When love stops being a FEELING and becomes a

DECISION
For youth Publishers
PREFACE
When love stops being a feeling and becomes a decision is a relationship
teaching that is geared towards issues facing the youth today. The writer,
Kealeboga Duece Thobolo intends to shed light on this matter and through his
experiences and testimonies reveal some insights that he feels will help a lot of
young people in the area of relationships. Relationships are very important; they
form the basic part of our interaction and communication. They have a huge
impact on how we relate with the outside world. Its true that love relationships
are driven by emotions and feelings but there comes a time when feelings
cannot sustain the relationship but only a DECISION; a decision to endure,
preserve and believe that the work that God has started in the relationship , He
shall bring unto completion. Decisions speak louder than feelings.

INTRODUCTION
When love stops being a feeling and becomes a decision, were living in a world
that has redefined many biblical concepts, people have shifted from the genesis
of creation just as the scripture says in 2 Timothy 4:3 that For the time will come
when they will not endure sound doctrine, but according to their own desires,
because they have itching ears, they will heap up for themselves teachers ; . Its
an era in which demand for the true word of God is greatly exceeds the supply.
Signs of imbalance are everywhere. The church has been infiltrated by doctrines
that only seek to entice the soul but not building the spirit man, Faith is no longer
the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things unseen but now is I can
only serve when things go my way. Endurance and patience no longer exist in
our vocabulary and LOVE has been reduced to fulfillment of selfish ambitions and
desires. The church has lost the power of DECISION, the power to say YES to
Jesus and stand on the word of truth, the power to choose LIFE. Were
surrounded by a corrupt, dark world that is infecting the church and raising a
generation of emotions and feelings instead of FAITH and LOVE.
Proverbs 20:29
The glory of the youth is their strength
The economy and future of every nation lies on the young generation, the impact
and strength of any vision is determined by how engaged the youth are in the
vision. The devil having knowledge of this truth is afflicting the youth on every
side, he understands the inner strength that God has embedded on them and if
he can get them to misuse this strength and derail them from their real purpose
then he would defeat the vision of the church. And one area that the he uses to

deceive the youth, even the elect is the area of relationships. A healthy
relationship brings stability in ones life and an unhealthy relationship brings
fear, doubt and insecurity. The church is full of many young people who are hurt,
heartbroken, empty and miserable because of failed relationships. We have little
to no teachings on this area in the church and on many occasions young people
have to rely on the knowledge they have acquired from romantic novels,
Hollywood movies and peers to lead their relationship and everything that is
done with inspiration from the world always leads to death. What is perhaps
most significant, the lack of effective character development mechanisms within
the body of Christ which has contributed to this deficit. What all this means now
is that finding the right spouse is becoming an increasingly difficult task for
them.

Proverbs 16:25 There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end is
the way of death
Whats needed is the church to rise, not only pray but also come up with
structures and methods to support the youth and ensure that they are
empowered with the gospel and all godliness so that they can build strong
homes in the future.

This book will reveal in depth the purpose of relationship as defined by the word
of God, different stages of a relationship and help every young person who is
already in a relationship, heartbroken, those who are courting, engaged, and
singles on how to lead a Godly relationship that will produce a holy matrimony
and a joyful marriage tomorrow. The seeds you invest and sow today, determines
your harvest tomorrow.

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Gods intention of love relationship

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The honeymoon season

Horror
Chaos
Abortion
The decision
Survival of the fittest
Testimonies
My Story
10. Restored by God