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A GUIDEFORKIDS9 TO 12ANDTHEIRPARENTS
by SomGitchelqnd LoniFoster
LefsTqfkAboutS-E-X
Easier Said Than Done..,UNTILNOW!
Hereis information
for parents,usingthe guideat the backof the
book,on howto approach
thatBIGTALKin a waythatis comfortable
andpostive.
lt is the idealstartingpointforthe parentwhowantsto
communicate
sexuality
information
that is frankand clearand with
thefeelings
andvaluestheywishto convey.
Thefrontsectionof the bookis meantto be readtogetherby parent
andchild.lt cantheneasilybe re-readby the childwhomaynotbe
in onereading.
ableto absorballtheinformation
Developedby PlannedParenthood/MarMontein 1982to help ensure
that every individual hasthe knowledge,opportunity, andfreedom
to make euery child a wanted child, and eueryfamily a healthyfamily.
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LetbTalkAbout
S-E-X
A Read-Together
Bookfor
Kids9-to-12andtheir Parents
with
A Parents Guide
Contents
For The Whole Family
.,.....,9
M a k i n gS e n s eo f L o v ea n d S e x
.....I2
M a k i n gB a b i e s
.....13
Y o uA r e A l r e a d yC h a n g i n g
.........I4
W h a ti s P u b e r t y ?
.....I4
E v e r y b o dC
yhanges
W h a ti s N o r m a l ?
..........15
. . . . . .1 6
Y o u rF e e l i n g s . , . aY
nd
o u rI m a g i n a t i o n
. . . . . . .1 8
A c t i n gO l d e r .
........20
T h e I N S I D ES t o r y
.........22
G r o w i n gU p M a l e
......27
G r o w i n gU p F e m a l e
........,,.31
Menstruation,...
M o r eA b o u tM e n s t r u a t i o. n.
. . . ,3 3
.
.
.
.
.....37
S e x u aIl n t e r c o u r s e . . . . . .
T h eW h y s .
. .. .. . . . . . 3 7
.......38
A n dt h e W h y - N o t s
Pregnancy
..........4I
Childbirth
...........43
H e r e d i t y . . . W hMaat k eYs o uY
, OU
.......46
........47
H a v i n gS e xW i t h o u tH a v i n gA B a b y
M a k i n gL o v e( w i t h o u tm a k i n gm i s t a k e s.). . . , , . .4. 8
A r e Y o uR e a d yf o r a B a b y ? . . . . . .
..,...51
......52
A G o o dS t a r t .
.... .. 54
The Puberty Puzzle
. . . . . . . . .5. 6
A ReadinL
g i s t. . .
. . . .5 7
Websites
Index
.......,,5B
For Parents .
.....61
LET,STALKABOUTS-E-X
,;
FORTHE
WHOLEFAMILY
MAKING
5ENSEOFLOVEANDsEX
W h e nt w o p e o p l e" fa l l i n l o ve "w i th eachother ,they want to be
t o g e t h ea
r l o t a n dw a n t t o s h a r ep e r s o n at hl o u g h t sa n df e e l i n g sT.h e y
re a ll yc a r ea b o u te a cho th e r'sfe e l i n g s,
a ndthey both feelgoodabout
t hems e l v em
s o s to f th e ti me th e v a reto cether .
L o v ea n d s e xa re n o t th e ru r. th i :g. "Love"is a wor d that
peop l eu s et o m e a nma n yth i n g s.We l o v eour par ents,and we love
. e l o v eo u r c l o s ef r i e n d sa, n dw e l o v eo u r g r a n d p a r e n tyso. u
ourpetsW
m i g h th a v ee v e nh e a r ds o m e o n se a y" l l o v ec h o c o l a t iec ec r e a m! " I n
eac hc a s et h e f e e l i n q sa rea l i ttl ed i ffe re nt.
I n t i m e ,t h e e x c i t e m e notf f a l l i n gi n l o v em a yc h a n g et o a d e e p
f e e l i n go f l o vea n dtru st fo r e a cho th er .Two peoplewho shar ethis
l < i n do f l o v eu s u a l l yw a n t t h e i r r e l a t i o n s h ti o
p l a s tf o r a l o n gt i m e .
T h e yp l a nt o w o rl <th i n g so u t to g e th er W
. hethertimesar egood
o r t i m e sa r et o u g h ,th e y l <n o wth e y c ancounton eachother .Fora
c o u p l el i l < et h i s,se xca nb e a w a y o f expr essing
their lovingfeelings.
M o s t p e o p l et h i n l < t h i si st h e b e s t i m e o f a s e x u arle l a t i o n s h a
i pn d
le a d st o t h e b e stI<i n do f ma rri a g e .
"M a l <i n gl o ve "i s so me ti methe
s ter m peopleusefor having
in t e r c o u r soer se x(mo rea b o u tth a t l ater ) .But the fact is,loveand
s e xd o n ' ta l wa ysg o to g e th e r.Ma n y peopleloveeachotherwithout
h a v i n gs e x ,a n d o th e rsh a vese xw i th out love.Som epeoplehavesex
ju s t f o r t h e p h ysi capl l e a su re
th e y g e t fr om it or to pleasesom eone
e l s e .O t h e r sbe l i e veth i s i s w ro n g ,o r j ust feelsur ethey would not
e n j o ys e xw i t h o u t l o ve .
T o a v o i dp ro b l e mse ve ryo n en eedsto r em emberthat:
. N o on e h a sto h a vese xj u st to pleasesomeoneelse.
. H a vi n gse xw i l l n o t ma l <el ovehappen.
. l t i s w ro n gto l e t so me o n ethinl<you lovehim or her when
y o u re a l l yd o n 't.
, n yp e o p l efa l l i n lovebefor ethey ar e r eadyfor
O f c o u rsema
s e xo r f o r m a rri a g e5. o i t'sa g o o dth i ng that sexis not the only way to
s h o wt h e s ef e e l i n g sO. t h e rt h i n g s ,l i l < eb e i n gh o n e s at n d r e a l l yc a r i n g
a b o u to n ea n o t h e ra, r e m o r ei m p o r t a n itn a l o v i n gr e l a t i o n s h i p .
10
MAKING9ABIES
A l l l i v i n gt h i n g sr e p r o d u cteh e i rl < i n da, n d h u m a n sd o t h i s b y
h a v i n gs e x u ailn te rco u rsel f. w e d i d n ot, the hum anr acewould not
l a s tl o n g .
W h e na w o m a na n d m a nd e c i d et o m a l < a
e b a b y t, h o u g h ,
t h e ya r en o t u s u a l l yt h i n l < i nagb o u tt h e w h o l eh u m a nr a c eT
. h e ya r e
j
o
y
lo o l < i nfgo r w a rdto th e
o f h a vi n gand r aisinga child.Par enthood
i s a l i f e l o n go p p o r t u n i t tyo l o v ea n dc a r ef o r a n o t h e rh u m a nb e i n g .
I t i s a l s oa l i f e l o n gr e s p o n s i b i l i T
t yh. a t ' sw h y d e c i d i n tgo m a l < a
e baby
is o n e o f t h e mo st i mp o rta n td e ci si o ns
a per soncanm al<e.
Ever yone
wh o d e c i d e tso h a vese xu ailn te rco u rse
needsto thinl<ver y car efully
a b o u tt h e p o s s i b i l i t yh a t a p r e g n a n ccyo u l ds t a r t .
T h o u g hm a l < i nbga b i e si s i m p o r t a n ti,t ' sn o t t h e m a i nr e a s o n
wh y c o u p l e sha vese xu ailn te rco u rse.
Whentwo peoplecar ever y
m u c ha b o u te a cho th e r,i n te rco u rse
i s one of the waysthey canshar e
t h e i r l o v i n gf e e l i n g sJ,o i n i n gt h e i r b o d i e si n t h i ss p e c i awl a y g i v e st h e m
a s p e c i akl i n dof p l e a su re
w h i ch i s w h y we do often callhavingsex,
" m a l < i nlgo v e . "
S e x u ain
l te rco u rse
ma y se e mh ar dto under stand.
You may
w o n d e r", W h y w o u l da n y o n ed o T H A T ?W h y i s ' h a v i n gs e x ' s u c a
h big
deal?"Tha
e n s w e ri st h a t s e x u ailn t e r c o u r scea na d da l o t o f h a p p i n e s s
t o a p e r s o n ' lsi fe ,o r i t ca nca u seb i g p roblem s.
That' swhy it is a big
d e a l .T h a t ' sw h y i t ma y se e mth a t e ver yoneis inter ested
in it, or
wo r r i e da b o u ti t.
1>
Q. OoyouttllW to havesex?
A. Gooaquestion.
N0,youdon't.
But we'regettingaheadof ourselves.
Firstwe needto stepbacl<
for a momentto understandhow our bodieswork beforewe dealwith
someof theselargerissues.
The betterwe understandwhat'sgoingon
w i t h i n o u r se l ve s,
th e b e tte rw e a reableto m aker esponsible
decisions.
U n d e r s t a n d i nca
g nb ri n gh a p p i n e ss- notpr oblem s- forus andthose
a r o u n du s .
YOUARECHAN6IN6ALREADY
lf you are between9 and 13yearsold, there'ssomethingyou
s h o u l dk n o wa b o u t.l t'sso me th i n gc alledPUBERTY.
lt' s not asstr ange
a s i t s o u n d s.l t's n o t a d i se a se
a n d i t'snot a tall buildingthat m ust be
l e a p e da t a si n g l eb o u n d .A n d i t'sd efinitelynot a wasteof time.
I t m i g h tb e h a p p e n i n g
ri g h t now; or it will be star tingsoon.
O n ed a y y o u n o ti ceyo u r b o d yi s star tingto change,and you m ay
th i n k s o m e th i n gi s g o i n gw ro n g .E s pecially
if no one hastold you
th e s ec h a n g e a
s re N OR MA LT. h a t'swhat this bool<is for : to let you
know what kind of changesto expect.
WHATI5 PUBERTY?
Pu b e rtyi s a fe w ye a rso f yo u r lifewhen your bodyandyour
fe e l i n g sc h a n g eve ry q u i cl <l y.
P u b e rtyis a big steptowar dshaving
t h e l < i n do f b o d ya n df e e l i n g ys o u w i l l h a v ea sa n a d u l t .T h i sp e r i o do f
r a p i dc h a n g i n g
b e g i n sa n y t i m eb e t w e e nt h e a g e so f 9 a n d 1 6 ,a n d l a s t s
for3or4years.
Y o uw i l l k e e pc h a n g i n a
g l l t h r o u g hy o u r l i f e- t h o u g hp r o b a b l y
a l i t t l e m o r esl o w l ya fte r p u b e rty.Y ouwon' t wal<eup one mor ning
a n ds u d d e n l by ea n a d u l t .B e c o m i nagn a d u l th a p p e ngs r a d u a l l yl (. e e p
r e a d i n ga n dy o u w i l l f i n do u t h o w .
CHANaE5
EVERYBODY
Y o u ' v ep ro b a b l yn o ti ce dth a t you andyour fr iendsar e not
i n t h e s a m ew a y so r a t t h e s a m et i m e .S o m el < i dgs e t a
a l lc h a n g i n g
lo t t a l l e rb e fo reth e o th e r p a rtso f their bodiescatchup. Som eget
ch u b b y f, o r a w h i l e ,b e fo reth e i r h e i ghtcatchesup. But ever ybody
g a i n sw e i g h t .Y o u ' r es u p p o s etdo . Y o um a y h e a ra l o t a b o u tt o o m u c h
e x t r aw e i g h t(o r l o o l <i nfa
g t). B u t n ot gainingenoughweightcan be a
seriouh
s e a l t hc o n d i t i o nt ,o o .
A g i r l 'sb re a sts
a n d h i p sg ro w lar gerand
,
so her waistlool< s
g ro w b ro aderand
sm a l l e rA. b oy'ssh o u l d e rs
, he getsmor em uscles
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WHATI5 NORMAL?
A lot of kidsworry because
they believethey are changingtoo
eoonor too late.lf you'rea girl, you may wish your breastswere larger
or s m a l l e rYo
. u ma y h o p eyo u d o n 'tstar thavingper iodsmuchsooner
or l a t e rt h a n yo u r fri e n d s.
lf you'rea boy,you may wonderabout beingtoo tall or too
s h o r t ,a b o u tt he si zeo f yo u r p e n i s,o r abouthairgr owingin places
that it nevergrew before.Whetheryou are changingfast or slow,
there'sno needto worry.
M o s t g irl sb e g i nth e ch a n g e o
s f puber tya yearor two ear lier
t h a n m o s t b o ys.A n yo n ew h o sta rtsmuchear lierthan 9 or laterthan
1 6s h o u l db e ch e cke db y a d o cto r.T h eexacttim e your bodywill begin
YOURFEELINGS
...ANDYOURTMAGTNATTON
G r o w i n gu p i s n o tj u s t a m a t t e ro f y o u r b o d yc h a n g i n gl .t a l s o
ha st o d o w i t h h o w yo u fe e la n dth e thingsyou do.Most peoplehave
s t r o n gf e e l i n g sd u ri n gp u b e rty:su d d enlyfeelingexcited,br ol<enh e a r t e dl,o v i ng ,h a ti n g ,a n g ry,sa d ,h a ppy,scar ed..m aybesever al
d iff e r e n w
t a y sa t th e sa meti me .Mo o dscomeand go, and you m ay
'rotknoWwhy.YoushouId|<nowthatitisnotunusualforthisto
r aP P e n .
Andyoumaythin|(someprettyweirdthingsnowandthen.'.
, v on d e r f ut lh i n g s,a w fu lth i n g s,so methat couldneverr eallyhappen,
even
a n ds o m e t h a tc o u l d .l t i s n o r m a tl o i m a g i n ea l l s o r t so f t h i n g s ,
t h o s ey o u w o u l d n e ve ra ctu a l l Yd o '
Thereisnothingwrongwithusingyourimagination.
how
D a y d r e a m i ni sgo n " * i y t o l e a r na b o u ty o u r s e laf n dt h i n l <a b o u t
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h a v i n ga l o t o f d i ffe re n te mo ti o n s.
Butifyourthoughtsorfeelingsarekeepingyouunhappy'or
you
t a k i n gu Ps o m u c ho f y o u rt i m e t h a t y o u C a n ,dt o o t h e rt h i n g s ,
m ig h tw a n t s o meh e l p .S o meg o o dp e opleto talk with ar e:
- y o u r Pa r e n ts
- a c o u n s e l o(ryo u r p a re n tsca np ro b ablyhelpyou find one)
- y o u r m i n i s t e rp, r i e s tr, a b b o
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-anotheradu|tyouCantrust,su<hasyourfavoriteteacher
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17
ACTTNGOLDER
c r o w i n gu p a r s om e a n sd o i n gn e wt h i n g s y. o u w i i l s o o n
b eo r d
e n o u g ht o d o m a n yt h i n g sy o u c o u r d n 'dt o w h e ny o u
w e r ea c h i r d .
M a n y t e e n a g e rs
e n j o yn e w e xp e ri ences
r ikewear ingmakeup,shaving,
l e a r n i n tgo d r i v e ,w e a r i n g" i n "c r o t h i n gd, a t i n g t - a r k i n g
about
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i t ) , o r e a r n i n gt h e i ro w n s p e n d i n m
g o n e y s, o m et r y t h i n g st h a t a r e
q u e s t i o n a bllei keh a vi n gb o d yp i e rc ings
and gettingtattoos.some
e v e nt r y t h i n g sth a t a red a n g e ro uand
s canteadtoier ioustr oublelil<e
e x p e r i m e nti nw
g i th se x,a l co h o lo, r dr ugs.
T e e nstry so meth i n g sb e ca use
they thinr <it m akesthem r oor <
o l d e r .S m o l < i ni g
s o n e .B u t s m o k i n gi s s i m p l yu n h e a l t h a
y n dc a nb e
q u i t ee x p e n s i vweh e nd o n eo n a r e g u l a br a s i sl.t c a n
e a s i l yb e c o m ea n
a d d i c t i o n( s o me th i n gw h i chi s te rri i ly har dto stopeven
whenyou
w a n t t o ) a n d l e a d sto se ri o u sh e a l thpr oblem sespecially
when you get
o l d e r .Y o uc ansa veyo u rse l af l o t o f tr oubleif youjust
don,tstar t.
Y o uwi l l h a vea ro t o f d e ci si ons
to m ar < in
e the nextfew year s.
M a n yo f y o u rf r i e n d sw i l l b e g i nt o d o n e wt h i n g s a, n dy o u
willneed
t o d e c i d ew h e th e rto j o i n i n o r w a i t awhile.yor ir par ents
canhelpyou
f i g u r eo u t w he nyo u a reo l d e n o u g hfor adultactivities.
of cour se
t h e r ea r et h i n g st h a t s o m ea d u r t sd o t h a t y o u rf a m i r y
m a yd i s a p p r o v e
o f a t A N Y a g e .F i g u ri n go u t w h a t'sri ghtfor you wilr be
easierif you
k n o w w h e r ey o u r p a re n tssta n d ,
1B
. b o y sc a l l i n gg i r l so n t h e p h o n e
. g i r l sw e a r i n gm a l < e - u p
. g i r l sc a l l i n gb o y so n t h e p h o n e
. t e e n a g e rdsa ti n g
. te enagersm
s ol<ing
cigar ettes
r t f l d Q f se a r n l n g
. te ena,gefs
tr ying dr ugs
a n da t c o n o l
a n c s P e n c r nm
9 oney
Aret h e r ea n y o t he rsyo u w a n t to a d d?
W h i c ho n e sw o u l dy o u l i l < e
t o t a l k a b o u tn o w ?
A s ky o u r p a r e n t tso t e l l y o u h o w t h i n g sh a v ec h a n g e sd i n c et h e t i m e
wh e nt h e y w e r egro w i n gu p a n d n o teth em her e:
19
THEIN5IDE 5TORY
Pubertybeginswhen your bodystartsto producemore
of ce r t a i nh o r m o n e s.
A H OR MON Ei s a special
chemical,
which
is m a d ei n a g l a n da n d re l e a seidn to th e bloodstr eam.
Hor mones
carrymessages
from one part of your bodyto another.Most of the
ho r m o n e st h a t sta rt p u b e rtyco mefro m a glandnearthe br ain,the
P I T UI T A R YT. he sep i tu i ta ryh o rmo n e stell the sexglandsthat it is
t ime t o s t a r t ma l <i n so
g mech a n g e s.
5 o t h e se xg l a n d ssta rt ma ki n gtheir own hor m ones- the
s e xh o r m o n e sF. e ma l eh o rmo n e sa re madein the OVARIES,
and
ma l eh o r m o n e sa re ma d ei n th e T E S T ICLES.
Thesemaleandfemale
ho r m o n e sc a u seth e ch a n g e th
s a t a reall par tof puber ty.
underarm hair
breast growth
hip growth
pubic hair
menstruation
t..21 :
6ROWIN6UPMALE
O n t h e o u t s i d eo f h i sb o d ya m a l eh a sa P E N I S
a n da S ( R O T U M .
T h e p e n i si s t h e p a rto f a ma l e 'sb o d ywhichis mostsensitive
to sexual
f e e l i n g sT. h e scro tu mi s a th i ck p o u c hof skinthat holdsand pr otects
t h e t e s t i c l e s.
Th e rei s a n a rro wo p e n ingthr oughthe penis,calledthe
URETHRA
t h a t u ri n ea n d sp e rmtra velthr oughwhenthey leavethe
body.
D u r i n gp u b e r t yt h e s ep a r t sg r o w a l i t t l el a r g e a
r n d m o r es e n s i t i v e .
M a n y b o y sw o rry th a t th e i r p e n i sl o ol<differ
s
entfr om other s.As a
just lil<e
s mei n d i ffe r entsizesand shapes,
m a t t e ro f f a ct, p e n i seco
fe e t ,e a r s ,a n d n o se s.On esi zea n d shapeis asgoodasanother .
A l l b a b yb o y sa r eb o r nw i t h a f o l d o f s l < i nc,a l l e dt h e
F O R E S I < lpNa,r t i a l l cy o v e r i n g
t h e g l a n s( t i p ) o f t h e p e n i sS. o m e
p a r e n t sh a v ea d o cto rre mo veth e cover ingr ight after bir th,by a
s i m p l eo p e r a t i o cn a l l e dc i r c u m c i s i oO
s o n ' th a v ei t
n .t h e rp a r e n t d
re m o v e dEi
. th e rw a y i sfi n e .T h eo n l y differ ence
is this: maleswho
h a v ea f o r e s l < isnh o u l dc l e a ni n s i d ei t w h e nt h e ys h o w e ro r b a t h e .
D u r i n gp u b e r t ya v e r y i m p o r t a nct h a n g et a l < eps l a c ei n s i d ea
b o y ' sb o d y :s p e rmce l l ssta rtto b e made.Thesecellsar eextr em ely
t i n y . . . s e eunn d e ra m i c r o s c o pt h
e e y l o o l <l i l < e
s l < i n ntya d p o l e sl t. ' s
t h e s es p e r m<e l l sth a t ca u sea p re g n ancy.
Ever yper soneverbor nwas
s t a r t e db y a m a l e ' s p e r mc e l l j o i n i n g
w i t h a f e m a l e 'es g gc e l l .
Y o u n gs p e r mc e l l sa r e m a d ei n t h e T E S T E S
oT
, T E S T I C L(EbSo t h
w o r d sm e a nt h e s a m et h i n g ) ,t w o o v a l - s h a p egdl a n d si n s i d et h e
s c r o t u mA
. f t e r th e y ma tu reth e sp e r mcellsm ovethr oughtwo ver y
n a r r o wt u b e s,p a stg l a n d sl o ca te dj u st abovethe scr otum .Her e,other
f l u i d sa r ea d d e dm
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n ss e m e n .
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Y o u m ay h a ven o ti ce dth a t fo r manygir lspuber tystar tsa year
rr t w o e a r l i e th
r a n fo r b o yso f th e sa meage.Oneof the fir stchanges
s i n a g i r l ' sb r e a s tU
. s u a l l tyh e n i p p l ea r e aw i l l g e t d a r l < earn d l a r g e r
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fallopian tube
ovary
cervtx
vagina
outer lip
T h eo u t e rp a r to f t h e v u l v a- t h e o u t e rl a b i ao r O U T E RL l P S- i s
a p r o t e c t i v ec o v e ri n gfo r th e re st.D u ri ngpuber ty,hairgr owson
a n da r o u n dt h e s eo u t e rl i p s W
, h e nt h e l e g sa r ea p a r t ,t h e o u t e rl i p s
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l a b i ao, r I N N E RL l P 5 p, r o v i d ea n o t h e rp r o t e c t i v lea y e r P
. a r t l yh i d d e n
b y t h e i n n e rl i p s w
, h e r et h e yj o i n a t t h e t o p , i st h e C L l T O R l S
l t .i s o f t e n
c ov e r e db y a l i t tl e h o o do f sl <i nso
, o n l y a sm allpar tcan be seen.Lil< e
any b o d yp a r t ,th e cl i to ri sco me si n d i ffer entsizesand shapes,
but
i s u s u a l l yn o l a r g e tr h a na p e a .T h ec l i t o r i si st h e s p e c i apl a r to f t h e
f e m a l e 'bs o d y ,w h i c hi s m o s ts e n s i t i vteo s e x u afle e l i n g as n dt o u c h i n g .
I t g e t ss l i g h t l yl a r g e a
r n df i r m e rw h e na g i r lo r w o m a nf e e l ss e x u a l l y
e x c i t e dI.n s o m ew a y s ,t h e n ,a f e m a l e 'csl i t o r i si s l i l < e
a m a l ep e n i s .
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t o o . W h i l eb o t h m a l e sa n df e m a l e sh a v ea u r e t h r aa n da n u s f, e m a l e s
a l s oh a v ea t h i r do p e n i n gt,h e v a g i n aT. h i si st h e o p e n i n gf o r s e x u a l
i n t e r c o u r sceh, i l d b i r t ha, n d m e n s t r u a t i o n .
MEN5TRUATTON
A v e r y i mp o rta n tp a rto f a g i rl 'sp uber tyis herfir st menstr ual
p e r i o dM
. e n s t r u a t i o no,r " h a v i n ga p e r i o do" r " t h a tt i m e o f t h e m o n t h "
i sa s i g nt h a t h e r b o d yi s m a t u r i n ga, n ds h ei s b e c o m i n ag b l et o g e t
pregn an t .
P r e g n a n ci sy p o s s i b lwe h e na n o v u m( e g gc e l l )i s r i p e n e da n d
rele a s efdr o m o ne o f h e r o va ri e s.
T h i sh appens
aboutoncea m onth,
a n di sc a l l e do v u l a t i o nT. h eo v u m i s v e r yt i n y - s m a l l etrh a t t h e h e a d
o f a p i n .A f t e r i t l e a ve sth e o va ry,th e o vum movesdown the Fallopian
t uD e .
l f a m a l e ' s p e r mc e l lr e a c h etsh e F a l l o p i atnu b ea t t h i st i m e ,
i t w i l l p r o b a b ljyo i n w i t h t h e o v u m .T h i sj o i n i n go f e g ga n ds p e r m
is c a l l e df e r t i l i z a ti o nA. fte r th e e g g i s fe r tilized,it continuesm oving
t h r o u g ht h e t u b e ,u n t i li t r e a c h etsh e u t e r u sT. h eu t e r u sa, l s oc a l l e d
t he " w o m b ",i s a n o rg a nth a t e ve ryfe malehaslow in her abdom en
( t u m m y ) .T h e u t e r u sh a sa s p e c i al il n i n g r, i c hi n b l o o da n d n u t r i e n t s .
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. m a j o rc h a n g eisn d i e t
. t r a v e l i n go r c h a n g ei n c l i m a t e
. l o ssof sleep
A w o m a nu s u a l l yh a sn o p e r i o dw h i l es h ei s p r e g n a n t .
y n t i la w o m a ni s
O t h e r w i s em, e n s t r u a t i ouns u a l l yo c c u r sr e g u l a r l u
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s t o ph a v i n gp e r i o d as n d
w i l l n o l o n g e rb e a b l et o g e t p r e g n a n tT. h i st i m e i n a w o m a n ' sl i f ei s
c a l l e dm e n o p a u s e
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MOREABOUTMEN5TRUATTON
T o a b s o r bt h e m e n s t r u af l u i d ,g i r l sa n dw o m e nu s ee i t h e rp a d s
( s a n i t a rn
y a p k i n st)o l i n et h e i ru n d e r w e a o
r ,r t a m p o n st h a t a r eu s e d
i n t e r n a l ltyo a b s o r bt h e m e n s t r u af l u i d .B o t ha r em a d eo f a b s o r b e n t
m a t e r i a l sa,n da r ec h a n g e d
s e v e r at li m e sa d a y .T h e ya r es o l di n a n y
drugs t o r eo r s u p e rma rl <e t.
i
I
P a d sc o v e rt h e o p e n i n go f t h e v a g i n aM
. o s t l < i n dasr eh e l di n
p lac eb y a n a d h esi ve
stri pth a t sti cl <s
to the under wearTam
.
pons
a r ew o r n i n s i d et h e v a g i n aM
. a n yg i r l sa n dw o m e nf i n dt h e m m o r e
c o n v e n i e nt ht a n p a d sT. h e m u s c l eosf t h e v a g i n ah o l dt h e m i n p l a c es o
t h e yc a n n o ft a l l o u t .A n d s i n c et h e v a g i n ai s o n l ya f e w i n c h e sl o n ga n d
e n d sa t t h e u t e r u sa, t a m p o nc a n n o tp o s s i b lbye l o s ti n s i d e t h eb o d y .
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Deciding
w h e th e rto u sep a d sor tamponsis a per sonal
choice.
Bo t hc o m ei n a va ri e tyo f typ e sa n d sizes.Many wom enusepads
. i r l sm i g h t
s o m e t i m easn dt a m p o n sa t o t h e rt i m e sd u r i n gt h e i rp e r i o dG
want to try severaldifferentproductsto find the onesthey lil<ebest.
: d i se a se
O n ew ord o f ca u ti o n a
< alledtoxicshocksyndr ome
(T S S o) c c u r smo sto fte n a mo n gg i rl sandwom enwho usetam pons.
Al t h o u g hT 5 5i s n o t fu l l y u n d e rsto o d,
ther ear ewaysa gir l or wom an
can protectherselffrom getting it. To be on the safeside,tampons
s h o u l db e c h a n g e da t l e a sto n cee ve rysix hour s,anda padshouldbe
wo r n , i n s t e a dfo
, r a t l e a sta fe w h o u rsof eachday dur ingmenstr ual
pe r i o d s .
G i r l sw ho w a n t to re a dmo rea bouttakingcar eof themselves
d u r i n gm e n s tru a ti o<a
n nre a do n e o f the pam phlets
or bool<listed
s
at
t h e e n d o f t h i s b o o l <.
M a n y gi rl sfe e lg l a dw h e nth e i r per iodsfir st star t,because
t h i s m e a n st h a t t h e i rb o d i e sa r eg r o w i n ga n dw o r l < i n n
go r m a l l y .
"dr
ag."
O t h e r sm a y a t fi rstfe e lth a t h a vi n gp er iodsis a
Somepeople
ev e na c t I i l < eme n stru a ti o ins d i rty o r shameful,maybebecause
they
d o n o t u n d e r sta n idt. Wh i l e me n struating
m ay som etimes
seem
in c o n v e n i e nit,t i s a sp e ci awl o ma n l ysignof a healthybody.
M o s t wo me nfe e lfi n e d u ri n gtheir per iods.
Som ehavea
lit t l ed i s c o m fo rtd u ri n go r j u st b e fo re.( r ampingin the lowerbacl<
or a b d o m e nsl
, i g h tw e i g h tg a i n ,a fe e lingof heaviness,
headaches,
4
Many gir ls
or f e e l i n ge d g ya n d e a si l yu p se ta recom m onsym ptoms.
ha v et h e s ep r o b l e msl e ssa n d l e ssa sthey get older .A healthydiet
a gir l
a n d r e g u l a r exe rci se
ma y h e l p ,b u t i f discom foris
t r eallysever e,
s h o u l ds e eh e r d o cto r.
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5EXUALINTERCOURSE
you can
N o w t h a t y o u l <n o wa b o u tth e b o diesof both sexes/
is all about.Fr omthe
b e t t e ru n d e r s t a nw
d h a t se xu ailn te rco u r se
illust r a t i o nyso u ca nse eth a t th e ma l ea ndfem alesexor gansar e
one is an "inny"and one
s hap e ds ot h a t t he y ca nfi t to g e th e rb e cause
That' sit.
is an " o u t t y . "l t i s th i sfi t th a t a l l o w sfo r sexualinter cour se.
q
u
i
t
e
I t ' sr e a l l yq u i t es i m p l eB
complicated.
. u t i t ' sa l s o
THE"WHYs"
canbe one of the
I n t h e r i g ht ci rcu msta n cese
s, xu alinter cour se
. it is not
m o s tr e w a r d i n ge xp e ri e n ceasco u p l eca nhavetogetherBut
asyou get
a s imp l em a t t e r ,a n dyo u w i l l fi n d i t e a sierto under stand
s a v e r yp e r s o n a l t h i n g ,
o l d e r .F o rm o s tp e o p l eh, a v i n gi n t e r c o u r si e
a n d b e l o n gos n l y i n a c l o s et,r u s t i n ga, n d r e s p o n s i brl e l a t i o n s h i p .
W h e na ma na n dw o ma na rea ttractedto eachother ,being
c los ea n dt o u c h in gca nma l <e
th e m fe e lsexuallyexcited.Thism eans
t hey h a v eg o o df e e l i n g sa l l o ve r.T h ew o man' svaginabecomes
er ect.W henthey feelthis
morem o i s t ,a n dth e ma n 'sp e n i sb e co mes
way ,t h e y m a y wa n t to b e sti l lcl o se r.If they decideto havesexual
, that the men' s
in t e r c o u r s et h, e y p u t th e i r b o d i e scl o setogether so
p e n i sc a ns l i d ei n t ot h e w o m a n ' sv a g i n aT. h i si s a c t u a l l yp l e a s u r a b l e
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it' s not as
ca ng i veth i s uniquepleasur e,
E v e nt h o u g hi n te rco u rse
s i m p l ea s i t m a ys o u n d .
"WHY.NOTs"
AND...THE
get star ted.W hen
i s a l soh o w pr egnancies
S e x u alin te rco u rse
in the female' svagina,
h i ssp e rmce l l sa re r eleased
t h e m a l ee j a cu l a te s,
c
e l li st h e r ea t t h e
l
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a n d m o v et o w a r dh e r F a l l o p i a n
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PREGNANCY
5 o , p r e gn a n cy
i s sta rte db y se xualinter cour se
betweena m an
a n da w o m a n .N o w w e w i l l t e l l y o u a b o u tw h a t h a p p e nbs e t w e e nt h e
t i m ew h e nt h e e g ga n ds p e r ma r ej o i n e da n dt h e t i m e a b a b yi s b o r n .
F e r t i l i z a t i ohna p p e nisn o n eo f t h e F a l l o p i atnu b e s a
, t theend
c lo s e stto t h e o va ry.F o rth e n e xt4 to 5 days,the fer tilizedeggcell
c o n t i n u e tso mo ved o w n th e tu b e u n til it r eaches
the uter us.Thisis
wh e r em o s to f i ts g ro w thw i l l ta l <ep l a c e.
Pregnancy
Cycle
Ovum Matures
The Baby
is Born
OvumReleased OvumJoined
Menstrual
Cycle
BeginsAgain
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CHILDBIRTH
the mothergivesbir th
Af t e r a b o u tn i n emo n th so f p re gnancy,
t o h e r b a b y .W i th e a chp a ssi n g
mo n th ,the fetushasbecomecloser
t o b e i n gr e a d yf o r b i rtha n d a b l eto su rviveoutsideits mother ' s
b o d y .W h e nt h e ti me fo r b i rth i s n e a r,the motherfeelsthe muscles
of h e r u t e r u sf i r ml y sq u e e zi negve ryfe w m inutes.Thisis r efer r edto
, cer vix( the
g str ongerthe
as" g o i n gi n t o l a b o r."A s th e sq u e e zi ngets
the
top
of
the vagina)
ope n i n ga t t h e bo tto mo f th e u te ru sa n d at
gra d u a l l ys t r e t ch eos p e nmo rea n d mo r e.Thism ay tal<ea few hour s
g a r dt o a l l o wt h e
o r m a n yh o u r sd u r i n gw h i c hh e r b o d yi s w o r l < i n h
b a b yt o b e d e l i ve re dD. u ri n gth i sti me ,the m othertr iesto stayr elaxed
wh i l et h e m u s cl e os f h e r u te ru sw o rl <h ar dto openandthen to push
t he b a b yo u t . F i n a l l y,th e ce rvi xstre tches
openwide enoughfor the
b a b y ' sh e a dt o pa ssth ro u g h .
T h e nt h e mo th e rb e g i n sto p u shdown,as har dasshecan,with
with the squeezing
t he m u s c l e os f h e r a b d o me nH
. e r e ffo rtcombines
of h e r u t e r u st o p u shth e b a b yi n to th e vagina,usuallyheadfir st.Then
wit h i n m i n u t e s,th e b a b ysl i p sfro m th e m other ' sbodyinto the outside
world.
W h e n a ba b yco me so u t, i t i s sti l lattachedto its umbilicalcor d.
Now t h a t t h e n e w b o rnca nsta rt b re a thingand eatingon its own, it
doesn'n
t e e dt h is co n n e cti o n
a n y mo re .Soonafter bir th,the cor dis
andthe
c u t , c l o s et o t h e b a b y'stu mmy.C u tti n gthe cor dis painless,
s m a l cl u t w i l l s o o nh e a l T
. h es h o r tp i e c eo f t h e c o r dd r i e su p a n df a l l s
43
of f. W h a t r e ma i n sb e co meyo
s u r n a vel,or bellybutton.Ever ybody
has
a n a v e lw h e r eth e i r u mb i l i caco
l rdu se dto beattached.
l s t h e r ea n y t h i n gy o u w o u l dl i l < e
y o u r m o m o r d a da b o u t
to asl<
y o u r o w n b i r t h? Ma yb eth e y e ve nto o l<pictur esof your deliver y.
Wr i t e y o u r q u esti o nas sw e l l a sth e i r a nswer sher e.Youcanusethese
f or s t a r t e r s: ( w h a t ti me o f d a y d i d yo ur mom go into Iabor ?;was her
l a b o rs h o r to r l o n g7 ; w e r ey o u b o r ni n a h o s p i t a l ?w; a sy o u rf a t h e ri n
t he d e l i v e r yr o o mw i th h e r? ):
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HEREDIry...Whot
MokesYou,yOU
W h a t ma l <eosn e p e rso nta l l a nd anothershor t?W hy do some
p e o p l ei n t h e sa mefa mi l yl o o l <a l i l <e,
and other slool<differ ent?why
d o i d e n t i c a l t w i nl so o ka l i l < ew
? h y d o d o g sg i v eb i r t ht o l i t t l ed o g s ,
a n dc o w sh a v el i t t l ec o w s ,a n d h u m a n sh a v el i t t l eh u m a n s ?
l n s i d ee ve ryce l lo f e ve ryl i vi n gthing ar e manychr omosomes.
T h e s ec h r o mo so meca
s rryth e ma sterplanfor how that plantor
a n i m a lw i l l g ro w .T h e sh a p eo f yo u r nose,the colorof your sl<in,
and
t h e t y p e o f h a i ryo u h a vea rea l l co n tr olledby your own individualset
o f c h r o m o s ome s.
A l l h u ma n sg e t h a l fo f th e i r chr omosomes
fr om the father ' s
s p e r ma n d h a l ffro m th e mo th e r'so vum .sincethe childonly getshalf
o f e a c hp a r e n t'sma ste rp l a n ,so mep ar tsar e incr uded
and som ear e
le f t o u t . T h a t i s w h y mo st<h i l d re nl o oksom ethinglil< etheir par ents,
b u t n o t e x a ctl yl i l <eth e m.
E v e r ym a n h a sso mesp e rmce llsthat car r ya ..fem ale,,
c h r o m o s o man
e d o th e rsth a t ca rrya "male"chr om osome.
whether a
ne w b a b yi s a g i rl o r a b o y d e p e n d o
s n whichtype of sper mfer tilized
t h e m o t h e r ' so vu m.
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Is therea femalecondom?
Q. wnot is a condom?
A. n condomis a latex(rubber)coveringthat fts snuglyon
an erectpenisthat will holdmalesperm.Thereare a varietyof
condomsandthey are reaclilyavailablein manydifferent kinclsof
designedfor femalesbut they
stores.Yes,thereare alsocondoms
arenot ascommon
andyoumayonlyfrndthemin healthclinics.
MAKINGLOVE(withoutmokingmistokes)
e haveinter cour se
fa cea l o t o f p r essurto
M a n y t ee n a g e rs
b e f o r et h e y a r e re a d y.S o me ti mete
s e nsthinl<that ever ybodyelseis
d o i n gi t . l t ' se asyto g e t th i s fro m T V shows,movies,and big- talking
friends.
B u t t h e tru th i s,mo stte e n a g erar
s e not havingsex.Most TV
s h o w sa n d m o vi e su sese xfo r o n e si mpler eason:it getsattention
a n d m a l < em
s o n e y.B u t th e sesh o w srar elyshowlifeas it r eallyis.And
f ri e n d sw h o t r y to g e t yo u to h a vese xar e not thinkingaboutwhat' s
be s tf o r y o u .
T h e r ea reso mei mp o rta n tth i n gsthat TV, movies,andfr iends
loveinvolvesour m ost
us u a l l yl e a v eou t. F o ro n eth i n g , ma l <ing
in t i m a t ef e e l i n g s.B e i n gth i s cl o sew i th som eonebefor eyou ar e r eady
+8
",43.;''
O f c o u rseth
, e b e stth i n g i s to pr otectyour selffr om gettingan
ST Di n t h e f i r st p l a ceT. h e rea rese ve ralwaysto do this.Oneway is
n o t h a v i n gs ex.S T D sca no n l y b e ca u ghtthr oughclosecontactwith
s o m e o n ew h o i s a l re a d yi n fe cte dA. s l ongasyou don' t havesex,you
wo n ' t g e t a s e xu a l l tra
y n smi tte dd i se ase.
S o m e d a y,
th o u g h ,yo u w i l l p robablywant to havea r elationship
t h a t i n c l u d e se
s x.Wh e n yo u a re ma tur eand r eadyfor this, you can
protectyourselfby having"safersex."SafersexmeansEACHperson
u s e sa b i r t h c on tro lme th o d .l t a l someansbeingascer tainasyou can
t h a t t h e p e r s onyo u h a vese xw i th i s not infected.you will needto be
a b l et o t a l l <w i t h t h a t p e r s o na b o u ta l l o f t h i s ,a n dy o u w i l l n e e dt o
t ru s t t h a t p e r so n .
W h a t l < i n do f p e r s o nd o y o u i m a g i n ew o u l dh a v ea n S T D ?I n
f a c t ,a l l l < i n dos f p e o p l eg e t th e m.Y o ucan' ttell by people'clothes,
s
or
wh o t h e i r f r i e n d sa re ,o r w h e reth e y l ive.Youcanonly tell by l<nowing
s o m e o n ev e r y w e l l ,ta l l <i n g
a b o u tS T Ds,andtr ustingthat per sonto
l< n o wa b o u tST D sa n dto b e h o n e stw i th you.
You canseethereare lots of thingsyou needto l<nowbefore
y o u ' r er e a d yf o r se x.L e a rn i n ga b o u tS TDsand safersexis one par t.
Le a r n i n ga b o u tb i rth co n tro li s a n o th er You
.
alsoneedto under stand
yourself.And you needto be ableto be a good partner.That'sa lot to
le a r n ,b u t y o u h a vep l e n tyo f ti me . D on' tlet anyonepushyou befor e
y o u ' r eg o o da n d re a d y.
50
Y o u rPa r e n t ' L
s i st:
lf you are not readyto havea baby,you are not readyto have
unprotectedsexualintercourse.
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GOOD5TART
5o now you know moreabout puberty.You canseeit hasa lot
to do with sexand reproduction.
Theseare big subjects,and there are
a lo t o f o t h e r in te re sti n th
g i n g sto kn ow.By shar ingthis book,you
and your parentshavemadea good start. But any bookcoversonly a
s m a l lp a r t o f a l l th e rei sto kn o w , H o p efullyyou will continueto talk
and learntogether.
No w t h a t y o u a rea l mo sta te e n a g e r,
a s kyour par entsif ther ear e
o t h e rt h i n g st h a t th e y w o u l d l i keyo u to know.W r ite their answer s
here:
THE PUBERWPVZZLE
p u zz lecomef r om the par ts of th is
All th e an s w e rsto th i s cro ssw o rd
j
u
st
b o o l <t h a t y o u ha ve
re a d .F i l li n th e answer syou l< now,andasl<
y o u r p a r e n t fso r h e l pw i t h t h e o n e sy o u ' r en o t s u r ea b o u t .
(T h ec o r r e c ta n sw e rsa resh o w no n th e bottomof the next page.)
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3 . T h em a l es e xc e l lw h i c hc a nf e r t i l i z ea n o v u m i s c a l l e da - c e l l .
6. W h e na m a l e 'sp e n i sb e co me lsa rg erandfir mer ,this is an p ro d u cefe malehor m onesand stor eegg
7.The
cells.
produce
s p e r mc e l l sa n dt h e m a l e
8. T h e
hormone.
1 0 .A n
i s re l e a sefr
d om the ovar Vaboutoncea
m o n t h i n ma tu refe ma l e s.
1 2 .T h ef e m a l eo rg a nth a t i s mo stse nsitive
to sexualfeelingsis
t h ep ro d u ce di n th e se xglandsof both malesand
13-are
f e m a l e sa ndca u seth e ch a n g e o
s f puber ty.
Down:
1 . A f e r t i l i z e do vu m (e g g )a tta ch e sa nd gr owsin a wom an' s2 . T h e m a l eo rg a nth a t ca nb e co meer ectis the- .
4 . Ab o u t o n cea mo n thth e l i n i n go f the uter usbr eal<down
s
and
l e a v e st h e b o d y.T h i si s ca l l e d
5 . T h eo p e n i n gw h e reth i s me n stru al
fluidcomesout of the body
i st h e
that holdsa m ale' s
9.The
i s th e th i cl <p o u chof sl< in
testicles.
11.
i st h e s p e c i at il n g l yf e e l i n go f s e x u apl l e a s u rien
b o t h m e nan dw o me n .
e u r 6 e 4' S u o r l e n r t s u a w' t
sal)rlsel'B
s e u o u r o H' L
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use6rg '1,1,
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urracs :ssor)v
srEMsuv
MoreGoodBooksfor You
What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys
What's Happening to My Body? Book for Girls
(Newmarket
By LyndaMadaras
Press,
2000)
My Feelings, My Self; A Growing-Up Guide for Girls
(Newmarket
By LyndaMadaras
Press,
2002)
Ready, Set Grow: A "What's Happening Book to My Body?" a bookfor youngergirls
(Newmarket
By LyndaMadaras
Press,
2003)
Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships
By RuthBell(ThreeRiversPress,1998)
The New Teenage Body Book
(Perigee,
Wibblesman
By Dr.KathyMccoyandDr.Charles
1999)
It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex & Sexual Health
By RobieHarris(Candlewick,
1996)
Boys and Sex
ByJoelyCarey(Barrons,2002)
From Boys to Men
B y M i c h a e lG u r i a n a n d B r i a n F i o c a( P r i c eS t e r n S l o a n , 1 9 9 8 )
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INDEXfor the
Read-TogetherBook
AIDS49
Anus30
Babies12, 51
Birthcontrol47, 50
Booklist 56
Breastst4,28, 45
Breastmilk 45
Cervix43
Childbirth
43,44
Chromosomes
46
Circumcision
23
Clitoris29
Condoms47, 48, 50
Ejaculation
24,25,26
Erection24,25
Fallopian
31, 41
Fetus4L, 42,43
Feelings16
Foreskin23
Friends18
Glans23
Heredity46
Hormones20
HIV 49
Hymen30
Normal15
Orgasm24, 38
OuterLips29
Ovaries20
Ovum31
Period(seeMenstruation)
Pil 47
P e n i1
s 5 ,2 2 , 2 3 , 2 4 , 2 5
Pituitary21
Pregnancy
32,38, 40,42
Puberty13, t4, 20, 23, 27, 31, 36, 47
Pubertypuzzle54
Rubbers(seeCondoms)
Safersex 50
Scrotum22
Semen23
Sexualintercourse(seeIntercourse)
Sperm23,32,46
STDS39, 49
Tampons33, 34
Testes(seeTesticles)
Testicles
21, 23
Toxicshocksyndrome(TSS)34
U t e r u s3 1 ,4 2 , 4 3 , 4 7
Umbilicalcord42, 43
Urethra22, 30
Vagina30, 33, 36, 38
Vulva28, 30
Masturbation
26,30
Menstruation
31, 32, 33, 35
Websites57
Wetdreams25
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PlannedParenthood'
MarMonte
A C,uidefor Parents
and Other Trusted Adults
for
Let'sTalkAboutS-E-X
6l
62
PARENT'SGUIDtr
63
PARENT'S
GUIDE.
andotherlami[ymembers,
childrenlearnaboutlove,communication,
andgetting
alongin a closerelationship.
All theseexperiences,
andnranyothers,
will influence
theirattitudes,
feelings,
nowandin thefuture.
andbehavior,
Eventhoughso muchlearning
takesplacewithoutwords,it is still
important
for families
to talkaboutsex.A childwhohascorrectinformation
anda
clearsenseof lamilyvaluesis morelikelyto makecareful
need
decisions.
Parents
to
showthattheyarewillingto talk,ratherthanwaitingfor theirchildren
to cometo
thenrwith questions.
Avoidingthesubjectmaysuggest
thatsexis too difficult,too
- or perhaps
embarrassinE
too dirtyto be talkedabout.Thismakes
it evenharder
for childrento askfor the information
theyneed.Theymaybe leftwith onlythe
hodgepodge
of ideastheypickup outsidethe family.
\OUR
O\\'N DISCO\,,IFORT
65
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aheadof timewithyourspouse,
partner,
a closefriend,a relative
or
your answers
a healthprofessional.
Ifyouwantto readmoreaboutcertaintopics,you
couldtry
listedat thebackof thisbook.
someof thereadings
someol thewordsin thisbook,wordslike"penis"
fusttheideaof saying
maymakeyou
or "vagina"
feeluncomfortable.
Youmightwantto practice
saying
front
themtoyourself,
in
of
a
nrirror,
beforeyou
try
talking
withyour
child.
possib!y
Youmayfeela littlesillyat first,butwithpractice
thisfeelingwill wearoff. lfyou
do feelembarrassed
whenyoutry to talk,)oucanadmitthishonestly
toyourson
or daughter.
Almosteveryone
feelsthatsexis a special,
Admitting
private
subject.
will probably
helpyoubothfeelmorecomfortable.
your owndiscomfort
Youmayalsowantto do an informalreviewof the languaEeyou
use.
Children
payattention
to thewordstheirparents
useandimitatethosewords,
evenwhentheydo not lullyunderstand
them.Usingwordsthatarehurtfulor
disrespectful
suchas"fag,"or "bitch"or otherharassingwords
will be confusing
to
children
because
thesewordsaredisrespectful
anddamaging
to others.Sexis about
respect
andcaring,not harassment,
coercion
or makingothersfeelbad.
Finally,you
don'thaveto do thisall alone.Youcancertainly
includeyour
spouse
or another
trustedadult.Therewill be timeswhenbothadultstogether
canbe involved
in talking,
or eachcantalkto thechildseparate!y.
Evenhaving
conversations
r,vith
anoldersiblingpresent
canexpand
thescopeofyourdiscussion
withayounger
child.
Maryparents
wonderif it is okayfor a motherto talkwithhersonabout
sexor for a fatherto talkwithhisdaughter.
Theanswer
is YES.In fact,sometimes
talkingwitha parentof theopposite
Mostpre-teenaEers
sexhasspecial
advantages.
PARENT'S
GUIDE
.ird earl)teenagers
in howotherpeopleseethenr,especially
arcveryinterested
:eopleof theothersex.Theopposite-sex
For
parentcangivethisviewpoint.
.'ranrple,
a mothercanhelphersonunderstand
howwomenthinkandfeelabout
'ren.Shecanhelphimto understand
After
andrespect
andfeelings.
girls'thoughts
rll, shewasoncea girl herselfl
Mothersareusualb/
morelvillingthanfathers
to discuss
sexwitheither
bo-ys
orgirls,butfathers
alsohavea lot to offerchildren
Encourage
of bothsexes.
a f a t h e rp
' sa r t i c i p a t i bo yns h a r i ntgh i sb o o k w i t hh i ma sw e l l .S t i l l ,i t i s a p a r e n t ' s
nillingness
to talkandto listenwhichis muchmoreimportant
thanwhichparent
happens
to be talkingaboutsex.
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MALE& FEMALE
BODIES
Male
sexual
andreproductive
ortans,internalandexternal
_
sexualandreproductive
orEans,
internalandexternal
_ Female
of puberly,maleandfemale
_ Plysicalchanges
relateto reproduction
_ Howthesechanges
That
these
changes
bring
aboutnewfeelingsandemotions
_
_ Thatpeoplematureat differentrates
MENSTRUATION
_ Whatit is
_ Whenit occurs
_ Thatit is normal
_ Howto be prepared
ERECTIONS
& WETDREAMS
_ Whattheyare
- Thattheyarenormal
MASTURBAIION
_ Whatit is
_ Thatit is not harmful
_ Thatit is normalto do it-or not to do it
_ Yourfamilysfeelingsaboutit
SEXUALINTERCOURSE
_ Whatit is
_ Howit is relatedto pregnancy
to love,marriage,
birthcontrol,etc.
- YourbeliefsabouthbwTtrelStes
RISKS
transmitted
diseases
_ Sexually
- Uninteirdedpregnancy
Hurtfeelinsi
problems
_ Relationship
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in this
inportant,
whicharenot included
Are thereotherthingsYOUconsider
Thespaces
belowareleft
--"list,butwhichyouwantto be sureyourchildunderstands?
truto addthesetopics.Makenoteshereaboutothertopicsyouwantto bringup.
iiUILDING SELF-ESTEEM
is probably
themost
Helpingyour
childfeelgoodabouthimor herself
'rportantinlluence
As theybecome
sexual
development.
onyourchildren's
.renaEersyour
decisions.
children
will be facedwithmanydiflicultandinrportant
People
them
whofeelgoodaboutthemselves
arelesslikelyto let otherspressure
look
ntomakingunwise
choices,
anddon'tneedto useothersto makethemselves
qoodor feelgood.Theyaremorelikelyto makeresponsible
aboutsex,
decisions
:indaboutmanyotherthingsaswell.Herearesomethingsyoucando to helpyour
children
feelgoodaboutthemselves.
Let thern know that you appreciate thern.
Recognize
personality,
looks,accomplishments
andanything
theirtalents,
their
elseyoucanthinkof.Avoidcomparing
themwithothers.Helpthenrdiscover
olvnspecialstrengths.
Treat thern with respect.
Thinkabout
Ask for theiropinions.
Listento theirideasandfeelings.
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whattheysaytoyou.Don'tcutthemoff,evenwhenyoudisagree
withwhatthey
aresaying,
hardasthatcanbe.Hearthemout.Theirsel[-respect
beginswiththe
respectandconsideration
theyreceive
fromyouandothers.
Teach thern to set proper boundaries.
Teachyour
children
thatthereis "goodtouch"and"badtouch."Helpyour
children
learnthattheyhavetherightto choose
whotouches
theirbodies.They
cantell otherchildren
andadultsthattheydo notwantto be touched
andthey
shouldexpectthatotherswouldrespect
theirwishes.
Encourage
themto talkwith
you if theyfeelthatsomeone
hastouched
theminappropriate[y
or madethemfeel
uncomfortable.
Helpgirls,especial!y,
understand
thattheirfacialexpression
and
bodylanguage
needto matchthewords"no,""don't,"or "stopthat."lf onegiggles
or laughs,onesendsa messaEe
thattheyarenot reallyserious.Youcannot saya
"NO"
real
witha smileor a giggle.
Don't expect too rnuch or too little.
Manyyoungsters
leelinsulted
because
theythinktheirparents
treatthem
Iikekids.Othersgetdiscouraged
because
leel
they
theirparentsexpectmorethan
theycando. lt is important
to let themknowthatyouhaveconfidence
in them.You
cansupportthemwithoutpushing.
Youcanprotectthenrwithoutkeeping
themlronr
newexperiences.
Avoid too rnuch criticisrn.
Preteens
andteensareextremely
sensitive
to criticism.
lf theyheartoo maryr
negatives
theymayjuststoplistening.
ihey oftendo wantto hearparents'opinions,
whenexpressed
tactfully
love.
andwith
And whenyourchildren
failat something
or
makea mistake,
let thenrknowthatit is nottheendof theworld.
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IS I}IPORTA\T
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Preteens
will soonbe facingimportant
decisions
aboutsex.To handle
factsandvalue
thesewell,
thediflerence
between
theyneedto be ableto recognize
judgments.
Thebestwaywe canhelpthemis by makingthisdifference
clearin the
thingswe sayeveryday.
Forpractice,
is a value
try deciding
whether
eachof thesestatements
(Hint:
statement
or a statement
of fact.
ualuestatements
ofieninclude
oneof these
words
good,bad,ight, wrong)
should,ought,
",Bf,l: timetheyar,e12,.girls
in beingprettyand
shouldgetmoreinterested
laoyilKe. (|',at
u(Judgnt(nt )
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PARE,NT'SGUIDE
quESTroNS,qUESTTONS
Preteens
probably
will notaskdirectquestions
aboutvalues.
Stilltheymay
"fanie
nrention
thingsthatgiveyoua chance
to discussyour
views.Forinstance,
sayswhenyou're
13you're
old enoughto go steady."
Hereisyouropportunity
to say
r'vhatyou
believe
aboutdating,andwhyyoubelieve
it. Yourchildmayor maynot
agreewithwhatyousayrightthen.But ifyou cansayit respectlullyyou
will keep
thedooropenfor continued
communication
on thissubiect.
Preteens
areverycuriousabouttheirbodiesandhowtheywork.Theydo
not always
feelfreeto askquestions,
however.
Whethertheyaskor not,hereare
someof thethingstheyoltenwantto know:
Whenwill I develop
likemylriends?
Wty do kidssaydirlywords?
Wly do babieslookliketheirparents?
Whatcauses
twins?Sianrese
twins?
Wty do somebabies
turnout to be boysandothers,
girls?
Whathappens
to thespermcellsthatdon'tfertilizetheegg?
Whatabouttheeggsthatdon'tgetfertilizedT
Howdoesababystayaliveinsidethe mother?
Whyaresomechildren
adopted?
Wly can'tmenhavebabiesT
What'sanabortionT
Whatdoes"making
it," (or "getting
down,"etc.)nreanT
Whatis oralsexTls oralsex,sex?
Whatis a wetdreamT
Do girlshavethenr?
"masturbation"
Whatdoes
mean?
What'sa condomfor?
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Whatis a homosexual?
W h a ta r em e n ' s ' b a l lfso'r 7
AIDS, or herpesT
diseases),
tranntitted
WhatareSTDs(sexually
Howdoyoucatchit?
D o e sm e n s t r u a t i(oonre i a c u l a t i oi n ,t e r c o u r soer ,c h i l d b i r t hh)u r t ?
Do boyshaveperiods?
in thesetopics.Of
normalfor a preteen
to be interested
It is perfectly
to all of theirchild's
not
know
the
answers
find
that
they
do
sonreparents
course,
may
questions.
in thelrontpartof thisbook.Forothersyou
Manyareanswered
in additional
booksor theInternet.We recomntend
wishto getmoreinformation
to keepat home.Thisgivesthemessage
bookon sexuality
havinga goodreference
andthathomeis a placewhere
thatyouwantyourchildto gettherightinformation,
questions
withand
lt shouldbe a resourceyou
arecomfortable
canbe answered.
to.
withyourchildhavingaccess
oneyouwill be comlortable
SE,XUAL FEELINGS
- especially
that
admitting
worrythattalkingaboutsexuality
Someparents
-will encourage
children
to experintent
hassexual
feelings
astheynrature
everyone
feelings
for what
sexual
In fact,recognizing
withsextoo early.Quitethecontrary!
"swept
heatof
in
the
resist
being
away"
theyarecanhelpyoursoon-to-be-teenager
in advance,
so theycantell thedifference
Preteens
needto be prepared
passion.
feelings,
andfallingin love.It is mucheasierto start
between
sexual
peerpressure,
oladolescence
beforethemoodsandconflicts
thesetopicsat thisstage,
discussing
begin.
/o
GUIDE
PARtrNT'S
tellingthem
In today's
worldyoung
peoplealready
getplentyof messages
r,vhy
it is
Thatis exactly
thatsexfeelsgood,or thatit will nrakethenrfeelErown-up.
whoarewillingto discuss
thepowerof sexual
so important
thattheyhaveparents
feelings
andthedifference
between
feelinganddoing.
thatis appropriate
with
Sexual
orientation
is another
areaol discussion
indicate
I in l0youthshavea sexual
preteens.
Statistics
thatapproximately
mostbelieve
preference
for oneof theirowngender.Today
thisis a predetermined
it
in
andteenageyears.
partof a person's
sexuality
andthat doessurface preteen
with
Thereseems
heterosexual
andhomosexual
to be a broadcontinuum
between
maryof us fallingin various
encourages
us to
places
alongthatline.Oursociety
theorientation
of nrost.Youcanstillexplain
be heterosexuals
andthatis certainly
feelings
of attraction
towards
someone
of theirown
toyourchildthatoccasional
Youngteensneedto understand
genderdoesnot nreantheyarcEaJor homosexual.
(including
whatsexual
means,
thatwhichis
orientation
theappropriate
ternrinology
differences
anronE
theirpeers.
disrespectful)
andlearnto be tolerant
of individual
HAZARDS AND RISKS
risks,such
wouldnot be complete
withoutdiscussing
Sexuality
education
(including
AIDS),unintended
preEnancy,
aswellas
assexually
transmitted
diseases
Thisbookbeginstheprocess
theemotional
upsets
thatcanoccurin relationships.
by introducing
thebasicfactsfor pre-adolescents.
It is intended
to be a startlor
furtherlearning.
risksof a
Youngpeoplealsoneedto knowthatsexraises
theenrotional
"casual,"
it
relationship.
fewadolescents
Whilesexis oftenportrayed
as
experience
a7
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thisway.Addingsexto an immature
relationship
increases
theriskof feelinghurt,
jealous,
smothered,
or used.Thesepainfulfeelings
areoftencarriedoverintofuture
relationships
andaffectthoserelationships
negative[y.
Asyoudiscuss
theseriskswithyourpreteen
or teenager,
aimto keep
a sense
oibalance.
All too often,sexuality
education
hasbeena lessonin the
"terrible
thingsthatcanhappen
toyou ilyou do it." Beingableto talkaboutthe
positive
aswellasthenegative
aspects
of sexualitywill
makeyou
a nrorecredible,
"ask-able"
For
parent. pre-adolescents,
is thattheycanprevent
a keymessage
serious
problems
by makingsensible
decisions,
andeventually
growup to enjoy
healthy,
satislingsexual
lives.
Theyounger
teensarewhentheyfirsthavesex,themoresexual
partners
theywill have.Havingmultiplesexual
partners
withoutprotection
exposes
an
individual
to moreriskof STDsandunintended
preEnancy
andfatherhood.
COMMON
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED
DISL{SES (STDs)
Sexually
transmitted
maybe oneof themostoverlooked
diseases
health
problems
in America.
Thecauseof STDsmaybe a virus,a parasite
or bacteria,
depending
on theindividual
infection.
MostSTDsoccurduringtheagerangeof
teensthrough20s,mainlybecause
thisageEroupis morelikelyto havemultiple
sexual
partners,
havesexwithsomeone
whohashadmultiplesexual
partners,
or
engaged
in unprotected
sex.
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Adolescents
needto knowaboutthespecific
sexual
activities
thatcan
(in additionto knowing
transmit
theseinfections
thesecanbe transmitted
by
sharing
needles
to shootdrugs).Theseinclude
vaginal,
oralandanalsex.These
lormsof sexualactivityarefair[yconrmon
amonEadolescents
but oftenareignored
bywellmeaning
parents
whofeeluncomfortable
it is
discussing
them.Today,
common
amonE
a largesegment
of teensto engage
in oralsexandbelieve
thatit is
perfectly
safebecause
thereis no riskof pregnancy.
However,
therelS a significant
risklor sexually
transmitted
diseases
duringoralsex(forbothpartners)
andANY
unprotected
acts.Keepin mindthatthewaysSTDsaretransmitted
diff,ersomewhat
fromonedisease
to thenext.Forinstance,
wartsandherpes
genital
canbe
transmitted
by genitalcontact
withan infected
person,
withor withoutintercourse.
It is important
for adolescents
know
to
aboutSTDsandhowto protectthemselves.
ANY personwhoengages
in unprotected
sexmaycontracta STD.Even
thoughstatistics
mayindicate
rate
thatthe
of sexual
activity
amonE
teensis
declining,
therateof sexually
transmitted
diseases
remains
high.I in 4 teenswill
contract
a STD.It is alsoimportant
for kidsto knowthatmaryindividuals
who
havea STD nraynot showanysymptoms
andmaynot evenbe awarethattheyhave
contracted
one.Goingto a doctoror clinicis howyoudiagnose
a STD.
It is criticalfor parents
to educate
themselves
aboutsexually
transmitted
diseases.
Somecommon
STDsin theUnitedStates
include:
. C e n i t aHl I V( H u m a pn a p i l l o m a v i r uos T
) richomoniasis
. Chlamydia
o External
CenitalWarts
. GenitalHerpes
. Gonorrhea
r HIV/AIDS
'SYPhilis
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(such
infornration
whatcanhappenif untreated
Specific
aboutsymptonrs,
lromyour
as infertility)
andhowthediseases
aretransmitted
canbe obtained
Parenthood
or on websites
listedon page88. lt
doctor,clinic,yourlocalPlanned
is important
lt is inrportant
and
to knowthatall STDshavetreatments.
to dias.nose
EARLY
healthproblenrs
treatanvinfection
so thatfurtheror moreserious
thatmav
for lile mavbe avoided.
affectan individual
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Someparents
worrythatthisinformation
nrayencourage
sexual
activity.
"We've
Holever,an earlyadolescent
messaEe:
caneasilyunderstand
a two-tiered
talkedaboutsomeof thereasons
wfgrit'sbettertowaitto havesex.But lwant
for
evenif_youdon'tusethe infornration
-\,outo knowhowto protectyourself,
quitea while."Unfortunately,
usingabstinence
astheonlylessonhasprovento be
ineffective.
THE DITE,RNET
- is nowavailable
A wholenewworld- bothhelpfulanddangerous
to
online.Explore
children
parental
controls
andfiltersthatnraybe available
toyou
Letyourchildren
wholiketo take
andyourcomputer.
knowthattherearepredators
advantage
ofyouthonline.Preteens
shouldnot respond
to peopletheydon'tknow.
Keeping
computers
thatchildren
access
in a lami!yroom(versus
theirbedrooms)
will helpyoumanaEe
howyourchildusesthecomputer.
Sexual
innuendo
email
names
areto be avoided
for kids.fustasyouteachchildren
howto safelyrespond
to a phonecall,let themknowthatpersonal
information
with
shouldnotbe shared
anyonetheydon'tknowby emailor evenat a website.
8l
And,
information
is morelikelyto be retained.
peersis wront.Second,repeated
"current"
is continually
changing,
asnewmedicalfindings,
finally,
information
from
andvideos,available
Up-to-date
pamphlets
tests,andtreatments
appear.
organization,
canbe
or localPlannedParenthood
your countyhealthdepartment
(See
reading
list
and
websites
at
the
valuable
in covering
thesetopics.
especially
teensarefamiliarwith the
Youneedto be sureyouryounE
theendof thissection.)
risksthatcanaffectthe restof theirlives.
those
Onefinalnote.TwoEroupsofyoungpeoplemeritspecialattention:
who thinktheymaybe gayandthosewho havea familymemberinfectedby HIV.
beyondthescopeof this
supportandinformation,
Bothcanbenefitfromadditional
or supportEroups,checkwithyourlocalAIDS
book.To findout aboutcounseling
serviceorganization
or mentalhealtha1ency.
PARENT'S
GUIDE
values.
Ifyoudisapprove
seeor hear,tellyourchildren
politely
of nressaEesyou
lvhatit is aboutthesemessages
thatyoudon'tlike.
r Conrnrent
noticea
events
in everyday
life.lf yourchildren
on sex-related
thatis
pregnant
friend,or showcuriosity
abouttanrpons
or otherpersonal
products,
a goodstarting
pointfor talkingaboutreproduction
or menstruation.
.\ F'E\\'THINGS
NOT TO DO
o Don'ttell them,"You're
notold enoughto knowaboutthat."This
comnrent
thatyouarenotwillingto discuss
this,andperhaps
givesthemessaEe
othersensitive
lltheyarealready
aboutary topic,thentheyneed
subjects.
thinking
correctinlormation
to theirage.
aboutit, in termsappropriate
. Whentalkingabouteveryday
things,don'tnrakecomnrents
thataretoo
harshor too general.
Toonranystatements
like"Lookat her- that'sdisgusting!"
canturnofl furtherdiscussion.
lt is betterto be lessnegative
andmorespecific:
"Sheis a prettywoman,
but I don'tthinktheErocery
storeis therightplaceto wear
a b i k i n i .T" h i st y p eo l s t a t e m etnetl l s y o ucr h i l d r em
n o r ea b o u t y o uvra l u e s .
o Don'tteasethemabouttheirchanging
bodiesandleelings,
anddon't
lamily
members
allowother
to teasethemeither.Suchteasing
onlyaddspainand
alienation
verysensitive.
at a timewhenmostyoungsters
arealready
o Don'tusetoo muchhumorwhenyoutalkaboutsex.Humor,at theright
L i n r ec,a nh e l pt o r e l i e veen r b a r r a s s n rBeuntti.f n r o sot f y o u rt a l ki s i n t h ef o r n r L l
jokes,your
children
nraygetthemessage
thatsexis nota subjectyou
arewillingto
talkaboutseriously.
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thattheyhavecorrectinformation,
satislingpartof theirlives.By makingsure
withyouare
a clearideaofyourbeliefs,
andplentyol chances
to communicate
givingthemthebestpossible
startin thisdirection.
B6
PARENT'SGUIDE
WEBSITES
FORPARENTS
Planned
Parenthood,/
Mar Monte
m r,v.ppmarnronte.orE
Planned
Parenthood
Federation
of America
wl,nv.
plannedparenthood.
org
(go to: for parents)
storeyahoo.com/ppfastore
AmericanSocialHealthAssociation
www.asha.std.org
SIECUS/Sexuality
Information
& Educational
Council
(goto: pareniinformation)
wr,r'w.siecus.org
PFLAG/Parents,
Families
& Friends
of Lesbians
andGays
w,r.tw.
pflag.org
Advocatesfor Youth
www.advoca
tesio1,out h.o rg
NationalCampaign
to Prevent
TeenPregnancy
http://wuw.teenpregnancy.
orglteen/
Centerfor Disease
Control
\ xr"w.coc.tov
Coalitionfor Positive
Sexualily
wrrut.
positive.org
CeneralReproductive
Information
www.sexhealth.org
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