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Daysia Mims
Professor Padgett
English 102
22 October 2016

Affects of Communication Between Men and Women

Inquiry: How does communication between men and women affects relationships, friendships
and the workplace

Proposed thesis: I overall argue that body language and communication are key factors when it
comes to the relationship between men and women.

Since the beginning of time men and women have had obvious differences. Men and
women are not only different physically and emotionally; they also have differences when it
comes to communicating. Personal experience, TV shows and even academically, men and
women are proved to communicate on different levels. Some say that the line of communication
between men and women draws because women are more open for discussion, while men are
more prone to make more actions.
In early childhood, young girls start making friends in hopes of finding friends who they
can relate with. As a young woman, I look for friends who I can connect with and share
experiences with. Young boys and men are different because they make friends based off similar
activities they may share with others.
Research shows that women have more of an emotional outlook on things. Meanwhile,
men think more practically about things.

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Ahmetglu, Gorkan and Swami, Viren. Do you prefer Nice Guys? The effect of male
dominance behavior on womens ratings of sexual attractiveness. (2012)
Gorkan Ahmetoglu and Viren Swami experimented with men and women to see whether
if different behaviors of men would affect how attractive women measured the men. During this
experiment, Gorkan and Swami took eighty-one women to experiment with. Gorkan and Swami
allowed the men to display different body postures (667). After collecting their results, they
concluded that men who showed the higher dominance behavior was more attractive to the
women. Men who showed the lower dominance behavior could most likely be more sensitive
(667). The results from the experiment were related to the topic of how most women fall for the
bad boys stereotype.

Carter, Zackery A. Married and Previously Married Men and Womens Perceptions of
Communication on Facebook with the Opposite Sex: How Communicating Through
Facebook Can Be Damaging to Marriages. (January, 2016). 36-55. 20p.
The authors of this article are covering the idea of spouses communicating outside of
their marriages with the opposite sex and how that affects their marriage. This article talks about
how fast facebook and online relationship can develop compared to meeting someone online.
This article is relative to my research paper because I want to compare the difference between
meeting and dating someone online versus meeting someone in person in todays society. In my
opinion, the divorce rate and break ups go higher when significant others create a social media
account. I want to argue how to todays idea of relationship has the problem of communication
and how we use communication. In todays society were are spending most of how we spend our
time is online. Love is now being measured by if my significant other like my pictures, if they
follow someone you dont like.

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Park, Gregory, David Bryce Yaden, H. Andrew Schwartz, Margaret L. Kern, Johannes C.
Eichstaedt, Michael Kosinski, David Stillwell, Lyle H. Ungar, and Martin E. P. Seligman.
"Women Are Warmer but No Less Assertive than Men: Gender and Language on
Facebook." ONE PLoS ONE 11.5 (2016): 1-27. Web.
The authors of this article examine how men and women use body language and words
differently. Individual studies and meta-analytic reviews have found evidence for gender-linked
language features, such as words, phrases, and sentence length, that are used consistently more
by one gender than the other(2). In this article, the authors also created two studies to examine
gender language differences through an open-vocabulary analysis of language. In study one, they
came up with thousands of topics. In study two, they labeled the topics by degree of assertiveness and affiliation in a sample of over 15,000 people (5). This source is relative to my topic
because it covers the history of communication of men and women and also the authors of this
source constructed two studies to get more of an understanding of what each gender considered
assertive or affiliative.

Grohol, John M. "6 Ways Men & Women Communicate Differently | World of
Psychology." World of Psychology. Psychcentral,com, 16 July 2014. Web. 28 Oct. 2016.

This article compares the ways men and women communicate in different settings. The author
gave the example of when a woman is feeling down, the man is most likely concerned with how
he can fix the problem and resolving the problem. When the woman sees the man feeling down,
she is most likely to think that he is failing here and she thinks more deeper on the issue. In some
universal situations, woman are not only more emotional but also can think more thoroughly into
a problem or situation. The entire article compares how the female and male react when

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communication is falling apart. Women want to feel like their issues are important and men want
to feel like they arent being told what to do so much. For example, in a family household, the
mother wants understanding from everyone in the house of what she expects. The father want the
children to obey his command and respect his authority. For my research paper, this articles helps
break down the various variations of communication between men and women.
Tannen, Deborah. You Just Dont Understand by Deborah Tannen, Ph.D.
Communication Styles of Men and Women, Tannen. William Morrow and
Company, 1990. Web.
Tannens article is about the observations that she has made of women and men interacting in
groups and what she observes as the differences may be. Tannens opens the idea that women
have a consensus way of thinking. This means that they look for inputs as well as people who
can relate to them. Tannens article is very useful for my research topic because it will help me
gather ideas about how women and men actually scientifically think differently. Also Tannens
article is useful because I can compare Tannens results from her observation as well the article
written by John Grohol that I have cited.
Https://www.facebook.com/scienceofpeople. Female Body Language | Science of People.
Science of People/ N.p., 30 Sept.2016.
This author summarizes females body language when it comes to flirting, being submissive
and even when it comes to lying. This article gives the example of usually when woman flirt or
try to entice men, we raise our eyebrows and toss our hair. This article argues how men lie to
appear more powerful, while women lie to protect other people and themselves. I plan to use this
article to make a counter argument of how I dont think this always true. Sometimes when

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comparing men and women, someone can experience double standards. This article concludes
that women might be better at reading body language because chemically, their brain is active
when they examine someones behavior.