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Pattern 4.
This one is easy (equals good:), especially when compared to the hog above.
Kevin Kupal, mindlist:
"It's amazing how YOUR MINE works you know. I mean, people never really realize
how to control their emotions, but it can so very easily done! Wanna bet? Hokay.
..
Well... remember a time when you were utterly humiliated... when you just wanted
to bury your head in the ground and disappear... as if the whole world were lau
ghing at you... do you feel that now? (wait)... okay...
Imagine that I can take that feeling, collect it all in my hand (wave in front o
f her chest, as if collecting waifs or whiffs of air), take it all out. and quas
h all of that bad feeling in my hand... concentrated in all its bad emotions in
this very small space, and I take this away from you (take hand away). Makes you
feel so much better now, does it not ?
Her: Yeah...
NOW, can't you see... it's easy to make people FEEL VERY GOOD. WITH ME, it's a n
atural thing to do. Can KEVIN (point to the hand with the bad feelings) do that?
Pattern 5.
Not really a destroyer, but will probably get her thinking about the status of h
er borefriend.
Jake Thomson, ASF:
"You have a boyfriend. Well I must stay I certainly disappointed, but I know how
nice it is to have someone who can fulfill your every desire, exactly the way y
ou need it fulfilled, who can communicate with you at the deepest core of your b
eing, exactly the way you need to be communicated with. And since it's obvious t
hat's the case here, might I inquire when is the wedding? I mean, since he's mee
ting EVERY DESIRE you have, exactly the way YOU NEED IT FULFILLED, you must be p
lanning on marriage, right. That way you can spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE, just w
ith him, forever and ever and ever. That's so sweet. [if she mumbles "um... no w
edding yet", transition to a close]"
Update. Pattern 6.
From an unknown source:
Her: Well, I'd like to go out with you but I'm seeing someone.
You: Right, I appreciate you being straight with me. Thank you. And as much as I
wish it weren't the case, I gotta tell I also respect relationships.
You: But you know, it's interesting, you can be in relationship one minute, and
the next minute, you don't know what's happening. I'm sure you've experienced th
at, HAVEN'T YOU?
Her: Yes I have.
You: Its like you're going along and you suddenly start to FEEL UNCERTAIN ABOUT
WHERE THE WHOLE THING IS GOING?
Her: Yeah, sure.
You: What's the guys name your going out with?
Her: Bill.
You: Right, so you're going out with Bill (point to your right hand) and you're
enjoying it and all...and then say for some reason you break up. You ever BREAK
UP WITH SOMEONE (point to palm of right hand) and you go through that period of
mulling it over and you NOTICE THE PATTERNS IN HIM THAT RUINED YOUR LAST RELATIO
NSHIP... OR MAYBE YOU START TO LOOK AT HIM IN A WAY THAT REALLY MAKES HIM A LOT
LESS ATTRACTIVE IN YOUR MIND?
You: I mean it's so weird how the mind does all this stuff, but what I'm curious
about is what would it be like for a person if that entire process were to TAKE
PLACE INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers in her face) in someone's mind? It'd b
e like (wave hand in her face) you couldn't see his picture any more in your min
d. Every time you tried it'd be like something was just WIPING IT RIGHT OUT. And
that's how you'd know that you've already started to FORGET ALL ABOUT HIM, to M
AKE HIM MUSCH LESS IMPORTANT.
You: Or you know, is there someone you used to date, but now they're way out of
your mind... you haven't even thought about them in a long time? Yeah? Well as y
ou remember him, point to where you see his picture?
You: Right there? Isn't that interesting? So if you were to, FORGET ABOUT THIS G
UY (hold your palm to where she pointed) it'd be like he GETS STUCK IN THE SAME
PLACE. Now imagine Bill in the place you see the other guy. I think that, from t
his perspective, you REALLY CAN SEE SOMETHING IN HIM YOU DON'T LIKE... something
that over time, would really cause you TO DUMP HIM.
You: And when that happens it's a little sad, but its also a good thing, because
it allows you to CREATE AN OPENING FOR SOMEONE NEW. ME, I know that's how it CA
N GO DOWN ON ME (point to your groin).
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