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Definition
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Being assertive is a core communication skill. Being assertive means that you
express yourself effectively and stand up for your point of view, while also respecting the
rights and beliefs of others. Being assertive can also help boost your self-esteem and
earn others' respect.
is based on mutual respect, it's an effective and diplomatic communication style. Being
assertive shows that you respect yourself because you're willing to stand up for your
interests and express your thoughts and feelings. It also demonstrates that you're aware
of the rights of others and are willing to work on resolving conflicts.
Characteristics
Verbal Expressions
The use of the word I to let others know what youre thinking without sounding accusatory
What alternatives do we have?
What are my options?
Non verbal
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Passive
General
Compliant,
submissive, talks
little, vague noncommittal
communication, puts
self down, praises
others
I dont mindthats
fine.yes alright
Beliefs
Assertive
Actions and
expressions fit with
words spoken, firm
but polite and clear
messages, respectful
of self and others
Im okay, youre
okay
Believes or acts as if
all the individuals
involved are equal,
each deserving of
respect, and no more
entitled than the
other to have things
done their way
Aggressive
Sarcastic, harsh,
always right, superior,
know it all, interrupts,
talks over others,
critical, put-downs,
patronising,
disrespectful of others
Eyes
Warm, welcoming,
friendly, comfortable
eye contact
Narrow, emotion-less,
staring,
expressionless
Posture
Relaxed, open,
welcoming
Hands
Together, fidgety,
clammy
Pointing fingers,
making fists,
clenched, hands on
hips
Consequences
Give in to others,
dont get what we
want or need, selfcritical thoughts,
miserable
Good relationships
with others, happy
with outcome and to
compromise
Definition
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The controller is easy to spot because they just want the facts and nothing but the facts. They
are perceived as bossy and insensitive. They are also goal oriented and their major
motivation is getting things done.
An attitude of Well figure it out as we go.
Also known as Drivers seldom listen to others around them, focusing on the task
at hand. Only need to know what, usually can figure out how and why.
Characteristics
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Controller. The controller is a doer. He leads others and is often the driving force within an
organization. He is characterized by an emphasis on action and results. He is like the alpha dog who
must lead the pack. Because he places high standards on himself and others, he is likely to be seen
as constructively impatient and a tireless worker.
When communicating or working with the typical controller, be prepared to move fast and to be tested.
Expect the controller to argue, interrupt, disagree, raise his voice, and challenge your thoughts. Keep
in mind that this behavior is not an attack on you. It isnt personal; it is just the way he or she is.
Heres how to adjust your communication style when working with the Controller. Get to the
point quickly. Give them the broad outline, not the details. Anticipate objections and be ready
to solve problems on the spot. The good news about this style is that they will generally make
decisions quickly, and wont change their minds or have buyers remorse. Let them feel that
they are in charge at all times and theyll be happy.
Communication is effective if it flows freely in a communication loop between the sender(s) and
receiver(s). Free flow means uninterrupted transmission of the information / the message through an
appropriate medium, correct comprehension of the message by the receiver and a relevant and
appropriate feedback from him. Misunderstanding, Irrelevant response and undesirable reactions are
the consequences of a failed communication exercise. Failure of effective communication results in
loss of valuable time, resource, material and even life. You know that in an authoritarian set up, be it a
state or a business or even a family, communication is unidirectional and is so fragile that it would
snap anytime leading to irreparable damage. Though these may be indirect results of communication
failure, an effective channel of communication could have reduced the damage. When we say that
some one has an open mind, we mean that he is transparent and receptive which in turn means that
he is flexible and not rigid. All these characteristics are related to the mental make-up and
communication style of the individual. Barriers to communications range from the simple distracting
noises to the most complex psychological factors. These barriers may cause a simple communication
gap or a total failure of communication. A communication gap can be bridged but retrieval of a
situation, damaged by miscommunication would be rather difficult.
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A connotative barrier includes how a word is meant in a particular context. For example,
someone might describe a game as simple. Generally, both sender and receiver agree
on the straight definition of the word, but the sender of the message might mean the
game was a little slow and boring where the receiver might think he means it was fun and
easy.
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III.
Cultural Barriers:
Understand and accept the cultural variations in individuals and groups. Appreciate
them and adopt your communication style to them.
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In the context of globalization and free trade, business communication has to cut across
different cultural identities. These invariably cause cultural barriers that have to be overcome.
The relaxed and leisurely pace of the Easteners, the formal and official style of the Britishers,
the casual and matter-of fact nature of the Americans, the thorough nature of the Germans
and the extreme courtesy and politeness of expression of the French are all cultural features.
It is easy for an American to give his opinion even to his boss whereas decisions and opinions
are seldom expressed in the presence of elders and seniors in the East. To overcome any
cultural barrier to effective communication one has to possess an understanding of the culture
of the receiver(s) / decoder. Even in body language there are variations. If a Filipino smiles,
they say he is angry. The loop formed by tip of the thumb and index finger is a signal of
agreement in North America but an obscenity in the Southern states.
IV.
Psychological Barriers:
Try to understand the receivers mental make up and attitudes.
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V.