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5/3/06
<Matthew 19:1-12>
• We are the ones who had already received the eternal conclusion; therefore we
need not be afraid of any temporary ironies in our lives now.
• Though we face contradictions, but once we restore the eternal perspectives by
the Spirit, we will realize that all our problems will bring us greater blessings
• The Gospel of Jesus Christ surpasses everything that is of the flesh
• E.g. the river water might be very dirty, but once it flows into the great ocean, its
dirt will not be seen, and the water will become ever clean
• Interpersonal relationship is actually the thing that gives us the most problems
and contradictions. For our whole lives, we are troubled, provoked or hurt by
people all around us.
• Why do we want to suffer pains by wanting to stand in front of men? We should
live our lives by standing before the Lord.
• We are being sent to this Earth just like how Jesus was sent. Therefore, we must
receive blessings from all forms of relationships and become the source of
blessings to all people. From there, the greatest blessings will come.
• Amongst all the relationships, the spousal relationship is the most important
• Spousal relationships are the most impt of all relationships. In fact, all
relationships come from the spousal relationship between Adam and Eve.
Therefore, the restoration of all relationships comes from the restoration of
spousal relationship.
• As a spousal relationship is the closest unity of 2 people, a person can only truly
enjoy his other relationships if he enjoys his spousal relationship, (or at least he
receives answers amidst the ironies of his spousal relationship).
• Comparing to this era, there are much lesser problems between husband and wife
in the past, say, 200-300yrs ago.
• There are increasingly complicated problems in the relationship between husband
and wife and 30-40% of the population are facing marriage problems
• Since men left God, they cannot control but feel loss and empty easily. Therefore,
they love easily and part easily. Therefore, this is an increasing problem in this era
with more than 50% divorce rates in the western countries and 30-40% in the
Asia countries.
• Therefore, we cannot rigidly impose God’s principle to all people but instead, we
must find the most perfect will and answer from God for people in each and
different spousal situation.
• In any situation or problem, God has His most beautiful plans for His loved ones
• Be it you are married, single, about to marry or about to divorce/part, everything
will have God’s wonderful plan. And there are always answers in your current
situation.
2. Marriage
1) A man and a woman
• Look at Abraham & Sarah. They started with a very blissful marriage but
problems come when Hagar comes into the picture even when Hagar was
given to Abraham by Sarah herself.
• No husband and wife are able to accept a third party because this is
against the will of God. If not, God would have created two Eve for Adam
or two Adam for Eve. This is the principle put in men’s life when they are
created.
• Another example would be David
• His family problems (his son turn against him and children turn against
each other) come when he had taken Uriah’s wife to be his 2 nd wife.
Although David is still very blessed, but he will need to pay the price on
earth for going against God’s principle by having a 2 nd wife. This is
because of Satan’s blasphemy and accusation before God.
Divorce
• Our church will neither support nor pray for any case of divorce from within
the congregation because it is God’s principle that nobody should divorce
• Normally, those who wants to divorce will have tons of reasons for doing so
• However, we must examine if those reasons discovered are from God or not
• If you really belong to Jesus Christ, you must first believe that the person
whom you had married is definitely arranged and planned by God. It happens
in God’s perfect will
• Then you must die and resurrect with Jesus Christ and not look at the
marriage situation alone. Then you must receive the help of the Holy Spirit to
restore your marriage, and then wait and see how God is working
• A lot of people who wanted a divorce cannot have a clear view of their
marriage in the state of walking with God
• In other words, they do not pray correctly
• In the process of considering a divorce, have we walk with God and submit to
Him?
3) If even after you’d restored Immanuel, willing to renew yourself, love and
submit to the Lord even more and really wish to save the marriage, but still
cannot stand living together with your spouse, you should get separated first
and pray once again
4) Definitely need to be slow and be driven. Let God work. The Bible also said: if
the unbelieving husband/wife wants to leave you, let him/her do so.
5) If all the above are done but the marriage still cannot be saved, then you
should resolute to stay single forever after the divorce
• You cannot seek a divorce because you want to get freed from that
marriage legally so as to enter into another marriage. This is a total
adulterous heart and will be disciplined greatly.
Already Divorced
• Do not get married again, and be set free fully from the bondages of
marriages.
• We’ve to understand what is marriage?
• Marriage is not just about signing the legal documents. It is about two become
one flesh
• God will be extra merciful over those who had already divorced and wanted to
remain single. God will also be more gracious over his/her children, needs, etc
• And God is faithful, he will also provide a way out for them to overcome their
temptations
• God said that He is the Lord of the widows and orphans
• The only condition is that that person must rely on God alone, wholeheartedly.
• Therefore, for those who are already divorced:
1) Let Jesus Christ will become his/her eternal husband. However, temptation will
come. Thus, he/she must:
2) Live a church centered life. Live a life of vision. They are able to bring lots of
blessings to the church and the church will also bless them greatly
3) 90% of their ministries should be placed on the children. Pray for the children
and teach them. Heal them of their ironies because of the parents’ broken
marriage.
4) Must be freed from that wound and receive the historical answer to bless and
help many others who had similar situations.
3. In all things God works for the good of those who love Him
• Everything happened for your ‘goodness’ if you are indeed loved by God
• Therefore, do not think of doing this or that first, but love God first. Only those
who love God will see the goodness that comes along with each and every
situation.
• Before you do anything, you must love God and submit to Him first and all His
goodness will be revealed to you and be enjoyed by you.
• God’s will for us is not to be regretful over anything but to forget the past and
strain on towards ahead and live our life as how God wants us to live.
• Therefore, do not attempt to change anything purposely but remain in that
situation and make the best out of it.
• In that current situation, rely more on God and discover His will; with that
current situation, renew ourselves, with that current situation, use it for the
kingdom; in that current situation, receive answers for blessing others,… that,
itself is loving God and submitting to God.
• Such a person will see the full love and blessings of God coming upon him all
his life.
• Is there any problem too big to be resolved if a person is really relying the
great power of the Gospel?
• <1 Corinthians 7:24, 7:29> You must live by having a perspective on the
Kingdom of God, and this itself lay the answers to all current ironies in our
marriages.