Bagioro, Mabelle F.

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How should human address sex?

Is love and sex mutually exclusive?
Can one exist without the other?
Sex or sexual intercourse is the sexual act or contact between two
individuals, a male or a female, or both males, or both females, which
involves penetration, especially the insertion of a man's erect penis into a
woman's vagina, typically culminating in orgasm and the ejaculation of
semen. Sex can result to a lot of amazing and wonderful things, such as
reproduction as when the sperm of a male meets the egg of the female. It
can also help in building a stable and intimate relationship. Statistical studies
show that relationships that are sexually active are more stable than nonsexually active ones. Different people have different views on sexuality,
especially the minors, the teenagers, and the adults. Culture can also affect
on the way people view sexuality. But how really should humans address
sexuality?
For me, sexuality should be addressed open-mindedly in an approach that
fosters sexual health and gender awareness and sensitivity. It is wrong to be
shy or ashamed when it comes to the topic of sex. In fact, we should all be
aware that sex happens somewhere in our lifespan, and when it comes, we
should be ready so that we will know what to do. Sex is a wonderful thing,
but it always comes with responsibility. We should know when we are ready
for sex, and most importantly, we should know the different preventive
measures

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pregnancies. If a person is uneducated when it comes to sex, the chances

are high that unwanted pregnancies might happen as compared to those
people who are well educated. Most teenagers nowadays are shy or
embarrassed when it comes to the topic of sexual intercourse. They are not

even familiar with their sexual organs. For them, the topic of sex is taboo,
because this is what the Filipino Culture told them ( to be demure). However,
this view of sexuality is not healthy and does not foster sexual health, and
gender awareness and sensitivity. Sex should be open to the topics in class in
order to teach and prepare the students in an appropriate way. The students
should be aware of their own sexes, and should know how to take good care
of it. It is never taboo to be aware, and our own sexual organs deserve to be
healthy and well protected.
Love and sex usually comes together. Couples do sexual acts usually
because they are in love. In fact, sex is the ultimate expression of love.
However not all people who are in love do sexual acts, and also not all sexual
acts are because of love.
For me, love and sex are mutually exclusive. However, the best sex is when
both elements (love and sex) are present together. Love and sex can exist
without the other. True love would endure even without sex. Although sex is
the ultimate expression of love, not all true love involves sex. Even couples
have long distant relationship without sex. Some couples who are in love
never got the chance to have sex, such as in a situation of an early
relationship and one sacrifices his/her life for the other because of love. Love
is a complex thing and perhaps the most unexplainable in this world. Love
could lead to people to do crazy things. It can move mountains, and it can
cross oceans. God designed us to love one another regardless of not having
sex, whether it is eros(erotic), agape(unconditional), philia(family), or
storge(empathy bond). Therefore love can truly exist even without sex.
Although sex is an expression of love, it does not really mean that love can
exist without sex. Sex is only one of the products of love.
On the other hand, not all sexual acts involve sex. Some have sex in order to
fulfill their love and belongingness needs. According to Abraham Maslow,
love and belongingness is one of the needs of a person. It is in the third level

of the pyramid and includes intimacy, friendship and family love. Some
people need to fulfill their sexual needs because we are designed to
reproduce, and our way of reproduction is through sexual intercourse. Our
mind unconsciously tells us to have sex sooner or later in our lives. In order
to address this sexual urge, some people have sex even without love. Some
even got drunk at a party and have sex, while others are raped against their
will. Therefore, we can never say that sex and love cannot co -exist even
without the other. Both things are designed to be mutually exclusive.
However, they can always co-exist in harmony, and that perhaps is the best
thing in this world.
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