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How would you describe the

typical Peruvian guy?
by Juana
(S. Cal)

Typical Peruvian Guys?

~ Question submitted by by Juana (Southern California, USA)

Would you describe the typical Peruvian

guy as:

Short, tall, humorous, serious, sincere, etc?

Do they make good husbands?

The woman's point of view...

The man's point of view...

The "Typical Peruvian Guy" from

the woman's point of view:
The Typical Peruvian Guy
by: Michelle Dinos
Hello!
I have been dating a Peruvian man for nearly four years and have spent a large amount of time in Peru
during the last five years.
Based on what I have seen and on my own personal experience, this is what I can tell you about Peruvian
men.
With regards to physical characteristics, I have found the majority of Peruvian men to be small in stature,
especially compared to men from the U.S. or Europe. For example, I am nearly 54 and I am about the
same height as many men in Peru, if not taller!
In addition, Peruvian men tend to be within the normal weight range, with only a small percentage being
classified as obese.
With regards to personal characteristics, I have found men in Peru to be more affectionate than men from
other countries.
For example, the majority are quick to hold your hand in public, put their arm around you in public, etc.
They also tend to be humorous and hard-working, as the machismo that reigns in Peru pushes them to be
the bread makers of the family. However, this machismo also has its disadvantages.
While Peruvian men may be quick to show affection, they may be just as quick to expect their women to
be domestic housekeepers, to not talk back, to follow along with what they want to do, etc.
While the level of machismo varies in each man, this way of thinking can cause women to feel
disrespected and taken for granted.

In my opinion, I would say that Peruvian men do make good husbands IF there is good communication
between both partners! This is essential as the machismo in Peru can lead to misunderstandings and
resentment if women begin to feel a lack of respect or consideration from their partner.
If the man is willing to communicate and truly consider his wifes opinions, that is a good man!

Controllers
by: Anonymous
I'm married to a Peruvian man with whom we have a son. He is generally a very good person and eager to
please our family. But!!!!!!!
He is controlling beyond what is normal for any controlling person.
He does not believe that he is. He truly believes he is helping us. Our son and myself.
He is not abusive though. Constantly in my head weighing out his good intentions and his control issues.
He tries to make changes but it is instilled in him to be in charge. I am Americanizing him little by little! I
hope.
We have been married four years and as for what I can tell you, they are wonderful lovers. Ready for sex
constantly. Bring on the ice and put in ear plugs.

True about Peruvian men

by: Anonymous
True about Peruvian men very controlling and they tend to be dangerous.
They're not supportive and want the woman to have her own money.
They're too jealous also ...their touchy feelings gets under my skin most times...it's sometimes unnecessary
when we trying to have a conversation, think or relax ...ouch ! :-)

Finding help with your guy

by: Soledad
"Men and women communicate differently, and they have unique needs.
"A woman may long to share her feelings openly and often.
"Many men, on the other hand, try to preserve peace by solving problems quickly and avoiding thorny

issues.
"How, then, can you bridge these differences and communicate with your husband or wife?"
Read more: Treating Your Mate with Respect

They are best

by: Maria
I love husband from Peru ! They make good family and love nice . He cook good and I like . He da one!

The "Typical Peruvian Guy" from

the man's point of view:

Build Your Marriage Upon the Rock

by: IncaSam
I am a Peruvian-born man.
Never cheated on my wife.
Never treated her as a servant.
Enjoy being with my wife.
Lover her as much as I can.
I am growing old with her.
We have been married 37 years.
However, our marriage is founded on our mutual love and built upon the rock of our Christian faith. We
practice our faith in all our daily doings.
We are not perfect or without fault, but love covers a multitude of sins.

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A Big Mistake You Made

by: Jason
In pretty much all the comments I read, there was one big
mistake each of the women made.
They had sex before commitment.
What is commitment? In a relationship it is marriage.
Hold off on sex until he marries you. Although that is not
a totally foolproof solution, it definitely will weed out a lot
of lying guys who only want what they can get out of you.
If you sleep with him without his marrying you, you
deserve what you get.
Before dating, consider the following:
How does this person handle conflictby insisting on
his way, perhaps giving in to "fits of anger" or "abusive
speech"? Or does this person show reasonablenessa
willingness to yield for the sake of peace when no issue of
right or wrong is at stake?
Is the person manipulative, possessive, or
jealous? Does he demand to know your every move? "I
hear of dating couples who fight because one person cant
stand that the other hasnt constantly checked in, " says
Nicole. "I think thats a bad sign."
How is that one viewed by others? You may want to talk
to those who have known this person for some time. That
way you will know if he is "well reported on."
Source...

Observations
by: Anonymous
Like in all countries, Peruvian men are diverse and
differences can even vary by region. However, I have
found some idiosyncrasies that I have gathered from
observation and experience.
1. Peruvian men are cheap, they tend to be very
overprotective over their money.
2. They have a lot of internalized racism. Which is why a
lot of them worship whatever is white and blonde.
3. They have a great sense of humor and usually have
solid group of friends.
4. They are very loyal and loving towards their families
5. Many of them have a lot of interests outside work and

school such as playing in bands, art,surfing, or other

sports.

Just some observations after living here a few months.

Controlling Mamas boys

by: Anonymous
Not all but from my personal experience as well as
apparently several others according to this thread,Peruvian
men are trash.They don't respect their partners,They put
their family of origin first,their emotionally and physically
abusive,their liars and manipulaters,they basically destroy
lives and have absolutely no shame or guilt for doing
so.My advice would be to steer clear of these men

Disappointing
by: Anonymous
I was reading a lot of what other people were writing
about their experiences with Peruvian guys so I thought I
would also share mine. First I want to start off by saying
that I don't want to make any broad generalizations about
an entire culture. I am solely sharing my personal
experience and I'm not saying that all Peruvian men are
the same.
I would describe him as being quite cultural although he
no longer lives in Peru and hasn't for some time. therefore
I do believe that he is more progressive than what some of
the other commenters have described their
boyfriends/husbands to be, especially in regards to the role
of women in the household, as he always encouraged me
to get my education and also have a high-powered career
instead of solely taking on the traditional role of a
housewife.
Unfortunately, as I've been reading through many of these
comments, I can find myself relating to a lot of these
women. I have had issues with my ex Peruvian boyfriend
lying to me repeatedly and cheating on me at parties. I
wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt because he
always came off as being the ideal guy who wouldn't ever
lie or cheat on me, turns out that was just a facade.
I must say, my ex in particular was quite good at
convincing me he wasn't what my vibe was telling me he
was. Overall, he really hurt me emotionally, because I
trusted him when he never deserved trust, and I was really
patient with him too, always in the hopes that he would

change. Now I'm left heartbroken and confused. I just

hope I find someone who loves me the way I deserve to be
loved one day, Peruvian or not. I feel really disappointed
because I actually saw a future with him. He would tell me
he loved me, but would someone who loves you
repeatedly lie and cheat on you? I've dated in the past, but
I must say the things that I went through in that
relationship hurt the most.
He would tell me he wanted a family with me, that I
would be his wife one day, and we would have children,
but at the same time, he would say things like "we're too
young", "I'm too immature for a committed relationship"
etc which really got me confused.
In my experience, like many of the women commenting,
the most notable negative feature that I can say I've had to
deal with is the natural lying. I would ask him a question
and he would be able to think of a lie on the spot so fast,
and it was so believable and he could keep the lie going
for weeks, and in some cases months. The trust issue is
something that was a huge obstacle for me. He would also
lie about money, and financial stability as well as financial
independence which undoubtedly was a problem.
Another character trait that he has is he's very persuasive
or argumentative. This isn't necessarily always a bad thing,
I want to be a lawyer, and I participate in a lot of debating
so at first I thought this was impressive as I generally
always win arguments, but could never win one with him,
but then I realized that maybe his ability to be so
persuasive isn't so good after all, as it can be used to
manipulate and also convince others that his lie is the
truth.
That's only my experience, I'm sure there's lots of nice
Peruvian men out there that aren't liars or cheaters, but
unfortunately I ended up dating one that was.

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somehow the source of the problem or that the abuse is

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Peruvian men:
by: Anonymous
I'm an American, married to a Peruvian man for 20 years,
lived in Peru for 10. They are very affectionate, wonderful
fathers and hard workers. They aren't as machista or proud
as carribean hispanics, but need to feel admired and
respected as much as men from anywhere else. Most
women in Peru view the home and kitchen as their domain
and are proud of it. The men make most of the big
decisions for the family but I found that the wife has alot
of influence over him and uses it when she needs to.
Peruvian women have very strong personalities without
causing conflicts. Men seem to respect women as
intelligent. Beware, though, of the son who has been
babied and worshipped by his mother - the youngest or
only boy. They become Narcissists.

Peruvian men
by: Anonymous
Peruvian men suck. They mess up, make mistakes and yet,
the ones that suck still don't learn from their mistakes.

know thyself
by: mind over matter
im a guy from peru not anymore, i live in canada anyways
i see that some women are compleining how their

peruvian > boyfriend are mean, controling jerks they are...

i dont have that kind of atitude i like learning about
wisdom and knowleadge and my inner being
# first i have no friend or girlfriend
#i do not like controling women ...
#i cant even dance or drink desgusting**
#why am i here in this earth i have no life im so young just
18 and no job i didnt even graduate ....
wtf man kill your self ...
i know i know i have feelings like a female
im more sensetive and people see me as an asian baby boy
looking like really....
I really wish for a girlfriend and real friends that dont steal
my stuff in highschool ,
girls i can feel your pain**
women and girls dont be manipulated by some horny dogs
dont wait till your heart is broken find the right men that
deserve you inside your inner child follow your soul and
act what is good in your being ...
if the person is controling you will try to break from your
fealings you will become like a lion in a cage hungry for
deep emotions of love, needs of comfort and warmth
calling for salvation for a lonely lion looking for love just
like you there is many lions looking for oneness
beucase men and women are Equal...
by the way im a man

stop being prejudiced

by: Anonymous
Many of u people think u kno everything about the
millions of people living in Peru. Many of u r wrong!
My parents are both Peruvian and r nothing like wat ur
describing! My mom is a housewife but she is not
submissive. She is not afraid to raise her voice at anyone
or at my dad.
They've known each other for thirty yrs and r still happily
in love. My parents r both hardworking and my dad loves
my mom and my family equally.
U can't judge a country based on ur personal experience
with someone from there. That is being prejudiced. U r not
Hitler or the KKK or Trump so u have no right to judge a
country because u picked a bad guy.
Find someone who will stay by u and make u happy. Don't
be so negatively biased. I could easily find an American
guy who will cheat on me and refuse to date any of them.
Would that be right? No! Instead of insulting someone's
culture or country, look for someone who is right for u.

I am proud to be the daughter of two loving Peruvian

parents. I am also glad that I have trudeau instead of
Trump. I hope reading this will take the prejudice out of u.

not all peruvians are bad

by: Anonymous
My parents r from Peru and and known each other for
thirty years. Neither is submissive or someone who cheats
like u guys r saying.
U can't judge an entire country's population of men based
on our experience. Peru is sexist...ill admit that...but not
everyone there is a bad person. My mom is a housewife
but she's not afraid to raise her voice at my dad or anyone
else.
Don't be prejudiced because u chose one of the bad
Peruvian guys. My dad is hardworking and loves my
family and my mom equally.
I'm proud to be the daughter of people from Peru. How
would u feel if someone bad-mouthed the men from ur
family's country from their personal experiences.
If I dated someone from the u.s and he was a
cheater...would that mean that all American guys r idiots
or cheaters? No.
Instead of insulting someone's country or culture..find a
man who will stay by u and be good to u. No one here is
Hitler or Trump or the KKK...so u have no right to be
prejudiced against the people of Peru.
Hate the guy not his country. Every country has bad
guys...that does not put the country at fault.

your fault
by: Anonymous
I've read most of the comments and all, all I can say is that
you meet people according to your own social circle.
I know a lot of peruvians who are cheaters, chauvinists
and so, it's easy to detect it, however most of them will
show their best face in order to take you to bed.
I am a guy from peru yeah, however I do come from a
family open in culture, of course there are some things I
have from peru, in general the classy you are pretty you
are the only is not only from Peru.

I have been to different countries, met a lot of people from

different parts of the world, asians are worst than this, in
order to obtain the visa, I work for a cruise company,
which allows me to see how this people behave, most of
them married, seeking for a nice young blonde willing to
take them to the bed for sex.
so getting back to peru, is similar, they will tell nice things
easily, however those are not the ones to be trusted, go on
with the guy who is friendly, open, but no so much, there
are a lot of nice guys, from not chauvinists families,
mostly these guys who you complain come from these
families, in which the guys, do not cook, do not clean, do
not do anything.
These are guys you meet at a club or party, go try some
professional guys, who at the very first time won't tell you,
look for his lack of interest in you as a sexual object and
yeah that's the one to share some time, just like this
italians are really like this als

Peruvian
by: Artch
I'm peruvian and i m not machist, we are super frendly,
funny and likes dances.

hey
by: Anonymous hehe
what the ----? im a peruvian guy, of Lima, and you people
are generalizing,
i have never cheated in my life, i hate the "machismo", my
family is not a traditional family, we are free and open, i
get to talk and hang out a lot with my dad and my mom
and you guys are just messing with low class peruvians,
i know it sounds bad, but if you really knew a wealthy
class peruvian you would change your mind
OBVIOUSLY, peru is divided in two cultures, the
indigenous culture, wich is the culture that has those close
minded and cheaters men and the european or modern
culture which has men like in any other country of the
world,
physically there is a lot of diversity here, we are all not the
same, im not a short guy, not indigenous or brown skinned
and i respect all women and i know there is a lot of
peruvians that doesnt respect them, but please dont put all

the peruvians in one bag, we are not all the same, we dont
have just one culture or one way to live, we have diferent
cultures, diferent ways to talk, to be, you can find white
peruvians, black, asian, indigenous (the majority),
mestizos (the other majority) and they are all diferent,
the majority of indigenous people are like that, cheaters
and all that, thats part of his culture and his ignorance,
cause most of them are not well educated, but if you try to
go to upper classes you will find non racist respectful man,
dont put us all in the same bag please

"No respect for women"

by: Anonymous
I agree with all words of " No respect for women" my ex
boyfriend who was Peruvian put me thru that!

Recommended Reading
by: David
Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating
Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You

No respect for women

by: Anonymous
Peruvian men from my experience are very nice and
giving in the beginning of a relationship which can last for
2 to 3 years for them, but after that everything goes down
hill because initially they are only nice to gain your trust.
Its basically all a game to see how much they can break
you down. They don't really seem to truly love anyone but
their families of origin i.e mommy, daddy,
siblings,cousins, Tia's & tios. Even if you marry and have
children with them they will put there family of origin
before you and chances are if your American his family
won't like or respect you.
Peruvian men are also very spoiled which gives them a
false sense of entitlement. Basically they're never wrong
and they deserve to get and have whatever they want,
whether it be you to always conform to their opinions, the
ability to have more then one woman at a time, or for you
to take the blame for everything wrong because they
couldn't possibly be.
These men do not respect any women that is not related to
them and they do not see women as equals.

The bottom line is if you're going to be in a relationship

with them get ready to take the blame for everything, get
cheated on, be dead last to his family of origin, always
work and have your own money because you won't
deserve his, and get put down for having your own
feelings and opinions.
Basically be treated like you're worthless

Look before you leap

by: Jarina
Thanks for your comment, Anonymous - "If I can steer
one woman against dating these guys I will feel like I've
done my job.
Please read through this thread before saying "yes" to a
date. You could take a gamble but with these odds, why
would you?"
Of course, this applies to all other cultures as well. The old
adage, "Look before you leap" holds true.

Not worth the risk

by: Anonymous
I keep reading "it's all your own fault" and I agree. It's like
blaming a wasp for stinging you. It's just what they do.
I wish I'd done more research on Peruvian men before
dating them. They're bad partners and they admit it. They
will just blame you for not knowing better.
They can't help it. It's just what they do. They don't know
any better and it's normal for them.
So yes, it was my fault for not doing my homework.
If I can steer one woman against dating these guys I will
feel like I've done my job.
Please read through this thread before saying "yes" to a
date. You could take a gamble but with these odds, why
would you?

It is all your own fault

by: Anonymous
I work for a mining company in Peru and I know some

foreign girls working in the site.

I would say that Most of the girls that complain about
peruvian men are the ones who come to Peru as Tourist
looking for fun and fall for someone they met at a disco or
restaurant .
I have talked to my friends and obviosuly they are
interested in meeting a professional just like them and not
someone You could meet everywhere.
What I try to say is that if you had a bad experience with a
guy ( peruvian or not) is your own fault cause u did not
see they way he really was . Be honest what kind of
person u could meet at a disco if you are looking for a
serious relationship? and Do you really think it is ok to get
laid with someone you have just met? .. What kind of guy
You think you would find? .
Stop blaming the country and see what you do and the
way you act. It is easy to blame every single men when
you don't really act as You should.
there is a saying in Peru that says : El hombre propone la
mujer dispone ... , so What kind of assholes you
accepted??
Be sensible for God's sake.

Different Peruvian
by: Anonymous
I am peruvian and i have dated 1 european girl, french
who only played with me,by the way, i won`t generalize.
It is true that there are many bad peruvians, but come on
we also have good ones as every country.
You can`t start a relationship with a person you just met
and then blame his country. in my case, i am so
hardworking,have good values,faithful, it is annoying to
see how many girls write that peruvian s are garbage, I am
sorry if you met just a peruvian player, be more careful
next time.
About our appareance, yeah we are short,tan skinned, but i
don`t think appareance matter to be a good man. Despite
of that, many foreign girls say i look so good, also many
tourist girls jut come to hook up with peruvian males.
Actually, I am so interested in an estern european girl, I do
my best and i would love that you ask her how is my
behavior? Maybe you don`t believe me, but i just can say
that she is always happy with me, she was the person who
proposed me sex, we discuss topics together. finally, I just

can say Good Luck to everone and it is better to live in

peace with person who you love

@Still Laughing
by: Anonymous
I'm still laughing at the fact you quoted Taylor Swift to
defend a country of jerks.
I think you just confirmed what everyone here has been
saying. Peruvian men believe in blaming the woman for
their infidelity and character flaws.
If "he isn't in love" (which for a Peruvian, isn't long) then
all bets are off and it's your fault for not knowing that
ahead of time. Spoken like a true Peruvian, lol!
But, I'm sure all of that is above your educational level, so
I will speak in a language you will understand:
"Bandaids don't fix bullet holes, you say sorry just for
show,
If you live like that, you live with ghosts.....

Only for his GC?

by: Anonymous
Hello, I have been married to my Peruvian husband for 3
years now. We married too quickly I admit. I am
American. I have dated mainly latinos all my life.
At first our relationship while dating was great he was
affectionate, giving, loving, etc. Then I swear after we
married about 3 mos later we got a place together. I have a
son. We rent and he has me pay 60% and he pay 40% of
rent as i have a child. Mind u this is his stepson. It just
kept going downhill. Prior to getting married we were very
intimate. Never in my wildest dreams would I have
thought that we have not had any intamacy for 3 yrs!!!
Yes I said none. We r relatively young. We get stressed
out sure we r both self conscious of our bodies..but r u
kidding me he is a dude! His reasoning is not being able
to. But no proof. Yep then to top it off he is a workaholic,
i hardly see him. When he has a day off he does what he
wants not attempting to spend time with us. Holidays?
Wow he sees no point to celebrate and forget it if i say lets
go see my family.

He is critical and although he will talk of how he

appreciates me, its not shown. Now we are trying to have
his teen son come here from Peru. Oh boy.
Point being, while I could never box a whole culture into
one way..my experience is not positive.

Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?

by: Almira
You've discovered that your husband has cheated on you.
Maybe you've discovered incriminating emails or text
messages from his lover, or, worse yet, have actually seen
them together.
Your world is crashing down. You feel like a nuclear
bomb just decimated your entire world, and you are trying
to shield yourself from the fallout.
This is very likely the most painful experience you've ever
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Read this book (click or tap image):

Still laughing after reading these comments

by: Anonymous

Stupid girls ....

Blaming a country cz of your mistake in choosing a good
guy.
Every person is different.
Peruvian guys can be the best husbands ONLY if the guy
is deeply in love.
If he never present you his friends, has too much "only
boys night", then he is cheating.
You don't need to be a master degree holder to know that.
So, if you had a bad experience with a guy with any
country, it's YOUR FAULT for not knowing the person
well first, before dating with him.
Also, I like this song (for all the anger & stupid girls in
this page):
Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play
And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate
Baby, I'm just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
I shake it off, I shake it off
Heart-breakers gonna break, break, break, break, break
And the fakers gonna fake, fake, fake, fake, fake
Baby, I'm just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
I shake it off, I shake it off

Surprised by comments
by: Anonymous
I'm sure there are good Peruvian men, but where are they?
I seem to see there is a high percentage of, "No good"
Peruvian men. I also agree the way a Peruvian is all
depends on how he was raised by his parents & also the
values he is taught.
The father of my daughter is nothing good. I would think
he would learn from his mistakes and stop screwing
around, but yet he still goes back to the other he got
pregnant & decided to stay with & yet he still asks me to b
his lover.
Smh, I don't personally know his mother who lives in
Peru, but I see that as a, "no good mother" who taught him
no values. I feel bad for him due to the fact that in time he
will regret the wrong decisions he made for himself.

surprised by comments
by: Anonymous

I just have to say that I am terribly surprised by What I

have read in this forum about Peruvian men.
I'm a male Peruvian and proud to be, but I don't really
understand the kind of guys many girls seem to have met
in my country. I know that some can be really selfish
a***s, but still I cannot understand how or where you met
them.
I think more than nationalities .. the way you are depends
a lot on the way you were raised by your parents and all
the values they taught you .. Some people seemed to have
been raised by animals rather than people . I accept that
many male Peruvians have a chauvinistic attitude, but if
you realize that from the very beginning why to tolerate it?
...
I have a little sister who I really love to and I cannot image
to be abusing her morally or physically and of course I'd
kill someone who intends to.
I feel sorry for girls who have met those assholes, but
believe me there are more good guys than assholes .... just
be Careful, next time.

I'm not stupid nor slutty

by: Anonymous
I am from the US and I dated a Peruvian guy. I echo all
these comments.
I'm personally offended by the comments that we are
somehow stupid and slutty and don't "see clearly" that the
guy is a jerk.
But you may be right. I'm not used to dealing with people
so pathetic, low, lying and manipulative so I have never
witnessed that kind of behavior. It was new for me. It's
hard to "see clearly" when you're spoon fed lies every day.
I'm very generous and kind with people I care about, but I
guess Peruvians see this as "stupid, slutty and easy to
manipulate", as you can tell from their comments in this
thread.
He was incredibly thoughtful and kind until he wasn't. It
was a slow and gradual process of emotional abuse,
cheating and lies.
Furthermore, calling women "sluts" only perpetuates the
low life, third world, uneducated thinking of holding
double standards for women.
He (an educated man from Lima, might I add), was
terribly racist and homophobic in hindsight and I have to

agree that it is like a time warp down there. Men will still
tell women to "get back in the kitchen", and say things like
"he looks gay". They call out people by race and size. My
jaw dropped my first visit down there because I could not
believe my ears. And again, this is "educated" men in
Lima (not the villages).
What they want this puritan type wife to parade around in
front of their families, and then they want a girl (or many
girls most often) to satisfy their needs at night while the
wives/girlfriends pretend it isn't happening. Don't confuse
"amiga" with friend who happens to be female. Platonic
relationships between men and women in Peru are slim to
none. If he has an "amiga", he's sleeping with her (and
this, was confirmed by several Peruvian men I talked
to....after the fact of course).
As for my story? This guy turned mean. Really mean. Said
some of the most insulting things I've had said to me ever
and accused me of things likely to justify his own
behavior. This was a man who just weeks prior had treated
me like a queen. I felt verbally assaulted and depressed
almost daily towards the end. I'm embarrassed I tolerated
it but that is what happens with emotional abuse. You
become so beat down. The women will pretend to be
happy and lie about their home life.
So, I'm not stupid, or slutty, or any of the other words
you'd like to throw my way. I have a doctorate degree,
work for a successful company and own my own business
making more in a year than most Peruvian guys will make
in their lifetime. I was lied to and I was deceived. In
talking with more of my friends who have dated these
guys, my story is not unique. They are well known for this
behavior.
I can handle bad people. Bad people who pretend to be
good people are horrible and a new experience for me.
But thanks to him, I'm that much smarter. And I laugh
when I see what a sad little life he has. I'm glad for him
that he's never left Peru because he'd know how bad he
really has it.
He went back to being poor in one of those little half
finished houses in Lima. You know? The ones with bars
on the front door, a broken toilet on the roof, powerlines in
the back yard and some mangy dog running around? He
made another kid he can't afford, while I just booked
tickets to Australia. Sometimes I have a toast in his honor
and thank God it didn't work out.
I believe things happen for a reason. He came into my life
to teach me to be more careful whom I trust. I'm sad the

new guy I'm with has had to pay the price, but he is 100x
the man of any Peruvian man I've met. After that
experience, I appreciate this guy even more.
So ladies, there is happiness after these guys, I assure you.
Just find a different country in which to shop.

to Archaeic Beliefs
by: Anonymous
Just one Question : Who taught you to speak that way?
Your mother?
You are just a person full of anger .

To Archaeic Beliefs by: Anonymous

by: Europe
You have synthesize this entire topic in just one word:
their MOTHER.
Unfortunately the entire Peruvian society is so sick
because of their slutty mothers who teach them to be like
that with women just because they haven't been able to
keep a man next to them.
Most of the families are build of the mother and her kids
(mo matter how old they are, the father will never matter
unless financially). And the circle just goes around...

Archaeic Beliefs
by: Anonymous
I would not even say that the Peruvian society is so
elevated to understand the freedom of woman.
Their believes are very simple, if their mother likes their
future wife then nothing else matters, they will just
procreate for a while and after that they will search in the
same time for a slutty woman who can satisfy their needs.
Of course their wife is going to ignore the reality thinking
they are blessed to have such a macho man next to them.
And that's how their society and families are build on: on
lying, cheating, pretending, anything to made their mom
proud of them.

Response

by: Anonymous
Archaic beliefs ... I don't know what you heard or seem to
know about Peruvians.
However, I'd like to tell you what many Peruvian men
think about foreign girls ... they are just sluts who are
really easy to take to bed ....
See, Prejudice and Misjudging is everywhere.
If you had a relationship with a Peruvian asshole .. it was
your fault cause u did not see clearly who you were dating
with .. but it doesn't mean we are all the same.

Archaeic Beliefs
by: Anonymous
In response to "Not Fair, you are all just generalizing"...
She states that women who "give themselves like they are
nothing are easy, slutty girls" and that "what's the freakin
problem with the guy wanting to be the macho alpha in a
relationship, i mean it's totally normal for a guy to act like
it and you know that it's supposed to be like that in a
"normal" relationship.
I think that sums it up folks. You heard it straight from a
Peruvian girl herself.
In the US, women don't need to "withhold sex" to trick
men into sticking around. Women are allowed to enjoy sex
just as much as men and not labeled as "sluts" for it.
Also in the US, men don't need to be A-holes to prove that
they are men. We actually call those guys douchebags.
In Peru, it is like the 1950's (which wasn't a fabulous era
for women). So she is telling you straight up, women are
second class citizens in Peru who need to withhold sex and
try very hard to get pregnant early in a relationship to get
their men to stay. And if the guy treats you like garbage
that is normal.
Need any further evidence?

this question is the definition of racism

by: Anonymous
I would not assume to know what all Peruvian men are
like, or what all American men are like, or all men from
any country. There are so many factors that shape who a

person is.
I love my Peruvian husband. He is kind and loving and
respectful.
However, I would never assume that he represents all men
from an entire country. This topic is ridiculous.

22 man
by: Freddy
Hi, I'm 22 college guy, hard worker , and of course
Peruvian guy. Just wanna say that im cool , I don't
controll, not jealous just the normal lol... And wanna meet
ppl around the world, no kidding if u r reading this dont
think im desesperate, cause im not. I like dance, movie,
Netflix... I
have a good day.

Betrayed me
by: Kiana
So I met this Peruvian guy at my school. We're both in
high school. I'm half mexican and italian.
So at first, he treats me all nice and a sweetheart person.
He was so over protective and jealous everytime a guy
used to flirt at me.
So then he asks me to be his gf and I said yea. Bc I love
Peruvian guys I think their bowl haircut style is cute. So
while we dated, we made out and then we had sex.
BUT......he broke my heart and it hurted so bad ;(
He cheated on me with this other Peruvian girl.
I still love him. But he don't love me. We went out for 2
months only. But I fell in love with him.

Let's examine facts

by: Anonymous
Just arrived here and reading through. I think a lot of the comments and rebuttals
here are based on emotion rather than fact. However, I will agree with most of
these posters that the chances of finding an honest and faithful Peruvian man are
slim.

But, this is because of their culture.

I find it interesting that Peruvians boast about their commitment to their families. It
is true that they are highly committed to their cousins, parents, grandparents, etc.
but in a romantic relationship, statistics state otherwise.
They have amongst the highest unwed and single mothers in the entire world
http://worldfamilymap.ifstudies.org/2014/articles/world-family-indicators/familystructure.
Peru isn't necessarily unique, but stats show that the higher the disparity in incomes
between men and women (as is common in developing countries) equals to a
higher infidelity rate for men and a lower infidelity rate for women due to lack of
financial resources. Peru is decades behind in gender equality and thus the "men
can do whatever they want" attitude still persists (see comment below from "you're
just generalizing") and this behavior is accepted.
I've lived in Peru and I've seen this first hand. And it isn't just poverty stricken
families but middle and upper middle class families as well. Part of the problem
lies in that infidelity is somewhat expected or at least tolerated due to income
disparity. Cruise the expat forums if you want further evidence.
I think the thread is getting so emotional because there is such a marked culture
clash. Infidelity is much more shameful and damaging in the USA then it appears
to be in other countries and in Latin America (specifically Peru), women tend to
look the other way or deny it is happening all together. Additionally, men are never
blamed for anything.
I've literally witnessed women choosing their husbands/boyfriends over their own
children. If they cheat, it is the other woman's fault and he is received again with
open arms.
Additionally, American women demand respect and for a relationship to be 50/50.
The comment below about there being a high divorce rate in the USA due to this
isn't entirely accurate, especially when you look at the map I've posted.
It's easy to boast about your lack of divorce rates when a high percentage of people
in your country don't get married to begin with.
Additionally, previously stated divorce rates in the USA are inaccurate, and most
recent statistics show that the divorce rates are much lower than previously
thought. To be fair, it is very difficult to get married in Peru, but regardless,
faithfulness is slim in either arrangement.
Women in the USA get married later and have their kids later. In Peru, the average
age for first child is 22 and in the USA is 26. The average age for marriage in the
USA is approaching 30. Women in Peru want babies above all. "Babies are a
blessing" regardless of who they are with or how they get there. A woman is a
celebrity in her family when she is pregnant. For a woman to approach 30 and be
childless is the worst position she could be in. So again, she will look the other way
at infidelity if it means she will hopefully become a mother.
So, in short, men in Peru are very different from the USA. Their upbringing is
different and their society supports the behavior. I would love to say "love knows

no bounds". Perhaps not, but respect and culture do.

Married almost 3 years..

by: Kmartz
I married my husband from Peru in 2013. We married too
quickly and that has cause alot of problems. While he is a
loving man with a good heart, he can also be very selfish.
I have dated latino men most of my life and most have
been very affectionate. This is not the case in my husband.
We have no intimacy since getting married. We work
opposite schedules and live like roommates.
I have a son but while I am sure he cares about him he is
quick to say he is my son not his. Over time I have learned
of his life in Peru( he left when he was 25)and maybe it
was his upbronging. His family struggled, and money was
always on his mind. It still is.. Everything for him is about
money. He says we should have no holidays, he would
rather work.
I am nit sure how long we will last, he is a good person,
but At this point even when he is home with me, I miss
him.

comment below
by: marie
Just got engaged to a Peruvian and found this site...must
say you are wayyy off base. No, I'm not a slut, and I did
not "give myself easily" or I doubt my fianc would have
asked me to marry him...but who are you to judge other
people's experiences?
I don't think they are being racist, I'm not sure if it's a
racial thing so much as a cultural shock they are
expressing. And really, Peruvian men are soo macho and
that's normal?
Some of the comments stated they were physically
abused...that's where the line on "macho" needs to be
drawn. Wasn't even going to leave a comment, but your
particularly bitchy attitude and comments toward
American women....whom you don't even know...kinda
rubbed me the wrong way. So aren't YOU being just as
racist and generalizing in that case as you claim the
women below are?
Anyhow, also don't get how Peruvian men are so "macho"

and "alpha male' considering my fianc is highly

emotional and sensitive, and relies on me for a lot in our
relationship. He would be lost without me, and even
admits it.
I have a college degree, and he doesn't, but he admires me
for it, and despite this we both have jobs and work hard.
He is proud of me for being a hard working woman who
can both "hold a job and cook." To me, that's a normal
relationship.
The man and woman get equal opportunities and support
each other's goals, and both have goals, regardless of the
gender. And that's bullshit most Peruvian women are
submissive, that's right, I know some that are doctors or
administrative majors, but you don't come across that
way.
Are you a bitter traditional Peruvian women, because you
don't sound highly educated or open minded yourself.
Sorry I stole one your good Peruvian men Lol

NOT FAIR at all! You're just generalizing!

by: Just a Peruvian Girl Passing By...
Well, i gotta say that the so called "strong and
independent" american woman here CAN'T BE more
stupid, like they're just a bunch of pathetic racist * people!
I bet NONE of you really looked for a GOOD man
(honest, well-educated) and just messed with the one you
first stepped on the street.
So, it kinda looks like you don't know that cheatersindecent peruvian guys only mess with easily slutty girls
who practically give themselves like nothing, i guess this
counts for EVERY other guy in the world, it's just
normal.
You can guess who you are from the way your boyfriend
treats you and MANY of you just came here to show the
lack of a brain you have generalizing ALL peruvian men
with the cheater, clingy, liar attitude, which is FALSE
btw.
Those signs of behaviour are proper of the low-class
people of peru, as you would call them, and it's just plain
stupid to mess with them and OF COURSE every country
has this kind of people so don't go * over that.
If you want to find a GOOD man then you have to be

GOOD enough to find one and be liked by one, that

applies to the WHOLE world. Also i don't get what's the
freakin problem with the guy wanting to be the macho
alpha in a relationship, i mean it's totally normal for a guy
to act like it and you know that it's supposed to be like that
in a "normal" relationship.
I just don't get the whole feminist concept of: "im a
woman and I HAVE TO be on the same level of men in
everything!!!"
Well, guess what? Men and woman are TOTALLY
different and everyone knows it but, apparently, in USA
all woman have that stupid feminist way of thinking and
MANY of them just end up in a divorce, which kind of
explains the hight rate of it in that country...it's like men
can't handle their so "independent" stupidity LOL.
If you didn't know in Peru we DO have a sense of family
union and commitment and we know that men and woman
COMPLEMENT each other, that's just the way it is. Of
course men will want to know they're in lead sometimes,
but that's ok because they're, you know...men!!
P.S: stop with the whole submissive-peruvian girl thing
(generalizing again) cause i just showed you that it's SO
NOT true and please! can u stop thinking you're the * just
because you have that "modern" way of thinking, which is
lame so :)

Not racism a fact

by: Anonymous
http://youtu.be/bGA_1O9DzbY
Above is a link of a documentary about machismo as a
culture.
The video is based in Bolivia but the commentator makes
a clear statement that Bolivia is SECOND to Peru in all of
South America for domestic crimes committed against
women.
If those of you who are offended by people who are
expressing their freedom of speech and their personal
experience that, basically, just validates what the statistics
& people of these countries & cultural backgrounds are
already saying.
You should be upset with the culture that's giving itself a
bad name rather than trying to shoot the messenger.

As a peruvian American Male.

by: Anonymous
As a good looking peruvian American male, I can say that
i get my fair attention from ladies but i try to stay
committed when in a relationship unless that women
decides to be disloyal.
I act distant but thats because i expect a long relationship
with the girl. I'm just a guy though and i'm pretty
americanized. I believe in love and healthy bond between
two people. Peruvian males are proud people and don't
like to be dishonored in any form.
So be nice, communicate emotion, and don't expect him to
know everything. most of the time don't even know whats
going on. lol thats just me though

Peruvian men
by: Anonymous
Oh my god... is all this true...?
I am considering dating a peruvian man but after all I have
read here I am actually thinking about turning him down..

B*
by: Anonymous
Lol!!! I agree with the, "B*," comment. This comment is,
"B*" comment #2!!!!

B*
by: Anonymous
Bahhh!
These guys are *.
*, will they romance you, but they're just selfish *. Plain
and simple.
They ALL cheat. (yes, All)
No girl is "the one" and Peruvians will talk * about
American girls because they know only what they see in
movies (most of them have never left their own city much
less their country).
So, they're really just a bunch of ignorant little rats who
will make you think (for a short while) that you've found

your tiny little Prince.

I know, they'll break your heart into a thousand pieces but
you'll thank them later. Especially when you see what
happens to their pathetic, insignificant lives and realize
that life of misery could have been yours.
Leave these guys to the Peruvian girls. They're a perfect
fit.
Liars and idiots make great couples :).
Meanwhile, be thankful that you can move on and find a
decent guy...there's an entire world of them out there and
not one lives in Peru.

FYI
by: Anonymous
Well firstly... I am a Peruvian man.
That doesnt mean i have to behave as a Macho but it
doesnt mean i have to repres my gender.
Firstly guys are possessive like women are. And that's
everywhere. That is an individual characteristic. If we
were not posesive no one will practice monogamy...
Secondly crazy bastards are everywhere i have Peruvian
girlfriends that were in relationships with Europeans, north
Americans and other south Americans that were overcontrolling, freaks inventing lies the whole time and even
"pegalones" that means they were hitting them.
Somehow "western" people do believe they are more
civilized just because they belong to a society where there
is much more money but they don't realize that they have
their own problems...
Peruvians are not perfect like any other nationality but if
you can pick something from all Peruvians in general is
that they are quite passionate about everything!
So if you can not handle it, just dont take it! PEACE AND
LOVE to you all!

Peruvian men = abuse

by: Anonymous
Peruvian men are the worst.

They will charm the pants off you lol but it's all lies.
Even the Peruvian women who defend them & make
excuses that "gringos" can't handle them are full of s*it!!!
I've seen many Peruvian men from Lima, the mountains,
America, you name it there all the same & yeah I'm sure
there has to be some that are good but the odds (as you can
see by the similar statements on this thread) are so low
why would you even risk it.
There mostly not attractive at all & that charm is all just a
ploy. They are narcissistic, racist, abusive, cheaters that
have to make up for the fact that they are so short,
unattractive & come from a poor country.
All they care about are themselves they don't love there
wife's & it's not because you weren't "good enough"or the
one.
If you got out of a relationship with a Peruvian it's only
because your not a pathetic, weak, submissive, delusional,
insecure pathetic female.
So in other words your too good for them.
Don't be to hard on yourselves ladies & try to remember
the initial feeling you had when you first met them.
I'm guessing they weren't good until they used there fake
charm because let's face it those looks aren't getting them
very far.

Machismo
by: Anonymous
Im ending a 7 year relationship with a Peruvian man.
The first two years were good though he was pretty
jelious. After that everything went down hill.
When he didn't get his way he would verbally abuse me or
give me the silent treatment whenever I'd try to
communicate with him (I didn't realize until later that it's
because he was raised that women are inferior)
He manipulated me into quitting my job & looking for one
he was happy with but I wasn't.
He proposed marriage & his parents accompanied him (he
was 27). A year after he proposed (& his family hadn't
mentions the wedding once)

His parents told me that they didn't want us to get married

& that I was basically not a good enough woman for there
son. He also took a job that required him to travel 2 to 3
weeks at a time within a month after proposing & didn't
even bother to tell me that his job was to travel until I
obviously figured it out after 2 months of him lying that it
was only in an emergency.
We also lived in a city whare I had no family or knew
anyone. Since I gave up my job & got another one that
was less profitable I became dependent on him &
therefore was more apt to tolerate his selfish behavior as
aposed to before when I was financially independent but
of course he didn't show that side of himself until it was
too late.
Too top it all off he broke my nose twice, verbally abused
the crap out of me & threw me away like trash when he
was done.
His father also called his mother fat & disrespected her
terribly but his mother (also from Peru) believed that "men
had the say because they make the $ & women must obey"
she went on to say American women are basically sluts &
that's why divorce is so high because women don't "obey"
their husbands.
Peruvian men are the worst men I've ever seen heard or
met in my life.
The biggest mistake I ever made was dating a Peruvian
man.

Opinion about foreign girls by a guy

by: Anonymous
I really don't know the kind of guys some of you have met,
but I have lived abroad and met lots of foreigner girls,
dated and had a relationship with some of them and I can
tell that some were not good girls.

First, I found that they were much more interested in their

own interests than in others'.
Secondly,There was not a clear sense of family and
commitment in them.
Based on what I have experienced I cannot say that
foreigners are the best.
Of course there were really good ones, but I was unlucky
not to be with them.
Thus, what I want to say is that there are bad people
everywhere no matter where they come from.

Just too different

by: Anonymous

Let's start with a key difference: Peruvian men who have

lived outside of Peru and Peruvian men who have not.
I cannot speak for those who have lived outside of Peru as
they have been exposed to cultures which differ from their
own.
But let me tell you about the culture in Peru.
Please remember that Peru is a "developing" country
despite many advances. As such, there is a "me first"
mentality and no matter how much someone cares about
you, their needs will always come first.
There is also a sense of "saving face" which means lie as
long as you can to avoid problems, even if the
consequences of the lie are far greater than telling the truth
up front.
As a woman from the western world, your chances are
slim with these men. They will want you, but know that
they can't keep up with you. When it comes to marriage,
they will choose a docile, Peruvian girl every time because
they are easier to control and cheat on and they won't give
them trouble the way an American woman will.
The women there will "creo in el" even though in their
hearts, they know he is a cheater in a liar because they
want babies and marriage. Having a baby is the most
important thing a Peruvian girl can do with her life,
second to landing a man. And, landing a man is solely for
the purpose of breeding. So she will tolerate lies that you
will not.
So...in short, attempting to have a relationship where the
behavior is accepted (or at least semi-tolerated) is like
pairing a pig with a giraffe. It sounds very romantic in a
cartoon movie, but in reality, it won't work and you are
setting yourself up for failure.
There may be that 1 Peruvian guy who isn't like that, but I
honestly haven't met him (and I've met a lot). The only
decent ones I've met are the ones who were raised in the
US. And when I say decent, I mean one who shares the
same values about a relationship that I do.
When you call these guys out on their BS, they honestly
don't care. They are used to getting away with it and will
make you feel like you are crazy, jealous and controlling
for questioning them.
So it isn't so much that Peruvian guys are "bad", it is just
that their values are very different as is their culture.

You can't take these guys out of their environment and

expect them to behave like the devoted guy you are
seeking. They don't know how and they've had no good
examples (if you ask any of them, their dads all ran out on
their moms when they were young).
So, pardon the analogy but it is like taking pig out of the
farm and expecting it to be a horse.
Lower your expectations and you will be very happy with
any of these guys.

This is not true

by: Anonymous
Ive been dating my Peruvian boyfriend for quite a while
now and there are some things I have to disagree on.
He is a wonderful and amazing guy. He moved to the USA
4 years ago and has adapted very well. He is a hard
working man indeed.
Things I have noticed is that, Peruvian men do love sex...
a lot. Im not complaining because I do enjoy our very
active sex life.
We were very quick to fall and love, and its been 6
months and hes already invited me to move in with him.
The controlling part is very true, at times yes but not
constantly. He could be a liar, and if he is, he is a damn
good one. But I highly doubt he is.
It could just be my boyfriend but I have noticed that he is
not very romantic. He doesnt spoil me with gifts but on
the other hand he likes to be spoiled with gifts.
Hes very close with his family, almost like all Hispanic
families. I am a jealous girlfriend and Im pretty sure it
might annoy him. But he is just as jealous, he doesnt want
another guy to even look at me. He always makes sure that
I do know that I am his and nobody elses.
I do love him with everything I have, because after all we
were best friends before we started dating and always had
a crush on each other. I do want to throw out that he does
always win arguments, I dont know how he does it but I
have valid statements and facts but her just wins. And out
of all three of my relationships Ive never been
speechless.
It does make me feel like Im stupid but I usually just end

it or leave where ever we are.

They also do like to play the control part a lot, but say that
theyre not.
Over all he is a great hard working man. But I do agree
and do not agree with things said on here. And he is
nowhere near abusive.

Hurt
by: Jessica R.
I honestly had never really paid attention to Peruvian men I
didnt even know they existed. I met one and he changed
my whole life I met him here in America and he was so
sweat at first but then he changed he became more jealous
didnt want to let me out he hurt me with words made me
feel worthless like I was the wrong one when I just tried to
please him sadly whatever he wanted I did. Still wasn't
good enough.
He always found ways to hurt me he had started asking me
questions like what would I do if he hit me always brought
up the fact that I was Mexican and said that it shouldnt
matter Mexican woman like getting hit.
He was so mean he told me the only reason he liked me
was because I looked white. He said he hated Mexicans. If
we went to Peru I was to say I was Peruvian or just white. I
was always judged by what I did he started telling me I was
and a bitch he is from Lima.
Hes not your average Peruvian he is really tall but yes he
is a mommas boy. Its only been a week since we havent
been together but he is so dangerous finding this made me
not run back Ill just have to live without him why did he
lie!!!
Fake promises. He cried for me .He was great an awesome
friend but Peruvians in a relationships are DANGEROUS
will miss him :( but let the guy go who ever reads this he
was a liar and moved on real quick and the worst part of it
all is the sick fact that he thinks he is gods son and Im the
devil like wtf are you smoking you an abusive bastard he is
very internet famous the ladies love him the handsome
Peruvians are the worst he had so many girls like him think
hes cute it makes you wonder why they never ,messed
with him....because they already know but no one bothered
to tell me.

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It spells out hurtful, abusive

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This book helped me see someone whose
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Gain your trust for years and betray you.

by: Anonymous
This coward has kicked me, punched me in the eyes twice,
called the police on me after drinking to tell them I was on
probation so I got arrested for defending myself.
He's had me live in 15 different places after his ex from
US told him for a ride that is still on after divorce.
He will mention that he paid a bill and act like he's doing
me the favor.
When he was a gambling cheating married man, he treated
me like GOLD. I did no wrong. Drank, smoked, listened
to music, etc. He paid me for sex too. Now? I have to ask
for a penny because I ended up living w/ him. Got me in
the Lawrence, Ma ghetto to a rooming house full of drugs,
bedbugs, cockroaches, mice, and never felt bad for my
bites. Said I was nuts.
Then we moved to a ghetto apartment across the street for
4 yrs. He never paid rent or bills even if he made a grand a
week. I'd get 20 a day! Now, he makes 200 a week
working 48 hrs as a union carpenter still because his ex
that works for the IRS begged him to not file or else she'd
lose her job. He was giving her half of unemployment
check. 300 a week alimony. So, he listened to her!
Now that I found a decent place to live....built in 1900
1200 a month for rent...nothing included, this happens?
He got a loan for a new truck 25000 silverado truck he put
a hooker in. They had sex. I know it. Eviction time....bec.
he wouldn't pay rent to the slumlord...or old lady that
gives chances to the poor. I owe 700 for the fios bill that
was in my name in collections now. He won't pay bills in
my name.
I'm in college. Can't get a job because he had me arrested
for assault and battery knowing that finals day at college
was next day.
He's thrown me out of motel and rooming house doors
naked too. My younger brother had meningitis and he
wouldn't let him live in the dump in Lawrence, MA in the
freezing cold winter 2014. He'd inspect everything coming
home from work like a nut...demands sex.

I'm 15 years younger than the man w/ 5 kids. 4 a and b

arrests he's had. Failure to prosecute bec. he has MONEY
to hire lawyers to make me out to be a drunk druggie w/ a
record. *** YOU and your Culture, Peru. Welcome to
America Pacaya. You will get what your ex-American
wife dreams of one day. We will hug and cry and
FORGIVE. Jesus Christ please hear me now. Help me.

Why are Peruvian men liars and cheats?

by: Anonymous
Where did the behaviors begin in the history of this
nation's men, considering the history of Peru?
Are there any research articles discussing the behavioral
habits of Peruvian men?
Or, are these observations and perceptions limited to a
small population?
In the US, there is a growing population of Peruvians.
Does anyone know if the immigration to the US has
modified the cultural tendencies?
I have observed Peruvian men, young and middle age, in
the US. They are not social communicators with American

women, although they seem to non-verbally attempt to get

a woman's attention. One does not know if they want to
get acquainted, or what their intentions might be.

There are several kind of men in Per.

by: angeljordan9518@gmail.com
Not judge us quickly. each man is diferent..!! good luck
for all.

Culture and Race...two different things

by: Anonymous
Agree with the comment below.
Culture and race are not synonymous.
The statements on this thread have nothing to do with
racism. I know many Latino men who are nothing like
Peruvians. They share a language and a skin color...that is
all.
If you ask Peruvians themselves they will agree with many
of these comments and they are actually known
throughout all of Latin America for being liars.
Don't believe anyone on this thread? Do your own
research.
I have many female Peruvian friends who refuse to date
Peruvian men for all the reasons listed on this thread.
I have lots of Peruvian friends, most of them have been
westernized and even they agree. They will say "I love my
culture, but yeah, Peruvian men are liars, unfaithful,
controlling and jealous".
They also say the women are "crazy", but I imagine it is
because the men are such cheaters and liars. My friend
went on and on about how his GF was so "crazy jealous"
while he was out cheating on her with 2 other girls (not so
crazy, huh?).
It's part of the culture there. It is blatant narcissism as they
really feel they are entitled to "happiness at all costs"
because ironically, they are babied and pampered by their
mothers (who are raising them alone), that they deserve to
be happy and only deserve the best (no matter how they go
about getting it). So the cycle continues.
And for the record....these guys do NOT deserve the best.

They have very little to offer a woman other than really

good sex.
I've seen these guys in action and they are very adept
liars.
Make your own choice, but I for one, will NEVER,
EVER, EVER get involved with them.
I have not met a single honest one.
Not. Even. One.

@Blatant racism
by: Nicole
I am a good person. I only just came across this website,
but reading the comments is an exact descritption of how
my Peruvian ex was.
Considering I was only 19 when we met (he was 26), and
we spent several years together, that's very judgemental of
you to say.
Are you Peruvian?
Honestly, it's not a racial thing. Racism is saying "white
people can't dance" or "black people love watermelon."
Those comments are racist and untrue.
This is more of a cultural issue. It's not because Peruvians
are of a different race, but of a different culture, where,
yes, it is more acceptable for men to be abusive.
It is not part of the Western way of thinking.
I am a good person, as I said, and I didn't deserve to be
abused physically and mentally by a man who I was
faithful to and did everything for.
I honestly thought the person who said "be a good person
to get a good person" was kind of mean and judgemental.
You don't even know the women on here. How can you
say they are good people?
If I was so racist, how did I fall in love with a native
looking Peruvian man to begin with?
Hispanic men treat women worse, on average, it's not
about race, it's culture just like a red neck white man finds
it more acceptable to beat his wife more so than his
educated counterparts.

It's culture, not race.

Blatant Racism
by: Anonymous
Wow, the racism here is disgusting. I wish the moderator
would take down this whole thread. There are so many
things wrong with this I don't even know where to start.
One sane comment said you can only find a good person if
you are a good person yourself. Three cheers for that.
People who have had one bad experience and then stomp
around spewing their hurt and anger about that experience
over an entire people, stereotyping in the most viscous
way possible, are not being particularly good people.
Peruvian men are just men, like you find anywhere else.
And men are human, believe it or not, so yes, you find the
bad ones and the good ones and the everywhere inbetween ones, just like you do if you step outside your
own front door and take a good long look at your
neighbors. Or yourself.

@Adelina
by: Anonymous
I hope you did really find a nice guy in Peru, even if that's
like finding gold in a bunch of crap.
If you would have looked closely to the below posts you
would have noticed that most of those guys who were
mentioned here were "educated" guys.
Unfortunately when it comes to Peruvian men, education
is not what defines them. Being garbage it's just in their
DNA.
It's what their slutty mother and their society teach them.
If you could take your time and do some research you will
find some really interesting facts about Peruvian people.
The first thing that struck me is that about 60-70% of
the mothers are raising their kids alone . And no matter
how old the mothers are you will still see them getting
involved in silly relationship just because they still search
for the "prince charming".
I don't even know how to consider that, obviously is not
just being "naive", you cannot expect to find a good man

when you're 60 years old and you have 5 kids with 2

different men.
In my country about that age you just want to enjoy your
pension fund and your grand childrens, forget about dating
new men.
Maybe it's just a social difference, while some people from
different countries just want to settle down and have a life
together, some other people are just trying to experience as
much as they can without thinking about the
consequences.
"Living la via loca" is not for everyone after all.
@Adelina, can I ask you if you are Italian? your name is
very common in other European countries instead :)

BE CAREFUL!
by: Adelina
Hi!
I've been living in Peru for almost 2 years now, coming
and going from Italy.
I've dated the only two male possibilities in Peru.
First I was with a guy who people here consider as 'holo'
described by you all as the macho, abusive, poor, gringahunter type.
This lying gross cheating bastard gave
me CHLAMYDIA!! and HPV !!
He was always asking when 'we'would go to Italy and
stuff like that...turns out he only wanted me to get out of
his shitty situation.. SO LADIES, ALWAYS ALWAYs
ALWAYS have SAFE SEX!!
And now I am currently dating another guy, who is
completely different, not physically but at least he has a
career and knows how to treat a woman with respect, I
think it's because he is educated, but who knows maybe
you weren't lucky enough...

Consider the source

by: Anonymous
Note that the people saying "Peruvian men are great" are
people whom English is not their first language.

Take note, Peruvian men are not a good match for those in
the western world. They don't appreciate strong women
and prefer docile, weak women who put up with their
garbage.
If you like a guy who lies to your face and treats you like
trash when he's cheating on you, then head on down to
Lima and pick up one of these losers.

Gross
by: Anonymous
Short, cheaters, liars, selfish, immature mamas-boys

Disgusting subhumans
by: Anonymous
Short, liars, unfaithful, short, controlling, bipolar, selfish,
cowards.
Wolves in sheeps clothing.
Ladies, keep your legs and your hearts closed.

Peruvian boy
by: Anonymous
I met Peruvian boy, and strangely i fell for him. He is not
my type of man, it wasn't love on first look or so, he is
quite short (1,70), dark skinned and so, but it all didn't
matter after i got to know him.
He asked me to be officially his grfr after maybe one week
of dating, and it was funny for me, but he didn't change his
behavior when i said yes, he is so funny, and makes me
smile all the time, he is kind and nice really, he absolutely
adores my blue eyes and hair, and i really didn't notice that
he is flirting or having affections towards any other girls.
But, yes, sometimes he becomes 'macho', all about his
pride and man talks and jealousy and then we can not
speak normally, but i try not to listen seriously to his
blabla talks and is OK.
I really don't speak latinoamerican language, as i told him
more than once hah ;) but, i really didn't get the feeling
that Peruvians are that bad, i mean, 'my' Peruvian boy is
more careful to me than my ex (European). So, i think that
u cannot say 'Peruvians are bad or good'. They are just a
guys, some of them good, some of them bad :)

Peruvian Guy giving an opinion

by: Anonymous
I was surfing on the internet when I found this site and I
took a time to answer all the girls here that talk about
Peruvian men .
I agree that there is a big part of Peruvian men who are
chauvinist and sometimes very stupid.
However, there is another part of us who likes working
and thinking in a better future for us and our family.
I'm a person who is a professional and who got a Master's
Degree that took me a lot of effort, and who is also
starting his little company so I don't need anyone to
support me or give money.
Because of some stupid guys... don't think we are all the
same. I personally enjoy when a woman works and
develops as a professional and absolutely would not let my

future wife to be home and take care of the babies if she

wants to work or study.
I think that if you love someone you should let her
develop as a person and professional and I don't like
people who lack ambition.
I think I would feel proud if the girl I love achieves what
she always wanted
Secondly, I live alone and I know to cook , to clean and
wash my own clothes I do not need a slave to do the
household chores. I know some Peruvian are mama's boys
and don't know how to do anything , but Again we are not
all the same
Girls , no matter what nationality you are ... first , know
the guy , be a friend of them , realize that if he has enough
time to be with you all the time it is simply because he has
nothing to do. check if he studies and has real plans ..no
just words
And for all the girls who really had a bad time with those
faggot , stupid , good for nothing Peruvian men I feel
really sorry and I extend my apologies to all of you.

Statistics
by: Anonymous
If you examine the statistics on this country (I have done a
ton of research on this) they come in #1 or #2 in the world
for both infidelity and lying. It is simply a part of the
culture. So despite education level, area of origin, etc., the
odds are against a faithful and honest partnership.
I have many male Peruvian friends who chuckle at this
fact and admit "yeah, you have to lie". Lying is just a part
of the culture, even if it is inconsequential or something
ridiculous to lie about.
So, CAN you find an honest man in Peru? Possibly. But
your chances are much higher if you look elsewhere.
To date, I have not met a single honest Peruvian man and I
know some with PhD's, successful businesses, educated,
etc.
I'm sure they exist, but I think if you find one, you should
purchase a lottery ticket and thank The Lord for your good
fortune.
So if you like, date them, sleep with them, have fun with

them (protected of course), but certainly never imagine

white picket fences or children. Use them for great sex and
get the heck out. You'll save yourself some heartache and
misery if you go into it knowing what to expect.

Wow!
by: Liliam
Hey guys, I am from Germany and I have lived in Peru
long enough to give a detailed descriptions of Peruvian
guys.
1)Peru is a culturally diverse country, but here are 3 types
of man, the man from the Andes, the man from the Jungle
and the man from the coast.
The man from the coast that is not from Lima are "Lima
wannabe's", the Andeans that live in the Andes will not be
with people from other countries since they are very
traditional, but there are lots of people from the highlands
coming to Lima and those are the worse, not only because
they are very ignorant but also because they are aggressive
and like alcohol like crazy.
Guys from the jungle in the other hand and very sweet
BUT get ready to be their housewife.
According to your descriptions, you have been mostly
with guys from the highlands, those are the ones that are

"gringa-hunters", those that stay illegally in other

countries and those that cannot have a healthy
relationship.
People naturally from Lima is all the opposite, the are very
educated, the travel a lot, they are good lovers and have
better values and principles BECAUSE they know more
about the world. Therefore, they have respect for another
cultures.
I will give you an advice, if you find a guy with this
characteristic:
-smaller than 5'5 (165cm)
- not beard
-wide face
-very dark skin
-bad English knowledge (just good enough to cheat you
with fake charming)
-no money
-more than 3 siblings
...
then you are with a highlander from Peru. Then you
cannot judge all Peruvian man just because this type of
man is totally different than the other 20 million from the
coast and jungle.
Limeans are:
-their last name has spanish, italian or french roots
-their parents studied abroad
-they have at least a bachelor degree
-they speak English or another language
-They like other sports, not only soccer (futbol)
-they are taller than (5'6), mine is 5'12
-When they travel, they do it for tourism not for staying as
immigrants.
-they are great dancers
-they have a very different way of talking, they have
words or expressions like; "pota madre", "nada broer", "no
pasa naaada", "hasta las huevas"...
Indeed, they lie like every single person in the world, they
cheat as any other man or woman in the world,..
I guess you guys didn't find any other option in your own
countries, right?. If you have such negative inputs about
Peruvians, then go back to your countries.
Also, I have to add something.
I find Limeans much more educated than any guys in the
US. I have meet with US-Americans and asked me if
Germany has a king, usually when you talk to them they
always say.. ohhh Cool!! and they have no clue what are u
talking about. so.. don't be so harsh. They even think

AMERICA is only the US and not a freaking continent.

In order to be with a good person, you need to be a good
person yourself. You will never choose the right person if
you don't have good enough values that will allow you to
see better and understand better the behavior of people.

Peruvian Man
by: Trust Me
I can save you some time here by summarizing a Peruvian
Man in 2 words: Absolutely Worthless
Save yourself some problems and keep looking. You won't
find Mr. Right in that country no matter how hard you
look. It's like trying to find gold in a pile of garbage.

Peruvian Men some are good and some are not

by: Anonymous
I have been married to a Peruvian man for ten years. I am
at the point that I need to get divorced from him.
We have two daughters, Linda and Susanna. They adore
their father. They are 11 and 14 years old. Peruvian men
love their daughters and think of their wives as
housekeepers and cleaning ladies.
They only think of themselves and their Peruvian family.
I am done with this Peruvian Macho nonsense. I only hope
that my daughters choose more wisely than I did and think
twice about marrying a Peruvian man.
They are selfish, self-centered and self-absorbed. They
never think of anyone but themselves.

Heartbreaking
by: Anonymous
First of all, hello, I am currently in a rollercoaster
"relationship" with a Peruvian man for the last year and a
half, and I have to say I agree with many of the women
here.
It is nice to see that I am not alone, and not the only
female who has been hurt and deceived by them.
When I met my boyfriend, I was easily fooled. He is only
the second boyfriend I ever had in my life, as I wasn't

allowed to date in high school and was sort of sheltered, so

it was easy for him to pull the wool over my eyes.
He is an immigrant to my country, but I was okay with
that, because he speaks English and is a hard worker.
When we first met, he was so sweet and kind, so much so
that I was suspicious, but he would spend all his free time
with me and make me laugh and tell me about his life, and
I felt like we really clicked, so I eventually decided to give
him a chance when he asked me to be his girlfriend. Then
things changed quick.
In the beginning, he was always promising me things, and
he never made good on any of it. He started to avoid
spending time with me, and he hasn't taken me on a date in
over a year. Yet he still expects sex, even though he
knows I was raised very Catholic and I have conflicting
feelings about premarital sex.
He didn't have a car until a month ago, and expected I
would drive him places. He asks for money all the time
and ignores me for days me when I can't lend him any.
His whole family is in Peru still, except for his sister and
his brother-in-law from Mexico, who live close to us.
When he doesn't get his way, he brings his sister into our
arguments to stand up for him.
He is a sissy, lazy, little cry baby mama's boy. He can't
even scrape his knee without hysterics. He calls out of
work just because he feels tired.
He is constantly in trouble at work for goofing off and
hiding in the bathroom so he doesn't actually have to do
anything. ]]
He refused to meet my family, even though he demands
we go to his sister's apartment all the time.
And the lies. He lies about stupid, insignificant things. He
can't even tell the truth about stupid stuff, let alone
anything else.
He disappears for hours on the weekends, never says what
he's doing, until I find a pair of women's pants and other
items in his room and when I confront them he says
they're his male friend's.
That's the worst part; he treats me like I'm stupid and
dumb enough to believe his crap. He never asks what's
going on in my life, at my work, with getting my degree,
about my family, never bothers to take me anywhere,
never spends quality time with me, he gets angry and tells

me f*** you, call me a dumb b****, gets in my face and

makes me cry. ]]
He asked me to marry him and I said yes, and now I regret
that immensely. I'm not a materialistic person, but even
the ring he bought me was cheap and fake, I had it
appraised at a jeweler's the week after he proposed, and
found it he lied that it was not a real diamond. Why am I
not surprised.
He is the most chauvinistic, racist, not to mention most
adept at lying person I know. He tells me he loves me,
then he goes and cheats on me, or gets nasty with me,
cursing me out and telling me I'm worthless, getting up in
my face and getting physical with me one two occasions,
and it has recently come out that his motivation for
proposing to me was my visa.
He was born and raised in Peru until the age of 21. He is
now almost 28. What does that tell you? That he was
raised this way his whole life and now he thinks its okay
to cheat on and disrespect women.
The Peruvian male culture is a nasty one, many Hispanic
males are machismo, and Peruvians are no exception.
My advice if you are considering a relationship with a
Peruvian is to avoid it, hold out for a better guy, he could
be of any other race or nationality, but don't be fooled by
the Peruvian's fake charm and lies that he will tell. And if
you are in a bad relationship with a Peruvian man, get
away from him now while you can. Every woman is
beautiful or special in her own way, and you deserve
better.

The perfect woman for a Peruvian Man

by: Duped
Are you submissive?
Do you like small men?
Do you like men with below average incomes?
Do you like rather unattractive men who use charm as
their only weapon?
Do you enjoy hiding your intelligence from your partner
as to not intimidate him?
Do you like doing everything, remaining faithful and kind
while he parties all night?

Do you like being judged?

Do you like drunks?
Are you OK with infidelity?
Do you enjoy lies?
Are you ignorant?
Do you like being swindled?
Do you like being controlled?
Don't mind looking stupid to your friends for putting up
with it?
Do you like wondering if you've been exposed to STD's?
Do you hate birth control and can't wait to have a baby
with a non-existent father?
Do you like being accused of things you didn't do?
Do you like a hypocrisy and jealousy?
Do you like being talked down to?
Do you like being loved and then later insulted?
Do you love "mama's boys"?
Sound like you?
Then a Peruvian guy is right for you! In Lima alone, it is a
city of 9 million and as a gringa, you can have your pick,
so get 'em girl!
Let the horrible relationship and years of therapy begin!

Europe
by: Anonymous
The more I read these posts the more I learn how to
appreciate "my people".
Every man that I had in my life had some purpose. I have
always felt that no matter how good or bad a relationship
has been for me, I still had something to learn from it.
But not when it came to my Peruvian fiasco.
I wish I could still see a reason of why I have felt in love
of this fake cheating midget.
After months of suffering I can only say that I thank God
for keeping me out of this jerk, I thank him for not
allowing me to marry this snake and for not getting
pregnant to this garbage.
For women who found themselves in a worst situation, I
can only say to them to raise their child with dignity and to
keep them away from this garbage.
I found it strange how so many, many women in Peru are
raising these future men all by them self. But what they
are raising are a future generation of garbage.

Peruvian Men....Proceed with Caution

by: Anonymous
Wow, I can agree with so many of these posts here, I only
wish that I had read them before getting involved with a
Peruvian man. If you do a quick Google search the
consensus is unanimous.
Yes I've been burned and yes I'm bitter. I know several
Peruvian men however (all of them "friends"), and they all
fit this mold, no matter how "nice" or "educated" they
seem.
I met a 34 year old Peruvian man and we started as friends
and language partners. He is attending the university to
obtain a business degree. I am an intelligent, successful
woman with a Master's degree and pride myself on not
being fooled easily. I was fooled by him.
Although he is a terrible liar, his incredible charm seems
to blind women into believing his stories. (you will hear
many stories of their charm and it is all true).
Physically, he is not my type (short, small) but his
personality and love for me was intoxicating.
Let me tell you this:

-Best lover you've ever had.

-When you are his #1, you've never felt more beautiful in
your life.
-But when they've found a new #1, you will be treated like
garbage and they will look for your faults to justify their
own behavior. Often using "culture" to insult you.
-Their feelings "change" quickly (this generally depends
on where the nearest set of breasts are).
-They will lie, lie, lie, lie, lie, lie. At all costs. If their
mouth is moving, they are lying. Lie about inconsequential
things. Lying just to lie.
-They will make plans and promises that they have no
intention on keeping.
-Mama rules their world. When he talks to his mom, he is
a zombie afterwards while the brainwashing takes effect.
She will make or break your relationship and if you are an
American, the odds are not in your favor.
-They will live with their mom into their 30's and this is
considered perfectly normal
-Child rearing is left to the mothers while the fathers party
all night (usually out "changing their feelings").
I take responsibility because in hindsight there were so
many red flags, but I was blinded by love and assumed we
had a relationship based on trust. It took months to recover
from the heartbreak of this cheating, lying, manipulative
jerk. I'm just hoping I won't also require antibiotics.
My advice....careful, careful, careful, careful. Don't think
"He's not like that! He's different! He says I'm special!".
There are a long line of women who would have said the
same thing at one point. Me included.
Trust me, I would have defended him against the world
and yet now here I am, joining the herds of women who
said "told you so!". There should be a club "Peruvian exGF club" It would be full of intelligent successful women
with amazing stories to tell.

love mis Peruanitos

by: Anonymous
I am Peruvian woman, 4th of 6 children... 4 older
BROTHERS... yikes!!! So I know how they are.

Each one of my brothers are extremely different yet

VERY TYPICAL PERUVIAN MALES.
1) all of them are "rico-suaves, casanovas" when it comes
to conquer women.
2) They open door for you, They PAY ALWAYS when
they take out to eat, dance or any event, they shower you
with presents and are very very "affectionate" in public.
They are extremely sociable - have friends and make
friends in an instant. They like to show you around "like a
trofi"
2) once you become "steady or get marry" things change.
They become possessive, obsessive and jealous. See it has
to do with the fact that when you get marry in Peru you
have to take your husband's last name. This is shown by
place the article "De" plus his last name. Basically, your
name is Jane and his last name is Ruiz, you would became
"Jane De Ruiz".... which literally means "belonging to
Ruiz!!! And That is when the machismo kick in full force
- you became his property. But an intelligent woman can
easily manage them... praise them -day and night, love
their mom AND sisters AND cook - there you have 85%
control in relationship.
Peruvians are really cool people, strong will but not crazy,
very affectionate and need to feel appreciate it - or else
they will go elsewhere, why? Because they can!

Peruvian think they can get away from American

ways
by: Josephine
I was with my Peruvian for six years. Never thought he
would cheat on me.
Well, he did and went off getting another woman pregnant
without me knowing until I became pregnant. It was a stab
in my heart. Although yet I was still willing to give him a
chance and open the door to him.
He thinks he is making a good decision when I was
willing to help him out with his other child due to the
strong love I still had for him, and not only him, but for
the sake of my daughter who will be coming into this
world. It matters to me of raising my daughter with both
parents.
Well, since the other woman was not asking of child
support but yet still wanted some type of help he decided
to move in with his, "one day stand" and help her with the

child. I told him he is making the biggest mistake.

He informs me the judge here in the U.S. will think of his
family in Peru. (mom and two kids)I know he is not
married in Peru because I have spoken to his mom and I
was to fly to Peru with him. Although I did not. He goes
every year to visit familia in Peru.
Well, I feel very sorry for him. He has really screwed up
his life because he cant control his dick. Well, when my
daughter is born he will suffer his consequences. He has
no choice but to pay child support for my child.
If he marries the other girl it will financially effect her.
Will she still be with him when she finds out of me?
If she does will she accept the fact that she will not receive
much child support if I apply before her if she does find
out of me. Also, I am going to do what I can with attorney
for him to regret the pain he caused me.
Peruvian men shouldn't play with American woman's
feelings. This is not Peru. This is America. Also, why be
with a woman who can't help and have less education. I
have my degree and make good income. people like
Peruvian men need to learn from their mistakes. "What
goes around will come around."
It's happened to me before and I've learned from my
mistakes. Stupid Peruvian men.

Abusive
by: Lucy
My man is physically abusive when he is drunk and when
he is sober he is emotionally abusive.
His values change and he is controlling but at least he is a
good lover but he is also a liar and his name is Joshualdo.

Peruvian men are liars, promiscuous and garbage

by: Anonymous
I dated a Peruvian guy about 3- 4 months ago. He's
probably the most hard working guy i've ever met. He is
great in bed and he WAS the sweetest and the most
gentleman guy i've ever met. Until I caught him hooking
up with multiple girls.
He might be the most hard working and most affectionate
guy I've known but he's also the biggest liar, most
controlling and most promiscuous guy I've ever met.
He lied about how many partners he's had in the past and
how many partner's he has as of that moment.
He never treated me as equal. I've always felt like I was
inferior to him and suppose to cater to his needs all the
time. And I never got the same care from him.
I'm not a babysitter. I have my university degree and I'm a
professional.
Also, another bad quality of this guy is he's quite the party
animal. He's alcoholic. He likes to drink and likes to get
drunk.
So one thing I would like to tell all females out there is to
be careful of Peruvian men. They will do anything and and
will say anything to get into your pants. And not just your
pants, but also the pants of other women.
Don't even waste your time. Find someone better!

Mama's boy and natural liar

by: Anonymous
I really agree on Peruvian mothers do LOVE their adult

sons so much.
There was that one time, a Peruvian mum kissed her adult
son (35 year old+) and squeezed her son's cheek like the
way you would do with a baby and called him "mi
bebe"(my baby in Spanish) in a gathering.
I found it really strange for an adult, but it looked like it
was so natural to everyone (all Peruvians except me), so I
didn't say anything either.
Besides, they are real natural liars. They are very smooth
about it that looks like a second nature, but of course
women can still feel something not quite right, but it looks
so believable.
Girl, you are not crazy or too sensitive. I have been there
and done that. I am totally with you. I can always find
something.
So, if you feel something weird with any conversations
with your man, girl, I suggest you to trust yourself, get to
the bottom about the conversation, of course behind his
back. And of course, maybe it is just me and several other
friends.
They can be great lovers too, but only if they are
determined. PS - they are not considered as determined
even if they are marry you. But once they decided to love
you, they are exceptional lovers that care about you in all
aspects.

How are Peruvian men

by: Peruvian girl
Hello everyone im fro Peru and I ask myself what other
girls think about Peruvian men here well I want to help
you and say the true here are so many different kind of
guys all are not the same like around the world some are
really bad and lie also have many girlfriend but others are
like the best boyfriend also with you and love forever but I
want to say that if you want to have a Peruvian bf never
kiss him the first time you date with him just be friends
first really good friends then, when you feel he really like
you its ok to be couple :)
Also! When a girl here cheat a good guy they turn to bad
guys (not all of course but 80% so be careful then its ok
just take care of him and also know all his friends ! :)
hope this be good for you girls and im so sorry my english
is so bad haha Oh !
And they love girls that cook really good! ^^ that cook

Peruvian food (no problem is easy)

PD : they are sweet !! They love hugs and kiss in front all
people they don't care just if they really love you they
don't care anything else more than you ;)

Peruvian men clash with American women

by: Anonymous
I lived in Peru for four years and found that modern
american women clash with Peruvian men.
Unless the man has been Americanized these couples tend
to have problems because of the following; Peruvian men
tend to be jealous, like to be in control and are
chauvinistic.
Most of them were babied by their mothers.

Peruvian mothers tend to enable their sons and take

mothering to another level. So when these men seek a
partner they are looking for someone just as devoted to
fulfilling their every need as their mother.
They expect their woman to cook and clean.
They also tend to have a wandering eye unless they meet

that one person. When they meet that one person they can
transform into real respectful men.
One thing I did notice is Peruvian men make great fathers.
One thing I forgot to mention is the Latin temper. You will
never win in a fight with a Peruvian (male or female).
The most important thing is they are incredibly loving.
I personally prefer an Americanized Peruvian. They are
very loving and also respectful to women. They have
modern viewpoints and value family.
I would never date a traditional Peruvian man because it
would never work.

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Peruvian men are a high percentage of no good

compared to other nationalities
by: Anonymous
I never thought my Peruvian man would emotionally hurt
me. I always asked myself, "Why do l love him so
much?"
When l met him I never had an attraction towards him. I
knew him as a friend at work & he was, "ugly." I always
felt when spoke he had something for me. I felt it.
He made his first move on me & pushed him away three
times. After awhile I gave in. I don't know why. You know
it's usually said it's not looks its their personality.
After being together for awhile l always trusted him 100%
that he would not cheat on me even when we separated.
We always came back to each other. It's nice being with
someone u have no worries but faith towards.
After six years being together we constantly had our up &
downs. There was a time l kept my distance from him for
three weeks because l wanted him to understand that it
takes two for a relationship to work. I wasn't there and he
slept with someone. It killed me deeply. So many chances
l had with other men, but l always pushed them away
because l did not want to feel the guilt & I still loved my,
"Richard."

After that nightstand the woman contacted him after 7

months. After four months of child being born he still
came to my home to have sex with me and me not
knowing. Afterwards it turned out I became pregnant. It
just happened.
When l told him of my pregnancy he then confessed about
the other child he had & he did not want this child with
me. After six years of being together he decides to b with
the other to raise the child since the baby was already here.
He does not want our child and l have decision for
abortion. I still decided to beg him to come back to me &
let's raise this child together & l will do what l can to help
who u support in Peru. I will still allow you to raise the
little girl. He still turned me down.
It's very sad how Peruvian men don't think of their
mistakes in life & what goes around will come around.
You will want to settle down in your life one day.

I concur
by: Anonymous
Wow I relate to so many of these posts.
I'm half Peruvian and my father, who is Peruvian, is very
chauvinistic, controlling, extremely stingy, notoriously
unfaithful (yet thinks he's secretive) & even has Peruvian
friends with all these traits.
What someone said about the mothers possibly being more
chauvinistic I agree with to an extent because they
basically nurture and reinforce that mindset.
I also have a cousin whose Peruvian husband is very
controlling towards her and even says demeaning things to
her as though she isn't intelligent...when she's an engineer.
Told my mother a long time ago that I'd never marry a
Peruvian because I cannot tolerate that machismo attitude
for anything.
Good luck everyone.

Peruvian men are lying cheating sneaks

by: Anonymous
I have been with a Peruvian man for almost 3 very long
years..the first 4 months were amazing. We would always
go for walks and spend time together too get too know each

other, so I thought. He was only working his bullshit on me

and he succeeded..
I fell in love with him very fast because he always had the
right words too say and he was so loving and caring and I
will say the sex is amazing.. Best I ever had.
I will say that I know he lies and cheats and deceives me. I
found pictures of him with other woman on night he said
he was spending time with his family. I did confront him
but, like always, deny, deny.
I still too this day know what he does but no matter how
hard I tried so many times too walk away I just can't do it.
He has this hold on me that I just can't break...he plays me
for a fool and I let him.
He has never spent a dime on me either. He has a good job
but, yet I find myself always helping him out with money
for one thing or another.
I'm sure he's using me partly for money but still I can't get
him out of my mind or heart.
Do yourselves a favor and stay as far away as possible
from these men because they will break you down and
destroy your heart and mind.

Book Review by a customer:

I just picked this book up on vacation and I found it the
most illuminating book I've ever read on dysfunctional
relationships.

It spells out hurtful, abusive behaviors and what they really

mean.
This book helped me see someone whose erratic behavior
had confused and hurt me for years was running a classic
pattern of tension, abuse, and making amends.
Instead of feeling that the action didn't match the words, I
saw clearly that he fit the mold of a control freak who sees
relationships as win/lose or dominator/dominatee.
Every woman should read this book and every high school
girl.
It will save you wasted time and untold pain.
It helps to differentiate between basically good men who
will grow, bad men who may not change, and completely
hopeless men who you need to leave in the dust.

huge liers
by: Europe
Where should I even start? I've been dealing with a
peruvian guy for more than one year and i regret each
day.
At first all was great. I am a smart woman and i knew

from the start he is lying to me. After less than 3 weeks he

said he loves me.
I've play it on, but I would have never guest I will fall in
love with him. And from that point I have only have to
suffer.
He pretended that I'm "a part of him" and things like that,
the most amazing liar I have ever met. All was fine for me,
we were planing for him to visit me and the next day (
and
i really mean next day!) he totally disappeared from my
life!!! Without any word!
We are working for the same company, and
I have always felt like he is trying to find "inside details"
from my office.
I felt like nothing when he totally got me out of his life.
And then he got back after months. Things were never the
same, I couldn't trust him anymore and he was not the
same. After months I was ready to forget all the bad things
and to give it another try.
He was hesitating but still never admit it he was in a
relationship. And than I find out he just got married with
his ugly assistant! The most ugly woman I have even seen
and he agreed with me on that, long time ago! Now when I
think about it I realized that maybe she knew about me. I
would not be surprised if she was part of the plan of
getting inside information.
Anyway, I would not advise any European/ American
woman to be dealing with Peruvian guys. They are the
best liars in the world and the huge garbage! Anything is
better than Peruvian, for them is normal to trick woman.
If you have any respect for yourself just stay out of them, i
won't even mention their sexual sick needs!

Peruvian men are not good

by: Anonymous
Peruvian men are nothing but faggots, cowards & trash!

Laughing - from a guy's point of view

by: Anonymous
Sorry to say this but I was laughing while I was reading all
these comments. So, some of you have a bad experience
with a Peruvian guy and think they are all bad..that's
stupid!. And for the Peruvian girls that talk **** about
Peruvian boys: shut up ****! dejan mal a su gente!
I'll try to give you a very neutral opinion.
There are all kind of guys. We like to flirt girls like any
other Latin guy.
Latin guys are very complicated (not only Peruvians).
If you had a bad Peruvian boyfriend I'm sorry. But all
relationships don't go well, so don't blame the country or
the people. It's your fault, why did you date with him in
the first place?

First know the person well and then date him/her.

Like any other guys, we like parties, dancing, flirting,
kissing many girls ..... but when we find the real love,
when we really! really! fall in love we can be the best
partner AND FINALLY BE RESPONSIBLE. You'll see
the change.
Don't get angry. You weren't the real love of their life for
those guys. That's all.

Peruvian guys are pretty much like any other man

by: Anonymous
Im a guy from Peru and personally I think that all men are
the same at some point.
We can all be a real pain, but we can also be really nice
and thoughtful.
Physically speaking, we're all not good looking, I know
I'm not, but some of us can be great companions and have
a serious relationship...
I wouldn't know if I would be a good boyfriend for a girl
since I've never been in a relationship with one.
Besides...I dont think American girls like dark-skinned
men.

Peruvian men are not good at all

by: Anonymous
Peruvian men are so different from American men!
Describing a Peruvian Man in a good way is cooking good
& good sex, but having a good relationship SUCKS!
A woman doesn't like to live in misery.
An American man will appreciate you & support you &
deal with his responsibilities.
After 7 years in a relationship why does a Peruvian inform
me he doesn't feel the same for me so we separate but yet
he still gets upset if I'm out with someone else?
I don't understand Peruvians. He left me. Why do
Peruvians control and are chauvinistic?

Working For A Peruvian

by: Anonymous
I work/ volunteer for this guy at my church who's an intern
for our youth ministry. He's 23 and Peruvian (3 years older
than me). He was very nice, flirtatious, and intentional.
He would give me rides to all of the events (because I'm
physically handicapped and haven't driven before),
interacting with me on a regular basis outside of church via
text and social media (that was all BEFORE I started
working/ volunteering for him).
But now that I technically "work" for him (even though I'm
a volunteer) he's completely changed.
You're probably wondering, "Well how did you end up
volunteering/ working for this guy?" I wanted to get more
acclimated with the church. So, the youth pastor assigned
me to (the guy I've been describing).
I want to be friends with him (and not just a volunteer).
And I know he is capable of that because he was acting like
a friend to me BEFORE all of this. But, he doesn't treat me
like a friend anymore. He's outgoing, sarcastic (in a cute
way), and flirtatious with EVERY OTHER FEMALE
(volunteer, staffer, and student) that's between the ages of
16-40 lol. He's also very laid back and down to earth when
he's around his guy friends. But now... around me?. His
personality change toward me is night and day.
He makes me feel stupid sometimes, calls me a nickname
(that I hate), rolls his eyes at me, is condescending towards
me, and talks about other women in front of his buddies as
if they were a piece of meat.
He ACTS nice to me only when he wants/ needs something
done (like an assignment or task). He's never genuine
around me anymore. I feel like he asks me "how are you?"
only when his boss and other people (that volunteer or
work on staff) so he doesn't look like a jerk. And when he
does ask me "How are you?" he doesn't actually listen.
He knows how to suck up to people that can give him what
he needs or would serve as some sort of benefit for him.

Book Review by a customer:

I just picked this book up on vacation and I found it the

most illuminating book I've ever read on dysfunctional

relationships.

It spells out hurtful, abusive behaviors and what they really

mean.
This book helped me see someone whose erratic behavior
had confused and hurt me for years was running a classic
pattern of tension, abuse, and making amends.
Instead of feeling that the action didn't match the words, I
saw clearly that he fit the mold of a control freak who sees
relationships as win/lose or dominator/dominatee.
Every woman should read this book and every high school
girl.
It will save you wasted time and untold pain.
It helps to differentiate between basically good men who
will grow, bad men who may not change, and completely
hopeless men who you need to leave in the dust.

Controllers
by: Anonymous
I am an American woman who has been in a 6 year going
onto a 7 year relationship with a Peruvian man.

I agree VERY MUCH with you that Peruvian men are

controlling, but also chauvinist, jealous and YES very
much sex. 7 days a week is too much & he's not physically
abusive but with me a controlling man is too much.
Why do they have to be the superior and rather
compromise

Trust me
by: I'm Peruvian
I'm Peruvian. I'm a girl.
There are obviously some good guys here in my country,
but most of them are not, so please listen to me and go to
Australia o some other country where men are not
chauvinist.
Here even your mother-in-law will be the most chauvinist
person, maybe even more then the guy.
I know all of this since Ive been through it with my family
(Dad and grandmother). Usually they are controlling.
I'm not saying all guys are like that but I'm still trying to
help you to understand my point.

Peruvian men are not good

by: Anonymous
Well, good for you!
What is the percentage of a good Peruvian man and an
American man?
I would say the percentage of a good Peruvian man is
pretty low.
Foreign men do not do much for their woman who are in
their lives.
I always took my relationship very serious. I never asked
my man for money.
When I would be stuck on the side of the road because the
vehicle went bad who was the person I to call?
My man.
He failed me and would get upset with me.

I had to call my mother.

After six years in the relationship? That was not good.
I never had an American man in my life who failed me
stuck on the side of the road after six years.
Hard to say, I know my Peruvian loved me because when
we went our separate ways he always came back to me & I
would see the pain when we went our separate ways.
And I would constantly tell him no American woman does
not like a man that cannot deal with his responsibilities.
A man to stand by his woman!

Peruvian men are not good in relationships

by: Anonymous
I ve been with my Peruvian boyfriend six years.
He lives with his brother.
My boyfriend opened the door to another Peruvian friend
& gave him a place to stay.
I asked my boyfriend let's move in together. He turned me
down.
I decided to go back to college.
A while later, I'm laid off from work, my car breaks down.
I request his help for transportation to school. There is no
bus that goes that direction.
He turns me down.
I will have to withdraw from school. I've missed 2 weeks,
I'm running out of money, I have no food.
By the end of this month where will I go? I will have to
leave my apt.
Not once has he offered me help.
I've been with him for six years.
Peruvian men may be hard workers but they don't know
that a relationship is a responsibility.
Peruvian men are no good.

They are also very jealous and controlling.

Peruvians are scum

by: Anonymous
I am married to peruvian guy and he is the biggest scum
I've ever met in my life.
His mother father and sister and her baby are leeches.
Father doesn't work mother doesn't work sister doesn't
work. Sister has a baby but no baby daddy.
They have no traditions, don't celebrate any holidays.
They literally wore pajamas for Christmas dinner.
My husband is stupid and uneducated. Has no knowledge
of nothing: math, chemistry, history, politics.
He's extremely jealous. Tracks my phone, checks who I
called or texted.
I have to text him where I am at all times, meanwhile this
bitch does whatever he wants.
Stay away!!! Get a white guy.

My guy friend

by: Anonymous
My guy friend is very respectful, can act macho at times,
but also listens when I have something to say.
He's acclimating to my culture, and I am doing the same
for him.
I'm African American and sometimes we have that
bantering debate about me being too "rebellious".
But, it seems like he is surrounded by successful and
strong Peruvian women, so it's not too difficult for him to
handle me.
But, I know he likes the strong side of me, otherwise, why
stick around?

Ah Peruvians.
by: Anonymous
Ive been dating a Peruvian man for close to a year now.
I also have a friend who's dated a Peruvian man,and our
experiences are quite similar.
Peruvian men in my experience are hard working, VERY
affectionate, and funny.
Yes, they can be pretty macho (to varying degrees). And
yes, to a great many of them, Peru and its inhabitants are
the most amazing things existing on this planet.
And I'm an African American woman who's dating a
Peruvian born man, so sometimes the Peruvians vs.
Americans or Peruvians vs. African Americans debates
rear their annoying (but always in good fun) heads lol.
But they are all around great guys.....just a little big
headed but hey, that's most men;)

Peruvian guy
by: Cynthia Farfan
Well, Peruvian guys, (for me) they are
"male chauvinist" ,
they like to work,
yes, they like to have fun,

they like to dance ,

they like to be with family,
BUT
they are liars,
they are good actors,
when they want (sex) they know how to lie,
they like that girls be in "house",
some of them are little stupid, and
some of them are intelligent, like in other countries.
Peruvian men don't like "jealous girls." why?
because they like to "cheat" behind your back..
Here in Peru, we have a lot of b*****s, who like to be with
married guys,
I hate guys in my country, because whatever a girl walks
by, they look at you, and start to yell at you, like: "hey
beauty, hey my love, good a**"
They yell b***s**t, but there are good guys too! You just
have to be very careful, like any woman :)
----------------------Greetings from Peruvian girl.
I'm married with a Serbian guy, I didn't expect that, but that
just happen, he make me to fall in love with him.. and after
much time, and i said yes to him.. and we are now a couple
young happy, who want to grow up in life. :)
Sorry for bad English.
Mucha suerte!

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I just picked this book up on vacation and I found it the

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relationships.

It spells out hurtful, abusive behaviors and what they really

mean.
This book helped me see someone whose erratic behavior
had confused and hurt me for years was running a classic
pattern of tension, abuse, and making amends.
Instead of feeling that the action didn't match the words, I
saw clearly that he fit the mold of a control freak who sees
relationships as win/lose or dominator/dominatee.
Every woman should read this book and every high school
girl.
It will save you wasted time and untold pain.
It helps to differentiate between basically good men who
will grow, bad men who may not change, and completely
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