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Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure,
whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable if anything is excellent or praiseworthy think about
such things. Philippians 4:8
We are called to be people of purity, to honour God in the use of our bodies. So, let me ask, at
what point do you start having impure thoughts. If your anything like me (I really hope youre
not!) that moment is normally five seconds after being in the presence of your partner! Lets, be
honest guys. We struggle with being Godly in these situations, big time. And of course from
there stems, temptation to go further. Do you really think you can stop at a certain point? Sooner
or later, you will want to go further, and further until you reach the point of no return.
The question isnt how far can I go outside of sex. The question is how far can I go before my
thoughts turn to impure things?
Therefore, boundaries are crucial. Crucial to ensure purity in the relationship. Sit down with your
lady and have an honest conversation as to what is acceptable and what isnt. Would you struggle
being alone together? Then dont be alone. Is cuddling up on the sofa going to be a problem?
Then dont. Is a passionate kiss going to do it? How about touching and stroking? It doesnt take
a genius to work out where you should be watching yourself.
I know it sounds like I just want to be a killjoy, but believe me. One small touch here, a kiss
there. It starts small and it takes over in no time at all. Before you know it, your relationship is no
longer about glorifying God but about gratifying our own desires and urges.
As CS Lewis once said
Chastity is the most unpopular of the Christian virtues.
Have devotional times together
If the above is all you cant, the stuff you can, and indeed should, will really deepen your
relationship. Studying Gods word together and praying together are a must. Yes it can be
awkward at the start, but as the man its on you to put this in place. Grasping something new of
God and his word together will be a great thing for a relationship. Coming into the presence of
God to pray together will be so rewarding. Talk about God, your own Christian life, your
struggles, the way God has blessed you.
Your relationship shouldnt just be about two individuals, having two different experiences of
God. It should be all that as well as a partnership seeking to glorify God together. Praying
together means you are able to be spiritually naked together. You can admit your heavy burdens
together, lay yourselves out bare before God together.