*

EQ

people person

data

()

The Quest To Be Whole---

()

( Food and Drug Administration)

()

(Imago)

(Stretch)

(Over-functioning)

(Dance of Intimacy)

()

(Repetition Compulsion)

We connect with people who gave us a second

chance to complete our unfinished businesses
()

(Bulimia)

(Role
Reversal)

()

()
()

(Crisis)

Risk defines Rewards

()

(
)

1)
2)
3)
()

(Regress)

(Psychological Boundary)

(Temper Tantrum)

()

(Projection) (Infatuation)
(
)

Two lonely people together and things will be fine

(complete)

()

Grieving()

Juliet Schor

MBA

(Dr. Gottman)

(Empirical Studies)
(Judith Wallerstein)

(1)
(2)(loss)
()

Amato

Keith

()

(Empirical)
(Wallerstein)

(Hetherington)

Dr. Booth Dr.

Amato
()

(Dr. Stanley)

*
*
*
*
*
*
*
*

(Trial and Error)

(Dr. John Gottman)

()

(Mont Lake)

( Cortisol Stress )

()

This is the sure way to get

your child rejected()

( Ritalin)

Dopamine
(Behavioral Modification)

Anger Management() Relaxation

Training()()

(University of Denver)(Dr. Stanley)

Predictors of Divorce()
1)(Impulsive)
2)

3)(
Rutger University National Marriage Project)

4)
5)()

6)

7)

() 5.2


()
()
(Dr.John Gottman)
5.2
16.4

()

16.4

5.2
16.4

()(
) 5:1
3

5:1


1)
2)

3)

4)

5)
6)
7)

Regulated Couples

4
Unregulated Couples

5:1

(Dr. Howard Markman)

(The number one predictor of divorce is Habitual Avoidance of Conflict)

(Infectious
Disease)

----

()
(Empirical)

()

Crisis

Long term marital satisfaction()

(Gottman)
(Markman)

A wise man has great power,and a man of knowledge increases strength

1. Criticism
2. Contempt
3. Defensiveness
4. Stonewalling

1. Escalation
2. Invalidation
3. Negative Interpretation
4. Withdraw

1.2.3.4.

1.
CriticismContemptInvalidation

1Complaint
2Criticism3Contempt

()

()

Invalidation()

()


Dr. Gottman)(Markman)

Defensiveness and Escalation

(Terminator)
.
Innocent Victim)

Time Out

(Repair)Accept Responsibility

()

Stone-wallingWithdraw

85
PursuerDistancer

In the sea of relational conflict,

women swim,men drown

Flooding

Negative Interpretation

1.
Hostile-EngagedHostile-Detached
2.

3.

4.

1.
2.

1.

2. Repair

3. Flooding

A.Time Out

B.

Soften Start Up,Accept Influence

2002
4.

5.

2002

1.

2.

3.

4.

15
5.

Focus on the Family