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The Secret to Tantric Sex

Imagine:Yourmanstrollsthroughyourfrontdoorandannounces,"Baby,forgetMustSeeTV.Tonight,I
wanttoworshipyourbody,massageyouheadtoheel,makelovetoyouonahigherspiritualplane,then
provokeanoutofthisworldorgasmsoyoureachawholenewpleasureplateau."
Probably,you'dthinkeitheryouweredreamingoryourguyhadtemporarilylosttouchwithreality.Well,
inthecaseoftantricsex,you'dessentiallyberightonbothcounts.Tantraistheexoticartofprolonging
yourpassionplaytoreachnewlevelsoflustysatisfaction."Theideaistobuildarousalveryslowlysoyou
bothstayjustbelowtheboilingpointforaslongaspossible,"explainsNityaLacroix,authorofTheArtof
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TantricSex."Thatwayyoureallyfocusonthefullsexualjourneygettingturnedon,stimulatingeachof
yourfivesensesformaximumpassion,harmonizingyoursexualrhythms."Theresultisanoutofbody
bondwithyourpartnerplusveryphysicalecstaticorgasms.
Inspiredbythesexualsuccessoftheseancientloveteachings(whowouldn'tbe?),Cosmocameupwithits
ownturbochargedversionoftantra.Here,ourupdated,totallymodernfoursteppassionprogram(plus
twistsonclassictantricmoves)totempt,tease,thenthoroughlyplease.Grabyourguyandgetreadyfora
triptowarderoticenlightenment.
Tantraisallaboutbrewingpassion.Sobegintheslowburntowardnookynirvanabycreatinganambience
conducivetothisbrandofspiritualsex.Now,therealdealcallsforactuallydesigningasortofcarnal
shrine,butifyoudon'thappentohaveaspareromperroom,orabout12hoursoffreetimeonyourhands,
wesayjustpickaspotandclearitofclutterturnoffthephoneandgetridofpapers,files,andbooks
thatwilldistractyou."Createacalmatmospherewhereyouwon'tfeelrushedorremindedofeveryday
responsibilities,"saysLacroix.Makesuretheroomistoastywarm(you'llbenakedforawhile)andeither
dimthelightsorscattervotivecandlesalongthewindowsills,shelves,andtables.Then,scentyourlove
den.Accordingtotantricphilosophy,smellsdeliverapowerfulpunchtoyoursexuality.Burnlibidolifting
incense(musk,sandalwood,andjasmineareparticularlyardentaromas)orlightascentedcandle.

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Whenyouenterthistantriclovetemple,you'llbothbeprimedforadownanddirtydivinetime.But
handsoffbeforeyoustartstroking,turnuptheheatevenmorebytuningintoeachotherandgetting
yoursexualenergyinsync.Cosmo'stantratrick:thesexualspoon."Cuddletogetherinthetraditional
'spoon'position,"explainsKennethRayStubbs,authorofTheEssentialTantra(JPTarcherPutnam,
2000)."Curvedtogetherwitharmsaroundeachother,payattentiontotherhythmofyourpartner's
breathingandgraduallybegintoinhaleandexhaletogether.Besoattunedtoeachother'sbodylanguage
thatyoubecomeanextensionofoneanother."
Onceyou'reinsyncphysically,thenextstepistobondspiritually.Yeah,weknow,soundsalittleloopy,
butallitreallymeansisgivingeachotheryourundividedattentionsoyourfocusdoesn'twandertoother
thingslikehowyourthighslookorhowgoodGeorgeClooneylooksandyougetthemostoutofeach
heavenlymoment.Cosmo'stantratrick:eyerousal.Sitcrossleggedacrossfromeachotherandgaze
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intoeachother'seyesforafullminuteortwo."ThefirsttimeItriedtantrawithmyboyfriend,wecouldn't
stopgigglingwhiletryingtokeepeyecontact,"saysAngela,27.*"Oncewegotoverthenervousness,we
becamesortofspellboundandtotallylosttrackoftime.Bylockingeyes,wereachedadeeplevelof
intimacythatwasincrediblyhotandmadesexreallyintense."
*Nameshavebeenchanged.
You'vepluggedintoeachother,nowit'stimetobuildonthatbondwithsomehandsonseduction.But
don'tdiveforyourpartner'sprivateparts.Instead,stroke,caress,lick,andarouseeveryinchofeach
other'sbodiesbyhittingnongenitalplacesthatdon'tusuallygetsexualattention."Thisisespecially
importantformen,whooftengetshortchangedwhenitcomestowakingupthelessobviouserogenous
zones,"saysLacroix."Theytendtofocusjustontheirgenitalarea,sotheymissoutonhowincredible
indirectstimulationcanfeel."
Christine,29,titillatesherguybyshoweringhimwithaneroticwatertrick."Wegetinawarmbathand
addafewdropsofbluetintedlavenderoil,"shesays."Withlittlecandlesaroundthetubilluminatingthe
bluebath,itfeelsalmosttropical.Usingalargeglass,Ipourwarmwateroverhisback,neck,andchest
overandover.Thenwe'llswitchandhe'lldousemyshouldersandbreastsinaconstantstreamofblue
liquid.It'ssosoothingandsensual."
Cosmo'sTantraTricks
TheThighHigh:Squeezeafewdropsofscentedoilinyourhandsandplacethemonyourguy's
thighjustabovehisknee,saysStubbs.Gentlykneadasifyou'rewringingoutatowelasyoumake
yourwaynorth,buildingthesexualtension.Whenyougettothegroinarea,workthemusclesaround
hisprivateparts,butdon'tactuallytouchhispenis.
TheNailRoad:Slowlytracefigureeightsasyourunyournailsdownhisinnerthigh,hiscalfand
alongtheticklisharchofhisfoottoinbetweenhisfirstandsecondtoes.Then,usingmorepressure,
strokehisultrasensitiveAchillestendon.
TheAuralSexRub:Gentlymassagehisearwithyourfingertips,workingyourwaydownthe
outerfold.Thenrunyourpinkiealongthecreasewherehisearconnectstohisheadandeverso
slowlyprodthemiddleofhissexuallysusceptibleinnerearwiththetipofyourtongue.
TheTurnUptheHeatTreat:"Slipberriesorpiecesofmangobackandforthbetweenyour
mouths,"suggestsStubbs."Orspillsomechampagneandletitbubbleoneachother'sbodiesbefore
lickingitoff.Involveeverysense,includingtaste,inyourseduction."
Bynowyou'rebothbrimmingwitheroticanticipation.Here'swherethetantramantraofBuildUp,Cool
Downcomesintoplay."Thatmeansworkinguparousalsoyou'reclosetothepointofnoreturn,then
lettingitsubside,"saysLacroix."You'lllearntogetincrediblepleasurebyalmostpeaking,andthemore
timesyourepeatthisbuildup,thelongeryou'llbothlastandthemoresexualtensionwillmount,"
climbingtowardamindblowingclimax.Thekeytoridingthissexualrollercoaster(andpreventing
reachingkingdomcometooquickly)istakingabreakwheneveryoufeelyourselfreachyourorgasmic
threshold.Justimmediatelystopwhatyou'redoingandfocusonyourbreathingasyoucoolyoursexjets.

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Cosmo'sTantraTricks
TheWaterfall:Placeyourhandoverhispenis,fingertipsrestinglightlyonhisscrotum,andpour
lubricantoverthebackofyourhandsothatittricklesbetweenyourfingers.Thenplaceyourhandson
eithersideofhistesticlesandslowly,gentlyslidethemupallthewaytothetipofhispenis.Tolethim
cooldown,askyourguytodothesamemoveonyou,cuppinghishandoveryourhotspot,lettingthe
lubedripthroughhisfingers,thenspreadingtheoilupoveryourclitorisandpubicbone.
TheSerpent:Verygently,stretchtheshaftofhispeniswithonehandbypullingawayfromhis
body,andmakeacirclewiththethumbandindexfingerofyourotherhandjustundertheheadofhis
penis.Rotatethecircleclockwiseuntilyourthumbnaturallyliftsallthewayoffthehead,repeating
themotionaslongashecanstandit.
TheTantricTriangleTouch:Withyourlegsopenandbent,yourguyinsertshisindexand
middlefingersinsideyouuntilthetipsarepressingupwardjustbeyondyourpubicboneinGspot
territory.Hethenmakesagentle"comehere"movementwithhisfingerscaressingthatsensitive
ohgodareawhileatthesametimerestinghisotherpalmonyourabdomenwithinreaching
distanceofyourclitoris(withhisfingerspointingup,hisarmsformatriangle)."I'veneverfeltso
aroused,"saysLily,24,whoseboyfriendusedthispassionrevvingmoveonher."Thecombinationof
Gspotstroking,pressureonmypubicareaandclitoriscaressingcreatedapleasuretriplewhammy.
ItwasakindofblissI'donlyreadaboutinbookswithFabioonthecover."
Thepassionbetweenyouisnowatfeverpitch.Andthoseswellsofarousalhaveprimedyoubothforan
otherworldlyorgasm."Remembertogazeintoeachother'seyestokeepyoubothinthemomentand
preventyoufromgoingovertheedgetoofast,"remindsLacroix.Thenwhenyou'rebothready,reachnew
heightsofpleasurewithoneofCosmo'sseismicclimaxpositions:
TheTantraX:Yourguysitscrossleggedwhileyoukneeloverhislap,facinghim.Placeyour
calvesunderhiskneessoyoudon'tcrushhislegs.Asheentersyou,useyourthighmusclestolower
yourselfupanddownasslowlyaspossible.Keepyourbodiescloseandstayawareofeachother's
breathing.Atthesametime,yourhandsarefreetocaresseachotherandyourfacesarelevelforeye
contactanddeepkissing.
TheSexualSeesaw:Lieonyourbackwithyourpelvistiltedjustslightlyonasmallpillow.Your
sexualsoulmateliftsyourfeetupsothatyourlegsarefolded/curledin,yourkneesalmostrestingon
yourbreasts,andyoursolesrestingonhischest.Holdingyourfeetashemovesinsideofyou,hegets
tocontrolthrustingwhileyougetGspotstimulation."MyhusbandandItriedthispositionaftertwo
hoursofteasingbuildup,"saysCathy,30."Thedeeppenetrationwasincredible.Ihadanorgasmthat
wasunlikeanythingI'dexperiencedbefore.Thewildestpartwasitseemedtolastforeverevery
timeIthoughttheclimaxpeaked,itgotmoreintense."Talkaboutenlightenment!

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