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Peer Evaluation:
Francisco Cabasag
Samuel Cruz
Jay Javelosa
HyeLim Kim
Juun Kim
Giuseppe Romano
Javelosa, Jay
Kim, HyeLim
Kim, Juun
Romano, Giuseppe
relationship through extending oneself. We realize that, when one becomes too
controlling over their partner, they are not thinking about the spiritual growth of
their partner; they are actually hindering their human maturity because they are
stopping their partner from growing as an individual; and in effect, their own
spiritual growth is also hindered. We see that the love one might claim to feel
for ones partner that supposedly drives the motive to be controlling--it is not
genuine love.
An experience of another member affirms that the loss of trust can only
lead to more issues in the relationship--after an experience with her boyfriend
that broke her trust, their love grew weary. This is another issue with regards
to couples in long distance relationships who have yet to fully commit to one
another--changes in their feelings for one another. As Scott Peck has stated,
falling in love is only temporary, and no matter what we do, we will eventually
fall out of love, the honeymoon phase will end.
A groupmate shared that in a past relationship, a point came wherein both
of them became too busy or tired to stay always connected--which eventually
led to their emotional disconnect. A point in a couples relationship such as this,
we realize, is where they start tofall out of love--they would start doubting
their relationship and their love for one another, until they grow apart; on the
other hand, we also realize that this could be where genuine love, driven by
effort and will, has an opportunity to grow and flourish.
Issues such as lack of trust and falling out of love can sometimes really
plague long distance relationships. This is why long distance relationships are
very challenging to keep--it takes a lot out will, effort, and commitment--so
much that at times, the success in long distance relationships would say
something about how genuine the couples love for each other is.
Drawing on Scott Pecks insights, some points can be made regarding
long distance relationships--one is that, in order to make it work, both persons
in the relationship must be strong and independent from one another--one
should not rely solely on the other for happiness and fulfillment. We see that
this dependency seeks only to fulfill the needs of the self, and that it
infantilizes the passively dependent person. The end goal is that both persons
would be comfortable with their commitment with one another that they would
be able to trust in their love for one another with regards to their growth, as well
as their fidelity.
Another point is that the couple should have the will to keep their long
distance relationship growing. As has been defined, love is the extension of
ones will, and this means that feelings or emotions should not be the basis of
love, but rather, it should be ones will to grow with the other. We realize that
the couple should persistently choose to love each other even after falling out
of love, and choose to understand and respect one anothers opinions even in
conflicts (contrary to an irresponsible mother decathecting a rebellious child).