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COMMUNITY RALLIES BEHIND

ISSUE 4 VOLUME 5 2010


SHEIKH MANSOUR LEGHAEI…….1

 E NTERTAINING OUR
CHILDREN—T HE SOLUTIONS…. 3

 O UR COMMUNITY. RASUL AL
A’ DHAM I SLAMIC CENTRE– B ANK-
STOWN– PROFILE …………… 6

 P ATHOLOGY OF DIVORCE––
P ART 4– A NGER MANAGEMENT
S TRATEGIES…………………….. 7

Community rallies behind Sheikh Mansour Leghaei


The past month has seen a surge in support for Sheikh Man-
sour Leghaei to remain in Australia. Not only has this been a
uniting factor for the Muslims, the Christians too have
shown their support for this movement attending rallies and
holding prayer vigils. There was a flurry of articles this
month in the major newspapers about the case mostly posi-
tive but recently, some negative articles have appeared in The
Australian newspaper. Let’s put our hands together and con-
tinue our support to Sheikh by writing to the newspapers’
editors. Let’s show our appreciation to the Greens, the Chris-
tian Coalition, and all those who are tirelessly fighting
against injustice within our community.

Christian Coalition– Some members of


the Christian Save the Sheikh Coalition.

Continued on page 2 >>>>

Show of support– A snapshot of some of


the 800 people who attended the BBQ and
rally at Steel Park Marrickville on Sunday
28th March 2010

Editorial
Salaam Alaykum! community, Sayyid Abdul Majeed Mustajaab, and his departure
from this journey of life – May Allah be pleased with him and ex-
Welcome once again to the Month of Rabi'ul Thani Al-Fajr News-
tend his mercy upon him. Surely we are Allah's and to Him we
letter!
shall surely return [Quran 2:156]
This time round we are back with more to enlighten you about the
I would also like to take advantage of the section here to praise Al-
issues facing our community especially in living in the west, this
lah (SWT) for the birth of our Imam Íasan Al-Askari (as) in this
would include the evil acts of fornication, divorce, the soft war on
month. We also urge our readers to continue to pray that we may
our thoughts and values and the final instalment with suggestions
not be deprived from our beloved Sheikh Mansour, and to remain
on how we can entertain our children to ensure healthy develop-
positive during this period leading up to the great news – Inshallah.
ment of our children.
We hope you enjoy this month’s issue, and we strongly encourage
We have also included a short biography of Ayatollah Sheikh
readers to provide us with feedback, this would be greatly appreci-
Mohammad Íusain Al-AnsÁri, one of our very humble and emi-
ated. You may contact us through info@al-fajr.org.au -
nent scholar – May Allah be pleased with him. We have also in-
cluded a story of Hayder Shkara, one of the members of Al-RasÙl Al May Allah be pleased with us all.
-A'dham Mosque in which Sheikh Al-AnsÁri leads.
Mustafa Barakat and Abidali Mohamedali (editors)
Also included is a story on one of our active members among our
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We wage a battle with ourselves every day and increasingly the battle with our environment and thoughts foreign to us with
the line between good and evil becoming blurred. Let’s revisit the revolution of Imam Husain (as) and glean timeless morals to

The Revolution of Al-Íusain bin ‘Ali (as)- A Battle of thought, values and morals
By MohamedTufayl Mohamedali

On the face of a battle – both fighters look alike. Both are clad in
are all fighting a mental battle – at least those who observe, ques-
armour, the attire of war is present in both as they both carry the
tion, resist and seek to find meaning – those who seek to defend
sword, the shield, and both ride horses. On the level of the army,
and uphold Islamic values in the midst of moral decadence and in
the archers both have bows and arrows – perhaps the weapons are
an environment rapidly moving towards the material and base pole
even made by one and the same person and the horses are bought
of man’s existence. Muslims today can be likened to the salmon
from one and the same trader – what then is the difference be-
that swims against the current of the river – resisting the ‘flow’ to
tween the two? Why is there a bat-
get to their real and suitable habitat.
tle between the two – if there is no
outward difference – why is one
It is at this point that we can appreci-
‘twin’ attacking the other? Are they
ate the resistance and revolution of
seeking the same objective or share
Imam Íusain (as), and we can take
the same desire or is it something
lessons from his stand against false
else?
ideologies, deadly propaganda and
militant media that seek to propagate
The revolutions and reforms in the
falsehood, mischief and spurring the
context of humanity have always
greed for materialism and the fulfil-
been fought not between brothers
ment of desires – completely neglect-
but between ideologies and
ing the true nature of the human
thoughts, whereas both may seem
being, and destroying the balance.
outwardly to look the same, they
each have a difference at another
Throughout all of history, the mental
level – and this is the thought of
wars in the soul of the individual have manifested themselves as
humanity that distinguishes one from the other, and that causes
battles and wars on the field – but if we look closer, we can see that
one to fight the other or associate one with another.
these very battles and wars are constantly being fought within our-
selves – but to win we need to take lessons from the external battles
The concept of ‘fighting’ can be motivated by two causes, either
and wars, from the characteristics of the two camps and side with
for competing interests or conflicting interests – the former are
the righteous and just one. Such battles would include that of
perhaps confined to limited resources – for example two people
Prophet Musa (as) against Fir’aun, Imam ‘Ali (as) against MuÁwiya,
fighting for the same job or position. This form of battle is indi-
and Imam Íusain (as) against YazÐd.
vidualistic and limited as it is a personal and subjective interest
which has little or no bearing on the larger society or community.
Today, we are in the age of the soft war – psychological and intellec-
The battle of thoughts and values differs from the battle of com-
tual information overload in the form of media and very little if no
peting for a common object of desire, in that, the former kind of
discrimination between what is truth and what is false. Our values,
battle is what revolutions and reforms are all about – they are felt
our beliefs and our identity and morals are constantly being openly
both at the individual and societal levels and they affect not only
challenged, tarnished and attacked. We are now more than ever re-
individuals but entire populations, even if initiated between indi-
sponsible to sift and assess the information we come across – and
viduals. It is precisely this form of ‘fighting’ that was the drive
we are also now in a better position to appreciate
behind the tragedy of Karbala. Revolutions and
the importance of knowledge and the correct mental
reform are thus the terms given to battles that are The battle of Karbala framework and patterns we should adopt to re-
motivated by conflicting interests and objectives,
may be over on the spond, because it is our thought that will build us
usually a characteristic of conflicting human
thought and their effects and consequences. plains of the desert – but or destroy us. It is the task of maintaining inde-
pendent and truthful thought without allowing
it continues on in the others to think for us – for if that happens, we be-
The battle between truth and falsehood has always
plains of the hearts and come slaves – and it is this humiliation that Imam
taken this shape and many have been deceived sim-
minds of man… Íusain (as) fought so valiantly against – the hu-
ply by the occasional identical outward appearance
miliation of dependant thoughts and actions.
of both. It is important to appreciate that the very
concept of truth and falsehood is based on thought and mental-
He gave us one lesson that was the key to success in these battles –
ity – it is expressed physically because thoughts shape our actions.
‘Sacrifice’. Give one option up for a better one when you see it and
you know it. In thought and in act – we ought to be selective, and
Thus, in every age and at every level, man is in constant battle
exercise our free will – and only with that can we make sacrifices
with false thoughts and ideologies – when he succumbs, he loses
and reach the peaks of success, honour and prosperity as an individ-
both materially and spiritually – but when he resists and over-
ual, a community and a society.
comes – he profits both materially and spiritually. Applying this
reality to the contemporary time, whether we like it or not – we
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Viewpoint
Entertaining our children - Some sug- speak English poorly. Whilst they are in some way bilingual, they
are at the same time without a language in which they can appre-
gested solutions - Part 2 ciate literature or communicate complex or deep thought proc-
by Dr. Ali AlSamail esses. We need to encourage our children to read in either or both
the languages that they use to communicate in their everyday life,
In the first part of this article, we discussed the impact of modern because this can help them develop skills that may become invalu-
‘entertainment technology’ and the consequences of this rapidly able in their adult life.
advancing technology on the physical and psychological
health of our children. In this second part, we hope to discuss Of course, faced with a choice be-
some of the possible solutions that have been suggested in tween reading and television or the
order to counteract the effects of this entertainment technol- internet, the child is unlikely to
ogy and to help children grow in a healthier environment. choose reading. One way around this
is to set up a bargaining system, in
One obvious and important solution is physical activity. which the child can earn the right to
Physical activity, in the form of casual exercise (riding a bicy- use ‘entertainment technology’ only
cle around the neighbourhood), organised team sports if they read a certain amount of a
(joining the certain book. This relates to the dis-
local football cussion of discipline mentioned in
team) or a the first part of the article. Children
family activity need to understand that good things
(a family in life do not come cheap and that
bushwalk) can something of good quality comes
have many only after effort and time. This strat-
Physical activity and reading are
benefits. The just two of many ways to ensure egy of making children earn time
first benefit of our children grow up to be happy that they can use for entertainment
course is that and healthy
purposes will not only bring about a
regular physi- healthy balance between work and
cal activity play, but will also allow the children to appreciate the free time
decreases the likelihood of obesity and the numerous and danger- they have from a much younger age.
ous sequelae of obesity. The second benefit is psychological. Physi-
cal activity can increase self-confidence, facilitate social interaction Finally, childhood is a wonderful time to learn. Children, and
and allow children and adolescents to express themselves in a health even adolescents, have time that they will never have as adults.
way. It is the far better alternative to sitting at home in front of the They also have the capability to learn more easily and in a shorter
television or the internet, where physical inactivity, idleness and period of time. Therefore, once parents feel children are ready,
boredom can combine to produce dangerous consequences. childhood can be a great time to learn new skills. Children can
learn a second (or third language), martial arts, public speaking or
Another important part of the solution is reading books. As we any other specific skill or set of skills. There are so many skills
discussed last week, children often complain of having too much and abilities that we as adults wish we had, but which we can no
time, and this is part of the reason they resort to the internet and longer make time to learn. Children have a unique opportunity
the many avenues it provides for killing time. Unfortunately, the to learn these skills without the constraints of time or other pres-
internet and television offer empty solutions with little potential sures. This does not mean that children will have no free time, all
for self-improvement. In the past, before this technology developed, it means is that children will enjoy their free time more if they
children would spend their time reading books as a leisure activity. have to earn it, and if they do not have so much of it that they do
This has decreased dramatically among children and adolescents not know what to use it for.
today. Reading, even when it is purely a leisure activity, can have
great educational and psychological benefits. It improves grammar, Of course, the conditions for parents and educators are usually
writing skills, vocabulary, verbal self-expression and comprehen- far from ideal and what has been suggested above may be difficult
sion. There is also evidence that reading improves memory and to implement. However, these are suggestions that are useful to
raises intelligence. While reading, children and adolescents can pick keep in mind, and even implementing them to a small degree can
up a variety of skills without ever feeling that they are ‘learning’. go some way to helping our children grow into healthier, happier
Reading is also important because it opens children’s and adoles- adults.
cents’ minds and exposes them to different perspectives on life.
Dr Ali Alsamail is a graduate of the University of Newcastle
Reading is particularly important for our children, many of whom Medical Program. He is currently practicing at Bankstown-
have learnt English as a second language, or who at least have par- Lidcombe Hospital. He is also a graduate of the Imam Husain
ents who learnt English as a second language. Unfortunately, the School of Islamic Theology, with a Diploma in Islamic Studies
children of the first generation of migrants are often ‘language-less’.
They speak the language of their country of origin poorly and also
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Our Community
Every month, Al-Fajr will highlight activities of the community to create a camaraderie between ourselves and become
more aware of the services and facilities that different centres around Sydney offer. We shall endeavour to provide a snap-
shot of the activities/objectives of different centres from the members themselves! This month, we shall highlight the tragic
passing of one of the young members of the community, finally a profile of the Rasul Al-A’dham Islamic Centre as part of a
series on Islamic centres in Sydney.

Sayyid Abdul-Majid - Blessed in life and death


by Ehssan Veiszadeh

His older brother, Abdul-Hameed, addressed the crowd gath-


ered at Al Ja’afaria Islamic Centre and explained of being con-
fronted with five urgent messages from Sydney, after checking
in to his Dubai hotel at 5:30 am.

After returning one of the calls, Abdul-Hameed was horrified to


hear of his brother’s death. ‚It was very, very tough to be on your
own and to hear this tragedy of your brother dying, but at the same
time I was thinking about Imam Husain (AS) that he was even at a
worse situation being left alone – he had no one, every single one of
his family had passed away,‛ Abdul-Hameed said.

He remembered a brother ‚full of energy‛ who made it his life


goal to defend the Ahlul Bayt any way he could.

Abdul-Hameed also explained that although he had no family


in Australia, his friends had given him the support he needed
through the difficult period following his brother’s death. ‚I’d
like to extend my appreciation to every single one of you,‛ he said.

‚This is one thing I was thinking about in Dubai when I was receiv-
ing so many phone calls from Australia. We have no one in Austra-
lia – I don’t have any uncles or aunties [in Australia]. But there were
people who were calling us and fulfilled that position of my uncle,
Hundreds gather at Kogarah’s Al-Ja’afaria Shi’a Islamic Centre to re-
who fulfilled the position of my aunties and my relatives. And I
member the life of Sayyid Abdul-Majeed Mustajab-Al Dawa really, really appreciate Allah for that support that every one of you
(Photo: Reza Falamaki) has given us.‛

Sayed MaÎdi Al-Modarresi who also addressed the congrega-


tion, said the large gathering was a testament to Abdul-Majeed’s
For three consecutive nights, hundreds of mourners gathered at unique personality and status in the community. ‚He was a blessed
Kogarah’s Al Ja’afaria Shi’a Islamic Centre to remember the life man in his life and he is a blessed man after he has departed this world,
of Sayed Abdul-Majeed Mustajab-Al D’awa. and this gathering is only a sign of its blessings,‛ Sayed Al-Modarresi
said.
On Sunday, March 21, Abdul-Majeed, 24, called the adhÁn for
Maghrib prayers at Arncliffe’s Al-ZahrÁ Mosque and made his ‚As youths, brothers and sisters, this is the stuff you should aspire to and
way to Sydney Airport to see off his brother before his trip to aim for, that on the day you put your head down on the rock and you
Iran. depart this world, you have this many brothers and sisters – mu’minÐn
and faithful lovers of Allah (SWT) and followers of the Ahlul Bayt –
According to Bankstown police, Abdul-Majeed had been riding come to your remembrances and watch you recite beautiful recitations of
his Sachs scooter on Juno Parade, Greenacre, when a black Audi the Holy Qur’an. How noble is that? How beautiful is that?‛
turned across his path. Paramedics took him to St George Hospi-
tal for treatment to head and leg injuries, but he died during sur- Abdul-Majeed was born in Iran and moved to Australia with his
gery. family in the late 1980’s. His mother and father returned to their
country of origin last year. Abdul-Majeed had no family in Aus-
That week, his friends organised a three-night congregation for tralia at the time of his death.
Abdul-Majeed at Al-Ja’afaria Shi’a Islamic Centre in Kogarah.
Abdul-Majeed’s father and brother flew from Tehran to Sydney
on Tuesday night.
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This is the second instalment of a new Al-Fajr feature called ‘Connecting the dots’. Each week we will profile one of Sydney’s
many Shi’a Islamic centres. Please email us with your suggestions on interesting profiles or facts about your local centre on
abidalim@gmail.com.
By Ehssan Veiszadeh
Masjid RasÙl - Al A’dham – Bankstown

Earth people,” he
says. “It’s hard for
people to get beyond
the perception that
they are the Sheikh’s
sons. They’ve talked
to me many times
about the expectations
the community places
Hayder gives out certificates to his taekwondo students on them and how it
affects them. But in the end they are very down to earth and cool peo-
ple.‛
Most teenagers look forward to a life of partying and socialising Today, 19-year-old Hayder is one of the more active members of
after getting their driver’s license. But for Hayder Shkara, getting Al-RasÙl Al-A'dham Mosque helping organise events and offering
his license meant he could attend his local Islamic centre more taekwondo lessons run from inside the centre. He says visitors to
regularly. the mosque could expect a strong spiritual experience. ‚I’m not
sure if it’s the centre ar it comes from Sheikh himself.
With the pressures of his final year
Masjid Rasul Al-A’dham - 3 Vimy There are no distractions, there’s no gimmicks. It’s just a
at high school, Hayder turned to Al-
Street, Bankstown. strong spiritual experience.‛
RasÙl Al-A'dham Mosque in Bank-
stown for spiritual relief. ‚I was actu- Weekly program:
Hayder is currently studying a combined law/
ally finishing Year 12 and I was having Thursdays: Dua Kumail after Salaat.
journalism degree at the University of Technology,
a particularly stressful time,‛ Hayder Major Occassions: Arabic Lecture after Salaat
Sydney, but says he is considering a career in taek-
The masjid is the main organiser of the Ashura Day
says. ‚I also did taekwondo and com- wondo. Last year Hayder represented Australia at
processions in the city.
peted overseas during my HSC and that For more information please visit the Taekwondo World Championships in Den-
also stressed me out a lot. So I’d go to www.alansaree.info or www.ashura.com.au mark, reaching the third round.
the mosque maybe once or twice a week,
but that was on my own accord which
was something I never thought of doing.‛ Profile: Ayatollah Sheikh MuÎammad
Hayder recalls visiting the Bankstown mosque for the first time as
Íusain Al-AnsÁri
an 11-year-old. He remembers accompanying his father to small
gatherings of local faithfuls, gathered to listen to Ayatollah Ayatollah Sheikh MuÎammad Íusain Al-AnsÁri was born in Iraq in
MuÎammad Íusain al-AnÒÁri’s sermons. ‚I remember that despite 1952. He was brought up into a family known for its religious back-
the low number of people, Sheikh was really humble and made everyone ground and scholarship. He gained much knowledge from his fa-
feel really comfortable, despite his status.‛ ther Hujjah Sheikh Abdul Ghaffar Al-AnsÁri during the period of
his academic studies.
Ayatollah al-AnÒÁri is Australia’s most senior Shi’a cleric and is
After finishing a degree in Civil Engineering from Baghdad Univer-
the representative of Grand Ayatollah Sayyid Ali SÐstÁni. ‚I didn’t
sity, Sheikh moved to Najaf Al-Ashraf in the middle of the seventies
really understand the importance of
and started his studies in that well-known university of Is-
Sheikh back then, but now that I
lamic knowledge and law until he attained the position of
think back on it, it would have
IjtihÁd. He studied and taught there until the year 1991 when
been very humbling for a person like
he migrated to the Holy city of Qum in Iran.
him to be at a place with such a low
crowd.‛ In Qum he continued teaching and attending the lectures of
his first cousin, Grand Ayatollah Sheikh AÎmad Ñebt al-
Towards the end of high school, Sheikh Al-AnsÁri until the late Marj’a died about 1996. He
Hayder began to take a keener did not attend any other lectures and continued giving lec-
interest in the sermons and tures in high levels of Fiqh (jurisprudence), UsÙl (principles),
started to attend the mosque AqÁed (beliefs), TafsÐr (commentaries on the Qur’an), etc,
more regularly. It was then that until he left Qum towards Australia in 1999.
he befriended Sheikh al-AnÒÁri’s
three sons. ‚They seemed really He is currently mostly residing in Sydney, serving as the resi-
nice, polite, easy-going and down to dent Àlim at Al-RasÙl Al-A'dham Mosque in Bankstown.
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This month, we shall continue our discussion on the major causes of domestic violence– that of anger and discuss some sug-
gested and recommended ways to eliminate this illness from our hearts.

The Pathology of Divorce– Domestic Violence P2– Let’s diffuse the anger!
Series of Lectures presented by Sh. Mansour Leghaei– Written by Abidali
CAUSES OF ANGER
would want to be forgiven by the Almighty (SWT) on
The first and most effective step towards curing a disease is identi- the day of judgment, so one must forgive the mistakes
fying the cause of the disease. Often this alone can lead to a cure and misgivings of others especially the loved ones.
or even more effectively, a suitable prevention strategy. Under-
standing the cause of anger can aid greatly in recognising anger,  Sexual frustration- Often affects men more than
acknowledging it, identifying areas of weakness and thus leading women, whereas the woman may have lack of sexual
to its effective prevention. desire while the man is virile and active. This often
leads to sexual frustration and anger.
 Loss of Control - One of the fundamental causes of anger is
the loss of control over one’s emotions. Anger is caused by  Stubbornness- This problem affects both sexes
one’s inability to mentally cope with frustrating situations. equally, often in the times of anger some have the ten-
Angry people wish to solve a problem emotionally. This can dency of being stubborn in reaction to the anger. This
manifest itself when one has to illusion of not being in full often leads to more anger and perhaps even violence.
control of a situation. At times of anger the receiving party must con-
cede, even if temporarily, to calm the situation
 Biological Causes - Illness in gen- down.
eral and specific diseases such as
thyroidism (low or high produc-  Humiliation- Chronic humiliation of a
tion of thyroxin), low blood sugar, person would eventually lead to severe anger. It
pre and post menstrual cycle etc., is essential that both parties in any relation-
often can lead to emotional epi- ship especially that of marriage, be treated with
sodes. This does not give the right respect and affection. One of the essential
to the sufferer to get angry but he/ characteristic of a wife is that she be
she must avoid situations that ‘obedient’ (QÁnitÁtun), to her husband as much
trigger the emotions and attempt as she is to her father.
to control them nonetheless.  Unnecessary jokes- As mentioned in
 Pride - Men are often subject to the last article, sensitive jokes often lead to
this, considering themselves the provocation and episodes of anger.
‘lord of the house’. This notion of  Hunger- The common English saying ‘a
superiority often leads to conflict hungry man is an angry man’ rings very true.
when that so called superiority is
challenged. Prophet ‘Isa (as) was  Fatigue– Physical and mental fatigue
asked as to what precedes anger, he replied ‚Pride, arrogance, coupled with any form of provocative or non-
and belittling people‛ (MishkÁt al AnwÁr : 219) provocative action may lead to anger. One must
choose appropriate times to bring up problems or
 Learning- One of the more influential and yet controllable issues.
causes of anger is the influence of peers, parents, movies and
violent games. Children especially, learn anger and aggression In each of the above cases it must be noted that the most effective
from their environment and therefore it is imperative that way to keep the peace is to ensure that anger is not triggered, but
every parent beware of what their child is watching, who he/ it should be understood that the one who suffers anger must
she is playing with and what he/she is playing. Seemingly work to ensure that these or any other triggers do not lead to loss
harmless violent games can result in harmful personalities of control. This list is not exhaustive and different people and
later in life. personalities have different triggers.

WHAT TRIGGERS ANGER BITTER FRUITS OF ANGER

Several things can lead to an episode of anger in most normal Anger is the key to all evils and when one recognises the bitter
people. Although in some cases those with a severe anger problem fruits of this character, one cannot help but avoid it. It can:
need the slightest of triggers. These people are mentally ill and  Spoil Faith– By being angry, one looses control over one’s
therefore need professional treatment. The triggers of anger can mind and hence eventually indulges in numerous sins. This
be: action on its own leads to the erosion of faith.
 Revenge mentality- Often those who suffer from the  Effects on children– One of the most profound effects of
character of revenge hold grudges for years and can anger are the effects that manifest themselves often after
rehash old wounds with surprising speed and clarity. many years in the offspring. Effects range from anger itself
This character can be remedied by inculcating and to low self esteem leading to other psychological and physi-
developing the character of forgiveness. Just as one
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cal disorders including depression, eating disorders, discon- Duties of the Sufferer
tentment, etc. Often children of parents who get angry end
up in broken relationships and are ill equipped to handle Although this applies mostly to men, it can be translated to fe-
difficult situations. males also who have this problem of anger.

 Turns a gentleman to a  CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)- En-


criminal– Respectable deavour to rationalise the situation and diffuse
people who suffer from the ‘perceived’ anger first. Understand the
anger often end up com- ‘threat’ against you and then react in the way that
mitting severe crimes of is most appropriate.
domestic violence, or in  Remember God and His wrath on you. The
extreme cases even homi- simple rule one must remember is that as much
cide and suicide. as you hurt the other you will be hurt more! Ac-
 Hostility (not to accept cording to ahadith, even if one dies a martyr, he
the unchangeable)- The will not be able to avoid the wrath of Allah
definition of hostility in (SWT) for hurting a creature of Allah (SWT) and
this case is the inability not having sought forgiveness or not having be-
to accept the unchange- ing forgiven by that person.
able. These people can-  Use Humour- silly humour can defuse rage.
not take rejection or The angry person must use humour to diffuse
criticism and become the situation and avoid the emotion of anger
cynical and hostile to gripping the mind.
even well seeming and
positive criticism. They  Drop your expectation - Do not expect too
therefore are unable to much from your spouse, such that the situation
effectively develop them- does not allow you to become angry or frus-
selves. trated.

 Depression- depression is anger turned inward toward the  Change your position and environment - Imam ‘Ali (as)
self. says ‚when you get angry, keep quiet‛. In another place Imam
‘Ali (as) advises his companions to sit if they are standing
 Cardiovascular problems- especially in older people can and lie down if they are sitting when they are angry. This
result from chronic anger. could involve taking a walk outside or another action that
Even though anger is more prevalent in young adult males, if may diffuse the negative thoughts.
anger is not controlled at a younger age, it will most certainly  Make a wuÃhÙ’ or ghusl with cold water- Hadith have
affect the sufferer even in old age making the person more stub- mentioned that anger is the fire of shaitÁn, distinguish it
born and angry at little things. with wuÃhÙ’ or ghusl with cold water.
TECHNIQUES TO MANAGE ANGER  Hug and kiss your children- This is an elixir that can read-
In managing anger, like any other illness, there are responsibilities ily diffuse anger. If constantly done, can eliminate emotional
that both the recipient and the sufferer must implement to ensure outburst in the home.
that the ailment is cured. Anger and domestic violence as its con-
 Keep a punching bag handy!
sequence is similar in that context.
This is if worse comes to
Duties of the Recipient worse.
1. Understand the triggers of anger in the spouse and endeavour  Seek counselling and ther-
to avoid these. apy. If symptoms persist see a
doctor and often only a men-
2. Agree with him/her (for the time being)- It does no good to
tal institution and potent
bring up issues at an inappropriate time or place. This is espe-
medication and therapy can
cially true at the time when the person is angry and is unwill-
be used to control anger if
ing to listen to reason. Accept defeat at that time and bring up
none of the above works.
the issue when the situation has calmed down.
 Remember Prophetic Words of Wisdom (below)
3. Choose the best time and the words. Do not confront your
spouse when he/she is hungry and tired! Feed/entertain them Prophetic words of wisdom
before letting loose with what has been troubling. Find the
‚No servant of God has ever drunk a drink better in the Sight of God
appropriate good mood to bring up sensitive issues.
than an anger that he repressed for the sake of Allah‛ (Kanzul
‘Ummaal:5819) ‚O Moses! Control your anger against whom I have
authorised you over, and I will control My Wrath against you.‛ (Al-
Al-Fajr– Vol. 5 (4)- 2010 8
From this issue, we will analyse the topic of adultery and fornication, its evil nature and how we can avoid it based on the
teachings of the Holy Qur’an in Surah Nur.

Fornication is Corruption Written by Musatfa Barakat, Based on lecture by Sheikh Mansour Leghaei

In Islam, the Arabic term ZinÁ signifies voluntary sexual inter- Zina, verily it is a shameful act and an evil way‛ [Surah 17: Ayah
course between one individual and another while not being married 32]. Clearly, the condemnation of adultery is introduced to hu-
to each other, irrespective of whether one or both of them are mar- mankind in stages where the final message is that even the mere
ried to other persons or not. Hence, it does not, in contrast with approaching of this act is vicious and condemned.
the usage prevalent in most Western languages, differentiate be- Islam has condemned this act to the extent that there are very spe-
tween the concepts of "adultery" (i.e., sexual intercourse of a mar- cific laws that enable the community to ensure that even approach-
ried man with a woman other than his wife, or of a married woman ing this sin is avoided. These laws include:
with a man other than her husband) and "fornication" (i.e., sexual 1. Dividing humans into two categories of: Mahram (Mahram’s
intercourse between two unmarried persons which includes extra- are a group of persons to witch marriage is forbidden e.g.
marital sexual intercourse). mother) and non-Mahram. The full list can be obtained from
The etymology of the word adultery comes from the Latin words the Holy Qur’an. (Surah NisÁ: 22-23)
‘ad’ (toward), and ‘alter’ (other), which is interpreted as possessing a 2. Prohibition of physical contact between non-Mahrams. Imam
sexual desire towards others (i.e., outside of the contract of mar- Sadiq (a.s): ‚There is no one except that they have committed fornica-
riage), which translates further into sexual corruption, and conjugal tion: As the fornication of the eyes is to see, and the fornication of the
infidelity. mouth is to kiss, and the fornication of hands is to touch”. [Wasa’elu-
The Chapter of ‘Al-NÙr’ (Surah 24) in the Holy Qur’an is solely Shi’a vol.20 p.191]
dedicated by Allah (SWT) to this evil act of ZinÁ. It deals with is- 3. Prohibition of mingling of non-Mahrams.
sues such as sexual relations, marital and extramarital relations, the
4. Prohibition of lustful looks (to be sexually aroused in looking at
impact of an individual sexual behaviour on the self as well as pub-
another): whether live or on screen; such as TV, internet
lic heath. In this chapter of the Qur’an, Allah (SWT) has issued
(Facebook), magazines, posters, etc. Imam ÑÁdiq (as) said: “a
some decrees that are not mere matters of convenience. Allah has
(lustful) look is one of the poisonous arrows of Satan, and how many
ordained these decrees for our serious observance in life. Even the
(lustful) looks inherited long regrets.” [Ibid]
very recitation of this chapter should be observed as it can protect
one’s wealth, private parts and women from such indecencies, as 5. Prohibition of privacy between non-Mahrams. It is narrated
observed in the following tradition: Imam Sadiq (as): “Protect your from the Prophet MuÎammad (saw): ‚Whoever believes in Allah
wealth and your private parts by recitation of Surah al-NÙr, and protect and the Last Day then shall not sleep in a place wherein he can hear
your women with it.” [al-Sadooq; ThawÁbul-A’mal, p.138] the breathing of a woman who is not Mahram to him.‛ [Wasa’lu-
Shi’a- vol.20 p.185]
One might ask why is it that people enter into such an evil path
even though they clearly know that it is wrong? Instinctively, in 6. Obligation of HijÁb and prohibition of adornments for non-
every human being there is an inner energy called libido, which is Mahrams – The rules of Islam are two sided, on the one hand
responsible for the sexual desire that one may experience. Sexual males are commanded to lower their gaze, while on the other
activity is one of the literal physiological human needs, included on hand females are obliged to dress modestly – this acts as a bar-
Maslow's hierarchy of needs. The functions and purpose of the sex- rier from entering into illicit relationships – for a healthy soci-
ual desire is for mating (forces that lead to marriage) and reproduc- ety the dress code must be respected.
tion (continuation of creation), which assists in maintaining the 7. Prohibition of all alcoholic beverages: –The key of fornication –
survival of the human race. Alcohol places an individual in the state of unconsciousness
In understanding that sexual activity is a human need, an individ- with respect to one’s conscience (i.e. ability to determine be-
ual may undertake to satisfy such needs through either marriage or tween right and wrong). This makes it easier for one to open the
fornication. Both of these are sexual activities, however marriage is gates that lead to fornication.
morally lawful, publicly celebrated and is the means in which indi- 8. Prohibition of music since it plays with the subconscious: –The
viduals will be able to tame the inner wild creature that exists transmitter of fornication – Music also places an individual in the
within in a stable, predictable, safe and psychologically sound man- state of unconsciousness with respect to the remembrance of
ner. However, adultery is morally unlawful, a shameful act that is God, Hence making it easier for one to open the gates that lead
publicly hated and is the means for unleashing that inner wild crea- to fornication.
ture. This creature once unleashed, is never satiated but demands 9. Encouraging marriage and discouraging celibacy - Islam has
more, the more you give it. The psychological dimensions of adul- enunciated the easiest ways of satisfying sexual desires and ful-
tery and its social ramifications are severe and long lasting. filling sensual feelings, leaving no excuse for one to enter into
This prohibition of fornication has its roots in all divine religions, fornication.
for example, in Judaism the Old Testament states, ‚You shall commit 10. Permission of divorce. [when necessary]
no adultery‛ [Exo 20:14]. In Christianity the New Testament states,
11. Prescription of fasting.
‚You have heard that it was said: Do not commit adultery. But I tell you
that anyone who looks lustfully at a woman has in his heart already com- 12. Legislation of various types of punishment, both in this world
mitted adultery with her‛ [Matt 5:27]. Finally in Islam, the complete and the next – these serve as a deterrent from stepping into these
evil paths.
and final message to man, the Quran states, ‚And do not approach
*Detailed explanations will come in subsequent articles.