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Marital Success
Marital Success is everyone's desire from the time love
seed is sown, and spiritual and soul ties develop between a
man and a woman, up to the time they say I do.
However, to many the dream of a successful marriage has
faded as the years went by, and as at now, there are those
who are contemplating, quitting and never to turn back.
While I was reflecting on how my marriage has stood the
taste of time, i narrowed it down to the following
disciplines that i learnt and applied in the course of time,
and I have witnessed much change and success.
(01).Stay Humble!
Maintain and project the attitude of the tax collector,
when you are appear before God to plead for your
marriage.-(Luke 18:9-14) .
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Stay in your office 24/7 no matter the heat in that office,
because the potential God has endowed you with can only
be maximized when functioning in your office.
You need to specialize and single your focus, if you are going
to be husband or the wife, God would be proud of.
God is the one who gave you the responsibility, as the
husband, or the wife, hence your accountability is to him
first before your partner.
He knows you cannot function without Him, (John 15:5), and
so He has provided His grace for you to be able to function
in your office.
(3).Identify & Target the real enemy
Your marriage is a holy institution established by a holy God.
Since the time of creation of man, Satan has been the only
one enemy to Gods interaction and engagement with man.
The enemy of your marriage is not any of the following, your
wife, your husband, your mother in law, your sisters in law
or your brothers in law.
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2 He has told you not to give in to his urge for sex,
until he starts treating you well.
By obeying him you disobey God, because your
responsibility to your husband is not pegged on his
performance, but love which is unconditional .(1
Corinthians 7:5 )
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2 He has told you not to give in to his urge for sex,
until he starts treating you well.
By obeying him you disobey God, because your
responsibility to your husband is not pegged on his
performance, but love which is unconditional .(1
Corinthians 7:5 )
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(5).Jesus the Center Of Focus.
Your marriage is a vine yard God has entrusted to you and
your mate to take care of, because he expects grapes from
it at the end of the day.
You are not for yourselves, hence non of you should
attract attention to themselves, through manipulation,
intimidation of the other party, as this would be
tantamount to idol worship, and this does not amuse God
not even a single minute.
As Moses lifted the bronze snake in the wilderness, Jesus
Christ is to be lifted up in all your undertaking by each of
your in your separate and unique offices.
(a).Love
Love is giving your speech and actions from your point of
strength, fully aware of anothers weaknesses, limitations,
frailties and failures, motivated by their best interests at
heart.
This love was demonstrated by God when He sent His only
begotten son to be a savior for a human race, so helpless
because of sin, and whose destiny had already been
decided by virtue of sin is death.[Romans3:23]
As the Wife you have a husband who is a
human being with enough weaknesses, limitations, and
shortcomings in his locker ready to sprout when a right
situation presents itself.
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God in his wisdom in match making, this
man is the opposite of you, in the sense that you are
strong where he is weak. So you have a duty to act from
your point of strength with his best interest at heart.
Secondly take stock of the limitations or
weaknesses of your husband by the help of the Holy
spirit. And now with the knowledge and consciousness of
the point of weakness of your husband, intentionally,
decide to speak and act towards him in his best interest
at heart no matter the cost, because that s what love is
all about.
Time and again Jesus also motivated by this love had
compassion to save people from oppression, who were so
helpless in their situation.
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Secondly take stock of the limitations or weaknesses of
your husband to the extent of the help of the Holy spirit.
With the knowledge and consciousness of your strengths
and the weaknesses of your husband, intentionally,
standing on your point of strength speak and act towards
her to her best interest no matter the cost, because that s
what love is all about.
(b).Peace.
Peace is what Christ left when he went to
heaven having accomplished his work on earth.[John
14:27] This peace stays with us even when we have
something upsetting in our lives like the raging waterfall
under the sleeping bird. Now your marriage is not going to
be a bed of roses even though you love one another.
Without a doubt there will be times of
tensions, heat, and discouragements, which you would
never bargain for if your permission was sought before
they happened.
Thats when the peace of God that surpasses
all human understanding comes handy. This peace flows
from a life surrendered to God, and the unshakeable trust
, that God is in control, and no matter the difficult
moments in your marriage, and that He will cause all the
things from such ugly moments to work together for your
good.[Romans 8:28]
(c).Patience
Patience is a virtue demonstrated by God in
all his dealing and engagement with human beings.
Patience is a result of His ability to see the good end from
the beginning in a seemingly bad situation.
He then positions Himself to offer Spiritual,
psychological and emotional support to you until such a
time the end is manifested in reality. That's when you
exclaim, with joy, and sometimes feeling disappointed
with yourself for failing to see that end from the
beginning in the midst of that challenge in your marriage.
In the same vein your marital success
majorly depends on this rare virtue at least from you
reading this book.
With the Holy Spirit Inspiration, you can be able to see
the good, desired end for your marriage in a seemingly
ugly or bad situation.
For example if you can see the development
of independence and diversity in your partner anytime
there are huge differences in your discussions, you will
offer spiritual, psychological and emotional support, to
your partner, without necessarily getting pissed off and
angry at him/her for differing with you most of the time,
as your patiently wait to see the manifestation of the
good outcome.
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(d).Joy
Joy is a state of gladness, in your heart when
you have Jesus Christ as your hope of your marriage. It
comes from the realization that God is at peace with you,
and you are accepted by Him in the beloved because of
what His son Jesus Christ accomplished in your stead.
Its a realization that the success of your
marriage is His original and ultimate desire, because God is
not failure in His own nature, and He would not allow His
Childs Marriage to fail, because that will discredit Him as a
daddy.
Joy is what makes harmony and oily
conversations in a family. Tensions and nervousness are
diffused in the presence of joy.
As you realize that Christ is interested to make
you a choice couple, to demonstrate to the world that
marriage build on the solid rock are a success, you will give
up control over your stressful moments, your partner,
which are the common robbers of joy.
The bible says the Joy of the Lord is Your
strength. Gods joy comes from the finished work of the
cross by His beloved Son Jesus. Consequently as you
submit to Christ, Gods joy is expressed and this becomes
your inner strength to be able to afford a state of gladness
all the time.
(e).Kindness
Kindness is treating your partner with
Spiritual, psychological and emotional courtesy. Its
speaking and acting to them with mercy because your
recognize their intrinsic value by virtue of who they are to
God.
Kindness liberates your partner to trust you,
and this makes them love you back spiritually,
psychologically, emotionally, and physically without
reservation.
Its realizing that they hold you in high regard and how
you treat them will have a high effect in how they will
relate with other people outside your marriage.
Treating them with kindness therefore sets
the pace, for them to show kindness to the others in your
larger family and even in the outside world.
The ripple effect is your marriage being
esteemed highly by all your family members, and the
outside world, because rarely will you find a human being
who is not touched by Kindness.
(f).Goodness
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(h).Faithfulness
(I).Gentleness
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(J).Self Control