Ability to withstand pain and pain and loss

is defined as the feelings that you have in your body when

you have been hurt or when you are ill/sick,mental or emotional
suffering.
Pain

Loss is defined as the state of no longer having something or as

much of something; the process that leads to it.
"MUCH HUMAN SUFFERING STEMS FROM DESTRUCTIVE
EMOTIONS".
-HIS HOLLINESS THE FOURTEENTH DALAI
LAMA
True to the

above observation ,air warriors too are subject to pain

and loss., be it personal or professional.It is a daunting task to

examine the nature or origin orcause of these, for they are varied
and diverse .Yet there isno escape from it either.Onemust grapple
withitas best asone can.
When you loose someone or something precious to you ,the grief
can be intense.Pain ,sad memories and unanswered questions can
haunt you.You may even feel that you may never be the same
again ,that you will never laugh or be whole again.Take heartthough there is no way to grieve without pain,there are healthy
ways to grieve which allow you to constructively move
forward.Dont settle for a lifr drained of joy -work through your
loss,and slowly but surely you will get better.Here are a few tips.
WEATHERING GRIEF

1.Face the loss.confront your loss.Allow yourself to cry or grieve in

ways that feels natural.But do not submit to harmful habits like
drug use,alcohol use, oversleeping,internet overuse,or wanton
promiscuity that threatens your wellbeing and leaves you
vulnerable to addiction and further pain.This way you will never
truly heal.Only by first acknowledging the grief canyou begin to
defeat it.
2.Give yourself aperiodof timeto beprofoundly sad.
3.Let your pain out.Cry if you have to.
4.Find an outlet for your pain.You can do activities like crying
,pummelling a pillow, going for a long run or drive, throwing
things out,screaming at the top of your lungs in a solitaryplace or
sketching.people use many different ways to find an outlet to
pain.You find yours.All are equally valid.
5.Avoid doing anything that might result in harm to yourself or
others.Loss isnt about inflicting harm or making things worse.Its a
time for learning how to draw on your inner emotional reserves
and learning how to cope to with pain.
6. S hare your feeling with others.Its healthy.Talking to someone
you trust is a form of allowing yourself to start dumping out the
painyou areexperincing.
7.Distancing yourself from people who arent compassionate.
8. Connect with people who feel your pain.

9. Harbour no regrets.If you feel guilty after a loss,talk to people

who will be able to convince you that the loss isnt your faulty.
10.Save things that remind you of your loved ones like photos
,gifts ,memontos etc.But keep them away,not lying
around.Youdont needa constant reminder.
11.Get proffess ional help.Its no longer a stigma against people
who seek help with emotinal problems.Seeing a therapist or
counselor does not make you weak or pathetic.Rather, its a sign
of strength.You show a desire to move forward and overcome
grief.
WORKING TOWARDS HAPPINESS
1.Shift the focus away from sadness.Try to remember the good
times you had.
2.Try to write down the good things associated with the or loss ,in
a diary or journal.
3.Distract yourselves.By keeping yourself busy and occupied like
work or studies.
4. Help reacquqint yourself with happiner pursuits that give you
peace like gardening ,drawing ,walking cooking,listening to
music ,writing ,or doing socialwork ,orvolunteering.
5. Connect with children as they display a lot of spontaneity and
laughter ,which .may ease your mind.

6.Find delight in beautiful days.Spend time noticing the natural

beauty around you.
7.Reclaim the idea of what you have lost.Many religions teach
that the soul or essence of a person remains after the phisical
body leaves.If you are religeous ,take solace in the fact that the
person you have lost still exists in spiritual sense.
8.Spend time with good people.
9.Dont fake happiness.Train your mind in the art of happiness.
10.Allow time to heal.Give adequate time to healBut keep moving
forward.,no matter how long it takes.
11.Dont second guess your happiness.Dont feel bad or guilty for
recovering sooner rather than later.
12.Build your life around your strengths by identifying your
dominant talents.
13.Meditate deeply and dailyfor about 15-20 mnts.
14.Laugh at your follies and with friends.
15.Do not feel sorry for yourself, a concept given by the west,
which is not positive.