Bob greene: it takes courage to disagree with the boss, but it also takes some smarts to do it. He says some years ago, he put his job at risk by disagreeing with the boss. Now, he says, he disagrees with the boss and has a better understanding. Greene: if you disagree with your boss, don't be afraid to ask for clarification.
Bob greene: it takes courage to disagree with the boss, but it also takes some smarts to do it. He says some years ago, he put his job at risk by disagreeing with the boss. Now, he says, he disagrees with the boss and has a better understanding. Greene: if you disagree with your boss, don't be afraid to ask for clarification.
Bob greene: it takes courage to disagree with the boss, but it also takes some smarts to do it. He says some years ago, he put his job at risk by disagreeing with the boss. Now, he says, he disagrees with the boss and has a better understanding. Greene: if you disagree with your boss, don't be afraid to ask for clarification.
boss. It also takes some smarts to do it without getting fired. I didn't Here are some do's and don'ts for dis- agreeing with your boss: Your ability to communicate clearly and persuasively is one of the key fac- tors that determine career success. This Don't: have those smarts some years ago and • Say you disagree with the boss's skill affects your ability to do your job so I put my job at risk. Here's what I plan. Avoid use of the dreaded word and the way you're judged as a profes- learned and want to share. "but," which might make you appear sional. It's a particularly important I was working for one of the big as if you're negating everything the message for those who may believe that financial-services companies. One day boss has said. Instead, use the word technical know-how and a strong desire my boss, whom we'll call Hank, handed "suggest." It's a magic word in this to succeed are all that's needed. me a two-page plan. I read it and felt it kind of dialogue because no boss A high level of skill in presenting wouldn't work. But the boss is smart, I bristles at a suggestion. yourself will increase your effectiveness told myself. He's much more experi- • Let your emotions come into play. in a wide range of business situations. enced than I am. Putting aside my frus- Don't present an alternate plan right These include: tration, I reread the plan, more careful- away. Ask for a meeting to discuss • reporting on what you've accom- ly this time. Once again I came to the the boss's objectives. plished, same conclusion. I walked into his office and said, "Your plan won't work, Do: • participating in meetings, Hank." Wrong move! • Start your meeting by asking what • interacting with internal and exter- the boss wants to achieve and the nal customers, "Of course it'll work," he said. "Just reasons for these goals. Ask open- do it." "I want to redesign it," I replied. ended questions to probe further. • gaining support for your ideas, "No," he said, clearly annoyed. Paraphrase what you've heard to • asking your staff for extraordinary I left the office crestfallen. As I make sure you got it. Thank the boss performance, reflected on what had happened I real- for the information and set a date • securing the cooperation of a peer, ized that I had caused Hank to become for presenting your plan. • participating in a team presentation defensive. In effect, I was telling him • Link your plan to the boss's critical and speaking before a group as a rep- he didn't know how to do his job. I had needs, including any personal ones, resentative of your company. to take a different tack. as well as you understand them. The lone, isolated contributor is a I asked Hank if we could have a Step into the boss's shoes. rarity in business today. To be success- meeting where I could ask him some Appreciate what's good about the ful, it's essential to work with many questions to help me understand his boss's road map; you want to get people and communicate effectively plan better. Sure, he said, and we set your plan accepted, not prove the with them. On occasion it will be neces- the date and time. I came to the meet- boss wrong. sary to disagree with someone. Be sure ing with a pen and notepad and asked • Open the meeting by giving the boss to do it in a way that produces a posi- Hank what he wanted to achieve with the floor. You won't get the atten- tive outcome. his plan. He described his objectives. tion you need until the boss invites Mr. Daley is founder and chairman of I asked a series of questions to clarify you to speak. Present your plan Communispond Inc., a communication- my understanding. After making cer- enthusiastically. Make it clear that skills training firm based in New York tain I had grasped Hank's goals, I it's intended to achieve what the that teaches presenting, sales and man- summed them up. Success so far: He boss wants. Start with the bottom agement. This article is adapted from an understood that I understood. line, not with how you'll implement excerpt from "Talk Your Way to the Top" I told Hank that I thought I could the plan. Fill in the details only if (McGraw-Hill, September 2000), his create a plan that achieved his objec- you're asked for them. Keep it short; forthcoming book, written with Laura tives and asked him if I could return the boss is busy. Daley-Caravella. with it on Friday. He agreed. I exhaled. You can't advance your career with- The story has a happy ending. We met out having the boss on your side. You that Friday, he accepted my plan, and I also need the trust and respect of all began implementing it that day. the people you interact with at work, It could easily have gone otherwise. up and down the line and across func- tions as well.