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once again the example of typical patriarchy because without Gus's blessing
the marriage wouldn't have taken place in the future. His word and decision
are law and nobody in family would confront him. We can see it in the scene
when Gus was not happy to see his American son in law. He was very angry
and he did not want to speak with Ian. Toula was very upset and nervous.
Maria, Toula's mother, was upset as well. They realized that if Gus didnt
accept Ian, the marriage was out of the question and Toula would not be
happy because she can't confront her fathers decision.
Gender Roles
We can see a clear division between women's and men's position
throughout the movie. The traditional Greek womans role is made very
clear, starting with Toulas voice-over monologue at the beginning. According
to Toula, Nice Greek girls are supposed to do three things in life: marry
Greek boys, make Greek babies, and feed everyone until the day we die.
These goals are epitomized in Athena, Toulas older sister, who married
young and became a Greek baby-breeding machine. According to her
familys norms, women who are not married work in the family business and
are considered a failure. In their turn men should work and protect the
family. In this movie according to Gus women don't need education. And we
see his discontent when Toula asks him about her going to college. Gus did
not want her daughter to study. He wanted his daughter to get married and
have children. We see the difference in Toulas and Gus's opinions in the
scenes where Toula was dreaming of getting education , a good job and
independence but Gus did not like her idea.
Toulas mother, Maria also follows these traditional Greek roles
throughout the film. She has had three children with Gus and runs the family
restaurant, cleans and cooks for the entire family (often feeding people when
they are not even hungry). But there are also instances when Maria breaks
the submissive role and takes a more dominant position. When Toula wants
to go to college but Gus resists, as I mentioned earlier, Maria reassures her
daughter that she will talk to him. According to Maria, The man is the head,
but the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head any way she wants.
Maria uses guilt to cause Gus to change his mind. In this case it is not the
man with the power, although he may think he has it, but the woman. These
words are put into action in the scene, when Maria sets in place a plan that
makes Gus think that Toula working in the travel agency was his idea.
Although Gus thinks that he has absolute control over his family, what Maria
does is to cleverly manipulate the situation in her favor.
Toula is also seen trying to defy the very traditional gender roles. Toula
breaks the mold by first going to college and then leaving the family
restaurant to work at a travel agency even though she isnt married. Toula
challenges her fathers power when she dates Ian, a non-Greek. She is
fighting the unwritten rule that all women have to marry who their father
wishes. Toula and Ian have an egalitarian relationship as neither of them put
themselves in importance above the other.
Collectivistic/Individualistic cultures
In this movie we can clearly trace the concepts of collectivistic and
individualistic culture. Toulas family represents the Greek collectivistic
culture. First of all I would like to explain what makes these two cultures
different. Collectivist culture is the one in which people tend to view
themselves as members of groups( families, work units, tribes, nations), and
usually consider the needs of the group to be more important than the needs
of individuals, they are very vertical where a lot of power and respect is
given to elders. Individualistic cultures on the other hand, are those that
stress the needs of the individual over the needs of the group as a whole.
They are horizontal and the decision making id in the individuals hands as
oppose to the elders. In this type of culture, people are seen as independent
and autonomous. Social behavior tends to be dictated by the attitudes and
preferences of individuals. Cultures in North America and Western Europe
tend to be individualistic, whereas most Asian cultures tend to be collectivist.
However, in this film we come across the example of Greek collectivistic
culture where every member of a large family is up with doings of others
relatives. Everybody is very interested in kinsmans life. We can observe it in
the scene where Toulas parents are talking about their daughters life with
Toulas aunt. Aunt showed an enormous interest in Toulas life and in life of
all her family. She asks questions, gives advices. And she speaks about Toula
like about her own daughter. It means that all family members are very close
and important to each other. During the movie, she struggles to get her
familys acceptance while struggling with her own internalized Issues about
her cultural identity, and her struggle with the rules and values. She faces
the clash between her collectivistic culture and with that of the American
individualistic culture, which are poles apart.
There are two kinds of people: Greeks and everybody else who wish they
were Greeks. Toulas father also constantly states that he can trace any
word back to Greek origins. He says, Give me a word, any word, and I show
you that the root of that word is Greek.
However strong their ethnocentrism was, they did open up in the movie.
As we have seen their Greek daughter found the least Greek guy to marry.
Nothing about him was Greek and even though they hated it at first, they
finally opened up to him. She begins by dating him secretly, while lying to
her family and telling her family she is taking a pottery class, in fear that
they will find out she is dating a non-Greek man. When her family does find
out, they pressure her to leave him. She states that she loves him and
continues her relationship with him. Ian then pops the question; Toula
accepts, causing her father to go into a great shock and depression.
Acculturation/cultural symbolism
Many of the scenes showcase the differences between Ians White
Anglo-Saxon Protestant family and Toulas Greek one. Employing the usual
cultural stereotypes of WASPs as closed off and restrained, and of Greeks as
expressive and out-going, the film shows the difficulties the two parental
generations have in accepting that their children are becoming part of a
family so different from their own. As they struggle to connect with each
other, the parents show the real differences between them. My Big Fat Greek
Wedding portrays Toula discovering that she cannot completely abandon her
family and its way of life despite her love for Ian. Luckily for her, Ian is
himself completely pliable and agrees to do whatever it takes to get Toulas
family to accept him and their love. As the film criticizes Gus for demanding
obedience from Toula rather than supporting her quest for fulfillment on her
own terms, it does not require that the young lovers break up. The only
question is how to integrate Ian into it.
In Greek culture there are some rituals which the husband and wife to
be should go through. The 1st one is that their union should be blessed by
the father of the family. The next ritual is that both members of the future
union should be orthodox. We witness Ian's christening according to the
Greek Orthodox Church traditions. He agreed to it because of his love for
Toula and it was the only way for him to get permission and a blessing to
marry her from the family. Ians is showing acculturation as he was
baptized by an Orthodox priest in an Orthodox Church in the presence of all
the members of Toula's family. The 3rd step is a big wedding celebration with
lots of traditional dishes. We see in the movie an enormous wedding with
many guests. The traditional wedding ceremony in the church forms part of
the ritual which is followed by a big party in the restaurant with great plates
of food. All this is a different cultural symbol which is very important in the
Greek culture. Therefore it can be concluded that Ians decision to be
baptized can lead to showing key sociological concepts of assimilation
because he will be with his wife every day and will see how to be in a Greek
Orthodox family and may do traditions or actions of his wifes family.
Conclusion:
My Big Fat Greek wedding shows views of the world of traditional Greek
culture, the food, the loudness, and the strong family values. The movie
shows the key sociological/anthropological concepts of accommodation
because the film portrays the need to overcome ethnic differences while not
diminishing the beauty of ethnic tradition. Toula struggles to get her familys
acceptance while struggling with her own internalized Issues about her
cultural identity, and her struggle with the rules and values. Overall, there
are definite genders roles described throughout the movie; these roles are
being challenged instead of perpetuating them. In the end, though Toula has
married, become a mother, and is sending her daughter to a Greek school.
She has upd the gender roles by attending college, making independent
relationship decisions and marrying the man of her dreams. In general the
movie was great, I really enjoyed the way they intertwined a comedy with
real social and cultural issues. As a comedy many of the details are
exaggerated for sensationalism, but the themes are real-life issues that
many cultures face.