Professional Documents
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Human Love
A Phenomenology of Love by Manny Dy; A Phenomenology of Love by
William Luijpen
Outline:
Introduction
1. Love as An Appeal (Invitation) of the Other
a. An invitation/appeal to me to step out of myself
b. An invitation/appeal to be with, for the other
i.
not an appeal of his/her facticity
ii.
an appeal not identified with the explicit request
iii.
appeal of his subjectivity, to share in his subjectivity
c. An appeal that brings new dimension to existence
2. Love as a Yes to the Appeal
a. Yes of my subjectivity
b. Embodied Yes to the Other
c. Yes to the Other for the sake of the other
d. A yes that bring self-fulfillment
e. A yes that demands to be ratified by the other
3. Love as Creativity, as making to be
a. Distinction between knowing and loving
b. Distinction between creativity of love and creativity of artistic
work
c. What is created in love:
i.
Creation of the WE
ii.
Creation of World into a WE-WORLD
Introduction
- In our previous discussion, Martin Buber describes the 2
fundamental ways, and levels of relating with our fellow
men/women.
- I-IT: Social Relation
- I-THOU: Interhuman relation
- The latter relation is the relation that is authentically human and
humanizing.
- And Martin Buber clarifies the conditions and obstacles for this kind
of relation:
- Seeming vs. Being
- Speechfying vs. Personal Making Present
- Imposition vs. Unfolding
- Genuine Dialogue takes place when these conditions are realized;
and when there is genuine dialogue, the participants are disposed
for the interhuman relation which takes place, happens as a gift, as
a grace-event.
- There are several specific ways of realizing the I-Thou relation, of
treating, encountering, relating with the other as a Thou. Among
these possibilities, love is the most common and the deepest.
- Yet, love is the most often misunderstood concept.
- Though it is most universal experience (a universal human
phenomenon), it is the most commonly misunderstood
- Some misconceptions of what love is:
- Love as mere feeling
- Love as act of possessing or being possessed
- Love as equated with/identified with sex
- Love as falling in love: you could not do anything but be
seduced or overwhelmed by some power beyond your
control.
Love as An Appeal
- in any loving encounter, any experience of love, one
experiences an appeal, an invitation, a calling forth that is
addressed/directed to me.
- This appeal, invitation, calling forth goes out/come from the
Other and is embodied in a word, a gesture, a look, a smell, etc.
- No matter in what form the appeal of the Other embodies itself,
it is not an appeal from mere words, gesture, look, smell but
from the Other as other.
- Now let us more specifically clarify what the appeal contains:
- The other is appealing, inviting, calling me to what, for
what?
- Who is this other who appeals to me?
- What makes me hear/notice the appeal?
a
i.
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ii.
iii.
Yes of my subjectivity
- the appeal of the other which proceeds from his subjectivity (not
from his facticity nor be identified with his/her explicit request)
calls/invites me to step out of myself and to share in his
subjectivity
- this appeal which brings me to an awareness of the deepest
aspect of my existence demands a response, an appropriate
response.
- The appropriate response is the response/yes of my subjectivity
since the other appeals from his/subjectivity and appeals to my
subjectivity
- I should not respond simply from my facticity, from what I
have but from my subjectivity, from what I am; I do not only
give what I have but what I am
- I dont simply give a piece of bread, a coin, a part of my
time; nor simply play the role that he needs at the
moment, nor attain the quality/attributes that could help
him
- But I respond from what I am, from my subjectivity:
- I respond with the totality, unity, uniqueness of my
life
- I respond from the deepest aspect of myself: original
source of my creativity, activity which stamps all my
activities, roles and attributes with uniqueness
- I give the potentialities, my self-project for the good
of the other.
- This response from my subjectivity:
- Could never be forced by anyone on me, even by the
other's appeal; it is an act of the WILL, FREEDOM.
- Is not a question of feeling for my subjectivity is
something beyond, deeper than my feeling; it is not
determined by feeling or by external circumstances.
- If I say yes to the appeal, i.e. give my subjectivity in freedom
for the other, then this yes is known as LOVE.
a. Embodied Yes to other's Subjectivity
i.
His freedom
Self-realization of his unique self-project and
possibilities
What he is meant to be.
ii.
iii.
The motive to say yes to the Other as other is not seek to one's
own fulfillment, interest or advancement.
- the motive/purpose of ones loving-response is not to
draw/get some advancement, advantages, benefits or
rewards for oneself from one's loving of the other
- one who loves cannot possibly intend and try to gain
something out of the love:
- to seek promotion
- to gain some advantages
- to satisfy some needs
- to fulfill some ambitions
- to fulfill to certain desire, dream
- to realize one's unique self-project
- one who does so cannot keep his/her love pure; there is a
betrayal of love, denial of love
- e.g.: if a nurse who tenderly and attentively takes care of
her patient because she wants to become quickly as
possible head nurse or to gain eternal reward for herself, the
patient does not feel that he is really loved.
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