Husband Shortage For Women Seeking Marriage

Solutions 4 Christian Fems Who Can't Find Godly Men to

Marry Them
THE GENUINE AND LEGITIMATE NEED FOR CHRISTIAN
SOLUTIONS TODAY FOR WOMEN WHO WOULD MARRY
Even If It Means Polygyny

BY R. Tyler
11/2004, Revised 4/2009, 3/10/'10
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http://www.scribd.com/people/documents/9871607-ronnie-tyler

In the World today there are an average of 98.6 women

for 100
men [Sources: Wistat (United Nations)]. At first glance
this would
seem to indicate that the American way of marriage is
alive and
well today. But then consider the following USA stats:

http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml

***48% of all householders are unmarried, even though

many
are under command to be married (1Cor7:1,2 ,8,9)

***50% of first marriages end in divorce

***60% of remarriages end in divorce
This indicates that there is a lot of marital sin and sex sin
out
there that the American way of marriage did not prevent.
***56% of adults are married and living together in 1998,
which
means 44% of USA adults are not married for one reason
or
another even though there is a 98.6 women for 100 men
ratio.
Such a ratio does not ensure the American way of
marriage.

***35% of adults between 25 and 34 never married

(1998),
clearly showing that the American way of marriage does
not
ensure marriage for everyone, and may not be desired by
everyone.

In 1999 28 % of Midwesterners never married

-------------28% of Northeasterners never married
-------------26% of Southerneres never married
-------------29% of Westerners never married
Clearly geographical and geosocial factors do not make a
difference.

**31.3% of males over 15 have never married

**25.1% of females over 15 have never married
Since more men than women never marry, that clearly
shows
that there will not be one John for every Jane, and the
only
hope of every Jane having a John is not in the American
way
of marriage but in Jesus and His ways as opposed to our
ways.
***25.5% of all USA households were occupied by one
person in
1998. Obviously the American way of marriage is not
preventing
this problem of being alone, while we know it is not good
for people
to be alone without a helpmeet (Gen 1,2).

***10% of females have been widowed, and the young

Christian
widows among them are under command to marry (1 Cor
7:1,2,8,9; 1 Tim 5:10-14)

***10.2% of females have been divorced, 45% of females

experience a drop in their standard of living after divorce,
9.2% of
all households are run by single moms, and are therefore
bereft
presenting the ministry need of James 1:27.

In South Korea
(http://www.nso.go.kr/eng/releases/e_svpo2002.shtml)
there were 9.6 marriages per 1000 population in 1992,
while the
figure dropped to 6.4 per 1000 in 2002. The number of
married
people continues to decrease. In this society also the
Korean way
of marriage in and of itself can't be the only marital
solution, if
sexual immorality is to be avoided (1Cor 7:1,2).
http://www.focusintl.com/statr1a1.htm#001

******The number of women for 100 men in 1995 was:

* In North Africa there were 97 women for 100 men
* In Sub-Saharan Africa there were 102 women for 100
men
* In the World there were 98.6 women for 100 men
Sources: Wistat (United Nations)

Yet as we saw above, more men than women don't ever

marry,
leaving monogynous women with an inadequate supply
of
husbands. More men than women choose not to marry,
leaving
many women with no marital option in the American way
of
marriage. Ungodly and unsaved men have less reason to
marry
than do godly saved men, reducing even further the
number of
maritally available men. In most Christian communities
there
are more Christian women than there are Christian men
available for marriage.
"There are not only few Christians in Japan, but the
number of
Christian men is about half of the number of Christian
women in
our denomination. "
[http://community.gospelcom.net/Brix?pageID=6088]
Though not that bad, the Christian women in the AfroAm
and
EuroAm Baptist churches in So Calif. far exceed the
number of
Christian men martially available in those churches.

Even in pseudoChristian organizations like the UU the

ratio is
Male 43.1% 1999 -2003
Female 56.9% 1999 - 2003

Many Christian singles ministries have a ratio of

38% male, 62% female
[http://www.creativeye.com/singles/stats.htm].

Throughout the Presbyterian Church (USA) 59 percent of

members are female and 41 percent are male. ...
[http://www.pcusa.org/research/compstats/hendrick-
r.htm]

"Podles cites a deluge of statistics: in 1986, church-

growth
expert Lyle Schaller observed 60 percent female to 40
percent
male churchgoers, a split that has widened since. Jesuit
theologian Patrick Arnold says he has found a female-to-
male
ratio ranging from 2:1 to 7:1, and "some liberal
Presbyterian or
Methodist congregations are practically bereft of men."
Even in
churches that have an all-male ordained leadership, the
inner
circle of laity who actually run things is likely to be mostly
female.
Sociologist Edward H. Thompson states that "throughout
all
varieties of black religious activity, women represent
from 75 to
90 percent of the participants." These are observations
based on
attendance, but the last time a census of membership by
gender
took place was 1936. Even back then, women
outnumbered
men across denominations, with Pentecostals almost 2 to
1."
[http://www.ctlibrary.com/ct/1999/may24/9t6070.html]

Options for Christian women are tough. There are

obviously not enough "Christian" men for Christian
women. That being the case, Christian women who want
to marry and Christian women under command to marry -
---
***1 Tim 5:14 Therefore, I want younger widows(5503) to
marry, have children, manage their households, and give
the adversary no opportunity to accuse us.
***1 Cor 7: 1* ¶ But concerning the things of which ye
have written to me: It is good for a man not to continue
-keep on - touching a woman; 2 but because of and to
avoid sexual immorality each man should be [sexually]
having his own woman, and each woman should be
[sexually] having her own man. . . . 8To the unmarried
and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain
single as I am. 9 But if they do not [Strong's 3756]
continue to have self-restraint [keep on abstaining from
sex sin], they should marry, for it is better to marry than
to burn with desire. - - - - - - -may choose to do the
following which are clearly sinful:
1. Marry the unsaved (2Cor 6; Malachi 2)
2. Marry carnal "Christians" snared in sin (2 Thess 3:6-14;
1 Cor 5:11)
3. Have sex outside of marriage (Ezek 23; Prov 5; 1 Cor 6)
4. Become lesbians (Rom 1:20-30)
5. Lust, i.e. desire what is forbidden by God, and do sex
sin in their minds or with pornography (Matt 5:28; Ezek
23)
6. Self-stiimulate thinking of sex sin (Mat 5:28; Ezek 23)

Or they may choose not to sin but to self-stimulate to

orgasm without thinking of sex sin, without thinking of
genital contact with someone, without thinking of
someone doing your breasts. For example self-
stimulating to orgasm while thinking of kissing someone
on the lips, cheeks, neck, back, chest, arms, legs, or feet;
without thinking of genital contact, without thinking of
him doing your breasts, is no where in the Bible declared
specifically, explicitly or clearly to be sin. Sinless self-
stimulation is a matter of Romans 14, i.e.
[Paraphrased for application] Rom 14:1 AS FOR the
person who is a weak believer, welcome him/her [into
your fellowship], but not to criticize his/their opinions or
pass judgment on his/her scruples or perplex him/her
with discussions. . . . . 19 So let us then definitely aim for
and eagerly pursue what makes for harmony and for
mutual upbuilding (edification and development) of one
another. 20 You must not, for the sake of food[or of
godly self-stimulation], undo and break down and destroy
the work of God! Everything is indeed [ceremonially]
clean and pure, but it is wrong for anyone to hurt the
conscience of others or to make them fall by what he eats
[ or his/her godly self-stimulation]. 21 The right thing is to
eat no meat or drink no wine or [appreciate and enjoy or
partake in godly self-stimulation] if it makes your brother
stumble or hurts his conscience or offends or weakens
him. 22 Your personal convictions [based on the Word of
God]]--exercise [them] as in God's presence, keeping
them to yourself [or with like minded people]. Blessed
(happy, to be envied) is he who has no reason to judge
himself for what he approves [who does not convict
himself by what he chooses to do as to godlly self-
stimulation]. 23 But the man who has doubts
(misgivings, an uneasy conscience) about eating [or
engaging in godly self-stimulation], and then eats
[ engages in godly self-stimulation]], stands condemned
[before God], because he is not true to his convictions
and he does not act from faith [based on the Word of
God]. For whatever does not originate and proceed from
faith is sin [whatever is done without a conviction from
the Word of its approval by God is sinful]. From the AB

But those under command to marry remain under the

command to marry and need to seek to obey the
command.
***1 Tim 5:14 Therefore, I want younger widows(5503) to
marry, have children, manage their households, and give
the adversary no opportunity to accuse us.
***1 Cor 7: 1* ¶ But concerning the things of which ye
have written to me: It is good for a man not to continue
-keep on - touching a woman; 2 but because of and to
avoid sexual immorality each man should be [sexually]
having his own woman, and each woman should be
[sexually] having her own man. . . . 8To the unmarried
and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain
single as I am. 9 But if they do not [Strong's 3756]
continue to have self-restraint [keep on abstaining from
sex sin], they should marry, for it is better to marry than
to burn with desire.
Women who have accepted Jesus Christ as their Savior
from Sin and King of their lives, who have invited Jesus
and His Spirit to come into them and live in them, and
who choose any of the 6 options listed above instead of
marrying a goldy Christian brother will find that because
of their choice to go on in sin, their prayers are not being
answered (Isa 59:1-3; Mala 2:11; 1 Jn 3:21,22), they
experience the chastening of the Lord (Heb 12), perhaps
as weakness and sickness (1 Cor 11:30-32), until they
turn to God from their sin in genuine godly sorrow and
repentance (2 Cor 7).

The humanly organized church imposes many of it own

commandments and traditions on Christian women who
want to marry (Mark 7:1-15; Mat 15:1-15). On the other
hand the humanly organized church does not teach what
the Word teaches, that certain Christian women are
under command to marry - - - - - - -

***1Cor7:1,2 but because of sexual immorality each man

should be [sexually] having his own woman, and each
woman should be [sexually] having her own man. . . .
8To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for
them to remain single as I am. 9 But if they do not
[Strong's 3756] continue to restrain themselves [keep on
abstaining from sex sin], they should marry, for it is
better to marry than to burn with desire. ; 1 Tim 5:14 I
will therefore that the younger marry, bear children, rule
the house, give no occasion to the adversary in respect of
reproach.

- - - - - - - - - - - - - making of no effect the commands of

God (Mark 7:1-15; Mat 15:1-15). The Christian woman
who is led to seek marriage, either by command or by
gift, has Jesus' promise to meet her need for marriage, if
and when such a genuine need exists (Phil 4:19). It would
appear that the plight of Christian women who want to
marry and Christian women under command to marry
(1Cor7:1,2,8,9) is most tragic. Our God makes His
strength perfect in our inability or need (2 Cor 12) and
has chosen to use our weakness or inability or need to
manifest His all sufficiency and Way (1 Cor 1:23-31), if
and when we completely surrender our will to His in
fasting prayer (Daniel 10 Esther 4) -- becoming ready to
accept HIS provision FOR our NEED no matter WHO or
WHAT. Like I told the guys in prison chapel, God will meet
the need for marriage when we are ready to accept
WHOEVER HE PROVIDES IN JESUS, no matter if she is
blind, deaf, unable to speak, bald, fat, skinny, toothless,
armless, crippled, of the "wrong" race, of the color you
dislike, uneducated, a stutterer, an excon, an executive
making three times what you make, formerly a prostitute,
of the disliked political party, is so hairy she has to shave
her face and legs twice daily, a welfare mom with seven
kids, so beautiful and intelligent she makes you feel
inferior and inadequate, or a high society lady.

_Lu 22:42_ saying, Father, if You are willing, remove this

cup from Me. Yet *not My will*, but Yours be done."_13_ ¦
If you turn your foot because of the Sabbath [rest we find
in Jesus Heb 4], /from/ doing your pleasure on My holy
days, and call the sabbath [rest we find in Jesus Heb 4] a
delight, the holy /way/ of Jehovah, honourable; and you
honour Him, not doing your own ways, nor finding your
own pleasure, nor speaking /your own/ words; _14_ then
shalt you delight yourself in Jehovah, and I will cause you
to ride on the high places of the earth, and feed you with
the heritage of Jacob your father: for the mouth of
Jehovah has spoken." Isa 58?

Today's Christian women find themselves in a social

setting where the Christian marriage seeking women
greatly outnumber the Christian marriage seeking men.
Are you such a woman? Are you ready to stop "doing
your own ways" as to marriage, to stop "finding your own
pleasure" as to marrying, to stop "speaking /your own/
words" about marrying and marriage? Such Christian
women who find themselves under command to marry - -
---
******1Cor7:1,2 but because of sexual immorality each
man should be [sexually] having his own woman, and
each woman should be [sexually] having her own man. .
. . 8To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good
for them to remain single as I am. 9 But if they do not
[Strong's 3756] continue to restrain themselves [keep on
abstaining from sex sin], they should marry, for it is
better to marry than to burn with desire. ; 1 Tim 5:14 I
will therefore that the younger marry, bear children, rule
the house, give no occasion to the adversary in respect of
reproach.
- - - - - need to commit themselves to obeying their King,
Jesus, even if it means they have to behave in ways that
are not approved of or encouraged in our culture today.
They may have to follow Ruth's (See the book of Ruth in
the Bible) example, identify a godly man who shows
interest in her and discretely offer herself to him for godly
marriage. So are you such a woman? Are you ready to
stop "doing your own ways" as to marriage, to stop
"finding your own pleasure" as to marrying, to stop
"speaking /your own/ words" about marrying and
marriage? Ruth knew that she and her near kin were
under command to be married.
***Deut 25:5 "If brothers dwell together, and one of them
dies and has no son, the wife of the dead man shall not
be married outside the family to a stranger. Her
husband’s [single/married] brother shall go in to her and
take her as his wife and perform the duty of a husband’s
brother to her.

Ruth knew she was under command to marry and the

man who was under command to marry her failed to do
his part, failed to obey God's command. Ruth, under
God's command, went to a man who was in line to be
under God's command to marry her, and asked him to
obey God and marry her. The godly single woman/widow
who has come under God's command to marry - - - - -
******1Cor7:1,2 but because of sexual immorality each
man should be [sexually] having his own woman, and
each woman should be [sexually] having her own man. .
. . 8To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good
for them to remain single as I am. 9 But if they do not
[Strong's 3756] continue to restrain themselves [keep on
abstaining from sex sin], they should marry, for it is
better to marry than to burn with desire. ; 1 Tim 5:14 I
will therefore that the younger marry, bear children, rule
the house, give no occasion to the adversary in respect of
reproach.
- - - - - - should follow Ruth's example of godly obedience
and diligently seek out a godly man to help her obey God,
or better yet, find a godly man who also is under
command to marry, like Boaz, and discretely ask him to
fulfill his obedience by joining with her in marriage.

There are three more options for the Christian woman

who wants to marry, who finds the 6 solutions above
unacceptable in Christ, and who finds herself in a social
setting where the Christian marriage seeking women
greatly outnumber the Christian marriage seeking men.
Are you such a woman? Are you ready to stop "doing
your own ways" as to marriage, to stop "finding your own
pleasure" as to marrying, to stop "speaking /your own/
words" about marrying and marriage. They are very
controversial and so will be discussed/offered only upon
email request to me at Elkanah21stCent@aol.com or
elkanahtyler@gmail.com.

1. Female roomates sharing household support and

obligations without lesbianism or bisexuality as a support
group;
2. SelfStimulation without thinking of sex sin;
3. The solution found by Ahinoam, Abigail, Maachah,
Haggith, Abital, Eglah (1 Chron. 3:1-7; 2 Sam 7); Rachel,
Leah, Bilhah and Zilpah (Gen 30, 31, 35 & 37); Hannah (1
Sam 1); Ephah and Maachah (1 Chron2)

=========================A
CONTROVERSIAL
OPTION=======================

Instead of sinning by marrying the unsaved (2Cor 6;

Malachi 2);
marrying carnal "Christians" snared in sin (2 Thess 3:6-
14; 1 Cor
5:11);having s-x outside of marriage (Ezek 23; Prov 5; 1
Cor 6);
becoming lehsbians (Rom 1:20-30); luhsting i.e. desiring
what is forbidden by God, and doing s-x sin in their minds
or with poornography (Matt 5:28; Ezek 23); self-
stiimulating while thinking of s-x sin (Mat 5:28; Ezek 23),
there is an option for the Christian woman that is neither
condemned, denounced, nor declared to be sinful, but
was actually decreed by Jesus Himself:

***Ex 20:22 And Jehovah said to Moses, Thus shalt thou

say to the children of Israel: Ye have seen that I have
spoken with you from the heavens. . . . 21: 1 And these
are the judgments which thou shalt set before them. . . . .
7 * And if a man shall sell (Deut 15:12-18) his daughter as
a handmaid, she shall not go out as the bondmen go out.
8 If she is unacceptable in the eyes of her master, who
had taken her for himself [to be his own woman], then
shall he let her be ransomed: to sell her unto a foreign
people he hath no power, after having dealt unfaithfully
with her [by not being husband to her]. 9 And if he have
appointed her unto his son [to be his own woman], he
shall deal with her [as if she were his own daughter] after
the law of daughters. 10 * If he take himself another
[handmaid to be his own woman in addition to her], her
food, her clothing, and her conjugal rights he shall not
diminish. 11 And if he do not these three things unto her,
then shall she go out free without money.

***Deut 12:1 These are the statutes and ordinances,

which ye shall take heed to do in the land, which Jehovah
the God of thy fathers is giving thee to possess it, all the
days that ye live upon the earth. . . . . . 21:15 If a man
have two wives, one beloved, and one hated, and they
have borne him children, both the beloved and the hated,
and the firstborn son be hers that was hated; 16 then it
shall be, in the day that he maketh his sons to inherit
what he hath, that he may not make the son of the
beloved firstborn before the son of the hated, who is the
firstborn; 17 but he shall acknowledge as firstborn the
son of the hated, by giving him a double portion of all
that is found with him; for he is the firstfruits of his
vigour: the right of the firstborn is his.

***Deut 22:28 If an [Israelite] man happens to meet an

[Israelite] virgin who is not pledged to be married and
rapes{8610} her and they are discovered, 29 the man
who raped her must give the young woman's father 50
silver [shekels], and she must become his wife because
he violated her. He cannot divorce her as long as he
lives.

Is Deut 22:28 about rape, seduction, enticement or

romance?
Nothing new disagreeing with John for Christ, but once
again disagreeing
with WOS.

The Hebrew Word in question is translated by Strong as

{8610}.

{8610} cp"T; — taphas, taw-fas'; a primitive root; to

manipulate, i.e.
seize; chiefly to capture, wield, specifically, to overlay;
figuratively, to use unwarrantably: — catch, handle, (lay,
take)
hold (on, over), stop, X surely, surprise, take.

I know some are into BDSM, but I don't believe BDSM is

consistent with 1 Cor 13 Love.
When I am obeying Prov 5:19 and 1 Cor 7:2-5 with my
Lady I don't seize her, and FOR SURE
I don't CAPTURE her and DEFINITELY I don't use her
UNWARRANTABLY ["not able to be authorized or
sanctioned; unjustifiable"].
[1] It is very difficult to gently, patiently, kindly and
unsefishly SEIZE one's wife unless it is to save her life.
[2] To CAPTURE someone implies they didn't want to be
captured and implies holding one against one's will.
That is not 1 Cor 13, Prov 5:19 and 1 Cor 7:2-5 Biblical
LOVE.
[3] It would be a sin for me to use my wife
UNWARRANTABLY, without her authorization, without her
sanction/permission and unjustifiably.

So obviously Deut 22:28 is about an Israelite virgin being

seized, captured against her will, and used
unwarrantably, unjustifiably, without her authorization,
sanction or permission. The Israelite man who did this to
and with her is under God's command to marry her,
whether or not he is married already. I believe this is true
of and for Messianic Jews today.

Ex 22: 16 "If an [Israelite] man seduces an [Israelite]

virgin who is not pledged to be married and has genital
contact {7901— shakab} with her, he must pay the
bride-price, and she shall be his wife. 17 If her father
absolutely refuses to give her to him, he must still pay
the bride-price for virgins.
I believe this is true of and for Messianic Jews today.

For the sister who finds herself under command to marry

the option is one godly man having more than one godly
wife, like Abraham, or
JACOB'S FOUR WIVES+++++++++++++++++++++
Ge 37:2 These are the generations of Jacob. Joseph, being
seventeen years old, fed the flock with his brethren; and
he was doing service with the sons of Bilhah, and with the
sons of Zilpah, his father's wives. And Joseph brought to
his father an evil report of them.
Ge 30:26 Give me my wives [, Rachel and Leah][for
whom I have served thee, and my children; that I may go
away, for thou knowest my service which I have served
thee.
Ge 31:17 And Jacob rose up, and set his sons and his
wives upon camels,
GIDEON++++++++++++
JUDGES 8: 29 And Jerubbaal the son of Joash went and
dwelt in his house. 30 Now Gideon had seventy sons who
had come out of his loins, for he had many wives.
HANNAH++++++++++++++
1 SAM. 1: 1 And there was a certain man of Ramathaim-
zophim, of mount Ephraim, and his name was Elkanah,
the son of Jeroham, the son of Elihu, the son of Tohu, the
son of Zuph, an Ephrathite. 2 And he had two wives: the
name of the one was Hannah, and the name of the other
Peninnah; and Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no
children.
DAVID+++++++++++++
1 Chron. 3: 1-9
REHOBOAM+++++++++++++++
2 CHRON 11:17-21
ABIJAH+++++++++
2 CHRON 13: 20-21
JEHORAM++++++++++++
2 CHRON 21:12-14
JEHOIDA AND JOASH++++++++++++++++
2 CHRON 24:1-3
JEHOVAH AND HIS TWO WIVES+++++++++++
EZEK 23: 1 -5

APOSTOLIC TIMES: "Herod had nine wives at once. . .Its

possibility is implied by the technical continuance of the
Levirate law, [Deut. 25:5-10] and is proved by the early
interpretation of 1 Ti 3, whether correct or not. Justin
reproaches the Jews of his day [A.D.] with having 'four or
even five wives,'and marrying 'as they wish, or as many
as they wish.' The evidence of the Talmud shows that in
this case at least the reproach had some foundation.
">41.
[Footnote: (>.(40. Septuagint Lev. 21:13 "He shall take
for a wife a virgin of his own tribe.". .>41. DICTIONARY OF
THE BIBLE, J.Hastings (Selbie, Lambert, Mathews),
Hendrickson Publishers,1989;p.583ff.]

800s AD: "Herard of Tours, A.D. 858,

declares any greater number of wives than two to be
unlawful. . .Leo the Wise, Emperor of Constantinople, was
allowed to marry three wives without public
remonstrance, but was suspended from communion by
the patriarch Nicholas when he married a
fourth.">75>.75 A Select Library of the Nicene and Post-
Nicene Fathers of The Christian Church, Vol. V; p. 267.

An Introduction
to the Geneva Bible
A look at the Puritan's Bible.
" In March of 1540, after Martin Luther and other
prominent
Protestant theologians had expressly approved pollygamy
according to the
Scriptures, Philip became Europe's best- known bigamist."

1500's *******Martin Luther

Martin Luther wrote in De Wette, II, p. 459, "I confess that
I cannot forbid a person to marry several wives, for it
does not contradict the Scripture. If a man wishes to
marry more than one wife, he should be asked whether
he is satisfied in his conscience that he may do so in
accordance with the word of God. In such a case, the civil
authority has nothing to do in such a matter."

Lu 22:42 saying, Father, if You are willing, remove this

cup from Me.
Yet not My will , but Yours be done.

Even so the Christian woman seeking and needing a

godly husband may have to come to the place of praying,
"Father, if You are willing, remove this cup from Me. Yet
not My will , but Yours be done", and be ready to give
up seeking a monogynous marriage and be ready to
share a godly man with another godly woman in Christian
[NOT MORMON] polygyny.

"13 If you turn your foot because of the Sabbath [rest we

find in Jesus Heb 4], from doing your pleasure on My holy
days, and call the sabbath [rest we find in Jesus Heb 4] a
delight, the holy way of Jehovah, honourable; and you
honour Him, not doing your own ways, nor finding your
own pleasure, nor speaking your own words; 14 then
shalt you delight yourself in Jehovah, and I will cause you
to ride on the high places of the earth, and feed you with
the heritage of Jacob your father: for the mouth of
Jehovah has spoken." Isa 58

=============================If a
Christian sister finds herself snared in these sins, then
she needs to turn to God from her sin in godly sorrow and
repentance (2 Cor 7) and yield herself to Jesus to yield to
Him and obey Him no matter what the cost, even if it
means she has to do the controversial and the
unpopular.
For more information on this option eMail me at
elkanahtyler@gmail.com, Elkanah21stCent@aol.com,
Ezelstone@gmail.com

1. Female roomates sharing household support and

obligations without lesbianism or bisexuality as a support
group;
2. SelfStimulation without thinking of sex sin;
3. The solution found by Ahinoam, Abigail, Maachah,
Haggith, Abital, Eglah (1 Chron. 3:1-7; 2 Sam 7); Rachel,
Leah, Bilhah and Zilpah (Gen 30, 31, 35 & 37); Hannah (1
Sam 1); Ephah and Maachah (1 Chron2)

Here is the solution found by Ahinoam, Abigail, Maachah,

Haggith, Abital, and Eglah who lived with David under
God's blessing: 1 Chron. 3: 1-9; 2 Sam 7:4-17; 2 Sam
12:7,8).
1 Samuel 25:42-44 Abigail quickly got on a donkey and,
attended by her five maids, went with David's
messengers and became his wife. 43 David also married
Ahinoam of Jezreel, and the two of them became his
wives.
2 Samuel 5:12-14 Meanwhile David took more concubines
and wives from Jerusalem, after he came from Hebron;
and more sons and daughters were born to David.
2 Sam 7:4But that same night the word of the LORD came
to Nathan, 5"Go and tell my servant David, . . . 8Now,
therefore, thus you shall say to my servant David, 'Thus
says the LORD of hosts, I took you from the pasture, from
following the sheep, that you should be prince over my
people Israel. 9 And I have been with you wherever you
went and have cut off all your enemies from before you.
And I will make for you a great name, like the name of
the great ones of the earth. 10And I will appoint a place for
my people Israel and will plant them, so that they may
dwell in their own place and be disturbed no more. And
violent men shall afflict them no more, as formerly, 11
from the time that I appointed judges over my people
Israel. And I will give you rest from all your enemies.
Moreover, the LORD declares to you that the LORD will
make you a house. 12 When your days are fulfilled and you
lie down with your fathers, I will raise up your offspring
after you, who shall come from your body, and I will
establish his kingdom. . . . 16 And your house and your
kingdom shall be made sure forever before me. Your
throne shall be established forever.'"
2 Samuel 12:7 Then Nathan said to David, "You are the
man! This is what the LORD, the God of Israel, says: 'I
anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from
the hand of Saul. 8 I gave your master's house to you, and
your master's wives into your embrace . .

Here is the solution found by Hannah, who was blessed

by God:
1 SAM. 1: 1 ¶ And there was a certain man of Ramathaim-
zophim, of mount Ephraim, and his name was Elkanah,
the son of Jeroham, the son of Elihu, the son of Tohu, the
son of Zuph, an Ephrathite. 2 And he had two wives: the
name of the one was Hannah, and the name of the other
Peninnah; and Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no
children. . . 10 and she was in bitterness of soul, and
prayed to Jehovah, and wept much. 11 And she vowed a
vow, and said, O Jehovah of hosts, if thou wilt indeed look
on the affliction of thy handmaid, and remember me, and
not forget thy handmaid, but wilt give unto thy handmaid
a man child, then I will give him to Jehovah all the days of
his life, and there shall no razor come upon his head. . . .
19 ¶ And they rose up early in the morning and
worshipped before Jehovah, and returned and came to
their house at Ramah. And Elkanah knew Hannah his
wife; and Jehovah remembered her.

Here is the solution found by Ephah and Maachah:

1 Chronicles 2: 18 ¶ And Caleb the son of Hezron fathered
[sons] of
Azubah [his] wife, and of Jerioth. . . .19 And when Azubah
died, Caleb took Ephrath to himself, who bore him
Hur. . . . . . . 46 And Ephah, Caleb's concubine, bore
Haran, and Moza, and Gazez. . . . 48 Maachah, Caleb's
concubine, bore Sheber, and Tirhanah. . . .. 50 These
were the sons of Caleb the son of Hur.

Here is the solution found by Rachel, Leah, Bilhah and

Zilpah:
Ge 30:3-5 So she gave him her maid Bilhah as a wife, and
Jacob went in to her. . . .
8-10 When Leah saw that she had stopped having
children, she took her maidservant Zilpah and gave her to
Jacob as a wife. . . . 26 Give me my wives, [Rachel and
Leah][for whom I have served thee, and my children; that
I may go away, for thou knowest my service which I have
served thee.
Gen 31:17 Then Jacob put his children and his wives on
camels, . . . .
Genesis 32:21-23During the night Jacob got up and took
his two wives, his two female slaves, and his 11 sons, and
crossed the ford of Jabbok.
Genesis 35: 1 Then God said to Jacob, "Arise, go up to
Bethel and live there, and make an altar there to God,
who appeared to you when you fled from your brother
Esau." . . . 3 We must get up and go to Bethel. I will build
an altar there to the God who answered me in my day of
distress. He has been with me everywhere I have
gone." . . . . 7 Jacob built an altar there and called the
place God of Bethel because it was there that God had
revealed Himself to him when he was fleeing from his
brother. 9 God appeared to Jacob again after he
returned from Paddan-aram, and He blessed him.
Ge 37:2 These are the generations of Jacob. Joseph, being
seventeen years old, fed the flock with his brethren; and
he was doing service with the sons of Bilhah, and with the
sons of Zilpah, HIS FATHER'S WIVES. And Joseph brought
to his father an evil report of them.
[So we see the Spirit declaring Bilhah and Zilpah to be
wives of Jacob.
JACOB BLESSED BY GOD with his four ladies]
Ge 35:9 And God appeared to Jacob again after he had
come from Padan-Aram, and blessed him.
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JEHOVAH REGULATES IT FOR FEMALE SLAVES/SERVANTS

AND THEIR OWN MAN
EXODUS 20:22 ∫ And Jehovah said to Moses, Thus shalt
thou say to the children of Israel: Ye have seen that I
have spoken with you from the heavens. . . . 21:1 ∫ And
these are the judgments which thou shalt set before
them. . . . 7 "And if a man sells his daughter to be a
maidservant, she shall not go out as the men servants do.
8 If she does not please her master, who has betrothed
her to himself,then he shall let her be redeemed. He shall
have no power to sell her to a strange nation, since he
has dealt deceitfully with her. 9 And if he has betrothed
her to his son, he shall deal with her as with daughters.
10 If he takes himself another [wife], her food, her
clothing, and her duty of marriage shall not be lessened.
11 And if he does not do these three to her, then she
shall go out free without money."
"What about Ex. 21:7-9? It was expected that the female
slave would become her master's wife or concubine, or
become the wife or concubine of her master's son, and
the law protected her rights if he was unwilling to do
so.>16. Her owner could not sell her to foreigners
because he had "trifled" with her (see LXX), "seeing he
hath dealt deceitfully with her.">17.
[Footnotes:>16. Please see the discussion in THE
INTERNATIONAL BIBLE COMMENTARY; p.126ff & p.172ff.;
>17. Ex. 21:8; The Holy Scriptures according to the
Masoretic Text].

THE LAW FOR THE KINGS

De 17:15 “You shall only set him king
over you whom Jehovah your God will choose: from
among your brethren shall you set a king over you; .
. . 16 Only he shall not multiply horses to himself, . . .
17 Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his
heart turn not away; neither shall he greatly multiply
to himself silver and gold.”
[Please note that it does not say that a king is to have
only one horse,
one wife, one bar of gold and one bar of silver.]

JEHOVAH-JESUS AND THE MAN WITH HIS TWO LADIES

Deut. 21:15 ∫ "If a man have two wives, one beloved, and
one hated, and they have borne him children, [both] the
beloved and the hated, and [if] the first-born son be hers
that was hated; 16 then it shall be, in the day that he
makes his sons to inherit [that]which he has, [that] he
may not make the son of the beloved first-born before
the son of the hated, who is the first-born; 17 but he shall
acknowledge as first-born the son of the hated, by giving
him a double portion of all that he has; for he is the first
fruits of his strength: the right of the firstborn is his."

JEHOVAH-JESUS WITH HIS OWN TWO LADIES

EZEK 23:1THE WORD of the Lord came again to me,
saying, 2Son of man, there were two women, the
daughters of one mother; 3And they played the harlot in
Egypt. There they played the harlot in their youth; there
their bosoms were pressed and there their virgin breasts
were handled. 4And the names of them were Aholah the
elder and Aholibah her sister, and THEY BECAME MINE*
and they bore sons and daughters, As for the identity of
their names, Aholah is Samaria and Aholibah is
Jerusalem. 5And Aholah played the harlot when she was
Mine, and she was foolishly fond of her lovers. . . 9
Wherefore I delivered her into the hand of her lovers,. . .
10 These uncovered her nakedness and shame; they took

her sons and her daughters and they slew her with the
sword, and her name became notorious and a byword
among women when judgments were executed upon her.
. . . 11 And her sister Aholibah saw this; yet she was more
corrupt in her foolish fondness than she, and in her
harlotries she was more wanton than her sister in her
harlotries. . . . 22 Therefore, O Aholibah, thus says the Lord
God: Behold, I will rouse up your lovers against you, from
whom you turned in disgust, and I will bring them against
you on every side: . . . 24 And they shall come against you
with weapons, chariots, wagons and wheels, and with a
host of infantry which shall array themselves against you
with buckler and shield and helmet round about; and I will
commit the judgment and punishment to them, and they
shall judge and punish you according to their [heathen]
customs in such matters. 25And I will set My jealous
indignation against you, and they shall deal with you in
fury; they shall take away your nose and your ears, and
those who are left of you shall fall by the sword; they
shall take your sons and your daughters, and the
remainder shall be devoured by the fire.
*By covenant in Ezek 16:8
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HOW DID JESUS FEEL ABOUT THESE LAWS THAT HE GAVE

TO MOSES?

Mat 5:17 Think not that I am come to make void the law
or the prophets; I am
not come to make void, but to fulfil. 18 For verily I say
unto you, Until the heaven and the earth pass away, one
iota or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law till all
come
to pass. 19 Whosoever then shall do away with one of
these least
commandments, and shall teach men so, shall be called
least in the
kingdom of the heavens; but whosoever shall practise
and teach, he
shall be called great in the kingdom of the heavens.

THERE IS NO PART IN THE BIBLE THAT REQUIRES A

CHURCH OR CIVIL WEDDING TO BE MARRIED IN GOD'S
EYES. IN MOST USA STATES THERE IS NO LAW
REQUIRING A COUPLE TO HAVE A CHURCH OR CIVIL
WEDDING TO LIVE TOGETHER AS HUSBAND AND WIFE. IT
IS THE SOLEMN MARITAL COVENANT MADE BETWEEN
AND BY THE BRIDE AND THE GROOM THAT MAKES A
COUPLE MARRIED IN GOD'S EYES.

Ezek 16:8 Now I passed by you again and looked upon

you; behold, you were maturing and at the time for love,
and I spread My skirt over you and covered your
nakedness. Yes, I PLEDGED Myself to you, and entered
into a COVENANT with you, says the Lord, and you
became Mine.

***Malachi 2:13 . . . the Lord does not regard your

offering any more or accept it with favor at your hand. 14
Yet you ask, "Why does He reject it?" Because the Lord
was witness [to the COVENANT made at your wedding]
between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you
have treacherously and unfaithfully offended [her] and
transgressed, dealing [with her] deceitfully, treacherously
and unfaithfully<S898>. Yet she is your companion and
the wife of your COVENANT. 15 And did not God make
[you and your wife] one [flesh]? Did not One make you
and preserve your spirit alive? And why [did God make
you two into] one? Because He sought a godly offspring
[from your union]. Therefore take heed to yourselves, and
no one should treacherously and unfaithfully offend and
transgress, dealing deceitfully, treacherously and
unfaithfully<S898>, with the wife of his youth. 16 For the
Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital
separation and him who covers his garment [his wife]
with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit
[that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you deal not
treacherously and unfaithfully offend and transgress,
dealing deceitfully, treacherously and
unfaithfully<S898>, [with your marital partner]. 17 You
have wearied the Lord with your words. Yet you say, In
what way have we wearied Him? [You do it when by your
actions] you say, Everyone who does evil is good in the
sight of the Lord and He delights in them. Or [by asking],
Where is the God of justice? <S898 = Strong's Hebrew
Lexicon>
{898} — bagad, baw-gad'; to deal deceitfully
(treacherously, unfaithfully), offend, transgress,
treacherous (dealer, -ly, man), unfaithful(-ly, man)

Matthew 18:18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place

under these circumstances: When His mother Mary had
been formally covenanted in marriage<S3423> to
Joseph, before they came together, she was found to be
pregnant [through the power] of the Holy Spirit.
<Strong's 3423> betrothed = entered into a formal
agreement/covenant to marry; epoused = married by
formal agreement/covenant
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HAVING MORE THAN ONE LADY WHEN IN FELLOWSHIP

WITH OTHERS
Specific Application in [brackets]: Rom 14:1As for the one
who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not for the
purpose of arguing or quarreling over different
opinions. . . . 16 Let not then your [conviction that
polygyny is] good be evil spoken of; 17 for the kingdom
of God is not [having more than one wife] and
[monogyny], but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the
Holy Spirit. 18 For she that in this [controversy about
having more than one wife] serves the Christ is
acceptable to God and approved of men. 19 So then let
us pursue the things which tend to peace, and things
whereby one shall build up another. 20 For the sake of
[having more than one wife] do not destroy the work of
God. All things [including having more than one wife]
indeed are pure; but it is evil to that woman who [has
more than one wife] while stumbling [in sin] because of
her doubts about its rightness. 21 It is right not to [take a
second wife], nor [take a third wife], nor do anything in
which thy brother [or sister] stumbles [striking the toe of
one's conscience against an obstacle inducing one to sin
by acting in doubt], or is offended [ or stumbles or is
enticed to act without faith or think unfavourably or
unjustly of another and so displesed and indignant], or is
made weak [morally feeble, without strength, powerless].
22 Have you faith [to believe having more than one wife
is right and so practice it]? Have that conviction to
yourself [privately and discretely] before God. Blessed is
the one who does not judge oneself in what [belief or
practice of having more than one wife] one allows [with a
firm and convinced faith in its rightness]. 23 But one that
doubts [about the rightness of having more than one
wife], if [that] one [has more than one wife], [that one] is
condemned; because that one became polygynous not
because of faith [in its rightness]; but whatever [behavior
or thought does not originate from] faith [in its rightness
before God] is sin. 15: 1 Now we who are strong have an
obligation to bear the weaknesses of those without
strength, and not to please ourselves. 2 Each one of us
must please his neighbor for his good, in order to build
him up.

PUNISHMENT FOR BREAKING COVENANT, EVEN WITH THE

UNSAVED
Ezek 17:15 But [the covenant breaker] rebelled against
him [the one with whom he made covenant]] . . . . Will
[the covenant breaker] escape who does such things?
Can [the covenant breaker] break the covenant and yet
escape? 16 As I live, says the Lord God, surely in the
place where the King dwells who made [him a] king,
whose oath [the covenant breaker] despised and whose
covenant [the covenant breaker] broke, even with Him in
the midst of Babylon shall [the covenant breaker]
die. . . . 18 For [the covenant breaker] despised the oath
and broke the covenant and behold, [the covenant
breaker] had given his hand, and yet has done all these
things; [the covenant breaker] shall not escape. 19
Therefore thus says the Lord God: As I live, surely My
oath that [the covenant breaker] has despised and My
covenant with him that [the covenant breaker] has
broken, I will even bring down on [the covenant
breaker's] own head. 20 And I will spread My net over
[the covenant breaker] , and [the covenant breaker]
shall be taken in My snare; and I will bring [the covenant
breaker] to Babylon and will enter into judgment and
punishment with [the covenant breaker] there for [the
covenant breaker's] trespass and treason that he has
committed against Me. 21 And all [the covenant
breaker's] fugitives in all his bands shall fall by the
sword, and they that remain shall be scattered toward
every wind. And you shall know that I the Lord have
spoken it.

Romans 1:31 [They were] without understanding,

treacherous covenant-breakers<S802>, heartless and
loveless [and] merciless. 32Though they are fully aware
of God's righteous decree that those who do such things
deserve to die, they not only do them themselves but
approve and applaud others who practice them.
<Strong's 802> (802) — as-oon’-thet-os; treacherous to
compacts: — covenant-breaker.

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