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14 Letter from the Editor 44 Chicks of the Month 130 The Sir-Vey
Florence Co. Disabilities &
16 She mail Special Needs Board Family 132 Ask Dr. Avie
Support Services Avie J. Rainwater, III, PhD, ABPP
22 Mary Unmarried
Mary R. Dittman, MBA 50 She’s Closet 134 Fabulous Finds
28 Wings for the Spirit 60 She Wants to Know 140 The World According to
Sherry S. Page Atkinson Mindy Taylor
62 Beauty Buzz
30 In His Own Words 142 Birds and Beads
Stan Gibson 72 Shop Talk
Bridgers Drug Store 146 Who’s That Girl?
32 And She Cooks,Too! Ashly Bazen
104 Wee She
34 Chick Lit Mary Claussen Jones
Spring Fashion
38 Women at Work 116-117 There She Goes 120 • 122 • 124 • 126
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128 Sheroes What Advertisers Say • 108
Women In Philanthrophy Fund
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26 Cookie Cawthon
48 Sharon Bixler 114 Paige Self Thomas
Life,Work and Peanut A Bloomin’ Onion
Cupcakes and Tears Butter Cookies
40 Beth Grant 54 Aron Cannon Smith
118 Melodie Griffin
You Can’t Always Get What You Sittin’ Pretty
Blooming Where God Plants Me
Want: You Get What You Need
106 Jumana A. Swindler
136 Ouida K. Page, RN, LPC
46 Marti Miller Inflation Strikes Again
How to Blossom: Even If You
Still Find Yourself Planted in Barren
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110 Ferebe Gasque
Music and Me
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2. Avie J. Rainwater, III, Ph.D., ABPP This month, She Magazine is happy
to bring to our readers the debut of ASK DR. AVIE - A MAN’S PERSPECTIVE ON
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LLC, Dr. Avie J. Rainwater is the only Triple-Boarded Psychologist in SC, holding
Specialty Certification in Clinical Psychology and Sub-Specialty Designations in both
Biofeedback and Pain Management. He and his wife of 31 years, Karen, have three
children together. Chelsea, Seth and Josh.
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3. Melodie Griffin is a Hartsville native who is proud to call the state of SC her
home. She resides in the Midlands now with her husband, 3 children and 2 Westies.
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4. Erika Chapman loves her husband, Mark & living in Florence. Her passions include
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about anything she can get her hands on.
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5. Ouida K Page is a Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor
with a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and is a member of the International Honor Society
of Nursing. She specializes in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and
women of all ages.
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learning the adventures of being a literary agent, writing for She Magazine, and keep-
ing people guessing about her cyber-romance :)
9. Marti Miller lives and writes in Marion, SC and enjoys life, with
love and laughter. Pig collections are important to these pursuits - espe-
In This Issue
cially the flying variety. They do fly. Really, they do 14. Cheri Jordan is a Florence resident and has been married to her husband,
Robert, for eleven years. She is a stay-at-home mom to four children, Abbi, Luke,
Savannah and Matthew.
10. Anna Pitts lives in Florence, She is currently pursuing her career as a School Library
Media Specialist and loving every minute of the journey! This month, Anna continues to write
about her upcoming wedding and fitting into her dream dress. 15. Sharon Bixler is blessed to be the wife of Hal, mother of Holly
(Stanley) and grandmother of Ian. She is a Member of Emmanuel Baptist
Church in Hartsville.
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dren,Timmy and Buddy. Together, Paige and Joey have seven grown children. She works
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and is a Licensed Realtor with Prudential Segars in Florence. Osteoporosis -The Silent Epidemic, Dr.Watts explains who is at risk and what women
can do to protect their bones.
12. Beth Grant is an Artist, Interior Decorator and Writer. She and her
17. Aron Smith and her husband, Collin, live in Florence. They have a son, Makgil
(5) and a daughter, Clara Beth (3).
husband, Don, live on their family farm in Lamar, South Carolina. They own and
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my style is all about capturing the moment in its natural state and then adding a creative flair! I
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g The Apostle Paul said he had “learned the secret to being content” (Philippians 4:11). I’m not sure what Paul’s secret was, but I
believe the secret to being content in your singleness is to “bloom where you’re planted.”
I used to be confused by Jesus’ parable of the talents. In this particular parable, several servants are given talents (money)
and then judged based on what they did with them. The servant who didn’t earn at least a minimal return on his talents was
punished, and his talents were given to the more successful servant. I wonder if this parable is telling us to do the most
we can with what we are given.
My best friend used to tell me I had to be happy being single before I could be happy being married. But
I had a lot of years where I felt like I could not be happy being single because I only wanted to be married. Sort
of a “Catch 22” – need to be happy alone but can’t be happy if I’m alone. What to do?
To me, “bloom where you’re planted” means “take care of what you currently have.” I remember
when I was a little girl, I wanted a new Barbie doll. But I had cut all the hair off my other Barbies and played
with them outside and generally had not taken good care of them. My parents told me I wouldn’t be get-
ting any new Barbies until I proved to them that I could take care of my toys. If that’s how earthly par-
ents handle their children, it makes sense to me that our Heavenly Father won’t entrust us with more
and more if we’re not taking care of what we have now.
Think about it like this: How do you get a promotion at work? You do an excellent job, show
up early, stay late, take on extra tasks, have a positive attitude, support others, treat the customers right,
respect your boss and do your best. Now that doesn’t guarantee you’ll get a promotion; but, if you don’t
do those things, you can be sure you won’t get a promotion! Well, the same is true in life. If you show
up fully in your current life, treat people lovingly, respect the boss and do your best, you’re more likely
to be given more. But, first, you have to show that you can take care of your little corner of the garden.
Here is the secret to my personal contentment regarding the single life. I decided to show up
fully in my current life. That meant treating my relationships (casual dates, friends, family) with love and
respect, serving others (hey, I don’t have a family to cook dinner for, so I can cook meals for people who are
sick or bereaved), taking care of my single friends, keeping my home tidy, doing volunteer work that I enjoy,
participating in Bible study and just enjoying the life I currently have.
It seems to me that many singles think they will be happier if they are married (or coupled). But ask any-
one who is part of a couple and they will tell you that while a good relationship is a blessing, even the best marriage
brings some additional heartache and drama. At the very least, you have to give up some things for a successful rela-
tionship. You’re not going to get your way all the time.
Nobody has a perfect life. Even the three people you’re envious of probably don’t have it all that
great. If you were able to look behind closed doors, you would find something that isn’t so great. If you
knew the absolute truth, a lot of your married friends would tell you that they are envious of your freedom
and time to yourself. I can promise you that.
I don’t believe God makes people be single if they don’t want to be, but I do believe
He will use anything and everything for His plan. He can use us to bless others – if we let him.
You have a choice. You can choose to be bitter in your singleness, or you can choose to
be better in your singleness. You can choose to be happy or you can choose to be negative. The choice
is yours. If you have decided you cannot be happy unless you have your way, God isn’t going to reward
your attitude. Again, think about your work life. Does your boss give you a raise and a promotion
when you pout, stomp around and complain about things not going the way you want them to go?
In the spirit of blooming where you are planted, let me share with you some of the bene-
fits I have experienced in my single life that my married friends are jealous of. I can dump a guy if he’s
irritating me. I can go to the symphony, theatre, all the movies I like, sporting events and church with-
out anyone complaining or feeling left behind. I can have dinner with my girlfriends or guy friends and
not get into an argument about it. I can paint the rooms in my house any color I like. I can spend as
much money as I want on shoes and handbags. I can lie around in my fuzzy pink bathrobe. I have time
to participate in a Bible study. I can travel anywhere I like. I can watch whatever I want to on TV. I can
cook what I want to eat or eat frozen entrees every night of the week.
I challenge you to make your own list of things that are good about being single. That doesn’t mean
you’ll be single forever, but it will help you be grateful for where you currently are.
In February, my dad’s wife of seventeen years died suddenly and unexpectedly. My dad and I both
loved her very much. The week after she died, Dad confided to me that his fear was “always” that he
“would end up alone.” My dad isn’t a single kind of guy! He has experienced a lot of anxiety and panic
over his new life as a single. I thought about what Mordecai said to Esther (and I paraphrase): “Who
knows that maybe you are single for such a time as this.”
As Dad and I take this journey of grief together, I’m grateful for my life of singleness because I’m the only
one in our family who can talk to him about what it’s like to live alone and to make a life on one’s own. You never know
how your life is going to help others, so bloom where you’re planted and show God – and others – that you can be a mature
adult and you can learn the secret of contentedness.
Remember: A happy, confident woman is attractive. So, learn to be content, confident and happy by blooming to
your full beauty where you’re currently planted.
Mary R. Dittman, MBA, is an Instructor of Marketing and Director of the Internship Program in the School of Business at Francis Marion University.
She consults for a variety of local and regional companies and is actively involved in the Florence community.
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working parents with children in school and in extracurric- with Jesus moves us from fear to faith and replaces our Bible-believing church that worships Father God, Jesus and
ular activities. Retirees wonder how they ever had time for anxiety with peace. the Holy Spirit. And you could pray something like this
jobs outside the home. We all would like to have more Remember the Bible story of Mary and Martha? Mary prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for loving me and
hours in the day to do all we want to do. Time is valuable, chose to worship Jesus, while Martha chose to do her for sending Jesus,Your Son, to die on a cruel cross for the
but what a blessing to be able to be busy. chores. Uh-oh! How many of us are guilty of being like sins of the world. I am sorry for my sins and ask You, Jesus,
In our rushing here and there, you and I need to be Martha too often? God will help us get the necessary to forgive me. Come into my heart and life and save me.
reminded how short life is and to enjoy it. The next breath responsibilities done if we obey and put Him first. Blessings Thank You for eternal life with You in Heaven when my life
we take could be our last one. Every breath and every day and joy are waiting for us if you and I give back to Him some on earth is ended. I commit my life to You and ask You to
is a precious gift from God. In Psalm 31:15, the Bible tells of the valuable time He has given us. lead me. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit that I may be
us our times are in His hands. There is a special purpose strengthened to live the Christian life and serve You. In
in wherever we are at this very moment of our lives. If you Jesus’ Name, I pray. Amen.
have given your heart and life to the Lord Jesus, the Bible
states that our steps are ordered by the Lord. Whether
you are working or resting, sad or happy, worried or trust-
ing God, busy or bored, God is right there, loving you and
wanting you to enjoy your life.
You and I can experience peace as we are active with
our everyday duties – if we acknowledge God’s presence.
Psalm 23 reminds us: The Lord is my Shepherd!
Because He cares for us, He tells us to cast all our cares
(worries, not our responsibilities) on Him (I Peter 5:7). You
and I need to get out of the driver’s seat and let God be in
control. His way is the best way. Just trust and obey!
Proverbs 3:5-6: Trust in the Lord with all your heart.
Lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways,
acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.
And let us not lose heart, grow weary and faint in act-
ing nobly and doing right, For in due time and at the
appointed season, we shall reap, if we do not loosen and
relax our courage and faint (Galatians 6:9).
As you and I focus on the Lord Jesus, not on unpleas-
ant circumstances, no person or devil can prevent our being
victorious. During stressful times, the key to being an over- Make the most of today. It is
comer is spending time with God. If you go to church reg- all we have. Yesterday is gone and
ularly, that is very helpful and edifying, but it is not enough. cannot be relived.Tomorrow is not here
Father God wants to have fellowship with you. yet, and only our Heavenly Father knows
Psalm 16:11: In His presence is fullness of joy. Isaiah what it holds. Let’s keep in mind that He
30:15: For thus said the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel, is able to do superabundantly far over and
in returning (to Me) and resting (in Me), you shall be saved; above all that we dare ask or think
in quietness and in (trusting) confidence, shall be your (Ephesians 3:20).
strength. In addition, John 10:10: The thief
Satan works hard to keep us from spending time with the comes to steal, kill and destroy. I came
Lord. He knows we will have more strength and power to that they may have and enjoy life, and
overcome him as you and I talk to Jesus with thankful hearts. have it in abundance (to the full, till it
The joy of the Lord is our strength, (Nehemiah 8:10). overflows). Because He lives, decide to
enjoy your life!
Sherry S. Page Atkinson lives in the Centenary Community of Marion County with her husband, Jimmy.
Those wishing to contact her may do so at the following address: 6526 South Highway 41, Marion.
Sherry teaches an Adult Co-Ed Class at Marion Baptist Church and loves leading people to Jesus.
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LISA
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“ Grandmother
I give all the credit to my
Esther, who
developed my interest in
plants and growing
things, both indoors and out. “
orest Lake Greenhouses, named after the nearby they need so they can enjoy and experience their own pleasure for growing things. This
lake, is a full-service retail/wholesale garden is also a special place where children are educated on growing things.
center and greenhouse specializing in The biggest challenge in my job is so much to do, so little time! Trying to fit
blooming plant sales and produc- everything I have to do within a specific time period is hard. It seems like I’m never fin-
tion. We’re now celebrating twenty ished. What I like most about my job, however, is the flexibility. Most of my work is done
years of “growing great gardens.” at the greenhouse, but I can do some office/writing work at home. I am blessed with a
Other than Owner, I don’t have an great boss – my husband – who lets me come and go as needed to spend time with our
official title. Here at Forest Lake Greenhouses, we all daughter, Allison, and her activities.
work as a team. Many of the people I work with have been with There is no typical day at Forest Lake Greenhouses because every day requires
me for fifteen-plus years. They know how to keep the place running smoothly. Even better a different job to be done. Our business is seasonal, and we must change all aspects of
the business with every season. I’m doing something different every day. Constant change
than I do sometimes.
is typical.
I give all the credit to my Grandmother Esther, who developed my interest in
The greenhouse itself, with all its beautiful flowers, is a reason to get up and go
plants and growing things, both indoors and out. She spent time with me and helped me
each day. Our gardening friends and customers make us want to get up and do it all over
experience how much pleasure you get from watching things grow. I started working at
again, as well. I hope our place fills emotional and spiritual needs for people. It’s not just
a Mom-and-Pop-garden-stand when I was fifteen-years-old and kept on through high
a place to buy flowers; we want our place to make people feel good. We want everyone
school and college. I have a Degree in Horticulture from Penn State University.
to have a good uplifting experience when they visit us. We want people to be inspired to
Forest Lake Greenhouses was officially opened in December of 1989. We have
garden. We want them to go home and create a special place, where they can experience
been here for 21 years with the hope of being a place where people can get the plants
the true joy that is possible from spending time in the garden.
Cheri Jordan is a Florence resident and has been married to her husband, Robert, for eleven years. She is a stay-at-home mom to four children: Abbi, Luke, Savannah and Matthew.
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Oh! How I love peanut butter A small sprinkle of salt for flavor reminds me of what
cookies! Much like my job, they contain many different Jesus said, “Let your speech, at all times, be gracious, seasoned
ingredients, each having its own unique quality and purpose. with salt . . .” (Colossians 4:6). In other words,“Help illuminate
Some of them are very good (like a lump of brown sugar), while the dark places for others.” God has given me many opportu-
others, I totally avoid (the shortening). Yet mixed together and nities to encourage workers who rarely hear praise. I am even
baked, they are delightful. Much the same way, God uniquely able, at times, to sprinkle the Lord’s light by sharing Him with
combines our talents, experiences, knowledge and wisdom into others. There’s nothing like teaching something and watching
His Own special purpose for us. I don’t know why I started the light bulb go on when someone finally understands the con-
making this comparison, but it just seemed to fit. cept. These are all such wonderful opportunities that I thank
Recently, while baking peanut butter cookies, as I pre- the Lord daily for in this job.
pared the cookie dough, I thought of the shortening, which is The sugars add sweet flavor and texture to the mix-
rather solid and tends to slide around and tastes disgusting. It ture. My job may not always be smooth just as the brown sugar
represents all the tasks I have to do that aren’t necessarily fun needed for peanut butter cookies tends to be lumpy at times.
(making copies, packing and unpacking the car and conference However, over all, my job is sweet and fully satisfying.
calls) and some I downright detest (e.g. my expense reports). And last – but certainly not least by any means – are
Then, I think of the margarine and peanut butter. These are my the eggs, that which glues it all together. The residents are the
students and customers. The margarine needs time to warm up glue, the center of this mixture. Without them, everything else
before it will blend well, as do some of the people I serve. would just fall apart.
Others are more like the peanut butter – smooth, rich in flavor As with cookies, all the ingredients have to be carefully
and sticky. These are the folks who understand the value of measured, mixed thoroughly and baked. My job is the same
increasing their skills and knowledge and come prepared to way. Each part is a piece of the integral whole; none can stand
learn and then stick with it. on its own and be the cookie. God made our purpose like that.
The flour gives the cookie its structure, much like the We can’t stand on our own because we tend to fall – or fail.
material that I teach. The basic information may or may not change God purposes our lives and our work – which may or may not
much, but the content has to be constantly fluffed up and updated be that purpose.
in order to maintain the quality framework. The baking soda and But, I propose that no matter where you are working
powder not only add lightness to my cookies, they also represent or who your boss is, if you acknowledge God as your CEO,
my benefits and salary as an employee. Yes, these may seem small things will improve. Maybe not externally, but your attitude,
in measure; but, over time, they grow. However, that is the compen- responsibility and peace will improve. And who knows? God
sation – not the satisfaction – of my job. may show you your exact purpose for being in that job.
Remember,“. . . do all to glorify God” (I Corinthians 10:3).
Sharon Bixler is blessed to be the wife of Hal, mother of Holly (Stanley) and grandmother of Ian.
She is a Member of Emmanuel Baptist Church in Hartsville.
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Where God Plants Me
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You know what the really great thing is? Mak’s Her reaction blew me away! She responded with, “Oh,
excited, too! He wants to study the solar system. He wants that’s so great! Homeschooling is my dream!” I wanted to
to learn what really makes a Corvette go. He wants to write jump up and run over to her and hug her. It was so far
a book. He really wants to learn to write in cursive. In his from what I was expecting to hear from her but exactly
six-year-old mind, writing in cursive is the one thing that will what I needed to hear. This type of thing has happened
Sometimes I wonder what make him “big.” And he wants to do it. more times than I can count. I have become friends with
God’s reaction is when I tell Him I’m And I’m really enjoying watching him learn. I had people who have been where I am now and have become
not going to do something. Does He to keep him home from school for an entire week recent- my “go-to person” for all-things homeschool. I have dis-
chuckle, thinking what a silly, naïve child ly because of an awful outbreak of hives. We spent the covered friends who are also thinking about homeschool
I am? Or maybe He is saddened because I whole week learning together. He wrote letters to friends and are as confused as I am. And I am so thankful for each
don’t immediately respond to His request with and family. He read to me; I read to him. We did a little of one of them.
a, “Yes, Lord!” everything. But the thing I remember most that week is I think a friend of mine said it best when she told
This month’s issue is about blooming fractions. We worked on fractions for days. And I will me that homeschool finally became okay in her mind when
where you have been planted. To be quite hon- never forget the look in his eyes when it clicked with him. she realized that there is no right or wrong. Public school
est, I am nowhere near the “blooming” He got it! And I’m the one that taught him. I selfishly loved is great. Private school is great. Homeschool is great, too.
stage. But I have been planted. In a place the feeling of joy that I got from seeing my boy understand It’s all about finding the right fit for your family. For now,
I never thought I would be. And to be this new concept. I walked down the hall to Collin’s stu- that right fit is homeschool. I’m committing to one year.
honest, it’s a place I never even wanted dio and said,“Okay, let’s do it. I really want to homeschool From there, we’ll see. I certainly don’t see myself home-
to be. My husband, Collin, and I have him next year.” I knew that I wanted to be there for more schooling a seventh grader. But, then again, I didn’t see
decided to (gasp!) homeschool our old- of those “Ah ha!” moments. myself homeschooling a first grader either. I’m learning not
est child next year. I know. I know. Some of Collin was all for it. This in itself is a miracle. to say, “I would never . . .”
you just choked on your coffee. Some of you Collin has always been a diehard-public-school-education I am scared out of my mind at what this adven-
rolled your eyes or laughed. And some of you nod- fan. But he is also excited about teaching Mak at home. ture will bring to our lives. Seriously, I’m terrified! But you
ded in understanding or acceptance at the statement He fully believes that I am capable of teaching our child, know what I keep coming back to? The one thing that
I just made. Trust me. I’ve had all of those reactions and and he is there to encourage me when I have my doubts brings me peace more than any other thing? God loves my
then some. (which happens a lot, by the way). son. He loves him even more than I do, and He wants the
This is not a decision we have come to lightly. I’ve In fact, the amount of support I have received has best for him. He wants him to gain wisdom. He wants him
said no to it, prayed over it, lost sleep over it, cried over it, been overwhelming. I remember the first time I told to have friends. And He has called me to this job of giving
researched it and discussed it to no end with anyone who someone that we were planning on homeschooling Mak these things to my son. If He believes in me, I should have
would sit and listen to me. The plain and simple fact is that next year – someone who was an acquaintance but not a confidence in myself.
right now, this is what I am being led to do. close friend. I had no idea what her views on education I have no idea where this journey will lead us or
I remember when my son, Mak, was just an infant, were. We were sitting in the kid-section at Redbone Alley, if I will “bloom” in this place I have been planted. But I am
someone asked me if I would homeschool him. I smiled and she asked me what we were doing with Mak for school so excited about the opportunity!
and politely said,“No, that’s really not for us.” In my head, next year. I remember thinking,“Okay, Lord, here it is. I’m
though, I was thinking,“Are you insane?! I would never do going to tell this girl that I’m homeschooling my child and
that! I want my child to be normal.” Funny how ideas can she’s going to look at me like I have threeheads.”
change, huh?
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I have had several people approach me about my opinion on the use of Summary:
Human Chorionic Gonadotropin (HCG) in dietary programs and the benefit it may • Numerous clinical trials have shown HCG to be ineffectual in producing weight loss.
have for weight loss. I am very familiar with its usage and have known that it was • HCG injections can induce a slight increase in muscle mass in androgen-deficient males.
no more than a way to charge patients for something that was no more effective • The diet used by the Simeons Method provides lower protein intake that is advis-
than a placebo. In order to be fair and unbiased, I went to the authority on obesi- able in view of current knowledge and practice.
ty – the American Board of Bariatric Physicians – for their position
• The overwhelming majority of medical reports are critical of the use of HCG
statement.
injections in weight loss.
HCG is a hormone normally secreted by the tro-
• Physicians employing HCG or the diet recommended by Simeons may expose
“
phoblastic cells of the placenta during pregnancy. It
was first described as treatment for obesity in themselves to criticism from other physicians and from local, state and national
The combination conjunction with a very low calorie diet by Dr. medical boards.
of educated food A. Simeons in 1954. The Simeons Method
consisted of a rigid diet of about 500 calories The conclusion of the American Board of Bariatric Physicians:
choices, behavior per day combined with 125 units of HCG • The Simeons Diet for rapid weight loss is not recommended.
modification and injected six days per week for eight weeks.
The protein intake on the Simeons Diet
• The Simeons Diet is not recommended at all.
• The use of HCG for weight loss is not recommended.
exercise can give consisted of about 45 to 50 grams per day.
one a reasonable The Simeons Method was very popular in
Many feel that the use of HCG is only a ploy to take advantage of obese
the 1970’s, and advocates claimed that the
chance to maintain Method had numerous advantages, including people who will do or pay anything that
rapid weight loss with minimal hunger, no will help them to lose weight. I
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After a series of clinical trials disputing the effec-
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Anyone who has suffered a fracture (a broken bone) has been immediately
aware how important their bones are. When we read in Proverbs that “pleasant words are
health to the bones”, “healthy bones” and “healthy body” are used interchangeably.
Osteoporosis is, indeed,“the silent epidemic,” and the extent and impact on society
is considerable. Over half of the population over 50 years of age has either low bone mass
or established osteoporosis. One in two women and one in five men over the age of 50
are likely to suffer an osteoporosis-related fracture in their lifetime. For a woman, the risk TREATMENT AND PREVENTION – Orthopaedic surgeons, like myself (often
of occurrence of a hip fracture is equal to the risk of breast, uterine and ovarian cancer referred to as Bone Doctors), are usually involved in the treatment of fractures that occur
combined. The estimated cost of osteoporosis-related fractures is approximately 20 bil- as a complication of osteoporosis but not in the treatment of the condition itself.
lion dollars annually. Even though osteoporosis is not a malignant or fatal condition, the
consequences and importance are great. Your primary care provider or gynecologist will normally be the best to advise on test-
Clearly, one of the ways in which we can offer “pleasant words which will bring ing for diagnosis and treatment. A comprehensive evaluation is needed to detect or
health to the bones” is to pass on information concerning the detection, prevention and exclude underlying disease as a cause of osteoporosis or other causes of abnormal bone
treatment of this significant condition. fractures (which may be more serious and complex than osteoporosis itself). Prevention
Here are some of the “bare bones” of the condition. and treatment of osteoporosis overlaps with the (also important) prevention of fractures
and reduction of risk of falls and accidents.
WHO? – Osteoporosis particularly affects post-menopausal women, but men are also
affected with incidence occurring approximately ten years older. Caucasians and Asians • Speak to your doctor about your risk for osteoporosis and risk for suffering fractures.
are at greater risk than Hispanic and African Americans; however, all groups are at risk, and • Have a medical checkup to exclude or identify secondary causes of bone diseases.
the outcome following fractures is equally severe. There are well over fifty different • Diet, adequate calcium (at least 1200 mg per day) and vitamin D (1000 IU per day but
underlying medical conditions or factors which can cause or pre-dispose to osteoporo- often much more in certain individuals).
sis. Risk factors include females, older age, positive family history, low body weight, previ- • Regular weight-bearing muscle strengthening exercises, mainly to reduce the risk of falls
ous fractures, poor calcium and vitamin D intake, high protein, sodium or caffeine intake, and fractures.
inactivity, smoking, alcohol intake of three or more drinks per day and medications (espe- • No smoking.
cially steroids). Underlying diseases include thyroid disease, diabetes, rheumatoid disease, • No excessive alcohol intact (three or more units per day).
malabsorption, chronic renal disease and multiple other “primary” causes.
WHAT? – Osteoporosis is the most common bone disease. It consists of a loss of bone MEDICATION TREATMENT – If osteoporosis or low bone mass with high risk of
mass where all elements of the bone structure are reduced, resulting in lower bone den- fractures is identified, prescription medications may be recommended. The choice of med-
sity. Osteoporosis is not itself painful, but what is painful are the resulting fractures which ications will depend on the individual patient’s requirements and other medical considera-
can occur following even mild trauma in the course of normal daily activities or from a tions and include biphosphonates, hormone therapy, calcitonin and parathyroid hormone
low-energy fall such as a trip and fall from body height.
WHEN? – Osteoporosis may develop at any age with underlying diseases but is most
common in post-menopausal women and elderly men. The risk of fracture is also influ-
Reducing the risks of falls and resulting fractures may not sound easy, but
certain steps can be taken to reduce the risks. Physical Therapists and Occupational
enced by the multiple environmental and personal factors that increase the risk of falling. Therapists can help significantly by improving physical, psychological and social independ-
WHERE? – Osteoporosis affects the entire skeleton, but the resulting mechanical weak- ence and functioning. Modifying the home environment to avoid uneven surfaces, improving
ness and risks of fractures from falls and other accidents are greatest in the spine (verte- lighting and providing assistive devices may reduce high-risk activities and injuries.
brae), wrist and hip. All fractures can have a significant and permanent effect on the qual- The treatment of fractures associated with osteoporosis follows the same prin-
ity of life and independence, but hip fractures have the greatest impact. ciples of treating any fracture. This involves initial relief of pain and general supportive
DETECTION – The diagnosis of osteoporosis and the diagnosis of “low bone mass” is made measures. Hip fractures frequently require surgery for either repair or replacement of
following a bone mineral density (BMD) measurement. BMD testing is recommended for: the broken part. Spinal fractures less commonly benefit from surgical intervention, but
may be helped by external support with bracing and procedures such as Kyphoplasty and
• Women over 65 years and men over 70. Vertebroplasty, which involve injection of cement into the damaged vertebrae. Wrist,
• Post-menopausal women and men over 50 who have significant additional risk factors. shoulder and other fractures may receive nonsurgical (e.g. cast or brace) or surgical treat-
• Adults over the age of 50 who have suffered a fracture. ment, depending on the exact location and shape of the fractured area.
• Adults with certain medical conditions or medication treatments (including rheumatoid Overall, the impact of osteoporosis and treatment of the resulting fractures is a
arthritis and long-term steroid use). very significant personal, social and economic burden. With our aging population and
• Adults who have been selected for medication treatment of osteoporosis or who are altering lifestyles, this is likely to be an increasing issue in future years.
already receiving osteoporosis treatment. Those of you who wish to “bone up” on this subject may refer to the National
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(UK equivalent of Board Certification). Dr Watt completed Fellowship Training in Arthroscopic and Joint Replacement Surgery of the Knee, Hip and Shoulder in Florence and Columbia, South Carolina, and served
as Associate Professor in Orthopaedic Surgery at the University of South Carolina.
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These women have found themselves hard at work
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Feature stories begin on page 76
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“Working in a
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issue with me.”
Collin M. Smith
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Barbi McDonald Bassham (left)
and Kayce Mines Brock
Accountants
by Cheri Jordan
So, it’s that time of year again. April 15th is quickly approach-
ing, and we’re all looking at tax deadlines. Some of you
out there completed your paperwork long ago; but, oth-
ers (like myself) procrastinate until the very end. As you gather your papers to head
off to a local accountant, who do you expect to see behind the desk? A male or female?
various perspectives that the accounting profession provides. I enjoy taking a detailed
financial report, analyzing the information, consolidating it into a simplified format and
then relaying this information in an effective manner to individuals outside of the
accounting field.”
As with any profession, there are a few negatives. Barbi does not enjoy the
More often than not, we assume that a man will be handling our money and our busi- deadlines. “They’re never-ending! It never fails. Every year, I know I’m going to work
ness. For so long, the profession of CPAs has been dominated by men, but two local New Year’s Day and the Fourth of July because a lot of deadlines fall on holidays.” Barbi
ladies are helping to break that stereotypical mold. Meet Barbi McDonald Bassham and does feel, however, that she works well under the pressure of the deadlines.
Kayce Mines Brock. For Kayce, the negative would be the stereotypes that are often associated
Barbi lives in Florence with her husband, Jason, and their two pets, Bart and with the accounting profession. She says that people often look at her as a “bean count-
Lydia. She is a Senior Tax Analyst with ESAB Welding & Cutting Products of Florence, er” and assume that individual tax returns are all that accountants do. In addition to
where she has been employed for five years. Some of Barbi’s stereotypes, the recent corporate scandals have also contributed
responsibilities at ESAB include federal and state tax reporting For so long, the to some negative perception of the accounting profession.
and compliance, international tax issues, property tax, tax planning
and research, cash management and financial reporting. Barbi is a
profession of CPAs I asked the women about obstacles that they face as
women in their career. Both agreed wholeheartedly on their
graduate of Francis Marion University, where she earned a has been dominated answers: The balance of motherhood and their career. While
Bachelor of Business Administration with a Concentration in neither of these ladies has children yet, they recognize that
Accounting and a Master of Business Administration. She recent- by men, but two mothering is a full-time job in itself, and they know that women
ly became a Licensed Certified Public Accountant with the State
of South Carolina, and she is a Member of the American Institute
local ladies are struggle with giving their best to their career, as well as their chil-
dren and family. And though they realize that the accounting
of Certified Public Accountants (AICPA) and South Carolina helping to break profession has always been more of a male-dominated profes-
Association of Certified Public Accountants (SCACPA).
Kayce is a native of Hartsville, where she still resides
that stereotypical sion, they both feel fortunate that they have faced very little
opposition in their field based on gender.
with her husband, Mike, and their Basset Hound,Abby. She went mold.
to school at the University of South Carolina, where she earned a Bachelor of Science
Barbi and Kayce are both content and satisfied with their
work; but, as with any profession, they have goals and aspirations that reach higher than
in Business Administration with a Concentration in Accounting and a Master of where they currently are today. Barbi wants to continue to grow personally and pro-
Accountancy. She is well on her way to pursuing her Licensure from the State of South fessionally. “I strive to one day climb the corporate ladder and become part of the exec-
Carolina as a Certified Public Accountant, as well. Kayce is currently employed as a utive management team of a company where my experience and qualifications can be
Senior Financial Analyst with Progress Energy at the H. B. Robinson Nuclear Plant. Her utilized to help run a company.” Kayce aspires to eventually become a member of the
primary job responsibilities include budget preparation, budget adherence monitoring, management team in a financial role.
monthly financial reporting, outage reporting and financial projections. And while both women have long-term goals, they also both agree that they
Both women knew early on that they were interested in a business career. have already accomplished so much. Among their greatest accomplishments, Barbi and
Barbi discovered her love for accounting when she took her first accounting course in Kayce acknowledge their marriages. Their husbands have been an invaluable support
college. The subject matter made sense to her and inspired her to work harder towards to both women and often are the motivating factor that has encouraged them to pur-
achieving her goals. Kayce knew she loved accounting before she was even out of high sue their goals and dreams.
school. She attended Hartsville High School, where she was fortunate enough to be Both of these women were excited to share their stories with She and hope
exposed to several business courses. She took two accounting classes and enjoyed that they can encourage other young women that may be interested in a career in
them immensely. “They held my attention and kept me busy,” Kayce says. It was from accounting. Kayce says,“I think Barbi and I break the stereotypical mold of CPAs. We’re
this initial exposure in high school that she selected to pursue a career in accounting. young, female and actually like to have fun rather than counting receipts out of a shoe
Barbi and Kayce both have numerous hobbies outside of work that include box all the time. I hope this exposure will shine a light on the profession and encour-
traveling, shopping, running and exercising and spending time with family and friends. age female readers to pursue a career in accounting. The profession has been very
They do feel blessed, however, that they also enjoy going to work. It’s not a mundane rewarding to me, and I want to share that experience with other individuals.”
drudgery to them, but something that they look forward to. Barbi enjoys the “strate- Barbi wants to encourage readers that may be interested in the CPA profes-
gic thinking that is required by a tax accountant to help minimize the tax liability and sion, “Becoming a CPA can be a very rewarding career with interesting work, a high
come up with optimal tax benefits for a company.” She goes on to say,“At the end of level of respect and attractive career opportunities. I encourage young women read-
the day, it feels good to know that I’ve contributed to the company, and I feel valued ing this article that have an interest in business and think they may want to become a
and accomplished.” CPA to set in place the goal to put those three little letters that can have such a big
Kayce enjoys her work, as well, because she knows that her work is making impact behind your name – CPA.”
a difference. “Financial success is at the heart of every business, and I appreciate the
Cheri Jordan is a Florence resident and has been married to her husband, Robert, for eleven years. She is a stay-at-home mom to four children: Abbi, Luke, Savannah and Matthew.
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life in Florence is great! Although I won’t say it can’t get any better. I’ve learned my
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Our personal experiences have involved a lot of moving, changes in jobs,
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Your experiences, challenges, ups and downs may look completely different. The
process of not only growing into who God has called you to be, but blooming in His
plan for you may look completely different, but we all go through a process.
Blooming into God’s purpose requires work, time and patience – all things I’ve expe-
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Melissa
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Farm
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help, though. That’s because they know that I need some serious help if I
have resorted to call for them!
I think an advantage of being a woman in this industry is the fact that
the horses using artificial reproductive technology. I manage the breeding stal- a woman has a natural instinct to care for animals. Each and every mare
lions’ collections and shipping schedule. I’m also in charge of foaling out preg- that I bred, every one that I checked as pregnant, every one that I watched
nant mares in the springtime and marketing the young horses we have for sale. as her belly grew and assisted with having her foal – they have all been spe-
I was drawn to this career because of my love for horses. It’s a facet cial to me. And every foal that has been born feels like it is my own baby!
of the horse industry that doesn’t involve as many politics as being a horse With that being said, foaling season is the best part of my job. Being
trainer. I participated in a Breeding Internship while at North Carolina State involved in foaling out mares is very rewarding after waiting 340 days for a
University, and I really enjoyed it – even though the hours were crazy. Just as mare to have a full-term pregnancy. You never know what you’re going to get!
in human births, you can’t determine when horses are going to give birth Being in a career that’s not seen as being very feminine, it’s still easy
either. to maintain my femininity. Actually, that’s not even an issue. Yes, I wear jeans,
Although my job could be considered one that is male dominated, I’m boots, sweatshirts and my hair is up in a ponytail every day. But a shopping
not so sure I consider myself a “gender bender.” Girls are always horse crazy. trip, a day at the beach or getting dressed up for a night out with my hus-
Sometimes, though, I catch myself on the tractor or fixing a fence. I definitely band usually brings out the girly side of me really easily.
feel like I might be one then. It’s not often you see a girl doing those jobs. I love horses, and I work on a horse farm. I’m surely blooming
Being a female makes my work more challenging because being a handyman where I was planted.
can be trying for me!
Melissa Johnson Bradshaw and her husband, Eddie, have been married for little over a year. She has been in Florence for almost seven years.
She is a North Carolina State University Graduate. Her very large family consists of six half brothers and sisters. Pawleys Island is her favorite place in the world
and a day at the beach there is the best. She also enjoys traveling, going to horse shows and spending time with her family.
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Music
and me by Ferebe Gasque
To be one who is famous (or infamous, depending on who you ask) for NEVER wish I could tell you I’ve found it. Two years later, though, that isn’t the case. Perhaps my
being at a loss for words, I often have difficulty coming up with an appropriate subject for “new normal” isn’t a place but a journey. One of the current stops on my journey is at
my She Magazine articles until the last minute. This month is no exception. I love spring. McLeod Hospice House where I have been privileged to serve as Music Therapist since
I love flowers. I do NOT have a green thumb. I have, in fact, worked in a few “gender-ben- November of 2007. I am only there two nights each week, funded through the McLeod
der” arenas. I am a seminary graduate and was for awhile a Minister of Music, title and all. Foundation, but those two nights are life-changing for me. Sometimes they are meaningful to
There aren’t lots of women who do that. There really weren’t many of us in the early eight- the patients and families and staff, as well.
ies. Then, there was the time I worked for a construction management company onsite. My position at Hospice House did not just happen. It was a long, God-directed path that
That was fun. And educational. And, I was definitely in the minority there. The guys sug- led me there. However, that too is another story for another day. As I was pondering my sub-
gested I put “Mom” on my hard hat (which I did… in fact, I still have it). Of course one ject, though, I decided it was time to enlighten folks who read She Magazine of a profession
of the reasons was that “Ferebe” wouldn’t fit. I lived in South America for a year, teaching that is not as well-known as doctor or lawyer or construction worker or even minister.
Missionary Kids. That wasn’t “gender-bender” but it was a great year. Hmmmm… maybe The allotted number of words do not allow me to tell you everything about the amazing
another month for that one. world of Music Therapy. I’ll definitely try to hit the high spots. I feel a sequel coming at
Hopefully, though, I am blooming where I am planted now. Back at home. I’ve some point!
mentioned before that when my mother died I began searching for my “new normal.” The official definition, according to the American Music Therapy Association, says:“Music
Therapy is the clinical and evidence-based use of music interventions to accomplish indi-
vidualized goals within a therapeutic relationship by a credentialed professional who has
completed an approved music therapy program.”
Most music can be therapeutic (there are some kinds that aren’t therapeutic to me,
but everybody’s different). But, having the ability to perform music does not make one a
music therapist. My training in Music Therapy began after I already had a Masters Degree
in Music. But, as I sat in classrooms at Florida State University, I realized who I really was.
I think I had always been a music therapist at heart; I just didn’t know what to call it. And,
since I didn’t have any formal training in the field, I couldn’t be one, anyway. However, after
classes in Anatomy and Physiology (not one of my shining moments) and Special Education
and Abnormal Psychology and Behavior Modification and… well, you get the picture, I
finally completed my course work. That’s when the fun began!
It was my honor and privilege to intern at the Florida State Hospital in Chattahoochee.
Though it was physically and emotionally taxing, I would not trade anything for the experi-
ences I was able to have during those six months. After successfully completing my intern-
ship, I was required to sit for the national Board Certification Exam. Certification must be
renewed every five years, either through continuing education credits or by retaking the exam
I in the fourth year of the five-year cycle.
Most people, I don’t think, realize how much work is required to be a professional in many
fields. Those who love their jobs, those who see them as a calling rather than a position, help
to spread that false conception. As a Music Therapist, I want people to feel comfortable with
my presence and to be improved (in whatever their area of need) when I leave. That,I believe,
is the viewpoint of most professionals who really love what they do.
At Hospice House, I do not often use a lot of the training I am required to master.
Most often, I am in the rooms with the patients and families to provide comfort care, sup-
port, pain alleviation (so less medication is required), and assistance with respiration. My
training helps me to know what to sing or play, at what tempo, at what volume,
and even when not to provide music in a given situation. I am grateful for
the experiences and for the things I learn each week from those I
serve.
So, I suppose though I still haven’t found my “new normal” (if it
even exists), I hope to continue to bloom where I am planted.
For further information about Music Therapy, please feel free
to contact me at ferebe.she@earthlink.net, to join the Music
Therapy Association of South Carolina fan page on FaceBook,
or to check out www.musictherapy.org and www.cbmt.org.
Ferebe Gasque loves educating folks about the
For those of you who are interested in my ongoing cyber-
wonderful world of Music Therapy, being the
Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House, dating saga, the mystery man is scheduled to be visiting in
and serving on the SC Task Force of the Florence in May…
American Music Therapy Association and the
Certification Board for Music Therapists.
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H ave you ever felt like your life was a jigsaw puzzle
and some of the pieces were missing? Like maybe some of
the flip side of that coin are lessons we can learn. There are
reasons why roses and veggies are generally not established
them were lost forever? If you have ever spent time putting in the same garden and why we should not always think we
together a puzzle and enjoying watching the picture come to can bloom anywhere we are planted.
life only to find out that it will never be completed, you I fully believe that God has given each of us gifts and
know what I mean. Sometimes, I think days and moments in talents. Finding those gifts and using them to the fullest is
our lives are like that. part of our mission on this earth. When we use them
I have heard that phrase “Bloom where you are according to His plan and in line with who we were created
planted” most of my life and have never really understood it. to be, it can be the most beautiful picture and pleasing sym-
In some ways, to me, it would be like putting the wrong phony. The other side of that is like trying to push that piece
piece of the puzzle in a place it doesn’t belong and expect- of the puzzle into the wrong space or eating an onion when
ing it to look the same. Not too long ago, I was at a supper steak is on our mind. It won’t fit, and it won’t accomplish
party where several of the guests were trying to help com- what was intended. From my experience, frustration can
plete a puzzle picture that was doomed, either because often set in.
pieces were lost or some had been misplaced in the scene. I think one of the best gifts we can give ourselves in
What a frustrating and funny time we had trying to convince this process is to realize we are all a work-in-progress and
ourselves that purples and blues could mix in the sky that the finished project is open-ended. I think most people
and that somehow these thirteen pieces had to – are a little bit like me in that life feels better when it’s some-
absolutely had to – fit, and we could say the work was what settled; you know who you are and what to expect on
done. a daily basis. But, when there are things going on that seem
When I think about that in regard to my life, I realize chaotic and the details of our lives are unknown, we can be
how often I carry that mentality into a lot of situations. unnerved.
It’s what I call sticking a round peg into a square hole. Herein enters that trust factor. Many, many people
I have often tried so hard to bloom in places I had no are having times in their lives right now where things are
business being and wondered if I must have smelled unknown and unsettled. We do that brave thing and try to
and tasted like a bloomin’ onion. Actually, I have be okay with our present circumstances. We do what we
been in the mood for a bloomin’ onion lately, and know to do to fix it and make the picture how we think it
they are actually mouth watering and delicious – should be. In doing so, we sometimes miss the moment
when you intend to head for Outback and have when we could realize that the something different is what
an appetizer. But they’re not exactly what you was intended. We are being shown a different way. The pic-
bargained for if you have waited all day for a ture doesn’t have to turn out the same. And our “pieces”
steak and shake. Nothing on earth can can be used beautifully and in harmony, even if it’s not how
make those two the same. we thought – or want – them to be.
I’m being a little facetious about I am speaking to myself and to all my She girlfriends
this phrase, as I know there is merit when I say – as we enter into spring – just breathe. Realize
in our trying to make the best of that we have a God Who wants to carry the burden and
situations, to be all that we can Who has made us every bit of who we are for His divine
be wherever we are and to purpose. He has given us gifts we use and some we have yet
love ourselves and life to discover. At the end of every day, as we pick the petals
regardless of the cir- off the daisy, know that it will end on,“He loves me.” What
cumstances. But, on better way to bloom than with that under your wings?
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“How ARE you – really?” And I could honestly answer that I was pushing through with
“…for I have learned in whatever state God’s grace and strength – really.
I am, to be content.” Philippians 4:11. Then again, I have lived in some swank sectors, too. The view was incredible
The Apostle Paul said it – not me. I wouldn’t dare say that I have fully and
from the neighborhood of Maturity, Growth, and Fulfillment! And the birds were always
completely learned this lesson, but I am certainly a work in process.
singing when I made my home in Joy, Exhilaration, and Delight. Those places are my
“Whatever state I am in” has changed several times over the last many years.
favorite. But the key is somehow to find the serenity and peace God gives no matter
Let’s see. There was South Carolina, North Carolina, Louisiana, then back to good ‘ole
South Carolina. While I am fairly sure that the apostle Paul was not referring to a geo- WHERE He has placed me for the time being. I don’t seem to find that in a Hershey
graphical state in which to be content, it is no secret that moving around can be tough. bar (though it never hurt). No, I find my focus when I spend time reading the words
There’s a new house, new license plate, new friends, new school, new church, new gro- God spoke, when I speak to Him and pour out the cares of my heart, and those deli-
cery store, new bank, and new names to try to remember. Lots of new. cious times I spend talking about Him over coffee or lunch with a friend. (We call that
Each time the address has changed on my driver’s license, I have found the “soul slushing.”)
intense need to hang onto God for dear life. That’s not a bad thing. Whether search- I will leave you with a more complete section of Paul’s writings from
ing for the laundry detergent aisle or that new best pal, God was quietly there assur- Philippians 4:11-12, and I will whisper a prayer that you and I can continue to experi-
ing me with His peace. Psalm 121:5 says that the Lord stands BESIDE you. Can’t you ence more and more of the contentment that comes from knowing the lush love of
just picture God standing in line with me at the DMV? What a thought! an extravagant Savior – regardless of the current state in which we find ourselves.
I’ve had other addresses, too, that I didn’t mention yet. Maybe you’ve lived “…for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what
there once or twice yourself. I recall the neighborhoods of Surprise, Disappointment,
it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being
and Stress. Oh, and let’s not forget the subdivision of Grief, Betrayal and Discomfort
content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty
either.Those were doozies! How vividly I remember sitting on the front porch of those
or in want.” (NIV)
emotions and wondering where my fairy tale life had gone – silently asking God the
questions that He knew were running around
in my heart. “What just happened? Why?
How? What now?” The numb throbbing
was loud in my ears. The fear of the
future ever present…but so was God’s
unmistakable peace. People would ask,
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Women in
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Erika Chapman speaks with
Linda Russell, the Chair for 2010,
to find out how this important
organization began and its vision
for the future.
by Erika Chapman
A As women, we naturally have the impulse to nurture. And when we look at the
world around us with eyes of compassion, we see many broken and hurting people with
numerous needs to be met. Our instinct is to try and help in some way; but, often, the
task seems daunting, and we don’t know where or how to begin. Where do we jump in?
Which organization do we choose to partner with? We often have resources to offer, but
they seem miniscule compared to the need.
In early 2009, a small group of women came together and decided to do some-
thing with their desire to help the community around them. Marguerite Willis, Susan Linda Russell, the Women In Philanthropy Fund Chair for 2010
Bankson and Amy Urquhart laid the groundwork and began the Women In Philanthropy
Fund in Florence. This fund allows donors to join together to give capacity-building grants The third grant recipient was the Naomi Project, one of only two long-term tran-
to nonprofits. Marguerite Willis explains that they believed in “the transformational sitional facilities for domestic abuse in South Carolina. They granted $4,500 of a $10,000
impact that can be made through the power of collective giving.” request for volunteer training and literature to promote this nonprofit in Florence.
Their mission states: “We are an inclusive group of women seeking to dramati- The Women In Philanthropy Fund currently has 35 members, and their goal is to
cally improve the overall well-being of citizens in the Pee Dee region through our com- reach 100 members. Membership is $500 per year for women 36 years or older and $250
bined financial and intellectual resources.” The organization became official as a donor- per year for women 35 years and younger. Several women have given a one-time gift to
advised fund of the Eastern Carolina Community Foundation in late July 2009. The ECCF encourage new membership and have committed to match every new membership pay-
acts as the host organization and provides infrastructure support. Throughout 2009, the ment made by April 30th, 2010. Linda Russell, the Women In Philanthropy Fund Chair for
Women In Philanthropy Fund continued to bring in new members and gave away their first 2010 shares,“This gift by members just illustrates the enthusiasm and passion we have for
grants on October 29th. what we are doing.”
The Women In Philanthropy Fund made three grants to three organizations in Women can become involved by contacting Susan Bankson, Executive Director
2009. Between July and September, they raised enough money to grant out $10,000. of the ECCF, at 843-667-1131, or via e-mail at susan@easterncarolinacf.org. All members
They accepted applications from seven counties and received fifteen applications request- do have a vote on the final grant-awarding ballot and can be involved as little or as much
ing over $110,000. The recipients included Mercy Medicine Clinic for $4,500 of a as they want.
$10,000 request for a free denture program. Services had been offered by dentists, but Linda Russell explains, “Members are encouraged to attend meetings, especially
there was still a need for denture supplies. during the grant process so they will have a deeper understanding of the request thus giv-
The second recipient was Dillon County Partnership 4 Kids, which requested ing them a greater insight when casting their vote.”
$2,000 and was awarded $1,000. This was used to buy cribs, car seats and other materi- The Women In Philanthropy Fund is making a difference and will continue to do
al items to help children stay in their homes instead of being taken to a foster care situa- so. It is a group of women passionate about impacting their world – beginning with the
tion merely because child safety items could not be purchased by the parents. Some of community around them. They are looking for individuals that want to be involved in an
the grant will be used for literature to promote awareness of this program in Dillon organization of women helping those in need. If this stirs your heart, makes you excited
County. or even peaks your interest, they would love to hear from you!
Erika Chapman lives in Florence with her amazing husband and three busy little boys.
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Dear Reader,
It sounds like you and your friend both have woman finds herself with someone, but it is a someone Wants are important, as well, but they are not
the ability to choose the wrong man. Guess what? that is otherwise not a good match to meet any of her typically deal killers – unless you and your partner differ
Luck has nothing to do with it! We are each pulled into other needs – much less her wants. vastly in these areas or the two of you can’t juggle time
relationships because we were created to be in relation- Needs are typically related to values. They are sufficiently to get what you want on your own and still
ship. It began with God and Adam in the Garden of unique to you, but they need to be shared by your part- have time for one another. Let’s say you’re an out-
Eden. It was then that God saw that Adam had a need ner – at least in a way that your needs are consistently doorsy person and your mate is more of a sedentary
to be in a relationship with another human. He made met. If your needs are foreign to your partner’s values soul. If you’re off camping every weekend, then you’re
Eve for Adam – and vice-versa. So, we are quite literal- or interests, then you will constantly be unfulfilled. For going to be frustrated that you are doing this without
ly made to be in relationships. And, as such, we are example, if you’re a religious person and your partner your partner. And more problematically, it won’t leave
drawn to others. While the need for companionship, is not, then you will feel unhappy that you can’t share much in the way of together time for the two of you if
for fellowship, for connectedness is a wonderful thing, your experiences in your faith with this special person you’re apart each weekend. Wants often have to do
one must also use wisdom. Just because we can be in in your life. If you’re politically liberal, yet you fall for with our hobbies and recreational activities, but they can
a relationship with someone, that doesn’t mean that we someone who is a staunch conservative; well, unless be related to more substantial issues such as finances. And
should be in a relationship. you’re Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver, this is since these refuel us, they are very important. So, having
It would probably be a good idea to think probably going to be an area of constant struggle for you. consistency in wants is very important, just not as
about two things before getting into a relationship. This is precisely why eHarmony has performed better essential as compatibility in needs.
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want. The needs are the most fundamental aspect of a think about their core issues and list them in a way that you think you might want to be with, but he isn’t caring
relationship. While needs can be different for each per- matches the other individual to those areas. Of course, – that’s a flag. Even if he is attentive but not kind, that’s
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