Kink Compatibility Checklist

The more you know about your intimate needs and curiosities, the safer, hotter, and more
exciting your playtime will be! Once your desires are matched up with your partner's interests and
fantasies, your play time in the bedroom will never be the same again.

Are you ready to take your relationship and your sexual ecstasy to the next level?
Following is a list of possible BDSM activities presenting a world of kinky possibilities. You may not
know what some of them are and that's okay. Some activities might seem extreme or shocking which is a
normal reaction. Think about what you like or what you might be open to try and leave the rest.
Remember that you never have to do or try anything that you don't want to do. Some things might be
better staying a fantasy or never trying at allThis is all about you and your sexual needs, desires, and
curiosities! Have fun going through the list and be open, honest, and true to yourself. You have nothing to lose
and a world of pleasure to gain!
By exploring, sharing, and negotiating this list with your partner, you can discover what you will,
won't, and might do together.
Instructions:
1. Find a quiet, comfortable, non-rushed place to fill out this checklist your own. It is important to have
clarity on your wants, needs, and desires. It's not about what your partner or anyone else wants at this
point, it's all about what you want.
2. Take your time and answer as honestly as you can. What would you like to try, feel, and have done to
you? Consider new ideas and possibilities. Remember that it's okay for your answers to change or be
flexible and that you might be interested in some things at certain times and not at others. Decide
what each one means for you and answer accordingly.
3. This checklist can be completed by the Dominant/Top, submissive/bottom, or switch. Both partners
are encouraged to fill it out separately.
4. Next to each activity listed is: Tried Before?, Interest Level (Giving), Interest Level (Receiving), and Shy.
5. If you have tried the activity listed before, circle Y for Yes. If not, circle N for No. If you are not sure
what it is, circle the question mark.
6. Interest Level: Giving. Circle a GR (Green), YLW (Yellow), or RD (Red) Interest Level for each activity
that are you interested, open to, or not interested in giving or doing to your partner.
7. Interest Level: Receiving. Circle a GR (Green), YLW (Yellow), or RD (Red) Interest Level for each activity
that you are interested, open to, or not interested in receiving from your partner.

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Interest Level Rating Scale
RED = Hard limit, absolutely not. I cannot and will not participate in this activity as this time.
YELLOW = Maybe. I might be open to trying this but would need to discuss/consider it further.
GREEN = Yes, yes, YES! I am very interested in doing this with my partner.
SHY - The last column is Shy. Check this box if you feel shy or embarrassed admitting that you like or are
interested about a particular activity. This way, your partner will know when to be more sensitive when
discussing the possibility of exploring it with you.

Activity

Tried
Before?

Interest Level
(giving)

Interest Level
(receiving)

Age Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Anal Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Analingus

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Anal Sex

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Ball Busting

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Begging

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Belting

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Biting

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Blindfolding

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Body Worship (massage)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Body Worship (oral)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Bondage (light)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Bondage (heavy)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Boot Worship

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Breath Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Brown Showers (scat, feces)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Caning

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Chemical Play (i.e. menthol, Tabasco, etc.)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Choking

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Clothespins

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

CBT (cock and ball torture)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Shy

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Cock ring

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Collar

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Cross-dressing

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Cuddling

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Denial

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Dildo Training

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Discipline

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Domestic Servitude

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Double Penetration

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Electrical Play (TENS, ErosTek, wand)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Enemas

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Equine Play (a.k.a. Pony Play)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Examinations (physical)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Exhibitionism

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Face Slapping

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Female Domination

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Fetishes

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Fisting

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Flogging

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Following Orders

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Foot Worship

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Forced Bi/Homosexuality

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Forced Masturbation

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Forced Nudity

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Gags

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Golden Showers (urine, pee, piss play)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Hair Pulling

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Hogtie

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Hood

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Human Ash Tray

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Human Furniture

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Ice Cubes

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Including Others

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

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Japanese Shibari Rope Bondage

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Kicking

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Kissing

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Kneeling

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Knife Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Latex

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Leather

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Lecturing

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Licking

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Maid Training

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Marks (temporary)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Marks (permanent)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Massage

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Medical Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Military Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Mommy Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Mummification

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Needle Play (play piercing)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Nipple Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Nipple Torture

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Nuru Massage

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Objectification

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Oral Sex (giving)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Oral Sex (receiving)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Orgasm Control

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Orgasm Denial

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

OTK Spanking (over the knee spanking)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Paddling

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Pain Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Play Party

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Piercing (temporary)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Piercing (permanent)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Pinching

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

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Punching

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Public Outings

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Puppy Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Rape Fantasy (solo)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Rape Fantasy (gang rape)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Reward/Punishment Reinforcement Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Religious Scenes

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Role Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Rope Bondage

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Scratching

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Sensation Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Sensory Deprivation

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Shaving

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Shoe Worship

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Spanking

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Spitting

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Stocking/Nylon/Pantyhose Worship

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Stocks

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Suspension

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Swapping (with another couple)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Swinging

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Switching

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Teasing

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Tease & Denial

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Tickling

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Trampling

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Uniform Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Vampire Gloves

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Voyeurism

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

WAM (wet and messy)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Watching Pornography

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Waxing

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Wax Play

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

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Whipping

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Wrestling

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Unsafe Sex (without protection)

Y N ?

GR YLW RD

GR YLW RD

Sexy Bonus Questions:

1. Of the above activities, what are your top 3 interests?
2. How much pain do you enjoy? (none, slight, moderate, heavy, not sure)
3. How do you feel about marks? (absolutely not, light, heavy, not sure)
4. What are your soft limits (activities you don't really want to try but are open to considering)?
5. What are your hard limits (activities that you do NOT have any interest in or consent to doing under
any circumstances)?
6. Do you have any medical conditions, health issues, or allergies? Do you have any physical limitations
(i.e. shoulder surgery, weak knees or shoulders, etc.)? Are you currently taking any prescription
medications?
7. Do you have any phobias or mental conditions? (i.e. claustrophobia, etc.) Are there any words or
triggers that bring up feelings that you don't want to experience?
8. Are there any words, phrases, images, visuals, or items that you find especially exciting?
9. Do you have any preferences for specific clothing or footwear? For you? For your partner?
10. Describe a kinky fantasy of yours in detail.