CAREFRONTATION - Biblical Peacemaking

Rev. Mac Ranie Reyes

UBC Manila
CAREFRONTATION
Biblical Peacemaking
Matthew 18:15-17
What do you do when a person sins against you?

Avoid

Attack

We do peacemaking with the goal of restoration.

(Handle it with care: carefrontation)
RESTORATION: In Greek meaning, a medical word: To set a broken bone think of a patient
and tenderness that requires; thus, CARE CAREFRONTATION
If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears
you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that by
the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
Matthew 18:15-16
Matthew 18:17 (Next Sunday)

Stage 1: PERSONAL CAREFRONTATION

(Goal: Restore a brother)
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PREPARE TO GO

ANALYZE THE ISSUE (Pr. 23:23)

ASSESS THE ISSUE (1 Pet 4:8)

SEEK COUNSEL (Pr 1:5)

AVOID GOSSIP (Pr 25:9-10)

REPENT OF YOUR PART (Matt. 5:23-24)

PREPARE IN LOVE (Matt 7:12)

GO ALONE
OFFENDER approaches OFFENDED (IDEAL)

Admits personal responsibility

Names specific offense

Makes no excuses

Does not blame others or circumstances

Acknowledges pain/cost to offended

Shows genuine brokenness

GO ALONE

OFFENDED approaches OFFENDER

Approaches in love (Matt 7:12)

Grants forgiveness (Luke 17:3-4)

Discerns & be patient (1 Thess. 5:14)

OFFENDER responds to OFFENDED

Humbles himself (James 4:6)

Repents with godly sorrow (2 Cor 7:8-11)

Receives forgiveness (1 John 1:9)

Stage 2: PRIVATE CAREFRONTATION

(Goal: restore a brother)
If the offender does not listen
But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that by the mouth of two or three
witnesses every word may be established.
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Matthew 18:16

Witness: this is an obligation, and not to be done lightly

Witness: your testimony is under scrutiny (Dt 19:18); to protect

the offended/er from false witness

Witness: stake your character and reputation on the truth of your

testimony regarding the conflict and who is to be blame

Witness that the offended is acting in good faith.

Witness the right spirit in attempting to work out a reconciliation.

Witness to any agreement.

If the offender does not listen

Reconcile people, handle it with care: CAREFRONTATION

God is glorified.

Relationships are restored.

Unity in the church is preserved.

Peace

CAREFRONTATION Biblical Public

Peacemaking
Rev. Mac Ranie Reyes
UBC Manila

CAREFRONTATION
Biblical Public Peacemaking
Matthew 18:17-18

Why is it challenging?

Stage 1: PERSONAL CAREFROTATION (Goal: Restore a brother)

Prepare to go
Go alone (Offender )
Or Go alone (Offended)
Listens (RESTORED)
Does not listen (Go stage 2)
People Involved:
Offender
Offended
Peacemaking Initiator
Counselor

Stage 2: PRIVATE CAREFRONTATION (Goal: Restore a brother)

Bring a witness
Listens (Restored)
Does not listen (Go stage 3)
People Involved:
Offender
Offended
Witness
Mediator
Counselor
Peacemaking Initiator
Spiritual Authority

The church should do everything possible to convince the believer

who has sinned to be restored or right the wrong.
(Handle it with care: carefrontation)
RESTORATION

(In Greek meaning, a medical word: To set a broken bone

think of a patient and tenderness that requires; thus, CARE CAREFRONTATION)

Stage 3: PUBLIC CAREFRONTATION (Goal: Restore a brother)

carefrontation not crucifixion
A. Why resort to public carefrontation?
Demanded by Christ (Matt.18:17)
Commended by Christ (Rev. 2:2)
Reproved by Christ (Rev.2:14)
B. What sins subject to public carefrontation?
Known (1 Cor 5:11-13)
Continual (1 Cor 5:11-13)
Underwent stages 1&2 (unrepentant)
C. How does it work?
Discipline without Disffelowshipping
How does it work?
Discipline with Disfellowshipping
If repented
CARE
FORGIVE
REAFFIRM
(2 Cor 2:5-11) Like a returning prodigal son.

I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose
on earth will be loosed in heaven. Matthew 18:18

SPIRITUAL AUTHORITY
HEAVENLY SUPPORT

Reconcile people, handle it with care publicly: CAREFRONT

God is glorified.

Relationships are restored.

Unity in the church is preserved.

Peace

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.

Where there is hatred. Let me sow love.
Where there is injury -- pardon.
Where there is doubt faith
Where there is despair hope.
Where there is darkness light.
Where there is sadness joy
The LORD bless you and protect you; the LORD make His face shine on you, and be gracious
to you; the LORD look with favor on you and give you peace Num. 6:24-25