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Honorable Nr.Mr.Drs. Achmad Fadil M.si the english teacher of SMA N 7
SAMARINDA
And all my beloved friends....
I will explain about THE IMPACT OF PARENTAL DIVORCE ON THE LIVES OF
TEENS
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In early adolescence, many children from families that cracks

had stumbled into a catastrophe youth including declining values,
sexual behavior is too early, the use of drugs and crime. There is
also some evidence, though not so strong, that children from
families with levels of conflict and high divorce experience more
depression, anxiety and withdrawn.
There is no denying that children become sad when they witness
their parents fighting. The most serious factor in cases of divorce is
how the effect and how to restore a good relationship and stable,
create intimacy for both parents. The influence of parents can create
strength in children. This influence will persist until the next 5 years.
Habits visit is still important to most teenagers. Nevertheless, the
divorce case still had an impact on the social and emotional
development of adolescents.
Many researchers have found that children who nurtured one
parent will be much better than the children within intact families
covered feeling depressed. Divorce in the family, is not always a
negative impact. Attitudes to avoid a conflict, dissatisfaction.
Disagreement continuous, then the event of divorce was the only
way out to acquire tranquility yourself. Divorce in any family is a big
transition and the major adjustments for adolescents because it will
experience emotional and behavioral reactions due to "lose" a single
parent. How teens react to his parents' divorce is strongly influenced
by how parents behave before, during and after separation.
Teenagers will need support, sensitivity, and compassion are more
likely to help him cope with the loss they experienced during this
difficult time. They will probably show the difficulty of adjustment in
the form of behavioral problems, learning difficulties, or withdrawal
from the social environment.
Different child's reaction to his parents' divorce. All depends on the
age, intensity and duration of the conflict before it happens
perceraian.Setiap children suffering and distress levels depending
yangberbeda. Children of divorced parents, especially those who

have school-aged or young people usually feel culpable and

responsible for the attack was also worried about the bad
consequences that will befall them.
For teenagers, divorce is the destruction of the family that will
disrupt their lives. At least the divorce led to emergence of anxiety
on his life in the present and in the future.
Short-term Impact of Divorce:
Generally, teens whose parents divorced hit by feelings of loss
(loss of one member of the family: the father or mother), failure, lack
of confidence, disappointment, anger, and hate.
They usually lose interest to go and work on school assignments,
hostile, aggressive depression, and in some cases there is also a
teenager desperate to end his life
they show some physical symptoms and stress of divorce such as
insomnia (difficulty sleeping), and loss of appetite.
Long-term impact:
* as an adult, a teenager was afraid to get married. He was
worried about his
marriage later would suffer the same fate
as their parents.
*during adolescence mature into hate men or women because
lumped together with the father or mother who has destroyed her
family.
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Good morning/ Assalamu alaikum wr.wb

Honorable Nr.Mr.Drs. Achmad Fadil M.si the english teacher of SMA N 7
SAMARINDA
And all my beloved friends....
I will explain about PARENT ROLE OF PARENTS ADOLESCENT DEVELOPMENT

Teenagers are individuals who are still looking for identity.

They are very vulnerable to the negative influences of the
environment. Therefore, the role of parents when children hit

their teens is very important. Nowadays, teenagers are very

different from the old teenagers. In addition to the age factor,
the influence of the environment that is easy to provide
convenience; make them into individuals who are weak, spoiled
and too quick to give up. The spirit is ingrained from
grandparents hampered by harsh environmental influences.
Without the direction and guidance of their parents, they will not
be able to get out of the pinhole is ready menerkap.
Unfortunately, parents have important implications for the
survival of their children; less able to play the role well. Parents
sometimes compare their situation as a child with her current
situation. Though a lot of difference when the situation then and
now. Starting from small things, such as the critical attitude
shown in the early development of the child; up to a big thing,
like a rebellious attitude in the child's teenage years.
Parents also often comparing her with other people's children
are more intelligent, obedient, pious and courteous. In fact,
every child has the advantages and disadvantages of each;
parents should make their children do not like other people's
children. They should expect more but do not force them to be
like the parents want. Parents should be able to be wise. Parents
should be able to be a figure close and knew everything about
her. Let them be themselves. Give them a chance to be
responsible and know the risks that would be acceptable. By
understanding the characters and the situations they encounter,
parents will help their children seek their identity is actually
ahead of adolescence.
Teens are now more vulnerable to the negative impacts of the
environment. Weak their strongholds as well as intensifying the
mass media, both electronic and print, gave birth to generations
of dreamers who did not want to wake up from his dream.
Therefore, in addition to the role of parents is quite important in
directing their children; the role of the mass media also took
part in it. How parents addressing the phenomenon like that?
Questions such as who should be more emphasis to be
discussed from the reveal too much. By orienting the handle
instead of going back to the way the background issues,
delinquency will little by little relieved. By maximizing the role of

parents and teachers in educating youth and minimize the

negative influence of the environment around the teen will be
saved from the magic world that is misleading. And for the
future, the future of the next generation will also be maintained.
If things like this, the world will be protected from destruction
caused by the man himself.

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Assalamualaikum.wr.wb and good morning

Good morning/ Assalamu alaikum wr.wb

Honorable Nr.Mr.Drs. Achmad Fadil M.si the english teacher of SMA N 7
SAMARINDA
And all my beloved friends....
I will explain about ROLE YOUTH IN THE FAMILY ENVIRONMENT

In adolescence, a person usually has a problem-maslahnya own.

Although not experienced by all adolescents, one of the problems
they are with their parents. Have you ever felt your parents do not
understand you? Or do you feel that what you have done wrong in
their eyes. Actually, what happened with you and your parents? Why
your relationship is not what it used to when you were a child.
The role of youth as Children In Families
1. As childhood, teenagers still need their parents, each dependent
upon, still influenced by their parents. But teens are beginning to

have its own view that he memiilki himself. Where teenagers began
much like the activities outside the home and into the wider world.
They find it orients itself
2. The struggle for emancipation (game rights). To achieve the
status of the young adult must reduce its dependence on parents.
They should prepare to accept and carry out the role of the adult.
The struggle towards equality is often full of conflict and anxiety
both for the young people themselves and their parents
3. If all goes well, they will occupy a position between adults of the
same age. at this stage the influence of adults has not been lost.
Many teens age teenager who rebelled against sika-views and
attitudes of adults. But at the age of two decades they embrace the
views and attitudes had to be right.
The interaction of parents and their teenage children
1. The objective aspect
Is the real state of events be occurring at the time of interaction
between children and parents took place.
2. The subjective aspect
Is the real state of perceived juvenile at the time of interaction with
parents take place.
Not infrequently teens tend to use subjective aspect when
interacting with their parents. For example, parents who act rather
hard on teenagers because for feeling worried and anxious about
her teenage son, was actually perceived by teens as a scold. In fact,
the real parents intend to protect.
Teen Relationships With Parents
Aspects to consider in building a good relationship with the family,
especially the parents regarding the role of adolescence as a child in
the family
1. The existence of mutual respect and the respect of rights and
obligations between family members, be it a child against a parent
and vice versa.
2. The involvement of adolescents as a child in discussing and
solving the problems faced by families
3. The existence of tolerance of children to their parents and vice
versa against dissent
4. Between children and parents should have the ability to provide a
plausible reason to an act or decision taken
5. The existence of openness and good communication between

child-parent. So that parents have full confidence in what children

outside their knowledge, and anakpun have the right person to
discuss and seek solutions to their problems.
6. Parents leave feeling safe and free to children to conduct
exploration in order to express their thoughts and feelings. Whereas
children should have the responsibility for the use of freedom.
7. Each family member should have a feeling of mutual love, creates
familiarity, and spend time with family.
8. Between parents and children should be mutually inclined to obey
the rules but not threatening.
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Good morning/ Assalamu alaikum wr.wb

Honorable Nr.Mr.Drs. Achmad Fadil M.si the english teacher of SMA N 7
SAMARINDA
And all my beloved friends....
I will explain about FAMILY FUNCTION IN THE GROWTH AND

DEVELOPMENT OF ADOLESCENTS
So what can we do as parents to teens to grow and develop
optimally, healthy emotions and not get involved in the association
are at risk? First and foremost are the parents must ensure that
families can fulfill its function optimally essence, as follows:
1. Availability of love and protection for children,
2. The existence of clear rules and consistent control of the child's
behavior
3. Knowledge and understanding of the physical and social world
4. The existence of interactions and relationships that have meaning
affective among family members
5. There is an opportunity for children to understand themselves.
A well-functioning family is characterized by a condition in which
each member of the family feels that they are bound to one another,
and have a mutual commitment to love each other in a positive way.
Children who experience emotional development is not healthy,
normally grows on families who are unable to meet the child's needs
for affection and protection, as well as the lack of rules and controls

are consistent and clear to the child's behavior. Children and teens is
what will be compelled to look for negative activities they think can
fulfill their needs are.
Often parents think that children's needs for affection can be
replaced with a provision of redundant material, and the rules and
control dispensed with the intention of avoiding a conflict with the
child. Though both of these aspects is the main essence of family
functions. If the child loses the warmth of family and the rules, then
he will lose the opportunity to develop positive emotions and
learning to control negative emotions at once. Two important things
are the basis for healthy emotional development in an individual.
Emotions are the foundation of all aspects that support the healthy
psychological development. Healthy emotion is also the underlying
ability of an individual to choose which ones are good and which are
not in his life, including in choosing the association. Replace the
expression of sincere love with the provision of redundant material,
other than self-deception, also deceive our children, and the worst
are the children know the difference between a really really loved
and bribed.
One of the brilliant child psychologist, Urie Bronfenbrenner, said that
every child needs an adult who "committed to death" on the child.
Emotional bond that makes children grow into teenagers and adults
psychologically healthy. If children feel really loved, they develop a
strong sense of security so they no longer too demanding to be
loved or be noticed by others, let alone look for and rushed to drug
use or promiscuous are at risk of contracting HIV / AIDS. Ultimately,
most teenagers emotional needs are those who are not receiving
enough love their parents when they were kids and teenager or his
parents' love less consistent and less sincere they feel. If the child
did not get the attention or affection from their parents or the
people around him, then they will seek compensation from his need,
so came the children or adults who deviant behavior, ranging from
attention-seeking and escape with activities -kegiatan negative and
risky, or behavioral disorders such as anorexia (eating disorder),
obsession, compulsions such as excessive shopping, store objects
that are not required to be trash, the deviation of sexual orientation,
taking drugs, free sex to be a crime ,
According to Patterson (Santrock, 2003) The deficiencies are
common in families that encourage children to have a negative risk
behaviors, including:

 Lack of oversight / supervision

Low skill in applying discipline
Limited problem solving skills (problem solving)
The tendency of a relationship or a relationship that is not
communicative with their children
So, to optimize the function of the family in preventing
adolescents engage in risky behaviors is to make sure children can
feel that they are valuable and parents love them, their control
and positive discipline were applied consistently in the family, as
well as patterns of communication open and ongoing two-way ,
conclusion:
The role of parents is very important for young people in the life of
the household because the relationship between the parents has a
direct impact to the lives of teenagers and development of the
adolescent self. good relations between parents and adolescents
are a positive influence adolescent behavior and harmony in the
family.
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