlearningtoletgoofatthisageisfear,
whichisreallythesourceofallothers.Iput"Steppenwolf"bymyname
becausethatisabookbyHermannHessethatispartlyaboutagingandthe
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midlifecrisisthatoftenoccursinthemiddlefifties.Iwasthesteppenwolffora
fewyears.Somethingsslowdown,othersquickenasthevalueoftimeis
perceivedmoreclearlyandloveisrevealedmoreandmoretobeattheheartof
allexistence.
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ErisBolt
11upvotesbyTinaKang,MuyiwaSaka,PatrickMathieson,(more)
Yourparentsaren'talwaysright.
Justbecauseparentsaren'talwaysrightdoesn'tmeanyouhavetofallout.
Gettingintofightsdoesn'tmakeyoulookcool.
Gettingintofightsmostcertainlydoesnotdefineyourbravery.
Keepingsilentisatalent.Somearebornwithitwhilesome,includingme,
havetoworkhardtodevelopit.
Beingweirdissomethingthatshouldbecelebrated.Embracewhoyouare.
Angerishorrible,unlesschanneledpositively.
Themediaplaysanimportantroleineducatinganation.Thatdoesn't
alwaysmeanthey'redoingtheirjobwell.
Everyonehashisownstory.Neverbequicktojudge.
Impressions,ontheotherhand,areautomaticreactionsofathinkingbrain.
However,donotletthemhinderhowyouviewathingorperson.
Mindyourownbusiness.
Differentstrokesfordifferentfolks.Donotforceyouropiniondownother
people'sthroats.
Youdon'tneedhypocritesinlife.
Sometimes,peoplejusthavetobepunchedfullintheface.Witha
warhammer.Thesadthingis,youmustnotdoit.
Looksandsizematter,andit'sunfair.
Youdon'thavetoact"normal"tofitin,butfacingyouruniquenessand
standinguptoittakesawaysomeconvenienceinlifewhicharereadily
availableifyoujust"playalong".
Peopledon'talwaystreatyouthewayyoutreatthem.
Surroundyourselfwithpeoplewholetyougrow.
Kindnessisaveryimportantthing,morethanbeautyorbrainsormoney.
Childrenneedtogrowinlove.Theyareourbesthopeforabetter,fairer,
brighterworld.
Meanwhatyousay.Ifwhatyou'reabouttosayismean,thendon'tsay
anythingatall.
"Peoplecanalwaysdisagreewithoutbeingdisagreeable."
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LeRoyBarnhart,"Retired"mathematicsinstructorand...(more)
11upvotesbyJenRieger,BillMcDonald,WalterPunsapy,(more)
SomeofthebestdecisionsthatIhaveevermadewereto"quit"or"giveup".
Thetrickistobeabletomoveon,pickupthepieces,andstartoveragain.
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DevRajhansa
13upvotesbyMikeLeary,PhilDiNuzzo,KatrinA.Otrzonsek,(more)
Havingjustrecentlyturned40andhadmyfirstchild,Ihavethoughtdeeply
aboutwhereIamandwhereIthought
I'dbe.Theydon'tmatch.Atall,really.Lifecanbereallyreallyreallyhard.
Whenitis,youhavetohonestlyand
fearlesslyaskyourself,"Why?"Theanswersyouprovideyourselfhavetopower
tohealyou,orkillyou.TheBIGGESTmostprofoundandimportantskillthatI
hopetopassontomy9montholddaughtersleepingpeacefullyintheother
roomwithherlittlehandstucked
underherselfandhertookusupintheairisthis,"IfyoutrulyLoveyourself,
youwillbeyourownbestfriend.Ifyoudon't,thenmakesureyoustartseeinga
Counsellorearly".Ifeelthatformostofmyadultlife,Ihavebeenmyown
worstenemy.Thingsthathappen"to"meoraroundmearenothingmorethan
manifestationsof
whatishappeningwithinme.Thisideaisnothing"new".Ijusthopethatit
won'ttakeanother40yearsofmylifetostopbeatingmyselfup!!!
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SteveRuiz,artistandwriter.
10upvotesbyBillMcDonald,KonstantinYakushev,GregMann,(more)
Therearetwolevelsofcommunication:theexplicitandtheimplicit,thesaid
andtheunsaid.
Iwouldguessthatmostpeople(evenadults,andespeciallymen)neverlearn
thelatter,becausethey(we)arealmostexclusivelytaughtthatwhatissaidor
sayableisthetotalityofknowledge.Asrationalbeingsinsidearational,
languagebasedworld,weattendonlytothoseideasavailabletorationalityin
languageandtendtoignorethoseimplicationsnotmadeexplicit.Weare
simplynotequippedwiththetoolstocommunicateoutsideoflanguage.
Unfortunately,thisleadstoaridiculousamountoftransparencytothosewho
cananddoattendtothecommunicativelanguageofgesture,becauseweare
allalwaysexpressingmorethanwearesaying,whetherweareconsciousofit
ornot.Anoffertohelponaprojectismorethanarequestforhelp,itisa
gesturewhichacknowledgesthecapacityoftheothertoperform,aswellasthe
desireforhisorhercollaboration.Aninterruptionismorethanjust"rude,"it
impliesapositionintheinfrapoliticalsuperioritygameofwhogetsto
interruptwho.
Contextiskey,however,andisespeciallykeytounderstandingwhatisand
isn'tflirting.Inthestageofpossibleromance,itisterriblyawkwardtoexpress
interestsexplicitly,ortogivepermissiontomakeamove,sotheseideasare
communicatedbyproxyorsymbolicdramatization.
Anexample:Ioncehadafriend'snewgirlfriendenthusiasticallyaskmeto
comeintoherbedroom,gotothecloset,climbaladder,andputalightbulb
intoasocket.Irecommendedthatmyfrienddoitandshesaidhewasn'tbig
enough.Whetherthiswasconsciouslystagedornotisbesidethepoint:the
unsaidwasatthesurface.
Icanonlyspeakfromexperience,butabeliefthatcommunicationonlyexists
inthethingsyousayandwriteandotherwisecommunicateexplicitlywilllead
toawkwardcontradictionsbetweenyourexplicitlanguageorclaimsandthe
subtleexpressionsofyourbodyoractions.Youcaneitherengagethis
consciouslyornot,andmostpeoplechoosethelatterandspendlivesin
conflictandconfusion.Ittakesawhiletolearntoexpressinterestcircuitously,
tacitly,orthroughgestureorimplication,butitcanbedone.
Afinalnoteofwarning:thisisaskillsetveryclosetocoldreading.Makingthe
implicitexplicit(throughlanguage)isagoodwayoflosingfriendsandmaking
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peopleincrediblyuncomfortablearoundyou.Respondinkindthereisno
obligationtoremoveaconversationtolanguageifeveryoneisgettingby
withoutit,andtherecanberealconsequencesinbreakingthespellbyexplicit
interpretation.
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11upvotesbyYesudasonPaulraj,ErinLenoreBouma,PatrickDonohue,(more)
OAfewthingsIlearned,beinganunconventionalcreativepersoninaworld
andera(80's&90'sweremy20's)thatisdesignedforconventionalpeople:
Everyonesays"thereistimetodothisorthat."Yeah,no.Actuallywhen
youarebetween20and34,that'stheprime.Ifyoudon'tfigurestuffout
careerwiseuntilyou're40itactuallyistoolate,unlessyouhavemoney.Money
trumpseverythingintheUS.Thosethatsayitdoesn'tmatterneverhadtoskip
mealsorliveoutofacar.Ihave.Dowhatyouloverightnowdonotwait.Life
isshortsoburnithot!
Don'tgetinvolvedwithonelover/girl/boyfriend(doNOTget
married)tooyoung.Iknowpeoplesaydon'tbeacommitmentphobe,and
ITAwiththat.WhatI'msayingiswait,haveLOTSofloversandrelationships
butjustwaitforthebigcommitment(grantedyourheartwillgetinthewayof
thisbutyoudon'twanttobe40outofwork&marriedtosomeonewhofriend
zonesyou).Youneedyour20'stofigureoutstuffandgetyourselfsituatedso
you'renot40andoutofworkbecausealmostnoonehiresafter40.Trustme,
especiallyinthecreativeindustries.Everyoneover40hastheirowncompany
orstudiosotheylookatyoulikeyou'resomesortofslacker.After40youbetter
goitaloneorteamupwithapartnerforyour"mixedoccupation"career.(It's
notsobadreallyjustwayhardertogetmoving).
Oh,wait,Iscrewedup&talkedworkagain*smacksforehead*You'rebodyis
hardandtightnow.You'llappreciatethemellowbodytypelaterafteryou
knowwhatyou'redoing.You'llbeabetterpartnerhavinghadexperiencewith
lotsofdifferentkindsofpeopleandlesshangupslaterwhileyouappreciate
yourownagingandthatofyoursignificantother.
Workyouassoff.Anticipateandbeproactive.Seewhatneedstobe
doneandjustdoit,don'twaittobeasked.Andlearnthesocialgames.
NothingworsethanbeingthegotopersonatworkonlytohaveMr.Slick
Gamesmangetthepromotionyou(needed)wanted.
Liveeveryday,everymomentasifitwerethemomentafteryour
death.You'llvalueeverythingmore.
Alwayshaveagiveback(nevergotosomeoneemptyhanded).
Reciprocity,relationships,community.Icangetintosomerestaurantsothers
getinlineforbecauseeverydishwasher,cook,waiterandMaitreDknowI'm
thatcrazyguywhocomesintothekitchenafteramealtopersonallythank
themforafantasticmealandexperience.I'vemetincrediblepeopledoingthat.
Don'tforgettotipharderbecauseitmaymeanthedifferencebetweensomeone
skippingamealsotheirkidcaneat.IfIneedsomethingfromsomeone,Ifind
outwhattheyneedfirstandbringit.Hardertosaynowhenyoushowupand
meettheirneedsupfront.
KnowCommoner'sFourLawsofEcologybecausethat'swherelifeis
real.
Thereisnofreelunch,everythingisrelatedtoeverythingelse,thereisno
"away",everythingisalwayschanging.
Hydratesufficientlyandmindyourspine.Havingputseriousmileage
onminedoingwhatarenowcalled"extremesports,"youhitfortyandevery
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discsays,'yeahfuckthis,we'redone'andtheyherniateruptureandbasically
kickyerass.Nothinglikehavingtorelearntowalkwithafusedback.Take
careofityoung.
Giveyourselfauthorityandpermissiontoditchbeliefsthatno
longerserveyou,andadoptnewonesthatdo.
Ifyouheedthegoodadviceyou'vegottenfromthefiftysomeoddawesome
peoplewhogaveit,you'llhaveameaningfulandfulfillinglife.Weallcare
aboutyou.Nowgogetit!
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PatrickJMoran,speaksfromexperience
10upvotesbyVandioZuccarelli,MarieStein,DevRajhansa,(more)
Theanswersyouseekallliewithin.Thosedemons?Theycarrywisecounsel.
Thatshityou'vebeenfastidiouslyavoiding?Thereinliesyourgold.
Written6Feb,2012.917views.
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JimWatkins
10upvotesbyPiyushMaheshwari,DavidMarland,BeckyBlair,(more)
Mybiggestregret,lookingback,isthatIlivedmylifeselfishly.Myfocuswas
alwaysonwhatIneeded,notonwhatIhadtogive.Mybestadviceto
someonewiththeirwholelifeinfrontofthemisnottoliveforyourselfalone.
Giveasmuchasyoucantoasmanypeopleasyoucan.
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MattHughes
8upvotesbyViditSaxena,JinggoyDiosana,GarrettCollins,(more)
1. Don'teverusecreditcards.
2. Squareyourselfwiththeradicalnotionthatyou'renottheabsolutecenter
oftheuniverse.
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NatalieWainwright,journalist,writer,crosswordconstructor
15upvotesbyDevRajhansa,WalterPunsapy,ErinLenoreBouma,(more)
Thatwhatyoureallylearninhighschoolandcollegeifyouworkatitis
howtothink.
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6upvotesbyTobiasC.Brown,PatrickMathieson,NickPardo,(more)
I'mlearningthathowyouthinkaboutagingplaysareallybigpartinhowyou
age,foralotofpeople.
SomepeoplethatIknowtalkaboutbeing40,50or60asifit'sonestepaway
fromthegraveandotherpeoplethatIknowbarelymentionbeing50and
carrythemselvesliketheyareintheir30's.
Iknowthattherearemanyvariablesinaging(diet,genetics,etc...)butIcan't
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helpbutthinkthatI,andmanyotherpeoplearebetterofflivingassomeone
whodoesn'tpaytoomuchattentiontomyagethanifIspentmydayslimiting
myselfbyit.
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6upvotesbyJoannaPecorella,BeaBalogh,NelusigweMbingu,(more)
Brilliantvideo!
Thingstolearnstraightaway:
Itdoesn'tmatterwhatanybodythinksaboutyou,itsnotyourbusiness.
Nothingmattersenoughtogetanxiousaboutorworryabout,unlessitstops
youbreathing.
Whydoyouneedtobegoalormoneydriven?Thinkfirstwhatyouwantoutof
life.
Forgivestraightaway,putdowntheburdenofanger.
Youarenotasimportantasyouthinkyouare.
Squirrelawayalittlebitofrainydaymoneyeachmonth.
Valuegoodfriends.
Helpothers,itmakesyoufeelgood.
Meditate...
Written11Apr.261views.AskedtoanswerbyJasonSilvermann.
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13upvotesbyKateSimmons,MattPrivman,AnneMarijkePodt,(more)
Manypeoplelearn,overtime,thetruerelationshipbetweenidealismand
cynicism.Thatrealizationempowersthemtohavedealingsthatareboth
successfulandgraceful.Theyuseabundleofhigherandlowermotives,both
inthemselvesandothers.Notallofthesepeopleknowthattheyknowthis,but
theyapplyitintuitively,atvaryinglevelsofskill.
Asthepatternsbecomeclearer,theyfeellessclumsy,andacquiregrace.They
have'calibrated'bothhigherandlowermotivesinoftenrecurringsituations.
Theyseethat,bydefault,youhavetoappealtolowermotivesinyourselfand
others,whileappearingtoappealtohighermotives.Theyknowtheirshadow
indetail.Foranyclassofreasonstodosomething,thecynicalpartisthe
sweatinghorseandtheidealististhepayload.Neglectingeithersideofanyone,
especiallyanyone'shorse,isrude.
Therearesomeexceptionswhereyoucanworkwithotherrealitiesand
appearances,whentheinterestsandselfconceptsofthoseinvolvedareall
aligned,forabriefmomentintimeandspace.Thatisalwaysapleasant
surprise,ananomalythatissavored,enjoyed,publicized,andremembered.
Peoplethatknowthiscanfeelwhentheyaredealingwithsomeonewho
doesn'tknow.Whensomeoneappearsclumsilyrude,itmeansthatpersonsees
onlyhalfofthem,seesonlyeitherahigherorlowerpartthatneedstobe
appealedto.Nearlyallteenagersareoftenrude.Theycanonlyappeargraceful
whilenottryingtogetsomethingdone.Whentheyarerudewhilegettingtheir
handsdirtytheyareforgivenbecausetheydon'tknowanybetter.Butwhen
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progressivelyolderpeopleconfusethehorsewiththepayloadtheyaremore
andmorelikelytobegracefullyavoided.
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6upvotesbyShefalyYogendra,ErinLenoreBouma,RussellWhite,(more)
I'velearnedthathelpingthoseyoulovewhentheyneedit,nomatterifwhat
they'reaskingforisnotsomethingyou'dprefertodo,strengthensthe
relationship,andincreasesyourtolerancefordoingwhatneedsdoing,
ratherthanjustwhatyoufeellikedoing.Thisisahelpfulcapacityinyour
ownlife.
Ifyoucareenoughtolearnaboutsomething,eventhoughitseemslikean
impossiblylargeoresotericsubjecttocomprehend,andyouspendenough
timeonit,youwilleventuallylearnenoughwhereyoufeellikeyoucangrasp
it.Itmaytakeseveralyearstoreachthisstage,though.Sohavepatience
withyourself.
Idon'tknowifthere'sasmuchtruthtothisasIthinkthereis,butitseems
likeIreachedastageseveralyearsago(I'minmymid40's)whereInoticed
thereareaLOTofpeoplewhothinktheyunderstandanissuefullywhen
they'refarfromthat,andthere'snowayinhellyou'regoingtoconvince
themotherwise.Ialsorealizedthatmanypeoplemyagearelikethis.Asthe
yearshavepassed,thisfeelinghasn'tgoneaway,andI'velearnedto
understandthatI'mbetteroffnotbeatingmyheadagainstawall.I'mjust
goingtohavetoadapttotherulesthesepeoplecomeupwithinthebestway
Ican(orfindsomewaytoavoidthedisaster),becauseI'mintheminority...
SometimesmyfriendsusedtoaskmerhetoricallywhenIwasyounger,"Do
youbelieveeverythingyouread?"AsIgotolder,Iunderstoodwhatthey
weretalkingabout.Idon'tbelieveeverythingIread,evenifitseemsto
provideacompletenarrativeofevents,individuals,groups,and/or
phenomena,becauseIunderstandbetterhowpeoplecanfoolthemselves
veryelaborately.BTW,narrativesarenotareliableformofknowledge.It
takesalotofworkonyourparttogetagoodunderstandingofasubject
fromthem,becauseyouneedtocrosschecksources,evenifpeopletryhard
togetthestoryright.Analyticsourcesarebetter,thoughI'mtryingto
acquireatasteforscientificsources(Ihavesomeexperiencewithsuch,but
I'dliketomakethemmoreofamainstay).Thisrelatestotheitemabove.
I'vewonderedwhetherlearninghistorywasawasteoftime,exceptasanice
hobby.IfeellikeIunderstandtheworldabitbecauseofmyknowledgeofit,
butwhenitcomestoinfluencingdecisionsthatmatterintheworld,Imight
aswellbeignorant.WhatIthinkIknowabouthowwegottowhereweare
today,andhumannature,doesn'tmatteronejotintheschemeofthings.
MostAmericansarenotinterestedintheconversation.
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Ihaveverylittlecontrolovermyownlife,andI'velearnedtoacceptthat.
Thiscanseemverythreatening,butthere'sanothersidetoitthat'svery
liberating,becauseitencouragesyoutotakerisks.Idon'tworryasmuch
about"whatmighthappen."Idowhatfeelsfulfillingtome.I'lldealwiththe
consequencesofmydecisionsastheycome.
Mylifedidn'tturnoutanythinglikeIthoughtitwouldwhenIwasa
teenager.Irememberwedidanexerciseinschoolwherewe"envisioned"our
futureselveswithpicturesweclippedoutofmagazinesandpastedona
pieceofpaper.Wealsowroteabitaboutwhatourliveswouldbelike,and
whatwesawourselvesdoing.Nothinglikethat...
I'velearnedtovaluethosequalitiesofmyselfthatwhenIwasyoungerothers
thoughtwere"weird,"andwhichIsuppressed,becauseIthoughtwhat
othersthoughtofthoseaspectsmattered.Theydon't.Embracingthose
qualitieshasbeenoneofthemostrewardingexperiencesofmylife,andI
feelmorecomfortablewithwhoIamnowthanwhenIwasyounger.Ihave
noticed,though,thatembracingthemhasbeensociallyisolating,because
whatI'vereallydoneisembracedmyuniqueness,andwhatItrulyvaluein
mypursuits.Astheyearsprogress,thisisolationmaychange,andIwould
welcomethat.Fornow,that'sthepriceI'vebeenwillingtopayforthe
reward.
IhitastageafewyearsagowhereIrealizedsomeopportunitiesImissed,
becauseofthelifecircumstancesIlivedthrough,andsomedecisionsIand
mymothermadewhenIwasyoung,andIreallyregrettedit.Itwasmostly
realizingmymortality,andthatIonlyhavesomanyyearsleft.Icameto
realize,though,thatmycircumstancescould'vebeenworse,andIshouldbe
sothankfulforwhathappenedinstead.
Yourbodycan'ttakeeverythingyouthrowatitasyougetintoyour30s,so
takecareofit.Thefirstthingtogoformewasmydigestion.Eatingprotein
richfoodsgavemecrampingandgas,andincreasedtheleveloftensionin
mybody.Ilaterlearnedthatthiswascommonformyagegroup.Enzyme
supplementshelpwiththatalot.
Igottoapoint,aboutwhenIhit40,whenIcouldseethatItendtogive
myselfmyownbestgifts.Idon'tmeanthatIgoshopping,andIfindjustthe
rightthing.Imeanthatsofar,I'vedoneabetterjobofsatisfyingmyown
desiresthananyoneelsehas.So,thingslikebirthdaysandChristmasare
morehumbleaffairs.WhenI'maskedwhatI'dlikeforapresent,Iusually
don'thaveananswer.Idon'tfeellikeIneedmuchbeyondwhatIalready
have.
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11upvotesbyKateSimmons,DevRajhansa,VasuKumar,(more)
Tensimplerules:
1.Smile.Apositiveattitudewillgetyouthroughmostproblems.
2.Lifeisnotfair.Getusedtoit.
3.Theuniversedoesnotcareaboutyou.
4.Takecareofnumberone.Youareresponsibleforyourown(words,
actions,wellbeing,success,safety)
5.Manyinterpersonalrelationshipproblemscanbesolvedwithfoursimple
words:Youreright.Imsorry.
6.Mistakeshappen.Admittothem,learnfromthem,moveon.
7.Dontsweatthesmallstuff.Alotoflifesproblemsarenotworthworrying
about.
8.Questionassumptions.
9.Youcantchangesomeoneelse.
10.Yourparents(andtheirparents)mightactuallyknowsomething.Listen
tothemoccasionally.
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TimLockwood
5upvotesbyEdCaruthers,LisaCarey,TimYen,(more)
Ifyoudonothingelseinlife,finishyoureducationatminimumatwoyear
degree,preferablyafouryeardegreeormore.It'salmostimmaterialwhatyour
degreeisin,aslongasyougetone.Manydoorswillbeclosedtoyouifyou
don't.
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BinalPatel
8upvotesbyMichaelDixon,DevRajhansa,RishabhHeer,(more)
ThingsI'verealized:
PeoplearemoreforgivingthanIrealized.
Peopleandplacesareareflectionofmyperceptionsandmyselfhatemyself
andtheworldishateful,lovemyselfandtheworldiswonderful.
Alotoftimes,allIhavetodoisask,nicely.
Whensomethingoraneventmakesmeangrythat'swherethereal
informationaboutmeishidden.
Thereisalwaysaway(ifinasituationyoudon'tlike)notmovingisslow
death.
Peopledon'thaveagendasformeandarenotthinkingaboutmeatalltimes.
CommitisaverypowerfulactthanIrealized,beforeitwasjustamereword.
Realizationsmeansquatintheheatofthings...
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CaySmith,writer,artist,culinaryexpertandw...(more)
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youseemtorealizeatsomepointthatyouhavefarmoreexperiencethan
potential.Andtheworldyousetouttochangechangedyouinstead.
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LanDao,"Yourpathisyourstowalkandyours...(more)
6upvotesbyLmThi,ErinLenoreBouma,TienLe,(more)
ThisiswhatIrealizeasIgetolder:
Inolongerhavepatienceforcertainthings,notbecauseIvebecomearrogant,
butsimplybecauseIreachedapointinmylifewhereIdonotwanttowaste
moretimewithwhatdispleasesmeorhurtsme.
Ihavenopatienceforcynicism,excessivecriticismanddemandsofanynature.
Ilostthewilltopleasethosewhodonotlikeme,tolovethosewhodonotlove
meandtosmileatthosewhodonotwanttosmileatme.
Inolongerspendasingleminuteonthosewholieorwanttomanipulate.I
decidednottocoexistanymorewithpretense,hypocrisy,dishonestyandcheap
praise.Idonottolerateselectiveeruditionnoracademicarrogance.Idonot
adjusteithertopopulargossiping.
Ihateconflictandcomparisons.Ibelieveinaworldofoppositesandthats
whyIavoidpeoplewithrigidandinflexiblepersonalities.
InfriendshipIdislikethelackofloyaltyandbetrayal.Idonotgetalongwith
thosewhodonotknowhowtogiveacomplimentorawordofencouragement.
ExaggerationsboremeandIhavedifficultyacceptingthosewhodonotlike
animals.
AndontopofeverythingIhavenopatienceforanyonewhodoesnotdeserve
mypatience.
ThisisOSMICARDTEIXEIRA'quoteanditreflectsexactlywhatIthink.
ThanksOse.
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FarisHadi,Perpetuallycurious.
6upvotesbyDianaPhoenix,NashKhan,PrabuSivaSankar,(more)
I'msorrythatIwon'tbeabletoaddmoreresoundinginsights,Iamafterall,
notmuchfurtherdownthelinethanyouare(at24),butbeingaQuoran
meansthatyoushareanyways.Youneverknowwhensomeonesomewherein
theworldwouldfindyouranswersthemostrelatable.Withthatspiritinmind,
andamidstalloftheawesome,insightfulanswersofotherQuorans,here's
whatI'velearnedinmyrelativelyshortlifehereonthistinylittleplanetcalled
Earth.
1. Asanintrovert,I'vehadahardtimedefecatinginpublicrestrooms,
especiallywhenIknowthere'speopleoutside.It'snotthecleanlinessthat's
anissue,itstheembarrassmentatthesoundsI'dgeneratethatgetsme.As
Igrewolder,Irealizedtheprobabilityofmemeetingthesepeopleever
again,thatthey'drememberthisparticularincidentandthatthey'd
rememberitwellenoughtolinkittomewasinfinitesimallysmall.Fear
gone.
2. ALWAYStrustyourinstincts.(Yourmileagemayvary).Icannotrecallhow
manytimesI'vefeltasifsomethingisnotrightanddecidedtoplowright
onanywayonlytoregretit.OrwhenIfeellikeIneedtoduck,ducking
rightassomethingwhizzedpass,almostdecapitating/slamming/killing
me.OrwhenIfeltthatIwasmissingsomething,ignoringit,walkingout
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anywayandrememberingwhatIneededhalfwaythrough.Your
subconsciousisalwaysworkingman.Gutfeelingsarethereforareason.
(Ofcourse,othersmightdisagree)
3. Gooutofyourwaytohelppeople.Itsawesome,itmakestheworldabetter
place.BUTDONOTEXPECTANYHELPBACK.Thatway,youdon'tget
bitterandcynicalandwhenyoudogetsomethingback,you'llbe
pleasantlysurprised.Alwaysbettertobepleasantlysurprisedthanforever
expecting.
4. Bettertoregretthantowonder.Icallthis"TheFilter".It'ssomewhatin
linewithwhatothersaretalkingaboutwhentheysaynottobeafraidof
mistakes.BeforeIdosomething,I'llalwaysaskmyselfWillIregretnot
doing/experiencingthis?Ifyes,thenIdoit.EvenifIknowitsbadforme.
Atbest,yougetanawesomestoryoffofit,andyougainaknowledgeof
something,somethingyouwouldn'thaveknownifyoudidn'ttryit.At
worst,youhaveabadstorytopassdown.
5. Finally,andthemostimportantlySHITHAPPENS.Ilovethislesson.I
wasareallyseriouskidwhenIwasyounger,beingbroughtupinasemi
strictasianenvironmentwheremistakesareconsideredsevereandyouare
alwaysexpectedtobethebest.AddthattothefactthatI'manonlychild,
alleyesarealwaysonmeitslikeaspotlightandamicroscopeisalwayson
you,judgingyoureverymove.Thatmademeveryconsciousofmistakes
andIwasoverlycriticalofmyselfforalongtime.ThenIgrewupandasI
grew,Irealizesometimes,therearejustsomethingsyoucannotplanfor
anditsnoone'sfaultanditdoesn'tmeanthewholeworldisover.Embrace
thesuck,revelinit,learnwhatyoucanandcarryon.Pointingfingers,
sulking,blaming,cursingtheearth,cryingandallthatjazzisnotgoingto
helpyouonebit.
6. Ohcrap.Onemore.THISTOOSHALLPASS.Yeah.That'sdefinitelymy
lastlesson.Howevershittythingsarerightnow,howeverdownyoufeel
becauseofthatjob,thatcommentbythatyoutubeperson,thatasshole
whocouldn'tgiveyouabreak,howeverhardthingsgetwiththat
examinationcomingup,itwillfeelliketheweightofthewholefucking
worldisonyourightnow,butgiveittwodays,andyouwilllaughatit
afterwards.Again,I'mgonnausethisEmbracethesuckandcarryon.=)
Goodluck,buddy.
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LidiaStanton,Notyoungenoughtoknoweverything
4upvotesbyJoelVBenjamin,ErinLenoreBouma,RussellWhite,(more)
Thatyoucantdoitallonyourown.Inanyareaoflife.Havingnetworksis
aboutgivinggenerouslyandtakingwhenlifegetstough,normallywhenyou
leastexpectit.
IlikeasimplesentencebyBruceKasanoffwhosephilosophyisthatifyousee
thelightinothers,youbringouttalentinthem.Anddontexpecttobepaid
back.Thisishowheexplainsit:
Begenerousandexpert,trustworthyandclear,openmindedand
adaptable,persistentandpresent.
Generousmeanstohelpotherslongbeforeandafteryouneedtheirhelp.
Expertmeanstobecompetentinoneormoreareasthatothersvalue,andto
usethisexpertisetobenefitothers.
Trustworthymeanstobeapersonwhostandsbehindothers,especiallyin
toughtimes.
Clearmeanstohelppeopleclarifywhattheywantandalsohelpthemexpress
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thisinasimpleandstraightforwardmanner.
Openmindedmeansneverstoplisteningandlearning,andmakeiteasierfor
otherstodothesame.
Adaptablemeanssharingoneofthemostvaluableinsightsanyonecangain,
whichisthatweallhaveagreaterabilitytochangeoursituationsthanitoften
seems.
Persistentmeanstohelppeopleevenwhenitishardandtheydon't
immediatelysucceed.
Presentmeanstosetyourthoughtsandagendaasidesothatyoucanlisten
toothersandprovethattheyareimportanttoyou.
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8upvotesbyAntoniaAnni,MargueriteFloyd,GarrettCollins,(more)
Theravagesoftimeonourbodiescannotbeoverexaggerated.
Metabolismslows.Injuriesfromthepastturnintoarthritisorotherwisecause
pain.Jointsfail.Teethturnyellowandchip.Musclemassdecreasesin
proportiontoage.Energydiminishes.Digestionslows.Eliminationand
urinationbecometopicsofconcern.Gravitycausesissuesofitsownasweall
loseheightanddiscsinourbacksbecomecompressed.Weendupvisiting
moredoctorsandseeingmorespecialistsinanyoneyearthanweever
anticipated.Wethinkbacktowhenwewereyoung,tothedayswenever
consideredtheideathatpainwouldeverinvadeourbodiestotheextentit
does,andwewonderwhywedidn'ttakebettercareofourselves.
Theravagesoftimeonourbodiescannotbeoverexaggerated.
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NupurMehra,AnAtheist,hopingtomakethisWorld...(more)
8upvotesbyFarhanHamid,RajBhasin,JeannineSpicer,(more)
Thateveryrelationship,nomatterhowstrongthatis,hasanexpirydate.
Thatpeoplechange,forgoodorforbad.Buttheydo
Thatlifeisasgoodorasbadasyouseeit.Icanbehappyinadormroom,and
Icanbesadinapalace.Mostofitdependsonmeandmyperspectivetowards
life.
Thatwordshitharderthanapunch.Choosethemwisely.
ThattimeisTHEbesthealer.Youmaynotrealiseitatthemoment,butitdoes
getbetter
Thatloveandhateareveryrelativeterms.SoareGoodandBad.People,
feelings,relationshipstheyallliesomewhereinbetweengoodandbad.
Thatquittingisalwaystheeasiestoption.
Thatfamilyalwayscomesfirst.
Thattruefriendsareprecious.Andyouhavetomaketimeandeffortstokeep
themwithyouforever.Youwillneedthemmanytimesinyourlife,sohold
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themtight.
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SimiSapir
7upvotesbyWalterPunsapy,DanLee,ShawnaKimble,(more)
Thatlifeisshortandthedaysmovefast.
Yourarelyevergetasecondchancetomakeanimpression,tocorrect
mistakes,tofixthings.
Givingisthehighestformofgetting.
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AnirudhSingh,Investor
9upvotesbyGarrettCollins,TiffanyTraille,SaraHoskins,(more)
Thisisaninterestingthreadwithvaluableinsights.Inadditiontotheabove,
followingaremythoughts
1. Thekeytakeawayfromthisstoryisthatnothinginlifeispermanent,
whichiswhybeingemotionallybalancediscritical
Aboyisgivenahorseonhis14thbirthday.
Everyoneinthevillagesays,Ohhowwonderful.ButaZenmasterwho
livesinthevillagesays,Weshallsee.
Theboyfallsoffthehorseandbreakshisfoot.Everyoneinthe
villagesays,Ohhowawful.TheZenmastersays,Weshallsee.
Thevillageisthrownintowarandalltheyoungmenhavetogoto
war.But,becauseofthebrokenfoot,theboystaysbehind.Everyone
says,Oh,howwonderful.
TheZenmastersays,Weshallsee.
2. Thefollowingareinterestinglines,whichhelpedmeseemyselfthrougha
toughphasewheremylifesituationwasverysimilartothedescription
below.WhatIgotoutofthatphasewasthatproblems,andbigonesat
that,willcome.Onejustneedstokeepthefaithandassomeoneheresaid,
theonlywayoutisthroughthem"Sometimesfateislikeasmall
sandstormthatkeepschangingdirections.Youchangedirectionbutthe
sandstormchasesyou.Youturnagain,butthestormadjusts.Overand
overyouplaythisout,likesomeominousdancewithdeathjustbefore
dawn.Why?Becausethisstormisntsomethingthatblewinfromfar
away,somethingthathasnothingtodowithyou.Thisstormisyou.
Somethinginsideofyou.Soallyoucandoisgiveintoit,steprightinside
thestorm,closingyoureyesandpluggingupyourearssothesand
doesntgetin,andwalkthroughit,stepbystep.Theresnosunthere,no
moon,nodirection,nosenseoftime.Justfinewhitesandswirlingupinto
theskylikepulverizedbones.Thatsthekindofsandstormyouneedto
imagine.Andyoureallywillhavetomakeitthroughthatviolent,
metaphysical,symbolicstorm.Nomatterhowmetaphysicalorsymbolicit
mightbe,makenomistakeaboutit:itwillcutthroughfleshlikea
thousandrazorblades.Peoplewillbleedthere,andyouwillbleedtoo.
Hot,redblood.Youllcatchthatbloodinyourhands,yourownbloodand
thebloodofothers.
Andoncethestormisoveryouwontrememberhowyoumadeit
through,
howyoumanagedtosurvive.Youwontevenbesure,infact,whetherthe
stormisreallyover.Butonethingiscertain.Whenyoucomeoutof
thestormyouwontbethesamepersonwhowalkedin.Thatswhatthis
stormsallabout.HarukiMurakami(KafkaontheShore)
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MartimWeinstein,trierofallthings,masteroffew.
5upvotesbyErinLenoreBouma,LaurenLe,LakshmiKrishnan,(more)
Aclich,butsotrue:You'llhavegreaterregretforthethingsyoudidn'tdo,
thanforthethingsyoudid.
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12upvotesbyAndrewKoenigsberg,MikeLeary,VandioZuccarelli,(more)
WhatIthoughtwasimportantinmyteenswasn'timportantinmytwenties,
andinmy30stheyareevenlessimportant.
Noonereallyholdsyouback,it'syourperception.YouonlyholdYOUback.
Don'tlistenwhenpeoplelabelyou.Youwilllivewiththatlabelyourwhole
life,andlikeapieceofmaskingtape,theolderitgetsthemoreabitchthat
adhesiveistogetoffandyouhavetofighttoremoveit.(ADHD,Slow,
Genius,Pretty,Thin,Fat,Bully,Ugly...)
STRESSisaREALthing.Donottakepillsforit.Recognizeit,acknowledge
it,dosomethingaboutit(i.e.exercise)andmoveforward.
Havinganattitudeofgratitudemeansmorethansayingthankyou.
Discoveringthatgratitudetotheinthdegreeandbeingthankfulforthe
companywhowascreated,whohiredthepeople,whobuiltthe
product/designedtheservice,thatprovideslifesupport/cleanwater/heatin
thewinter/foodonyourtablemeanssomuchmorethanasimplethankyou.
AhugandasmileCANbrightenaday,ifgenuine.
WineisbetterinEurope.
Therearemorepeopleintheworldthanyouthink,andnotallofthemthink
likeyoutoleranceandacceptancecangoalongway.
Ifyouquestionfaithorscienceorexistencekeepquestioning,neverstop
asking,findthatinsideyouwhichiscomfortableconformingto,holdontoit
andownit,andneverletitgountilyoustartquestioningagain.
Itdoesseemlikeeverythingiscyclical
IlovebeingaparentandawifemorethanIlovedbeingselfishandalone.
Youcan'tgettothetopwithoutclimbinguptoit.
Youdonotknoweverything.
YOURHEALTHMATTERS!Youneedagoodfoundationforitwhenyou
areyoungsoitiseasiertohaveahealthierlifelater.
Iamnotwillingtotrademytimeforworkfortimewithmyfamily,unlessI
ampassionateandlovewhatIdo.
"Family"comesindifferentforms.
Aboveanything,behappy.Ifyouaren'thappy,changesomething.Don't
thinkaboutit.Changeit.
Youwillfindyourfooting.
Youwillmakenewfriends.
Thereismoretolifethan...
Icouldgoon...I'msurein30years,I'llhavemorelifelessons.
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7upvotesbyMeliciaLee,CaySmith,AcquillaWalker,(more)
AngelHallCoulston
AsIgetolderittakeslongereachmorningtowashmyface.Seriouslytho,asI
getolderIappreciatemore,thethingsIhave.Seenalotoffriendsfallatthe
firsthurdle.Drugs,suicide,heartattacks,brokenmarriages....andnowIwake
upwithmylovelywomanandknowhowluckyIam.I'vebeenthroughthe
marriagebreakup...trieddrugsinmymadyouth(soonrealisedthatrealpeople
faceuptotherealreality....thatdrugsareforlosers),eventriedsuicide.So
gladmybleedingmysteriouslystoppedandIwokeupthenextday.....thank
youguardianangel.Ilovelife.Trialsmakemecrysometimes...butIcame
throughstronger,wiser.Butneverafraidtogetbackupandtryagain.Ionce
washomelessandsleptinacardboardbox....at17,nowat50Ihavebeautiful
viewsofmountainsandcoast.Nothingstaysthesamemyfriend....even
misfortune,rememberthat.Enjoythejourney...begood,andifyouwishtofind
loveandbeloved.....firstyouhavetolove.Andlastly.....buyamotorbikerather
thantherapyifyoueverneedit......it'sadamnsightcheaperandmore
practical.Itlookscoolertoo.
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15upvotesbyLeRoyBarnhart,AmandaMiller,ZacMonture,(more)
Momanddadwererightafterall!
Written12Jan,2014.1,194views.
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BruceBracken
3upvotesbyBillMcDonald,BrienColwell,andSabrinaSan.
Youreadjusttheageatwhichyouthinkyou'dliketodie...Atfifteen,reaching
fortyseemsquitesufficient,thanks.Whenyoureach30,then59isplenty.
Thinkingaboutit,maybeit'ssomethingtodowithyourparents'ageatthetime
youaskyourselfthatquestion.Whatevertheirageatthattimeismorethan
enoughforyou,untilyougetclosertoit.
YouwillrealisethatyouDOknowitall,orthatyouDON'Tknowitall.Makes
nodifferencetoanyoneelse.
Youwillunderstandwhyolderfolksarecalled"oldfarts".Watchoutforbeans,
cabbage,cauliflower,etc.
Ifyou'relucky,youwillfindoutwhat'sreallyimportanttoyou.
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8upvotesbyMattPrivman,JenRieger,GarrettCollins,(more)
Alotofwisdomhasbeensharedalready,soI'llgiveyouthreeshort
realizations:
1. Thehealthofthebodyproceedsfromthehealthofthemind.Notthe
reverse.
2. Yourconnectionswithotherpeople,andthestrengthandqualityofthose
connections,isnotonlythemostimportantthingitis,infact,theonly
thingofanylastingvalueinthewholeofthiswide,green,duplicitous
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world.
3. Givingbringswealth.
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JagirJhaveri,JourneyOfALittleSoul
2upvotesbyNelusigweMbinguandPatrickMathieson.
Irealizedthathappinessisalifestyle.
Lifeistooshorttocomplain.
youwillgetallyouwantinlifeifyouhelpothersachievewhattheywantin
life.
SometimesandIrepeatonlysometimesIfeelthatIwasyoungagainorI
couldjustWanishandcreateanewidentity.
AndIrealizegrowingupasascamandoverrated.
Nomatterhowoldyouaresaysthecalendarbutyouareasoldasyoufeel.
Tolookbeyondmyselfandforyouortryandfeelwhatothersarefeeling.
Togiveandnottoexpectinreturnsotherewouldbenodisappointment.
Don'tcomplainaboutyourproblemunlessyouhaveasolutiontogowithit.
Forgiveothersnotbecausetheydeserveforgivenessbutbecauseyoudeserve
peace.
Don'tjustreacttoaproblembutrespondtoit.
Bekindtoeveryoneyoumeetasthey'refightingtheirownbattlesaswell.
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JonathanKim
5upvotesbyPatrickMathieson,UtkuDoe,GilbertStouvenot,(more)
1.Ourbodystartstofailfromthedayweareborn.Growinghavingabruiseor
cutwasnobigdeal.Nowtheydon'thealwell.Ihavebeenworkingoutlastfew
yearsbutmybackiscrookedandIamlearningaboutthingsthatare
incurable.Itstartedhappeningpast40.
2.Needreadingglass.Thiswastheshockerthatgivemetherealizationthat
agingisaninevitablefact.Iusedtoprideonmyabilitytoreadtiniestthingon
mycomputerscreen.Now,Ineedreadingglass.Icannotevenfocusonsome
textmovingmyheadbackandforth.Inowhaveprogressivelenseononeof
myglass.Icarrythemaround.
3.Allthereadingandlearningdopayoff.Iamapeoplewatcher.Iwatch
people.Ihavebeenforlast30yearsorso.Now,Igettoconcludeonmy
observationsandtheyareveryaccurate.51%accuracy,Iclaim.Iamright
aboutpeoplemajorityofthetime.Ifyoustudysomethingallyourlife,youwill
begoodatit.Doit.Mostpeopledonotstudynorlearn.Theywatchsportsand
trytogetbydaybyday.Studyandyouwillbeenlightened.
4.Everyoneisjustaboutthesame.Enlightenedinoneareadoesnotmakeyou
smartontheotherareas.Wereallydohaveaboutsamespaceinourbucket.
Someputspecializedknowledgeinthereandsomegeneralknowledge.Some
doeshaveveryshallowbucketbuttheyarenotthenorm.Donotrespectpeople
withdeeperbucket.Theywillonlyusethatagainstyou.Justworkonyour
bucketanduseyourlifetimetofillitwithinterestingstuffthatyoulike.But
don'tstopdoingthat.
5.Weareborn.Ihavetriedsohardtobelievethatwearemadethroughour
environment.Havinga8yearoldboychangedmyprematureconclusion.We
arebornandwhatweareisinnatebutIdonotmeanenvironmentdoesnot
changeus.Itchangesus.Butourjobisnottochangeasthewindblowbut
keepsearchingwithinandfindwhoweare.Andkeepitaliveandwaterit
daily.Itismostheartbreakingtoseepublicschoolhellbentonquenchingmy
boy'sspark.Publicschoolisahostileplaceforourpreteenboys.Weneed
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malesteachersinelementaryschool.Myboyisnowinprivateschoolandthey
dothesamethingjustIhavelittlemorecontrol.
6.Spendtimewithyourboyandyourlovedone.Ihavefailedtryingtofocus
onmoneyinsteadoftime.Allthemoneyandplansdoesnotmatterifyour
familyisbroken.Familyisagroupthatcommunicatewitheachother.Most
familiesarebroken.Oraltraditionisgone.Throwawaywhatyouknow.Do
everythingyoucantocommunicatewithyourfamily.Nothingismore
importantthanthat.Sleepwithyourboyandhavebedtalks.Spent12hours
inbedbeforesleeptalkingaboutlife.ImarriedsomeonethatIcouldn'tdothat
with.Andmylifeisruined.Spendingtimeconversingwithmyboyisnowmost
preciousthing.
7.Andeverydoghassomethingtosay.Stoplisteningtoothers.Homeless
persononthestreetwillhavesomethingtoteachyou.Don'tbother.That
includesWarrenBuffet.Don'tbother.Allthequestionandanswersarewithin
you.Ifyouhavecuriosity,youareblessed.Feedit.Ifyoudon'thavethatIam
sureyouarenotreadingthis.Spendyourresourcesonyourselfandgive
yourselfchancesandchoicestolearnfrom.
8.Allanecdotesarewrong.Quoraisfilledwithwonderfulstoriesand
anecdotes.Ignorethemandviolentlyfightthosecutesyanecdotes.Theyare
justthatcutestories.Manyifnotallaredetrimentaltoyourthoughtprocess.It
keepsyoufromthinkingfewstepsdeeper.
9.Yourstrengthareyourweakness.Don'tenvyotherpeople'sstrength,
embracethem.Justlikeyoutheysufferbecauseoftheirstrength.Societywill
bestrongerifweletpeople'sstrengthnotbeimpedimenttotheirgrowth.Aswe
acceptothersstrength,yourstrengthwillbeacknowledgedbythemtoo.And
embraced.
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RandyWilson,EqualOpportunityDilettante
8upvotesbyGarrettCollins,SoussanSabra,JackYu,(more)
JustissBoyeralludestothisabove,butIthinkitdeservestobesingledout:
Nothingisasimportantasyouusedtothinkitwas,andthingsthatnever
matteredbefore,willmattergreatlysomeday...Andthen,withtimethosegreat
issueswillbesupplantedwithothers.Alessonworthlearningistotakethe
thingsthatbotheryou,ordelightyou,justseriouslyenough,nomoreorless.
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HectorDiaz,Bueno.
8upvotesbySoussanSabra,RJPinho,GarrettCollins,(more)
AsIwatchtherevolvingdoorofpeoplethatcomeinandoutofmylife,Ihave
cometotherealizationthatwhatattractedmetofriendsinmyschoolyearsis
differentfromthetraitsthatattractedmeinmyfreewheelingtwenties.Those
characteristicschangeagainonceyougetmarried..andthendramatically
changeagainwhenyouhavechildren.I'msureitcontinuestoevolveasyou
movetowardsyourgoldenyears.
Ihavefoundthatallrelationshipsneedtobecontinuallyevaluatedtoseeif
theyarestillbasedonthatgenuineinterestorattractionoriftheyarebeing
prolongedduetosomeunnecessarysenseofloyalty.
Hangingontorelationshipsthatareclearlypasttheirusefulnesssimplyisn't
worththeinvestment.Consideryourtimeasvaluableandonlyinvestinthose
coreindividualsthatcontinuetocatchyourinterest.
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MattLangley,WebDeveloper,NewsJunkie,ScienceA...(more)
7upvotesbyGregMann,VandioZuccarelli,MuyiwaSaka,(more)
Aslongasyouhavefood,warmth,andhealth,nothingelsereallymattersso
don'tgetstressedaboutanythingelseitwon'thelp.Honour,respect,career,
money,possessions,winning,trophies,fame,andeverythingelse,arejust
temporaryconstructsofourhumanworld.Noneofthemmatter,theyare
chainsthatweighyoudownandultimatelycanbringonlysuffering.
Alwayssayyestoyourpartner,andlifewillbebetter.
Neverfeelentitledandrememberthatit'suptoyoutocontribute.
Andfinally,youareonlyyoungforashorttime,sotryeverything,anddon'tbe
overcautiousthere'llbeplentyoftimeforthatwhenyouareolder,allto
soon.
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JacoboZanella,Designer
4upvotesbyGarrettCollins,MohammadSattar,VandioZuccarelli,(more)
Thatthebodyslowlydeterioratesandstartstogivelittlesignsoffailure.
Thatphysical(andthenemotional)healtharethebaseforeverythinginlife.
Thatangerandpridetakeyounowhere.
Thatpatiencemustbepracticedbecauseit'suseful.
Thattryingthingsthatatfirstmaysoundlikeoddornotforyoucanleadto
seethingsinapositivedifferentlight.
Thatyoureatinghabitsmatteralotandreallymakeadifferenceinhowyou
feelnowandhowyou'llage.
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RichardCareaga,age67
2upvotesbyDeanLaureaandNashKhan.
Weareneversatisfiedwiththeanswerstothesetwoquestions:
1.HowdoIdifferfromothers?
2.HowamIthesameasothers?
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SteveLopez
4upvotesbyErinLenoreBouma,AmandaMiller,SamaKhan,(more)
Egoisatooltobeusednotaweapontobewielded.
"GrandDad"knewofwhathespoke.Thosethatlistenedwereonestepahead.
Takecareofyourphysicalbody.Youwillneeditforalongtime.
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Takenothingatfacevalue.
Spendmoretimelisteningthantalking.
Showrespecttoreceiverespect.
Yourintegrityistheonlythingthatyouwilleverownandnoonecantakeit
fromyou.Butyoucanloseitforeverintheblinkofaneye.
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JohnBrunskill
4upvotesbyVandioZuccarelli,SoussanSabra,GarrettCollins,(more)
Youwillspendmoretimeatworkthanwithyourfamily,itisimportantthat
youlovewhatyoudo,itdoesn'tmatterwhatyoudojustthatyouloveitand
yougiveit100%
Sayyesalot,ifsomeoneasksyoucanyoudoso&sosayyes,thenworkout
howtodoitlaterthishasworkedwellformeandIhavedonemanythingsI
wouldhavethoughtimpossible
IfyoufollowtheyesadvicewhenyoudosayNOpeoplewillbelieveyou
StartsavingforyourpensionNOWretirementisfantasticbutonlyifyouhave
themoneytofollowyourdreams.
Travellots
Avoidisms(racismsexismEtc.)therearemanymorenoneofthemanygood,
treatpeopleasindividualsanddon'tputtheminboxes.
AndfinallyIcan'trememberwhosaidthisbutit'ssotrue
Ifyouthinkyoucanoryouthinkyoucan'teitherwayyouwillberight.
Written16Mar,2012.429views.
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LanaJoHoweDearborn
4upvotesbyYesudasonPaulraj,ShefalyYogendra,JocelinFaith,(more)
Iam58thispastJanuary.Ihavehadmanyexperiencesandtraveledalot.I
havechildrenandgrandchildren,marriedtwice.Lostmanylovedonesand
eachlosshurtsasmuchasthefirst.Theheartnevermendsandtimedoesnot
heal,itmakesiteasiertolivewithbecauseyoulearntoacceptwhathas
happend.
Ihaverealizedhowfastmylifehasgonebyandtimedoesspeedup,the
olderyouget.IhavelearedthatwhatIoncethoughtwassoimportant,like
money,jobtitleorhavingthingsmeannothing.Whatrealycountsiswhatisin
theheart.Lovingeachotherinspiteofourfaults,pickingeachotherupno
matterhowmanytimeswefallandstandingupforwhatyoubelieve.
Gettingtoapointthatyoudon'tcarewhatothersaredoingorwhatthey
think,followingyourself.Beingdifferentisok.Keepingyourwordisso
importantandallwaystellthetruth.
Childrenshouldbelovedandprotectedatallcosts,peopleshouldtalknot
hitandifyoulookhardenoughthereisalwayssomethinggoodeveninthe
worstsituation.IhavefoundthatItrulydon'tknoweverythingandalwaysbe
opentolearnsomethingnew.Anopenmindisanassetanddon'tchangeyou
moralswiththetimes.Yourconscienceisalwayswithyouandifyouhaveany
questionsaboutlifetheBibleneverchanges.
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JohnOwen,moreorless100%retiredchemprof
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3upvotesbyEdCaruthers,WalterPunsapy,andLauraParker.
I'vespentalotoftimewithyoungadultsandhavediscoveredthat'thekidsare
alright'.
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EricIvers,PresidentofaSiliconValleyrobotic...(more)
3upvotesbyNelusigweMbingu,PatrickMathieson,andSullyAugustine.
Ireadaquotefromadoctoralongtimeago.ItchangedthewayIlookedat
things,andIhavecometoappreciateitmoretheolderIget.Ican'tremember
itexactly,butthegistis"Ihaveattendedmanypeoplewhowereinthelast
stagesoflife.Notoneofthemeversaid,'IwishIhadspentmoretimeat
work.'"
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JayashreeBhagabati,Despite'allthat',anemptyvessel!
22upvotesbyLauraParker,BridgetBrennan,ErisBolt,(more)
AsIamgettingolderwithnewexperiences,theseconddecadeofmylifehas
mademerealizethat:
"Fakepeopledon'tsurprisemeanymore,loyalpeopledo".
Written16Sep,2014.1,027views.
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SoussanSabra,SunlifeFinancial
2upvotesbyKatrinA.OtrzonsekandGarrettCollins.
IrealizedbackthenwhenIsaidtomyselfthat"Iknowitallnow".Ifigured
whatIknewwasjustalittleamountofknowledge.Itwasjustthebeginning
andthatyoulearnmoreasyougetolder.
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SuvilSipani,HungryExplorer!Interestedinthein...(more)
8upvotesbyVandioZuccarelli,AdelePitt,VinodhiniRavi,(more)
1.Thatthisworldisnotatalljustandfair.
2.Thatsocalled"experts"canreallydoomyourlife.Trustnoonebutyourself.
3.Eldersdonothavealltheanswers
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4.Eldersarenotperfect.Theywillmakemistakes.
5.Makingassumptionsistheworstthingyoucandotoyourselfandothers
aroundyou.
6.Solitudeisgoodandsometimesreallynecessary.Damnthosepeoplewho
easilyconfusesolitudewithloneliness.
7.Readingisthebestthingyoucandotoyourbrain.
8.Beingaproducerofcontentismuchbetterthanaconsumerofcontent.
Don'tjustsitandread,watch,listen,playetcbutdosomething.Writea
paragraph.Createatune.
9.Getyouraddictionsincontrol.
10.Relationshipsmatter.
11.Damnyourpassion!Besogoodthattheycan'tignoreyou!
Written22Dec,2013.804views.
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BrianR.Sanderson,CARWebRocketeer
2upvotesbyEdCaruthersandLisaCarey.
Happinessgetseasier.Notnecessarilyduetoloweredexpectations,butmore
becauseIjustdon'tenjoybeingmiserableasmuchasIusedto.
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Anonymous
6upvotesbyNelusigweMbingu,AlexandraRomanescu,StevenFord,(more)
Iam52andworkwithacreativeagency.Recently,whenmyyounger
colleaguesapproachedmewithanideaandaskedformyadvise,Ivetoedthe
ideaandgavethemreasonswhyitwouldn'twork.Oneofthemcontinuedto
playwiththeideaandturneditintoagreatidea.Everyonelikedtheoutcome,
includingme.
Nomatterhowoldyouare,youwillbewrongsometimes.
Beopentothepossibilityofbeingwrong.
Don'thangyourselfwhenyouare.
Learn...moveon.
Moreoftenthannot,myideas/thoughtshaveprovedeffective.
That'swheyyoungercolleaguescometomeoften.
SoIamoftenrighttoowhichisacombinationofexperience,logicand
instinct.
Takestrengthfromthat...andmoveon.
WhenIdosomethingtothebestofmyability,withoutplayinggamesor
gettingsuckedintopalaceintrigues,Ifinditisextremelyliberating.Isleep
betterandIsleepsatisfied.
Beyou...andkeepmovingon.
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PratikMaheshwari,Alive&Living.
4upvotesbyAlexandraRomanescu,RohitVashist,LisaCarey,(more)
Wroteitlongback.Sharingtheexactcontent.
KeepLifeSimple
SayHitoapersonjusttwice,atdifferenttimes.Ifyougetacheerfulreply
boththetimes,youhaveafriendaddedtoyourlist(andnotfb).Ifnot,then
leave.Noteveryoneinthisworldcanbeyourfriend.
CallOneDifferentFriendEveryWeekend
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Justtoaskhowishedoing.Don'ttalkbusinessordon'taskforasmall
favour.Thesedayswhenyoutalktosomeonejusttosayahi,itisanecstatic
feeling.
LearnToLetGo
Don'tlingeronyourpast,learnfromit.
Youleftyourchildhoodbutyoudidn'trealizeitandhencenocriesand
emotions.
Youhavetoleaveyourcollege.Yourealizeit.Cryalittleandthenlaughitoff.
You
Givetimeforyourself.Friendswillleaveyouatsomepointortheother.But
youyourselfwillbewithyourselfforeachandeverymomentofyourlife.Life
isbeyondfriends,lifeisyou.Itsyourlife.UnderstandandLive.
DoSomethingWorth
Everyday,everymonthoreveryyear.Doitforothersorifnot,thenatleastfor
yourself.You'llfeelgood.
Reply
Ifsomeonetextsyou,mailsyou,callsyou,remembersyou,reply!Yourreply
mattersalot.Ifyouareunabletoreplythenandthere,replyafterfewhours
orevenadaybutdoreply.Itjustshowsyourconcernforhim/herotherwise
itsaninsulttohis/herfeelings.
RememberYourself
Ifsomeelderlyasksyouthesamequestiontwiceorthrice,don'tfeelirritated.
Justthinkofthattimewhenyouusedtosay2*2=3a100timesandstillyour
parentsneverfailedtocorrectyou.Respecttheirhardwork.Respectthem.
EarnLess,LiveMore
Dropajobwhichdoesn'tgiveyoutimetoeatforwhichyouareactually
working.
Dropajobwhichdoesn'tgiveyoutimetospendtimewithyourparents,
spouse,childrenforwhomyouareactuallyworking.
Dropajobwhichdoesn'tgiveyoutimetospendtimewithyourselfforwhom
youareactuallyliving.
SayIt
IfyouLovesomeone,SayIt.Don'tmakeLifecomplex.Youneverknowifthe
timewilleverrollbacktocorrectthatregretteddecisionofnotsayingitnow.
Don'tFALLinLove
Youmighthurtyourselfandtheotherperson.Justletithappen.Don'tforce
yourselfintoit.
Don'tPostPics
Aboutyourrecenttripsandcelebrationsinstantlyonnet.Keepthemsafefor
fewyearsandthenshowittoyourfriends.Youknowhowthefeelingwouldbe
then.
DoGetAngry
Atyourbossandtakeoutthefrustrationonyourkeyboard.Notonyourfamily
andfriends.
TakeLifeSeriously
Onlywhenyouaresleeping.
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MichelDeGeofroy,LifeExpert
4upvotesbyJackYu,KylePennell,ErinLenoreBouma,(more)
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justdon'twasteyourtimelifeisshortyouareaboutat1/4ifluckymost
probably1/3ofittrytoEnjoywhatyoudoinlife
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ElsieHagley
3upvotesbyDianaPhoenix,TraceyCui,andErinLenoreBouma.
Youmaybegettingolderbecausetheyearsseemtobegoingfasterasyouage,
that'smythought.
I'minmyseventybutstillfeellikeI'mtwentyone.
Youareonlyasoldasyoufeel,Idon'tfeelold.
It'suptoyouhowoldyoufeel,thinkthatyouareoldandyouwillbeold.
Justdon'tthinkofyourage,getonwithenjoyingitandmakeeverydaycount.
Whenyouwakeinthemorningfeelblessedbecauseyouareseeinganewday.
Letsliveit,what'sagegottodowithanything?
Written28Feb.200views.
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BenjaminBangs
4upvotesbyPatrickMathieson,PedroMller,DigvijaySaun,(more)
Wowyouaresmarttorealizethere'ssomuchyouneedtolearn!!I'llbe
fortyseveninSeptember,andIwishI'dhadthegutstothinkaboutthisand
askforthiskindofadviceatyourage.Here'smylist:
1.RealizethatTIMEisafiniteresource,theonlyoneweallhavean"equal"
amountof.Obviously,somewilldiesoonerthanothers,buttimeticksawayat
thesamerateforall.Therefore,ineverythingyoudo,youneedtoaskyourself:
"Isthisaconstructiveuseofmytime?"OfcourseanhourortwoofTVseveral
nightsaweekwon'tkillyou(thoughyoumaywellstopwatchingmuchofwhat
younowfindfun).Butasyouconsidercollegeandgraduateortraining
school,workandotherbiglifechoices,neverforgetthatyouWILLdieoneday,
youmostlikelyWILLNOTbe"ready"forit,andsoyouneedtothinkabout
howyouspendyourhours,daysandweeksaswellasyourmonthsandyears.
2.There'sverylittle(ifanything)tobegainedbybeingmeantopeople
yourselfincluded.Whenwe'reyoung,wethinkeveryoneshouldthinkandfeel
aswedo,eventhatourownperspectivesaresimplynaturalandappropriate
responsestothechallengesofthehumancondition.Getoutintothelarger
world,though,andyou'llseethatpeoplearewonderfullyvaried,that
imperfectionpermeatesallhumanaffairs,andthatspecificallyWesternvalues
likeefficiency,individualityandjustice(asdefinedbyourcourtsystem)are
justthat:SPECIFICtoourtradition,nottheentireworld.Learnanew
language(whichyouCANdoasanadult,despitewhatyoumayreadinsome
research),andevenconsiderinterraciallove(ifitseemstobehappening,that
is).Inshort,widenyourperspectivesasanantidotetoharshlyjudgingfolks.
3.Thebestthingsinlifereallyarefree,oratleastaren'tABOUTmoney,perse.
Yes,youneedasmuchofitasyoucanCOMFORTABLYearn,whiledoingthe
restofyourlife,too.ButatleastoneotherQuoranwho'sansweredadvisesyou
tonotwaittostartsearchingforlove,whichisperhapstheverybestadviceon
thesubject,IMHO.Pointis:Youneedtobehavingfunandmakinga
differenceinawayyoucanbeproudof,andyouneed(yes,NEED)tobe
sharingyourlifewithsomeone(whetherornotyoutwothenchoosetostarta
familyhey,maybeyou'lladopt,orjustnothavekidsatall!).Mindfulofwhat
Ijustsaidabouttime,youneedtorememberthatwhileyoumayCHOOSEto
engageinworkyoudon'thavefundoingforaseasonortwoinorderto
improveyourlife'sprospectsinthelongterm,sacrificingyourverysoulfor
moneywillmakethatmoneyfeelhollowandseemlikeitbuyslessthanthe
moremodestincomeyoumaywellfindyourselfearninginajobyou're
passionateabout.Thatsaid,ifyoudevelopanhonestpassionforavery
lucrativefield,GOFORIT!!Whywouldn'tyou??
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GOODLUCK
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LyndseyAtkins
2upvotesbyAmandaMillerandMeliciaLee.
Iamnowinthelatethirtiesagebracketandhaverecentlyrealisedthatage
doesnotdefineyouandyoucanbeasyoungasyoufeel.Afterbecominga
parent,itissoeasytogiveintothenotionthatyouarepastbeingyouthfuland
wavethewhiteflagtotheclustersofgreyhairsbreakingthroughandtheever
increasingeyewrinklesbutbyjustholdingonforalittlebitlonger,Ireacheda
milestoneturningpointwhereparenthoodgoteasierandIwasabletostart
investingtimeinmyselfagainandfeelingbetteraboutmyself.Sotoanswerthe
question,realisingthatageisnotreallyafactorandyoujustneedridethings
outtocomeouttheothersideabetterperson.
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EdwardBauman,pragmatist
2upvotesbyDavidHawksworthandDianaPhoenix.
Aftermultipledecadesofliving,Iknowthatlifeismostlyinthegreynessof
reality,therearetoomanyrulesthatdontchangeanyofthis,andpeopledo
notbecomewiserwithageiftheyalsobecomemore,notless,conservative.
Changeisinevitable,randomandrarelysubjecttocontrolnomatterhow
anxioussomebecomeaboutit.Kindnessandpragmatismofferfarmorethan
intoleranceandhatewhenitcomestothequalityoflifeforonesselfandfor
others.Ignorethemythologythatthingsusedtobebetteritsnottrue.
EclecticPragmatistEclecticPragmatist
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JonBarnes
2upvotesbyPaulMayneandNelusigweMbingu.
I'mnotthatold,butasIgetolder,itbecomesmoreevidenttomethatnoone
hastheirshittogether.
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DianaPhoenix,Workingwithstreetkids&substance...(more)
3upvotesbyPatrickMathieson,JaneBotten,andAshrithaSn.
1.Nothing&noonelastsforever.
2.Don'tletadaygobywithoutshowingasmuchloveaspossibletofamily&
friends.
3. Trytogiveothers,evenstrangers,asmile&maybeacompliment.
4.Beautydoesn'tlastcharacterdoes.5.
Tryyourbesttoacceptwhatcannotbechanged.6.
Appreciate,appreciate,appreciate!
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MichaelGrainger
2upvotesbyStevenFordandPatrickMathieson.
Believeonlyhalfofwhatyouseeandnothingofwhatyouread.Alwaysassume
thatanybodyyoudealwithhasanulteriormotive,butbeing'ulterior'doesnot
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necessarilymeanbad.
Insomeplacesonepersoninfiveisactivelyinvolvedinsellingdrugsandyou're
notonlymeetingtheother80%.
Otherpeople'sculturemaybeatleastasimportanttothemasyoursistoyou.
Bewareparticularlythosecultureswithwhomyoushareacommonlanguage.
Youcanendupbeingdespisedwithoutknowingwhatitisyou'vedonewrong.
Ifyoueversay:'thisplaceisjustlikehome'getarealitycheck.Itisn't.
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PaulMurphy
3upvotesbyDianaPhoenix,AlexandraRomanescu,andErinLenoreBouma.
Theonlythingyoutakewithyouwhenyoudieareyourexperiences.Collect
them.Nurturethem.Cherishthem.
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SteveWilds
1upvotebyPatrickMathieson.
Thatbeingyoungisawarningtoyourolderselftonotbeaknob.
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D.Smith,Timeoflifetohavefun
2upvotesbyGregMannandTraceyCui.
Neitheryourgreatesthopesnoryourgreatestfearsarelikelytobe.Sorelax
andenjoythetrip.
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BryanLiu
2upvotesbyTaiGiangandMarkMiller.
Thatthingsyoulearnintheeducationsystemisvaluabletomoldyouintoa
gearofabiggermachine.
Ifyouwanttobecomethat,cool.Ifnot,thenstartmakingyourownshapes
outsideoftheedusystem.
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SamuelFrost
1upvotebyErinLenoreBouma.
Trulylearntoletgoofdaytodayfrustrations.
SometimesIthinkoftheheartasacanvaswhichispaintedbyeventhe
smallestshorttermemotions.
Havingconstant,forgettablefrustrationsmayleadtoyouwakeuponeday
withnobigproblemsorthreats,butwithaheartfullofanguish.Cultivating
peacewillgiveyouastrongfoundationtodealwithlife'sinevitableconflicts.
Alsoasmanyhavenoted,people&relationshipsareindeedthemost
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important"constant"inthislife.Assuch,communicationisyourgreatest
tool.
Alwaysspeakandactdirectly,neverunderhandedly.Icanonlyspeakformen,
butthisisveryimportantbecauseasyouage,youwillrealizejusthowmuch
otherscometodependonyou.Sometimesitisforreasonsthatyoucan'tsee.
Alwayshonorthewaysinwhichfriendsandfamilydependonyou,andalways
appreciatethenourishmentandgracethatyoureceivefromthem.
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TimYen
2upvotesbyBillMcDonaldandNelusigweMbingu.
Takeyourwisdomteethoutbeforeyour30,afterthatyourjawisharderand
thedentisthastopulllongerandharderandyourotherteethhurtfora
week.Myfirsttwotook5minuteseachwhenIwas28,thislastonetook30
minutesnowI'm43anditstillhurts5dayslater.
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TommyThompson,perfectlyflawedhuman
3upvotesbyEdCaruthers,IirinDesu,andJesusMeza.
ThereisalittlebitofHitlerandalittlebitofJesusineveryone.FindtheJesus
inpeople,speaktoit,supportit,feedit,bringitout.
Nobodydoesanythinggreatwithouthelp.Learnhowtoaskforandreceive
help.Indoingthisyouarenotonlyreceivinghelp,youarehelpingthehelper
bygivinghim/herthegiftofbeingofservice.Thisdynamicofaskingfor,
receivingandofferinghelptoothersisoneofthekeystorealhappiness.
Takerisks,learntofailandstartover.Thisismultidimensionallymore
valuablethanaPHDfromHarvard.
Bekindinallthings.Thereisagreatneedformorekindnessintheworld.
Yourrealwealthwillbethepeopleyouloveandwholoveyou.Neverpassup
anopportunitytoincreasethisgroup.Makeasmanyfriendsasyoucanand
keepintouchwiththem.Startafamily.Yourchildrenwillbecomethemost
importantthingsinyourlife.
Ifyouhurtsomeonemakesureyoumakeanapologyandanamendassoonas
possible.Don'tallowthesesituationstogounresolved.Ifsomeonehashurt
youresolveitassoonaspossiblewithforgiveness.Unresolvedinjuriesarethe
sourceofmostpsychicpainwhenyougetolder.
Thesecretgoaloflifeistohaveasmuchfunaspossible.Whenyouarehaving
funyouareyourbestself.youdoyourbestjobsandareofthemostserviceto
others.Ifyouarehavingfunyouarechangingtheworldforthebetter.
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FrederickLucas
2upvotesbyAlexandraRomanescuandBillWells.
1.Followyourpassion,themoneywillfollow
2.Strivetocultivaterelationships,moreimportantthanmoneyandthings
3.Takecareofyourselfexercise,eatright.
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TimothySingleton,Writer,historylover,studentofQuo...(more)
2upvotesbyAlanaBenjaminandLyndseyAtkins.
IlearnedIdonotneedtoberich,famousorimportant.Attheveryend,none
ofthatwillmatter.Seekonlytoimpressyourself,noteveryoneelse.
Itisimportanttogetaneducation,findavocationthatmakesyoureasonable
happyandcanpaythebillsandtosurroundyourselfwithmeaningful
relationshipsoffriendsandfamily.Yournumberoffriendsdoesnothavetobe
large.
Itisveryimportanttohaveintegrity.Donotmistreatothersanddonotshort
changeyourself.Ifyouwanttotravelorpursueacertainjobrealbadly,doit.
Iwasluckyenoughtolearneveryoneofthesethingsbyaboutage40.Some
neverlearnthem.
Youroldagewillbehappierknowingthatyouhavesettledanygrievancesand
wrongdoingwithothersandthatyoupursuedallthatyouwantedtodo,even
ifyoufailed.Failuretotryisthebigregret,notfailingitself.
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G.SreenivasaRao
3upvotesbyAlexandraRomanescu,ErinLenoreBouma,andBreanden
Beneschott.
Goodquestion.Asusual,greatanswersfromcommunity.Ihavenotreadall.
Herearemyreflections,innoparticularorderofimportance
1)Creatememories.Memoriesarecreatedwhenyoudowhatyoufear,not
confident,hesistate,reluctant,doubtful,unsureetc.Doeveryexperiment
exceptdrugs,alcholandcigarettesandfewmorethingsthatarenothealthy.
Experimentsneednotbephysical,orfinancial.Theycanbeintellectual,
emotional,etcaswell.Intheend,memoriesremain.
2)Aimforfinancialindependence.Icannotstressitenough.Thereisnoreal
independenceifyouhavedon'thavehealth,andfinancialindependence.
Protectandnurturewhatyouhaveandkeepimprovingon.
3)Learnfromyourparents.Theyhavetheirownregrets,lessons,failuresand
success.Knowthem.Yourparentscouldprovideanalternativenarrativeto
yourlife.So,learnabouttheirlife,thiercontexts,andaboutthemselves.The
samewithyourgrandparentsfrombothsides.Theyprovidesomethingthier
lifeexperiences.
4)Createfuturereferences.Allmynotsosuccessfultototalfailuresadded
valuetomypersonalityformyself.Treateverthingasexperiment.Becurious.
Beopen.Itisperfectlyfinetoattempt,fail,andthenattemptandthenfail,
thenmoveon.Ifyouhavemorereferences,youcancope,enjoy,andsucceed
better.
5)Don'tyieldtosocietalpressurewhichyouknowyoucanregretlater.Accept
youareuniqueinmanyways.Andloveit,flauntyouruniqueness.
Neverevercompareyourselfwithanyoneever.Thatisuseless.
6)Ifyoucanhelpanyone,inanywayyoucan,helpinthewaytheywant,with
theirpermissionandparticipation.
7)Lifeisdepressing,frustrating,challengingetcmostofthetime,whichmakes
life'stapestrybeautiful.Singlecolourwon'tmakeagreatart.
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8)Learntoenjoylife,andallitsmanifestationsdeeply.Thisisthemost
importantskill.Youhavetoenjoy,asmanythingsaretemporary.Problemsare
notpermanent.Soareopportunities.Soislife.SoareyouandSoI.
9)Oneofmyprofessor'stoldmelifeaswegrowbecomescomplex,anditis
ourdutytomakeitsimple.Life,fundamentally,issimple,andwecomplexifyit
sooftenbybeingnotauthentic,bold,creativeandexpressive.
10)Choosetheworkyoureallycare,enjoyandsupportsyou.Remember,some
kindsofmoneyistooexpensive.
11)Investinyourself.Learnmoreandmoreaboutyourself.Thecleareryouare,
thecleareryoucanbe.Dedicatetimeforyourself.Knowyourself.Themoreyou
know,andthemorecertainyouknowaboutyourself,thebetteryoucando
withyourlife,itsopportunities.
Finally,learntointegrateandinternaliseandseethatyourbehaviourreflects
consistentlywhatyouhavelearntandchosentoimplement.
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JohnReinhardDizon,Author,LiteraryCritic
4upvotesbyDanielHelman,PatrickMathieson,ErinLenoreBouma,(more)
Timeisoftheessence.Irecallasa20yearoldpunkrockerthinkingthatIhad
allthetimeintheworldtobecomeasuccessfulperformer.At27Iwasshocked
toseeallthetimethathadslippedby.At32Ifiguredtherewasplentyoftime
formyprowrestlingcareertodevelop.By36Ibegantorealizethewindowhad
closed.At44Isawnolimittomymixedmartialartshorizons.By50,injuries
hadbroughtittoanend.Iamnowatthenadirofmywritingcareerand
realizethatthislonggamehasfinallycometoanend.Itmaybebettertohave
lovedandlostthantoneverhavelovedatall.ButNOTHINGtastesbetterthan
victory.Earnitbeforeitislostforever.
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BrianM.Payne,Studentofprocess
1upvotebyNelusigweMbingu.
Cost:ForallIhavedone,andallIhavenotdone,
Forallthatyoudo,andallyoudonot,thereisacost...alwaysthecost.
Upvote
TomasYono,Life&Relationshipsviser,Speaker,W...(more)
1upvotebyDianaPhoenix.
Youunderstandmoreandmoreextremes:
delicateandsmallthings,thoughtsandfeelingsandtheirimportance.
eternallawsofLifeandNature,bigabstractonesandtheirinfluence.
Updated7Apr.61views.
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DeepthiAmarasuriya,WhenBordersshutdown,sodidapart...(more)
2upvotesbyEdCaruthersandJohnMatthew.
Theprescribedformulaforhappinesshavingthe"right"job/car/house/
spouseetc.doesn'tworkforeveryone.
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PaddyPaddison
IalwayssurprisepeoplewithhowmuchIhavedoneovermyfiftyyears,Idon't
knowifitisbecauseIdon'tlookadventurousorthatitishardtofitinso
much.Iwouldadviseeveryonetomakesuretheylookbackandthinkthey
fittedinasmuchaspossible.
Investheavilyinyourselfwhileyouareyoung.BythatImeangeteducated,
trainedandexperiencedinasmanythingsasinterestyou.Thiswillpayoffits
dividendslater.
Neverdoajobyouhate.
Don'tsitonyourarse.Onedaywillbeyourlast,itwouldbeawfultowishyou
hadusedyourtimebetter.
Lookafteryourbody.Don'tbouncedonyourknees,don'ttwistyourback.Be
physicallyfit,itwillalsopayit'sdividend'slater.Butifyouhavedamagedbits
ofyourselftryandmakesureyouweredoingsomethinginteresting.
Behappy.Itreallyisyourchoice.
Don'tworry,thisstufftend'stoworkoutforthebestanyway.
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DavidMarland,happychappy
NevertrustafartNEVER
Upvote
IvanKurmanov
1upvotebyBillWells.
Advicegivenalmostneverworksoftenitmakesthingsharder.Advicetaken
almostneverworks.Everyonehashisownpath,andhastogethisown
experience.
Upvote
OviNegrean
1upvotebyTraceyCui.
Thatolderpeoplearemore'rational'whichmakesthemmissoutonlife
sometimes.
'Stayyoung.Stayfoolish.'!
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JohnT.Kelley,aka"Gampy"tonumerousgrandchildren
1upvotebyGregMann.
Youneedmoretime.Experiencecomesfromyearsofinteractionwiththe
world.Peoplearenotbornwithverymuchintuitionandthatqualitycantake
youfarinlife.Isuggestyougotoschoolforaslongasyoucan.Studywhat
interestsyou.Developthesynapsesforgoodchoicesbutneverbecomplacent.
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Changeisconstantsoadaptabilityessential.Andwhenyouarelaidtorest
makesureyouhavenoregretsoverthingsyoudidnotdo.Dothemnow.
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CarldeMalmanche
1upvotebyAmitaKaur.
Don'tbeafraidofthedrudgejob.Everyonesays"goforwhatyoulove".
Whenyou'reyoungworkingforwhatyouloveoftengetsyouovercommittedto
yourjobandyourmanagersusethisagainstyoubecausetheyknowyouand
knowyoudon'thavemanyalternativeoptions.
Sotakethedrudgejob.Don'twastethelittleincomeyougetonrubbishor
hobbies,useitgetyourselfaimedatacareer/industryyou'llenjoy.Thismeans
avoidingcreditandavoidingtoomanymathoms.
Thebonuswithadrudgejobandavoidingdebt...isyoucandropitfor
somethingbetterwheneverYOUwant.youdoadrudgejobwell,getgood
employmenthistory,thenchange.Youcanevenchangedrudgejobsjustfor
theheckofit,ortorelocate,orgetclosetobettertraining.Orifthe
hours/commute/overtimeisnotliningupforyourcareeraims.
Ifyougetatoughstartinyourchosencareer,you'llbelesswillingtoturn
downbadopportunities,lesswillingtowalkaway,morewillingtodofree
overtime,orworkforless.
Thebestdealalwaysgoestothepersonwhocanaffordtowalkaway.
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ElisabetteHutcheson
2upvotesbySoussanSabraandShreyasPanduranga.
1.Whendealingwithadifficultrelationship,focuslessonfiguringthe
otherpersonoutandpayattentionmoretohowyoufeelwhenyouredealing
withthatperson.Usually,youcantunderstandwhyyoufeelthewayyoudo
withthemuntilyoureawayfromthem.
2.Wheneveryouredoinganythingcompulsively(shopping,alcohol,
workaholism,dramafilledrelationships),youreavoidingafeeling.Theonly
waytostopthecompulsionistoexperiencethatfeelinginasafeplace.
3.Peoplearemorelikelytoreadbulletpointsthanparagraphs.
Andpeoplearemorelikelytoreadnumberedliststhanbulletpoints.
4.Youarenotresponsibleformakingsomeoneelsefeelacertain
way,doacertainthing,sparingthempain,ormakingthemfeelbetter,no
matterhowmuchyouthinkyouarehelpingthem.Infact,tryingtodosois
oftenaboutmakingyoufeelbetter.
5.Authenticity,akacompassionatehonesty,aboutyourselfand
towardsothersistheonlywayyouwilleverfindfreedominlife.
6.Youareunlikelytoreallyunderstandwhatwasgoingoninyour
familywhenyouweregrowingupuntilyourmidthirties.Sohanginthereit
reallydoesgetbetter.
7.Youreprobablynotcrazy.Youprobablygrewupinadysfunctional
family.TheresaBIGdifference.
8.Wearsunscreeneveryday,especiallyifyou'refairskinned.Agespots
andwrinklessuck.
9.Hittingbottomisablessing.Itsalettinggoofwhatwasntworking
andhavingfreedomtodoitbetter.
10.Learntothinkcritically.Question.Beskeptical.Thisishowyoubecome
whoyouare,notacarboncopyofthosearoundyou.
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RexhepKqiku
1upvotebyNelusigweMbingu.
Ageissomethinglikeacarwithmanualtransmissionsthatdoesn'thavereverse
speed,itgoesfasterasyouchangeforwardspeeds.
Currently,youaredrivingwithsecondforwardspeed,sononeedtopushit
hard.
Upvote
SriramVangara
2upvotesbyBillWellsandAmolKalra.
Thereasonwearereadingthroughtheresponsesforthisquestionitselfmeans
thatwearegrowingold:)..Albeit,averygoodquestionandthoughtful
answers
Upvote
AnupKumar
3upvotesbyJenJenny,TraceyCui,andPrakashSingh.
ThesongSunscreenlyricsbyBazLuhrman...answeryourquestion
"IfIcouldofferyouonlyonetipforthefuture,sunscreenwouldbeit
Thelongtermbenefitsofsunscreenhavebeenprovedbyscientists
Whereastherestofmyadvicehasnobasismorereliable
Thanmyownmeanderingexperience,Iwilldispensethisadvicenow
Enjoythepowerandbeautyofyouryouth,oh,nevermind
Youwillnotunderstandthepowerandbeautyofyouryouth
Untilthey'vefadedbuttrustme,in20years,you'lllookback
Atphotosofyourselfandrecallinawayyoucan'tgraspnow
Howmuchpossibilitylaybeforeyouandhowfabulousyoureallylooked
Youarenotasfatasyouimagine
Don'tworryaboutthefuture
Orknowthatworryingisaseffectiveastryingtosolveanalgebraequationby
chewingbubblegum
Therealtroublesinyourlifeareapttobethingsthatnevercrossedyour
worriedmind
Thekindthatblindsidesyouat4p.m.onsomeidleTuesday
Doonethingeverydaythatscaresyou
*SingChorus*
Don'tberecklesswithotherpeople'shearts
Don'tputupwithpeoplewhoarerecklesswithyours
Floss
Don'twasteyourtimeonjealousy
Sometimesyou'reahead,sometimesyou'rebehind
Theraceislongandintheend,it'sonlywithyourself
Remembercomplimentsyoureceive,forgettheinsults,ifyousucceedindoing
this,tellmehow
Keepyouroldloveletters,throwawayyouroldbankstatements
Stretch
Don'tfeelguiltyifyoudon'tknowwhatyouwanttodowithyourlife.
ThemostinterestingpeopleIknowdidn'tknowat22whattheywantedtodo
withtheirlives
Someofthemostinteresting40yearoldsIknowstilldon't
Getplentyofcalcium
Bekindtoyourknees
You'llmissthemwhenthey'regone
Maybeyou'llmarry,maybeyouwon't
Maybeyou'llhavechildren,maybeyouwon't
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Maybeyou'lldivorceat40,maybeyou'lldancethe'FunkyChicken'
Onyour75thweddinganniversary
Whateveryoudo,don'tcongratulateyourselftoomuch
Orberateyourselfeither
Yourchoicesarehalfchance,soareeverybodyelse's
Enjoyyourbody,useiteverywayyoucan
Don'tbeafraidofitorwhatotherpeoplethinkofit
It'sthegreatestinstrumentyou'lleverown
Dance,evenifyouhavenowheretodoitbutyourownlivingroom
Readthedirectionsevenifyoudon'tfollowthem
Donotreadbeautymagazines,theywillonlymakeyoufeelugly
*SingChorus*
Gettoknowyourparents,youneverknowwhenthey'llbegoneforgood
Benicetoyoursiblings,they'reyourbestlinktoyourpast
Andthepeoplemostlikelytostickwithyouinthefuture
Understandthatfriendscomeandgo
Butapreciousfew,whoshouldholdon
Workhardtobridgethegapsingeographyandlifestyle
Forastheolderyouget,themoreyouneedthepeopleyouknewwhenyou
wereyoung
LiveinNewYorkCityoncebutleavebeforeitmakesyouhard
LiveinnorthernCaliforniaoncebutleavebeforeitmakesyousoft
Travel
Acceptcertaininalienabletruths
Priceswillrise,politicianswillphilander,you,too,willgetold
Andwhenyoudo,you'llfantasizethatwhenyouwereyoung
Priceswerereasonable,politicianswerenoble
Andchildrenrespectedtheirelders
Respectyourelders
Don'texpectanyoneelsetosupportyou
Maybeyouhaveatrustfund,maybeyou'llhaveawealthyspouse
Butyouneverknowwheneitheronemightrunout
Don'tmesstoomuchwithyourhair
Orbythetimeyou're40itwilllook85
Becarefulwhoseadviceyoubuybutbepatientwiththosewhosupplyit
Adviceisaformofnostalgia,dispensingitisawayoffishingthepast
Fromthedisposal,wipingitoff,paintingovertheuglyparts
Andrecyclingitformorethanit'sworth
Buttrustmeonthesunscreen"
Hopethisansweryourquestion
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JohnMoon
1upvotebyGregMann.
i'velearnedthatgoodmannersandsmilesarefree.
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Anonymous
1upvotebyTimYen.
Whenyoureach40youstarttoviewyourlifebydecades...Lifeisshort.Time
togethealthy.
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MariaCampos
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Howpreciouslifeisandeverythingcanendinasecond.
Upvote
Anonymous
3upvotesbyMichaelGraham,GarrettCollins,andHectorDiaz.
AsIgrewfromanadolescenttoayoungmale,mylifeprioritieshave
considerablychanged.
Thefollowinghavebecomemoreimportant:
Career.WorkiswhatIdomostofthetimeI'mawake.I'dbetterlovewhatI
doandbeinspiredbyit.
Stablerelationshipbasedontrust.Loveisdifferentthatitusedtobe,it's
turnedfromacutetochronic.Itusedtobeblazingemotionsandnowit's
morelike"homesweethome".It'snotbetternorworse,it'sjustdifferent.
Money.Itkeepsmesafe.
Thefollowinghavebecomelessimportant:
Friends.Theyusedtobeeverythingtome,butlifehaschanged.Mydirect
circleofrelationshipnowtakesallmyattention.
Socialacceptance.ThisusedtobeimportantwhenImadenewfriends,butI
can'taccommodateanynewfriendsnow.
Thoselittleeverydayfunthings.Idon'tneedthemanymore,it'stheendthat
matters.
Upvote
BillWells,justaretiredengineer.
1upvotebyShreyasPanduranga.
Timegoesbyfasterasyougetolder.
Yourbestroutetosuccessislearninghowtodealwithfailures.
Dowhatyouenjoy.
Upvote
RobertLass
2upvotesbyPatrickMathiesonandShreyasPanduranga.
1)IfIknewitwouldhurtsobadtobeold,Iwouldhavetakenbettercareof
myselfand2)mostshitneverchanges.
Upvote
SophiaStorm,student
2upvotesbyVandioZuccarelliandGarrettCollins.
Thatyoucangiveyourchildrenthebenefitofyourexperienceandtheywill
avoidallthedifficultlessonsandgetrightdowntobusiness.No.Everychild
mustdothingsontheirownway.Theyrunhelterskelterstraightintothe
abyssagainstallyourwarnings.Suchislife.
Upvote
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EnriquePareja,logicalintuitionist.
I'lljustaddtwothings:
1. It'snotjustpasta&redmeat:Fishandvegetablesaredelicious!
2. Operaisnotthemostboringthingintheworld.
Upvote
ThoProd
Aslongasyoudon'trealizethatyouwastedyouryouth...
Ithink...There'sonethingatleast:themoreyouknow,themoreyourealize
howlittleyouactuallyknow.
Upvote
J.DennisThomas,Professionalphotographerandauthor...(more)
Lifesucksandthenyoudie.
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JerushaD'sa
4upvotesbyPatrickMathieson,TraceyCui,ErinLenoreBouma,(more)
1.We'veheardthissomanytimesandthrownitoutthewindowevenfaster
'Yourhealthisyourwealth'.
Irealizedthisonlyafterbingingonalotofcomfortfoodthroughmy20sand
facinghealthissuestowardstheendofthisperiod.
Noneoftheseissuesaredifficulttomanage,buttheprioritythathealthneeds
tobegiven,IdiscoveredonlyonceIfacedmyhealthdemons.Soexercise
regularlyandeatright.
Whetheryouknowitornot,youarelayingafoundationforyourhealthinthe
future,atamuchearlierage.
2.Familyistheclosestunityoucouldgotoforhelporwheninneed(this
coulddifferforotherreaders)butasIgrewupIrealisedthisveryclearly.
3.Distancesdon'thappen(asiscommonlybelieved),theyarebuilt.
Sooftenivheardpeoplesay'wejustdriftedapart,timetookatollonus,etc'
Wellthetruthisneitheroreitherpersonsintherelationshiplostinterestor
gaveupontheotherandhencethedistancegrew.
Thingsdon'tautomaticallyfallapart...webreakthemandthenblamedestiny.
(Again,ifyou'vedoneallinyourpowertoretainafriendshiporabond,then
thewisethingtodoistobidadieutotheperson,withajoyfulheart.
4.Findajobyouenjoyandthatgivesyouareasontolive.
Likeothershavementionedbefore,workfindsyoumoney.Money,tosatisfy
yourbasicneedsandluxuries.Ajobwithmeaninghelpsyouwakeupinthe
morning,withthebeliefthatyouareapartakerinthegranderschemeof
things,lendingvaluetothelivesofothers.
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5.Watcheventsandphenomenathatwe'vetakenforgranted.
Stoptolookatthemoonandstarsfromyourbalconyoryoursocietygarden.
Smellthattea/coffeebeforeyousipit(advisedtodoovertheweekends,for
fearofmissingtheusualbusortrain:p)
Playwiththatdogorcatyouseesoofteninyourbuildingortheneighborhood.
Listentomusicthatcalmsyou,withyoureyesclosed.
SwitchofftheTVandsitaroundthetableorjustenjoyafamilymealtogether
discussingeachother'slivesorlife'shappenings.
Watchthesunriseorsetandjuststateinamazementatthiswonder.
6.Talkmuchlessaboutothersandmuchmoreaboutyourownlife,your
dreams,goals,fears,etctoothers.
Thislistwillincludefilmandsportsstars:p
Doingthismaygiveyoumoreclarityintowhat'sactuallygoingonindiesyou
inadditionyougetanotherperspectivetoyourproblemoropinion.
7.Treatpeoplewhoyoudon'tknowdirectlyorthroughfamilialorfriendship
ties,well.
Thisincludesthehelpatyourhome,thewaiterattherestaurant,theworkerat
theconstructionsiteandmanyothersthatdon'tcometomindrightnow.
Remember,thesepeoplearedoingjobsjustlikeyouaretheyaren'tyour
slaves.Andthemajordifferencebetweenthemandyouiseducation.Youwere
fortunateenoughtoreceiveone,theymayhavenotbeenso.
Theseareallthepointsthatcometomindrightnow.Mightaddsomemoreto
theselater.
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RezyEl,Ilovechicken
Yourmateswillnotalwaysbethereforyou.
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Anonymous
2upvotesbyMuyiwaSakaandBillWells.
Timeismoreimportantthanmoney.
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EricMiller
alyricfromaBowiesong:"Don'tdeceivewithbelief."
Upvote
RajeevSai,MechanicalEngineeringStudent
WhileIcannotactuallytellyouaboutmyexperiences(thispostmaynotbe
enough.IthinkIneedtomakesomesequelsforit!Kidding!).AllIcansay,at
onepointoftimeyourealizethatthereisnorightorwrong.Itsjustan
assumption.Similarly,therearenogoodthingsandbadthingsandgood
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peopleandbadpeople.TheonlysuggestionIcangiveyouis"bereadyfor
anythingandlearnfromeverything".
Havefun!
Upvote
NitishSharma,Machinelover
Inmyopinioneverythinginthisworldendsatsex.Eachandeverydiscoveryis
madetoprovideluxurytohumanandintheendtomakeapersonwealthy
andprovidehimwithopportunitiesallurebetterpartnerforthetransferofhis
zens.
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Anonymous
Thatyourpeniserectionpillsisbecomingasexpensiveasurhealthcarebills.
Therefore,you'restuckcontemplatinghavingtochoosebetweenyourlife,and
yourflaccidfriend.Stayhornymyfriends!
Upvote
JiangboYu
Thelifeadvicesthatmyteacherstoldmeatelementaryschoolsareactually
true.
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Anonymous
1upvotebyShreyasPanduranga.
1)Therealizationsofotherpeopledonotmatter,yourownrealizations
matter.
2)Othersincantationsofwhatisandwhatwillbeisjustshyofareligion
3)Pursueyourownpath
4)Eventhespeaker'slifeprofitisjustthat,hisreligion,hisspecificveneerof
lookingatlifeandtheworldandsaying"Lifeisacollectionofremembered
experiences".ItisBStosaytheleastanditleavesyouwantingtoleavethe
presentmomenttojumpoffanairplane,andevenwhiledoingthat,wantingto
swimwiththedolphinsdoyouseetheutterridiculousnatureofsuch
perspectives?Itdefinitelycatchesattentiontobringagoattoaconference.It
makesonean"experiencejunkie"whichseemstobethecontemporarytrend
intheUSasifthatissomehowmoreelevatedthancubelife.
5)Beinginthemomentistheonlychoiceyouhavebeitapainfulone,ora
lightheartedone
6)Whatyouneedtoknowisatechniquetobepresentineverymomentand
thatwillletyouarriveatyourownconclusionsandchallengethemyourself
overandoveragainuntilyoubecomeyourownmaster
7)Andwhenyougettosuchaspotofutterselfconfidenceinyourown
conclusions,youwillhavenomotivationtochangetheworldorpaintrosyor
gloomypicturesaboutitortoescapethepresentmoment.Moreover,you
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wouldnotwanttospelloutyourrealizationsforothersyouwilltreasurethem
asyourownandmoreimportantlyonlyapplicabletoyouandjustyou
Upvote
HelenJames
Don'tkeepyoureyeslockedtoascreen,traveltheworldandmeetpeoplefrom
differentcultures.
Upvote
SarfarazAhamed,SoftwareProgrammer,tryingtogetmor...(more)
"Neuronsthatfiretogetherwiretogether"Hebb'slaw.Aswegetolder,we
realisethatourpresentactions/behaviouraresomehowaneffectofour
actions/behaviourinchildhood/adolescence.
Upvote
HenriqueSantos
3upvotesbyGabyRuizFunes,BillWells,andShreyasPanduranga.
Imaynotbethatmucholder(22)butifIcansharemygrainofexperience,it
wouldbe:
Reservesometimeofthedaytothinkaboutwhatyouwantinlife,to
contemplatethebigpictureofyourself,thiswillhelpyoutotakebigdecisions
moreassertively
Useprojection,visityourselffromthepastandcheckyourmistakes,notto
regretthem,buttolearnwhatyoucanaboutthem.Also,trytoimagine
yourselfonthefuture,lookingbackatyourselfnow,youwouldbeproud,
indifferentorashamed?
Basically,inthistimerequestingsocietyit'simportanttotakesometimeto"do
nothing"andjustthinkaboutthingsthatarebiggerthaneveryday'sworries
Imaybewrong,butuptonowI'mbeinghappywithmylife.
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WhenIgetolder,loosingmyhair,manyyearsfromnow,
wouldyousendingmeaValentine,birthdaygreetings,bottleofvine...
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YasheshAjmera,Toocleverisdumb
1upvotebyShubhodoyBanerjee.
Iam23andthebestthingthatihaveprobablylearntisdoingitrightthefirst
timeandthatsometimesitisfastertoworkalittleslowerbuttogetitright.We
areallinahurry,wejustblastitthroughandpickupthepieceslater.Oftenin
ourhurrying,wemakeevenmoreworkforourselves.Wequicklytypea
document,andthenspendtimespellcheckingandcorrectingitlater.Weship
ahastilymadeproduct,andthenspendtimerepairingitlater.Wereadfor
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examinthoselastdaysandlaterregretfornothavingsecuredthatbetter
grade.Andweliveourlivesatfullvolume,tryingtoget,andsee,anddoitall,
onlytorealizetoolate,thatwewereintoomuchofahurrytolivewith
meaningandpurpose.
Theresnosenseindoingitfast,ifyoudontdoitright.Thatdoesnotmeanwe
shoulddragourheels,justthatweshouldnotrunoffandleaveourfeet
altogether.Takethetime,maketheeffort,todoitrightthefirsttime,and
youllhavemoretimetodoevenmore.
Written2hago.46views.
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FahadShaikh
1upvotebyMeliciaLee.
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AyushVerma
2upvotesbySiddharthMulherkarandSudipChatterjee.
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Anonymous
Threethings:
1.Howmuchyoulovedyourearlierlife.
2.Theharshrealitythatyoucannevereverrelivethoseawesomemoments.
3.Andlastbutnottheleast,nomatterhowmuchtimepassesbyyouwill
alwaysgetanemotionaloutburstofsmileandtears................remembering
yourearlierlife.
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ReadtheessayWearSunscreenorlistentothesongEverybody'sFreebyBazz
Luhrmann.
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