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After the #1 Bestseller, How to Find Your One True Love,

Bo Sanchez’s How to Find Your One True Love (Book 2) comes this much awaited and exciting sequel…

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True Love, ended. In this exciting course, he will virtually hold your hand and lead you
step-by-step through the journey of finding your One True Love.

Here’s a tiny fraction of what you’ll learn from Book 2:


• In Book 1, Bo Sanchez discussed the eight Prisons of Fears and Internal Blocks.
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• You’ll learn how to get out of a bad relationship — which is crucial so you’ll be
open to a new one!
• You’ll learn how to develop your charm, which you’ll discover is actually tied
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• So you can clarify and focus on what and who you want, this course will help
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and Marry the Partner of
• Through an 18-Point Moral Inventory, you’ll define what you need to change Your Dreams
inside you. Because at the end of the day, right character is very attractive!
• Through a 6-Item Emotional Health Evaluation, you’ll learn what you need to
mature in you. And equally important, you’ll know if a boyfriend or girlfriend
is emotionally healthy as well.
• You’ll also find out if you and your potential OTL are compatible.
• You’ll learn how to encourage your boyfriend to propose marriage (This is
important!)
• You’ll discover the three Counterfeit Love Styles to watch out from your
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 Learn to live a fantastic life. Log on to www.bosanchez.ph
How to Find Your One True Love Book 2

After the #1 Bestseller, How to Find Your One True Love,


comes this much awaited and exciting sequel…

BOOK
The Complete Course Manual on How to
Attract, Choose and Marry the Partner
of Your Dreams

Bo Sanchez
#1 Bestselling Author of 8 Secrets of the Truly Rich
and Your Past Does Not Define Your Future


Other Books by Bo Sanchez
8 Secrets of the Truly Rich
How to Find Your One True Love
Your Past Does Not Define Your Future

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How to Be Really, Really, Really Happy
You Can Make Your Life Beautiful
You Have the Power to Create Love
Fill Your Life with Miracles

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How to Find Your One True Love Book 2

A Note from the Author


to the Owner of
How to Find Your One True Love Book 2:
The Complete Course Manual on How to
Attract, Choose and Marry the Partner
of Your Dreams

Congratulations!
This Complete Course offers a more comprehensive, more detailed, more step-by-
step approach than my first book, How to Find Your One True Love.
While my first book touched the surface of the topics, we’ll go in-depth and
apply the truths you learned in the book — which makes the difference between
night and day.
And like my first book, I speak to the same audience.

1. I speak to all singles, but especially to mature singles: those nearing 30 and
beyond.

2. I speak to men and women, but especially to women. So if a man is reading this,
please mentally translate “Woman” and “Girl” and “Sister” to “Man” and “Boy”
and “Brother” for topics that are adaptable to both genders.

Turn the page and start your exciting journey of finding your one true love.


How to Find Your One True Love BOOK 2
The Complete Course Manual on How to Attract, Choose
and Marry the Partner of Your Dreams

ISBN- 978-971-93671-4-7

Bo Sanchez
Bestselling author of 8 Secrets of the Truly Rich
and Your Past Does Not Define Your Future

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How to Find Your One True Love Book 2

Contents

Introduction 9

Step #1: Take Responsibility for Finding Your One True Love 13
Action #1: Form Your Support Team for Operation OTL 15
Action #2: Grow in Character 17
Action #3: Get Emotionally Healthy 22
Action #4: Know Yourself 47

Step #2: Know What’s Stopping You Inside 51


Action #1: Study the Different Kinds of Internal Blocks and Prisons of Fear 52
Action #2: What Are Your Internal Blocks and Prisons of Fear? 69
Action #3: How to Get Out of Bad Relationships 72

Step #3: Talk to Lots of Guys 77
Action #1: Straighten Out Your Theology 79
Action #2: A More Complete List of Places to Go 82
Action #3: Meet Three-New-Men-a-Week Challenge 84
Action #4: Take the “Hello” Challenge 87
Action #5: Develop Your Charm 88
Action #6: What Is Your Body Saying? 90
Action #7: Opening Questions and More… 92
Action #8: Prepared Answers Will Help 94
Action #9: Be Direct in Your Admiration if You Like Him 95

Step #4: Have As Many Friendly Dates As Humanly Possible 99


Action #1: Follow the Rules of Friendly Dates 101
Action #2: Date with Zero Expectations 103
Action #3: Tell Everyone You’re Open to Friendly Dates 104
Action #4: Connect with Him 106

Step #5: Be Attractive 111


Action #1: Rate Yourself—How Attractive Are You? 112


Action #2: Choose Three Attraction Secrets to Work On 113
Action #3: Love Your Body’s Unique Beauty 115
Action #4: Have a Makeover — Inside and Out! 117
Action #5: Be as Super Healthy as You Can Be 125

Step #6: Know What You Want in a Spouse 129


Action #1: Know the Differences between Your Lists 130
Action #2: Check for Red Flags 132
Action #3: Write Your Must-Have List 135
Action #4: Write Your Must-Not-Have List 137
Action #5: Write Your Wish List 139

Step #7: Enter into Courtship 141


Action #1: Review Actions in My First Book 142
Action #2: Watch Out for These Three Counterfeit Love Styles 144
Action #3: Are You Compatible? 149
Action #4: How to Encourage a Man to Propose Marriage 152
Action #5: 70 Questions for Engaged Couples 157

Step #8: Trust God and Enjoy Life 173


Action #1: Know the Difference between Aloneness and Loneliness 175
Action #2: Make Relationships a Priority 177
Action #3: Open Your Heart to Others 179
Action #4: Give Warmth Now 180
Action #5: Be Committed to Non-Stop Growth 182
Action #6: In Your Loneliness, Connect to God 184

References 186

Single Men (or Women) Log 187


How to Find Your One True Love Book 2

Introduction

I believe marriage is one of the greatest things in this universe.


God invented it, designed it, created it and blessed it.
Some people ridicule and criticize the idea of having a course like this. They
say, “Why will I deliberately search for my spouse? That’s totally absurd, juvenile
and unspiritual. I’ll leave that to God, thank you.”
But this same woman will deliberately search (shop, hunt, read ads, call
up the yellow pages, ask referrals from friends) for a nifty pair of shoes, or a cool
cellphone or a pretty camera.
Hey, why don’t you leave all those things to God, too?
Sit at home, pray and read your Bible, and believe that tomorrow, God
Himself will come like a FedEx truck to deliver to you a nifty pair of shoes, or a cool
cellphone, or a pretty camera.
I believe that not taking responsibility for your future is absurd.
This is what How to Find Your One True Love Book 2: is all about: It’s about
seriously committing yourself to search for your One True Love.
I’ll be your Life Coach, guiding you through this exciting, scary, difficult,
happy journey.
In this course, you’ll be answering some questions about yourself. (OK, a lot
of questions.)
And you’ll be doing some things that you’ve never done before. (Get ready!)
By the way, as you can see, this manual is thick.
Don’t be overwhelmed.
If you do even some of the most important activities in this manual, the
chances are high that you’ll be sending me a wedding invitation one of these days.
And I look forward to that!
And lest you spend all your time holed up in your room answering the
questionnaires for the next three months, I want you to already practice Step #3,
while you’re still completing Step #1 and Step #2.
Why? Because Step #3 is where you talk to lots of guys.
Yep, I want you to go out there and meet new single men!
You know what?
I have a sneaking suspicion that a few people bought my book and bought
this course manual not so much for the details of the activities I’m recommending


Introduction

(they probably know the stuff already), but because I’m giving them permission to
find a spouse.
For them, just owning my book and this course manual is a deep symbol
of God’s blessing for their future. For once in their life, a spiritual authority is not
ridiculing their desire to get married, not calling them shallow, not labelling them
“spiritually immature” for looking for a spouse.
Friend, I’m not only allowing you.
I’m anointing you.
I’m commissioning you to go and bear fruit.
If kings anointed their knights by laying the tip of their sword on the knight’s
shoulders, I’m using this course manual to do the same thing. Friend, I’m placing
this course manual in your hands.

Go. Find your man (or woman).

And have great fun doing so.

Your Life Coach,


Bo Sanchez
bosanchez@kerygmafamily.com

P.S. With this book, you will also test-drive the membership in the OTL Network of
Happy Singles, whose mission is to help single members become alumni members
(because they got married!). OTL Members get three monthly newsletters from me
filled with practical wisdom and important strategies on how to become the most
attractive single person and a phenomenal human being that they can possibly be.
For more details, check the last pages of this book.

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Before you start, I want you to write five things you’d like to happen to your
life (goals) by going through this course…
One of the best ways of writing goals is by putting it into prayer form. Write
a love letter to God and tell Him what you want to happen as you take this course. I
gave you some more writing space after the goals for whatever else you want to tell
Him.

Dear Lord,

Here are my goals, Lord, for this course:

1.

2.

3.

4.

5.

Love,

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How to Find Your One True Love Book 2

Step #1:

Take Responsibility
for Finding Your
One True Love
Action #1:
Form Your Support Team for Operation OTL

Action #2:
Grow in Character

Action #3:
Get Emotionally Healthy

Action #4:
Know Yourself

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If you want to take personal responsibility for finding your one true love, you have
to find yourself so that you can find your One True Love.
I must warn you: The following exercises in Step #1 are a lot. As I said in my
introduction, don’t get tied up doing all these exercises. While doing them, I want
you to start going to Step #3: Talk to Lots of Guys. Is this clear?
Good. Enjoy!

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Action #1:
Form Your Support Team for Operation OTL
Don’t do this alone.
Finding your One True Love is one of the most important decisions in your
life.
Mess this up and you mess up your entire life.
So for your own good, form a Support Team around you that will pray for
you, encourage you and advise you. Call them your OTL Support Team.
Ask yourself. Who are the closest people in your life that are encouraging,
positive and level-headed when it comes to finding you a spouse?
Nope, they won’t make decisions for you. Only you can do that. But you can
get their suggestions that are very important for an emotionally-charged decision
like finding your spouse.
Sign up your own parents (as honorary members), closest friends and
spiritual leaders if they fit the criteria. Actually, the ideal is for you to do this together
with other single men and women who are also taking this complete course or at
least have read my book. You’ll understand each other. But include wise, married
people as well in your OTL Support Team.
Ask each of them, “I want to seriously take responsibility for finding a
spouse. Can you be my Prayer Partners?”
When they say, “Yes, of course!” ask a follow-up question, “Will you mind if I
talk to you once in a while to get your advice and suggestions?”

Write four or five potential members of your OTL Support Team below.

1.

2.

3.

4.

5.

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Action #1: Form Your Support Team for Operation OTL

Here are a few responsibilities for each member. (Ask gently. They’re
volunteers!)
1. Pray regularly for your intention that you find your OTL.
2. Be available to talk once in a while.
3. Give you feedback on how you can improve your character, personality,
etc.
4. Encourage you to do the assignments in this complete course.
5. Evaluate potential OTLs, (Note: I repeat, they don’t make choices for you.
You make them but their comments are important.) They wake you up if
this potential OTL is hazardous to your future well-being, or encourage
you to continue to date him if they see great potential that you don’t see.

That’s it!

Let’s now go to Action #2: Grow in Character…

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Action #2:
Grow in Character

Let’s not kid ourselves: Character is attractive.


More than smooth skin and long legs and a pretty face, your character is your
#1 Attraction Secret.
John T. Molloy conducted a huge study of 2,000 engaged couples, and after
thousands of surveys, focus groups and interviews, one of his findings was this: Men
are attracted to beauty, but marry because of character.
In other words, they may date beauty but they will only marry character.
Physical beauty may make him look. But for him to keep on looking to the
point of wanting to marry, you’ve got to have character.
In order to help you know what specific areas you need to grow in, I
prepared a Moral Inventory below. I found this Moral Inventory from the Recovery
Movement (Alcoholics Anonymous, Substance Abuse Anonymous, etc.). I adapted
and edited it for our use. Because they deal with millions of people from all walks of
life, the Recovery Movement’s Moral Inventory is broad enough to help people from
all sorts of cultures and religions.

A. 18-Point Moral Inventory

You can rate yourself 1 to 10 for each, 1 being “no success” and 10 meaning “habitual
success.”

How am I doing in each of the following virtues?

______1. Thankfulness: I always thank my God and others for what they have done.
I can honestly say that I’m a thankful person.

______2. Gentleness: I can control my temper. I don’t have outbursts of selfish


anger or unrighteous rage.

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______3. Forgiveness: I have no hatred or bitterness toward any other person


anywhere on this earth. I refuse to take revenge when people criticize,
condemn, reject or complain against me. If at all possible, I try to repair
broken relationships as quickly as I can.

______4. Humility: I consistently consider others as equal with myself. I have a


teachable spirit.

______5. Courage: I take the risk of doing what’s right, keeping fear under control.

______6. Trust: I’ve surrendered my life to God. I’m free from useless fretting,
worry or anxiety.

______7. Perseverance: It’s normal for me to keep doing what’s right. Even when
things get difficult, or stressful or unrewarding.

______8. Submission: I don’t fight those placed in authority over me, even if they’re
less competent or gifted. Ultimately, I follow God’s authority in my life.

______9. Generosity: I regularly give to my family, church, community and the poor.
Generosity is a normal behavior to me.

______10. Love for Family: I spend as much time as I can with my family, honoring
and serving them as the priority in my life.

______11. Simplicity: I resist materialism where things are more important than
people.

______12. Selflessness: I have laid aside envy and selfish ambition. I don’t entertain
jealousy of another’s success.

______13. Spiritual Intimacy: It’s the routine of my life to spend time with God each
day in prayer, spiritual reading and “practicing the presence” of God all
day long.

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______14. Self-Control: My thought life is free from all intentional impure thoughts
and sexual fantasies. My actions are free from enslaving habits and vices.

______15. Truthfulness: My yes is yes and my no is no. I practice honesty both in my


relationships with others and myself.

______16. Language: I abstain from slander, gossip and biting criticism. I use my
tongue to build others up, giving words of encouragement, comfort, help,
inspiration and challenge.

______17. Industry: I work hard, using the time and talents that God has given me to
develop myself and serve others.

______18. Cheerfulness: I can remain joyful during times of difficulty, hopeful that
God is still in control through uncertainty.

On the next page, you’ll zero in on what needs your attention…

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B. Write Two Priority Areas of Growth

There are no right or wrong answers, passing or failing grades. Use the Moral
Inventory to point out the areas of your character that need more growth than others.
Write down the two areas where you scored the lowest. These are your priority
areas for growth. A quick reminder: Though it usually takes years to see maturity,
changes have to start now. Aside from writing down the two priority areas, write
the specific weakness as well.

Example:
Problem One: Gentleness Score: 2
Specifically, I can’t control my anger and I shout easily,
especially to people at home

Priority One: Score:

Specifically,

Priority Two: Score:

Specifically,

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If there’s sin involved, confess to God. (If you’re a Catholic, confess to a
priest as well.) Being aware of these weaknesses — and writing it down here — is
half the battle won. How to overcome your weakness is beyond the scope of this
course. You need to work on these weaknesses separately, reading books, attending
seminars, asking counselors and spiritual leaders on how you can overcome these
two priority areas of your character.

Let’s now go to Action #3…

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