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Loving & Understanding an Empath.
<http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/05/loving-understanding-an-empath/>
Alex Myles
Via Alex Myles <http://www.elephantjournal.com/author/alexsandramyles/>
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Empaths are unique personality types, their sensory levels are
always on high alert, they are incredibly intuitive and their
awareness and sensitivity to the energy levels that vibrate around
them are extremely high.
If an empath senses something, they are not often wrong. If they think
someones lying or that something is just not right you can bet your
last dollar that they are not wrong.
Therefore, a basic understanding of this mystical and quite magical
creature is highly beneficial.
Empaths have quite a few little quirks, traits and characteristics that
are worth knowing about, and gaining a better understanding of, so that
any relationship that is formed has a strong survival chance and also so
that it thrives.
Empaths can be deeply misunderstood. It can take a little time to get to
know them before they fully unravel and until their true magnificent
spirit receives the opportunity to shine.
Love with an empath will be intense as they are energetically sensitive,
therefore they will pick up on everything and anything that is happening
around them. Regardless of whether emotions have been outwardly
expressed, empaths will experience their partners emotions as deeply as
they feel their own.
It is impossible to try to hide true feelings when romantically involved
with an empath as they will likely have figured them out long before the
person feeling them has. Empaths are highly intuitive yet sometimes fail
to trust their inner voice as too many people have previously tried to
wrongly convince them that their gut feelings were wrong.

Being a little nave and trusting at times, the empath has doubted
themselves and pushed aside their intuition, causing them to lose faith
in the power they hold within that alerts them to any perceived signs of
danger. That being said, the little nagging voice in the empaths head
will not subside until the reality and truth has been fully uncovered.
Empaths like truth. However hard it is to handle, they would rather be
told things straight than told a lie, even if it is a white one.
Although the truth isnt always pretty, it is much nicer than spending
days and nights trying to make sense of all the complicated energies and
subliminal messaging systems that are going on.
If its one thing that empaths are amazing at it is dealing with a
brutally raw and honest relationship. Although they can be rather
delicate creatures on some levels, their strength in relationships is
found where honesty, trust and loyalty come before anything else.
Empaths can be perceived as having hearts that are caged in. Although,
this is only true when they have been deceived so many times they feel
that their only option is protection. The true spirit of an empath wants
to give and receive love in abundance, though they are only able to do
this when they feel safe and secure that they are in a safe place to
open the door and allow the love to flow.
One of the most tragic parts about the empaths character is that all too
often the love is cast out in all the wrong places. Empaths feel the
pain and sorrow of the whole world and feel that they want to heal and
fix the world up and make things better for all concerned. This can be
an amazingly powerful thing and this energy is exactly what the world
needs. However, this can also be a deeply painful way to exist.
Not everyone sees the world the way an empath views it and because of
this, an empaths heart will be broken constantly and they will bleed
endlessly for cruelty, injustice and inequalities. There will be many
who will want to take the love, affection and the empaths good nature
with no care for giving any return.
Whilst this can teach an empath a lot about unconditional love and also
an immense amount about self-preservation, it is also a deeply painful
learning process.
An empath will fail to understand why others do not give out care,
consideration and affection freely and why other people can so easily
turn a blind eye to heartbreak and suffering when healing is what is
required. Others may ridicule and belittle the empaths desire to reach
out and make a difference, and this serves to add salt to their wounds.
When an empath feels hurt, what they need most is loving support and
understanding so that they know they are not alone in wanting to use
some of their powerful energy to heal and make changes in the world; if
they receive this from a partner, a bond for life will very likely form.
Empaths will fall into the hands of those who want to take advantage of
their somewhat nave and caring nature. Again, this is another sharp
lesson and one that can cause an empath to develop a sense of mistrust
and what leads to protecting their emotions with barriers and brick walls.
It can also lead to an empath to feelings of unworthiness and also
low-self esteem, as once they have depleted their energy reserves to

such a low level by giving and not understanding how to protect
themselves in the process, they can end up with a broken heart and with
very little faith in mankind.
It is not in an empaths nature to take, they only know how to give, so
to ensure the relationship is one of balance and is also harmonious,
ensure the empath is shown love in the form of actions, so that the
circle of love flows freely. Words will mean little to an empath, unless
they are followed through. Their intuition will quickly pick up on
something done with poor intent, or if a persons words are inauthentic.
To love someone who is an empath means to recognise that they thrive
when the flames are turned up, not down. An empath gives off a powerful
and energetic fuel of love, light and radiance, though the fire only
fully rages when an empath exists in a sacred place within which they
feel secure enough to glow.
Empaths are soft, delicate and immensely vulnerable creatures on the
inside, although, once burnt, on the outside they can appear incredibly
strong. Once bitten, twice shy where an empath is concerned, they find
it very difficult to forget deep wounds and to continue a relationship
once foundations are rocked.
The best way to fully connect with an empath is by creating a safe and
solid platform to build a future upon. If cracks appear through mistrust
and deceit, it can become immensely difficult to repair them. Empaths
thrive on trust, loyalty and dependability. Show them these things and
the relationship will be very difficult to break.
As empaths are highly passionate people, they will often find a strong
connection to a hobby or interest that others will find impossible to
penetrate. Due to their creative side, they may find a resonance with
music, dance, writing, art, activism, reading, Yoga, meditation,
humanitarian causes or other similar interests. Whatever it is that has
captured the mind of an empath will be become sacred in their hearts.
Empaths will immerse themselves in their hobbies and lose themselves
completely and sometimes this can feel as though their interests are the
only things that matter to them. Although they will have a deep
attachment to their passions, it is far easier to understand that an
empath loves all things at great levels of intensity and they need
outside interests to survive and feel alive, this can sometimes be
difficult for others to understand.
Space, plenty of space, and freedom to explore and submerge in their
chosen activity is the easiest way to deal with this. Asking an empath
to choose may not give the desired outcome that would be hoped for. The
heart quickly gets connected to passionate interests, and once that
connection has been made, the heart will be break if it has to be severed.
Respect and understanding for anothers alone time can make or break a
relationship with an empath. An empath will not want or expect anyone
else to dive as deeply into their interests as they do, however, an
understanding that their interests are significantly important can
really make life a whole lot easier.
There is no need to feel ostracised or unwelcome, while theres a little
chance an empath will let you fully in to their special interest, it is
far more likely they will gain more pleasure when they are wrapped up in
it by themselves. This is not selfish or inconsiderate, it is just

simply how the empaths heart and spirit operate.
If they have a connection to something, it is intense and they will very
likely wish to delve as deeply into it as is possible. Passions are a
great energy release and empaths will possibly feel as though they
zone-out while immersed, and they will very likely lose all track of
time. Allow them to take pleasure in it, and with the free time this has
created, take up interests separately rather than allowing resentment or
frustration to build.
It possibly wont last for too long, as empaths are known to move
quickly from one interest to another once the initial burning desire of
connection eventually simmers down.
As empaths are sensitive to energy, their worst-case scenarios are
confrontations and aggressive situations. Although under normal
circumstances they are one of the least violent and aggressive
characters, they can very easily lose their self-control if they become
absorbed in the negative and toxic energy that surrounds them. Empaths
are fight or flight characters who more often than not, will prefer to
take flight and remove themselves from the weight that the energy is
bearing down on them.
If situations like this occur regularly, it can eventually lead empaths
to become introverted and homebodies as they prefer the safety of their
own environment where they are not subjected to the rise and fall of
other peoples energies. After attending any kind of social situation,
they will need downtime to recharge and to balance out their own energy
fields.
Places such as supermarkets, nightclubs, the cinema or anywhere where
there is a large crowd of people, will be very draining for an empath.
They are very sensitive to light and sound, so these things can also
have a detrimental and draining effect on an empaths psyche. An empath
will likely need to hold on to their partners hand or arm during such
occasions, finding that their partners energy forms a soothing welcome
block and temporary release from the energies that surround.
After attending any social function an empath may feel completely
drained and the effects can be temporarily debilitating, meaning that
all an empath will want to do is sleep or rest, possibly alone, until
the absorbing effects of the occasion have worn off.
All in all, it will take a very secure, confident and balanced person to
form a solid mutually beneficial and rewarding relationship with an
empath. The empath personality type is a unique and extremely enchanting
gift to the world. As long as their wings are not clipped, and they have
the freedom and space to fly, it has the opportunity to be a deeply
rewarding, incredibly loving and spiritually awakening relationship for
both involved.
A connection with an empath can be a blessing and one of the greatest
gifts from the universe as it offers the opportunity to look at the
world through the lens of a kaleidoscope. Everything that may have once
seemed normal for a relationship will be turned upside down as a new
understanding and perspective is learned and the unconscious mind is
preened open.
At times it may feel like being in the company of a magically gifted
being who has special powers that we have been led to believe do not
exist within humans. This can be both a blessing and a curse. Nothing
will get past an empath as they see, feel and connect with everything at
all times.
The one thing I would strongly recommend is to peel back all the layers
that society labels as norms, standards and expectations. We are
then free to discover a brand new way of existing; giving and receiving
unconditional love, being fully alive in the moment, connecting deep
within the core of our primal being and reigniting all the superpowers
that are inherent within man.
A relationship with an empath can lead to uncovering special gifts such
as intuition, energy awareness, deep connection and a brand new level of
understanding the fellow man without the need for speech. All the things
the modern world has tried, for far too long, to convince us we should deny.
True love can be a very difficult thing for an empath to achieve,
although with the right person, with someone understanding, grounded,
free spirited and trustworthy, love can be an intimate, deeply bonding,
healing, fulfilling, empowering and healthy addiction that neither will
want to break.
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Wow!! This explains me to the letter!! I have been called a hermit.
agoraphobic, and other things. Ive known for years that im an Empath
because i have always picked up other peoples joy, pain, health
conditions, etc. When you say in this article that going out into
society drains us, you are absolutely spot on. It can take me days to
recuperate and i even feel ill with no explanation- no medical one
anyway lol. I am a medium. and an empath and that causes me to just KNOW
when im being lied to, or used or really truly loved. Thank you so much
for validating what ive known for years. And, yes, it will absolutely
take a very strong man to understand who i really am for me to ever be
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Alex, this is a beautiful article and I totally appreciated the clarity
it brings to those of us that feel so deeply. Thanks for sharing! Would
you be so kind as to say Matt Giordano and Rebecca Rasmussen are the
people in the photo, it wasn t an easy decision for us to be totally
vulnerable and pose in front of a camera for the world to see so we
would be totally grateful for the acknowledgement our artistry as well.
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Patti / 46 weeks ago <#IDComment973142097>/
I only wish I had been enlightened decades ago. Great read and spot on!!
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Serena Simi / 46 weeks ago <#IDComment973171476>/
Touched by the accuracy of this post..and found that it described many
conditions. At times, I found myself substituting the word "human" for
"empath", at others "introverts" and yet others "Capricorn;" all other
labels for me.
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As an empath myself it was really difficult to find an eprson who loves
me unconditionally but i found it. I felt this inexplicable draw to my
boyfriend for 12yrs before we dated and I have to say I am so lucky to
have a man who loves me unconditionally. He may not be happy about me
avoiding certain situations but he is ok with it. He always tries to
calm me down when I need it and is there for the really tough
times.Trusting people is so hard when you are an empath. And sometimes
draining. I always have my friends asking me for adivce on their
problems and it is draining. But my boyfriend keeps me grounded. He is
the same as me. I actually got genetic testing done and found out I am
one of the few people with the empathy gene. I wonder how many empaths
have this gene too.
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Lorin / 46 weeks ago <#IDComment973214807>/
An amazing read. I have been in love with a fellow empath, Becky, for
over two years now in a mostly long-distance relationship. Although, she
did not realize she was one until I told her. It is uncanny how we sense
each other s presence, each other s energy. And we have allowed each
other to wander freely in each other s heart and soul. As you say, when
we are connected, it is a truly magical experience. But when we are
slightly disconnected, it is a grueling energy-depleting ordeal.
The biggest thing we are dealing with right now is how to give each
other enough space to be our authentic selves. Thank you, Alex, for
helping us understand the beauty of what we have.
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Krista / 46 weeks ago <#IDComment973349015>/
You nailed it. Thank you. Living a life of being misunderstood is how an
empath feels constantly. I m so happy people have this opportunity to
see it from our side!
My heart does break and bleed- it feels like 1,000 times a day. A true
blessing and a curse;)
Good vibes to you!
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Amelie / 46 weeks ago <#IDComment973363132>/
"They are very sensitive to light and sound, so these things can also
have a detrimental and draining effect on an empaths psyche. An empath
will likely need to hold on to their partners hand or arm during such
occasions, finding that their partners energy forms a soothing welcome
block and temporary release from the energies that surround."
And yet, I know that you would agree if I asserted these characteristics
of "empaths" are not mutually exclusive, and all humans share these
qualities to varying degrees, and not all empaths are incapable of
navigating places like grocery stores without their significant other?
It is possible to be sensitive to the tones and moods of people around
you without also being hypersensitive to things like gluten, sound, and
confrontations. (I know you didn t mention gluten, but I think we can
all agree it s implied for the subset you believe you re describing.)
It all just reeks of a hypersensitivity born out of an insulated
existence. And what does it mean if someone is not an empath? Are they a
dullard? A less sensitive or intuitive person? There are many, many
types of intuition, just as there are many types of creativity. I would
love to hear from an individual who considers him/herself an empath and
has also confronted major hardship, loss, or poverty! Speak up if you re
there!
I think what bothers me the most is that your hypersensitive readers
will self-identify as "empath" and then use that as an excuse to keep
themselves insulated. Maybe I ll be wrong? Thanks for writing it anyway;
it has inspired a new perspective for me. :-)

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Kristen Wilmot / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973472400>/
Wow! Now I understand my friend better! She s most definitely an empath.
You described her to a tee. Thank you so much for enlightening me!
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JB / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973476082>/
I did not know I was an empath until recently. I see this in my 4yr old
granddaughter, how can I possibly help her. She s much too young to
explain protection to.
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Gwen / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973482273>/
YES!!
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Donna / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973546531>/
This is me .I always am very intuitive and sense other people s pain
.and get exhausted when I go out to concerts or big crowds or even out
with friends I need down time . Amazing great article ,saving this
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Firefly / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973578435>/
I find that I have to be very careful about owning things that are
second hand as I can feel the energy from previous owners. It s
difficult because I m not always in the financial position to own things
that are brand new.
I can even pick up energy on things that people have touched. I was sent
a book a few weeks ago. Before I even received the book, I knew it was
coming. I picked up a lot of energy from that book.
I don t tell people that I am an Empath...husband doesn t even know...he
doesn t believe in these things. There are a small amount of people who
have picked up on it though...possibly similar people.
I used to be scared and confused about being an Empath, but not so much
now.
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Kat / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973607442>/
Thank you so very much, Alex, for sharing this. In my mid-40s, I am just
now discovering that I am an empath and not just an unlovable freak that
is way too sensitive and has a knack for choosing to love people who
can t (or choose not to) return it to me. I cannot express how
comforting it was for your piece to help me realize that I am not alone
and that it is possible for me to find someone who can understand and
love me just the way I am. Much gratitude for reaching out to me and
other sensitive souls. Peace and love to you.
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Darinka / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973657507>/
Incredible. I don t think anyone has described me this well and with so
much detail. I think the only one thing that I would add to myself
personally, is that I tent to forgive (never forget) those that have
stabbed me and been intrusive in some ways. I guess I like to give
second chances to certain people and I try to see the positive in them.
This includes when I have removed myself from someones life, because of
their negative-toxic energy. I always hope they have changed in some
way, even though deep down inside I know they haven t. After a second or
third chance, I completely dim the light with them and never turn it on
again. I have learned and became an expert at turning my switch on and
off, even though its painful with some people. Some have labeled me as
weird, strange, full of it, even called me a fibber or story teller, not
realizing I speak from the heart. Then when they realize I was right,
they apologize or want to know how I knew. Thank you, Thank you Alex for
this wonderful article.
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Julianna / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973725497>/
What about empaths who drink to dilute their sensitivities?
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kay / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973790771>/
Hello I think you are confused and doing a diservice to true empath.
What you are describing for the most part is highly sensitive people or
empathic.
While various aspect of your essay are true . You paint an untrained
highly confused empath.
You fail to mention that many true empath are aware of their gift/curse
depending how you look at it. Some empath shamelessly use their
abilities on the non empath. You need a balanced approach when
discussing this topic.
True empath are maybe 4% of the population. They are at a disadvantage.
This isn t like LGBT issues. Their (LGBT identities) do not adversely
affect people. Empaths do. Empaths have the ability to read people, see
lies, and manipulate people based upon their emotions. Right now they
are relegated to airy fairy notions so they are ignored. One only has to
watch Sci fi shows like star trek to see what could happen when
telepathy and empath are exposed to a general population. In one episode
of star trek next generation an ambassador concealed his empath
abilities and shamelessly exploited non empath. Do you see parralel in
our society? The sales person you can t say no to, the charismatic
politician...etc. You believe that the empath is just suffering. .what
would happen if they harnessed their abilities.
Another episode I highly recommend you watch. Star trek voyager empath
are rounded up and destroyed by a fearful species. Remember a fully
aware society can be destructive.
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Yes! Finally, a tutorial on the subject of Me. I m so glad I m not
alone, though of course I knew that already.... now, to learn to split
from negative energies instead of allowing them to pervade. That is the
current task upon me. I thank you for the affirmations here, dear one.
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To sum up so much of your article, it would be easy to just say, "many
empaths are "shamans," or have many of the same characteristics. Many of
us deep down are very spiritual, and if something does not affect us
spiritually it is of little use or concern. We have visions that are
often a "time frame" of something that will happen. Many of us are
forced to live literally in two worlds. I had a near death experience
and that world was much more real than this one is to me now. The dream
world is powerful...and oftentimes scary as we confront our true natures
(like the silverback gorilla), and see beyond the beyond (if we have the
courage and stamina). Sometimes we are forced to live lives where the
absolute strange and unusual is a daily occurrence. I joke about driving
with an empath who drives by some strange radar. Logic is our enemy and
we make decisions by already knowing. Time for us is not linear, but
circular, and it can be easy to see things coming. Many empaths are
INFP s on the Myer-Briggs. We are healers, and this is the blessing and
curse -- to be able to see what people really need and not be able to
give it to them, unless they are really ready. Sometimes they are the
"Magic Man" of song fame, and can heal with sensuousness. I once wrote
that the only way the moth can avoid the flame is having a brighter
light within. Empaths can learn to allow that light in and tap into
"the" source. However, it is an extremely lonely way of life. We see all
the needless pain, and the "demons" people are afraid to face (actually
angels healing us to become unfettered and joyful.) Just having giving
us empathy about our unusually strong, often strange, feelings is the
best gift we can ever have. Make us feel safe! Don t try to understand
us. That just makes us nervous. Just give us a safe place to "be who we
will become" and we will do the rest. And life will never be boring, and
you will even be blessed to ride along with them. They see so much more
than the rest of the crowd, and often find serendipity.
"I was one within and one without while living in a dream I had no
doubt." I wrote that 50 years ago...and it is more true today than
yesterday.
Blessings,
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Chuck / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment973833063>/
I resonate with almost all of this. However, I do think that there are
more "extroverted" empaths and "introverted" empaths. For me, going to
crowds can be a way of being in the swim of a lot of different peoples
energies and can actually be a great way to distract or delight through
other peoples/beings energies. For those of us who are extroverted
empaths, being around a lot of different energies can feel life giving
rather than overwhelming. I think the difference between empaths and non
empaths regardless of their "introverted/extroverted" tendencies is that
there is a need for sorting out self and other after the experience of
interactions like these. And often this process looks similar for all
types of empaths. But for me, holding onto the arm of someone close to
me in the crowd as you describe in the article would just be more
stimuli to sort through. Practices such a sheilding and grounding would
help me more with overwhelm then adding the energy of a beloved.
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Veronica Toohey / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment974127623>/
This article is exactly me and I can see exactly how I have soaked up
and taken on board what others say I m SUPPOSED to be! I am now
struggling to release all the build up of others misunderstanding of me.
Now I know why I have had major outbursts as I ve become older - I just
could NOT understand why, when I genuinely and spontaneously do "nice"
things and embrace the empathetic path (even if it hurt me) - that
others still were suspicious or judged me as inauthentic!!! I was (am
still a little) so incredibly hard on myself.
The "blindsiding" that occurred all of my life is explained!!!
I think I have played a bit of a victim - and I don t enjoy that.
Now I can see that actually I am beautiful and authentic and that I am
actually a ridiculously nice person - the reaction of others is their
issue/suspicion and I am fine!!!
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Dan / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment974261663>/
Well, I m an empath and no more than about half of this pertains to me.
I don t always mind crowds or being around people. I don t always like
participating in my hobbies alone, I don t always need to "recharge"
after being around crowds, I don t normally read, I don t normally
write, I ve NEVER done yoga (and don t plan on starting), I don t always
meditate, etc. I live my life like any other person, I m just simply an
empath.
I think this is a fantastic, informative article, but I believe this is
also misleading about all empaths. We re not all miserable and
super-sensitive to the point we can t deal with everybody and everything
around us.
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Cece / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment974279546>/
I have always known I was an empath, but this explains to me so much
about ME and my life. Even my own son does not believe I can feel words
in something written. Thank you!
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Monica / 45 weeks ago <#IDComment974357976>/
I m so blessed a friend shared this on Face Book. Describes us divinely
& we should start an empath club not only for support but to bring the
tribe together. For so many years walked this life being questioned why
do I reach out to people to help if I don t get anything in return,
what s the point. Or you re shy, no I just see thru the B.S & don t want
to hurt their feelings. lol Yes, sometimes it was a roller coaster. Dove
into feet to head in spiritual journey 3 years ago and never looked back
from meditation, yoga, & just doing what my heart feels not even asking
why was the best step ever to learning about myself; coping mechanism or
just letting loose idk but happier than I ve ever been relationship or
not it will all come at it s time. :)
I feel God has given this gift for a reason not only to teach about
unconditional love but to heal pacha mama for the next generations to
come. Thank you so much for writing this, love & light my sister. :)
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Thank you. I always knew I had a great deal of empathy and entered into
a long career I n law enforcement to help people. But it drained me and
my relationships suffered. I found I was with people that I wanted to
help, but had only interest in getting what they could financially from
me.. I am now at the point I can t trust anyone and feel more alone than
I ever have. I m meditating and staying centered. I m just at anyone
lone standstill anyone lines to what to do next. My Jesus complex is
overwhelming. I feel if I retreat I m not doing what I was put on this
Planet to do. What a quandary. Your article gave me some clarity, so I
thank yup for that.
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Ive been wondering and searching to find out whats wrong with me
for 38 years. A few days ago someone pointed out that I am an
empath. I felt she was right, did some looking, and found out that I
meet every single trait. I feel free now, unburdened, and even more
hopeful. Now I can stop being a hermit, learn how to protect myself,
and live my life happily again. It feels amazing to finally know why
Im different, AND to know Im not alone. Thank you so very much for
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October 28, 2015 at 03:44
A blessing or a curse definitely!
It may seem like a wonderful thing until the world BURNS YOU down,
cuts your wings, leaves you with a broken heart numerous times and
makes you lose all faith in mankind whatsoever I still do not
understand how people can be insensitive and completely oblivious to
other people s situations, feelings, concerns, ideas, etc
I am 30 years old and this world has managed to crush me and my
spirit completely Still haven t figured out how to protect myself
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There are online support groups for empaths. Dont give up.
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Alma says:
October 28, 2015 at 17:13
She always knew she a had a sensitive open hearteness to her as she
felt so deeply the pains of the world. Rather than hide away her
pain and fear she chose to open herself to them and fall in love
with the world again. The world immediately fell in love with her.
This insight gave me hope at the start of the year when
energetically things seemed very intense. We may be sensitive but in
our sensitivity we find our super power! Thank you for this
beautiful article celebrating our way of being and seeing. Much love
for all the empaths <3
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Dwayne Anthony says:
October 30, 2015 at 11:08
This passage is really neat and insightful. I truly feel I am an

emptah. I really needed to read this today. It gave me a new view. I
dont have to blame myself for being myself. I am me and I have to be
happy as me. Thank you to the person who first posted this. Also
thank you to the person I know who posted this. Although I am sure
you mean your the empath but your a gypsy
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Michelle says:
November 16, 2015 at 06:47
I am an empath who was born to a parent I believe has asperger s
syndrome and ended up with a partner who had it as well. The number
of empaths who end up with aspies is quite high actually, because
they need someone to help them access and understand their emotions
and we need to help people do that.
Growing up was traumatic and really messed me up, but being with my
partner has helped me over time, to slowly learn to find validation
in myself instead of seeking others to give it to me.
If you are an empath and in a relationship with someone who seems
cold emotionally and a little odd or off but you can t think why,
research AS.
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Kristina says:
December 22, 2015 at 13:03
Thank you so much for this article, am in my late 40 s and feel its
time to embrace this gift, Oh I knew from when I was very young of
this highly sensitive feeling along with the third eye always going
crazy, was always trying to bury it away with drinking alcohol. It
has been almost 10 years since drinking, and now with healthy eating
and herbal teas, am feeling more comfortable with the gift, but am
still very sensitive to light and sound, much time is spent outdoors
in nature with the pets. awesome post!
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Sherri says:
February 1, 2016 at 13:49
Its good to finally put some validity to my feelings. I am feeling

blessed to have been given these traits. Im still hopeful (Im 60)
in finding that strong person who can walk by my side and know how
to handle me. We empaths need someone who is willing to hold on
loosely.
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