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VERBAL BATTERING
Verbal battering can take many forms but the effects are all
insidious:
Berating
Blaming
Criticism
Name calling
Sarcasm
Threats
Belittling and humiliation
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ABUSIVE EXPECTATIONS
Do you feel that no matter how much time and attention you give
your partner or how much you do for him, its never enough?
Then youre probably the victim of his abusive expectations.
Abusive expectations can take many forms:
Insisting that tasks be completed in a specific manner.
Insisting that the house be totally spotless when he comes
home not just clean and tidy but a ridiculous level of
perfection
A constant need for your undivided attention
Demands for frequent sex
Expectations regarding your looks or behavior
One prominent doctor in the community in which I used to live
insists on checking his wifes weight every morning. If shes
gained more than 3lbs over what he considers an ideal weight, he
puts her on a diet until shes lost that weight.
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UNPREDICTABLE BEHAVIOR
This type of emotional abuse is one of the most damaging
because you never know what to expect.
Dramatic mood swings
Emotional outbursts for no apparent reason
Saying one thing one day and the opposite the next
Reacting differently to the same behavior at different times
are all examples of unpredictable responses.
This kind of behavior is common with men who abuse drugs or
alcohol and also for those who have borderline personality
disorder or bipolar disorder.
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EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL
This is a powerful form of manipulation where the blackmailer
coerces you into doing what he wants by playing on your fear,
guilt or compassion.
Common forms of emotional blackmail are:
1. Threatening to end the relationship if you dont give in to his
demands
2. Ignoring you until you give in to him
3. Threatening you into submission
4. He asks you to choose between something thats important
to you and him for example your family and him
5. He makes you feel selfish or bad if you do something he
doesnt want you to do
6. He withholds money or access to money unless you give in
to him
EFFECTS OF LIVING WITH EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL
Feeling weak and powerless
Feeling as if you have no choices in your life
Guilty
Insignificant
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CONSTANT CRITICISM
No matter what you do its never right or good enough. Your
husband may disguise his criticism as humor and accuse you of
being too sensitive. But being constantly belittled and demeaned
is no laughing matter.
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CHARACTER ASSASSINATION
Character assassination takes criticism to a whole new level. Here
your abuser may:
1. Blow your mistakes out of proportion
2. Spread malicious lies about you
3. Keep reminding you about your past mistakes and failures
4. Humiliates or makes fun of you in front of others
5. Minimizes your achievements
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GASLIGHTING
According to Google Gaslighting is defined as to manipulate
(someone) by psychological means into doubting their own
sanity.
This is when your husband tries to make you doubt your own
perceptions, your memory and even your sanity.
He may, for example, deny that a certain event occurred when
you know that it did. Or he may deny that he said something but
you heard him clearly.
EFFECTS OF GASLISGHTING
You start to doubt your memory and your perceptions and you
may eventually feel as if you are going out of your mind.
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CHAOS CREATORS
This type of emotionally abusive husband likes to create constant
drama and chaos. He will start a fight (with you or others) and
always seem to be on the verge of some impending crisis.
EFFECTS OF LIVING WITH A CHAOS CREATOR
Its emotionally exhausting and draining to live with a chaos
creator. Life is one series of crisis and dramas.
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