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your beloved may be an effective way to keep your love life healthy.
In this movie guide, filled with some of the best-loved and most popular
romantic comedies, youll find the perfect film to match your mood
and gain insight into keeping your own love lights burning. The lessons
imparted will pave the way for discussing difficult misunderstandings
and return you to the romantic bliss you deserve.
I will give this book to couples I know who can
learn from it and be inspired by it. The authors words
remind me what romantic stories are all about.
Pam Wallace, cowriter, Academy Award winning film Witness
and movies. This book is her tribute to love and the movies that show
us how to find, hold, and relish it in our romantic relationships.
ROMANTIC COMEDIES
WHAT
WOULD
YOU
RATHER
DO?
SMITH
ROMANTIC
COMEDIES
These FILMS
Can Save Your
Love Life!
Contents
Acknowledgments vii
Introductionxi
S EC TIO N
O N E
S EC TIO N
T WO
Young Love 48
Dont Mind the Age Gap 57
Lovers of a Certain Age 66
What Kind of Love Is This? 75
Family Foibles 84
S EC TIO N
TH R E E
viii
S EC TION
FO U R
S EC TION
FIVE
R O M A N T I C
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
ix
Introduction
Ah, love one of the strongest forces in the universe. How
do you feel about it?
Youre in love. You want to be in love. You used to be in
love. Youre still in love, but theyre not. Your love is gone.
Emotions run the gamut in these different states and
sometimes you just need a bit of understanding or
cheering up, some hopefulness. Sometimes you need some
advice on how to handle a situation. And sometimes, what
you really need is just a good cry.
Or say one of you wants more communication, sex,
intimacy, and/or commitment than the other one does.
Theres no way youd get them into couples therapy, so
how do you get your point across in an entertaining,
thoughtful, and hopefully effective way?
Watch a romantic comedy!
Studies suggest that couples who watch romantic movies
together and then discuss them and their feelings about
them may have a better stay-together rate than similar
couples who enter traditional therapy. Why would that be?
Science has shown us how endorphins work, how the
imagination triggers endorphins, how mirror neurons
help us experience what we see other people going
through, and how the memories of an imagined event or
a movie are as real as memories of actual events. Its how
stories work.
Its why romantic comedies have been popular for as long
as humans have been telling stories: from tales around
a campfire; to comedies in an amphitheater inspired by
Thalia, the Greek Muse of comedy; to Shakespeares Much
Ado About Nothing, to the modern Shakespeare in Love.
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R O M A N T I C
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
SECTION ONE
Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will
flow back and soften and purify the heart.
WASHINGTON IRVING,
CHAPTER 1
Am I Good Enough
to Be Loved?
ANNIE
HALL
RELEASE DATE
1977
BRIEF DESCRIPTION
WOODY ALLEN:
LOVER TYPES
Insecure/ Self-Sabotaging/
Shallow/ Ditzy/ Fearful of
Failure/ Fearful of Success
LOVE LESSONS
R O M A N T I C
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
MY BIG
FAT
GREEK
WEDDING
RELEASE DATE
2002
BRIEF DESCRIPTION
Why?... Why do
you love me?
LOVER TYPES
JOHN CORBETT:
Conventions on Beauty/
Willing to Walk into Unfamiliar
Situations for the Sake of Love
LOVE LESSONS
heart-to-heart.
Be persistent in breaking down others
preconceived notions.
Learn to love yourself. Sometimes because
R O M A N T I C
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
AMLIE
RELEASE DATE
2001
BRIEF DESCRIPTION
LOVE LESSONS
R O M A N T I C
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
HITCH
RELEASE DATE
2005
BRIEF DESCRIPTION
Cocky/ Unrequited/
Hopeless/ Oblivious to Others
Affections/ Surface-Focused/
Wanting the Very Best for the
Other/ Willing to Learn
LOVE LESSONS
10
R O M A N T I C
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
CHAPTER 2
MUST
LOVE
DOGS
RELEASE DATE
2005
BRIEF DESCRIPTION
JOHN CUSACK:
12
LOVE LESSONS
R O M A N T I C
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
13
THE
BREAKUP
RELEASE DATE
2006
BRIEF DESCRIPTION
Eternally Immature/
Dissatisfied/ Needy/ Clueless/
Inside a Protective Shell/
Having Unrealistic Expectations
14
LOVE LESSONS
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
15
(500)
DAYS OF
SUMMER
RELEASE DATE
2009
BRIEF DESCRIPTION
Joseph Gordon-Levitt is
caught in the hamster wheel
of overanalyzing his failed
relationship with Zooey
Deschanel but finally finds the
hope to try for love again.
CAST
LOVER TYPES
Obsessive Romantic/
Disinterested in Love/ Love
Denier/ Nave/ Analysis
Paralysis
16
LOVE LESSONS
trying again.
Learn what you can from your own and
R O M A N T I C
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
17
UNDER
THE
TUSCAN
SUN
RELEASE DATE
2003
BRIEF DESCRIPTION
18
LOVE LESSONS
R O M A N T I C
CO M E D I E S
PA M E L A
JAY E
S M I T H
19
Go to couples therapy
or watch a great movie?
your beloved may be an effective way to keep your love life healthy.
In this movie guide, filled with some of the best-loved and most popular
romantic comedies, youll find the perfect film to match your mood
and gain insight into keeping your own love lights burning. The lessons
imparted will pave the way for discussing difficult misunderstandings
and return you to the romantic bliss you deserve.
I will give this book to couples I know who can
learn from it and be inspired by it. The authors words
remind me what romantic stories are all about.
Pam Wallace, cowriter, Academy Award winning film Witness
and movies. This book is her tribute to love and the movies that show
us how to find, hold, and relish it in our romantic relationships.
ROMANTIC COMEDIES
WHAT
WOULD
YOU
RATHER
DO?
SMITH
ROMANTIC
COMEDIES
These FILMS
Can Save Your
Love Life!