So every time a person asks, what is the most important attribute in a relationship or what makes

a relationship last and well some people say its Trust while some say its Compatibility, Love is
also another attribute which comes in and then there is Understanding.
But even after having all these attributes relationships still fail or they still drag on in a negative
fashion which is not meant to exist.
So how can we say what is important and what is not in a relationship and how can we keep the
relationship long lasting?
Lets see if I can try to generalize this with a hypothesis.
Lets say there are 4 major pillars (Trust, Compatibility, Love and Understanding) trying to
stabilize a rock (Relationship). Now say this size, shape and material of the rock will depend on
how different the two really are from one another (Divergence). We can say that the bigger the
divergence from each other, the bigger and stronger the foundations required. Even these 4
pillars are changing in form with situations and environments. I can say here that this rock is the
same block from "The "Fixing Block Theory". How we align ourselves to the other.
Now there is the core of the rock and there is the crust. The core of this rock is always changing
with elements having direct access to the core. The pillars have direct access to it and so do
negative attributes like Ego, Insecurity, Misunderstanding, Control which can be introduced in
this scenario in the form of weather conditions like Rain, Hail, Tornadoes, etc. I think the crust
forms the physical attribute. How does one think of another as a physical form.
And then there are the all constant factors - Time and Gravity. With time and gravity so does the
stress on these pillars increase and in actuality these pillars are withstanding everything.
Now this additional pillar Temperance is a good one to have and can boost this balancing act. I
believe the answer to what makes a relationship work from one side or from our side should be
temperance. Having explored this in "Push towards Temperance" and in "The Human Dilemma Imperfection", I can say that even though we are human beings and we will have some bad and
good qualities with us which will test those 4 pillars with conditions, we must take note of not
continuing with that pressure for a longer period of time as the pillars can only take so much.
Anyways the two people are with each other for life and therefore the time factor is already
challenging the use of Temperance.
So to develop Temperance any person will first need Understanding as to which parameters are
needed to adjust to and to what extent. According to this data the said person can form
Temperance (Setting) which could/can bind the whole scenario together. Then there will always
be a parameter which is more than the other;Be it the 4 pillars or be it any external negatives or

pressure points. Now, the need to Understanding and its extent can arise from Love and intent to
be dependable and Trustworthy. Also this Setting will change from time to time as circumstances
will change from time to time as again each parameter will change from time to time. This is
explored almost extensively in the "Multiple Faces Exposition" and the concept of the center
within ourselves.
Thereby these two people can and will not only endure each other but can live a happy life in the
time to come. Its a lot of work but if handled with patience and care, they can succeed.