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One of my memories of growing up was the trip to my grandmothers house. One of the memories I
will always treasure is the platter of oatmeal cookies which she always had available. I asked
grandma for the recipe. Well, she said, you take about a cup of oatmeal and a couple tablespoons
of this, and a pinch of that.
There was no recipe, no precise measurements. She had years of experience and knew what mix
was necessary to produce delicious cookies, batch after batch. A recipe for marriage is much like the
one my grandmother had for oatmeal cookies. The success or failure depends entirely on what you
put into it. Leave an ingredient or use too little of it, and its just not right.
In developing a recipe for marriage, lets start with the mixing bowl of Faith. Its a proven fact
leave God out of your marriage and youre headed for trouble.
The first ingredient that goes into the mixing bowl is the flour of Commitment. In baking,
nothing more basic than flour, and in marriage nothing is more fundamental than commitment. Sadly,
lacking in many marriages is the kind of commitment that was pledged at a marriage altar: til death
do us part! Commitment means, God brought us together, and come hell or high water, someway,
somehow were going to get through this problem!
To the flour of commitment add the oil of Communication. Effective communication is the mutual
exchange of ideas, thoughts, attitudes,, information and feelings. Its prerequisite to real love, and
without it your love withers and dies.
Now add the ingredient of Love. In tennis love means nothing, but in marriage it means everything.
No wonder Paul wrote, Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church, (Eph. 5:25).
Another ingredient that allows what you put in the oven to come out successfully is baking
powder. Leave it out of oatmeal cookies, and you have tough, flat little wafers. Marriage, in the other
hand, needs the baking powder of Forgiveness. Leave this out and the marriage is apt to collapse in
times of stress.
Now, add the eggs of Meeting each others needs. In baking, eggs bind the ingredients together. In
marriage, meeting each others needs keeps temptation away, and add Joy to a relationship.
Another couple of ingredients need to go into the mixing bowl a sprinkling of Humor and more
than a dash of Understanding. In cooking, we use salt, vanilla, cinnamon, and other spices to keep
the food from tasting bland. We also need some seasoning in marriage the kind that enables us to
laugh at ourselves, our failures, and our foibles. And beyond even that, the graciousness that allows
your mate the same latitude for human failure that you give yourself.
A final thought: None of these ingredients taste very good separately but mix them together with
oatmeal, apply heat, and you have something very, very good. Grandmas recipe works for marriage
as it did for oatmeal cookies.
woman finishing their lifes journey together on that path. Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped;
their faces are wrinkled but still radiant; their hearts are physically bowed and tired, but still strong
with love and devotion for one another. Yes there is a more beautiful thing than young love. Old love.
(Anonymous)