SEX, 7 SECONDS

Learning to feel sexual pleasure

Taboos and Truths

Copyright Marizia Bonifacio (2015)

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Dedication and thanks

I dedicate this book to someone very special: You!
I thank God, Life, the knowledge and wisdom and
above all, the courage, determination and persistence
granted to me for the achievement of this book...
with this book, I also would like to thank God the
opportunity to be able to reach the people in need...

About the author

Sex Without Taboos is also a radio program directed to an audience of all ages and social
classes in which Dr. Marizia answers the most disturbing questions and the most controversial
issues of the sexual life, speaking openly about any topic without embarrassment. She reveals
secrets, clarifies doubts and gives tips on how to improve sexual performance, how to get to
know better your and your partners body, increasing your pleasure and your self-esteem
through sensuality and sexuality.

Contents

preface
Preface By The Author
Introduction
Chapter 2 - Pleasure, Divine Gift... Getting To Know Your Body And Perceiving The Feelings.
3. Before The Mirror... A Mans, A Womans Body
Anatomy Of Male And Female Genitals
Fantasies
Chapter 4 - Foreplay Techniques
Massage For Couples Lovers
Women Ejaculation
4.1 - How To Excite The Womans Body With Hands, Eyes And Tongue
4.2 - How To Arouse A Man With The Eyes, The Hands And The Tongue?
4.3 - Depilation Technique
Chapter 5 - Practice Of Oral And Anal Sex
5.1- Pictures Can Talk More. Do Pay Attention To Learn Correctly
1.2 How To Lick And Suck
1.2 - How To Lick And Suck
1.3- How To Do Anal Sex
1.4 - How To Lick And Suck Ass Men And Women
1-5 - How To Lick And Suck Dick - Men And Women
Chapter 6 Technique To Control Your Desires
Chapter 7 Conclusion
Sex, Explicitly!
Prologue
1. The Prince Got Off Of His White Horse
2. Changing Your Sexual Life Will Change Your Life
3 - Insatiable Women
4. Men Always Want To Have A Harem
5. The Harmony Of Merging Souls
6. Finding New Ways For The Sexual Pleasure
7. Anal Sex Techniques For The Pleasure
8. Anal Sex From Theory To Practice

9. Anal Sex, Is It Good Or Bad?

10. Men Always Want, Women Deny Until They Practise It
11. Father And Mother Dont Have Sex
12. Excitation
13. Bad Emotional Breath
14. Emotions
15. The Human Being
16. Sexual Compulsion
17. Mutilation Of Love?
B. Exercises Of Mutilated Women
C. Female Genital Mutilation
18. Sexuality And Religion
19. Control Of Sexual Desire
20. Stages Of Life Phases Of Sex
21. Paraphilia
22. Sexuality In The Senior Age
23. Sexual Initiation - The First Time
24. Sex In India
25. Sex, Science And Philosophy
26. The Impact Of Internet On Male And Female Sexual Behaviour
27. Reflection Victim Or A Perpetrator?
28. Final Considerations
Appendix I
Appendix I-Discovering The Anatomy Of Arousal
1-Female And Male Genitals: Anatomy And Pleasure Map
1. Female Genitals Anatomy (5)
1.2 - Female Genitals Pleasure Map
1. 3 - Male Genitals Anatomy
4- Male Genitals Pleasure Map (9, 10)
2.1 - Exercise To Control Ejaculation Or To Extend Your Pleasure
2.1.1 - Exercise Self-Masturbation And Manual Glans Control
Exercise - 2.1.3 - Self - Masturbation And Manual Perineum Control
Exercise - 2.1.4 - Restart With Your Partner
3. - Pompoir, Gymnastics
Appendix Ii
Faq About Safe Sex
1 Whats Safe Sex?

How Can I Have A Safe Sex Actually?

What Are The Stds?
Bibliography
Images And Illustration Credits:

Preface
Writing this books preface is more an honour than an obligation to someone like me, after long
years of dedication to the studies of human reproduction.
In the early 1960s, at the Population Council of Rockfeller Institute in the presence of
Professor Pinckus, main responsible for the development of contraceptives, we discussed which
social consequences would arise from womens sexual liberation.
The great concern sat on the necessary time for society to absorb the transformation that
would eventually come. Young women were getting rid of the concern of unwanted pregnancy
and were assuming the control of their own sexuality. But how would they educate their
children?
I was surprised for anthropologists and sociologists warning that those newly released
females should keep to teach their children the same way they learned from their mothers and
that there would be the risk of a liberation period followed by another of strong repression.
In day-by-day with students and with girls that consult me on the internet, or even in the
social environment, I see women that keep being warned against the so-called risks of handling
their sexuality, of getting to know themselves of touching themselves. It is easier for a young
female to confess having sex than it is to confess masturbating.
Marizia Bonifcio tries to take sexual knowledge to broader audiences. Her book is basically
opposite to that of sex guides on bookstores now. She appeals neither to scientificism nor to
pornography. Her experiences in the office and on the radio made her characterise the key
points of what we call sexual knowledge engineering in a way that takes all readers, especially
females, to build their own awareness.
At the moment, this book tries to break the barriers of a Jewish-Christian culture and penetrate
in the mysterious ways of Islamic sexuality, may my words help this work spread pleasure to
everyone in the world.
Professor Gilberto Santa Rosa
Histology and Embryology professor in Rio de Janeiro State University, former professor of
Braslia University and Federal University of Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.

Preface by the author

The proposal of this book is to reveal truths. It doesnt deal with anything oral, but it is
intended to make known the way to pleasure through sex, the Sexar (to have sex), of the
Sexercise (sex practice). Id like to quote Ananga-Ranga: Love is love, flesh is flesh, body is
bodily. Well, Love is Love and Sex is Sex, however, the sex exercised with someone by whom
we feel sensations of love, can lead to bliss, you just have to allow yourself.
The moral or immoral in sex, I mean about sexual activity developed between a pair, is directly
connected to what each of the two want, and/or accepts.
It is known that the spiritual aspect should be valued.
Why most of the sacred books, encourages sex without limits between a pair (man and woman).
Nowadays what is seen is the unbridled search for variations of pairs. The more partners the
best. It is an incessant search for pleasure, which normally does not happen. And why not? The
principle of human energy is the feeling of love. Since the person is not a psychopath, he or she
of course, only will find the pleasure through sexercise if establishing an intimate relationship,
and usually this happens when there is a feeling of love.
How to have sex?
To succeed, you must understand about kisses, caressing... etc... On studies and research, the
book that surprised me the most and for which I bow, are the Kama-Sutra of Vatsyayana,
followed by AnangaRanga the Kalynamalla, both Hindus. However, the focus of both books
are directed to the male population, characteristic of the dominant culture when they were
written, when it was up to men to teach the chosen woman to live through the wedding,
everything about sexual pleasure.
The Academicist period directs not to get these important documents of Social Science.
Unfortunately, when I wrote the first edition of this book in the summer of 2000, I was only
guided through my experience of listening to my clients in the office and, of course, reading the
books considered scientific, abandoning the legacy from the East: India, Japan and China,
through the book considered as treated of love.
The addition of these treaties and the findings about activity of hormones, erogenous areas,
womens freedom in social and economic context, adds to a better understanding of the meeting
of pleasure by means of sex, allowing the fusion of the mystical and lovely vision for the reality
of life.
Although it is known that in the year 2012, these countries also dont keep the educational
process that existed during centuries ago and in times of the internet, all, seek information
through different experiences, which do not always contribute to the understanding of sexual
pleasure, as a tool for spiritual growth.
My goal is to make the reader understand the sexual pleasure not as a chapter of human life,
but an energy that permeates the life of the human being from birth to death, and that each

person can devote more attention to the study, the reflection and education of the sensory
pleasure of moving through sexual or Sexercise (sex is body exercise).
Love is identified with freedom, and considering it objectively, it also has its own laws. We
must not condemn the volumptuosity, you should understand that it is not a curse, nor is sin as
many religious argues.
However, what cannot be accepted is its excess, the lack of control and disregard to the raped
CHILD, to the young, and even to spouses. Sex has to be learned, because it is the energy
inherent in every human being.
The instinct has to be disciplined through spiritual and educational proposals. Making
sexuality a matter of theoretical learning in school would be the ideal way, however, there is
still some distance away that shocks all idealists. Teaching about sex (love) is a humanitarian
act of solidarity; it is the opposite of what the insecure cry to be a private issue. The eroticism
is manifestation of carnal desire and can be learned in lessons also provided through books, in
schools or churches, associations, universities etc.
Learning to use it properly and not in a dichotomist way that put pleasure against religion,
spirit against the flesh and virtue against passion.
We must learn how to put together eroticism and conjugality, although the coexistence of the
couple, it is known, leads to a comfort zone, lack of sexual and sensual interest. The KNOWHOW to keep the passion alive is important to maintain the relationship, and to keep the eyes
shining.
The nature of the male differs from the female nature and many men spend most of their lives
watching women as an animal does, without worrying about the differences between them.
They may even be considered stupid and foolish, wasting lives and loves, and the benefits that
should result from the studies. The choices both men and women make about sex are made in
order to have pleasure. Many still ignore the importance of the sense of love, so that the union
is successful and long-lasting.
It is also up to the women, to study the male and female nature, not to incur the male model
still existing, and prevent wrong choices Kalynamalla quotes:
THE MAN WHO POSSESSES THE ART OF LOVE, AND WHO KNOWS HOW TO
PROVIDE A COMPLETE AND VARIED PLEASURE TO A WOMAN, AS LONG AS HE
PROGRESSES IN AGE, MODERATE ITS PASSIONS, AND IT IS NICE TO THINK
ABOUT IN THE CREATOR, TO STUDY RELIGIOUS SCIENCE AND TO OBTAIN THE
DIVINE SCIENCE; THIS LEADS HIM TO THE DISPENSE OF THE SUBSEQUENT
TRANSMIGRATION OF SOULS, AND WHEN THE ROMANCE OF HIS LIFE IS
PROPERLY TERMINATED, HE GOES WITH HIS WIFE DIRECTLY TO THE
SVARGA (HEAVEN)(1)
Thus, it is possible to women and men to learn how to exploit each other in harmony, to
perform the more complicated variations in the sexual art/act, and feel, each one, the most
divine pleasures, provided by the pair.

Introduction
This work is dedicated to orient beginners in sexual education and also to solve doubts and add
information to those who are already sexually active.

Amongst the various works in the area of human sexuality, the silence on HOW TO FEEL
PLEASURE is still present because many educators who are attached to life-long cultural
values cannot orient with enough clarity and lightness. Thus, the emotional language affects
the transmission of knowledge and puts barriers to the process of telling the sensations of the
body.
One who does not know how to feel has difficulties in teaching how to feel.

Despite all the difficulties in learning about pleasure, we can see that in the last four decades
the media has contributed a lot to spread studies and research on human sexuality. This
information helped to change values including those conceived by the church, which was the
only existent mean for the educational process and that played a fundamental role in
controlling the libido that was emerging in the human society.
That is the way this culture was built and disseminated, passing a model from generation to
generation. A model that was and still is the CAUSE to a lot of suffering to people who have
sex and feel nothing or those who besides feeling nothing also get sick in their minds and their
souls.

Not all pleasure comes from sex, but it is a source of pleasure. So, establishing ethical and moral
values has direct influence on corporal and mental universes and brings a lot of frustration,
which is generally necessary in the process of growing up.

Playing with the feelings is magical. My subtle proposition in this work is to remind that man
and woman should be less of primates and animals and learn how to play with balance.
I intend to show and remind how important it is to review bodily models to establish a new
way of learning, and in consequence, the strength of pleasure is felt.

Start looking into each others eyes.

Feel through the energies as the touches on the body come. Reaching energetic sparks and
sliding on the external body is a swift way and in this book you will find the way to learn how
to feel like that.
Touching more your own body and allowing your partner to touch you is necessary to feel the
strength of sensations.

As to your life-long knowledge, you have always to listen to your inner voice. You will find out
that when you break the aggressive or the physical struggle sex models you will be able to
exercise with the partner and become more sensible and romantic, so you develop a loving kind
of pleasure.

In every sunrise, light makes its presence to enchant the eyes of those who can already see the
necessary changes under the eyes of the new, which will surely guide new decision-making
during the development of the sexual act and bring pleasure and inner peace to the partners.
Such peace will reflect in all activities, at home, at work and in the various social groups
because of the energy exhaled from the skin, from the body, it affects everyone who are close to
us. That is why it is not unusual to hear sentences such as: His girlfriend slept using her
panties or Her boyfriend slept using his underwear. When we are not sexually satisfied, we
are unhappy with life and that discontentment spreads to everyone.

In this book you will find information on emotions and the pleasure of the sexual act. It may
happen, but only if you want to feel it. The sensations are yours and only you may know the
ways to reach the climax, the maximum pleasure. It is important for everyone to know their
own way of feeling and the best form of awakening those nice sensations in their partner.
Not always the paths are clear. Writing about the ways someone can perceive and show
corporal techniques for sex makes me, as a professional of the emotional area, more responsible
and respectful towards human beings frailty.
Then, Im doing this in a clear and constructive way.

Chapter 1 - Cultural evolution

I am beginning a new modality of sexual learning. How do human beings receive information
and keep them in their memories?
It happens through perception. Human beings notice through the five senses: sight, hearing,
smell, taste and touch.

Use the sense of silent hearing, as you listen to your own voice express and moan. Or as you
listen to somebody else that brings about nice feelings to you.
Use the sense of seeing to watch yourself and your partner and feel how enchanting it is.

Use the sense of touch to express genuine emotions, such as admiration or care when you feel
your partners body.
Use the sense of taste when you kiss, be it a soft or a passionate kiss, and feel the taste of the
saliva mixed with sweat and bodily fluids of another person.

Use the sense of smell to feel what you and your partner smell like; so that you overcome fears
still existent on your sexuality.
Even after long years of studies, I still have doubts on the human emotions beings have. I learn
every day because learning comes as our lives go by.

But think how much people suffered until the 1960s because they knew nothing about sex and
about anatomy.

Figure 1

Figure 2
Speaking about anatomy; watch male and female pictures numbers 1 and 2.

It was not by accident that the free love revolution preached by the hippie movement took
place. It was necessary so that every concept changed and that women awoke to the looking for
pleasure through sex.

The contraceptives also played a fundamental role in womens liberation to have sex only for
pleasure.

Women always noticed the sexual awakening when they first kissed. They felt that chill in the
stomach and on their bellies. That also happened to some men.
Because they always had to hold their penis to urinate, men could already feel something
different when it was erect. Besides, men used to expose themselves in jokes with friends and
collected data on the use of their organ, to eventually find out it was not meant only to urinate.

There were countless times I thought about sexual initiation: how to learn that, how to learn
speaking with simplicity and loud, with no taboos or in shame.
I concluded that at school we learn various sciences: language, math, history, geography and
others. But nothing is taught on the way we are or on the way we feel.

We learn through our own mistakes and suffering. It may be even worse: we could learn
everything from people who are unbalanced and insensitive towards affection, care and love.
That is why I used to dive in profound inner silence and contemplate nature, as if I looked for
the answers to the various doubts Why? Why? In my world inside I heard the sentence:
How will I help? How could I end the veils?

There were days, weeks, months and years in that silence and questioning. Today, relaxed and
undressed of those values that stoke in me through what I learned from society, I can express
without any fear. I used to worry about being seen or judged by feelings. Now I do not. My
goal is bigger than that of those people who, deep inside, wish only to keep the veil of mystery.
I am aware that I am giving my contribution to humanity as I explain in the way I do, which I
consider ideal.
Fear makes us criticize, but it stops us from passing knowledge on to others.
In this book I pass on what I heard, saw and felt all life long, having experience and books as
my biggest partners.

I will start in an intimate way, as if I were teaching private classes. To those who read me, I
want to say I am glad to have you. I will orient you in a safe and true manner, without any
barriers and restrictions.
Open your heart, your eyes and your ears. Listen to its sounds, pay attention and turn back the
book pages as many times as necessary to understand, because the magic depends only on you.
Magic is on your hands.
Prior to this, I commented on the way, the windows (senses) that humans use to notice and to
feel the world. But to have nice intercourse, for unique pleasure, another window is necessary.
Six of them are necessary. The sixth window is love.
We will keep reading, learning and smiling this is class number one.
Sex is a ritual, it is exchange of energies. At the moment you are with your partner to have sex,
give hands, look into each others eyes and elevate your thoughts to God, to a bigger power.
Pray and ask for the moment to be filled of constructive energies, so it is blessed by loves
magical power.

Chapter 2 - Pleasure, divine gift... getting to know your

body and perceiving the feelings.

You were born to be joyful and happy!

One of the ways to be happy or to feel fulfilled is through pleasure. I want to remind you that
the only gift that God left for both males and females was sexual pleasure.

Human beings must enjoy this pleasure equally and regardless of social differences, ethnicity or
religious beliefs. This pleasure depends only on you. Do you want to know how?
Remember keep in mind that everything has a beginning.
Pleasure starts through word exchange, glances, touching hands, hugging, kissing, grabbing
and it is completely obtained in sexual intercourse.

Difficulties for both men and women exist because they learned from their parents, who learned
from theirs. In this forward passing of information nothing was really learned because there
was only silence.