What

humans can be, they must be. This need we call self-actualization. Abraham Maslow

If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring
forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you. Gospel of Thomas

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person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. Our chief
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be what we know we could be. R. W. Emerson

SELF-ACTUALIZATION COACHING

Authority Autonomy Authenticity



JACK as Every Man & JACK of All Trades

SELF-ACTUALIZATION COACH (Life Coach + Counselor)

SELF-ACTUALIZED = SECURITY + FREEDOM + LOVE

RESPONSIBLE FREEDOM: THE WAY TO PEACE and PROSPERITY


Jack, a generic term for Man. A Jack of All Trades may be a master of integration. Such an individual

knows enough from many learned trades and skills to be able to bring his disciplines together in a
practical manner. This person is a generalist rather than an expert. Wikipedia

What a man must be, he can be. This work I call self-actualization. Every Man Jack
1. Do you know what
is and are you living your life wisely enough?
2. Do you know what SECURITY is and are you as secure as you want to be?
3. Do you know what FREEDOM is and are you as free as you want to be?
4. Do you know what LOVE is and do you love another and they love you?
5. Have you SELF-ACTUALIZED, become all that you MUST BE?
If you answered NO to any of the above then I may be right for YOU.
As your SELF-ACTUALIZATION COACH, I help you UNCOVER, DISCOVER, RECOVER, and INTEGRATE
what you MUST BE into what you CAN BEwhich I term RESPONSIBLE FREEDOM. My overall goal
is to provide you with Resources of Wisdom that when Self-Actualized will gain you Security as
Authority, Freedom as Autonomy and Love as Authenticity that will lead you back wiser to Wisdom
in an ever up and outward, enlarging and more inclusive, Spiritual Spiral that will leave you and the
planet more prosperous and peaceful.
As a Self-Actualization Coach I am different from a Life Coach (to be explained below).
According to Abraham Maslow, the creator of the Hierarchy of Needs model with its 5th
consummate level of Self-Actualization, only about 1% of the older (note emphasis) adult
population can be considered as Self-Actualized. Do YOU want to be among that 1% ?
I am one of the 1%. I demonstrate the Self-Actualization of Wisdom. What and How we Teach is Who
We Are. I Teach my Self-Actualization so you can Learn Yours. I hope to get the opportunity to prove this
to you. I invite you to compare me to others who make similar claims (read below).
TWO CONDITIONS NECESSARY FOR SELF-ACTUALIZATION
There are two conditions to consider whether or not you are ready to engage Self-Actualization.
The first is age. The second is how successfully you have met the lower 4 Deficiency Needs (D-
Needs) to free you to pursue the 5th highest Being Need (B-Need) that operates out of
sufficiency not deficiency (see above Maslows Hierarchy of Needs Pyramid visual).
Age--years for experience to be gained--is critical. Certainly, years do not necessarily equate
to maturity defined as enacted wisdom. One can be 80 with the maturity of an 8 year old in
terms of understanding the Human Condition. However, years lived are to a great extent

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necessary while never sufficient. Why? To Actualize a Self you must first have one. The unpleasant
truth for youth (of any ageyears do not guarantee maturity) is that it takes time to grow up and
know your Self. Those young in wisdom tend to snow and showfake and shake their Self, rather
then know and grow their Self. They are still seeking to answer Lifes Question, Who Am I? with
their actualized Lifes Answer, Who I AM!. Usually, only those 35+ are likely to have the necessary
experience to gain sufficient Self-Knowledge to be uncovered, discovered, recovered and integrated.
Maslow explained about how he arrived at the concept of self-actualization: I confine the concept very
definitely to older people. By the criteria I used, self-actualization does not occur in young people. In our
culture at least, youngsters have not yet achieved identity, or autonomy, nor have they had time
enough to experience an enduring, loyal, post-romantic love relationship, nor have they generally found
their calling, the altar upon which to offer themselves.
I agree with Maslow. Looking back on my life with 72 years perspective, it is clear to me that I was
only beginning to truly Self-Actualize, that is, maturely live Responsible Freedom, around 45. For it
was not until then, when I met Katharine my Other Half, that I began to value and practice the Art
of Loving (Pairing, my website: Pairing Today http://www.pairingtoday.com) which transformed my
Love of Wisdom into the Wisdom of Love. Accomplishing that led me into an ever increasing Spiritual
Spiral of Wisdom where I am today. I understand the Human Condition. I have Sourced myself and
am able to be a Resource for you to do the same. Hence the name of my website: Resource for
Your Source (http://www.resourceforyoursource.com)
Once your D-Needs have been met, Quoting from Theories of Personality by the
Schultzes, you will be:
Free of constraints imposed by society and by yourself.
Not distracted by the lower-order D-efficiency Needs.
Secure in your self-image and in your relationships with other people.
Able to love and be loved in return.
Objectively aware of your strengths and weaknesses, virtues and vices.
COMPARE MY CLAIMS FOR SELF-ACTUALIZATION TO SIMILAR CLAIMS MADE BY OTHERS
I believe we can only teach WHO WE AREevery HOW is a WHO. I find very few who accord with
my understanding of Self-Actualization. I have met many so-called enlightened gurus and
teachers personally or through their devotees and works but very few do I consider truly Self-
Actualized in the way I live this concept and coach it with others. I make the claim that I am
Responsibly Free and Self-Actualize Wisdom.
I realize I must prove this claim and I am quite willing to do so. I invite you to test my
understanding of the Human Condition and my attainment of Self-Actualizing Responsible
Freedom and compare it to others claiming something similar or more advanced. View any
of my 36 videos on Youtube here http://bit.ly/2d4dg5q critically put me up against any of
the teachers or gurus on Youtube who discuss Self-actualization, Self-realization,
Enlightenment, Peak Experiences, Transcendence, God, Spirituality, etc. E.g., go here
http://bit.ly/2fP0mXu to view Leo Gura, a younger, very popular (millions of Youtube views)
Advanced Self-development teacher for his A Vision For The Self Actualized Life - Get Yo
Ass Inspired!. Now, go here http://bit.ly/2faL1ie and here http://bit.ly/2fP8FCw for what I
consider the real thing featuring Abraham Maslow in 1968 (Note: hundreds of views only).
I invite any challenge. I am certain my Who AM I? is Who I AM!. You decide.

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DEFINITIONS OF KEY TERMS "If you wish to converse with me, define your terms" Voltaire
Wisdom: The experienced and enacted knowledge by which you achieve Security, Freedom
and Love.
Security: The feeling you are freely valued and cared for by another and freely value and
care for them in return.
Freedom: The will to be responsible for yourself and to prevent others from controlling you.
Love: The freely given and intentional caring for another to increase their
Freedom and yours.
Note: the three following definitions are the earliest etymological meanings of the words.
Authority: to increase anything
Autonomy: to live by your own laws
Authenticity: self-achievement
Responsible Freedom: The highest condition a Human Being can attain which is the
intentional, ongoing Self-Actualizing of Wisdom that achieves Security, Freedom and Love.
HOW IS SELF-ACTUALIZATION COACHING DIFFERENT FROM LIFE COACHING?
I define Self-Actualization Coaching as a combination of Life Coaching and Counseling. Here
are very brief definitions of Coaching and Counseling both of which I do with you:
Coaching helps you set and achieve goals that bring desired change through using skillful
questioning. I work with your strengths, weaknesses, challenges, opportunities and crises
concerning goals and change.
Counseling is an organic process that helps you understand your mental and physical suffering
so as to heal the disowned Parts of yourself into a Wholly Integrated You while gaining relief by
feeling emotionally secure in the relationship. Counselling depends on mutual trust and
openness. I work with you intimately to help you prepare for and adapt to loss so you can not
only survive but learn to thrive by linking yourself ever more liberatingly and lovingly to life.
HOW DO I CARRY OUT SELF-ACTUALIZATION COACHING?
Most Life Coaching is done over the phonesome research indicates up to 91%, either
speaking or texting or both. I differ from the Herd as I hope you do. I favor and recommend
visual conversation on Zoom or Skype. Intimacy is necessary and it can only come through
Facing our SeIvesrisking showing ALL of who we arethe good and the bad. Seeing each
others face as we talk is essential in Self-Actualization Coaching that combines Life Coaching
and Counseling (see above).
WHAT IS IT WORTH TO YOU TO SELF-ACTUALIZE WHAT YOU MUST BE?
The cost of a thing is the amount of what I call life which is required to be exchanged for it,
immediately or in the long run. Henry David Thoreau
My cost in U.S. dollars per hour varies according to your ability to pay and is between $0 and $100 (if
you do not have money I will take your service as trade). I offer a no-charge 30 to 60 minute
introductory first meeting so we can decide if I am right for you.
PAY JACK THROUGH PAYPAL
https://www.paypal.com/c@/webapps/mpp/send-payments-online

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ARE YOU SELF-ACTUALIZATION COACHABLE?
Please answer these questions together with me in our first, free, no obligation meeting to
discover if we are rightly aligned to continue Self-Actualization Coaching. I hope you will feel
secure enough with me to do this. Please feel free to decline to respond to any of these
questions for whatever reasons with no need to explain.
ARE YOU?:
1. Committed to your personal and professional development?
2. A lifelong learner?
3. Willing to acknowledge where you are stuck in your life?
4. Open to other ways of seeing the world?
5. Able to accept feedback?
6. Willing to try new behaviors?
7. Willing to reflect on your experience and observe yourself in action?
8. Willing to develop parts of yourself that may have been neglected?
9. Willing to challenge your present beliefs?
10. Willing to begin a relationship with the source of your dissatisfaction?
11. Willing to consider new possibilities for yourself?
12. Willing to ask yourself new questions?
13. Willing to take risks to change?
14. Willing to reinvent yourself?
15. Willing to not know?
16. Open to ideas other than your own?
17. Willing to experience more purpose and fulfillment?
18. Willing to let go of behaviors and beliefs that no longer serve you?
19. Willing to live with uncertainty and ambiguity?
20. Willing to engage in a process of introspection?
21. Willing to consider new strategies for success?
WHY YOU SHOULD CHOOSE ME TO COACH YOUR SELF-ACTUALIZATION
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.

I am trustworthy and will provide CV and references to prove so.

I will support you so you are willing to share your vulnerability with me.
I will challenge you sometimes to the point of our mutual discomfort.
I will listen attentively, reflectively, with focused, heartfelt care.
I think different from you and 99% of the population.
I am available to you online as you want me including 24/7 anytime emergency contact.
I have a huge digital library of books, articles, mp3s and mp4s that I provide for no cost
beginning with the book the above questions are taken from: Be Your Own Coach.
8. If we align rightly I will be not only your coaching partner but your Free Friend forever.
ANY QUESTIONS TO ASK ME?
Please feel free to ask me ANYTHING AT ANYTIME! I really mean it when I say I am
TRANSPARENT. That is, I have nothing to hide and everything to show. My motto: Nothing to
Conceal, Nothing to Reveal, Only Reality with which to Deal.

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Look carefully at this cartoon of Wisdom.

Note the KEYS hanging above their heads
the hands gripping the bars which are
and
This symbolizes the truth that you
KEYS.
you
have been locked into a Social Control
Cell
from birth but you dont yet know this.
Only YOU have the KEY that can free YOU--

SELF-KNOWLEDGEbeginning with the fact
are IMPRISONED and NOT FREE!
YOU





















CONTACT JACK CARNEY:
Email: themesofjack@gmail.com
Websites: www.resourceforyoursource.com; www.pairingtoday.com
Skype: selfactualizingcoach@hotmail.com
Cell phone (Auckland, N.Z.) +64 022 409 4035

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JACK CARNEY CREDENTIALS in BUSINESS & HUMAN SERVICES

Below is a summary of Jack Carneys work record in Canada, Australia and the United States from 1975 to 2003 in
Business and Human Services arranged in 4 Areas.

I. ENTREPRENEURSHIP & BUSINESS MANAGEMENT
(Canada, Australia & United States 1975 to 2002)
Started up and managed these businesses:
a. Credible ContractingGeneral Contractor-Builder, Self-taught Architect 1975-1981 (Canada)
b. International Shell & MembranesHyperbolic Paraboloid Modular Building System 1981-1986 (Australia)
c. Kali DesignWomens Boutique Clothing Design & Manufacture 1989-1991 (Australia)
d. Inventor and Marketer of New Household ProductPotmate 1991-1992 (Australia & U.S.)
e. Clearly YoursWindow Washing Company 1992-1993 (U.S.)
f. Partners for LifeRelationships Consultancy Promoting Permanent Partnerships for Single Men & Women 1996-
1998 (Australia)
g. Creative Connections for LifeTraining for Health Care Workers 1999-2002 (Australia)

II. LOSS & CARE EDUCATION (Australia 1996 to 2003)
1. Palliative Care (1996-2003)
a. Member of the Palliative Care Association of Queenslands Upskilling Course for General Practice Doctors
b. Educator for Medical Professionals on Personally Caring for the Terminally Ill
c. Advocate for Palliative Home Care including starting The Suncorp-Metway Katharos Palliative Care Project
d. Member of Blue Nursing Curriculum Advisory Committee
e. Public talks including TV and Radio on the Value of Palliative Care
f. Member of Blue Nursing Curriculum Advisory Committee
g. Founding member Community Loss & Grief Committee
h. Community Activist & Advocate started up, managed Widowers for men only who lost their wives

2. Aged Care (2000-2003)
a. Older Persons Advocacy ServiceCommunity Advocate
b. Trainer for Certificate III Aged Care WorkersChallenge Learning Institute & East Coast Training

3. Mental Health (2000-2003)
a. Research Assistant for School of Population Healths and Queensland Healths Queensland Alcohol and Drug
Research and Education
b. Research Assistant for Queensland Health Supervision Project for Allied Health, Nursing & Medical Staff
c. Co-Founder & Co-Trainer for Creative Connections for Life Creating and Delivering Workshops on Stress and Burnout
for Mental Health Workers

III. RELATIONSHIPS EDUCATION (Australia 1997 to 2003)
1. Started up and managed Partners for Life, a Permanent Partnership Singles Introduction and Personal Development
Company
2. Chief Educator and Public Relations Spokesman for Relationships Australia Queensland

IV. ADULT COMMUNITY EDUCATION (Australia 1993 to 1998)
1. Adult Community Education at Technical And Further Education (TAFE) Institutes creating and delivering courses on
Personal Development
2. Community Activist and Advocate started up and managed Community Program Mentors for older persons to
connect with younger as Life Coaches and Guides

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