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Families in Society
Spring 2016
What to do Before I Do: The Benefits of Marriage Preparation
The positive effect of premarital education on marriages and the family
is widely recognized by those that have embarked on the journey prior to
their wedding day. Premarital education has even gained national attention
by lawmakers; several states, including Florida, Minnesota, and Texas, have
adapted policies that reward couples for time spent preparing for marriage.
In some states the fee for a marriage license is greatly reduced or even free
should the couple complete the required premarital education hours
(Harrison). For lawmakers to offer this kind of incentive there must be lasting
benefits of the time spent in group or individual classes directly focused on
preparing a couple for the demands of marriage. What are the benefits of
intentional marriage preparation on the marriage relationship itself and on
the family as a whole? What types of marriage preparation courses are
offered in our society and what makes for an effective premarital education
course? Looking further into these questions can empower marriage
relationships and the families that flow from them.
The impacts of premarital education on marriage relationships are
positive in multiple dimensions of the relationship. A study presented in the
Journal of Marital and Family Therapy explored what specific areas were
affected. The study, completed at a southeastern university, consisted of 63
life. In the article Making a Case for Premarital Education, author Scott
Stanley writes, When a couple has a positive premarital educational
experience, they may be more likely to seek the advice of either the person
who helped them premaritally or others (Stanley 272-280). Premarital
education opens the door to professionals that seek to counsel couples and
their families. For those that have never used their services, reaching out for
help can be a daunting task. Premarital counseling offers the opportunity for
couples to engage in preventative counseling and gain a better
understanding of what it is like to receive help. Knowing what counseling is
like and where to find it makes couples more likely to seek it out again for
different or larger problems they face together down the road.
Premarital education courses come in a variety of shapes and sizes.
Traditionally, courses were provided by the church and the church leaders
there. However, there are now premarital courses offered by social workers
and others outside of the church. Premarital education and counseling can
range from one session to multiple sessions over a period of time and is
greatly diverse in the material that it covers. According to Stanley, programs
offered outside of the church tend to have the higher short-term results in
terms of changed behaviors, while programs offered by church professionals
have higher long-term results. He writes, religious leaders (or religious
institutions with family life educators) are in the single best position to bring
about the broadest range of meaningful early prevention efforts with regard
with a teacher that already knows them or will spend intentional time getting
to know them in order to best address their individual needs. Marriage is
different than any other relationship; just because a couple is already a high
functioning unit does not mean that there is no room for improvement or
steps to be taken to prepare for marriage.
An interesting aspect of premarital education is found in the name
itself. Premarital education is synonymously called premarital counseling.
While these words are used interchangeably, there is a vastly different
connotation between the two. The word counseling tends to imply that
something is wrong and is being fixed with the help of a professional. On the
other hand, the word education is not viewed as negatively, but rather a
chance for everyone to gain learning on a given subject by any given
teacher. When applied to marriage and the family, the two words tend to
have similar connotations. This is something that family professionals should
be aware and cautious of when engaging couples in premarital preparations.
While there is little research on whether or not the word counseling inhibits
people from being willing to participate in premarital preparation, it is
plausible that the word education would be more positively received.
When it comes to premarital education, Certified Family Life Educators
play a large role. According to the Family Life Education Institute, the goal of
family life programs and Certified Family Life Educators is to enrich and
improve the quality of individual and family life (Family Life Education
Institute). One of the best ways to enrich and improve the quality of an
individuals life and the life of the family as a whole is through premarital
education. Not only does premarital education improve the marriage
relationships by building up strengths in a couples relationship, those
strengths in turn bless the family as a whole. A healthy family is built on the
foundation of a healthy marriage. The best way to obtain a healthy marriage
is to take steps to prepare for the rocky journey of life ahead before marriage
instead of inadequately dealing with problems along the way due to lack of
education. One of the best ways to accomplish this is for Certified Family Life
Educators in every area to work together. Those working in the community
and church have a platform through which they can offer premarital
education courses, ultimately serving those working with families in the
hospital who are forced to face one of the most difficult storms of life. It is
the responsibility of Certified Family Life Educators to engage couples in
premarital education and equip them with the tools they need to build and
sustain a healthy marriage.
It is clear that engaging in premarital education poses many benefits.
Those benefits include higher marital satisfaction, greater affection, positive
cognition and communication, and lower levels of ineffective arguing. In
addition, premarital education is particularly useful to couples at high risk for
future marital difficulties and opens the door for couples and their future
family to find help when problems arise. It is also clear that the most
effective premarital education programs flow from the church and occur over
Works Cited
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Premarital Education for Couples with Varying Degrees of Future
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