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With few visible role models of successful gay couples to emulate, many gay singles
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Even with more growing acceptance and validation of gay relationships in the past
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By blending these components and living a dating life with integrity, relationship
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success can be more readily yours because there are no facades or distortions to sift
through, and the energy that one exudes with this type of confidence is extremely
attractive and magnetic.
So how is this accomplished?
DOS to gay dating success

1. Do make sure your life is in order

This will ensure that you are both physically and emotionally available for a love
relationship when it shows up in your life.

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Address unfinished business from the past, grieve prior losses and work on
promoting physical and emotional health to get your body, mind and spirit in their
best possible shape.

Address unfinished business, grieve prior losses and work on promoting physical and emotional
health.

2. Do live your life to the max

This will give you a solid foundation going before a relationship enters the
picture. This way you wont solely define your identity by a relationship
and become dependent, and youll have a more whole and fulfilling life to create
balance.

3. Do build self-confidence and foster greater gay pride

This will reduce any internalized homophobia that could potentially sabotage a
good coupling.
Many relationships that had great potential never got off the ground because of this
type of baggage, and personal growth efforts in these areas are well-worth
the investment.

Personal growth efforts in these areas are well-worth the investment.

4. Do know who you are and what youre looking for

This will help you appropriately screen dating prospects for compatibility when
youre meeting people. This will considerably save you time, energy and stress
in your mate selection process.
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DONTS in gay dating

1. Avoid being seduced by a handsome face and chemistry

While these can certainly be important, knowledge of your personal requirements
should be your guideposts in making choices that will be aligned with your values
and ultimate satisfaction.

Knowledge of your personal requirements should be your guideposts in making choices.

2. Dont be someone youre not

And dont try to portray yourself in the image of what you think others want or
what you think will attract a particular man.
You wont be able to keep the charade up for long and your partner will eventually
feel betrayed. Authenticity is the ultimate pair-bonding glue.

3. Dont be rude or unkind to your fellow single compatriots

If youre not interested, say so in a tactful way instead of making promises that
arent delivered or by rejecting or disappearing without a word. We are all seeking
companionship and unconditional love and acceptance.

If its not a match with a particular dating prospect, be honest, assertive and gentle.

If its not a match with a particular dating prospect, be honest, assertive and gentle
and express gratitude for the opportunity to have met. Offer sincere well-wishes.
We all deserve to be treated with respect. Both words and non-response have
the power to hurt.

4. Dont say youre looking for a serious relationship when youre not
Dont mislead the people who you are getting to know. Dating integrity
means doing what you say you will do and being truthful with your intentions so as
not to confuse and lead someone on whose motivations are pure.
What are some other dating dos and donts that youd add to this short list?
Please contribute!
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