Contents-

Preparing the Readers

Introduction

i) Stepping into the Adult World

ii) Power of Psychology

iii) Teenage Problems!!!

IV) Way to Happiness

v) Communicational Skills
 Preparing the
Readers-
Dear readers, its a psychological book. Psychology
word in itself is infinite. Psychology means, study of
mind. But do you think, whatsoever we think is of
finite magnitude? No, it cant be! Human brain is
made to think at an infinite scale. We can think &
imagine anything we want ranging from the worst to
the best. There are no brakes over our thinking.
In this book psychological things are explained
in a quiet biological way. It lays its emphasis
basically over teens. What they think, what are their
basic body changes when they achieve this stage, different
circumstances from which a teen has to move on, their
mental changes etc. Study of mind is not just study of
mind; it means study of mind along with brain
connected areas. Now you must be thinking that, the
whole human-body is connected with the brain, then
I must tell you well study only those aspects which
are covered up in the above mentioned points. Guyz
we all know, human body is a quiet open thing. Its
study means explaining everything shylessly and
limitlessly.
There are some things which we cant discuss
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emotions which only we know, or in other words,
which are private. Privacy itself has its huge value. But
some things are biologically & psychologically
common among all (almost) humans. So, we can
discuss them socially.
But do you think a person who has a finite
thinking (or is narrow-minded) can understand the
above mentioned things? Of course not! Then what
should we do to manipulate the things in a right
way? The answer is to increment the degree of thinking
(or in short to become a bit Broad-minded). Broad-
mindedness itself is a quality. To become broad-
minded can also mean to represent what you are, or show
your reality to the people instead of acting! This book
contains some terms & definitions which can make
the reader to feel psychologically awkward, shy etc. So,
first it is advised to get comfortable, relaxed, to
broaden your thoughts a bit & then start reading.
Youll not go to interest; interest itself will knock at
your minds door. And thats a FACT!!!

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 Introduction-
Hi. Let's think about our daily routine! The time,
when we move out of our house on our duties.
Whether we are a student or an employee. It doesnt
matter. We interact with different people. The way
we talk to those people, & how differently we talk to
different people. It's really surprising! Coz,
sometimes on comparing our different moods to
different people we get so contrasting moods that it
doesnt symbolizes that these are expressed by the
same person! & that's a FACT!!!
Some people would have objection on this.
They might argue that they have the same attitude
for all. These kinds of people should be asked, "Do
they have exactly the same attitude & respect for a maid
sweeper and their mother? Saying 'yes' is very easy.
But it is not observed in the practical life of today's
world. Then, what is observed in today's world? Do
the character of the people whom we know, not their
original character? So, let's explore the Today's
world with the eyes of T.D. Hora.
And before exploring, first we should know,
what is Todays World? The word world is not
symbolizing any planet, or heavenly body. It actually
means the nature & attitude of people, and the
psychological environment prevailing at the present time.

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The very important characteristic of the Todays
World to be kept in mind is that it keeps on changing
with time, and this can be observed very easily. The
principles, norms, & philosophies of the todays
people are very much different from the old tradition.
And not only in this aspect, in every aspect of life,
i.e. scientifically, morally, outlook wise etc.
The above mentioned examples can be very
easily observed, and not only can be observed, we
too are implementing these in our Day-to-Day life.
And there is nothing wrong in it too! Actually this is
called Progress. Progress in every field! But every
field includes both- negative and positive aspects.
Means, if we are progressing on one aspect, then we
are also declining on other aspect, by damaging the
society with illegal activities, & consumption of illegal
stuffs! And that a Fact!!!
So, it must be clear from the above explanation,
that-What is Todays World?, About what we are
going to discuss?, and How it is related to our life?
Actually, the psychology of Todays people runs
the Todays World. So, well discuss every-thing i.e.,
the Todays World, psychology of Todays People, &
very easily well be able to relate these things with
ourselves. The youth might be feeling bored, but youll
really feel interest in reading this book, coz it is your
thoughts which are mentioned, & explained under.

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 Stepping into the
adult world-
As we all know, the journey of life of a human
being is enclosed in several stages. One of which is
the adult stage. But prior to the adult stage is the
adolescent stage. It is our most sensitive stage. This is
the time; when we are very warm-blooded & curious
to know about sex and its derivatives. Most of the
people of our society consider it wrong. They
consider such children bad. They should be asked,
Why?"Such people are actually wrong!! What's the
fault of children, if they are desperate for sex?
Actually, it is controlled by their hormonal system.
They have not opened up their minds, and they have
not thought that this is the sign of their healthy
sexual strength. And thats a FACT!!!
Sometimes many different questions arise in
the minds of youth (11 to 16yrs.).They are most
curious to know about the opposite sex. But Shyness
resists them to ask such questions to their elders.
Such questions may include-"Why the adults are so
secretive about discussing sex?","What are the
feelings generated during mating?,"Do girls also
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sex?","Can a person be considered matured, if
he/she is sexually matured?"
All of us have sexual desires. There is
nothing strange in it. Our dad, mom, uncle, aunt, all
would have such desires, if they are sexually matured!
Then, why having sex before marriage considered
wrong? This is a big question for the youth! Actually,
thousands of years ago, nobody knew about the
term 'Marriage'. Girls and boys find their partners
according to their match, and mate with each other
according to each-others wish. But later, as the
crimes were increasing, one of such crimes was
'rape'. Rape means developing sexual relationship
with someone without his/her will. Suppose, if a boy
mates with a girl with her wish. And later, if she
appeals that the boy has raped her, then what
should the boy do? Do you think the boy is wrong?
No. So, to avoid such problems, the marriage system
was introduced. According to which, men & women
were free to mate with each other after their
marriage, but were restricted to do sex before
marriage. Thats why having sex before marriage is
considered wrong.
Now, let's talk about the sexual desires.
Sexual desires are different in males and females.
Males feel the sex sensations only at their genitals.
But the females have sensations throughout their
body. Sometimes, some posture of a girl, her smile, way

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of talking, thinking, growth of breasts, body-figure etc.
attracts the males. This attraction at a little high level
is called infatuation. And the feeling of infatuation at a
very high level is called Love (we will discuss about
love in chapter Teenage Problems). But mostly, this
feeling is a little different in girls. They are attracted
towards boys sometimes due to their personality, their
nature, their understanding power, and the most
important-their character. A warm touch by a male
can also be a cause of attraction by females.
Sexually active teens are very much prone to get
depressed.
Infatuation can be sometimes due to the
factors mentioned above, or sometimes due to
sexual factors. Thats a Fact!!! We know that we get
sexually matured (although not fully) at the time,
when our puberty begins (11 to 15yrs.).But just
because, the person is sexually matured, can he/she
be considered 'matured'? No. Because maturity of a
person symbolizes- his/her sexual maturity, as well as
understanding-power, judging-power etc. The person
must be aware of wrongs and rights in the society. If the
person is co-operative with his/her near & dear ones, and
understands things in a systematic and simple ways, then
he/she can be considered matured, else not! If any
person lacks these things (or qualities) in the
Todays world then the person is immature
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Its not necessary that maturity comes in adult age
only. There are people who have attained maturity,
even in the adolescent stage. You can view them by
stepping out from your home into the Todays
World.
We have talked a bit more about the boring
topic of Maturity. Lets move on to Drinking &
Smoking.
Alcohol & cigarettes can be good fascinating
commodities for adolescents, but why? The reason
cannot be explained in a single line. Actually, the
reasons are different for different people.
Sometimes, it is because of attraction of teens
towards movies. As, theyll see their favourite
heroes/heroines doing this on the BIG SCREEN,
they too wants to become like them. They do not
consider such things bad, as they are seeing their
favourites doing this, which they consider matured
and wants to become mature, like their elder ones.
Teens are actually fond of experiments. Im
not talking about science, or maths experiments, but
experiments with their day-to-day practical life. If
alcohol is kept in the room(or near the room) of a
teen, even by their parents or elders, then the mood
of teen can turn him/her to consume it, even starting
from a single sip! Mostly they promise, that theyll not
touch it again (due to its burning taste), but this is not
observed in the practical life of Todays World.

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 The most dangerous condition, in which a teen
is attracted towards the addictness of such things, is
the peer pressure. The word peer is symbolizing
his/her social company, or community (e.g. Friends).
Peer pressure can move a teen towards the high ranges of
the sky, or can dump him/her in the deep shallows of the
valley. Actually, this is the age the when teens wants
to make their own identity, they consider that,
whatever they think is correct. Sometimes they even
find it impossible to understand the sayings of their
parents. Why? Actually, its not their fault. They have
just stepped into the world of adults. There are many-
many things which are away from the eyes of teens.
So they know only that much world, which they have
seen and observed in their short scale of life. But
scoldings, or ordering of parents, or sometimes
mentioning their reason of ordering because I
said so!! can result in worse situation of
conflicts.
Small or large-scale conflicts between the
teens & the parents are mostly observed at this
stage. This is sometimes because, the teens want to
be independent, go wheresoever they like, maintain
their living-style according to their own wishes. But
the parents are not so familiar with the newly
changed behavior of their children. So, teens may
start feeling their parents as obstruction in their life.
But actually, it is not so. It is just because of the

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different conditions, taking birth at the maturing
stage of a human. And such conditions also take
place because,
i) The human is getting matured (or he/she is pre-
matured).
ii)Human wants to get matured as soon as possible,& for
this he/she starts taking new steps unknowingly that these
can ruin his/her life.
But this doesnt mean that every teen can be
put under this category. There are some, who wants
to do the things, when the correct age(as defined by
the society or law) of doing such things will come.
For example, they are ashamed of touching, (or
physically contacting) the opposite gender, till they get
married. If you ask them why?, then theyll surely
say, We are too young(or small) for doing such
things. We can do these even at our adult age!
They consider touching of the opposite sexes (for
example, holding each-others hand) wrong. They
should be asked Why? Actually, such people are
totally wrong. They are narrow-minded. They should
understand, there is no place of narrow-minded
people in the developed regions of Todays world.
Such people are mostly found in the backward (or
primitive) areas of a particular region. But this
doesnt mean that they are not found in the
developed areas. But they are observed to be in a
small no. in developed areas of Todays world.

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 Now lets talk about some genitals. When we
talk of males, then male genitalia is quiet simple and
straight. It basically involves the parts of male
reproductive system i.e. testicles, scrotum, prostrate
gland, fore skin, penis, its internal erectile tissues etc.
The testicles produce sperms & these sperms after
mixing with the secretions of prostrate gland and
seminal vesicle converts into a white liquid called
semen, which comes out at the time of ejaculation.
But female genitalia are really very interesting!
Basically for the youth.
When we talk of female genitalia, we mean
breasts (including nipples, areola, ducts etc.), labia
majora (her vertical lips), labia minora (folded skin
which is located beneath labia majora), clitoris,
vaginal region etc.
Do you know which is the girls most sensual
(sexually) region? Actually only females are gifted
with an organ, which is present inside their bodies
just to give those sensations & pleasure. And it is
GLANS CLITORIS. Some people think it is vagina,
but actually it is not! Externally it is just a bundle of
tissues, nothing else. It is present beneath the
CLITORIS HOOD. Clitoris Hood is actually an
extension of labia minora, but it is called so coz it
helps in protecting the Glans clitoris, as it is the most
sensual region. Its sensuality cant be explained.
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reason for its high degree of sensuality is the
presence of a large no. of nerve endings. Internally
clitoris is made up of erectile tissues and a head
(whose portion can be observed externally). If the
tissues are erectile, then they must show their
erection! And it show too! When the girl is aroused,
blood fills up in the erectile tissues, and therefore the
clitoris becomes erect somewhat like the penis, but
internally. We all have heard that, labia majora is
quiet hard skin and labia minora are moist & gentle
(not much after menopause). Do you know why it is
so? It is because of the vaginal secretions. These
secretions are basically mucus which is produced by
the mucus producing glands throughout the vagina &
cervix. These secretions may vary in color, odour,
thickness etc according to time, which is passing by
(This we will discuss in the chapter Teenage
Problems!!!).
But the basic question which sometimes arises
in our mind is These secretions are for what
reason? So, here is an answer for it. Actually girls
vaginal region contains a number of bacteria. Out of
which, some are good to health, but some can be
really infectious! So, to avoid such harms, nature has
made their physique in such a way that, when they
secrete the vaginal fluids, these bacteria also come
along. This way automatic vaginal cleaning is done.
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lubricant! Vagina is made to perform sexual
intercourse. So these secretions lubricate the penis &
help to perform sex in a quiet easy way. Thats why
the amount of secretions increases instantly when the girl
is sexually aroused. Sometimes, the girl herself is
unaware that her body is demanding sex. This
happens basically in teenage as there is a lot of
psychological pressure onto their minds coz teenage
girls are restricted to do sex socially. If this
lubrication would have not been provided then, doing
sexual intercourse would have been quiet painful
and uneasy. And thats a FACT!!!
Now, lets talk about sex sensations a bit more.
We have already discussed about clitoris. Now lets
move on to the vaginal direction. The outermost
walls of the vagina are very sensitive. Its sensitivity is
because of its thin skin, moisture and presence of nerve
endings. Anal sensations are also felt in girls. This is
coz, its nerve endings are connected to the clitoral &
vaginal nerve endings via nerves. So, we come to the
conclusion that, females whole genitalia is sexually
sensitive. The matter comes is just of which pubic
region is more sensual (This we have already
discussed).
Females are more fascinated towards oral
stimulation (cunnilingus). Why? This is because of the
most sensitivity of the clitoris. Its stimulation can lift her
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made to undergo just the vaginal stimulation, without
any clitoral stimulation, then the women might feel
psychologically frustrated! She might not enjoy it to
that magnitude, as she was supposed to be. And
she might start feeling that, she enjoys even more
with a female partner. If such feeling comes in a
womens mind then it doesnt mean that she is
abnormal! Neither has it meant that her hormonal
system is imbalanced. It is just showing the
symptoms, what her body is forcing her to. And her
body is absolutely normal. And thats a FACT!!!
You must be thinking why I am talking of the
genitals, although this book is named in terms of
Psychology. Psychology is directly related to our
mind, as its study is called psychology. But do you
know Brain is the largest sex organ? There is
nothing to feel strange in it coz thats a FACT!!!
Actually, brain is an organ which makes our genitals
to feel the sensations. Without the order of the brain,
we cannot feel any sensation. Not only sexual, even
other kinds of sensations could not be felt by the
person, e.g. pain, touch, taste etc. And not only this
is the reason, Brain also plays an important role in
making a person sexually aroused. Now, if you say
that some persons get aroused just by stimulating
their genitals, then you should know that when a
person is physically stimulated then, the stimulating
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recognizes these impulses, & makes the genitals to
feel the sensations. It also helps the person to get
mentally prepared for mating. In boys, if sexual (or,
genitalial) thoughts are not generated mentally, then
it would have been almost impossible for them to
erect their penis. Now, you must have understood
how psychology affects sex. In girls, sometimes
there is a psychological fear of vaginal penetration,
which causes the vaginal muscles to contract, when
it is undergone intercourse then, the girls feel pain
instead of pleasure.
But my dear ones, we forgot the very important
aspect of teenage, i.e. Masturbation! Habit of
Masturbation is very dangerous & normal. You must
be surprised, how could anything become
Dangerous and Normal at the same time. But
thats a Fact!!! Masturbation is something, which is a
need of every single teen, as there isnt any risk of
sexually transmitted diseases (such as AIDS,
Gonorrhea etc.). Masturbation also decreases the
disorders of prostrate gland, and seminal vesicle.
Masturbating 2 to 3 times a month is enough to
control these disorders.
But Masturbation & health are very closely
linked to one another. Due to the secretions of
prostrate gland & Seminal Vesicle Masturbation leads
to the loss of nutrients & vitamins in males.
Masturbation leads to the worst problem of acne.

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About 98% of the acne-infected teens masturbate.
But this is just for the males. Well discuss about
females a bit later. Masturbation is a good
Fascinating activity for the teens as they have newly
gained puberty. Actually, it is their hormonal system,
which disturbs them both psychologically & physically
(sexual despiracy) and therefore they go for the
alternatives (masturbation).Teens are unaware
about how to get a control over their Despiracy.
Habit of masturbation is observed both in MALES
and FEMALES.
Males do the longitudinal shaking (rubbing)
of their penis, & females masturbate by rubbing their
G-spot (Genital area, or the vaginal region including the
Clitoris) and also by fingering. In masturbation, this
process is carried on till orgasm is achieved. Orgasm
is that state in which, the sex-sensations are at their
highest point. Means at this stage, the person is
totally committed to the feeling of pleasure obtained
from their sensual regions. Masturbation is directly
linked with psychology. Sexual desires arise inside
us psychologically. As we all know, first we think
about sex and then only, our Body demands sex. If this
need of our body is not fulfilled, the despiracy would
be decremented by masturbating. Some people
have a lot of stress onto their minds. Masturbation is
an activity which produces sensations, and the
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in words, and when the person feels it, he/she
forgets all the strains & tensions for a moment. So
masturbation is also an anti-stress activity.
On comparing the no. of masturbating
MALES & FEMALES it is observed that ratio of
masturbating MALES more than that of
FEMALES, and thats a Fact!!!
Do you know, it is good if a girl masturbates!
Why? Actually, the female gametes are not at all
released during masturbation (if the periods are not
going on). Neither there is any loss of nutrients etc.
Masturbation in girls provides them a good
psychological atmosphere. They feel relaxed,
comfort & the most important stress reduced. Socially
also, if a girls body is desperate for sex then what
should she do? She must be restricted to do it
socially (if she is not married). Then the best
alternative is to self-explore. When a girl
masturbates, then she might release a lot of (as
compared to normal) vaginal secretions. The reason
is explained above.
Does your daughter/son spend more than
enough time into their toilets??
Do your teen runs for privacy??
Does your teens undergarment have
spots (as that of semen)??
Does your teen always behave in a
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 Does your teens body start quivering after
a vigorous manual work (such as having a
fight, or having a shout for a long time).
Does your teen prefer to keep his rooms
door closed even at the non-sleeping
times??
All the above-mentioned symptoms are the
signs of masturbation. Masturbation is also
accompanied by the feelings of shame, shy &
complexity. So, it is culturally advised not to
masturbate. Masturbation is also called SELF-
SAFE-SEX. And it is too! As:-
It is done by SELF.
It is safe, as their isnt any risk of STD. So,
it is SAFE.
It leads to the arousal of sex-sensations,
so it can be categorized as SEX.
Masturbating 2 to 3 times a week is normal.
But teens are observed to masturbate 2 to 3 times a day.
So excessive masturbating can affect their health
badly, and can also lead to the feelings of shame,
guilt, and weakness, accompanied by acne problem.

Now some important Discussion-

In 1948 and 1953, 92% of men and 62% of

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women reported that they have masturbated.
A study carried out by researchers in 1994 by
Edward looked at gender and the masturbation
practices of 2,969 man and women aged between
18 to 59 yrs. Just over 63% of men and 41% of
women had masturbated during the year of the
study.
The Janus report on sexual Behavior
surveyed a large no. of Americans over the age of
18 during 1983 to 1992. They reported 55% of men
and 38% of women report masturbating frequently.
That is, weekly, or daily!

But the very important question, which clashes in our

mind, when we talk of masturbation, is-

What Counts as excessive Masturbation??

In some ways, the answer is relative to normal
masturbation. This varies between males with teens
and young men masturbating more frequently than
older men. What counts as excessive is difficult to
answer. In one clinical situation a young man was
known to masturbate around 10 times a day-seen by
most doctors as excessive. Equally, just one
masturbation in public would be viewed by most
people as excessive and certainly illegal. Excessive

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masturbation over a long period of time may be
considered a sign of a deeper psychological, sexual
or physical problem.
Stress can increase as well as decrease
sexual desire. Masturbation is linked to stress
reduction and masturbating is often used as a de-
stressor. Mutual masturbation is often part of many
peoples sexual repertoire. Mutual masturbation is
also a great alternative to intercourse, with no
risk of STD and no risk of pregnancy.
When we talk of sex, then the first thing which
comes in our mind is sexual-intercourse. But we all
should know that, intercourse in not the only method
of doing sex. The term SEX is categorized into
different sections depending upon the conditions.
Note-Sex doesnt mean Reproduction.

We all have studied about one category of sex, i.e.

SELF-SAFE-SEX. The next is SEXUAL-
INTERCOURSE. But the most interesting is the
ORAL SEX. Oral Sex doesnt include sexual-
intercourse. It just includes Kissing & Licking the
Genitals. Oral sex can be homo also. Females do it
by letting their partners to lick their G-spot (Clitoris &
vaginal region).It should be noted that just kissing
and licking are not at all included in oral sex.

I think, we have talked a bit more about,

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Stepping into the Adult World, lets move on to the
next topic to understand the Power of
Psychology.

Power of
Psychology-
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Power of Psychology can be easily observed in our
day-to-day life. It has a link with all of us, even with
our social life, economic life, our capabilities, our ability
to accept some challenge & even to win over it.
Lets talk of respect & power. Why do we have
different status of respect for different people? This
is due to their capabilities, their way of expressing, their
status in the society, their power of fascinating the other
towards their thoughts & ideas etc. All these
characteristics mentioned above are called the
powers of a person. Powers are basically of six types.
A person may have any one of these, or even more.
These powers are sometimes awarded by the
society, & sometimes created by him/her on his/her
own: -
Coercive Power-It is the power of a person by
whose consumption; the person can punish
someone, or impose his/her will on other person.
Example, parents in India are having the power
to punish their children for their deeds (whether
right, or wrong, doesnt matter!)They can even
impose their will on them, feeling that their order
would be beneficial for their children. So, such a
power is psychologically generated power. Coz, it is
believed that parents have a much wider
experience of Todays World, as compared to
their children, which is even true!!! But it doesnt

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 symbolize that they are always right (or correct)
in every aspect of life. As there is a BIG
difference between the psychology (and thinking,
manipulating the things) of parents & their teens.
Reward Power-Its the power (or status) of a
person by whose consumption; the person can
reward someone. For Example, our school
principal has the power to reward us for scoring
good marks, being good in Olympics, sports etc.
Legitimate Power-It is the power (or status) of a
person guaranteed to him/her by some authority.
This power is achieved by the person by his/her
capabilities. This is the result of his/her hard
work in his/her field. Example, the power (or
position) of our Prime-minister, power of chief
justice, Police-power etc.
Expert Power-This power is also achieved by
a person due to his/her experience and
education. This power symbolizes the persons
expertancy in a particular field. These powers
are limited to some extent. For Example, a
physician is having expert power in treating
fever. So, whenever you suffer from fever, cold
etc. you go to that physician, and on getting
disease less, his/her respect in your eyes
would be incremented. But imagine a situation
when your bathroom tap is having leakage
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 physician & would call a plumber due to
his/her expert power in that field. So, we
conclude that, Expert power is limited to
some extent. As, the Expert power of that
physician was limited to medical field.
Referent Power- It is provided by us to a
person (ors) whom we admire or respect. We
create it in our mind coz of our attraction
towards him/her. Or sometimes it is because;
we have given him/her the status of our Idol.
For Example, the respect provided by us to our
favorite actor/actress, leader, friend, relative,
or some other person signifies his/her Referent
Power provided by us. It is also psychologically
generated power. As, it is created by us in our
minds.
Psychological Power-Its the power (or
quality) of a person by whose consumption;
the person can attract others in his/her ideas.
This can be very very helpful in economic life.
For Example, a bookseller can sell his/her book
to a person by letting him/her believe that this
is only the book, which he/she wants to study. This
he/she does by telling the customer that
he/she would be well aware of these-these
topics (topics which have mentioned in that
book) after reading that book. This creates a
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 he/she agrees to buy that book.
That is how psychology plays a vital
role in our economic life!!! The example
mentioned above was just of a bookseller, but
millions of other examples are also possible.
One who is able to attain this Psychological power
of high magnitude could even create miracles of
stepping into the rich world of metropolis from
the poor section of a village.
Psychology is also directly related to our
health. And thats a Fact!!! If you think that you
are ill, weak, incapable of doing manual work
etc.(although you are physically fine) then after
few days youd really become what you thought
of yourself.
There was a boy suffering from depression.
He went to a medical store to purchase poison,
as to commit suicide. The shopkeeper
successfully guessed his intentions of
committing suicide. So as to prevent him from
giving birth to this sin, he gave him pure water in
a cleaned poison bottle. The boy was unaware
of the shopkeepers cleverness. So he drank that
water (which he was thinking as poison). After
few minutes, the boy suffered from heavy
stomachache and was hospitalized. Water
which he drank, did the work of poison. This is
because of the psychological effect, as he drunk

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water by assuming it as poison, & thinking that
he is walking towards death.
All of us think that masturbation lays a
vital impact in decrementing a boys health. But
actually, this only is not the reason. Semen is a
substance which is made only to get out of the
body. And if, it is not, then the body uses that
semen. We cannot save it as, we save money!
Worst impact is made over the males body
when he takes tension of his health after
masturbating. One should never think of it after
masturbating. If on succeeds to do that then, null
effect would be there on to his health.
Masturbation affects health only when, we
masturbate more than the normal. We should
notice our rate of production of semen, & then
only we should decide our rate of masturbation.
But teens dont follow this rule, and therefore
suffer from bad health, less immunity, acne
problem etc. So, if we do not think about our
ejaculation after masturbating then, our health
would not be affected (if we are masturbating
normally, not excessively).
So you can understand the
Power of Psychology from the incidents
mentioned above. So Guyz! I think now you are
matured enough to understand the power of
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a vital role in maintaining our beliefs, norms etc?
Actually, whatever we believe is what
psychologically we had adjusted in our mind as
true. And thats a Fact!!! Some of you might be
feeling some difficulty to understand this point,
as it is obvious, that we believe that Fact only
which we categorize as True. But Guyz, I am
not talking of the actual facts! I mean those
unnatural things, beliefs, events etc. Suppose a
person believes in spirits, unnatural powers etc.
whole-heartedly. And coincidently, he is facing
consecutive failures in his/her life. Then, he/she
would definitely think that it is the game of spirits,
planets, astrology etc. But as we all know, it was
just a coincidence! There is nothing to bother
about in superstitious sense! The only need is, to
think in a wise and reasonable manner. For a
superstitious person, the above lines must be very
difficult to understand. As he is wholly wrapped
in the net of superstitiousness!
But guyz, it is not actually his fault. And
thats a Fact!!! Do you know about the fascinating
power of superstitious things? No? But no problem!
Why am I here? Just to give the answers of such
questions, & open up your minds to create you a
fascinate personality.
Actually, superstitiousness gives our mind
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us. And it is very easy for our mind to
understand these short-cut reasons, rather than
thinking in a logical manner. So, to preserve itself
from deep thinking, our mind starts believing in these
short-cuts (superstitious reasons).And that is why
humans are fascinated the most towards such
superstitions! So, it is just the game of psychology,
not unnatural spirits. Now you are matured
enough to understand The fascinating power
of superstitious things. So now, you must be
feeling that it is not the fault of the person
(mentioned above), if he/she is superstitious. It is
due to the psychological fact that human mind
feels very easy & convenient to move towards
superstitiousness, rather than finding logics! And
thats a Fact!!!
But Guyz, all of us are having the human
brain. But do you think, all of us are
superstitious? No. Why is it so? It is just because
some minds are very curious in finding logics
behind every event (or incident). And this kind of
curiosity resists them from superstitiousness.
So, this way, it gives birth to a new
category of people whose beliefs are just
contrary to those of superstitious people. This
new category believes in the concepts of logics,
scientific reasoning. And this category of people is
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Guyz, I too belong to this category. You must be
feeling that, I am a sceptic person, thats why I
am talking of logics! But Guyz, thats not so. I
have gone into depth.
Actually, it is not the superstitious spirits
which affect our life. It is our mind, which creates
such unnatural spirits in our mind, & also gives it the
credit of disturbing our life. And thats a Fact!!! I
know, thousands of people may feel the above
statement wrong, but scientifically thats not the
Fact!!! And I being a worshipper of science, has
to obey it! But no problem! I am not hurting
anybodys beliefs, norms etc. I am just expressing
spiritual powers psychologically.
So I hope, now you must have started
understanding the Role of Psychology in our
lives, believes, norms, etc. And as we all
know, we always take those steps, which we feel
are correct (or best). This directly depends upon
our way of thinking, & manipulating things. This
way, Psychology also plays a vital role in our
decisions! And thats a Fact!!!
I think; now you must have got bored,
exploring different Facts related to psychology.
So, after understanding the Power of
Psychology, lets move onto Teenage
Problems!!!

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 Teenage
problems!!!
According to me, teenage should be called

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problematic stage. Actually, it is the stage of physical
& emotional change of the organism. So, these
changes also arises certain sorts of problems into
the life of teens. And, thats a Fact!!! Teenage
problems can be categorized into various categories,
depending upon the situation. These problems can
be Physical (related to the body), or moral (related to
feelings, emotions etc.) So lets begin with some
physical problems faced by the Teens.
As we all know, stage of puberty in girls starts
early (compared to boys). So, puberty in girls is also
accompanied by the menstrual cycle (or periods). The
ejection of ovum, along with blood etc. It is really
very awkward, if you are not familiar with it. Being
familiar with it means, that you must be matured
enough (or elder enough), that now you must not
feel any awkwardness in changing the pads etc. This
stage develops only when, you have gone through a
little long time after puberty. So, the newly pubered
girls should not feel awkward during their periods. I
know its easy to say, but hard to implement.
The girls in this stage also face the problem of
irregular periods. Actually due to the hormonal
change, irregular periods very common in the early
adolescent stages, and it becomes regular after a
few time. In case, if doesnt happens, then the being
should consult a doctor. But the girls are not the
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hormonal problems. Boys are not familiar of keeping
the semen stored in their testes. So, due to continuous
erections after short intervals and the newly increased
sexual desperacy forces them to self-explore (i.e. to
masturbate). The feeling of pleasure keeps them
attached to the net of masturbation. Masturbating
regularly will definitely affect their health. And the
health-affected person is always one step behind, in
one aspect, or the other! And thats a Fact!!!
So here, I would like to give you some tips, so
that you can increment (or maintain) your health-
status. A masturbating person should take care of
his/her diet.
He/she should have a balanced diet.
The person can take Multiple Vitamins.
The person can take supplements like EFAs,
selenium, Zinc.
Calcium/Magnesium is good to take.
In males, masturbation is an act with the
ejaculation of semen. And continuously loosing
semen means, loosing immune power, become
disease-prone and weak. Males under age limit
16yrs to 25 yrs are called fountains of semen. And is
definitely true too! But too much masturbating (about
3 times a day) may result in bad (or weak) erections.
But remember, masturbation has a temporary effect, not
permanent. But still there can be some permanent
impacts, Example- Having a curved erection etc.
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 So, it is culturally advised to drop the habit of
masturbation. Guyz, I can give you some tips-
First of all, the masturbating person should have
a rigidly abstemious diet. They should consume
nutritious, but non-stimulating stuffs.
They should eat only twice a day, as the
presence of food in the stomach at night is often
the exciting cause of nocturnal emissions.
The masturbators should avoid sexual thoughts,
when they lie down onto their beds. This can
also resist them from sex dreams, due to which,
nocturnal emission may occur.
The bed of the masturbator should not be too
soft; and on no account feathers should be
tolerated.
They should have a cool bath (not chilled). The
cooling should onto that much extent only as
tolerable. They should not at all even think of
stimulating their genitals. At the same time, give a
hot foot bath, and apply cool wet towels to the
head.
Much mental exercise should be strenuously
avoided. The mind should not be weighed with
cares. As congestion of the brain is often the
cause of involuntary emissions.
Try to keep your hands away from your genitals
as more as possible even during the erections.
The above mentioned can be a cure for
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masturbation (if followed properly). So in short, the
masturbating person should avoid stimulating food
(example- meat), should not eat supper ( evening meal),
should avoid feather beds, should bath properly (as
mentioned above), not only supper, even the person
should not have mental strain (especially during evening
& night), & try keeping your hands away from your
genitals.
Guyz, you must have studied about the
female genitalia in chapter (i). Now lets extend our
topic a bit more. Females vaginal secretions play an
important role in her sexual life. But do you know this
can also harm her? Are you feeling strange? But,
what to do? Coz, thats a FACT!!! The daily going
vaginal secretions are basically white (or off-white),
and are quiet dense. But the secretions a bit time
before and after the periods are quiet transparent and
elastic. It is mostly mucus. It can be stretched a lot
between the two fingers. Quantity of secretions
varies from girl to girl. But a normal girl secretes
about 4 milliliters fluid daily! But when moisture
and bacteria comes into consideration, then hygiene
too matters a lot.
We all know bacteria reproduce very quickly on
moist surface. So as they do on vagina. If vagina is
not cleaned throughout a long period of time, then
this can cause infections. And thats a FACT!!! We
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days provide very bad aeration facility to vagina, and
gives a boost to the infection. So girls should keep in
mind the above mentioned warnings & precautions. If the
secretions are white or transparent, then there is
nothing to get tensed! But if they are green or yellow,
then the girl should immediately contact a doctor.
Green or yellow color symbolizes the presence of
harmful bacteria and yeast (Candida ablicans).
Have you ever noticed, when a boy gets
puberted, then immediately his sexual desperacy
increases a lot. But the same doesnt happen with
females normally. Why is it so? Actually sexual
desperacy is also controlled by our hormonal
system. Let me explain it in a bit detailed manner.
The basic hormone which controls a persons
inclination towards sex is Androgen. Androgen can
be sub-divided into- Dihydrotestosterone, Testosterone,
Dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA),
Dehydroepiandrosterone-Sulfate (DHEA-S) and
Androstenedione. Androgen is secreted both in males
& females. Another hormone-Estrogen is secreted
in females. It basically controls their female
characteristics (such as growth of breasts, pubic
hairs, mild & delicate body skin etc). When a girl is
puberted then, you might observe these
characteristics in her very easily. And seeing these
you might have thought that she must be more
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mostly. Do you know why? Actually just after
puberty, amount of estrogen produced is very normal
(means not less). So, physically they get sexually
matured (although not fully!). But androgens are
secreted in less quantity. And we all know this
hormone inclines a person towards sex. So thats
why most of the teenage girls are less derived sexually.
But their desperacy increases after Twenties. Do you
know why? Of course coz, now androgen levels
have become normal.
Although, this doesnt happens with teenage
boys. They have a quantity-wise good secretion of
androgens during their teenage also. This
immediately increased androgen levels into their
body is called Andrenarche. Now this means that
now, their body must be demanding sex. And the
teenage girls are less sexually derived (This weve
studied), and if the exception is found, then they are
culturally, socially & legally restricted to do sex. In
this condition what should the boy do? Of course
hell go for the alternative (i.e. masturbation).
Ejaculation of semen is not harmful as, semen is a
substance which is made to be thrown out of the body &
our body keeps on producing semen continuously. But
just think what would happen if the rate of ejaculation
is more than the rate of production! Because of this
only, some boys get sexually weak sometimes. And
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boys will keep on losing their sexual strength in this
way, then just think off what would happen in their
twenties (or when theyll get married). And we all
know, this is the time when the girls are most
desperate for sex. Therefore some girls complains
during this period that their sexual requirement is not
been fulfilled completely by their male partners (or
husbands). So to avoid such problems, teenage
males should learn to have a control over their
desperacy. Although I know this controlled by their
hormonal system but, dont forget first we think about
sex, then only our body demands sex. So, we can very
easily control it by diverting our mind towards the
other side. The best way to divert the mind is to keep
you mentally busy. Dont try to stimulate your body
by thinking about sex. Keep your hands away from
the genitals as more as possible. Other masturbation
cures you must have read above.
Different psychological problems also arise
during this stage. These are different in girls and
boys. A girl takes most of the things, or events in
very complex (complicated) way. And basically those
cases, which are related to the opposite sex. They
can arise uncountable questions in their mind on a
simple straight-forward event. As for example, if a
boy sends a message to a girl, that he needs to
meet her, & have an important talk with her, then the
girl might stress her mind thinking Why he needs to

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meet me?, Does he need my favour in some field?, Is
he fascinated towards me?, Does he really likes me, or
needs my help in finding a girl-friend for him?, What
must be the matter? I am unable to sort this problem
out! So, the arousal of such questions is very
common in Girls. Actually, sometimes taking things
in a complicated way might arise some social
problems, or the girl might wash her hands from a
Golden opportunity. Sometimes there is a need to
think in a straight-forward manner.
But nothing can be done! Complicacy in girls
is psychological Fact!!! And sometimes, this only
awakes them from fake people, cheaters, play-boys
etc. So, we can say Girls habit of complicated
thinking, has both negative, and positive aspects. The
girl herself should be matured enough to decide,
where she should think in what manner. But as we
all know, exceptions are every-where! So, in this case
too!
Boys are basically found to be thinking in a
straight-forward manner. And they should too! If both
girls & boys start thinking in complicated way then, it
would have been nearly impossible for them to
choose their partner themselves. Shyness in boys is
really less observed (as compared to girls). It is due
to the psychological principle We are not girls,
then why should we feel ashamed? As if girls take
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Actually, culturally girls are felt to be inclined towards
shyness. But this is less observed in the practical life
of todays World. Now, let us expand our discussion
of teenage problems by seeing their other aspects.
Psychologically, boys want that partner, who
understands them; change themselves according to the
conditions; should not make them feel bored; give space
to them; and leave them alone, whenever they want, and
then return. But the first thing which a girl notices in
her partner is that, he should be trust-worthy; should
not drop her in difficult terrains of life; understands her;
loves her deeply; and should make all his efforts to make
her feel happy & comfortable. And when a girl/boy
finds the above mentioned qualities in some boy/girl,
then the relationship called Affair might develop
between the two. But having an affair has several
aspects!
Actually, in the begining, both (boys & girls)
feel very pleasant, as if their mission of life has
become successful. Girls start feeling themselves to
be the heritage of their male partners, and males
start developing a sense of responsibility. But after an
affair, what the pairs feel, it actually varies from
person to person. If the affair is for the first time in life,
then boy & girl may feel new experiences. These
experiences can be, the first smooth touch of their
partners; the primary consecutive holds (hugs); kissing
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with the emotion of attachment; the moment when you are
primarily aroused (sexually) in the company of your
partner; the mood to touch, feel shy then, again touch; the
feeling of being together doing lots of talks, chit-chats,
late-night talks; being the provider of supportiveness
when the partner is moving through unusual (difficult
situations of life); and the ones wish to express his/her
deep love. The list is quiet long for which this book
can be quiet shorter! The above list can also be (or
might not be) in friendly relation with some sexual
contacts, or outer-coarse. If this feeling continuous
long, then it is good. But if these feelings get
vanished after a short time, then? Now imagine the
worst condition, in which this feeling disappears only
in the one, & the other partner still feels the same.
Imagining this, the first thing which comes in mind is
the ruining of life. And thats really a hurting Fact!!!
But why does this happens? Why ones enthusiasm
& devotion towards the other get ended after a
period of time? This is really a major problem for the
teens of todays world. Many teens stress their mind
all throughout the day & night, thinking the above
questions. But here is an answer for it.
Human mind always demands what it doesnt
have. If its demand gets fulfilled very easily, then
sometimes he/she doesnt feel that pleasure, which
they were supposed to be! Actually, if something is
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thing may give more pleasure to the person than its
potential. The above lines are not just the lines of
saying, but they are really observed & experienced
in the practical life of todays world. And thats a
FACT!!! If a person attains any thing (e.g. sexual
partner) very easily, then firstly, he/she would not
have very much enthusiasm & devotion for her/him.
And if suppose if the very difficult happens, then the
second hurdle would be the Human Nature!
Actually it is human nature that, human beings
never gets satisfied with what they get (leaving
exceptions). And after attaining something, they gets
satisfied that they are its owner & the thing will remain
and controlled by their hands for a long time after. So
therefore they get less enthusiastic & less devoted
towards it. So when the human is in struggle for
attaining a boyfriend/girlfriend, then they are fully
enthusiastic, and after attaining if the above
mentioned feeling comes in their mind, then this
leads to reduction in devotion & enthusiasm towards
other. So I hope you must have got your answer
clearly, & understood the psychological reasons
mentioned above.
Just after an affair, mostly all the partners nearly
love each other. But in some cases, after a while one
partner starts feeling less devoted towards the other
partner. He/she starts feeling that their short-run life
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them. At this time, they simply stress their mind
thinking,Is my love decreasing? But, to remain
psychologically healthy, they should not think in that
manner. Actually, human mind is a follower of infinite
directions with a changeable mood. You might be
feeling it difficult to understand but, just take an
example; suppose your favorite dish is Bhel-Puri.
You like it very much. But will you eat Bhel-Puri at
every turn of snacks and meal? Can you eat Bhel-
Puri in the breakfast, then in lunch, then at brunch (in
place of tea, biscuits, snacks etc), then at dinner?
And on the next day, again consuming only Bhel-
Puri in the breakfast and then the same routine of
Bhel-Puri follows..? You will definitely get frustrated!
But it doesnt mean that Bhel-Puri is not your
favorite! Sometimes this happens in your personal
life also! So, at this terrain one should never think
that his/her love is decreasing. He/she just need
space, to give some time just to themselves, without
a bit tension of their partner. So teens,
understood???
Do you know there are some teens which, when
are fascinated towards the opposite gender then
they get mentally busy almost throughout the day.
Can you guess, what they must be thinking? I know
after reading this, some people will find it strange &
some people will associate this with their own. They
keep on thinking, Am I in Love? So my sweet teens,

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there isnt any need of disturbing your mind
psychologically thinking the above question. Coz the
fact about love is, it itself is indefinable. Actually
different people give it definition according to their
own experience. So, if you are fascinated towards
someone then, dont bother about it. Just keep
continuing your life in the same manner as you were
living previously. And along with it, just keep on
enjoying your feeling of likeness. Coz, it feels really
good when you like someone.
Guyz, if you feel any difficulty in other aspects
of teenage (such as studying etc) then, firstly try to
develop a positive kind of attitude in your blood.
Feeling of positivity matters a lot in our life. Try to
resist negativity. Negativity sometimes resists us in
doing something new & creative. Dont go to a
distance, just take my example. I am also a teen. If I
had been inclined negatively then, do you think I
would have been succeeded in writing this book, &
showing the reality to the people? No! So now
inclining towards the negative side would be just like,
if you know that you are going to the devils house &
still continuing your path. Here negative & positive
means psychologically negative & positive. And not
only this, you must be very much broad-minded, if you
want to normally exist in the todays world. Try to
open up your minds, and see everything with the
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with your near ones (e.g. family members, if they are
good etc). This way youll really feel psychologically
relaxed & a bit stress-reduced. Dont think that, I am
talking like elders and aged people. Coz, the above
mentioned are some truths about the human life and,
if you really succeeded in following the above
mentioned advises then, youll really feel a change in
yourself. Youll feel yourself as the good & somewhat
stable member of the todays world. Also try to
understand the conceptual things in a systematic
and simplified way.
I think now your teenage problems might
come to an end. Lets learn a bit about the WAY TO
HAPPINESS.

WAY TO
HAPPINESS-
Do you know, what is happiness? And what things
give us happiness? The answer must be different for
different people. These people can be different in
profession, living standard, money status, social divisions,
and gender. According to me the feeling of Happiness
can be divided into two sub-categories-
Short run Happiness
Long run Happiness

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 Here, short run and long run are symbolizing the
time-period up to which the persons feeling of
happiness lasts. Short run Happiness exists for a
short time interval giving him/her a good mood, &
the feeling of relaxation for a short time. But the
concept of Long run Happiness is a bit different.
Different persons have different goals in their life.
Some have a single goal, whereas some people
have multiple goals. These goals mean missions of
their life. Such as, to get established, to get more &
more richer, to marry a beautiful woman, to give very
huge & celebrative party during their childs marriage,
to see their more than one generation, to secure the life
of their next generation after securing their own etc.
So, the above mentioned were some of the
missions of life. A person can have multiple
missions, or he/she can have these missions one
after the other. But after fulfillment of missions of
life, does the person feels the same happiness as
that to when he hears a very funny joke? Of course
not! This is coz, the happiness which we feel after
hearing a funny joke is Short run Happiness. This
feeling can never be the same to that of Long run
Happiness. If long run Happiness extends to a
greater time, then it also takes years to achieve this
Happiness. But if the person is on the path to achieve
Long run Happiness then, do you think he should
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has still not achieved Long run Happiness)? Of
course not! If this would start happening then, what
is the role & identity of Short run Happiness!
Actually, Short run Happiness exists in the
society just to make the people stress-reduced. If
people would be psychologically stressed, then do
you think they can work with their full efficiency? Of
course not! If our efficiency is not up to our potential,
then of course we would not be able to give our
best, and in return also we would not get the results
up to our expectations. And if this happens, then our
missions of life would be nearly impossible to become
true. And if this happens, then we would never be
able to achieve Long run Happiness. The above
mentioned concept must be easily understandable &
imaginable. So, at last what conclusion did we got?
The answer is, to achieve Long run Happiness we
should wet our life with the spray of Short run Happiness.
And thats a psychological FACT!!!
What happens with the people who fail to do
this? Do you know? Actually, these people become
the victims of Chronic Depression! The term Chronic
depression basically lays its meaning upon the day-
to-day stress which makes our mind tensed all the
time, and often leads to angry nature, incapability to
judge & manipulate things exactly, reduction in
sleeping hours etc. And thats a FACT!!! If any
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then, many symptoms can be observed. Such as,
inability to concentrate, inability to learn any new
concept, remembering past-time events at most of the
times, consecutive failures in life due to bad
performance, inability to enjoy Short run Happiness & a
host of other symptoms. When a person is stressed (or
depressed), then its hypothalamus gland secretes
corticotropin-releasing factor into the blood stream,
which activates the pituitary gland to secrete
corticotropin (ACTH), which awakes adrenal gland to
secrete adrenaline & cortisol into the blood stream.
Adrenaline & Cortisol prepares our body to fight or
flight. They increments our breathing rate, heart-
beat rate, regulates blood glucose amount etc. But
an increase of Cortisol levels in the blood affects
negatively upon Hippocampus (a portion of brain).
And due to this affect only, a person is unable to
concentrate, learn new things, & perform up to its
full potency.
Hippocampus is the region which also
regulates Cortisol levels. So, if it is affected then, it
would not be able to regulate Cortisol levels. This
leads to a chain-increment of cortisol levels in the
blood, which in return again damages the
Hippocampus. And thats a FACT!!! So, what is the
starting point of this situation? It is avoiding the enjoy
of Short run Happiness. And not only this, Short run
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attitude, stress-reductment, better performance etc.
For a person who has these qualities, its very easy
to develop good social terms & relations among
different members of the society. Which in return
increments the stability of the person. You must
have understood the role and importance of Short run
Happiness as after reading this, you are not a kid
now! So its very much understood able how to
achieve Long run Happiness or, in short
Happiness

Communicational
Skills-
Due to the existence of humans, there is existence
of social relationships. But how are such social
relationships (or social bonds between the people)
formed? The answer is quiet easy and experience
able. Social relationships are produced in the society
with the input of nature, beliefs, thoughts and the
most important- Communicational skills.
Each person has its own belief, & some people
also have common beliefs. People having common
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communication helps us to interact, impress & also
to justify ourselves. Communicational skills are one of
the basic, but one of the most vital qualities of
human. If the human is mentally sharp, but he/she is
unable to express his/her sharpness then, that
sharpness would not help the individual up to the
extent of his/her potential. Some people dont have
that much qualities (or potential), but their
representation is good enough to influence the
people. This means that person is having the quality
of expressing himself/herself. In other words we can
also say, he/she is having good communication
skills. Way of expression can be improved just by
practicing! But the practice should be on regular
basis.
We all generate thoughts. Our thoughts can
different in different aspects. But when we express
our thoughts, our thoughts will get appreciation or
not is not decided by us! It is decided by the people,
to whom we interact & express ourselves. Just think
of a case in which the people, to whom the
expresser is expressing his/her thoughts (or beliefs)
are having contrary thoughts to that of expresser. In
this case, either the people would be moved by the
expresser or, the expresser would be disappreciated
by the people. Now do you think the expresser is
speaking wrong? The answer is No! Because the
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people. Now just suppose if this expresser only just
goes & expresses himself/herself to people of the
same beliefs then, he would surely receive good
appreciation. Why? Coz, his/her thoughts matches
with the thoughts of people.
When, the expresser received disappreciation, I
dont say that his communicational skills were low
but, his selection of audience was incorrect! There
are people in the society who like to demoralize the
creative one. So, it is very much necessary to think
that-to whom you are saying what. Some people,
whose selection of audience is not correct gets
demoralize (after receiving disappreciation), which
turns into depression. So, the final solution which we
got is Explain only to those who have the
capability to understand you!
Good Communicational skills have both-
negative & positive impacts on society. There isnt any
need to explain the positive impact. But the negative
impact is when, we become fate. A person who is
having the talent of trapping others into his/her ideas
(bad ideas) can be a curse on society. We have
already learned the positive impact of this talent in
chapter Power of Psychology. So being audience,
first we should think to whom, we are listening! I am
writing all this just to build up a strong, bold &
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