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social gathering I heard other experts complain about Italians being pushy and
aggressive. "Why do they always crowd so close, invading my space?"
That's when I finally figured out what was going on. Florence was our fourth or fifth
expatriate assignment. By then we knew that when foreign visitors started a question
with, "Why do they always ..." we were going to hear about another cultural clash. About
that same time I overheard some Greeks and Italians at a bar in Athens describing AngloSaxons as "Cold fish - they always want to keep their distance."
3. Gaze Behaviour
My long assignment in Florence taught me the importance of appropriate gaze behavior.
One day I was walking to the train station accompanied by my friend Paolo. It was only a
ten-minute stroll and there was plenty of time - or there would have been had it not been
for the southern European concept of proper eye contact.
Every time Paolo had something to say he would grab me by the shoulders and turn me
towards him so that we could look directly into each other's eyes. Since talkative Paolo
did that every few steps, I actually ended up missing my train. From that day on I
mentally doubled my estimated walking time when in the company of a Latin European.
4. FORMAL VS. INFORMAL
A few years ago, my employer at that time, a Chicago export management company,
transferred
me
to
Germany
to
expand
sales
in
Europe.
My first appointment was with a distributor of hand-tools located in Stuttgart. I spent that
day in meetings with the boss of the company, Doctor Wilhelm Mller, and I found
myself saying "Herr Dr. Mller" and "Dr. Mller" the whole day. All this formality was
oppressive for a young man from the United States, one of the world's most informal
cultures. So returning to Frankfurt that evening I phoned my German friend.
"Hans, I'm really tired of this medieval formality. How many times do I have to meet
with
this
guy
before
I
can
start
calling
him
'Willi'?"
Fortunately Hans straightened me out on the formality issue right then. "You are asking
when you can start calling Dr. Mller by his first name? Well, the answer is niemals,
Dummkopf!
Never,
you
dummy!"
5. How do you explain the situations described in the following text on the basis of
Gestelands model?
A large US multinational operating in Malaysia noticed that US expatriates and local
managers were not on the same cultural page. In particular: (1) Malaysian managers took
fewer initiatives in front of their bosses; (2) they often said yes when they meant no;
(3) they were upset when a lower status US engineer openly disagreed with his boss in a
meeting.
APPLIES/APPLY
TO
THE
When we moved from Germany to Singapore in 1988 my wife and I decided to try
learning Mandarin on weekends. We hired Stefanie, a pleasant young woman who had
recently immigrated from Taiwan to tutor us.
My lessons were rudely interrupted late that year when my mother passed away and I had
to fly to Wisconsin to attend the funeral. Unfortunately, barely had I returned to
Singapore when my brother phoned again to break the sad news that our father had just
passed away. As you might imagine, this was a very difficult time for me. It happened to
be a Saturday when I got back from this second funeral, and Stefanie dropped by to
enquire why I had missed over a month's worth of lessons. Suffering from grief
compounded by jet lag and exhaustion, I blurted out that both of my parents had just died.
A stricken look flashed across the young woman's face for just a fraction of a second, and
she gasped. Then Stefanie suddenly laughed out loud, right in my face. And proceeded to
giggle for several seconds.
Now, intellectually I was quite aware that people from certain cultures hide their
nervousness, embarrassment or severe stress with a laugh. I also knew 1 should have
broken my sad news much more gently. After all, Stefanie was a Chinese person raised in
the Confucian way: She revered her parents. For her the sudden realization that she could
perhaps lose both of them almost at the same time must have come as a terrible shock.
Nevertheless my immediate reaction to her laugh was visceral. I felt as though I had just
been hit very hard in the stomach. Even though I understood rationally what had
happened I had difficulty relating to Stefanie as I had before the incident. A few weeks
later she stopped coming and we had to find a new Mandarin tutor.